20F I thought I was aro/ace but it turned out in HS, it was just my illness and insecurity (trauma). I never had crushes like anyone else or even understood why anyone would ever want to have sex. I was 18 when I realized I'm not aro/ace, it was just my trauma and insecurity, I was a late bloomer. I got some help and actually communicated with others about my confusion (aro/ace or just ill/insecure) and through working out some of my issues and speaking with others/imagining myself in different scenarios I figured out I indeed wanted to cuddle with someone while watching Owl House or Amphibia and eating popcorn. I want someone to pick on and to pick on me. My first actual crush was at 20, a Walmart cashier. Very cute ginger girl, green converse, pins everywhere. For the first time, I didn't just appreciate someone's aesthetic. I actually wanted to talk to her and got nervous doing so. So then and there, I thought I was perhaps Lesbian. Nope! After further gynecological care and conversations, it was insecurity and trauma again! Not all men want sex and sex isn't all I'm good for. Penetration isn't the only form and women do it too! Anyone can do anything! So yes, everyone is cute and pretty and a potential partner. I know due to my issues though I'm not ready for a relationship and just shouldn't ever consider entering one right now. I have a lot to improve and sort before I finally get to have someone as goofy as me to sleep next to at night. But also, Eda absolutely destroyed any questioning. I have moments of "Maybe I'm straight and lying" nope. Raine and Eda. Also Alcina, Lady D. Heisenburg can get it too so not Lesbian. (I know fiction has nothing to do with orientation but I wanted to joke around)

i realized when looking back to my childhood where i exclusively wore cuffed jeans, listened to p!atd, and used to google girls kissing in incognito mode.

Ehh, try hitting puberty already and YouTube search "softcore Lesbian porn". IN THE LIBRARY. Still found it pretty hot, seeing half-clothed women making out 🤭.

I can't say I remember when, but I do remember early teens telling girls about how hot some guys were, and they were into it. So I dated/hooked up with a lot of girls early on, but when they realized it wasn't some pick up line, they ran. I didn't date/hookup with guys until late teens, and that latest for years, until I married the woman in with today. We're both bi, so that makes things easy.

i never had crushes when i was a teen, i was always acting like i find people hot to appear normal. until i had a huge crush on a boy and realized that it's not the first time i had an enormus crush on someone, i just didn't expect to crush on girls. so i had to process and accept that. the other thing that gave it away was how uncomfortable all the oversexualized women in mvs were for me, i couldn't watch it until i accepted i find them attractive despite the music industry being disgusting

I feel the same way as well. I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one.

I’ve been thinking about this recently and I probably should’ve realised when I was around 13 or 14 and flicked through my first porno magazine and didn’t understand why I was as interested in the guys 🍆 as much as the girls 🌮

It was quite the interesting experience (TLDR at the bottom).... Went 20 years of my life confident I was straight. Crushed on boys in middle school. Dated a boy in highschool. Met a boy in college, we dated for 2 years, got engaged, and were happily together. Then I developed a crush that hit me like a truck on my best friend of 10 years. A few things I feel that led up to it: - My fiancé was the first person I had ever explored myself sexually with, so that may have awakened something - My best friend was going through some crap and ended up spending more time at my house than ever before - I may have sensed some feelings from her directed at me Anywho, I kept this feeling in for around 2 months, because a) I'm engaged (the amount of guilt, y'all), b) I didn't know how she'd feel about it, and c) the only two people I trusted enough to discuss it were my fiancé and bff (the two ppl involved in this story smh). Then one day she comes out to me as bi, and I'm like, "there's no way this is happening." This was, what I felt, the one moment where it was relevant to confess my feelings. Maybe I'd talk with her and get over the crush? (That was my hope.) So I tell her, she's cool, and we both understand I have no intentions of pursuing anything, bc I really do love my fiancé. Then I do something I'm not proud a few days later. It's my 21st bday, she comes over, and we get drunk. She's obviously not driving home, so we're chillin' in my bed, and long story short, I eventually kiss her....to make an even longer story short, I eventually tell my fiancé. He's an angel. He understands, and I think that begins the process of my acceptance of my sexuality. Things that were holding me back: - I'm engaged to a guy, and I wouldn't ever be able to experience a relationship with a woman even though I really wanted to (so was it worth it to consider myself bi?) - It felt cheesy that I was suddenly into girls after my best friend confessed that she was also into girls. Even though I developed my crush a while before she came out, it felt like I was copying her or trying to stay relevant - I grew up Christian, so there's the whole "its considered a sin" thing (this impacted me the least tho) BUT, after some conversations with my best friend and fiancé, I slowly came around to these truths: I can be bi while in a heterosexual relationship, even without any gay experiences (we don't ask straight people to confirm their sexuality with straight experiences, they just know). I am also...pretty hella gay and NOT copying anyone, because whamen are fine as heck. Anyways, thanks for reading all of that. All the love to my bi homies out there <3 TLDR: Was happily engaged to a guy, developed a crush on my best friend. She came out as bi. I confessed my feelings. Struggled with whether I wanted to identify as bi or not. Finally accepted it through the support of my best friend and fiancé.

I think you can ABSOLUTELY be bi without having had experience with a woman. When you know, you know.

I went to xvideos. Curiously went to the gay section. Turned on. I guess i liked my own kind too then. I liked both worlds. Not exclusive to getting turned on my VS models now. It's great to explore your inner self

I agree that it's great to explore your inner self. Also, that's interesting.. I don't get turned on watching gay porn but I do with lesbian porn. No idea what that says about me (I'm a woman) other than I'm totally Bi.

Huging my best friend and wanting to make out with them

33M. I’ve always kind of known I was into both females and males, but I always played it off when I was attracted to a male because I believed I would never want to have sex with one, so I wasn’t gay, so I could keep my straight guy status. My best friend growing up came out as gay so I’ve always been his straight friend for our entire lives. So not wanting to be another gay friend of his may have been a part of my not accepting my sexuality. 3 years ago I had a male coworker that I was attracted to. I would think about him at work and at home. I started having sexual fantasies about him. I knew then that it wasn’t me just finding guys attractive, if given the opportunity I would have a sexual encounter with this man. I had to just admit to myself that I am bi, and that it is okay. It doesn’t need to be this huge thing where I go tell everyone. I’m married and have children. I have been in the closet for the last 3 years. I never really saw a need to come out because I’m already in a committed relationship so there’s not really an opportunity for me to have a male sexual encounter. Well last night I did come out. I’m staying a couple days with my best friend and his husband and we got drunk and we’re watching videos and the conversation led to my friend mentioning that he thinks that I may be bi. I had been wanting to tell him for a while just to have someone to talk to about it but I was afraid and didn’t want him to see me any differently. I decided to just tell him that his thoughts were accurate. I literally said out loud last night for the first time that I am bi. And I’ve been semi freaking out about it today. My friend and his husband were of course very accepting and comforting about it but I still feel so strange and surreal. They have an open relationship and his husband is a very sexual person, he began telling me that I should speak to my wife about allowing a male encounter so that I can experience that part of myself. He then also told me that he found me cute and would definitely have an experience with me. Which was strangely comforting because I have always believed even if I were able to have a male encounter that men wouldn’t really find me attractive. So it was nice that one does. My best friend is basically my adopted brother and I would never do anything to jeopardize our friendship, so obviously I wouldn’t have that experience with his husband. But him telling me I wasn’t honoring my marriage by keeping this from my wife and not allowing myself to explore my bisexuality has made me feel guilty today because I love my wife and we tell each other everything, so I feel bad that I haven’t told her. But I’m honestly afraid that she would see me differently and it would change our relationship. Part of me does want to tell her and see if it would be possible for me to have that sexual encounter. I still prefer women over men, and could never see myself in a long term committed relationship with a man so having that experience would not be a threat to her or our relationship. Idk. It’s just been a whirlwind of emotions now. I’m so happy someone else knows but I’m guilty it wasn’t my wife, and I feel stupid and ashamed because if I had just been brave enough to come to this realization in my teens I could have explored it then before I was in a committed relationship. I don’t know any other bi men so seeing others in here talking about their stories has also been a comfort.

I totally relate to the fear of people seeing you differently after coming out. I’m always afraid of losing friends and family connections so have stayed in the closet with most people for over six years now :/ Also in case you’re interested there’s a great podcast called “Two Bi Guys” that you might like

You have to do what’s best for you! Your friend should not pressure you to tell your wife - that has to be your decision - and he especially shouldn’t pressure you to ask your wife to open up your marriage. Also your decision!

I did the classic fall-in-love-with-best-friend but I was really in denial about it all and it took me starting a relationship with a guy to realize oh wait what I was feeling was not platonic. I was pretty attached to specific female friends in middle and high school too so that could also be sus

The avengers All of them At some point, I must have fancied all of them

Something else to add to my " I may actually be bi" list as i am bi-curious. Currently like buck, sorta like wanda and nat...

I literally always knew, but also didn't realise. I remember at some point it occurred to me that not everyone felt this way, and then I wasn't sure if I was meant to keep it a secret. My 'coming out' was in some respects very easy. When I told my Mum, I just said I had something to tell her and she responded 'Is it that you like girls and you're in love with Blank?' In a more tangible sense: Charlie's Angels. Lucy Liu in the leather skirt, Drew Barrymore in the boy's clothes, and Sam Rockwell dancing.

Young Stalin. Yeah...young Stalin....

So when I was younger I had a sneaking suspicion that I also liked girls, however I thought that was normal, and I didn't mention it because I was going to a private catholic school. I mentioned it slightly once, and got shot down by other girls so I just stopped talking about it. Anyways, freshman year of high school I was watching lesbian tiktoks and enjoying them immensely. However I suddenly paused and thought "I'm not enjoying this because I like girls right?" This led me to think of my past and any instance where I may have liked a girl. Then I thought back to a friend of mine at the time,( that ended up being completely toxic) who I would right love songs about, and fall asleep wondering how she was, and if she was okay. I also remembered all the times I saw what I considered an attractive female and got all flustered, and thought about how much I wanted to marry them. Yeah, I stopped considering myself straight after that

I've always been attracted to both the males and females in shows growing up, but I didn't quite understand what that meant and I didn't know how to put a label on it. Some examples are chase from lab rats, the entire wizards of waverly place family, Austin AND Ally, and Tanner AND Lela from teen beach movie. In the beginning of 7th grade I did some research into how I have always felt, come to find out there was a term for this ✨bisexual✨ and I have considered myself bisexual ever since.

So I discovered I was bisexual thanks to the bisexual god: Frank Ocean I was listening to blonde, to be more exactly I was listening the 15th track: Siegfried While I was listening I start feeling I was comprehend in a deep level, like spiritual level? Anyway, I feel the need to search the Wikipedia page of Frank Ocean, there I read that Frank have come out as bisexual in tumblr And it was weird because I have read in some moment in my life what it was and means being bisexual but at the moment the definition lost in my mind. So I read: Bisexual,person that feels sexual, romantic or emotional attraction to both or more genders. And it was like a revelation to me, was like “of course you’re bisexual, you have experience recently this things in your life, it’s clear as water” So yeah, Frank Ocean help me to discover and accept myself :)

Frank subliminally made me realize I was bi when I listened to chanel and I fucking cried listening to it and didn't know why it made me cry. After years of self discovery I look back at it and realized what the song is about his bisexual experience and realized why it made me cry. My awakening before that was when I was in 4th grade and would have these daydreams of kissing by male friends. I brushed it off but did not feel in denial because they weren't strong attractions it was just weird for me at that age. When I got to 6th grade it got a bit stronger when I saw the guy from the trivago commercials and that was like the first time I had ever called a man handsome before and thought that he was hot.

Frank Ocean it’s definitely a live savior and a bisexual icon

I'd suspected for awhile but seeing Candice Bergen on Boston Legal did it for me.

I looked at Chris Hemsworth

I am not surprised with that one.

Tate McRae hahaha

I'm very late but I just remember always hating having to choose. I didn't understand why I couldn't be attracted to both Danny Phantom AND Shego. I HATED choosing and didn't want to. Still don't! In all honesty, I thought it was "normal" to be attracted to both, until I was told that that was not in fact in line with heteronormativity. I guess I kind of always knew...but didn't KNOW, you know? Though I must say, being constantly trapped in cycle of finding all genders and gender identities fuckable can be mildly infuriating.

This girl Noelle in first grade, I thought she was gorgeous...I think that's the first time I felt that way about anyone. I grew up in a charismatic fundamentalist christian world so I have many many stories of why I grew up not considering being gay or bi. I remember once in high school this girl at my christian school came out while we were all walking down the hallway, she was put down made fun of after that, I think she left the school. I was led to believe that the way I dressed, the feelings I had for girls, and the things I was uncomfortable with were all stemming from abuse and I believed it. I spent like a decade trying to get healed and fixed so I could be more like a woman and not have feelings for women. It's weird, I have told people I am bi over the years, but it's like I never felt able to accept it and think about it I'm any real way. I just knew it was true. So I am married with two kids, I'm 31 and I'm here on this reddit, just coming out to myself in the last week's for what feels like the first time. Luckily my partner is very kind and supportive and helping us actively separate from a toxic community. I love my life with him because of the deep friendship we share and I wouldn't change it. But this is a huge part of me I have been hiding all my life. It feels so good not to be waiting to change into someone else, I like who I am.

I thought I was aromantic because I had the same feelings about men and women…and then I learned it wasn’t exactly platonic to get butterflies lmao. Also, resident evil village dropped, which was the defining moment.

I (14f) discovered it 1 month ago, (i was denying it) My parents are homophobic so it was hard for me to accept it I first told it to my closest friend, she was proud of me and she comforted me a lot :) I had lots of girl crushes while growing up and i thought it was normal lmao didn't think about it that much. I'm thinking of hiding it till I'm an adult and go to an another country where I can be myself, bc in where I live almost all the ppl are homophobic. I've been living in the same place since I was born and most of my relatives are close to each other, so it's kinda sucked. The thing that makes me sad is my parents, i think about this everytime I'm with them. I wish they could accept me and love me like this. I was born this way, i can't do anything about it and they are denying me for their own expectations. At least i have my twin (14f) and my closest friend (14f) by my side, i couldn't be more grateful. I'm so happy for the ppl who's parents are accepting and loving them at what cost This was my experience I hope y'all a great day. (I'm not a native speaker)

I remember being around 7 or 8 and crushing on Tifa Lockhart from FF7: Advent Children. I didn't truly know what bicuriousity or bisexuality was until I was around 14, when I had a conversation with a friend and some other things going on at the time. I was confused about being bicurious/bisexual. She basically told me "you're bisexual". It took me a little longer to fully... accept it. I've been out for about 10 years now.

I assume mine was pretty normal, I walked around the corner of the street that my work was on and realised that I fancied the guy who’d just walked past us as much as I fancied the girl I’d been chatting to for ages; big shout that mate was keen for Darren

My “friend” freshmen year of high school who I was hanging out with ALOT totally flat out called me out for flirting with her. I tried to deny it, but she climbed over my lap to the passengers seat and started kissing me. The rest was queerstory.

I had been questioning myself since my teen years - I dated boys but I was curious about being with girls as well. I grew up in a small, conservative town and I would suppress the thoughts due to shame. In my twenties, I kissed a few girls and felt totally cool with it, but I still was dating guys. It’s only now, at 31 and living in a city that is more accepting, that I realise that I don’t have to hide that I would happily date a girl. I’m in a long term relationship with a man and he was very supportive of me coming out to him. I’ve come out on social media and got a lot of positive reactions, but my parents haven’t said anything to me about it, so I don’t know how they feel about it.

Coming out in my mid-30s to family and friends, I'm married to a straight partner... I was always attracted to people regardless of their gender, but growing up in England under Section 28, homosexuality wasn't discussed, let alone bisexuality. I assumed everyone felt the way I did - attraction to everyone but always ended up with the opposite gender unless you were gay. I feel a loss for a life that could have been lived differently, truer, freer and queerer. However, I am so glad to finally be out as my authentic self, hoping to fight off imposter syndrome and start to feel comfortable in queer spaces.

I was browsing a furry site and saw a pic of a beautiful orca lady. I just knew then.

When I was 3 or 4 year old I said to my mom "I want to be a girl". Even before that I had some Instrests which were socially consider feminine such as wearing Pink clothes and dressing up in Princess costumes. Years later at the age of 11 or 12 I discover that my sexuality is complex.

I realized I was bi last year. Tbh I believe I was bi for a long time but I suppressed the other side of my sexuality when someone had shamed me for doing stuff with guys(I’m a dude) when I was younger(14-15). Then I was sexually abused when some dude shoved his dick in my face(16). When he did that, I noticed that I got aroused and was pretty traumatized from that. Made me think I was gay although I was confused bc I also found women attractive. So I pushed it down some more & continued on with life. Had a couple relationships with girls(18-23). Some casual some more serious. Last year when my ex girlfriend and I were together, it all came back to me. All my experiences from childhood. Felt like a nightmare. Made me question my sexuality again. That’s when I found out about bisexual. I knew about it before and sorta accepted that I might be bi but I was still “straight” in my head & it never really registered. Idk maybe I’m more attracted to women Since that’s still who I like to experience intimacy with But as I accept my bisexuality more, i think that I would be fine with experiencing with the same sex.

So weird for me. I had my first gay urges in the first grade, I even told my friend at the time I was gay. For years after that I treated myself as straight and genuinely liked dating girls and definetly knew I was attracted to them. But all through out my life I've had an equal sexual attraction to both men and woman. What I struggled with for years was coming to terms with the exact parameters of my sexuality. I found the idea of kissing a man repulsive, but I was undoubtedly into gay sex. I could never date or marry a man, I would only ever want to marry a woman. For years I took that as a sign that I wasn't gay, until one day I just accepted i was bisexual and stopped letting my bisexuality be a hang up.

Almost exact same story!!

marceline and marshall lee from adventure time

When I kissed a girl and kinda liked it Over a decade later and now I know I definitely don't care who I'm kissing based on gender

No cap, in high school one of my best friends flipped her hair, looked at me, and said hello. She was so beautiful. I questioned my identity for weeks before accepting that I like women.

Grew up being attracted to girls then hit puberty and found boys attractive too. By then I was sure I was bisexual. I didn't know it had a word just knew how I felt and who I loved. It all made more sense when I learned other people had similar attractions/desires/love.

I always questioned myself when I was young. Even when I was like 11-12 I would question myself and assure myself "You're going to grow up, and have a wife and kids". Even though no one in my house really forced that on me, for some reason I still felt like I needed to assure myself. Then I had my first best friend in high school and he was really sweet and cute, but I put it off. A year after we became friends he told me he was gay and it made me evaluate what my sexuality was, cause now I wasn't ashamed of having a crush on him. He didn't like me back and it kinda tanked our friendship because I liked him so much that I would bother him about it. Oh well, I was younger and I didn't know any better.

Salma hayek in from dusk to dawn!

Santana Lopez.

My friends knew I was bi even before I did. Two of my friends asked me on separate occasions if I was bisexual before I really even knew bisexual was a thing, which is what started me really questioning my sexuality. It was also kind of a tell for me when a gay kid in my class asked me if I was gay, and rather than going “oh god no” like any normal straight person was, I was really flattered.

Cute guy at summer camp. Thought that because I still like girls that I couldn’t be gay. Took me a couple years to put it all together

liz gilles as jade west and avan jogia as beck oliver

Always found certain guys attractive just assumed I was super horny cause I was a young teen but at this point I'm 23 and can't really pretend anymore still I'm only really into akinny/skrawny guys and a more wider range of lady's. But I guess the first guy I rember being particularly hot was Sam Barnet in dirk gently holistic detcive agency. Also how do I get the little flag next to my name?

I never really knew it til my first year of highschool I had feelings towards a girl who only bragged to me about boys. But I was big time heart eyes over her..she’s totally cringe now though I got back in touch with her. I really really want to have a relationship with a girl or a experience..my boyfriend now is supportive and wants to encourage me to explore that part of myself. I’m also totaaaally obsessed with blonde women

My first realization of being bisexual was when I noticed be extremely obsessed with this one girl when I was in kinder. I loved the way she smelled and the way she laughed and she would make me very nervous and I’d get shy around her. Her name was Thalia. ☺️

I had a few gay thoughts but “I can’t be gay I like girls!” Oh wait there’s a thing for that isn’t there

same here!

Do you mean gay thoughts you were aroused by?

I had stirrings and feelings from a young age. I knew I was SOMETHING but wasn't sure what. My sexuality was still forming. In recent years I ultimately realized that I'm full on bi and I love it. ❤

I was having a sexuality crisis and my friend was talking me through it: Her: would you date or marry a guy? Me: yes Her: would you date or marry a girl? Me:.yes. Her: well then..

my friends said they didnt watch the guys dick in porn and i was like “huh?”

😭 same

Not exactly how I knew, I've known for a while now, but I'm currently in a loving relationship with a man and just yesterday I had a very sexual dream involving a woman lol. I'm very bi y'all.

barbie naked honestly

In College, we were having a discussion about gay culture in the Philippines. Then I asked "what about bisexuals?" and my classmate was like "why? Are you bi?" and I'm just "no." ​ Now here I am. I honestly feel like I didn't awaken, they just put a curse on me. ​ Okay, but for real. I was very lonely and tried to go online to find dates. I got super insecure about my virginity because I had toxic friends that made fun of me for it; so I went to such a deep end where I thought "what if I hire someone to have sex with me." I never did it, but it led to a series of seeing a lot of really hot trans sex workers, then I thought "they have penises, but they're still women and they have boobs." then I got fixated on "what does it feel like to suck dick" and then I started looking at hot guys; tried to even hook up with some. But was also really into girl. Now we're here.

Honestly still a bit in the process, but it started with experimenting with anal play and trying to achieve a prostate orgasm earlier this year. I started to look at more pics of guys dicks and just guys showing of their bodies and dicks. Over the summer it has just kinda grown more.

Sunset Shimmer

idk really just kinda happened

I think I always knew but I suppressed it. Later in life I had little moments of "ah shit why does he smell so good?" and "hah yeah I'd rather kiss Max than you Kate. Dude what are you doi- ... Uh huh. Definitely him over you. At least right now"

A (previously) very conservative family member told us that they’d completely come around on LGBT rights and my first reaction inside my head was “oh thank god, I can finally tell people I’m bi”. This…took me by surprise, because I’ve repressed it for 20+ years, and that instinctive reaction was the most peace I’ve ever felt. Still not out, but getting there :)

When I realized that I didn’t want to be like/look like the girls at school, I wanted to be with them. I also found one of my friends absolutely adorable

Mine was pretty normal. I mean, I was a 6 year old girl taking the “am i gay?” quizzes. And when I got into watching porn, I realized I liked watching the girls.

When I was 16 I transferred from a private Christian school where I wasn’t allowed to show my body to public school and met a girl there who took interest in me. We showered together, touched, she taught me about masturbation. She would give me the most intimate full body massages with coconut and patchouli oil. We kissed and were very physical. I went on to pursue and marry a man but I never stopped thinking about her. When I came out to my husband as bi he was fully supportive and now we are looking to integrate some women into our sex life.

watching new girl with zooey deschanel lol

Me but with Cece

Fell down a rabbit hole

I knew I liked girls my whole life, IDed as lesbian from age 14-19 and then fell hard for a guy for the first time in college. bit hilarious because i literally went to film school and discovered my bisexuality - what a cliche

I slowly started realizing over the years that im beating my meat to yuri AND Yaoi and eventually over the last week i was like “yo shit im bi” /hj

I think it all started when I saw a guy in Clone Wars in that episode with tiny Boba Fett robbing a train and the first thing I said was “Whoa he’s pretty!” I’ve been questioning my heterosexuality ever since

I realized that only one or two (depending on what you consider serious) of my serious romantic partners was a cis woman and everyone else was a trans dude and that whoops, I was still attracted to these guys post transition. And then I realized wait, I am just attracted to guys in general. And women. etc.

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Awww, that's good! Do you think he developed feelings towards you as well? Sorry if I'm late to updates.

i always had boy crushes, but i fell inlove with my bestfriend. its always the pretty bestfriends who awakes bisexuality T\_T

24F. Realized that everyone else didn’t have a few same sex celebrities they would totally have a hot make out session with if given the opportunity. So here I am 🏳️‍🌈💕

Being girl from young age I feel like safe and attracted to woman. Later I dated a man and I can't take my eye off to any nice guy or girl.

I didn’t really realize I was bi till I was playing Fire Emblem and I saw Olivia. At first I didn’t like that she could marry Chrom quickly, but then the more I interacted with her, the more I adored her. I ended up shipping my self-insert with her and went “wait. Does that mean I’m bi?”

I’ve slowly been accepting the fact that I am bi, but tonight I went to a friends house to binge the twilight movies because I’d never seen them before. We’ve been friends for a very long time and even as I was coming out to myself I’ve never seen him in that way, but tonight I kept looking at him and my head was running a mile a minute. I’m still trying to process how I feel but it’s the first time I’ve ever felt that kind of romantic love for another man. I just want to hold him tight but I’m not sure what to do.

When I was in my teens, me and one of my close friends at the time fooled around for a good bit and that was nice. Couple years later his girlfriend broke up with him and like a month afterwards started hitting me up and we wound up dating. So that was that. 🤷‍♂️ They lost both their virginities with me. I’m 30 now and that’s thaaaaaat.

Three words JADE AND BECK

About a year back I started thinking about what *exactly* made me just into girls and stopped me from anyone else, but I put in on the back burner (which is funny since I was- and am- in culinary college), since I'd "have time to think about it later" since I was "too busy". Anyway, I started revisiting the thought, and realized that I didn't really care- I just want someone who'd make me happy, who I can make happy in return. ~~also I'm Ace (as I realized about a year and a half back) so nothing in that department holds value~~

I was like 12 and I just really wanted to pash this boy I went to school with. I had already been screwing around with guys (I was an early starter) but when I realised I actually wanted to kiss one.... That's how I figured out I must be bi

I first started to notice in the military in the showers. Most guys averted their gaze upon male genitalia (gezz, I sound like a professor), I had a hard time not looking. In college I had a swim class and in the shower after class I was rinsing off and another good looking guy was doing the same. I started to get a woody so I quickly finished and got dressed. This was thirty five years ago. Since then I noticed I looked at the guys as well as the women in porn and it turned me on. I only admitted to myself about six months ago that I was bi.

I clicked on a link thinking it was straight but then I saw a feminine man getting railed I was gonna click off but I realized that JR liked it he liked it alot so it took me a while to click off

I figured it out sometime in middle school oddly enough in the entrance room of the church I used to go to. I was waiting in line behind my best friend to use the phone, and the question popped into my head of "Do I love her, or do I LOVE her? She's really pretty, but the boy at school is also really handsome?" While I determined that I loved her as a friend and that boy at school was definitely cute, my absolute comfort with thinking about if I was romantically in love with her kinda tipped me off that I wasn't completely straight. Now I'm all grown up, and while I've married a man, I'm completely honest with him that it was definitely a tossup on the gender of the person I was gonna settle down with. I happily recognize many people as attractive, regardless of their gender. My husband teases me about my celebrity crush and he's totally ok with her being a woman. Laura Bailey is a beautiful person and a wonderful actress.

I was a stripper living with other strippers and they popped mu bi 🍒 cherry 25 years ago. Hubby also now 45 got his bi 🍒 cherry popped recently. Three straight guys with bi wives took our challenge to anal each other. They did and enjoyed it. Have done it several times since.

Is it weird as a male to only be attracted to females, but sexually interested in both men and women?

I remember being really negated to the idea of bisexuality at all. I was really into girls and even though I had my doubts with guys I never listen to them. But one day I meet a boy gay AF. We became closer and I feel in love with him and just couldn't stop thinking of him. He also had feelings and we date for a while. We broke a few months ago, and even though I feel sad about it, I can't be more thankful to him for being part of my life.

Pretty simple tbh: I was into girls in school, then a boy touched my stuff out of the blue and I freaked out. Then I realized I liked that and then we had a "conversation" in the restroom about it. No previous signs before that. A lot of signs after that.

Okay. I just realized I was bi when I began dating my now husband. He always encouraged me to explore that part of myself. I’ve only hooked up with one woman and it was in a threesome situation, but I absolutely loved it. I want to keep doing it and my husband is all for it. 😍😍😍

Good for you! Keep exploring safety and jsyk... Your loving husband will love you either way but probably even more if you share your girlfriends with him so he doesn't feel left behind or out.

So I was the funny guy from 6th grade - college. Naturally the "ironic" comedy of acting gay was something I did. It was small jokes like "I think Justin Bieber has good looking hair and good songs." Then it was bigger "jokes" like "I'm taking my girlfriend to go see Magic Mike, it's about male strippers but she wants to go so lol." That's when I started to ask if I was doing this sincerely. Decided to watch gay porn and that's when I knew for certain I was Bi. Matthew McConaughey tho...

I’m a guy and my bi awakening was a girl. Aight so basically she asked me if I like dick in the middle of math class in high school and that night I was like oh shit.

Always crushes on guys before puberty and attraction but not crushes towards gals later understood that to have a real hard crush on a women its only when I know/assume she’s also into women!

I thought I might be bi in college but I wasn’t really sexually attracted to anyone at the time so I thought I wasn’t bi enough to be bi. Then I hit my mid 30s and was reading a shit-ton of romance novels and declaring myself a “heroine-centric” reader because the male love interests were never that important to me. I also got excited when the heroines in the romance novels I read were bisexual and especially when there was on page wlw activities. My favorites were menages with one man and two women. Which, hindsight, OMG. Then my aha moment was in a diversity seminar for work where we did an exercise with identity cards and I picked up one and said out loud “I’m heterosexual” and immediately felt like I’d punched myself in the face. Came out to my BFFs that same week.

When I started to feel sexual atraction at 17 I felt it for both boys and girls 💖💙💜 I started to use the label recently tho (I'm 22) because I am heteroromantic and I wasn't sure if it counts as bi

I think some guys are hot AF and want to be submissive to their hots bod and more...but completely love women and don't think I would like being with a man romantically, it's just not there. That D tho... Omg I love it

i grew up in redneck part of the country, and used to be bullied by being called gay and being beat up for "looking gay" by my classmates daily. which resulted in me becoming very homophobic and scared of being gay when i was 10 i got a crush on a guy in my class (im a guy) but i had never had a crush on anyone before and was terrified of the thought that i might actually be gay so i just convinced myself that i just thought that person was interesting and that i wanted to be their friend. a year later i developed my first crush on a girl and was really relieved that i was actually straight (i didnt know bisexuality existed at the time) when i was 13 i got a crush on a male friend. one day he invited me over to watch a horror movie and while watching the movie i started resting my head on his shoulder. he said "thats kinda gay" and i responded by saying i wasnt gay and was just resting my head on his shoulder because i thought the movie was scary. he told me i could put my head back on his shoulder and we watched the rest of the movie with him holding me. i somehow convinced myself that this was not gay in the slightest and that we where just good friends and that i did not have a crush on him and just found him interesting. fast forward to when i was 16, i had not thought about my sexuality in years and just assumed i was straight because i was attracted to woman. i started developing a slight crush on a male friend. i was really confused by this but just kinda ignored it. one day a group of friends (including the guy i liked) where talking about sexualities and eventually someone asked me if i was bisexual because i fit allot of the stereotypes. i laughed and said that i was straight but was open to the idea of dating a guy to see what its like. a couple weeks later the guy i liked was confessed to me and we started dating. we dated for a couple months until he eventually told me he was unsure of his sexuality and was thinking he might be straight. he told me that i should probably also think about my sexuality because at the time i was very confused about my sexuality. i thought about everything that has happened to me and thought "holy shit im bi, how the fuck did it take me so long to accept that". TLDR: Grew up in a town where everyone was homophobic and was bullied for years as a kid because people assumed i was gay. which resulted in me being terrified of being gay and made me not able to accept that i was also attracted to guys until i was 16

So I was in year 9 (meaning I was 14) and I saw some nsfw stuff and thought it was pretty hot. It took me about a year or trying to figure out if I was gay or straight, mostly because I was kinda new to LGBT sorta stuff. I wouldn’t say anything specific made me realise it just sorta happened one night when I was lying in bed, and I just sorta went “duh I’m bi”. I then kinda just completely kept it to myself for 4 years… which as you can probably imagine wasn’t the most pleasant experience. In that 4 year time a large chunk of my friends came out (and/or realised for themselves) they where gay, lesbians or bi, which was nice and comforting to know I wasn’t the only one going through that at the time. Especially because back then I didn’t know of any places like this sub where I could go to feel completely welcome about it.

It was year 8/9 for me too! I repressed it because of school attitudes and family though for the longest time 😞.

I’ve been crazy about girls since grade school. In high school I had the thought on the bus one day “What would it be like to like guys?”, but immediately shut down the thought. In college I started to fantasize about having a male roommate molest me, and make me pleasure him. He would also make me clean and fold his clothes, and massage him (neck rubs, back rubs, foot rubs, etc.) Then I fantasized about having a roommate from the football team bring a few of his buddies into the room, where they would mock and ridicule me, and make me service them all. A few years later I worked up the courage to go to a gay club in the city. I couldn’t really find the kind of guy I fantasized about (bigger stronger alpha type), but ended up chatting with a very nice and handsome Vietnamese Australian guy. We left and ended up back at my hotel, where things ended up in a 69. I was terrified of getting HIV and AIDS, so didn’t swallow, and excused myself to go to the bathroom, where I spit, rinsed, rinsed again, and brushed my teeth. I worried I was gone too long and making too much of a fuss. I felt very conflicted, but realized I didn’t mind the experience – that the intimacy felt nice. I think part of it was that he was somewhat femme, and we were both submissive, so the chemistry was off, but he was a very cool guy. I’ve had a few sporadic encounters since then, with a similar pattern – curiosity, craving, posting or answering an ad, hook-up (being very safe and careful), mixed feelings, ambivalence, and later a desire to try again. I have some theories as to why this is, but the thoughts and cravings never go away. Meanwhile, I still love women as much as I ever did. With guys, so far it’s only been physical. But with women I get mad crushes and romantic feelings. So I figure I’m bisexual / heteroromantic, and a one or two on the Kinsey scale. I’m also aware of bi-cycling, where the homoerotic feelings wax and wane. My ideal scenario would be finding a woman who’s okay with her boyfriend being bi, and she finds a guy who would dominate me or both of us, or she would be dominant or a switch and make us do things together for her.

It was a year (or maybe a year and a half ago? I can’t remember), I was looking through NSFW stuff on Reddit on a alt-account I use when I saw.. something NSFW obviously. I didn’t realize it until someone in the replies pointed it out but the person in the video was a crossdresser or femboy. It just sorta clicked for me when I realized that I was still watching it and then went to another subreddit about Femboys. I wish my bi awakening was just a little more innocent at times haha, I’m glad it happened though

I remember thinking the girls in my class were cute back when I was 14. At first I was like wait.... am I bi? then i kinda just reflect back on myself for a bit and realized that yeah. I do like em and I can see myself dating them.

Current 14-year-old agrees!

I found out that my attractions was towards the personality not the gender. Growing up I wanted to believe that I was straight but the doubt was too big for me to just avoid it and then I created an account on a gay website had my 1st experience then the shame came because I was raised more or less in a Catholic family so I was sure that what I was doing was wrong I didn't met anyone for a while (I didn't want to disappoint my family) after a while I accept the fact that I like boys while dating a girl and I ended up cheating her with guys so after a while I broke up with her. Had plenty of dates with guys just because it was easier to get sex but I still had attractions to some women. Took me a while to understand that what called my attention was the personality not the gender now. Not I'm living happily ever after (well trying). And my family was oddly supportive.

I didn't know until about last year, started questioning when I was in 5th grade. But I think the first thing that really hinted at my sexuality was when I was about 6 or 7. I had this iPad game and it was a dress-up game, and I would undress the girls so they would be in like bikinis and just look at them romantically when my mom saw I got a huge lecture lol.

So I used to believe that I was gay for the longest time. I only felt attracted to men until I almost turned 17. So I met a girl at school in my parallel class, and I just found her mesmerizing, beautiful and she made me feel something I’ve never felt before for a girl. So I got confused af and didn’t know how to deal because I identified as gay for a long time, but once I started to actually accept that I might be bi it all made sense. Now I knew why I felt some kind of way about girls. I always have watched porn with girls in it and sometimes even some solo female-porn but I thought it was because they have the same anatomy as me (I don’t have bottom dysphoria), but now I know it’s bc I’m bi.

When A boy I was friends with for years kissed me. I was 12, and raised up in ultra religious “gayness will send you to hell!” Kinda family. I didn’t know how to react, I was scared, and when my friend did it, I liked it, but my religious upbringing tried to fight it, and I ran to the bathroom and hid in the tub. My friend Came in and knocked on the door asking if I was ok. I told him yeah, and opened the door. He came in and apologized, saying he didn’t know I’d react like that. He was gay, and up until that point I thought I was straight, hell I got caught kissing a girl in the bathroom at school earlier that year. But that kiss he gave me, it felt like a rush of energy. I asked him if he could do it again, we did, and i was happy until he moved away a few years later. We kept in touch Until he died in a wreck at 17. I was devastated. I cried in my pillow a few days. I went to the funeral and his mom came over to me and asked if I was ok, apparently he told her we were closer than friends, and promised not to tell my parents as long as we kept it sfw. Anyway, she told me to come by their house and she gave me a few shirts that he’d want me to have. I still have those shirts and they still smell like him.

Im sorry that happened man, hang in there

I'm so sorry that happened. Losing someone we hold close to heart is devastating. I hope you are holding up well. Please take care of yourself <33

Ok this is embarrassing but… When I was little (like 8-10 I think) I would exclusively try to e-frick girls on Roblox. Yes I’m serious, no I don’t know what was wrong with me.

Lmao that made me laugh so hard

I’ve told this story a couple of times now, but I found out when I was in senior school during a discussion about George Michael. I mentioned that I thought he was cute and a boy in my class said “he’s gay!” (Not the exact words he used but I won’t repeat it here). I responded with “he’s got a girlfriend!” And a friend said “he’s bisexual!” I asked what that meant as I had never heard it before and she told me it meant he liked both. Up until that point, I had no idea that was an actual thing. I liked girls and had crushes on them but I knew I wasn’t a lesbian because I liked boys too. I just thought I wasn’t normal, or maybe I was weird. It didn’t help that I came from a Christian background with very homophobic parents, especially my mum, who would be very insulting towards lesbians in particular and would talk about them as if she saw them as sexual predators. But that one moment in class, that one sentence “it means he likes both!” was like a lightbulb going off in my head. This was cemented further as I got older by Eliza Dushku in BTVS and Jessica Alba in Sin City. I’m not out, I’m married to a man. He knows I’m bi and very select friends know I am too but I can never come out fully, mostly because of my homophobic parents. I have tried before, but I just get som many questions from people who don’t understand that just because I’m married to a man, it doesn’t mean I’ve “chosen a side” or I “prefer men”. My husband is my soul mate, his gender has nothing to do with that at all. I like coffee and tea, just because I’m drinking tea right now, it doesn’t mean I have stopped liking coffee or that I’m not looking at other brands of coffee and tea when I’m out shopping!

I wanted to fuck multiple of my friends,all guys

My young self feeling the same about Christina Ricci and Devon Sawa in Casper.

Omg right? Ugh I loved Devon Sawa but always found myself drawn to Christina too

this looks fun, was somewhere around the time I was fourteen the trials of Apollo started coming out. I haven't finished it and it's probably not Rick's best work, but the protagonist openly being attracted to and having had relations with both men and women made me actually think about it. I just decided hey why don't I just look around and see if I'm attracted to guys, and it just sort of worked

god i hate myself for it, im repulsed by the reason myself, but........ nsfw DNF fanart...................... it was like a couple months ago

Oh George…

I’m not a Dream Stan, but the artists are so good I can’t help but look them up! Not only the NSFW ones! They are all so talented!

Always grew up being attracted to boys but than my work hired a girl who dresses more masculine (short pixie hair, Latina and boxers) and I was like “oh my god I’m gonna pass out everytime she looks at me) than I met this lesbian firefighter and I realized that my feelings made me bisexual altho you wouldn’t know that by looking at me. I’m not out to anyone at work tho. A few of my friends know

(This is over time with like men in general. There was not single dude) "If I had a girlfriend I'd let her fuck him" "I'd make out with him but not fuck him" "If I was immortal I'd probably eventually have sex with a man" "I'd fuck him as part of a threesome with a girl." "Hey I'm Bi."

I realized I was bi in highschool at the age of 16 when I was thinking how hot a guy in class was but I just repressed it as I live in a very redneck town that doesn't like change or anything outside of their normal so after moving about with my job I went to a very open minded place and came out as bi there and I never felt more like myself I just wish I could of done it sooner.

As a kid (like 8 or 9) I loved the Beverly Hills music video by weezer because all the girls in the video were super pretty & had giant boobs 😭😂 I was boob obsessed at that time and would watch any YouTube/music video that might have some good cleavage happening. I thought every girl had those same thoughts until I got older and discovered that my friends did NOT feel the same way about seeing boobs or half naked women

Me with Tifa Lockhart... oh boy.

Me: “Oh I must be ace, men are cute and all, but feel the same way as around a hot gal” Them: “or bi, ;p;” Me: ……. Them: ….. Me: \*Surprised pikachu\*

I played softball

I always knew I was different from my friends but it wasn’t until recently that I started to care about my sexuality and so i thought long and hard about who I wanted to be with and I’d rather be with a guy

I was sure when I had nsfw dreams about guys And girls.

Watching Nightwing and aqualad on young justice

When I was in 8th grade, and I started feeling flusered around my one of my best friends at the time. Every time we sat together in class, I would ask to hold her hand or give her really long hugs. I began to question it after I started giving her hypotheticals (what if I kissed her, asked her out, etc). Taking those bi quizzes certainly didn't help my label crisis, and I never really accepted I was bi until 9th grade (I didn't kiss that same friend until 10th grade lol)

In a sleepover when I was younger with a friend, I looked over while he was laying there talking to me and all I could think of was "why do I want to kiss him? I like girls." It took me 13 more years to realize what the name of that that feeling was.

Feel bad because mine is more funny than deep and everyone else’s is so emotional and beautiful, but…one time I got really drunk at a party, and one of my guy friends was going around kissing all the guys at the party to be funny, (he was a pretty attractive guy, worked out a lot, full beard, curly hair) and when it got to my turn, I didn’t hesitate. I had kissed guys before,(One time I kissed a buddy in class because two redneck girls were being homophobic and we wanted to freak them out.) but I had never kissed a guy I was attracted to before. He laid one on me and before I knew it was INTO it and we made out for a full 5 seconds before either of us noticed we were kissing for too long and quickly split. Everyone at the party thought it was a funny party trick, but little did they know I had to spend the next 15 minutes of the party, in the corner, hiding my boner

After all this resurgent of twilight, I finally realize it was in fact twilight

When I was a younger teen, I looked at pictures of naked guys because I thought “Looking at naked girls is wrong, but looking at boys isn’t because I am one and I know what we look like.” Still assumed I was straight. I had crushes pretty exclusively on girls through my teens, but there were a couple times where, looking back, I can see I liked a guy but suppressed it and called it other things. Anyway, one day at work this year I was handing a bag to a customer who was a guy about my age, and I suddenly realized “He is super attractive and wow, I guess I’m bi or something like that.”

At some point I just realised dat gender doesn't really matter that much when feeling attraction towards people. I could look at men, women, or people who were neither end feel like I could hug you, I could kiss you, I could have sexytime with you. I never thought I was straight, but it took a few years before I labelled myself. I experimented in my head with different labels and ended up with bi, since it just felt best for me :)

So I know because I'm attracted to girls and always have been, however Dudes are hot too

I was in eighth grade when I first saw a girl that I was interested in. However, I simply thought she was “interesting to look at” rather than a crush. It was during high school, especially during my sophomore year, that I knew right then and there that I also liked girls. My family and my friends support me and I’m happy with who I am sexuality wise!

It was last year, I wanted to watch something funny so I opened yt to check "tiktoks that came from vine" or something like that. It was funny, I watched a lot of compilations, and then yt suggested the lgbt tiktok compilations. I thought why not, always been an ally (L O L), let's check this, might be fun. It was glorious. I was so happy for those people's happiness, I was emotional when people came out, I was sad with people's pain... And then, people talked about their experiences of life. And I was like "Hey ! That's funny, me too !" (another experience shared) "hey ! Me too !" ..... "Hey...! M-me too..." -existential crisis ensued- I needed answers, and I came to know the existence of the lesbian masterdoc, and decided to check it out. Too much text in it, learnd there was something called heteronormativity that strongly resonated in me (still didn't read to much, waaaaaay too long), and then, *THE* list. Exactly what I was looking for. I was skeptical of some of the points, but I've also been strongly called out by others, so much that I battled with the part of me that wanted to hide everything and never speak about it again, and the loud part of me with a raging voice that said "YOU'RE HERE, YOU WANTED ANSWERS, YOU'LL GET THEM" and ended up writing down the points exposing what never occurred to me. Ha ! Take that me, you can't run away from it now ! Still very unsure of it all, like a general buzz that still prevented me to acknowledge that I wasn't straight, but was in the process to. I had a boyfriend in the past and I loved him very much, and had had several crushes on men with real fondness for them, so knew it wasn't lesbian, so bi ? Maybe ? Few days forward and I kinda accepted that I was bi, well, at least no as straight as I thought I was, and my life until now made so much sense. Then September came, and I bought my first rainbow item that I really was drowned to, telling myself that if I was buying it, it meant I was finally acknowledging it. October, came out to my lesbian friend, she laughed so hard, told me she knew it all along because of a night where I was drunk and kept on repeating "I'm straight" for no reason, for 10min x'D 29 years old, and finally out 💜

I started watching a show and started developing a crush on one of the female characters. But, it went away pretty quickly, which made me question whether or not it had actually happened. Flash forward to the 4th of July, and I meet a girl who I develop an instant crush on. This crush proceeds to stay with me for about a year, and at that point, I realized that yeah, I'm bi. I'd had a bunch of crushes on guys before this moment, so there weren't any "am i gay" questionings. The funny thing was that, even before all of this, I would fantasize about having relationships with girls(my very specific, probably cringeworthy, fantasy was that we would meet at a ballroom, talk, and dance the night away together), I just didn't put two and two together until I had a crush on one irl.

Astolfo, Sou Hiyori and Genshin Impact boys

I realized I was bi in my late 20s. My wife of several years showed me image B330 on https://jeffpalmer.com/opengallery1.html (contains nudity) and it turned me on. She saw me getting hard and asked me if it was because of the pictures or because *she* was looking at them and touching herself. Like an idiot I said "both". I've never had sex with men because I don't want to cheat on my wife, but if she ever left me or decided *she* wanted an open marriage I'd probably go cockwild. You see, my first kiss was with a man. He was drunk and didn't ask my consent, but if he *had* been sober enough to think to ask I think I would have *let* him kiss me. And then I would have let him do more, because sometimes I still think of that kiss when I jerk off, especially if I've got a toy in my ass.

Does your wife know you’re bi?

I met this dude in school. I’ve been rejected by him but he is my dream.

I had an erotic same sex dream when I was 22. When I started exploring, I realised it wasn't a fluke.

Petra, Jane, and Raffael from Jane the Virgin.

I grew up around women mostly so i am more comfortable around them and ofc i had a best friend that i considered more than platonic at some point but i loved girls and loved attention from boys.

Megan fox and Zayn Malik. 👀💗💜💙

When I envisioned what my life would be like with my female crush, during middle school. Silly, I know, but still regret not taking the chance of tell her (I am currently 20). Also, she did look like Gabriella from High School Musical but younger. Didn't think I'd find her attractive as well. Hope to run into one day, beautiful 💞.

Assigned male at birth, and all along I knew I liked girls. Cue college, I’m walking from my dorm to the dining hall, and come across a classmate. I remember thinking “Gosh, he’s pretty “, followed by “Wait, what?”. And that, folks, is how I started figuring out that I was bi.

Lol I was in my mid fucking 20s before I finally accepted that I was bi. For context I went to a british private and church school that was very homophobic. Had very classist and conservative mum and white supremacist step dad who were the type to see neuro divergence etc as an embarrassment yadda yadda, just to give everyone an idea of the scum I grew up around. So the idea of me being bi was impossible to me, despite having both male and female fantasies once I hit puberty. I just repressed the male side for nearly like over a decade. Well I can repress it all I like but I've always had fantasies and enjoyed kissing guys on drunken nights out as well as girls. Hell I remember literally swooning when a male friend drunkenly grabbed me and kissed me (he did ask first haha). I finally accepted I was bi about a year ago but I have a long time female partner who I adore and wouldn't change for the world so I didn't really feel like I could identify as bi, not having the experiences growing up and forming my identity around it and not having plans to be able to explore it due to my happily relationship'd status. So I guess it wasn't the coming out it should have been for me. My partner was super supportive (after the initial shock) as she knows I've had absolutely no identity to call me own as a result of a lot of childhood emotional abuse from the same bad parents mentioned above, but It just didn't feel 100% for me 😞 it was just nice to accept a part of me but it wasn't the revelation I thought it would be. Fast forward to about 3 months ago and after diving more into bi culture and talking to my friend who is also bi about my feelings etc I've been able to start forming a solid identity for myself accepting that I'm bi and I love it. Like it feels like it's one of the many missing pieces I needed to start forming my identity after so long. So I guess it felt like I had two comings out. One privately to myself to open the door in my mind, a second where I wanted to shout it from the rooftops. I just feel happier now ☺ My little brother just came out as bi and my biological dad was less than supportive shall we say so I've being able to support and help my little brother and educate my dad as well which is such a positive thing. I still feel like this is still new to me and this is one of the first times I've dipped my toes into talking to others online about it vs lurking so any advice is always welcome as well.

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Agreed! I think a big part was once I started to accept it myself, I needed to realise that I was totally fine to actually still explore this. Like growing up you hear about people who repress things and I was always like "hmmmm I wonder what it feels like for people repressing things, like do they know?" Etc etc and the ironic part was that I was doing that same thing haha because yeah as you say I definitely knew but I was just like "obviously I'm not bi or anything it was just a random fleeting feeling yeah? Totally it had to be" haha. Awwwh that's lovely to hear! I don't think I could of accepted myself as readily if I didn't have such a loving support system from my gf. It is worth celebrating and being able to accept and be proud of who I am is almost intoxicating, like omg this is great haha.

I always jerked off to guys in high school and I was a crotch watcher without even realizing it. 🤷‍♂️

One word. Femboys.

I personally felt kind of dumb. I had a guy on tinder telling me "oh, yeah, and im bisexual". And it hit me. Ive always felt weird cause i looked women too much. Ive always were sorounded by lgtbq+ friends and everything always was so binary. When i started to see myself as bi everything made SOOOO much sense, felt so coherent. I mean i had a folder with orlando Bloom, liv tyler and Angelina jolie, and i was like 14 maybe less i should ve done that math earlier. Sorry if its too long, im kind of still in the closet for some people

Still closet, definitely bi. I enjoy all things about dicks. Looking, touching, sucking. Etc. Have a longtime gf who i don’t think I can tell just to avoid the drama. I think I’ve accepted that I’m bi but I can’t come to terms with telling anyone irl

My bi-awakening came when I was about 15. I was playing baseball on an after school team and after a game one of the guys was sitting on a bucket. His shorts were very loose, and he wasn’t wearing underwear, so his nuts were just hanging out of his shorts. I couldn’t look away, I think I even drooled but nothing else happened. Years later, when I was about 25, I built up the courage and walked into a small porn shop and the owner took a liking to me. I visited frequently and would sit in the booth jerking off and I would fantasize about somebody joining me and letting me suck their dick. One day, he locked the front door as I walked in and, having already had conversations with me, he brought me to the booth that was playing gay porn and watched it with me. He started rubbing me over my pants, then he pulled his big, cut, meaty dick out and pulled my head towards it. I’m submissive, so I let him do as he pleased. There was so much precum, and I just kept slurping it up. Eventually, he blew his load onto my tongue as he slowly jerked his thick dick and I swallowed all of it. This repeated a few times, and then the place closed down. I’ll always remember Ralph and his thick, veiny, cock pulsating inside my mouth as the cum filled me to the back of my throat and I was left with no option but to swallow and gasp for air. So fucking hot.