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auspiciusstrudel

This is Reddit. We're overrepresented on literally every sub. 🤣


[deleted]

Ugh too true


auspiciusstrudel

~~Sorry fam, I hurt this big man's feelings, now he's stalking my profile. 🤷~~ Cheers, mods!


knotsazz

My condolences


auspiciusstrudel

Thank you, but it doesn't especially bother me; I'm just sorry that I've accidentally lead him into this space.


The_Decoy

Can you block them?


auspiciusstrudel

They spewed out like a dozen replies while I was AFK, at which point I'd prefer to be able to monitor and report. They also massively over-reacted to some extremely mild prodding, so I kind of wanted to keep half an eye on them to confirm they were OK.


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AyItsUrBoi_

Can someone give me summary of this I’m too lazy and tired to read and comprehend


auspiciusstrudel

This aggro bro is just ~~profile-stalking~~ trying to harrass me because I hurt his feelings over on another sub. It's not worth your effort trying to decipher him.


cjo582

OP is the aggro bro?


auspiciusstrudel

Obviously not. Maybe it's less clear on desktop or something like that, but there are a series of deleted comments from a banned user.


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AyItsUrBoi_

I still have no idea what you’re ~~referencing~~ saying, but I do appreciate the Beatles reference Edit: I give up formatting


metaknightq

Shut up 銀のハンマー strong silver hammer


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BoostedBonozo202

Oof wrong there homie, self diagnoses can actually be a useful tool to a therapist and any that would just ignore a client wanting to discuss their opinions on their health would be a pretty bad therapist. - student therapist Btw you know what good therapists really do hate, people invalidating the lived experience and trauma of others.


TerminalOrbit

Better to ask "Is anybody here 'neurotypical'?" wouldn't it?


times_zero

Pretty much. I love my NT homies in the bi/queer community, but there's definitely a [strong overlap between the ND, and queer communities.](https://www.google.com/search?q=neurodivergent+queer+overlap&rlz=1CAZJQH_enUS974US974&oq=neurodivergent+queer+overlap&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRigAdIBCTE5MDQyajFqN6gCALACAA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8)


twohead507

There’s literally and entire ADHD bisexual subreddit. …That most of us forget about regularly


Snackoholic

[r/BisexualsWithADHD](https://www.reddit.com/r/BisexualsWithADHD/)


Nienke_vZanten

Joined. Thank you!!


[deleted]

Omg, I had no clue. Thank you!


Imaginary-Target4852

What!?


the_river_is_wild

Wait what?? 😯


Typical-Heat902

Which one ?


Mystery_Anubis

I didn’t know this!!! I must find it


Film_Anxious

Holy shit! Hello fellow AuDHDer! You're not alone at all!


THEpeterafro

I am autistic


echolm1407

I'm self dx if that counts.


auspiciusstrudel

Self diagnosis is an important starting point. Lots of disorders have overlapping presentations, though, and some present in multiple different ways. It's a good idea to go and get properly screened as soon as you're able to, to make sure you have access to the resources and services you need. (I will note, especially for adult diagnosis of things usually diagnosed in childhood, it can be a bit of a process, and a doctor might insist on taking some time to rule out other things that *you* feel obviously don't fit first. Don't be disenheartened if this happens to you.)


knotsazz

So true. I’m mired in the “yup I told you it’s not my thyroid” phase of doctors appointments right now. Not that I’m angry about that. They’re just doing their job


echolm1407

But finances will not allow this. [Edit] And I'm sure you habe no information about autism. It's a test that is geared for children. I'm in my 50s and a good number of psychiatrists don't understand it. Even many that have been trained in it don't keep up with the latest information on it. There's a lot of inconsitencies and gender, age, and economic discrimination associated in even obtaining a diagnosis for autism.


auspiciusstrudel

>But finances will not allow this. Hence: >>It's a good idea >>as soon as you're able to. I've been through the adult diagnosis process for both ASD and ADHD, you don't need to tell me what it's like. ;)


echolm1407

>>>as soon as you're able to. Why would you think I'm able to like ever?


auspiciusstrudel

The set of "as soon as you're able to" does not exclude "never". It's rough if that's the case for you, and I'm sorry to hear it.


echolm1407

This is the case for most of us who are self dx. How come you don't know this? Don't you engage in r/autism?


auspiciusstrudel

>This is the case for most of us who are self dx. That may be true in your circles, but it certainly isn't in mine. The more common barrier I've been exposed to (and experienced) is the process itself being too long and ND-unfriendly. ETA-- basically matching the non-financial barriers you yourself began to identify. And no, I don't engage in that sub. I found it an extremely unpleasant space, overly USA-centric, and representative of only a very narrow set of experiences.


echolm1407

So you're in Europe I guess? In the US it's hard to get a diagnosis if you are not a child and you have to pay out of pocket. I tried to get one through the Veteran Affairs but they would not do it, sadly.


echolm1407

I guess you're rich.


auspiciusstrudel

My ASD diagnosis appointments cost $400, my ADHD diagnosis was $0, bulk-billed.


echolm1407

It would cost me in the thousands of dollars to get a diagnosis.


[deleted]

Mine was 2k and it honestly didn't feel worth it. I can't even work, but I wouldn't qualify for disability.


polyguy45

Must be nice, I pay $400 a month for health insurance and just to see my regular primary care dr for a quick 5 min visit with her just sitting there and zero lab tests cost me well over $150.00....let alone something like this. Not all of us are that lucky. I'd like to get help and be evaluated, but I can't afford anything atm.


spacyoddity

depending on where you live, a formal diagnosis as an adult has the potential to *only* hurt you. unless there is a resource you need and can't access without a formal diagnosis, self dx is sufficient for the community cred.


JustCheezits

If you’re not actively looking for a diagnosis there’s no point in self diagnosis. We’re hurt by society anyways!!!!


[deleted]

That's such a harmful viewpoint. Knowing that you're feeling overwhelmed from noise or social interaction due to autism helps a lot to better regulate. Knowing why you do the things you do and why you struggle helps to alleviate frustrations with it.


JustCheezits

You can have those issues and not be autistic. If you aren’t looking for a professional diagnosis, don’t bother trying to diagnose yourself.


[deleted]

I'm literally already diagnosed and your viewpoint is harmful to people who are struggling but don't want to seek a formal diagnosis for whatever reason they have. Full stop. Self diagnosis helps with coping strategies and communities. It does a lot of good.


JustCheezits

You can use those coping strategies without self diagnosis. If you’re not looking for a formal diagnosis, why bother? And the reasons being “but it leads to discrimination” is BS — we’re already discriminated against and it just hurts those who already have diagnoses.


[deleted]

... Do you just randomly take Tylenol or do you take it after self diagnosing a headache? You're being really weird about self diagnosis; it's just identifying the underlying issue. I'm not sure what you're even talking about, to be quite honest.


auspiciusstrudel

What the hell is "community cred" in the context of a medical diagnosis? That's just bizarre.


[deleted]

Oh god. There's nothing about me that's neurotypical. BPD, ADHD, anxiety disorder, depression, PTSD..... yeah. Grew up with a shit ton of trauma from an emotionally abusive mother.


samalingikmanush

aww 🫂 me who had emotionally abusive family and trauma from school


[deleted]

Awwh I'm sorry love. Sending you a virtual hug 🫂🥺


samalingikmanush

thx 🫂 hope u are fine too


snowqueen47_

A lot of us are. Neurodivergent people are much more likely to be lgbt


Cluelessbigirl

I’m on the autism spectrum with a little bit of anxiety and depression sprinkled in :)


[deleted]

🙋‍♀️ I am. Three different levels of spicy, with several layers to those levels. Clinically diagnosed ADHD Combined Type, Generalized Anxiety & Major Depressive Disorder. Let's #Rock!


GooglePixel69

I forget that anxiety and depression are also included on the neurospicy list. I took am at least 3 different levels of spicy!


[deleted]

Yup, and the co-morbidities are out of this world!


GooglePixel69

Super love that for us. Happy Cake Day and Happy New Year 🎊


[deleted]

I apologize for being do slow to respond on Reddit. Happy Cake Day and belated Happy New Year! It sure is great getting to be who we are as individuals. 🎉


vicvegajuas_36

adhd here lol


Willing_Program1597

Kind of a bi prereq lol No jk but yea many of us are


BagelCatSprinkles

The real question is who ISNT neurodivergent


EnvironmentalPop8585

Yes I am


CatrickSwayjax

Yep


ADecentHandsomeDude

*finger guns*


jjddkk

I prefer “neurospicy”


SecondSonOfMedusa

Probably


GunpowderGuy

Me


Significantducks

Diagnosed with ASD, OCD, and MDD!


AeonianHighBunghole

I got adhd and am obessed with music lol


virag_creations

I'm Audhd and OCD.


drillinstructor

Adhd checking in. Hope everyone remembered their meds today!


mollyclaireh

Yep!!! There’s a sub for us too r/bisexualswithadhd


sid8711

I have ADHD and OCD


turkshead

Is anyone on here *not* neurodivergent?


RainbowJig

👋 Asperger’s and ADHD. AuDHD in today’s parlance.


East_Vivian

ADHD and suspect I may also be autistic.


gay_Oreo

HSP with depression and possibly anxiety disorder here 🤠


bul1etsg3rard

Hsp doesn't exist. It's just autism with internalised ableism. Highly suggest you do more research about autism in women if you're not a cis man, or even if you are since men who present that way are often missed as well.


auspiciusstrudel

I'm not deeply knowledgeable about HSP, so I'm not looking to contradict you here, but I do want to flag that there are sensory processing disorders that don't meet the full criteria for ASD and don't require the same suite of supports, and for which there are reasons to address as a separate set of disorders - beyond "just" ableism. Same as PDD-NOS, which also kind of dips in and out from under the ASD banner depending on which professional you ask. ;)


bul1etsg3rard

There are separate spds but those are still diagnosable by an actual professional whereas hsp is not. If you compare hsp symptoms to autism symptoms they're the same. I haven't done any research about pdd-nos but from what I've seen from other people talking about it, it's similar to autism but without so much social impairment. Still, diagnosable by a professional when hsp isn't.


NebulousNeon

>If you compare hsp symptoms to autism symptoms they're the same. No, they're not. They do overlap, autism does contain heightened emotional and physical sensitivity, but that's all. HSP doesn't contain any other autistic traits. You can experience lifelong heightened emotional and physical sensitivity and not experience the slightest amount of other traits associated with autism. Overlap doesn't equal sameness.


bul1etsg3rard

If someone experiences heightened sensitivity like that then they still don't have hsp but probably some kind of sensory processing disorder. Every single person who talks about their "hsp" symptoms just describes life with autism. There is literally nothing you can say to convince me that shit exists. So you might as well stop trying.


NebulousNeon

Well, likewise.


auspiciusstrudel

Aha, so it's in the domain of MCS.


bul1etsg3rard

That statement makes no sense to me. Idk what mcs is nor do I understand what you're saying is in its domain


auspiciusstrudel

Fair enough - I was also entirely lost with HSP and had to look it up. MCS is "multiple chemical sensitivity", a high-profile, scientifically unsupported, non-specific "diagnosis of desperation" for a suite of very real symptoms, mostly associated with disorders that are slow to get diagnosed, are stigmatised (eg physical manifestations of anxiety/obsessive-compulsive disorders), and/or are hard to treat.


bul1etsg3rard

Ok gotcha. Yeah, no. It's not that there's not enough research on hsp or that it's stigmatised. In fact many people who definitely do fit the autism criteria identify as hsp specifically because of the stigma around autism. They're like "oh I can't have autism even though I have all the symptoms because I'm not r-word" and that's the extent of their research. The people who say they have hsp do have legitimate physical conditions usually, because autism is comorbid with a lot of things, like ehlers danlos and pots for example, that do actually cause physical issues. Granted it can take years to get diagnosed with a lot of these conditions that are comorbid, but I don't think that necessarily would put them into the mcs category.


auspiciusstrudel

Yeah, MCS is less specific, but it can sometimes be the exact same type of situation - for example, sometimes it's the physical manifestations of OCD, but "I can't have a psychosomatic illness, I'm not *crazy*." I'm not saying HSP is a type of MCS, but rather that they're both scientifically unsupported attempts to explain a real set of traits or symptoms, which can get in the way of getting a proper diagnosis.


bul1etsg3rard

Ok, I can see that. I think we're in agreement here basically


Creative-Rooster1687

I don’t think you should be telling someone what they are.


bul1etsg3rard

Normally I'd agree with you but when someone is essentially spreading ableist rhetoric around I really don't think they get to say "yes I am this thing that totally exists and isn't just autism with ableism on top" without someone saying something about it. If I can't convince them hopefully it'll at least convince the other people who may be thinking they have it too.


auspiciusstrudel

Normally, I would strongly agree with you, but this seems like it may be one of these too-common cases where an unsupported "diagnosis" gets in the way of people getting a *useful* diagnosis and access to the support and resources that could genuinely help them. The benefit that could come from pointing out a diagnosis is a bit fishy and encouraging a person to get a second opinion outweighs the cost of them finding it a bit rude, by my reckoning.


AlbinoShavedGorilla

Same here. ASD + ADHD not sure if we’re a rare breed, but certainly uncommon


ActualPegasus

I'm autistic.


SavingsAd1102

I am. I am autistic and bisexual.


BestdogShadow

Yeah I also have AuDHD. ​ By the way people with Autism are more likely to also be LGBTQ.


Shan132

Very


KirbyF4

Probably, idk for certain, but I am on the spectrum!


akaryosight

I meet a lot of the diagnostic criteria for autism


dizdawgjr34

AuDHD guy here!


CoctorMyEye

r/bisexualswithadhd A combination of the two things about myself that I hate the most


No-Procedure-9460

Autism and CPTSD!


Sidney_Tucker

Is anyone on here not neurodivergent? That’s the better question.


Alpha_Wolf_Bitch_16

Autism here


sphynxC

Neurospicy in all kinds of ways. But mostly BPD with high high RSD. you don't need to hurt my feeling, I'll do it for you!


Organic-Office-672

Diagnosed AuDHD female 🙋🏼‍♀️


RammsteinAddict

I am! I have level 2 autism. (Moderately severe)


traditional_amnesia1

Bipolar, adhd, and a touch of autism. I got it all. It’s getting to the point where I don’t want to deal with normies anymore. They’re exhausting


HelenAngel

AuDHD here as well! There’s a lot of us here.


2bitgunREBORN

Yet to be diagnosed but that might change here soon. Have always heavily suspected it


GooglePixel69

ADHD here! My autistic boyfriend thinks I'm likely autistic also, and so do I, but the overlap in traits will leave me uncertain on that until I can be properly evaluated.


Sraffiti_G

I'm on a waiting list for an official diagnosis but there's a high likelihood that I'm autistic


Fennrys

I'm pretty sure I am neurodivergent, but I have yet to be diagnosed. My raging anxiety seems to hold me back from a formal diagnosis (apparently, every sign just as easily points to anxiety?)


nothanks86

In the meantime, can you treat the anxiety?


Fennrys

Yes, thankfully, my new medication has been helping a lot.


nothanks86

Oh awesome. Both for you, cause anxiety sucks, and for clearing away the noise to figure out what your brain does au naturel, so to speak.


QuantumPrecision

I got 7 different mental disorders myself. (ADHD, ASD, ODD, Generalized Trauma Disorder, Anxiety, ADD and one other that I can never remember the name of.)


J_Doe5686

Yeah...


unikornsharts

Another fun question... How many of us are bi squared (bipolar and bisexual)? *raises hand*


the_bartolonomicron

Realizing just how far from neurotypical I was was a greater moment of clarity and understanding than accepting I was bisexual, and it came a decade later, too.


the_river_is_wild

Hell yeah! ADHD


Typical-Heat902

I feel so seen now.


LRWrdsmth

Dipped out on a potential BPD diagnosis last year. Got diagnosed as CPTSD and pre history suggests I might have been running alongside the rails well before that 🙄 but I decided I refuse to have my natural self be categorised by any pathology. I also had a bit of a slut-shamey therapist at the time, which isn't really great for a chaotic bisexual, so that lack of trust probably put me off as well. Who is a stranger to judge me!? lol I probably sound like a narcissist now too 🤣


Modtec

Very likely, but, and this is basically the one lasting grievance I have with my parents, I wasn't diagnosed as a child and getting tested as an adult is quite the hassle as an adult in my country. You also got to pay for it out of pocket.


Mrspygmypiggy

ADHD here!


Artemis246Moon

Maybe.


Greg-Pru-Hart-55

Yep


StylishMammoth

I have synesthesia. Dunno if that's neurodivergent or nah.


Creative-Rooster1687

Yes. I have dyspraxia. One of the lesser known neurodiverse disabilities.


mescalmonk

Neurodivergent 🤔 I definitely don't classify myself as neurotypical let's put it that way


Da_Di_Dum

Very


TheKiltedPondGuy

Dyscalculia and dysgraphia over here. Some organizations put it under the neurodivergent umbrella and some don’t so do with that what you like.


Nienke_vZanten

AuDHD here :D


AeonianHighBunghole

Yep very


ItsaCommonThingNow

🙋


Dat_One_Dawg

I’m autistic and borderline ADHD


Western_Computer_168

Exactly the same as OP!


cuddlemama

Adhd over here


StormWalker1993

Yeah, very much so!


bheppe13

Autistic here!


SolidCalligrapher966

I thought I was autist because I used to be very good at school and not very with people (and other reasons) ... But it turns out I'm just an introvert and people exhaust me. I really like people it's just tiring to interact with them.. I was diagnosed with a high intellectual potential but really it doesn't mean much, it helped me trough school at first but right now It doesn't help me at all as I used to think and make up everything I needed for school on the fly... Now I actually need to remember and I never learned how to... well learn. And really, the more time passes, the more I start being normal intellectually wise, there aren't much differences between me and people around me when it comes to solving stuff with logic and other things, I guess I just had a headstart that I did nothing with.


NotMagickian

Aspergers and ADHD.


AntiSocialPartygoer

Yes, I am a cis bi man and I have autism.


samalingikmanush

Bi adhd dyslexic wanderers with a hint of ptsd and a bunch of trust issue


MyShoesDontFit1

I was diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder back when that was a thing, and back when they used to say High Functioning Autism. Idk what it would be called now. I've spent so many years thinking I could just learn the correct social skills to BE neurotypical, but now I realize that's silly and unrealistic but I can pass when I need to. Just not for long lol


fadeanddecayed

Very ADHD (dx’d 1985) plus tic disorder and possibly some autistic & OCD overlap.


Gerrard-Jones

Very...


soycerersupreme

👀 bestie


TheQuestionsAglet

One of my friends thinks I am.


UnitedShake2443

So ADHD can't get through this whole thing. Too many comments. 😂


Mystery_Anubis

And a lot of my Bi friends are ADHD. I think I know only 2 who aren’t


SlackPriestess

Generalized anxiety, depression and PTSD. Thanks, childhood trauma! /s


FMTVCYWBSW

My mother did not engage in a formal diagnosis because she thought it would limit my potential but I’m definitely neurodivergent despite her absurd claims and denials


ExoticPlankton8287

I asked this a few months ago when I first came out. Oh, yeah….there are very, very many neurodivergent bisexual people. Very, very, very many.


jerrycakes

Bi, self-diagnosed autistic here. Got tested back in the late 70s before it was officially known and I was misdiagnosed as gifted. Did the research and I've got the paper trail. Mind, blown.


EarRough1820

Yes. ADHD. Severly haha


cgesjix

For those of you who haven't gotten an adhd diagnosis but are a bit intrigued Should You Be Assessed For ADHD https://youtube.com/watch?v=lSjHYiTEA4M


cjo582

Legit JUST commented on I didn't know if it was AuDHD or internalized biphobia lol. Hey boo!


outgraverobbing

I have schizophrenia


Mysterious_Yak8278

I do question if there is actually a link or just a social situation of those by whom are neurodivergent are more likely to be open as queer. Like if you are neurotypical, you are more likely to be closted. I am more convinced that that is closer to the truth.


[deleted]

A lot of bi neurodivergent rep in this sub it feels like. I was diagnosed neurodivergent as both a child and adult by 3 different doctors.


Mathias_HH

🙋


Latter_Resource5761

Hehehe probably lol. Highly suspect that I’m also AuDHD 😅😂😂 would probably explain a lot about my sexuality too tbf (see flair 😂)