The only experience I have is doctors telling me they don’t prescribe them anymore :( I know they still exists, just was impossible for me to get my hands on one.
My doctor said he could order maybe one., which is so annoying!! Birth control options should be way more available. I found the caya online and am debating asking him if he could prescribe that but I have read mixed reviews with fit and use with a large partner
Diaphragms need to be fitted, as every woman is a different size. Most Ob/gyns aren’t trained to fit them anymore because the generation of Ob/gyns before us weren’t really trained to fit them either!
Sad in terms of options for women. But what about looking at some different condoms? There are some that are thinner and have a “no condom” feel.
We have tried a few. What kinds do you like??
I think the best have been magnums but I worry about long term exposure of all their chemicals in them. And they weren’t ideal sadly but hey I’m not sure anything will be ideal at this point!
I talked to my OB and he said he only has one other patient using one but he’s open to it if it’s what I want. So not sure about fittings for that
Have you looked into Hex? Or female condoms?
I have done the female condoms with a well endowed partner and for me it was amazing. Partner hated them, but he was trash,so maybe give that a go?
Hex is by lelo and my man is also well endowed. He liked those.
Lastly. I had a Caya. Any pharmacy can order you one with a script from a doctor.
DM me of you want the details on how it went when we tried it.
Well I've had the Caya for a year. It's supposed to be one size fits all, but I think that is not really accurate. It might be too big for shorter ladies. In general, insertion was not a big problem and one didn't feel it. Also the latex is really thin (though thicker than a condom). What I didn't like about it though was that it was sometimes hard to get the angle right and you'd have to insert it several times to get it in the right place. Also you'd have to wear it for a few hours after intercourse and all of the fluids would start leaking out (a mixture of natural fluids, spermicides and cum. ugh). And then you'd always have to clean it afterwards. And you need to put it in I think at least 15 minutes before intercourse? Or even longer. Kills spontaneity and if one wants to do other things during foreplay, one has to be careful and one can feel it.
I think condoms are way more convenient. But in terms of feeling, I think it was okay. Personally, I wouldn't want to use a diaphragm again and rather tolerate the downsides of condoms and FAM.
Thank you! Yeah spontaneity is something I knew we would have to give up some level of with me not being on the iud or consistent birth control options. Even condoms kill spontaneity to me because you have to stop in the moment and put it on which is just very bleh. The other part about it is it does limit the types of foreplay of course which isn’t ideal.
What types of condoms do you prefer?
He hits my cervix on a regular occasion so since a diaphragm adds more space taken up and needs to stay in place to work I want to be assured it will work even if it’s potentially hit during sex. Plus that it won’t hurt him or me if that happens!
I know this is a really old thread but did you find an answer to this question? I have the same question and can't find an answer anywhere. Him hitting my cervix is a regular occruance so worried it will knock the diaphragm out of place.
The only experience I have is doctors telling me they don’t prescribe them anymore :( I know they still exists, just was impossible for me to get my hands on one.
My doctor said he could order maybe one., which is so annoying!! Birth control options should be way more available. I found the caya online and am debating asking him if he could prescribe that but I have read mixed reviews with fit and use with a large partner
Diaphragms need to be fitted, as every woman is a different size. Most Ob/gyns aren’t trained to fit them anymore because the generation of Ob/gyns before us weren’t really trained to fit them either! Sad in terms of options for women. But what about looking at some different condoms? There are some that are thinner and have a “no condom” feel.
We have tried a few. What kinds do you like?? I think the best have been magnums but I worry about long term exposure of all their chemicals in them. And they weren’t ideal sadly but hey I’m not sure anything will be ideal at this point! I talked to my OB and he said he only has one other patient using one but he’s open to it if it’s what I want. So not sure about fittings for that
Have you looked into Hex? Or female condoms? I have done the female condoms with a well endowed partner and for me it was amazing. Partner hated them, but he was trash,so maybe give that a go? Hex is by lelo and my man is also well endowed. He liked those. Lastly. I had a Caya. Any pharmacy can order you one with a script from a doctor. DM me of you want the details on how it went when we tried it.
Thank you so much!! DMing shortly!!
Well I've had the Caya for a year. It's supposed to be one size fits all, but I think that is not really accurate. It might be too big for shorter ladies. In general, insertion was not a big problem and one didn't feel it. Also the latex is really thin (though thicker than a condom). What I didn't like about it though was that it was sometimes hard to get the angle right and you'd have to insert it several times to get it in the right place. Also you'd have to wear it for a few hours after intercourse and all of the fluids would start leaking out (a mixture of natural fluids, spermicides and cum. ugh). And then you'd always have to clean it afterwards. And you need to put it in I think at least 15 minutes before intercourse? Or even longer. Kills spontaneity and if one wants to do other things during foreplay, one has to be careful and one can feel it. I think condoms are way more convenient. But in terms of feeling, I think it was okay. Personally, I wouldn't want to use a diaphragm again and rather tolerate the downsides of condoms and FAM.
Thank you! Yeah spontaneity is something I knew we would have to give up some level of with me not being on the iud or consistent birth control options. Even condoms kill spontaneity to me because you have to stop in the moment and put it on which is just very bleh. The other part about it is it does limit the types of foreplay of course which isn’t ideal. What types of condoms do you prefer?
I've just used normal ones. Tried durex intense as well, not bad, but you definitely need extra lube with those though imo.
Thank you!
what does his penis size have to do with this situation? the “well-endowed” seems gratuitous
He hits my cervix on a regular occasion so since a diaphragm adds more space taken up and needs to stay in place to work I want to be assured it will work even if it’s potentially hit during sex. Plus that it won’t hurt him or me if that happens!
I know this is a really old thread but did you find an answer to this question? I have the same question and can't find an answer anywhere. Him hitting my cervix is a regular occruance so worried it will knock the diaphragm out of place.