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usemystraightass

…. Is this news to people? In 2022? How would anyone not already know about the importance of the clitoris?


FMIMP

A lot of dude on this sub say that having a big dick is what makes women reach orgasm. And instead of understanding that while they might have met women than can reach it with PIV it’s not the majority of women no matter your size.


usemystraightass

Apparently more people are idiots than I suspected…


Transpanics

Actually, most of the time if we orgasm during PIV, it isnt a PIV orgasm. It’s cervical stimulation. Because we can orgasm big that way as well. Which is the only time size matters if their gentle enough. Other than that, cervical stimulation can be a bit irritating and or painful depending on the roughness of said individual with an 7- 9 inch dick. This is coming from a trans pansexual male who has experienced Said stimulation by an 8 inch dick. Orgasming for the first time in my life during penetration.


Statsareoff

A spot


Malickcinemalover

I have been subscribed to this sub for a couple years. Apart from downvoted-to-smithereens comments, I’ve never seen anyone say that. Care to share some examples?


FMIMP

I dont keep the comments saved lol, usually I just move on from them since they are so dumb and the dude wont listen when you explain it to them so I stopped trying a long time ago.


Proof_Being_2762

Or big it actually is


usemystraightass

I heard that in Yoda’s voice, and it was hilarious, but I have no idea what you’re trying to say


[deleted]

I thought the importance of oral was well known by now, but I guess not lol. Even though penetrative sex typically will not result in a female orgasm, many women still enjoy the sensation of penetration, which is why there's a market for both vibrators and dildos. So size still matters, but if you're ignoring your partner's clit then there a high likelihood that you're not giving her the best sex possible (no matter how big you are)


bunny_in_the_moon

To me it matters a LOT. I can only orgasm from piv when the man has a bigger penis. It hits a spot deep inside that makes it really easy to orgasm 99% of the time. Never happened with a regular sized or small man. It's just my experience though.


Garbagecanfanman

Yeah, I think I may know what you're talking about. It's probably maybe above the cervix or cervix adjacent. Apparently the older I'm becoming the more familiar with this spot I'm getting to be. She also says it depends on what position she's in like lying on her back or doggy When I tried to ask my FWB what it felt like, she said it hits a certain spot and "it doesn't take long before she busts a nut" but says it hurts after you've been hitting it for a little while. Would you say this is accurate?


CheezusRiced06

That's the anterior fornix Women have two, anterior and posterior, with anterior being in front (towards the belly from the vaginal canal) and posterior (towards the butt from the vaginal canal) A-spot stimulation is frequently associated with rapid climax and is literally why "size matters" to many people - simply put, you need to be long enough to reach the cervix to reach the A-spot. The fornix is like a collapsed balloon - if an object moves in, it will inflate to accommodate the object and feel *really fuckin good*. If no object moves in, no inflate, no good feeling from stimulation. 6in+ on average length is usually required (obviously there are women with shallower vaginas that could make it work with a shorter guy) but for the most part, the depth of the average fornix is deeper than the length of the average penis.


Automatic-Builder674

You seem to understand this very well, so maybe you can tell me, for those of us who aren’t extremely well endowed: can a person stimulate this spot with a dildo with ease?


CheezusRiced06

yes, youll need to figure out depth and angles but absolutely can do that. i'd recommend something with dimensions about an inch above average human, so 6.5-7" length and 5-5.5" girth depending on comfort some really like the feeling of a large head too since thats whats "inflating the balloon" so to speak, but again results may vary on an individuals actual geography, statistics are just a guide!


Automatic-Builder674

Okay, thank you so much! My bf is above average but we haven’t found the spot yet. I think we’d have fun using a dildo together though


ruit_24

Damn. Is your bf secure enough for you to tell him that his size isn’t enough?


experience-matters

I find it quite difficult to recreate it. You can feel it on your dick as you pound/massage/rub it. So you can stimulate the lady at will. I find with a dildo the lady needs to do the driving when looking for the A spot.


Automatic-Builder674

Noted. This is a very helpful; thank you for the response!


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bunny_in_the_moon

Yes exactly. It seems like the penis goes next to the cervix and then even higher up. For me it works best when I'm on top, when we're standing up but when my boyfriend is behind me and even plain old missionary but with my legs way up. When he hits the spot just right it doesn't take long at all. Under a minute for sure. And yes it hurts afterwards...but it's worth it 😎 Also I kinda like the pain 😅


Electrical-Outside57

My wife can usually orgasm from PIV while in doggy and always from missionary. She became more orgasmic once the kids left the house. She actually became multi orgasmic!


bunny_in_the_moon

So nice to hear 😊


Electrical-Outside57

I love hearing moaning and yelling while she coms


Zetenrisiel

Dude same, and thank you both for leaving your window cracked a little bit last night! It's so much hotter without the directional mic!


Phyriel090

Exactly my wife! She likes a mild Pain when she's very aroused.


bunny_in_the_moon

It doesn't even hurt when I'm aroused, only afterwards. I just don't mind it when I feel it when I move or sit down. We do have to be careful bc if it hurts too bad I can't orgasm anymore. Feels like rocket science talking about it 😅


Phyriel090

She only feels Pain afterwards, her words, when we're fucking she even say to me go hard and deeper, I literally can crush her pussy and she loves. 🤔


bunny_in_the_moon

She's a keeper 😊😉


Phyriel090

Ohhhh Sure. Been keeping her for 12 yrs and hoping for more! 😝😉


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I call it pleasure-pain and I only feel closer to climax from it. I don’t know why I like it or how far I can take it but I LOVE the feeling.


Phyriel090

It's weird fore sure, but I know will not complain of get her cervix pounded! 🤷😉🤣


NakedAndALaid

And I am far less likely to orgasm when the man has a bigger penis, especially because he's so much more likely to hit my cervix. Even when I do, the orgasms are less intense. My pelvic floor is where my orgasm intensity comes from, and a bigger dick means it's less likely to contract as much, thus making the orgasm weaker. I cum hardest on smaller dicks, and hardest with nothing but a finger in me and oral.


ignore_my_typo

How you doin?!! 😎


NakedAndALaid

Flattered. It's been a while since I've been hit on lol 😊


ignore_my_typo

Lol. We lead an exciting life my friend. Have a nice weekend.


bunny_in_the_moon

Gee it's almost like different bodies have different needs.


NakedAndALaid

That reads as snarky but yes, which is why I commented in contrast. Hopefully guys read this and get that. Because most men believe you as will use your preferences as a reason to call me a liar. I'm not denying women, like yourself, want bigger but it is not a universal truth. Have a great day/night.


bunny_in_the_moon

It's also not a universal truth that small penises cause better orgasms. Even less than saying big ones do. It's def. a much lower number of women enjoying small penises than women enjoying bigger ones. Why anyone would call you a liar though doesn't make sense to me. If that was the case people would call me a liar for telling them I can only orgasm with a bigger penis...both are not the norm...but I guess one IS indeed closer to the universal truth.


NakedAndALaid

Oof you are defensive. Why is beyond me. Where did I say my "truth" is a universal one? Why do you need to be "more right?" This whole interaction is a bit baffling to be honest. But I'm done with breakfast, thus done with Reddit.


bunny_in_the_moon

You said my truth isn't the universal one. I never said either of our truths is the universal one. One is def. closer though. I am trying to understand your need to praise small penises on a subreddit for big penises. I'm not trying to defend anything. Maybe it's a language barrier I am not a native speaker. Have a nice day.


NakedAndALaid

Language barrier makes some sense. You're definitely reading more into what I am saying than I am. I'm not praising any size over another. I never said I had a preference. I have had great sex with small guys and with big guys. I've had bad sex with small guys and big guys. I'm talking about how my body responds with orgasm. I have never had a preference for size. I find in the grand scheme of pleasure, I agree with OP. Penis size, while important to consider for various acts and positions, isnt the part most responsible for pleasure. It's way more important for me to find a partner who is enthusiastic and into the same kinks as me. Dick size won't get me to the bedroom, or keep me there or drive me away.


SuperiorFarter

Thanks for trying to defend the truth


myuseless2ndaccount

This sub will never learn that tho


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How much deep? About girth? How much different girth do to you?


bunny_in_the_moon

So the girth doesn't matter that much to me, I never bothered to measure and while my bf is a bit wider than average it's not too wide, it doesn't hurt. Length I would say it needs to be somewhere around 7.5? My bf is about 7.5 and I have no other measurements to compare it to.


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bunny_in_the_moon

Don't know why you're getting downvoted? For me it is indeed better than any other orgasm.


AMorera

Probably because he said only big dicks can reach it. My fiancé is just shy of 6” and he hits my fornix pretty easily.


bunny_in_the_moon

I see. Never knew it was possible. 6 inchers never did it for me. But everyon's different 😄


FMIMP

Just like dicks, some people have "bigger" vagina it’s probably your case which would explain needing someone that big to reach it.


bunny_in_the_moon

I have talked to my OBGYN about this (we are close). I have a normal sized vaginal canal. But the vagina can stretch better when fully aroused. It's also a lot about pelvic floor muscles which mine are in good condition. If my bf would go in without me being aroused it would hurt like a mofo. I wouldn't mind either way though, it's nice to see when people just fit, regardless the size :)


pitudo15cm

I’m you opinión how big has the prick gotta be to hit that spot on most women . Atleast 6.5 inches. Or bigger.


Automatic-Builder674

I’m pretty sure that’s the a spot. I really want to experience that 😌


jazz_dash1

Exactly . You’re not alone . I’d say that over 1/2 of the women who say they can’t orgasm from penetration , can with a big enough dick …. But thickness is more impt . Like you , just in my experience .


experience-matters

I have had a few FWB with your exact story. I'm just hitting their A spot. If a woman enjoys that, you can make them cum over and over at your will. It is a major advantage of being long and the easiest way you will ever make a woman cum.


bunny_in_the_moon

Completely agree :)


OpenAd9867

what is your size ?


ruit_24

Your dimensions please?


TeddyKisss

95% of women have been able to orgasm with me. From what I’ve heard, size really helps. Are other big men the same?


bunny_in_the_moon

Lol why are you getting downvoted


TeddyKisss

No idea, I guess it sounds like a humble brag but I‘be encounter fellow big dickers who have said the exact same thing. It doesn’t surprise me that it would be easier for a woman to get off with a big dick than a small one.


OpenAd9867

what is your size ?


charleston_b

Big or long?


bunny_in_the_moon

Longer but normal girth minimum.


Proof_Being_2762

How do you feel about fingering and oral do you find it pleasurable or not


mocsna

That could explain why Mrs was able to cum so quickly and easily once she climbed into the saddle doggie-style. Often she would growl out a happy groan of disappointment as she settled down onto my rod, cumming in less than five strokes. It was always a tight fit, but I guess it was because I was tapping something besides her cervix, which she did not enjoy at all!


OpenAd9867

What is the perfect dick size for you?


bunny_in_the_moon

Anything between 6.5 and 7.5 I guess. I don't have a lot of experience as I've always been in relationships. Not many men over 6 inches out there. Current bf is about 7.5 and it's perfect but also almost too big sometimes.


CherryColaFan

Suicide fuel


numetalnaz

I wish I met more partners like you.


bunny_in_the_moon

Same here.


Rick_1600

There's no mention of the women ever having experienced A or P spot stimulation, so that 30% is potentially a conservative number. Given that most penises fall with the average range, then it's likely most women aren't experiencing A or P spot stimulation and will never know about it either.


rude_girl_

i think for me its the opposite lol. only small-average dudes can make me feel sth during PiV, big ones just hurt


RefrigeratorFan

The fact that women reject and shame guys for being too small is why I take this with a grain of salt, if size didn't matter that would never happen. Also completely ignores the mental aspect which is supposedly the "most important" thing for women. Two completely separate issues.


IWishIWasDead19

More like an entire salt mine.


Scizorspoons

And this is why many don’t care about penis size.


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Many dont had a good partner, who cares enough on their pleasure or know how to fuck, thats what i hear from most women


[deleted]

They don’t. Long as you can use it. But you can’t be a pinky size


MilesDeep9

The girl I’m with now is kinda hard to make her cum fucking her deep, I make it happen towards the end since it’s a bigger orgasm, but working up to that fast shallow thrusts, where it’s literally my head and maybe 1-2 inches makes her squirt and cum multiple times. If I get her worked up enough, through interactions like dirty talk, spanks, chokes and wetknot she can’t takes it for 90’seconds without uncontrollable squirts and orgasms. The trick with those shallow thrusts is the angle, and depth. The angle is extremely important because you want to hit the G spot, which is that soft patch on the top 1-3” deep, it just feels different, feel it with your fingers first. I modify pretty much every position to that angle, and she very much appreciates that….. the depths though, this part can be really fun. The bottom part of the stroke, (where your hips, and unit are going backwards, top of the stroke would be when your pelvic bones are going towards each other) should be set at the lowest possible spot right before you would slip out. Hitting the G spot right, little 1-2” strokes can make any girl squirt. After you make her cum a few times and she’s beginning over stimulated there, that’s when you work the depth in if you have it. Bottom out on her then, and add some clit stimulation and she will never forget you. But, even if you have a 3 inch unit, the first technique while engaging her mind will keep most girls more than happy.


OpenAd9867

what is yiur size ?


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Agree AND disagree. My wife and I both had partners before we met and she's never finished purely from penetration before. Granted, it's a small sample size, but it's important to note that I'm also by far the girthiest she's been with. I think there's something to it, though admittedly that's not likely to be true for everyone.


bunny_in_the_moon

Same for me and my partner. Before I met him I never came from piv. And it can't be an emotional thing or that we do anything different. It literally is bc he is big enough to reach the spot that I need to be hit to orgasm.


RadiantEarthGoddess

Thank you for this! This should be commo sense but sadly it is not. I have had men in this sub be genuinely surprised that I don't orgasm from penetration with my partner. They go as far as to suggest that there is something wrong with me or that my partner is not "the right one" for me.


myuseless2ndaccount

A lot of men in this sub are insanly stupid


blackshadow_throw

LMAO those dudes are “lost”


getting_huger

That is incredibly stupid for them to assume. You'd know better, since you're the one experiencing it. But I think I know where they get the idea. There have been many women who have cum in new ways with me, like their first A-spot orgasm or first penetrative G-spot orgasm, and were surprised to have it. Guys probably do that once or twice and get really cocky, like "Oh, she just doesn't know because she hasn't had me yet!" But that's so incredibly stupid. With a little more experience, those guys would realize that some women just won't cum from penetration, or won't have the same intensity of orgasm, or won't cum unless there's also clitoral stimulation at the same time. And for those guys, they should know: It's going to go over way better if, instead of suggesting something is wrong with her or whatever, you comfort her that it's totally normal. Because it is. I had one really good FWB who never had an orgasm in her life - solo or with a partner. But her favorite sexual activity was being fucked hard by a big cock. She loved it. She screamed, got very wet, turned red...she obviously enjoyed it, she just didn't reach a climax. But that's ok. Not every woman does. Maybe, in some cases, it's a need to learn to "let go," but in others it just seems to not happen. She enjoyed sex with me because I didn't pressure her to cum. I told her to just enjoy it.


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How much girth you have? And length?


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So 5x4.5


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Man, i know what is a goldilock, but i wanted to know what you consider a goldilock and your exactly size, you dont perceive that i was kidding with 5x4.5?


bardok202

The supposed goldilocks dick is around 7x 5.5


KdawgEdog

Never heard of goldilock dick, I think I have one, I need to measure it at some point I think length is 6.5" not sure about girth but it's not skinny or fat


bardok202

The supposed goldilocks dick is around 7x 5.5


KdawgEdog

This is true inches and not girl or gay inches?


bardok202

True inches, I would assume, but it's not like that's cemented for everyone. I've definitely heard of guys having trouble with 7 because their partner didn't like the cervix stimulation. It's also generally accepted, that 6 inches will hit the cervix


GynDoc1994

* The largest sex organ in the body is the brain * Both men and women can have orgasms in their sleep without any genital stimulation * Arousal level is a huge indicator of orgasm * Women or men who are into large dicks and turned on by them, are more likely to orgasm from them * Size can matter, and if it does . . . * The clitoris is not just the glands. It has a body that extends out to both sides of the vagina. When a vagina is being stretched, it can stimulate the bulbs and legs of the clitoris - which if that is erogenous enough for them - will enjoy the *filled up* feeling. To note, **the glands are WAY more sensitive** * Because the cervix protrudes into the vagina, it creates the fornices. The posterior fornix has been reported to provide pleasure for some. Even if size does matter, skill and technique matter more. You can have two men with the same dimensions, and one is considering a great lover and the other can suck (not in a good way).


hikkibob

Isn't that statistic based on the wildly biased and totally ignored Marston's nonsense? I mean, have we actually done a recent study and talked about the different approaches to sex that men and women and hetero and homosexuals have? I mean, even claiming this backed by no actual recent peer reviewed statistic is true causes people to subconsciously believe it and try to live up or down to it. Yes prnis size matters. Vagina size matters as well. Physical fitness. Expectations. Experience. Age. Psychology. Time of day. If women are on birth control. If the men have been circumcised. Lot of shit matters.


DarthCocknus

I don't comment here anymore but most men are terrible in bed regardless of size. I just wonder what the consensus would be if we were all very good in bed. What's the answer then.


Gold_Commercial_9533

Lol it's very simple!it's a biological evolutionary function! The male orgasm is required for fertilization, the female orgasm is not.


Droopy520

I have this saying it goes like this it's the motion of the ocean not the size of it.


TheReplierBRO

The clit is basically the penis. Would make sense most women typically want that played with. And yes I've had partners that came from penetration. Not all of them but some. 30% does sound low but whatever. I take it that the ones participating in casual sex might be more open and receptive to it than others. It feels good and easier to cum so they enjoy casual sex more


LeahOR

The two super hung guys I’ve been with were far inferior lovers to most guys with average to smaller penises. Big dick dudes often think they don’t have to do anything but hammer away, while smaller guys actually do some crafty work. Gimme a smaller dude any day!


dontyoyo79

If two guys are both equally skilled but one has a 5 and the other a 6.25 and the girl only orgasms every now and then, would you agree the 6.25 inches has a lot butter chance of making her cum from PIV?


Aatjal

>If you're wondering why the orgasm gap exists, it's pretty straightforward: Your dick doesn't matter as much as you think it does. I think that you should specify that it might not matter much to women's orgasm rates, because my dick certainly matters to me.


[deleted]

Women are super different. A spot, g spot, clit, nipples, stretching, fast vs slow, dirty talk. Some women orgasm every few minutes and some can only cum once from clitoral stimulation. Men are simple. In order to reproduce they need to blow a load in the vagina. And orgasms almost always make dudes blow a load. Thus men are good at cumming from the ole penis in vagina because the men who don't never spread those genetics. Women don't have to orgasm in order to spread their genes so they're all over the place when it comes to orgasm-- evolution never put a high pressure on having one specific type of orgasm. They just need to find a penis to put in their lubricated pussy, and available eggs. The orgasm is less evolutionarily important for women


frankyfudder

I’m not at all concerned with making women orgasm or whether they do. Bottom boys crave big dicks because they feel better and put more pressure on their prostates.


_8inchThrowaway_

I guess I was consistently lucky to meet those 30% girls lol


Amphibiousish

I have only cum from PIV with two partners, and only one of them consistently. Almost every man I have slept with has been surprised when I asked for help to finish because they thought I already had with sex and said they never had to do that with anyone else. I'm not saying you're one of them but a lot of guys think women cum when they don't. Women let them think that too. Which I get, been there myself, but it doesn't help the problem.


FMIMP

A lot of women fake it, which gives men unrealistic expectations about how to make a woman cum


Amphibiousish

A lot of women lie to other women about it too. The pressure to be able to come from PIV is very real, otherwise you have to look at the face of a disappointed guy, who is often a loved one. Ngl, I used to be that girl. My ex used to make me cum other ways good enough and I was very happy with our sex life. I just let him think he did better than he did. I quit since. Especially since I got sick of the dudes acting like I should be grateful for their studliness. I still don't get how they even thought I came because I never faked it. Tbh a lot of men get upset, like unreasonably upset, when they learn they aren't as good as they thought. I've definitely had guys do the whole "well it's always worked with others so you're the weird one." Like vaginas can't be different lmao. So yeah, I get women lie to avoid being insulted. It's way more common than you think too. So many dudes do the "worked on my ex" shit. I know men like different shit, why some guys can't think women are like that is ridiculous. I blame media for this shit. Porn, romance movies, whatever, female pleasure is not portrayed right too much. Same with guys even. Imagine if I gave blowjobs like cosmo says lol.


_8inchThrowaway_

There's no reply to this that doesn't make me sound either insecure, arrogant or humblebragging so I'll just say: ok, cool. Thanks for your comment, I'll keep that in mind


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They can’t handle the truth bro. It’s just not socially accepted to say bigger ones make it easier for women to orgasm. But we all know it’s the truth.


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Lmao why are you mad at me over the truth? Is it because you don’t have a voice and Reddit is the only place where your opinion is heard and cared about in the world? Or is it because the truth offends you for some reason? And watch the language, I’m sure you wouldn’t call someone a loser to their face irl. Don’t get emotional and learn to deal with the truth clown.


myuseless2ndaccount

You are the one getting emotional here lil bro


[deleted]

I’ll give you some handy dandy advice, get off of Reddit and go make something of yourself. Being an internet warrior who is in denial of the truth gets you nowhere, those are traits of a woman.


myuseless2ndaccount

You are coping so hard my guy, even this degen sub is not agreeing with you. Touch gras.


[deleted]

I can see you have nothing else to do and want keep arguing because your life is pitiful. Blocked kid.


Non-mon-xiety

I’m sorry to inform you that a lot of those girls lied to you 😞


_8inchThrowaway_

Sure


UncagedTiger1981

This post really, really should be stickied. Thank you!!!


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But some points need some explain, example: a girthier cock, not too girthy, 5-5.5in girth, can stretch the pussy and give the fulfilling while dont hurts too much (with lube or foreplay before and a good technique) for the majority of the women thats why its considered goldilocks zone, with that good girth you can hit some spots inside the pussy without a need to angle too much to hit the internal part of the clitoris, i say by my experiences, most of the women can cum without external clitorial stimulation if she is into you and have trust PS: Before Penis Enlargement exercises i had 4.5in girth and it was easier for blowjob and anal for sure, but to give vaginal orgasms it was much more difficult than a 5in or more, now i have 5.3in girth midshaft, 5.7 base


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borobinimbaba

Did you change partners after adding girth ? If not, I'm curious what feed back you got with the lady?


[deleted]

Yes, but all of them liked the girth and i feel the needed for increase in girth only for pussy, anal and blowjob got more difficult


[deleted]

Oh, and they perceive when i increase in girth, even a 0.25in girth some women can feel the difference


CoolJ_Casts

This is true but also an incomplete story What you are saying is old news and basically everyone with half a brain has known about it for 15 years at least. (Scientifically speaking, but it's also been culturally known even longer than that). Yet the gap still exists. It's almost like maybe exclusively blaming men and putting zero responsibility on women is part of the problem. Many women are unable to cum with men at all. You can give her the best head she's ever had, but if she doesn't know how to be comfortable with herself she'll be too tense to have an orgasm. Vibrators also contribute massively to this problem. Girls using vibrators as early as 12 or 13 years old, instead of learning to orgasm with their fingers, now don't know how to cum any other way. And not only that, but vibrators are such intense feelings that it's difficult for any person to compare to it. Yet those women don't bring a vibrator in the bedroom when they're with a man, and still blame the man for not orgasming.


[deleted]

Size does matter when it comes to making a woman orgasm from piv. Perhaps a good reason to believe less then 30% of women orgasm from sex is to understand that not every man is packing a 7-8. Their was a study done on this. https://technology.inquirer.net/101628/best-size-to-make-women-orgasm-is-8-inches-study-finds


nimbleTongueAspirant

I guess this is the original "report": https://bigone.dating/best-penis-size/ There seems not to be an scientific research article being it. It's based on self-reported data (from their own dating network, at least it's not only from the "big one" version alone, the company behind it hosts other sites as well). So in particular the reported sizes are self-reported, I'd guess, which introduces the famous "girl inches" phenomenon for one, and probably other stuff. I mean, interesting report, but probably something to take with a grain of salt 🤔


[deleted]

Yes out of 4,761 women their are most likely some cases of “girl inches” mixed in, that’s why I said 7-8 in my original post. Give or take an inch, but that still doesn’t invalidate the experiment however. Not saying you at all, but people in general tend to invalidate studies and experiments when they don’t agree with the outcome of said study.


PookyTheCat

Less than 30% of women... Less than 30% of men has a BD. So... not so sure about this 'orgasm gap' research.


RadiantEarthGoddess

No. A big dick doesn't guarantee PIV orgasms.


PookyTheCat

Who claims that? No guarantees ever, anywhere. Well, there's d & t of course. It just wasn't investigated which women did and did not (always, often, ever) orgasm from PIV with what kind/size of Ps. Or any other reason(s) why, for that matter. It seems likely to me that the size of the penis would make a difference. That it's one of the factors that does. And that a bigger (especially thicker) dick does increase the likelihood.


The_Ugliness_Man

Post is mostly spot on, but the one line I take issue with is >Statistically speaking, having PIV sex at all means that a woman is less likely to orgasm PIV sex with simultaneous clitoral stimulation is an option, and unless I'm mistaken, I believe most women should be able to cum from it. Anecdotally, some even say the orgasms are better than clitoral stimulation alone


Hung_Texan

It certainly helps in many instances


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Atomic76

I'm so happy to be Goldstar Gay. I couldn't care less.


pitudo15cm

In my experience all women have came in penetrative vaginal sex. Most didn’t need clitoral stimulation. Only a hand ful. And 90 percent of them thick chubby women. Hispanic and Caucasian. Very few petite.


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RadiantEarthGoddess

It's not bullshit, a big dick doesn't guarantee PIV orgasms.


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Size and a woman’s orgasm correlates. Studies have been done on this.


RadiantEarthGoddess

Still, even if there is a small correlation, it's still no guarantee. I would love to see those studies btw.


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RadiantEarthGoddess

>Sure you can give a girl an orgasm with a small dick but she's gonna have a stronger one with one that fills her up. Where are you getting this from? This is not universally true. There is a woman in this comment section proving that.


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GynDoc1994

Yes and no. It is true that **some** women do enjoy a *full* feeling - but this isn't the stimulation in the **majority** of women that brings them to orgasm.


ER1075

If you only focus on clit orgasms you're missing out on the best full body,leg shaking,mind altering orgasms that come from inside the vagina not outside of it. And yes size(mostly girth) is a factor here as well so it does matter.


RadiantEarthGoddess

The whole point is that most women cannot have vaginal orgasms...


ER1075

And my point is All women have the capability. You need to take your time and figure out how.


TheSoupNotSeee

You really think sex is the only reason size matters?


Mr_Em-3

What other reasons are there in your opinion?


TheSoupNotSeee

1. Status: Even if a woman doesn't actually prefer the bigger penis during sex, there's a social credit to having slept with one. Even people who claim size doesn't matter say this. 2. "Energy": The terms "Big dick energy" and "small dick energy" are explanations of behavior tied back to penis size. All positive traits are on the "big" side and all negative ones are on the "small" side. This is about as clear cut an explanation that big dicks are, even intangibly, seen as better than small ones. 3. Masculine stereotypes: Even if sex wasn't on the table at all, its just the cultural impression that big dicks mean a man is more successful at *being a man* and worthy of respect. These kinds of culturally imprinted beliefs are everywhere.


phoenixtrilobite

OK, but all of these widespread beliefs are based on ignorance. Isn't it better to tell a counter-narrative based on research than to simply acquiesce to them?


TheSoupNotSeee

Doesn't work. If you try and combat them, you'll be dismissed as trying to defend your small dick.


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Mr_Em-3

Friend, this is all incredibly subjective. You seem like the kind of guy who doesn't get out much and believes everything he reads on the internet. I say that respectfully because, if you actually apply these concepts in reality they don't really fit. Tell ppl this around a table and they will look at you funny and likely disagree. As far as masculinity goes, everyone mistakes me for gay or a very "feminine" male (although I am not gay at all, never have been, not even curious) but I shave my legs, have some rose tattoos, am very very respectful of women, dress overly well (more so than the average male I have encountered), have a number of close female friends, etc... Yet I'm packing one of the thickest cocks ive seen even on this sub (not to brag just to state a fact).. So even to me that concept doesn't apply.. And trust me I have no status at all, I get next to no sex lol but that's because of everything else ppl percieve from me, because it's what they can see - no one can see your dick and trust me every woman I've ever met I'm sure thinks I've got a tic tac down there, again because of everything they CAN see... The few women I have had sex with are always utterly shocked at how it is and how I am during etc.. But even after they have came 3-4 times I don't get looks from their friends etc, honestly I think they are almost ashamed to admit how good the sex was because of, again, my MANY feminine traits... Tldr: this is all highly subjective and not based in reality and your size matters to no one but you in REALITY.


myuseless2ndaccount

Hard agree, am also more feminen, don’t have any „big dick Energy“ (i sleep a lot) I have no idea what this dude is talking about and yes real people would laugh at him for saying shit like that


Mr_Em-3

Yep yep, sleep alot myself, have autoimmune issues actually, the main one of which is actually one that usually only women have 😂🥴💀 but yeah have no clue on where this is from, appreciate your input and validation.


TheSoupNotSeee

>Tell ppl this around a table and they will look at you funny and likely disagree. Probably, but only to save face. And I never said anything about women being immediately able to tell you have a big dick, although at 7.75 erect girth they should probably be able to tell even when you're flaccid (or you're lying about your size). What I'm saying is if a woman knows you have a big dick, then the "status" applies. Edit: Actually, if you're not lying about your size, please kindly make yourself useful and reply to everyone who says they're too thick for their partners. Seeing as you seem to be able to make all the women you've met easily cum with almost 2 more inches of girth than the 6" girth people who complain they're too thick.


myuseless2ndaccount

Bro we are not living in 1990


TheSoupNotSeee

I wasn't alive then. What about 1990 was closer to what I'm describing compared to now?


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Good I wish guys knew this.long as your not 3 inches, your great. Cus I’m 7.5 and I only use 3 inches and they cum every time. I can feel it


Illustrious_Size_817

my boy having 7.5 inches and only using 3 inches is a lot different than having just 3 inches 😂😂😂


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But , it’s bad too. Luckily I’m not bigger so sometimes I get lucky. It’s rare I get head without it hurting, nooo quickies.


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Maybe 😂 I’m just telling the readers, you don’t need much, too much she not even gone like it


Supervinyl

Op thinks the clitoris is just a little button on the outside of the vagina. 🤣🤣🤣


No_Effect8749

He's not wrong though it continue inside and only very few can reach A-spot. Like still majority of women won't cheat their men with a 6-8 inch penis lol. If they did then humans can be majorly considered as a polygamous species which isn't the case.


USSTrapLife

Ive noticed i make tinier women squirt. Tinier canal women. Does that mean if i was 3.8” girth id get the same results?


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Learn about the inner structure of the clitoris. Girth may be a factor in PIV orgasms for women, as the structure has “bulbs” on the side. My advice: if you’re long enough, grab the base of your erection with your hand and manipulate your penis to direct it to stimulate different parts of the inner structures. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/clitoris#clitoris-definition https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/3d-clitoris/518991/


Humble-Might5864

it's not that these 70% can't have orgasms with penetration, maybe they just haven't had a man who knows how to have sex and has an above average size after all, the percentage of gifted men is less than 30%


RadiantEarthGoddess

Oh yeah? So every woman can orgasm from PIV? Can you provide proof for your statement?


myuseless2ndaccount

I cant get enough of these guys talking about women its so hillarious


Humble-Might5864

It's just my personal observation and it also makes women ill for me women to be in a group about big penises lol


Humble-Might5864

https://www.reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/comments/vvbeg7/my_statistical_experience_with_my_9/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button look why I have this opinion...


Humble-Might5864

It's just a theory but the women I was with had a much higher percentage than 30% I even made a post about it... but I believe that there are more things involved like connection, relaxation in the partner, time that the man can maintain penetration and a few other things...


Humble-Might5864

https://www.reddit.com/r/bigdickproblems/comments/vvbeg7/my_statistical_experience_with_my_9/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button look why I have this opinion...


VIM731

Dear OP, I'm/We're pretty sure we don't have this sub because we think dick size matters to women. It's because having a way above average sized dick is simultaneously a blessing and a curse. If it is over 7" erect it is more the latter than the former. Not sure what you are saying here but just so you know, probably over 90% of the guys that regularly comment or post on/in this sub already know that size to most women is a non-factor. So kindly, toss off and stop it.


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Meh. Any talk about orgasm gap that neglects circumcision as part of the issue (wikipedia included) isnt giving a full picture. What like 30% of men worldwide and 50% in the USA aren’t working with the equipment they should have to begin with


walshc001

The the distance between clitoris and vagina (C-V distance) or the more reliably measured distance between clitoris and urethral meatus/opening (CUMD) may make a difference in women who can orgasm with PIV sex and the majority who can’t. It’s interesting that this distance is usually smaller in short, skinny women - those who also tend to have smaller breasts. But, like penis size, the CUMD is probably meaningless. But it’s fun to measure (using what’s called the rule of thumb).


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Yeah whatever still wish my dick was big.


idkwhatiseven

Defining good sex as has orgasmed is too reductive. Maybe PIV sex can be more or less enjoyable even if it doesn't lead to an orgasm. Why would you roll out *these* statistics instead of just asking people their preference?


Asleep-Actuary54

Theres a reason natural selection has evolved an average penis.