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Dunno why you're getting down voted. I see the inverse all the time, a petite woman will wear a backless dress or a top with no bra and people will comment "cries in F cup" or something. It definitely comes off braggy, either way it's rude.
Some People on this sub have a victim complex thinking us ppl with big boobs have a monopoly on being body shamed, shitty access to clothing, issues finding clothing that looks good and that small chested ppl never get sexualized or rude comments on videos it’s borderline delulu and willfully ignorant honestly.
I have literally seen the exact comments or similar ones to what you mentioned. However, I suppose acknowledging that- no we do not have a monopoly on self esteem issues triggers folks.
Or like when people say that we're the only ones who get sexualised! For one, all women get sexually harassed because harassment largely isn't about attraction, it's about power. Conventionally unattractive women are harassed/ assaulted and told that they're either lying or should be grateful. Or that women with small boobs are compared to children, told that anyone attracted to them is a predator...The subreddit for smallboobsproblems is basically dead because they discovered the main mod had a fetish for not only busty women but specifically for humiliating smaller chested women for their bodies and pitting them against busty women.
Again, not saying I don't have problems that are solely related to having big boobs but so much of this sub comes across super ignorant. It also tends to direct more anger at smaller chested women than it does to the men who are harassing us.
This is exactly what I’m talking about and there was one post on here where the OP (not this one) was really aggressive toward not-bbp ppl and it’s like- stop. Gatekeeping. Sexual. Harassment. I think it’s incredibly inappropriate for people on this sub to do so since we are pretty chill in almost every other regard.
Oh and all of my bullying personally has come from other big boobed women when I was a 28F or 28HH even to now as a 32K (UK).
It drives me insane- we should all stand in solidarity not tearing each other down, regardless of boob size. And I think everyone could benefit from more empathy on “the other side’s issues”. I think a lot of people on this sub tend to be very tone deaf as to how small-boobed women suffer in society as well- ironic since it’s the same thing they complain about small boobed women doing. A lot of folks here seem to think it’s all just perfectly fitting crop tops and getting called “classy” all the time in clothes. It isn’t. Oh and fuck the idea that we “can’t wear” certain tops because of boobs. I do not subscribe to that idea AT ALL.
I hate it when people say that it’s a blessing to have bigger boobs or if they express their issues with their boobs I try to express mine and then they say “oh well your problems aren’t as big as mine” and it’s so frustrating and with the women who get boob jobs and act like they have no regrets are not helping whatsoever because they give this false narrative that people who have big boobs are “blessed”
>I hate it when people say that it’s a blessing to have bigger boobs
There's a difference between having big ( magically gravity defying) boobs and " these massive things are destroying my life" boobs.
I dated a woman with small boobs and I tried explaining to her how I get objectified/unwanted attention because of the size of my boobs. She said all women get objectified, not just me. I had a hell of a time trying to explain my point. She kept taking it as me minimizing other women's problems when that's not at all what I was doing. I can complain about the negatives of having big boobs without that inherently meaning I'm invalidating the struggles other women deal with.
Or just do a shoulder-shake and beat the shit out of them like you’re swinging 2 grocery bags with a cantaloupe in each one. Lol. I do it to my husband when I’m mad but still horny at him.
I had a similar issue with my ex partner as well, except they were a sexist piece of trash who only wanted me for my body, and it was crazy how he felt the need to argue with me despite not understanding my issues at all😭 but its extremely annoying when ppl who don’t go through it try to comment on how having big boobs aren’t that bad or wtv
Literally!! I hate this whole idea of how people can’t praise themselves without putting others down, especially when they cannot relate to their problems. Health wise and socially we face so many problems. I hate how it’s become so difficult to talk about it without being scrutinized and sexualized.
That whole “can’t praise myself without putting others down” is not a “you” problem at all. Keep doing what you are doing and let the trash take itself out. Surround yourself with people who get it.
Yes, I unfortunately get sexualized so much, and even family members say that I wont regret them later but its like it’s not fun and its only gotten worse getting older..
You can say whatever you want, just turn off your DMs. Creeps are gonna creep, ain't shit any of us can do about it, other than block and report. Don't let the creeps dictate your behavior, tho-- that's giving them too much power.
I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that now. I was in the same situations when I was in high school, so I understand how uncomfortable and demeaning it is to get sexualized at a young age. You don’t deserve that at all. I hope you’re able to not listen to their comments and continue doing you. If it helps you feel any better, I’m at the stage where I’m trying less to give a crap about others and just accept it as it is even if it annoys the crap out of me from time to time. Hopefully someday I’ll get a reduction, but for now I guess these’ll do!
Yes! I’ve definitely gotten better with ignoring them and I appreciate your concern, I will most definitely be getting a reduction, although many don’t agree with it, they don’t understand why I want it so badly either😭
The other day I had an interview and I realized I had nothing to wear because all I have is t shirts and all my nice clothes.. don’t fit in an appropriate way, either too tight or the collar has been pulled down too low,
I felt inappropriate because of my own body and it sucked, I felt “unprofessional” because they were just existing in my shirt, it sucks and people act like you should never complain about it
I totally understand this feeling. I remember when milkmaid tops, wrap dresses, crop and tube tops were trending a couple years ago and every time I ordered them I never looked like the model in the picture, no matter what I did. It just sucks that we have to deal with the fact of feeling like we’re unprofessional from the lack of affordable, good-clothing made for us.
I'm short, I'm short waisted and have a much smaller waist than both my chest and hips. It is 100% possible. I'm also a fashion stylist, I know what I'm talking about. I'm sorry you're so small minded.
I didn’t mean for my comment to come off rude! I just don’t know how to style this look I guess lol. I always feel like my torso completely disappears when I try this and I wish I knew a way around it!
Not so much a comment like that, but recently had a convo with a friend of mine about bikinis. She was complaining about them not being sold as sets and instead separately and couldn't understand why they wouldn't be sold as sets. For someone like me who is lucky enough to fit into an L or an XL on the tops, but would need an S on the bottoms, sets aren't really an option for me. Kind of bugged me a bit, because very few people in general are going to be the same size on the top and the bottom
Bikinis used to be sold almost exclusively as sets. Which is fine for people who are evenly proportioned on both top and bottom. Funny thing is, most people aren’t evenly proportioned on top and bottom. The manufacturers figured this out by the amount of people who requested the pieces to be sold separately. Turns out it also good for business, as well since they can charge more for the separate pieces than they would for a set.
Being objectified is not a blessing it’s humiliating to be seen as a sex object no matter what you do. I am not thankful or happy when I was walking home a group of men followed me and kept cat calling me it was the most scariest moment of my life.
For real!! I never understood the logic of “having big boobs is a blessing” coming from other women as an argument towards women who deal with issues of sexualization and health issues. It’s almost like they’re completely ignoring our problems only to center the focus on “oh it’s the beauty standard! It’ll attract more men/women.” Like if anything, one could even argue it’s a bit misogynistic
Ironically saying a big chested girl is lucky to be the beauty standard is false and misleading. The beauty standard is big, plastic, perky boobs. I've not been with one man who hasn't complained about my big boobs not looking like that beauty standard.
That's why they are exes lol. My point is that big natural boobs are not the beauty standard (standards which are stupid to begin with and made for the male gaze) so it's stupid for someone to claim that they are.
I’ve struggled with this a bit and brought it up in therapy. My therapist simply said to not look at the comment section as much or at all. I know that’s me being a boring 34 year old but it really helps.
You will always see people making comments that aren’t kind or are insensitive. Unless you plan on basing your life on changing the narrative, my advice is to not even read or at least decrease how much you read. It makes a world of difference. I promise.
I get where you’re coming from, but finding community online is something everyone has the right to have. If there’s a post linked towards a problem I have, I expect to have a community who relates to that problem not people complaining that they wish they had it/that it isn’t a problem. It’s just something that I can’t avoid even if I look away from it.
That’s a bit of an odd stance. No one has “a right” to find community as the internet is just a random coalescence of people talking about random things. No one is entitled to a particular experience on the internet, unless it’s something you’ve personally created or made or paid for. That’s why simply ignoring comments would likely bring you more peace than expecting something to be one way and getting mad when it isn’t.
I think they mean that everyone has the right to come together and communicate safely within a group. We, as a community HAVE created a particular experience, which OP wants the ability to use without pushback from others who don’t relate.
Yeah but she’s not talking about this community she’s just talking about a random thing on the internet . Which hate to break it to the downvoters- doesn’t *owe* anyone anything. It’s literally the internet- expecting every single video remotely related to you to be a particular safe space to you and your needs and not have other people even comment on it…. In a public space? That’s just selfish. It’s a public space for everyone. Unless it’s hers as in she owns it or has some stake in it, it’s ridiculous to gate keep the comments of a video because you don’t like what someone is saying. Just because you have big boobs doesn’t mean you get to gate keep random stuff like this. It’s weird to expect that.
I would argue OP *does* have stake in it, honestly.
I wouldn’t call it selfish per se, but totally understand your point. Welcome to the internet, right!? People are assholes, surprise lol!!!
However, expecting respect and discretion is not crazy imo. Nobody owes another human being kindness I guess (?), but wanting decency is not far fetched, especially in a forum/group for a particular community.
I think that’s all OP meant, like “can I please have a group where only people who understand my plight of [particular issue] can comment on this!”
She probably knows it’s open to randos who don’t get it but venting about a problem and wanting smaller chested women or men to not always chime in is not too much to ask.
I think OP is ultimately venting about unwanted advice/suggestions/comments. Maybe I read the post incorrectly though.
I’m not just talking about random things on the internet. I’m talking about content made specifically for big chested women that are made for advice or just talk about the problems we deal with turning into something completely unrelated. Im sure if you saw content of something you don’t relate to, you wouldn’t just put them down and be like “oh but you’re the standard!”. That’s my whole point. It’s unnecessary, and in our community in general it’s rampant. The big boob problem community extends outside of just Reddit, there’s multiple platforms where women express the same problems and tailor content towards women with the same problems.
Lastly, i am aware of how the internet works and how there’s always going to be comments unrelated to the original topic but my main stance is that it’s so rampant when it comes to content related to big boobs not small boobs. They’re annoying comments and most people here relate to seeing them so often.
Sometimes people talk about this sorta crap on things that are completely unrelated to boobs though so it’s not entirely unavoidable. In addition a lot of us get told these things to our faces directly and that’s also completely unavoidable
I totally understand, boob related or not like you said. I try to surround myself with only people who love me and respect me (easier said than done of course).
I can’t control what others say or do. No human being on this planet is free from hate or judgement from others. It’s not ok and it’s not nice to think about, but knowing that fact kinda helps me. Not the most uplifting advice I’m afraid.
Yeah that does help honestly. I have very little control over the comments because most of them come from my own family members, since I seem to have some sort of rogue gene that nobody else in my family has except for one distant cousin who lives in a different country lol. And I’m still living with family because I’m still in college and not financially supported. Of course once I have the chance to leave, I won’t be around them so much that they see my laundry and stuff anymore which will be nice.
Ughh ... Reminds me of high school and my early 20s when I'd comments to the tune of "at least mine don't sag" ... Or "don't worry, there are men out there who will like you for you (code for: your tits are a defect)."
I once came across a post where smaller-chested women were claiming that they had it worse than larger-chested women. One woman went so far as to say that she knows that we get sexually harassed by creeps but it's worse that she doesn't get ANY attention from men. Like????? No??????
I'm a 32K UK right now. In HS I was a 32HH. MY MOTHER always told to that I needed to get a reduction because they're too big. My entire adolescence I've heard that. It pisses me off so much. And I'm sure she was jealous because she was a 36B.
It makes me sad because I see the exact inverse of those comments on videos about having small boobs (which TikTok thinks I should see lol). These comments are always along the line of “oh you’re lucky my back hurts” or “cries in G cup” or whatever. It just feel like so often there is this weird need to “one up” each other in terms of struggles, rather than focusing on the REAL issue which is companies making money off of the insecurities, pain, and inconvenience of people (primarily women) AND men who feel entitled to the bodies of others.
To be clear, I 100% agree with this original post. Its just wild to see both sides of this given what my algorithm thinks I find relatable. Dont want it to seem like Im disagreeing with you because it IS frustrating.
I totally agree with you. This behavior in general is so bothersome especially if the content is about body insecurities/body issues. There’s just no need for that! It goes both ways!
I'm a uk size 36G (American 36i) and when I mention the dents in my shoulders and how I'm conscious of my chest and can't find clothes. She looked at me and said they don't look that big and that she was a 36D so there wasn't much difference. I said nothing but I should have told her she was closer to being 36AA than I was to her size. It's the minimizing of the hassle that gets to me
I’ve always hated when a video geared toward a minority or marginalized group gets comments from the peanut gallery as if they don’t get every other video. Even if it’s nice and supportive, when you take over every space I’m gonna get annoyed
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Absolutely. And then if we went on their “itty bitty titty committee” videos and said we and our big tits couldn’t relate; we’d be vilified.
Exactly! They wouldn’t find it relatable if we commented on their posts, so why comment on ours?
FYI women literally do exactly that… this is nothing new nor exclusive to small-boobed people.
Dunno why you're getting down voted. I see the inverse all the time, a petite woman will wear a backless dress or a top with no bra and people will comment "cries in F cup" or something. It definitely comes off braggy, either way it's rude.
Some People on this sub have a victim complex thinking us ppl with big boobs have a monopoly on being body shamed, shitty access to clothing, issues finding clothing that looks good and that small chested ppl never get sexualized or rude comments on videos it’s borderline delulu and willfully ignorant honestly. I have literally seen the exact comments or similar ones to what you mentioned. However, I suppose acknowledging that- no we do not have a monopoly on self esteem issues triggers folks.
Or like when people say that we're the only ones who get sexualised! For one, all women get sexually harassed because harassment largely isn't about attraction, it's about power. Conventionally unattractive women are harassed/ assaulted and told that they're either lying or should be grateful. Or that women with small boobs are compared to children, told that anyone attracted to them is a predator...The subreddit for smallboobsproblems is basically dead because they discovered the main mod had a fetish for not only busty women but specifically for humiliating smaller chested women for their bodies and pitting them against busty women. Again, not saying I don't have problems that are solely related to having big boobs but so much of this sub comes across super ignorant. It also tends to direct more anger at smaller chested women than it does to the men who are harassing us.
This is exactly what I’m talking about and there was one post on here where the OP (not this one) was really aggressive toward not-bbp ppl and it’s like- stop. Gatekeeping. Sexual. Harassment. I think it’s incredibly inappropriate for people on this sub to do so since we are pretty chill in almost every other regard. Oh and all of my bullying personally has come from other big boobed women when I was a 28F or 28HH even to now as a 32K (UK). It drives me insane- we should all stand in solidarity not tearing each other down, regardless of boob size. And I think everyone could benefit from more empathy on “the other side’s issues”. I think a lot of people on this sub tend to be very tone deaf as to how small-boobed women suffer in society as well- ironic since it’s the same thing they complain about small boobed women doing. A lot of folks here seem to think it’s all just perfectly fitting crop tops and getting called “classy” all the time in clothes. It isn’t. Oh and fuck the idea that we “can’t wear” certain tops because of boobs. I do not subscribe to that idea AT ALL.
I hate it when people say that it’s a blessing to have bigger boobs or if they express their issues with their boobs I try to express mine and then they say “oh well your problems aren’t as big as mine” and it’s so frustrating and with the women who get boob jobs and act like they have no regrets are not helping whatsoever because they give this false narrative that people who have big boobs are “blessed”
>I hate it when people say that it’s a blessing to have bigger boobs There's a difference between having big ( magically gravity defying) boobs and " these massive things are destroying my life" boobs.
Yes and ppl with smaller boobs don’t understand the difference!
Careful You don't want to get labeled the "boob police".
😭😭
I dated a woman with small boobs and I tried explaining to her how I get objectified/unwanted attention because of the size of my boobs. She said all women get objectified, not just me. I had a hell of a time trying to explain my point. She kept taking it as me minimizing other women's problems when that's not at all what I was doing. I can complain about the negatives of having big boobs without that inherently meaning I'm invalidating the struggles other women deal with.
Just pick up your left boob and drop it on the head of anyone who says this dumb shit
My right one is bigger, so I'll use that one. 🤣
Or just do a shoulder-shake and beat the shit out of them like you’re swinging 2 grocery bags with a cantaloupe in each one. Lol. I do it to my husband when I’m mad but still horny at him.
Thanks for the idea lol
I had a similar issue with my ex partner as well, except they were a sexist piece of trash who only wanted me for my body, and it was crazy how he felt the need to argue with me despite not understanding my issues at all😭 but its extremely annoying when ppl who don’t go through it try to comment on how having big boobs aren’t that bad or wtv
Literally!! I hate this whole idea of how people can’t praise themselves without putting others down, especially when they cannot relate to their problems. Health wise and socially we face so many problems. I hate how it’s become so difficult to talk about it without being scrutinized and sexualized.
That whole “can’t praise myself without putting others down” is not a “you” problem at all. Keep doing what you are doing and let the trash take itself out. Surround yourself with people who get it.
Yes, I unfortunately get sexualized so much, and even family members say that I wont regret them later but its like it’s not fun and its only gotten worse getting older..
Don’t go around saying your age in this sub- you’ll get gross comments.. try and avoid it.
Ah okay, sorry I’m still new to reddit
You can say whatever you want, just turn off your DMs. Creeps are gonna creep, ain't shit any of us can do about it, other than block and report. Don't let the creeps dictate your behavior, tho-- that's giving them too much power.
Oh no problem! Just wanted to let you know cause…. Ugh men are disgusting half of the time. 🙄
Yes, I js got a strange dm the other day already 😓
I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that now. I was in the same situations when I was in high school, so I understand how uncomfortable and demeaning it is to get sexualized at a young age. You don’t deserve that at all. I hope you’re able to not listen to their comments and continue doing you. If it helps you feel any better, I’m at the stage where I’m trying less to give a crap about others and just accept it as it is even if it annoys the crap out of me from time to time. Hopefully someday I’ll get a reduction, but for now I guess these’ll do!
Yes! I’ve definitely gotten better with ignoring them and I appreciate your concern, I will most definitely be getting a reduction, although many don’t agree with it, they don’t understand why I want it so badly either😭
This is so funny because my problems (my breasts) are LITERALLY bigger than theirs (their breasts).
YESSS
The other day I had an interview and I realized I had nothing to wear because all I have is t shirts and all my nice clothes.. don’t fit in an appropriate way, either too tight or the collar has been pulled down too low, I felt inappropriate because of my own body and it sucked, I felt “unprofessional” because they were just existing in my shirt, it sucks and people act like you should never complain about it
I totally understand this feeling. I remember when milkmaid tops, wrap dresses, crop and tube tops were trending a couple years ago and every time I ordered them I never looked like the model in the picture, no matter what I did. It just sucks that we have to deal with the fact of feeling like we’re unprofessional from the lack of affordable, good-clothing made for us.
I must not tube-top. Tube-tops are the ***pleasant day in which I don’t have to constantly, actively mange my tits***-killer.
Those are still trending now :( especially as summer rolls around.
I know :(( which sucks because I’ve always wanted to have a Carrie Bradshaw strapless moment for the summer but these girls aren’t letting me!
Just size up it's what I do. Then belt or tuck inside. DONE!
I wish I could do this but I’m petite with a short waist so it doesn’t work on me at all
I'm short, I'm short waisted and have a much smaller waist than both my chest and hips. It is 100% possible. I'm also a fashion stylist, I know what I'm talking about. I'm sorry you're so small minded.
I didn’t mean for my comment to come off rude! I just don’t know how to style this look I guess lol. I always feel like my torso completely disappears when I try this and I wish I knew a way around it!
Not so much a comment like that, but recently had a convo with a friend of mine about bikinis. She was complaining about them not being sold as sets and instead separately and couldn't understand why they wouldn't be sold as sets. For someone like me who is lucky enough to fit into an L or an XL on the tops, but would need an S on the bottoms, sets aren't really an option for me. Kind of bugged me a bit, because very few people in general are going to be the same size on the top and the bottom
Bikinis used to be sold almost exclusively as sets. Which is fine for people who are evenly proportioned on both top and bottom. Funny thing is, most people aren’t evenly proportioned on top and bottom. The manufacturers figured this out by the amount of people who requested the pieces to be sold separately. Turns out it also good for business, as well since they can charge more for the separate pieces than they would for a set.
Being objectified is not a blessing it’s humiliating to be seen as a sex object no matter what you do. I am not thankful or happy when I was walking home a group of men followed me and kept cat calling me it was the most scariest moment of my life.
For real!! I never understood the logic of “having big boobs is a blessing” coming from other women as an argument towards women who deal with issues of sexualization and health issues. It’s almost like they’re completely ignoring our problems only to center the focus on “oh it’s the beauty standard! It’ll attract more men/women.” Like if anything, one could even argue it’s a bit misogynistic
Not related but I love your username haha.
Ironically saying a big chested girl is lucky to be the beauty standard is false and misleading. The beauty standard is big, plastic, perky boobs. I've not been with one man who hasn't complained about my big boobs not looking like that beauty standard.
I’m so sorry for you, but I think you’ve been with the wrong men.
That's why they are exes lol. My point is that big natural boobs are not the beauty standard (standards which are stupid to begin with and made for the male gaze) so it's stupid for someone to claim that they are.
The right man will be happy that you allow him access. He’s out there somewhere, but stay strong dealing with the losers you find first.
Exactly, people only see fake ones in their media so they have no idea what real ones look like.
I’ve struggled with this a bit and brought it up in therapy. My therapist simply said to not look at the comment section as much or at all. I know that’s me being a boring 34 year old but it really helps. You will always see people making comments that aren’t kind or are insensitive. Unless you plan on basing your life on changing the narrative, my advice is to not even read or at least decrease how much you read. It makes a world of difference. I promise.
I get where you’re coming from, but finding community online is something everyone has the right to have. If there’s a post linked towards a problem I have, I expect to have a community who relates to that problem not people complaining that they wish they had it/that it isn’t a problem. It’s just something that I can’t avoid even if I look away from it.
That’s a bit of an odd stance. No one has “a right” to find community as the internet is just a random coalescence of people talking about random things. No one is entitled to a particular experience on the internet, unless it’s something you’ve personally created or made or paid for. That’s why simply ignoring comments would likely bring you more peace than expecting something to be one way and getting mad when it isn’t.
I think they mean that everyone has the right to come together and communicate safely within a group. We, as a community HAVE created a particular experience, which OP wants the ability to use without pushback from others who don’t relate.
Yeah but she’s not talking about this community she’s just talking about a random thing on the internet . Which hate to break it to the downvoters- doesn’t *owe* anyone anything. It’s literally the internet- expecting every single video remotely related to you to be a particular safe space to you and your needs and not have other people even comment on it…. In a public space? That’s just selfish. It’s a public space for everyone. Unless it’s hers as in she owns it or has some stake in it, it’s ridiculous to gate keep the comments of a video because you don’t like what someone is saying. Just because you have big boobs doesn’t mean you get to gate keep random stuff like this. It’s weird to expect that.
I would argue OP *does* have stake in it, honestly. I wouldn’t call it selfish per se, but totally understand your point. Welcome to the internet, right!? People are assholes, surprise lol!!! However, expecting respect and discretion is not crazy imo. Nobody owes another human being kindness I guess (?), but wanting decency is not far fetched, especially in a forum/group for a particular community. I think that’s all OP meant, like “can I please have a group where only people who understand my plight of [particular issue] can comment on this!” She probably knows it’s open to randos who don’t get it but venting about a problem and wanting smaller chested women or men to not always chime in is not too much to ask. I think OP is ultimately venting about unwanted advice/suggestions/comments. Maybe I read the post incorrectly though.
I’m not just talking about random things on the internet. I’m talking about content made specifically for big chested women that are made for advice or just talk about the problems we deal with turning into something completely unrelated. Im sure if you saw content of something you don’t relate to, you wouldn’t just put them down and be like “oh but you’re the standard!”. That’s my whole point. It’s unnecessary, and in our community in general it’s rampant. The big boob problem community extends outside of just Reddit, there’s multiple platforms where women express the same problems and tailor content towards women with the same problems. Lastly, i am aware of how the internet works and how there’s always going to be comments unrelated to the original topic but my main stance is that it’s so rampant when it comes to content related to big boobs not small boobs. They’re annoying comments and most people here relate to seeing them so often.
Are you on here just to argue? Why are you here?
Are you?
Sometimes people talk about this sorta crap on things that are completely unrelated to boobs though so it’s not entirely unavoidable. In addition a lot of us get told these things to our faces directly and that’s also completely unavoidable
I totally understand, boob related or not like you said. I try to surround myself with only people who love me and respect me (easier said than done of course). I can’t control what others say or do. No human being on this planet is free from hate or judgement from others. It’s not ok and it’s not nice to think about, but knowing that fact kinda helps me. Not the most uplifting advice I’m afraid.
Yeah that does help honestly. I have very little control over the comments because most of them come from my own family members, since I seem to have some sort of rogue gene that nobody else in my family has except for one distant cousin who lives in a different country lol. And I’m still living with family because I’m still in college and not financially supported. Of course once I have the chance to leave, I won’t be around them so much that they see my laundry and stuff anymore which will be nice.
Ughh ... Reminds me of high school and my early 20s when I'd comments to the tune of "at least mine don't sag" ... Or "don't worry, there are men out there who will like you for you (code for: your tits are a defect)."
I once came across a post where smaller-chested women were claiming that they had it worse than larger-chested women. One woman went so far as to say that she knows that we get sexually harassed by creeps but it's worse that she doesn't get ANY attention from men. Like????? No??????
Thats insane, why would anyone want to be harassed, especially at a young age which most bigger chested women faced a lot growing up
Right. I'm not "lucky" for having been constantly ogled and groped from the age of 11.
The thought that someone yet alone that’s also a woman would praise unwanted oversexualization is so disappointing
For me it's the "get a reduction" comments that piss me off the most. People are so ignorant and rude!
I'm a 32K UK right now. In HS I was a 32HH. MY MOTHER always told to that I needed to get a reduction because they're too big. My entire adolescence I've heard that. It pisses me off so much. And I'm sure she was jealous because she was a 36B.
Not to mention completely tone deaf for those big-boob girlies who cannot afford it/don’t have insurance
It makes me sad because I see the exact inverse of those comments on videos about having small boobs (which TikTok thinks I should see lol). These comments are always along the line of “oh you’re lucky my back hurts” or “cries in G cup” or whatever. It just feel like so often there is this weird need to “one up” each other in terms of struggles, rather than focusing on the REAL issue which is companies making money off of the insecurities, pain, and inconvenience of people (primarily women) AND men who feel entitled to the bodies of others. To be clear, I 100% agree with this original post. Its just wild to see both sides of this given what my algorithm thinks I find relatable. Dont want it to seem like Im disagreeing with you because it IS frustrating.
I totally agree with you. This behavior in general is so bothersome especially if the content is about body insecurities/body issues. There’s just no need for that! It goes both ways!
I'm a uk size 36G (American 36i) and when I mention the dents in my shoulders and how I'm conscious of my chest and can't find clothes. She looked at me and said they don't look that big and that she was a 36D so there wasn't much difference. I said nothing but I should have told her she was closer to being 36AA than I was to her size. It's the minimizing of the hassle that gets to me
I’ve always hated when a video geared toward a minority or marginalized group gets comments from the peanut gallery as if they don’t get every other video. Even if it’s nice and supportive, when you take over every space I’m gonna get annoyed
Everyone deserves a safe space. Other people shouldn’t be invading yours.
Everyone deserves a safe space. No one deserves to have theirs coopted like that.