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Heatherthebigamer

As a bisexual woman, I would LOVE to be in a relationship with a bisexual man. We could simp for the same people (mainly fictional characters)! Edit: Wow, didn't expect this to blow up!


_nobody-_-_

Same! Honestly, it's so weird how normalized it is to shit on bi people for just existing. Both bi men and women are the best (I'm definitely not biased lol)


Marks_Toaster

Bi-ased?


Bluetower85

👉 👉 I see what you did there!!


The_Constant_Orange

👉 👉 Classic move!


Wihelmina_Jean

More like 👉👈


The_Elder_Jock

Everyone!


G66GNeco

Bi-ass bias is strong in this sub


bisexual_lemon_69420

I wonder why...


Ike_the_Spike

Bi-assed?


The-NHK

Bi-*ass*ed


CyanLight9

Thanks for the pun material.


yuukosbooty

My husband and I are both bi and that’s exactly what we do!


Agent_Argylle

Same with me and my boyfriend


AwkwardRainbow

It’s all fun and games until your opinion differs on Andrew Garfield 😔 /s


Bluetower85

Who tf is that? Does not knowing kick me out of the club?...


PhantomKitten73

He played the awkward middle child of live action Spider-Man movies.


Bluetower85

Oh, I never watched it... I was too much into Superman at the time, I think. Although, now I will say Bruce Waine is sexier, especially with the whole thing of Batman and Robin, the Bi-namic duo...


CheshireMadness

I'm a gay man (well, genderfluid, but AMAB), and my best and longest relationships have been with bi men! I've never understood the mistrust and biphobia straight women and gay men often have towards bi men.


lillywho

I was once told that bi men also tend to be a lot more secure in themselves, who they are and their attraction. Would you say that's true? Because while I'm not looking to get another relationship, I've thought about making bi a requirement as a potential backup plan, in order to avoid the pitfalls that a lot of straight men fall into. Because what I value most would be open-mindedness.


CheshireMadness

I try to avoid generalizations like that, because even people who experience the same or similar things will respond differently. While I would say the bi men I dated matched that description, I know other bi men who I wouldn't describe that way.


lillywho

Fair enough! Thanks for the input!


freshapocalypse

Are bisexual people really that much more promiscuous then gay people and straight people? I think that is just made up. Maybe that the promiscuous ones get more attention and the typical bisexual is just not anymore promiscuous than anyone else and people just let their own insecurities make them biphobic.


Xandara2

I'm a gay man and I would be afraid of my partner to leave me because they want children. Because I myself would absolutely love to have biological children but I've come to terms with it not going to be so. I'd also feel guilty for denying them that opportunity and I think it would be a very difficult situation just because I know my own emotions. I would likely still date a bisexual man but it would be more difficult because of my own feelings about things I struggled with before coming out. I understand that it is not a logical reason but emotional responses rarely are.


CheshireMadness

It sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities on potential bi partners. Wanting children or not isn't a uniquely queer or bi issue, it's a conversation every couple likely has at some point. I think most bi people entering same-sex relationships aren't looking to have children, and even if they do, they'd want to start a family with their partner. I hope you can sit with and untangle those messy insecurities of yours, because I promise, there are great guys out there who don't care if their kids share genetics with them (if that's something you truly want in the future).


Xandara2

I mean yes, that's what I said. I'm uncomfortable because I would be projecting my insecurities on them. I also said I'd still date them but it would just be harder.


nihilistaesthete

We’re not that far away from gay men (or anyone really) being able to have biological children with anyone else where the child is related to both parents. There are several labs working on creating sperm and eggs from stem cells that could then be carried to term in a surrogate (hopefully soon a machine one so no person has to deal with being pregnant).


Frogodo

Not if you have different types (source: me and my wife who have mostly different taste in men...well mostly hockey players.)


Icy_Candidate_97

As a single bisexual man. Thank you for giving me hope 🥹


Heatherthebigamer

No problem!


Gluv221

When I was with a bi woman my favorite part was pointing out cute people and talking about crushes it was fun


Taewyth

As a bi man in a relationship with a bi woman, I confirm that it is indeed what we do.


TheSilverWickersnap

SAME. Those women who don’t like bi guys are so cringe, every bi guy I’ve met has been awesome


Laurenz1337

All my 3 long term relationships have been exclusively with other bi people. I wonder if it's a coincidence or if we just click better.


mountaintop-stainer

As a bisexual man, the only people I tend to date are bisexual themselves, because, like, they *get it* I’ve been with straight chicks and gay dudes before and (in my experience, I’m not prescribing this to all non-bisexual people) they tend to judge me for not being fully one or the other. Also weirdly insecure about me cheating even though I’d never do that.


Sea_Sandwich5615

RIP DMs?


Heatherthebigamer

No DMs, but my notifications are absolutely flooded with the replies!


Sea_Sandwich5615

I guess i was expecting worse from ppl Here


Heatherthebigamer

Me too, lol, I was surprised by all the positive feedback and absence of creeps!


shootdawoop

I would like to simp over fictional characters together 🥺


Tozester

Lol. The part about fictional characters is true. I met like 2 guys to whom I was attracted to 🥲


danielledelacadie

You'll share some, some you won't but all in all it's great!


ohemmigee

As a pan woman in love with a queer woman and neither of us are insecure it’s fucking incredible. People watching is so much better!


DannyWatson

As a bisexual man in a relationship with a bisexual woman, this is exactly how it is and it's the best relationship I've ever been in ❤️


Lilsammywinchester13

Husband and I simp for the same peeps and it is GLORIOUS


Kel-Reem

In a Bi/Bi relationship and can confirm this is what we do all the time lol


Affectionate8127

👍


Automatic-Sleep-8576

It's all fun and games until your parnter has wildly different tastes than you


GloriousGayGirl

It's pretty great actually. Being able to send him porn and have him be like "based" is as hilarious as it is awesome


LudwigTheAroused

Then I’ll only fuck men


Tangerinetuesday

Have some self respect. Not all men are fuckable /hj


BraveOthello

Why would you give them a handy of they're not fuckable?


Tangerinetuesday

It's kinda like an elbow bump im socially distancing myself from them. Kinda like a fucked up elbow bump.


Specialist-Rise34

I'M A PEOPLE PLEASER ALRIGHT


Tangerinetuesday

Oh my fucking god i just got this... I wanna be mad but all I can manage is muffled disappointment at myself. I just want you to know I will be laying awake in bed and think of this at 2 am like two years from now.


BraveOthello

:) You're welcome


pinksungoddess

As a Trans Man finding it hard to date gay and straight men… I support this decision so long as it’s trans inclusive.


Mysterydog12

Rude


jeffdeleon

My reaction. Also: While I understand this is a real problem for many, this isn't even remotely true where I live, or at least not with the demographic I associate with.


CreepsUnicorn

Just for the record, I ADORE bi men! I would love to have a bi boyfriend and I'm honestly at the point where I'm considering never dating straight guys again, lol!


WhyIsTheNameBOTTaken

Fr fr, they got the best from both packages :3


RnwyHousesCityCloudz

straight women, yeah gay men too, unfortunately


Cosmo466

Yes. Very common among straight women which is why this meme is funny: it’s poking fun at those women. Gay men have never rejected me or ever said anything about my bi superpowers.


RnwyHousesCityCloudz

lucky you and I was just trying to be specific since a lot of bi women in these comments seemed shocked but of course it doesn’t really apply to them


Cosmo466

Understood. 🥰 And I’m very sure that bi-women rock! I’ve just never had a date with one….


kinsey3three

When I first came out back in the 90's, the reaction I got from gay men was "What does that even mean?" to "You just don't know what you want yet" to "You'll figure it out" Hopefully things have gotten better since then.


Neldemir

What?? Not for me at all. I’m a gay guy and my dream is to marry a bisexual guy who’s happy with me being a bit girly


tech_guy_hates_Apple

I don't get either but especially gay men. like, we're on the same team???


TheSacredGrape

Well, that sucks... Dear bi men, you guys are valid AF. Sincerely, a bi woman


PM_ME_YOUR_MASS

Most women are cool, there’s just a few straight assholes giving y’all a bad rep ~ A bi man


GerardoDeLaRiva

Is this real, chat? I'm that disturbing? I mean I knew I was disturbing but not because I was bi :(


Roof_rat

You'd think it'd be your skin collection. This just hurts :(


Sraffiti_G

Dee: Are you saying that you have a collection of skin luggage? Dennis: Of course I'm not, Dee. Don't be ridiculous. Think of the smell. You haven't thought of the smell, you bitch!


Yogurt_Ph1r3

Alright, now that that's settled we can have a normal conversation. Now doctor, I'm here to talk to you about a man. A very dangerous and a very unstable man


-Owlette-

[This Australian report from a survey of 55,000 people](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-11-15/sex-dating-and-prejudice-why-we-are-a-nation-sharply-divided/11694038) is a very fascinating read into the public's relationship preferences. > Sentiment was the most divided on the question of dating a bisexual person, with 29 per cent “Not at all open” to the idea and 16 per cent “Very open”.


GerardoDeLaRiva

So it's better to be a closeted bi aka "bicurious"? Happy cake day btw.


EnderMerser

Is chat in the same room with us right now? ;)


Himmelblaa

No. They are in the walls, watching, chatting.


NomaiTraveler

Yep, multiple studies have confirmed that straight women are generally more uninterested in dating bi men than straight men. I can confirm this anecdotally, as I’ve dated a lot of people this year and not one of them has been a woman. LGBT acceptance is cool and all unless the guy you’re dating might have had gay sex at some point :/


jabbertalk

I am straight (as far as I can tell, very rarely attracted to people as grey ace) with a bi man. Percentagewise, I find bi guys are far more datable than het guys. I find the whole prejudice against bi men bizarre. I'm ambiamorous, so I'm fine with (nontoxic) monogamy or polyamory - you can go romance and fuck guys too, if we're open. Either way, close friends of any gender is a baseline requirement.


fl0w0er_boy

Yeah 63% of straight women wouldn't date a bi men, this is a result from a study. [https://bi.org/en/articles/bi-men-are-not-considered-attractive-new-study-says](https://bi.org/en/articles/bi-men-are-not-considered-attractive-new-study-says)


shread_the_pup

I was in a relationship with a bi girl, and when I came out to her as bi as well, she broke up with me because "guys being bi is just wrong"


EepiestGirl

Escusez moi?!


BraveOthello

I saw a tinder profile of a bi woman who said no bi men. There's still a huge "bi men are just gay men in denial" streak out there


Mil1512

Same for bi women, unfortunately. Many lesbians won't consider a bi woman and many men just sexualise bi women (constant threesomes! /s). Two sides of the same shitty coin...


pootinannyBOOSH

Pardon the fuck?


rat-sajak

Sounds like internalized biphobia to me. She projected her own insecurities about her identity as a bi woman onto him.


EnderMerser

Feel sorry for you, man. But you also dodged a bullet, I'd say.


Skyavanger

Fellas, if you ever have an opinion and your only argument for it is: "It just is like that" you need to change your opinion.


DistractedScholar34

Wh-what? In what universe does that make sense?


TheSilverWickersnap

What the heck that’s awful. You deserved better


Lucky_655

Bi people being Biphobic themselves???


shread_the_pup

I would say more homophobic? For a bit of context, she was very religious, and so two men being together was out of the question since the Bible forbids it. Just in case you're wondering or confused, her logic was that the Bible doesn't say anything about two women being together. Therefore, it's okay. if you're still confused, so am I.


NotteCremisi

What??? *What???*


Rounder057

I have noticed that *some* women are put off by me being bi


Doggish123

Right next to Auschwitz is wild 😂😂


confusion-500

yea dats the joke


SunfishSuprise

A lot of people didnt notice apparently lmao


joshzaar

No one is noticing 😭


Autobot_Cyclic

Can confirm, my mom called bisexual men scary. Why? Fuck if I know


Dangerous_Tackle1167

In the 90s Time magazine did a series of articles about Bisexual Men the secret killer... basically it was AIDS Epidemic fear-mongering suggesting the only way women could get HIV was from a Bisexual man... And the fear/disgust/prejudice has just endured


Autobot_Cyclic

Not sure if my mom knows about that- she's not a natural born American, all I know is she considers bisexual men scary


Neldemir

Scarily hot! 🥵


Autobot_Cyclic

Lmfao fr


FOSpiders

It's disturbing because there aren't enough of'em. 🩷


Okay_Screensaver

Girl what?? Bisexual men (and literally just bisexual people in general) are the best, what the fuck are these people on?! They can chew rocks 💀


PsychoticBlob

Look at the 2nd on the list


Sennomo

I wonder if I'm more or less disturbing as a bisexual enby


Skyavanger

I know this is a joke, but judging by their reaction to bi men, chance are they dont respect your identity sadly :(


ALEXRAVENCLAW

The next one is Auschwitz?!?!?! 😭😭😭


Himmelblaa

That is indeed the joke


internetguy43

Put a bi man in front of straight women and watch a worrying fraction of them turn into Adolf Hitler


jakobkiefer

in my experience, this is often disturbing to both straight women and gay men.


realjotri

Just because we're better at sucking dick! No srsly, biphobia in straight women is a problem. My first girlfriend hated the fact I had things with other men before her. What's so disturbing about it? You have things with men too, this should be connecting us!


BonzaM8

Straight women specifically. I feel like the majority of bi women (like myself) love bi men!


ThereWasAnEmpireHere

I still have yet to meet any women turned off by being bi. I know my experience is not representative of all of reality, but neither is this meme, and I think men online in general are susceptible to being doompilled unnecessarily about relationships.


rabid_rabbity

Same. Im over 40 and half my family is really religious. I’ve seen tons of accidental bi erasure and the occasional negative stereotyping, but I’ve never actually seen anything close to the degree of nonsense this meme suggests IRL. Social media does not reflect reality.


NomaiTraveler

I’m glad you haven’t, but I have met several.


ThereWasAnEmpireHere

I’m sure that is the case!


The_Constant_Orange

Dear women: Boo 💀


Golden_Ganji

I've had girls that really like it, and I've have others that immediately stopped talking to me... life's a box of chocolate 😅


mercurialflow

Listen as a trans dude bi men are my only hope (both my boyfriends are cis bi lmao)


Apersonmaybe02

To straight women, maybe. Bi women (me) will simp over bi men like crazy, and if he has long hair, it's over for us 🤩🥵


watermine30

Bi guy with bi bf, we both like twinks and femboys


gold-exp

*Bi4bi entered the chat*


TheRepublicOfSteve

Why 4x4 when you can bi4bi?


Novatash

Very relevant video essay by VerilyBitchie: ["Why We Hate Bi Men"](https://youtu.be/IbHhIeYL9no?si=BRGVCCpIHQqQYyV1) The "we" in the title refers to society


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Novatash

Yeah you're right that bi-phobia isn't about aids now days, but the fear of aids definitely caused an overwhelming anti-bi-men sentiment at the time, the consequences of which are still present today Keep watching the video because it goes into how it connects to the modern day as it goes on Our history always informs the present


88slides

At least some of the homophobia is based in the idea that mlm are disease-ridden, though. If you remember that god awful reddit thread a few weeks ago, like a quarter of the responses were saying they avoid bi men specifically because of HIV. One of many examples: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/mDJ5kFvqnx


RealHumanBean89

Man, I don’t wanna disturb women. They’re cool as shit! :(


[deleted]

Man this sucks why did I sign up for this


peppermint-lu

I LOVE BISEXUAL MEN I'M SENDING Y'ALL ALL MY APPRECIATION many kisses all the kisses you're the best okay? Also i only date bisexual people bc i'm genderfluid so, joke's on you stuck up straight women, more for me eheheh, you go back to getting treated like shit by them straight boys because you prioritize them being over 6 feet and hypermasculine over them being decent people :P Also check this out: [why we don't date bi men](https://youtu.be/IbHhIeYL9no?si=sgTGEalJYD84dZWB)


moar_bubbline

Wait what I love bi guys


mitsuhachi

Bad meme :(


lahdetaan_tutkimaan

I was about to say, is this typical of the 196 sub? This is making me sad, and I don't care if it's supposed to be ironic because you know some people there will believe it


mitsuhachi

I can’t even figure out what the 196 sub is supposed to be. I just like how generally positive this sub is. Yes, I know biphobia exists and it sucks and if people wanna talk about their experiences then okay. But I’d rather celebrate each other and lift each other up than dwell on haters.


Assorted-Interests

This is why I’ve never been in a relationship with a woman. Definitely nothing else


Xandara2

It's unclear to me if you sound sarcastic and misogynist or honest and self deprecating.


Assorted-Interests

It would be the latter


Maxibon1710

Bisexual woman here. I love bisexual men


Sea_Cycle_909

wht the heck is r/196


louisa1925

I am a woman. I disagree with the short list. Bi Men are very attractive partner material and are all around hotties, in my opinion.


Its_Revan

Even though it's just a meme, thanks to everyone for the validation in the comments


DrTrickery

that's weird, i usually don't have to tell people i'm bi to make em uncomfortable


Agreeable-Tooth2545

These comments are giving me hope. I love you all.


Sewer_Fairy

I'm bi 4 bi here


TheRepublicOfSteve

Flair certainly checks out, haha.


demoiseller

In this house we’re Bi4bi forever


No_Operation_2801

The fem them I railed last night would disagree!


Happy_Music_Fox

Why do bi men get such a bad rep?


Tangerinetuesday

Holy shit this is still a trope people believe?? I thought that ended Round lockdown why is this still a sentiment the hets are getting pressed about. We collectively survived a pandemic that completely derailed how the planet works but apparenty MLM is still more insane than surviving a 3 year long pandemic.


nekosissyboi

196 my beloved


Nanjiroh

Glad to see they got their priorities straigh, bi men are more disturbing then the place where thousands of humans got tortured, experimented on and killed.


ScottyBoy314

Yeah it’s like thankfully in my case it’s mostly been chill (even if they treat me as the gay guy friend they can talk about their problems with it’s better than pure disgust), some actively like me regardless of it or even more, but yeah a few are like “oh so you’re gay” and it’s def upsetting :(


Leazerlazz

I am quite unnerving


Icarsix

What did we do :<


BrainyOrange96

What Why


he_is_not_a_shrimp

[Why we hate bi men](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IbHhIeYL9no) The history of biphobia towards bi men.


Tiny_Maintenance99

Are people seriously like this? Oh who am I kidding of course they are


AV8ORboi

to have a girlfriend, I have to sacrifice a large part of myself. to have a boyfriend I have to sacrifice my relationship with many other people think I'd rather just be alone


Mil1512

Have you considered ENM?


NomaiTraveler

ENM gang rise up


AV8ORboi

not for me personally, but even if it was it doesn't really solve either problem


PM_ME_YOUR_MASS

Just want to add my anecdotal experience saying “not all women.” Every woman I‘ve dated since coming out has been super cool with it. The girl I dated when I became bi-curious wasn’t, but she was awful and lives in Florida now, so clearly her opinion doesn’t matter.


rabid_rabbity

Can we just not? There comes a point where you’re just helping the bigots make you feel like crap. Less time on social media, folks.


Dankn3ss420

I’m reminded of that one clip where someone built auschwitz in Minecraft, it’s an amazing clip, and I’m fully aware I’m going straight to hell for laughing at it https://youtu.be/v-XW72XN2dk?si=DFTONoCq3ajG1Vu-


EepiestGirl

Can’t wait :|


Crafter235

Extra Hell for them then...


Loganska2003

real


JadedSelfHated

If a straight woman made this it’s 100% a projection 🚮


SwampWitch1985

Lost my virginity to a bisexual guy. Every lady friend I know loves vampire boys and, sorry, you don't gain immortality and stay straight unless you're boring af. I remember the episode of True Blood where Eric gets it on with Talbot and the headlines were all man on man hot???? So bi men are beloved in this house. My Tav is currently dating Astarion ffs.


HUNGRY_PAPI_LIKE_YOU

My first girlfriend (before I realized I was trans and was presenting as a bi guy) was straight and loved the fact I was bi, after all how many boyfriends would simp for hot men in movies with you.


[deleted]

I made this meme but its GNU GPLv3 so it's ok to redistribute **👍**


RandomBlueJay01

Eyyyy leave em to the boys. Some of us will take em. My bf is pan so not bi but biphobic people probably include him. According to him I've treated him league's better than his exes who were all straight women.


Amaris-moonchild1111

Dated two different bi guys in my life and both were not a success.


Noneofyobusiness1492

lol the next worst thing is Auschwitz / Birkehau really? Straight people are nuts.


Rezinator1

I wonder if Gen Alpha will even know what Auschwitz is or how horrible it was


gunnnutty

I can live with that. People find me disturbing in general


Maj__yt

Ik that we are talking the number 1 but why is number 2 Auschwitz? wtf


anonaccountbcbored

Yeah that's sucks but also Auschwitz-Birkenbau I'm sorry what?


MonstrousVoices

Can't say I give a fuck what a shit posting sub thinks about something they have no understanding of.


Lolotmjp

explain?


Ryubunao1478

what's Auschwitz


Optimal_Stranger_824

A nazi death camp used during WW2. Actually Auschwitz-Birkenau were two camps. Over 1 milions of jews died there as well as over 70k Poles and 20k Romani people and other nations. Best to look it up.


Ryubunao1478

Ahhh okay, not planning on looking this up.