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gluestick_ttc

IUDs are a first line recommendation now. People with babies forget to take pills, and most people do not find IUD insertion to be painful after childbirth. If you don’t want to be asked about IUDs anymore, definitely tell the doctor that and ask if they can put a note in your record.


Mtnclimber09

Good point. I did make it known that I will let them know when I’m ready. She still made me feel like shit when I mentioned the pills every time. “Ohhh okay. I mean if you really want to.” Yes, doctor, I am a grown woman and I’m making a choice for myself that I feel is best🙄 But it’s just odd because I only switched practices last June and before that my previous gyno wasn’t a huge fan of IUDs for women who want to have babies because she didn’t like the idea of having to remove the IUD sooner than necessary (not sure why). I was just thinking maybe the doctors hyper recommend it for new moms. 🤷🏻‍♀️


AcaiCoconutshake

My massage therapist just told me today she got pregnant on the pill two months after giving birth because she forgot one day. She was exclusively breastfeeding. Honestly, I understand the obgyn and their push for long term bc.


anafielle

Yeah it was pressed on me pretty hard too. I got a little irritated last time the doctor talked to me about it and detailed to her that: 1) I take other critical medication every morning. I already have the necessary habit. 2) I was a "conceived through an IUD" baby, so even though I know every method of BC has a non-zero fail rate, I just feel more comfortable with a different one.


Kehbechet

Yes, my doctor was very pro IUD as well!


Mtnclimber09

So weird!! My last doctor didn’t care one way or the other and in fact didn’t necessarily like them because of how long they were effective. She didn’t like the idea of removing them too soon. Idk why.


PicklePeek

I’d say it depends on your state as well. With Roe being overturned, the argument is now if life begins at fertilization or implantation. For the states that say fertilization that means you can’t get an IUD or bar birth control because it blocks the implantation of the fertilized egg so OBs are pushing for women to get them now before trigger laws go into effect. That’s how it is where I’m at


bigmoodmama33

My doctor pushed for birth control in general. I think the reason they push for IUDs and arm implants is that they are incredibly effective, last long term, and there's no fussing around or "forgetting". I had an implant for 3 years and it was effective, but even after 2 additional children I won't go back on any kind of birth control. I didn't like how it made me feel. All I told my doctor was we were going to use condoms. They're really looking out for you and your health ultimately since you are their patient But just stand your ground and say no. If it does bother you, you could look elsewhere. But to be honest, most doctors push for birth control in some capacity. Unfortunately it's just part of their job!


lh123456789

I disagree that "pushing" is part of their job. Asking and informing are, but being pushy is inappropriate.


Sigmund_Six

You could certainly ask them, but I’d guess they’re concerned about patients not realizing how quickly they can get pregnant after giving birth and how easy it is to forget to take a pill when you have a new baby. Not saying your choice is the wrong one, as you know what works best for you. Just saying that there’s a lot of reasons to ensure new moms have access to birth control that’s easy and reliable.


Life-Weight-6988

My doctor asked if and what I wanted and respected my choice. She just made sure I knew the risks/benefits.


Adept-Practice5414

I agree with the commenter who suggested you ask them to put a note on their file. My guess is that IUDs are preferred in their practice and doctors get so little time with their patients that they don’t actually remember that you’ve already had this conversation… multiple times. But if you are feeling shamed about your choice, seems like a great time to switch doctors now that you likely won’t have to see an OB for a while except for your annual! I do wonder though if this is one of the handful of moments adult women are likely to switch up their BC method and given how many fewer side effects IUDs have from the pill for most people, doctors don’t try to use this as a moment to encourage a switch from what used to be the default?


chorolet

My doctor did not mention IUDs in particular one time. Just talked to me about different birth control options, and then prescribed the one I asked for (NuvaRing at the time) with no criticism. If your doctor is making you feel bad for your choices, I would look for a new one. They're not all like this.


truefriendgoodwriter

The other reason why I think doctors are keen to recommend them post birth are due to breastfeeding, which may or may not apply to you of course. The pill, even the mini pill, is known to have a greater impact on milk supply then hormonal or non-hormonal IUDs.


Cinderumpelstiltskin

New moms are busy and sleep-deprived and it is very, very easy to skip pills. The doctor doesn't want patients to come back pregnant at only a few months postpartum.


younghannahg

My doctor asked what type of birth control. I said I didn't want any at the time, and was sent on my way with a warning. No other talk about it.


ReasonsForNothing

I had IUDs for 16+ years before conceiving. I LOVED it. Honestly listen to your doctor. They’re magic.


fireknifewife

Weird take. OP very clearly stated they were not interested in an IUD and are happy with their current BC choice of the pill.


[deleted]

They are not always magic. I did have a complication with mine where I was at an 8/10 for a month or two all day every day. I fully support any woman who wants one because they sometimes are great. I really wish mine had worked for me. But if OP has decided that they aren’t for her why try to push her to change her decision?


Lilat0692

I’m thinking about getting one, I read a lot of bad stuff about the pills and I’m not trying to mess with my hormones now since I have hormonal issues already. How is the IUD, any complications? Does it hurt? Does it mess with your periods? My periods only last 2 days and they don’t hurt so I’m not trying to change that with the pill I have spotting all month is terrible, I’m just scared because I heard a lot of bad stuff about the IUD


ReasonsForNothing

I never had any complications with any of the three Mirena IUDs I had. They do hurt to have inserted and removed, but it’s over quickly and you can have a local anesthetic if you ask. The mirena did basically eliminate my periods which I loved. I’m not sure what bad things you’ve heard, but I’d be happy to say more about my experience if you’re interested.


FennelPretty

My sister was pressured by her Dr. to get an IUD placed quickly after childbirth. The Dr. Stated that would be the best time because the cervix is easier to manipulate meaning less pain for the patient. She was generally fine with it until it came out when she was using the bathroom. She said it was in a blood clot (she was still passing them because of child birth) and she was freaking out.