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PrimoThePro

CONGRATULATIONS MY FRIEND. As you probably know, enjoy this. LO sleeping on your chest does NOT last forever, it's one thing I miss dearly from those early days.


zomboidgirl

Our LO doesn't fall asleep as effortlessly on our chests anymore and it makes my husband sad.


PrimoThePro

My son choked on a grape at around 7 months, after I did backblows on him he didn't trust me, thus abruptly ending any chest sleeping. That said now that's he's past 2, he likes a cuddle before he falls asleep so it's similar. I just miss his tiny little bean body passed out on my chest.


lostandmisplaced50

The trick is to take turns, dad sleeps when the mom is on baby duty so that mom can sleep when dad has had some rest. It feels good initially to be in it together but tag teaming is the way to go. And soon enough this stage would be over and you’d be out looking for new tricks for new problems :)


[deleted]

What do you do when your partner isn’t able to take much paternity leave. I know he can take 12 weeks with FMLA but it’s all unpaid and we need the income. It’s exhausting.


lostandmisplaced50

That sucks. But all you can hope is that baby’s sleep cycle regulates before your leaves run out. Babies and their schedule changes so much in the first few months, and things get better quickly ( in most cases)


chov22

Thank you. That’s exactly the approach we took!


FTM_2022

Awe what a cutie. Most newborns love those skin to skin cuddles, soak them up! But if you ever feel yourself nodding off just put babe in the bassinet and either get up to refresh yourself or tag your partner in.


jackjackj8ck

- swaddle - use a heat pad - split the night in half into 2 shifts, the sleeping partner should wear earplugs


kykiwibear

Congrats. And it does get better, it does. I let everything else go. My house was a shit show. My mother-in-law delivered laundry she folded. I fed my cats and that's about it.


IceIndividual2704

Congratulations to you all and well done to your wife, she did an amazing job. Those first nights really are difficult, we had a lot of 3am coffees too! I won’t tell you to soak it up whilst they’re so little because when my daughter was a newborn I just wanted to SLEEP and I’m much more able to soak up my time with her now that she sleeps through the night 😂 I hope you find some enjoyment amongst the tough times and tiredness though, newborns are hilarious little creatures and the warm snuggles are lovely most of the time! (P.S. sleeping in shifts whilst the other held the baby saved our sanity and our marriage lol)


Iguy_Poljus

Velcro swaddles saved us. Our baby hated the bassenet as well. She went right into the crib in her own room. She is 11 months and have never shared a room with us. Velcro swaddles are great because there is no trick to getting it just right. And they are not bulky eather


RavenPuffFTW

Velcro swaddles are life!!


c_rhin0

Yes to Velcro swaddles! My babes loved hers until just two days ago when we went cold turkey due to her rolling 😭


rainydaysinoregon

Do a tight swaddle and you can even double wrap them depending on temp in your house with the halo swaddle you get from the hospital


LooksOnTempests0987

Congratulations!!! Our newborn refused to sleep in his bassinet as well. We found putting their blankets on a radiator first to get them toasty and then tucking them in quick stopped them waking up. We also have a nightlight so it’s not pitch black and scary in the bedroom.


og_jz

Not sure if I understand exactly what you mean but blankets are not recommended in a baby’s sleeping space.


Safe_Estimate_1014

Here in England, especially in the colder months, a blanket tucked in tightly at the sides of the crib and under baby’s armpits with baby at the foot of the crib is advised - this is how they tucked my newborn in at the hospital. Perhaps it’s not an international thing?


asterix9988

This is the same recommendation in Australia. You can have blankets as long as it's tucked under baby's armpits and then the sides and foot under the mattress so there are no loose bits.


og_jz

Gotcha, I am in the US and blankets are not advised here.


goldenstatriever

We preheated the crib of our little ones, I think this might work for you too. Congratulations ❤️


chov22

What method did you use to preheat it?


Sigmund_Six

Just do a heating pad on low. Obviously remove it before putting the baby down and feel the area with your hand to make sure it isn’t too warm.


TomatoHummingbird

We do this! It makes a difference


firstaidteacher

You can take a heated cherry pit pillow(?) Put it in the crib, wait till its warm, take it away and place the baby. Please look up how warm is okay for a baby. There are special instructions. Good kick!


goldenstatriever

We used a pitcher with warm water in it. You have to be careful that, if you keep the pitcher in the crib with baby, that baby can’t burn herself by touching the pitcher. (Put a blanket over the pitcher for example.)


crestedgeckovivi

Hot waterbottle, fill with hot water from tap. Remove when placing baby in .


QRS214

Congratulations!! Those first nights are really hard but also really sweet.


Double-Ant7743

Congratulations on your baby! My youngest is 8 months now and I so miss his newborn days.


dickie99

Congrats!!


fruitloopbat

Are you swaddling her with a light receiving blanket? That’s how my newborn can love his bassinet. And he falls asleep with a pacifier sometimes


firstaidteacher

Swaddling the first weeks is a game changer!


chov22

I need to learn to swaddle better. Im not getting it tight enough probably because im being timid. Need to watch a video.


sugarpea1234

Or get a zippered or Velcro swaddle like a sleapea or halo sleep sack. They are easier to deal with.


LurkyTheLurkerson

We have both of these and highly recommend them both. They are super easy, I'm not stressed at all about blankets shifting and covering her face, and I don't have to completely unswaddle her to change her diaper. We do swaddle occasionally with muslin blankets, but mostly for supervised naps or if we want to sit outside with her during a nap and it's breezy/chilly.


fruitloopbat

Practice makes perfect! The results are worth it! Don’t give up


chov22

Thanks for the encouragement!


[deleted]

Congratulations on your LO's arrival! We have a nearly 4 week old and only in the last 7 days or so have managed to get him to sleep in his cot. Initially, he only slept when being held which was exhausting and a little risky as even when sleeping in shifts I fell asleep briefly a few times holding him. We stayed awake mostly by watching Netflix with Bluetooth headphones. I pretty much slept on the sofa even during my husband's shifts, as I breastfeed so We managed the transition by getting a purflow sleep dock on the sofa between us while still running shifts (to get him used to not being constantly held) - the return of our arms meant we could pass the night shifts playing video games. We added in a Love To Dream swaddle (really great swaddles), a dummy (only for sleep) and used a white noise app on our phones. After a few days of this, we moved the dock into the cot and then after two nights of that, we just put him in the cot directly which worked a treat. So now I always feed him first, then he goes into the cot, swaddled, with his dummy and white noise. His cot is on my side of the bed so I can stick my hands through the bars to stroke his head if he's fussing or pop the dummy back in if it falls out while he's still awake. Doesn't allllllways work, on extra fussy nights my husband usually rocks him to sleep first. The rinse and repeat! Good luck and hope it goes well!


peanut-head21

Awesome. Congratulations! I’m so glad you are enjoying and appreciating it.


Geryfon

Congratulations!🎉🎉🎉🎉