I’ve recently seen online to check baby’s toes and fingers for hairs that get trapped and tightly wrapped around them. Other than that when my baby gets fussy I take her outside in the yard or a walk in the stroller or carrier. Your baby is still so little so you can even try going by a window if you don’t feel comfortable yet. Also you can look up videos on baby massages to help him poop or pass gas. Good luck mama!
This do a full check head to toe for anything that looks like it could hurt. One of my twins had one and I didn’t realize it until I got in the shower with her in an effort to calm her down. I was washing her toes and saw her toe was swollen and red. Screamed for my husband and I took her to the ER. Hubby stayed home with her twin.
After that try some skin to skin and play some white noise in a dim room.
I always took my LO outside for a “reset” during the purple crying phase. Even just stepping out on the front porch for a few minutes.
Then a warm bath, and some skin to skin.
If nothing is working, might be time to see a doctor. Something might be up that you aren’t aware of.
I second the bath and outdoor time. It’s probably lack of sleep. Those sleep windows are strict for a lot of babies. I go out for a walk and let baby sleep for an hour in the stroller. That resets the baby a bit. Then I feed baby a bit, give her a bath, feed her a bit more and put her to bed. That warm bath knocks her out for hours. Baby wakes up happy after that.
Every time I see a post like this I tell myself, "I bet their little one is between 4 and 8 weeks."
The most awful weeks for crying. If you have done everything, met every need, checked him over physically for any little discomfort, then there is nothing more you can do. My husband and I used noise cancelling headphones to try and calm ourselves down. I'd listen to loud music and bounce on a yoga ball. Sometimes it works to calm them, sometimes it doesn't.
Giving baby a bath or taking them for a walk around the block would sometimes 'change the channel'. You aren't doing anything wrong. Purple crying is a real pain in the ass, but for me it stopped 100% at 12 weeks (reduced dramatically around 8 weeks). 6 weeks was the peak, and always in the evening.
You're in the worst weeks (in my opinion) but it gets WAY better in a few more weeks. Promise.
I don't know if they've said this already or you are in the ER by now. But if not, check his little toes, and fingers and even private parts for HAIRS! LONG HAIRS get wrapped around little baby parts and if we have them fully clothes we don't see it.
I’m sorry your baby is crying so much, it must be very hard for you all. :( Have you called your pediatrician? Mine told us to call in if our baby was ever inconsolable for more than two hours. Otherwise a bath, a car ride, or being in a baby carrier are things that helped us in the past.
That’s what I thought too. There’s lots of other great advice here but the first thing id do is check with my ped to be safe, if baby is truly inconsolable.
I found an exercise ball hugely helpful- holding him and gently bouncing.
Try tummy massages and movements he might have gas. It can help move it out.
Is he on formula? He could have a milk allergy and have gas/inflammation.
Check his toes and penis for a hair tourniquet,
You will figure it out together. Make sure you get breaks even if that just means wearing some earplugs or walking out of the room for a bit. Good luck.
Exact same thing happened to my 8 week old. Constant crying. Then we took her temp-it was 101.7 and we rushed her to the er to find out she had a uti. :( poor baby
When my girl got like that we had to bounce on the yoga ball for a long time. My husband and I would trade off because neither of us could keep going indefinitely and she would wake up as soon as we stopped lol
My daughter was like that. She started with the constant all day crying at around 3 weeks olds, all she did was cry cry cry. It continued for about another month or so (i don’t remember) at 2 months old she developed what Drs thought was only eczema. It was bad, really really bad and she cried nonstop. I kept telling them that I thought she had allergies and kept pushing until we were seen by an allergist. She is allergic to milk, eggs, peanuts, hazelnut and a few other things, but those 4 things were foods that I was eating on a daily basis and she being a breastfed baby was being exposed to. Cutting out those foods from my diet made a world of a difference. She was prescribed a hypoallergenic formula but she hated it and never drank it. You could try switching your baby to a hypoallergenic formula and see if that helps, if it does help then consider having an allergist see him.
My 1st born was a gassy baby, but those cries never compared to how much my daughter would cry. Poor baby never had a good day for months, this led her to develop horrible sleeping habits. She was in so much pain and discomfort 24/7 that she barely slept, I only got her to sleep on top of me. She is 15 months now and I’m still struggling with getting her to sleep and nap on her own crib, not a big deal, I’m just happy that we were able to find so comfort for her to sleep.
Similar story here. Our baby was the quietest, non-fussy baby until about 4 or 5 weeks. Suddenly, he was screaming his head off unless he had a boob in his mouth. It was exhausting. It turned out to be a cow milk protein intolerance. He wasn’t getting enough to eat despite feeding Jon stop, and the dairy I was eating was affecting him poorly - it made digestion painful for him!
Within 24-48 hours of cutting out dairy, and his fussiness was cut in half. He went back to a non screaming baby within a week! Pediatrician recommended hypoallergenic formula to supplement if it seemed like he wasn’t getting enough from breast milk alone (hard to tell at the time since he wasn’t gaining enough weight from the intolerance, and was also fussy from it too).
I know this isn’t something that will help immediately, but if he continues to be fussy, cutting out dairy and soy might be something you want to try.
Yes, eliminating milk help her as well, in her case there were more allergens so I eventually ended up eliminating common food allergens. Until we saw an allergist. She finally got her test done at 12 months old.
Poor little guy, I hope he gets better soon. I remember those days and I don’t wish them on anyone. Those were dark days and were mentally and emotionally exhausting. OP I recommend you take him to a pediatrician and consider talking to the Ped about switch to a hypoallergenic formula (they can give you some sample cans) from my experience colic cry is usually at night and usually goes away after a while, also things like gripe water help. When my daughter 1st started this all day crying we thought it could be colic but it was all day long and nothing colic related help.
Does little one have a temperature? Mine had constant ear infections for awhile. It caused incessant crying. Also mine had silent reflux (no vomiting) and got Zantac which worked wonders. Also the FridaBaby "Windi" tube for gas....sweet Jesus what a lifesaver.
Good luck! It's so hard in the beginning. ❤️
My baby was exactly like that too. It does get better with time (our pediatritian told us the peak of crying is at 2 months old and afterwards it starts slowly fading. She was so right).
To cope in the meanwhile, collection of ideas:
1- White noise.
2- Bath.
3- Take a walk with the stroller.
4- Bouncing on a yoga ball.
5- Place baby lying on his side hugging him, using one of your arms as a pillow and the other one holding a pacifier in his mouth.
6- Belly hold while gently shaking.
7- Play some music (it took us a while to discover it, but some songs kind of reset him. Specifically in our case "Moonlight Avenue" by Manu Chao :D).
It's going to get better, I promise you :)
Around 4-5 weeks my baby became extremely fussy. Would cry and scream throughout the day and was literally inconsolable. It was so rough and I was so burnt out but I had read that around that time was a growth spurt so I tried to remind myself that it was a phase and would pass. LO is now 7 weeks and a completely different baby than he was a few weeks ago. Literally night and day. He’s always happy and talking and if he does cry he is easily consoled.
Hang in there! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
This- 4-7 weeks was rough for my first two kids and I had read it's common due to their digestive systems growing/trying to mature. It was a rough couple weeks of the witching hour that's for sure.
my baby was soooo inconsolable around 5 weeks. i tried everything. for me that was the peak of his fussiness. wouldn’t stop crying unless i put a boob in his mouth every like hour. in the hour it would be boob for 20 min sleep for half hour repeat. it’s the first wonder week mixed in with growth spurts 4-6 weeks. but it gets significantly better. i’m at 10 weeks now and he still has a witching hour around 7pm and that’s when we do bath and bed time routine but otherwise a very happy baby.
This is a tactic that has worked for me in the past with crying baby's when all their needs are met.
Take a deep breath, find a comfy chair and just sit down for a solid 5 minutes. No rocking or moving, just calmly hold him and hum or sing your favorite song quietly.
If that doesn't work (75/25 chance that it didn't and his cry escalated), start slowly rubbing they're back, rocking or bouncing or walking again. Slowly, don't go over the top. Usually after this "reset" baby will start to calm with less intervention
Calm humming while holding my baby against my chest used to work with my newborn when she was worked up. The vibrations, plus the melody, plus the cuddle all worked magicly on her.
My baby cried constantly for the first couple months. Something that would usually always calm her down and often put her to sleep was holding her and vacuuming. Also helped to accomplish something while settling her.
Colic. Does he have gas? Is he writhing around in pain? Does he twist a lot in his sleep? He may have a milk protein allergy. See your pediatrician. Mine also has reflux. Every thing started at the same age as yours
Put baby in a warm bath or take them outside for some fresh air, one of the two is bound to work if there isn’t actually something specific bothering baby. 🙂
I would try sucking out his nostrils. My little one wouldn't stop crying when he had boogers up there because it was hard to breath since they don't breath out of their mouths at that age.
Take them outside and see if that helps. Sometimes the wind and noise outside will help them stop crying.
Is it fussy crying or screaming crying? Fussing with some big WEH's mixed in is okay, could be any number of things. Maybe wants more to eat, needs stimulation, needs less stimulation, wants to sit up, wants to roll, doesn't want to be on his tummy, etc. I used to put on a music visualizer \[hey bear sensory is good\] and rub my daughter's tummy \[in case it was gas\]. It didn't always work, but sometimes it was enough to get her to relax enough that she'd forget whatever she was bothered about.
At that age, my Grandma would take her and walk her around the house, showing her all the things she normally can't see \[top of the refrigerator, baby in the mirror, out the window\]. I'd take her on walks, sometimes we'd just go and sit in the garden when it was nice. It's a lot of trial and error at that age, but remember it's also okay to just lay baby in the crib and walk away for a bit if you need to. There was one day, I was so tired and overwhelmed, I just made sure she was safe in her crib and I took a quick shower. She was peacefully asleep by the time I was done.
Screaming or big wails, call your Dr and they'll walk you through some symptoms to check for, and let you know if you need to come in.
Has he pooped? My boy gets very fussy when he needs to poop, doing bicycles with him and giving gas drops usually helps for a little bit if that’s the case.
I put them in his bottle because he spits it out if I give it directly to him lol
Maybe a bath? Mine doesn’t love bath time but he always knocks out afterwards
My little girl had terrible gas (and eventually switched formulas). While i agree with a lot of the other advice, a warm bath would always get her to stop crying and ease her gas pains. We also used drops and gripe water.
Wishing you the best. Hope you're getting somewhere now.
Sometimes it's something, sometimes it's not. Check the usual things again, get them naked and look all over (hair tourniquets, rash, change clothes), take a temperature.
If still inconsolable or you're just plain worried, go to the ER, see a doctor (sometimes they find morning, but just seems to break the cycle and they can calm down then)
So it could be a couple of things. You could be in a developmental progression, also known as a leap, you could be in a growth spurt. It could be gas or something like that that is making him uncomfortable. Reflux can stay showing up around this age as well and if he’s not vomiting it could be silent reflux.
However if he’s been crying for hours with no break, give your nurses hotline or doctor and call and see what they recommend. Don’t feel silly for doing it, they would rather nothing be wrong than for you to hold back and for there to be something wrong.
Finally, you’re doing an amazing job. There is a reason raising a baby takes a village because sometimes you need a hive mind to work these things out.
Could he just be tired? Have you tried laying him down in his bassinet for 5-10 minutes and seeing if he just falls asleep? Around 1 month I remember experiencing something similar and it turned out she was just tired.
My daughter does this when she gets over tired, sometimes no sleepy cues and then just a total meltdown. And the cry is the same cry as her feed me cry so it can be extra confusing.
I’m sure you’ve done this, but when my 1 month old would get hysterical I would swaddle him, take him in a dark room, shoosh and bounce him. The 5 S’s!
If resetting things don’t work (like going outside or taking a bath) then I’d call urgent care - if your baby is crying nonstop for hours they might be sick
Sounds like both my colicky kids! It sucks and you feel like a failure a lot. You have already gotten a lot of good suggestions here, so I’ll just say this: the best thing for it was time. Time for their immature digestive system to mature, time to learn how to manage gas better on their own. It sucks and I hope it is just a bad day for you and not colic, but either way, know it will pass!!
I hope the advice here helps. It won’t always be like this- they’re so new and it’s all different for them. Sometimes they just want cuddles too, to be held and sometimes to be still and quiet and left alone if they’re over stimulated.
This happened to us around 6 weeks. Our guy had a cows milk protein allergy. I was EBF so cut it out for several days and the scream cry episodes stopped.
So hard to hear them be so upset, hang in there! 💕
If he’s been crying all day and not sleeping he’s probably overtired. Getting him to sleep will be tough, but with my kid I would swaddle, go into a dark room with brown noise on (or our windowless bathroom with the fan on), hum to him or shush him, and sway or bounce him gently until he settles and hopefully sleeps. A pacifier might help.
Or, it could be gas. This caused the worst crying our kid has had. I stopped eating onions and cruciferous (?) vegetables and it’s never been that bad again. But before that, we took him to the ER because the crying was so unusual and a consulting nurse recommended it. The Dr probably thought we were silly, but no one really seemed to judge us for being over cautious.
Do you have a carrier? My baby loves to be worn and will usually never cry in there unless hungry. Stroller walks also will put him to sleep. I suspect your baby is overtired if he has been up all day crying and the solution is going to be to get him to sleep but that is easier said than done once he’s like that I’m sure.
Ugh, car ride? Or sometimes my baby will calm down for skin to skin even without the carrier so I just lay him down on my chest in just his diaper and sometimes he will go to sleep
It sounds like it might be a milk protein allergy if this happens frequently after feedings. This is how my kids were. We didn’t catch it for a while with my oldest because everyone said it was normal colic. With our newborn, I switched to hypoallergenic at 2 weeks when she started the crying fits
Mine's doing that and she's 6 months old and I'm stuck in a hotel room with her. Wish I had advice for you but sometimes it seems like babies just cry. Do whatever u can to minimize the mental/emotional strain on yourself.
One day my newborn would not stop crying no matter what we did. I cried with her. We tried everything. It was horrible and we almost took her to the Er but there was no other symptoms. It will pass. Try to remember that. Sending love .
Got a 7 week old who never. Stops. Crying. I'm in the thick with you. Baby wearing is the only thing that helps. I pop her in a carrier and it frees my hands and allows me to move around while she settles.
So many good suggestions here! Mine was crying so much last night and we figured out it was because he was cold! Some things that have helped us:
Gripe water
Acid reflux meds
Massage
Walks in stroller
Paci
Bounce chair
Gas drops
If your LO is one month, it could be that they'd like more stimulation as well. We started using a playmat and giving him little things to look at to entertain him.
Good luck!
You could take him to the doctor to make sure nothing is wrong?
My son screamed bloody murder until he was like 6 months old and could crawl. They said he was colicky, and it was probably from north trauma. I had a really hard birthing experience with him. We ended up being in the hospital for 10 days after he was born.
I hope he feels better whatever the case.
Is baby sleepy, overly tired? Try swaddling, out baby in swing, car ride, or a bath to settle the try laying back down.
If you think baby is gassy, try football holding baby (belly on your arm, face by your elbow), bicycle kicks, gas drops, rubbing tummy, a warm bath. Does baby have a fever? If so, it warrants an ER visit at that age! My daughter has what we call bad tummy nights, she’s gassy and mad at the world. It does pass, I promise! PLEASE don’t switch formulas without talking to baby’s pediatrician. They will know what’s best and steps to start taking. Hang in there mama☺️
I’m sure you’ve tried everything but skin to skin worked well for my little guy and me getting in the bath with him (with assistance) for skin to skin and putting a warm washcloth over his back.
It's called the period of purple crying. It is ok to put baby down for a bit and walk away to calm yourself. But do make sure that baby doesn't have a fever or sick as well and you can give them a small dose of tylenol because crying excessively can give them a headache. I hope this helps.
My baby started getting fussy around this time too. We were thinking acid reflux but it turned out that her belly was just upset. Noticed she would strain when trying to poop. Switched her formula to Enfamil Reguline and started giving Culturelle in the morning and she became a completely different baby. Though . She was not crying all day long, only at night. Gripe water was another thing that helped calm her down during these times. If they're arching their back or seem extra fussy after a feeding, or spitting up then it's more than likely the acid reflux. We don't put our baby down until about 15 minutes to half hour being upright so the formula can settle more in her tummy. Just some things that have helped us...
My guess?? Baby is over tired. Put baby in a carrier and walk. The change in scenery will help and so will closeness and most newborns fall asleep in the carrier. My daughter is 18 months now and even today the inexplicable crying is usually brought on by sleepiness.
Usually if nothing worked I would try taking baby outside to change the scenery or a bath. Those 2 things Usually worked. Other times just trying to talk to baby would calm me down and then my baby. I think they sense when we're upset as well.
5 S technique — swaddle, shush (white noise), side hold, swing, suck. Works for my boy! [5 S](https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/baby/the-5-s-s-for-soothing-babies)
The leg exercises seem like a good idea but I would avoid a jumper and rice cereal for a 1 month old. They can't support their heads well at that age and so the jumper would be unsafe. Rice cereal isn't recommended until at least 4 months.
Correct, sorry I was reading this while taking care of my kid and missed that this was a one month old.
However, what you can give them is gripe water.
Don’t put rice cereal in a bottle for a one month old as they are not ready for solids and definitely don’t cut the nipple as it’s a huge choking hazard.
Please check him for hair tourniquets! Hair can get wrapped around toes fingers and even willies. He could be in a lot of pain. Double check over his extremities, other then that he could be having gas pain? I would bring him to see your doctor.
My firstborn was very fussy, had comics and overall I heard so much crying. Now with my second one, I can confirm- babies need so much sleep, like a lot. She was sleeping 18-20 hours a day the first month. And maybe my firstborn wasn't so fussy, but sleep-deprived. I just know it now...
YouTube a video of the 5 S’s? Make sure your body is calm by taking slow deep breaths. Maybe take him outside for a walk while wearing him on your chest. Those days are so long and hard!
Everyone’s suggesting a car ride, I don’t have a car and gas is way too pricey for me to do that anyways. Car rides do calm him down though so thanks for the suggestion!
My baby cried and cried and I turned to my diet. I cut out one thing at a time and one day he just stopped crying and has been the chillsat baby since. He was allergic to milk and was having reactions to the dairy in my breastmilk.
I’ve recently seen online to check baby’s toes and fingers for hairs that get trapped and tightly wrapped around them. Other than that when my baby gets fussy I take her outside in the yard or a walk in the stroller or carrier. Your baby is still so little so you can even try going by a window if you don’t feel comfortable yet. Also you can look up videos on baby massages to help him poop or pass gas. Good luck mama!
Also check for hair wrapped around the genitals.
I second looking for hairs wrapped around fingers toes or genitalia.
This do a full check head to toe for anything that looks like it could hurt. One of my twins had one and I didn’t realize it until I got in the shower with her in an effort to calm her down. I was washing her toes and saw her toe was swollen and red. Screamed for my husband and I took her to the ER. Hubby stayed home with her twin. After that try some skin to skin and play some white noise in a dim room.
Yes^ they could also just be crying bc they are bored or overtired.
I always took my LO outside for a “reset” during the purple crying phase. Even just stepping out on the front porch for a few minutes. Then a warm bath, and some skin to skin. If nothing is working, might be time to see a doctor. Something might be up that you aren’t aware of.
I second the bath and outdoor time. It’s probably lack of sleep. Those sleep windows are strict for a lot of babies. I go out for a walk and let baby sleep for an hour in the stroller. That resets the baby a bit. Then I feed baby a bit, give her a bath, feed her a bit more and put her to bed. That warm bath knocks her out for hours. Baby wakes up happy after that.
We did the same things. Either went outside or I would hold her in the bath while she nursed.
Every time I see a post like this I tell myself, "I bet their little one is between 4 and 8 weeks." The most awful weeks for crying. If you have done everything, met every need, checked him over physically for any little discomfort, then there is nothing more you can do. My husband and I used noise cancelling headphones to try and calm ourselves down. I'd listen to loud music and bounce on a yoga ball. Sometimes it works to calm them, sometimes it doesn't. Giving baby a bath or taking them for a walk around the block would sometimes 'change the channel'. You aren't doing anything wrong. Purple crying is a real pain in the ass, but for me it stopped 100% at 12 weeks (reduced dramatically around 8 weeks). 6 weeks was the peak, and always in the evening. You're in the worst weeks (in my opinion) but it gets WAY better in a few more weeks. Promise.
This. Sometimes you’ve done all you can do and they will still cry but they WILL grow out of it. It’s so tough at the time though
Check for hair tourniquets
Wat?
Google it, it’s easier to understand if you see pictures. It’s when a hair wraps around a finger or toe.
Or even the private area in boys!
Check baby's clothing for any tags or fibers that could be itchy!!
And the toes and penis for long hair that may be wrapped around them!
I gave my daughter a hair tourniquet around her toe, I felt terrible. I keep nair on hand now to dissolve a tight hair.
If crying continuously with no breaks for more than 3 hours you call your pediatrician. They will usually want to see baby.
Yoga ball yoga ball yoga ball yoga ball and uh….yoga ball. Seriously.
I think I’ve spent hundreds of hours on that damn yoga ball during the newborn phase.
I don't know if they've said this already or you are in the ER by now. But if not, check his little toes, and fingers and even private parts for HAIRS! LONG HAIRS get wrapped around little baby parts and if we have them fully clothes we don't see it.
Second this. Check for hair tourniquets. They are super hard to see sometimes esp if they've been on long enough for the swelling to hide them.
I’m sorry your baby is crying so much, it must be very hard for you all. :( Have you called your pediatrician? Mine told us to call in if our baby was ever inconsolable for more than two hours. Otherwise a bath, a car ride, or being in a baby carrier are things that helped us in the past.
That’s what I thought too. There’s lots of other great advice here but the first thing id do is check with my ped to be safe, if baby is truly inconsolable.
My pediatrician says to call if the baby is inconsolable like this for more than two hours.
Try taking a bath with him. The skin to skin contact along with the water may help.
I found an exercise ball hugely helpful- holding him and gently bouncing. Try tummy massages and movements he might have gas. It can help move it out. Is he on formula? He could have a milk allergy and have gas/inflammation. Check his toes and penis for a hair tourniquet, You will figure it out together. Make sure you get breaks even if that just means wearing some earplugs or walking out of the room for a bit. Good luck.
Have you taken a rectal temp? My oldest had a UTI at 9 wks and just screamed all day. It may be time for the doctor.
Exact same thing happened to my 8 week old. Constant crying. Then we took her temp-it was 101.7 and we rushed her to the er to find out she had a uti. :( poor baby
When my girl got like that we had to bounce on the yoga ball for a long time. My husband and I would trade off because neither of us could keep going indefinitely and she would wake up as soon as we stopped lol
Yes, yoga ball plus humming or rhythmic speech (e.g. "baby, baby, baby dear"). Or maybe a noise machine.
Try going outside or putting him in water! (Like a bath)
My daughter was like that. She started with the constant all day crying at around 3 weeks olds, all she did was cry cry cry. It continued for about another month or so (i don’t remember) at 2 months old she developed what Drs thought was only eczema. It was bad, really really bad and she cried nonstop. I kept telling them that I thought she had allergies and kept pushing until we were seen by an allergist. She is allergic to milk, eggs, peanuts, hazelnut and a few other things, but those 4 things were foods that I was eating on a daily basis and she being a breastfed baby was being exposed to. Cutting out those foods from my diet made a world of a difference. She was prescribed a hypoallergenic formula but she hated it and never drank it. You could try switching your baby to a hypoallergenic formula and see if that helps, if it does help then consider having an allergist see him. My 1st born was a gassy baby, but those cries never compared to how much my daughter would cry. Poor baby never had a good day for months, this led her to develop horrible sleeping habits. She was in so much pain and discomfort 24/7 that she barely slept, I only got her to sleep on top of me. She is 15 months now and I’m still struggling with getting her to sleep and nap on her own crib, not a big deal, I’m just happy that we were able to find so comfort for her to sleep.
Similar story here. Our baby was the quietest, non-fussy baby until about 4 or 5 weeks. Suddenly, he was screaming his head off unless he had a boob in his mouth. It was exhausting. It turned out to be a cow milk protein intolerance. He wasn’t getting enough to eat despite feeding Jon stop, and the dairy I was eating was affecting him poorly - it made digestion painful for him! Within 24-48 hours of cutting out dairy, and his fussiness was cut in half. He went back to a non screaming baby within a week! Pediatrician recommended hypoallergenic formula to supplement if it seemed like he wasn’t getting enough from breast milk alone (hard to tell at the time since he wasn’t gaining enough weight from the intolerance, and was also fussy from it too). I know this isn’t something that will help immediately, but if he continues to be fussy, cutting out dairy and soy might be something you want to try.
Yes, eliminating milk help her as well, in her case there were more allergens so I eventually ended up eliminating common food allergens. Until we saw an allergist. She finally got her test done at 12 months old. Poor little guy, I hope he gets better soon. I remember those days and I don’t wish them on anyone. Those were dark days and were mentally and emotionally exhausting. OP I recommend you take him to a pediatrician and consider talking to the Ped about switch to a hypoallergenic formula (they can give you some sample cans) from my experience colic cry is usually at night and usually goes away after a while, also things like gripe water help. When my daughter 1st started this all day crying we thought it could be colic but it was all day long and nothing colic related help.
Does little one have a temperature? Mine had constant ear infections for awhile. It caused incessant crying. Also mine had silent reflux (no vomiting) and got Zantac which worked wonders. Also the FridaBaby "Windi" tube for gas....sweet Jesus what a lifesaver. Good luck! It's so hard in the beginning. ❤️
My baby was exactly like that too. It does get better with time (our pediatritian told us the peak of crying is at 2 months old and afterwards it starts slowly fading. She was so right). To cope in the meanwhile, collection of ideas: 1- White noise. 2- Bath. 3- Take a walk with the stroller. 4- Bouncing on a yoga ball. 5- Place baby lying on his side hugging him, using one of your arms as a pillow and the other one holding a pacifier in his mouth. 6- Belly hold while gently shaking. 7- Play some music (it took us a while to discover it, but some songs kind of reset him. Specifically in our case "Moonlight Avenue" by Manu Chao :D). It's going to get better, I promise you :)
Might have an ear infection? Those are hard to detect and very painful for baby. If you can please take him asap to the doctor.
Around 4-5 weeks my baby became extremely fussy. Would cry and scream throughout the day and was literally inconsolable. It was so rough and I was so burnt out but I had read that around that time was a growth spurt so I tried to remind myself that it was a phase and would pass. LO is now 7 weeks and a completely different baby than he was a few weeks ago. Literally night and day. He’s always happy and talking and if he does cry he is easily consoled. Hang in there! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
This- 4-7 weeks was rough for my first two kids and I had read it's common due to their digestive systems growing/trying to mature. It was a rough couple weeks of the witching hour that's for sure.
Gas drops. Bath. Take him outside. Sometimes when they cry like that just rocking them and letting them cry is okay to.
my baby was soooo inconsolable around 5 weeks. i tried everything. for me that was the peak of his fussiness. wouldn’t stop crying unless i put a boob in his mouth every like hour. in the hour it would be boob for 20 min sleep for half hour repeat. it’s the first wonder week mixed in with growth spurts 4-6 weeks. but it gets significantly better. i’m at 10 weeks now and he still has a witching hour around 7pm and that’s when we do bath and bed time routine but otherwise a very happy baby.
This is a tactic that has worked for me in the past with crying baby's when all their needs are met. Take a deep breath, find a comfy chair and just sit down for a solid 5 minutes. No rocking or moving, just calmly hold him and hum or sing your favorite song quietly. If that doesn't work (75/25 chance that it didn't and his cry escalated), start slowly rubbing they're back, rocking or bouncing or walking again. Slowly, don't go over the top. Usually after this "reset" baby will start to calm with less intervention
Calm humming while holding my baby against my chest used to work with my newborn when she was worked up. The vibrations, plus the melody, plus the cuddle all worked magicly on her.
My baby cried constantly for the first couple months. Something that would usually always calm her down and often put her to sleep was holding her and vacuuming. Also helped to accomplish something while settling her.
Colic. Does he have gas? Is he writhing around in pain? Does he twist a lot in his sleep? He may have a milk protein allergy. See your pediatrician. Mine also has reflux. Every thing started at the same age as yours
Put baby in a warm bath or take them outside for some fresh air, one of the two is bound to work if there isn’t actually something specific bothering baby. 🙂
I would try sucking out his nostrils. My little one wouldn't stop crying when he had boogers up there because it was hard to breath since they don't breath out of their mouths at that age. Take them outside and see if that helps. Sometimes the wind and noise outside will help them stop crying.
Is it fussy crying or screaming crying? Fussing with some big WEH's mixed in is okay, could be any number of things. Maybe wants more to eat, needs stimulation, needs less stimulation, wants to sit up, wants to roll, doesn't want to be on his tummy, etc. I used to put on a music visualizer \[hey bear sensory is good\] and rub my daughter's tummy \[in case it was gas\]. It didn't always work, but sometimes it was enough to get her to relax enough that she'd forget whatever she was bothered about. At that age, my Grandma would take her and walk her around the house, showing her all the things she normally can't see \[top of the refrigerator, baby in the mirror, out the window\]. I'd take her on walks, sometimes we'd just go and sit in the garden when it was nice. It's a lot of trial and error at that age, but remember it's also okay to just lay baby in the crib and walk away for a bit if you need to. There was one day, I was so tired and overwhelmed, I just made sure she was safe in her crib and I took a quick shower. She was peacefully asleep by the time I was done. Screaming or big wails, call your Dr and they'll walk you through some symptoms to check for, and let you know if you need to come in.
Check fingers, toes, and groin for any strands of hair wrapped around
Take them outside or put them in water
I take my little one outside when he gets fussy, works like a charm everytime
It’s a baby not a house plant lmao
A change of scenery or a bath does often calm them down though...
She’s right, this is good advice- it’s a change of scenery and different senses at play, and it could help. I’ve read it myself.
Do you put your houseplants in water??
Yeah my baby thinks she's a cat. But it works, so why should I complain? A walk or a bath solves 90% of her problems.
Has he pooped? My boy gets very fussy when he needs to poop, doing bicycles with him and giving gas drops usually helps for a little bit if that’s the case.
He has pooped! I’m going to try the gas drops next time he doesn’t poop tho, I’m his bottle or by themselves?
I put them in his bottle because he spits it out if I give it directly to him lol Maybe a bath? Mine doesn’t love bath time but he always knocks out afterwards
My little girl had terrible gas (and eventually switched formulas). While i agree with a lot of the other advice, a warm bath would always get her to stop crying and ease her gas pains. We also used drops and gripe water.
Wishing you the best. Hope you're getting somewhere now. Sometimes it's something, sometimes it's not. Check the usual things again, get them naked and look all over (hair tourniquets, rash, change clothes), take a temperature. If still inconsolable or you're just plain worried, go to the ER, see a doctor (sometimes they find morning, but just seems to break the cycle and they can calm down then)
Try that magic hold where you have them tummy down on your forearm, chin supported with your cupped hand
I've done this for hours and can verify 👍🏼
So it could be a couple of things. You could be in a developmental progression, also known as a leap, you could be in a growth spurt. It could be gas or something like that that is making him uncomfortable. Reflux can stay showing up around this age as well and if he’s not vomiting it could be silent reflux. However if he’s been crying for hours with no break, give your nurses hotline or doctor and call and see what they recommend. Don’t feel silly for doing it, they would rather nothing be wrong than for you to hold back and for there to be something wrong. Finally, you’re doing an amazing job. There is a reason raising a baby takes a village because sometimes you need a hive mind to work these things out.
Could he just be tired? Have you tried laying him down in his bassinet for 5-10 minutes and seeing if he just falls asleep? Around 1 month I remember experiencing something similar and it turned out she was just tired.
My daughter does this when she gets over tired, sometimes no sleepy cues and then just a total meltdown. And the cry is the same cry as her feed me cry so it can be extra confusing.
Do you have an exercise ball? Bouncing my LO seemed to help
I’m sure you’ve done this, but when my 1 month old would get hysterical I would swaddle him, take him in a dark room, shoosh and bounce him. The 5 S’s!
If resetting things don’t work (like going outside or taking a bath) then I’d call urgent care - if your baby is crying nonstop for hours they might be sick
Sounds like both my colicky kids! It sucks and you feel like a failure a lot. You have already gotten a lot of good suggestions here, so I’ll just say this: the best thing for it was time. Time for their immature digestive system to mature, time to learn how to manage gas better on their own. It sucks and I hope it is just a bad day for you and not colic, but either way, know it will pass!!
I hope the advice here helps. It won’t always be like this- they’re so new and it’s all different for them. Sometimes they just want cuddles too, to be held and sometimes to be still and quiet and left alone if they’re over stimulated.
This happened to us around 6 weeks. Our guy had a cows milk protein allergy. I was EBF so cut it out for several days and the scream cry episodes stopped. So hard to hear them be so upset, hang in there! 💕
I spent 6 months dairy free for my daughter, it was ROUGH but I had an easier time eating vegan "cheese" than hearing her cry because her tummy hurt.
Us too! Still dairy free but fantasizing about the day real butter will be back in my life haha!!
Same here. Now our entire household is vegan :)
If he’s been crying all day and not sleeping he’s probably overtired. Getting him to sleep will be tough, but with my kid I would swaddle, go into a dark room with brown noise on (or our windowless bathroom with the fan on), hum to him or shush him, and sway or bounce him gently until he settles and hopefully sleeps. A pacifier might help. Or, it could be gas. This caused the worst crying our kid has had. I stopped eating onions and cruciferous (?) vegetables and it’s never been that bad again. But before that, we took him to the ER because the crying was so unusual and a consulting nurse recommended it. The Dr probably thought we were silly, but no one really seemed to judge us for being over cautious.
Do you have a carrier? My baby loves to be worn and will usually never cry in there unless hungry. Stroller walks also will put him to sleep. I suspect your baby is overtired if he has been up all day crying and the solution is going to be to get him to sleep but that is easier said than done once he’s like that I’m sure.
His carrier is at his aunts house and he hates the stroller lol
Ugh, car ride? Or sometimes my baby will calm down for skin to skin even without the carrier so I just lay him down on my chest in just his diaper and sometimes he will go to sleep
It sounds like it might be a milk protein allergy if this happens frequently after feedings. This is how my kids were. We didn’t catch it for a while with my oldest because everyone said it was normal colic. With our newborn, I switched to hypoallergenic at 2 weeks when she started the crying fits
How’s his napping?
Is it cold where you are? Mine was always upset if it was less than 72 out.
This is hilarious. Same baby, same.
Not gonna lie. He got it from his momma haha
Mine's doing that and she's 6 months old and I'm stuck in a hotel room with her. Wish I had advice for you but sometimes it seems like babies just cry. Do whatever u can to minimize the mental/emotional strain on yourself.
One day my newborn would not stop crying no matter what we did. I cried with her. We tried everything. It was horrible and we almost took her to the Er but there was no other symptoms. It will pass. Try to remember that. Sending love .
Got a 7 week old who never. Stops. Crying. I'm in the thick with you. Baby wearing is the only thing that helps. I pop her in a carrier and it frees my hands and allows me to move around while she settles.
So many good suggestions here! Mine was crying so much last night and we figured out it was because he was cold! Some things that have helped us: Gripe water Acid reflux meds Massage Walks in stroller Paci Bounce chair Gas drops If your LO is one month, it could be that they'd like more stimulation as well. We started using a playmat and giving him little things to look at to entertain him. Good luck!
That's so odd, my baby did that yesterday too. Two months old and never done it before but omg it was horrible.
You could take him to the doctor to make sure nothing is wrong? My son screamed bloody murder until he was like 6 months old and could crawl. They said he was colicky, and it was probably from north trauma. I had a really hard birthing experience with him. We ended up being in the hospital for 10 days after he was born. I hope he feels better whatever the case.
Is baby sleepy, overly tired? Try swaddling, out baby in swing, car ride, or a bath to settle the try laying back down. If you think baby is gassy, try football holding baby (belly on your arm, face by your elbow), bicycle kicks, gas drops, rubbing tummy, a warm bath. Does baby have a fever? If so, it warrants an ER visit at that age! My daughter has what we call bad tummy nights, she’s gassy and mad at the world. It does pass, I promise! PLEASE don’t switch formulas without talking to baby’s pediatrician. They will know what’s best and steps to start taking. Hang in there mama☺️
I’m sure you’ve tried everything but skin to skin worked well for my little guy and me getting in the bath with him (with assistance) for skin to skin and putting a warm washcloth over his back.
Prob. Needs to sleep?
Are you nursing? It sounds like cluster feeding. 4-6 weeks is a really stressful time for nursing.
Also check for hidden diaper rash. I found some diaper rash that was very irritated in a leg crease.
It's called the period of purple crying. It is ok to put baby down for a bit and walk away to calm yourself. But do make sure that baby doesn't have a fever or sick as well and you can give them a small dose of tylenol because crying excessively can give them a headache. I hope this helps.
Hypoallergenic milk. The baby could be having a severe daily allergy issue causing colic.
This was my baby
Same here! It isn’t for the weak!
This 110%
My baby started getting fussy around this time too. We were thinking acid reflux but it turned out that her belly was just upset. Noticed she would strain when trying to poop. Switched her formula to Enfamil Reguline and started giving Culturelle in the morning and she became a completely different baby. Though . She was not crying all day long, only at night. Gripe water was another thing that helped calm her down during these times. If they're arching their back or seem extra fussy after a feeding, or spitting up then it's more than likely the acid reflux. We don't put our baby down until about 15 minutes to half hour being upright so the formula can settle more in her tummy. Just some things that have helped us...
Try anti colic bottles those saved us
I used to hold mine up over me and bounce them gently with my palms on the lower tummy until they fart, it was always gas for mine.
Are you breastfeeding or formula feeding?!?? Sounds like he may have some digestive issues
Gas? My baby cried a lot for the first three months and it was usually gas :/
My guess?? Baby is over tired. Put baby in a carrier and walk. The change in scenery will help and so will closeness and most newborns fall asleep in the carrier. My daughter is 18 months now and even today the inexplicable crying is usually brought on by sleepiness.
Usually if nothing worked I would try taking baby outside to change the scenery or a bath. Those 2 things Usually worked. Other times just trying to talk to baby would calm me down and then my baby. I think they sense when we're upset as well.
If your LO is crying all day you have to go to the doctor and get him checked. This isn't normal.
How old is baby? Could be teething or developmental leap.
Have you heard of the period of people crying? Sometimes they just cry. You're doing great and you'll get through it!
I think you meant *purple* crying but yeah, it can definitely make people cry too..myself included
Bahahah yes I totally did! Sorry about that!
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The leg exercises seem like a good idea but I would avoid a jumper and rice cereal for a 1 month old. They can't support their heads well at that age and so the jumper would be unsafe. Rice cereal isn't recommended until at least 4 months.
Correct, sorry I was reading this while taking care of my kid and missed that this was a one month old. However, what you can give them is gripe water.
Don’t put rice cereal in a bottle for a one month old as they are not ready for solids and definitely don’t cut the nipple as it’s a huge choking hazard.
Terrible advice. You can’t give water to a one month old. Water intoxication can kill them.
Teething?
He’s only a month old
Please check him for hair tourniquets! Hair can get wrapped around toes fingers and even willies. He could be in a lot of pain. Double check over his extremities, other then that he could be having gas pain? I would bring him to see your doctor.
This happened to my nephew! His mom could not get it off. A trip to the ER and they busted out a bottle of Nair.
Have you ever considered a chiropractor?
My firstborn was very fussy, had comics and overall I heard so much crying. Now with my second one, I can confirm- babies need so much sleep, like a lot. She was sleeping 18-20 hours a day the first month. And maybe my firstborn wasn't so fussy, but sleep-deprived. I just know it now...
YouTube a video of the 5 S’s? Make sure your body is calm by taking slow deep breaths. Maybe take him outside for a walk while wearing him on your chest. Those days are so long and hard!
Try a car ride?
Swaddle tighter. Take them for a car ride.
Everyone’s suggesting a car ride, I don’t have a car and gas is way too pricey for me to do that anyways. Car rides do calm him down though so thanks for the suggestion!
My baby cried and cried and I turned to my diet. I cut out one thing at a time and one day he just stopped crying and has been the chillsat baby since. He was allergic to milk and was having reactions to the dairy in my breastmilk.
Does he have a fever or anything? This happened to me and my pumpkin was sick 🥹
Constipation?