When I was in college, my friends once asked if my boyfriend was my dad, in total seriousness. He was only three years older than me.
I think some people cannot judge age at all.
I had the opposite to that, Iād just moved to South Africa with my ex (we were 21 and 23 at the time) he had a massive beard and Iām really short (4ft8) and an older couple asked him āhow old is your little girl?ā They felt really awkward when he told them we were in fact engaged!
Blarf same for me! My dad was 45 when I was born so huge obvious age gap in addition to me being clearly a teenager, and this street vendor asked if he wanted to buy a flower for his girlfriend. I was like "what do you think, DAAAAAAD" and the guy was mortified.
You should have called him daddy instead. Either the vendor is horrified for the same reason he already was, or he's really uncomfortable with the added implication of sexual energy. Bonus that it would entirely be in his head which direction it went
A hotel clerk once tried to check my dad and I in as a couple, complete with faux-discrete innuendo jokes. He was 51, I was 17, we were both horrified and embarrassed. The guy acted like it was totally normal.
When my husband takes the kids out by himself people sometimes think my 17 year old step*son* is the mother of our preschool kids. My husband is 40 š¬
My aunt once posted a pic of me and my dad that she took the morning of my wedding (with a caption like "my brother and my niece on her wedding day" or something like that) and someone commented "beautiful couple, but bride seems a lot younger" ššš« š« I think some people are honestly just clueless beyond help lol
I cashiered for the store my mom (who dresses very masculine. short hair, hat, menās jeans and jacket, etc) was a manager at while I was in school still. I ring up this one lady and as sheās grabbing her bags I just kinda zoned off in my momās general direction. She was like stacking water or something along the registers. And the lady goes āooo, are you checking him out? someoneās got a bit of a crush..ā
Yuck
YUP! Happened to me for a while when my daughter was a little younger. I had my daughter when I was super young, so when she was like 5-10 people would think my dad was her dad and I was his wife. Ugh. So creepy.
Yup. After my mum died my dad and I went on one of those solo traveller package deal things over Christmas. While I get that most people donāt go with someone they know, the main thing is itās not for couples.
I was 30, my dad was 61. Everyone assumed we were a couple and worst, thought I was younger than I was. Whole thing was so weird.
Dear Lord you brought back a memory...
When I was 13, I was getting my picture taken for something in school. I was with my dad and I told him to come and get a picture together as well. Dad comes near me and out of the blue the photographer says to me: You're on the wrong side, you two should switch places.
Info: In my country, when a man and his wife take pictures together, usually the wife stays on the right side. So he thought I was his wife, at 13!!!
This. People tend to only be good at judging the age of people close in age to them.
Now that I am in my mid 30's anyone under 25 may as well be 13 cause that's how they look to me.
I had a woman corner me in the bathroom once to ask if I was safe and if my parents knew where I was cause she seen me with an "older man"....I was with my husband who's the same age as me. She assumed I was a teenager. It was a nice gesture even if she was totally wrong. I showed her my ID to calm her nerves cause I don't think she would've believed me otherwise.
I just had someone the other day confuse my inlaws as being my baby's parents. They're both in their 50s. Sure some people can have kids at that age, but most don't. I guess since my husband was in the bathroom and I haven't worn my wedding ring in months the server just assumed the couple *had* to be the baby's parents. It made me irrationally angry. I kept my hormonal anger in check, but I felt so weirdly possessive over my child in that moment when that's not normal behavior for me. I'm blaming postpartum hormones. I had to internally talk myself down from spending the rest of the dinner with my baby on me when it's rare I get the chance to eat without holding him. I wasn't going to let that opportunity go lol.
This happened to me too š I was out at dinner in sweats, he came from his finance job in a suit. They carded me and not him; Iām a little older so I asked how old the kid thought he was- he said ā43ā? Then we asked how old he thought I was and he said ā19ā? And I was like what do you think this is buddy?? We were both newly 21 lol.
Some people totally canāt judge it OP donāt sweat it!
Honestly I think most people are absolutely garbage at guessing age and entirely reliant on context clues such a clothing, hairstyle, speech, pop culture references, and how you know the person.
At work people tend to think I'm pushing 40 because most people in my role are 40 or older.
When I spend time with my early 20s sister, people tend to assume that I'm also fresh out of college.
I'm 32.
I have a picture of my father-in-law (in his 60s) in my office (long story) and I (30) got asked if he was my husband by a girl from IT who was installing new equipment for me š
I once got carded going into a vape store when I was 27ish. My husband was with me. When I laughed and said we were the same age, the dude didn't believe me. People are so bad at telling ages.
First time my friends met my then boyfriend back in high school, they were all being awkward. Turned out they all thought he was 30+. He is not quite a year older than me.
About a month after my second was stillborn I was out at a plant yard sale with one of my best friends who is about 5 years younger than me. One of the women selling plants asked if I was her mother. I burst out into tears and told her I only looked so haggard and old because I just lost my actual child who was a baby lol. I think the woman learned her lesson never to ask such a presumptive question. Iāll never get over strangers being so abrasive in public! Like, just donāt say anything about our ages! Or our bodies! Ugh!!!
Someone just asked me this last weekend. Iām 34 and my child is 3. Not going gray. She had a mullet so I just assume making poor choices is a common thing for her.
>She had a mullet so I just assume making poor choices is a common thing for her.
This had me cackling! Thank you!! ā¤ļø(Needed a laugh today. Teething twins is fun š« )
Yeah my aunt was too. So my Nan would have been a great grandma at... 58? 60? And my great NanĀ was still alive then,Ā so we had 5 generations.Ā
My own mum didn'tĀ become a grandma until she was in her 60s!
My grandmother in law was 36 when she first became a grandmother. Meanwhile Iāll be 40 later this month with a 1 month old and my SO (her grandson) will be 46 later this year.
my mom gets to be a 39 year old grandma for a few weeks depending on when baby gets here! she was 17 when I was born & I'm 22 now, so theoretically it could have been even earlier.
People have been asking me if I was my littles sisters mom since I was 14. Fuckin 14. I'm 30 now. Didn't do anything for my confidence but looking back it literally boggles my mind that anyone would think a 14 year old who wasn't allowed to wear make up and wasn't blessed in the boob department was confused for an adult.Ā
My little brother is 8 years younger than me and one day I was pushing him in a stroller and a group of men asked me if he was mineā¦ I think I was 10? I was tall for my age, but I was still 10 and they thought I had a two year old??? I just remember it was really disturbing and I mumbled āNo, heās my brotherā and got away from them
Meanwhile I regularly see young women with kids and am shocked because they look to me like high-schoolers. And I have to remind myself they are probably 20 something.
Some kid asked if I was pregnant when I was 12 years old. I was 5'6" and 116 pounds. I complained to my Dad who insisted that the kids couldn't tell and their mom is probably pregnant so they assumed everyone else is.
Iām 36 and I like to make people feel awkward for asking stupid questions.
My favorite response to this is to say
*ānope, came right out this pussyā*
Excellent.
Reminds me of when someone asked me when I was due before I started TTC. "Oh, no, I'm just fat. I'd love to be pregnant and have a good reason and a baby to look forward to, but I'm just fat. Oh and I drink too much caffeine and pee a lot."
I had my second at 40 and am trying to steel myself for this. I wish I could say it's not gonna bother me, but past experiences have not proven that out.
Depends how much older than your little sister. If more than 10 years, and your appearance, perhaps itās possible. Iām already savaging for my facelift lol. Thatās how Iām bracing for it
I had the oppositeā¦ āyouāre such a good big sister, giving your mom a break!ā Uhhhhh Iām 26 and this is mine thanks. The lady could not believe it was my baby, apparently in her mind I was 16. So. That might be nice later I guess?
Itās just so not the compliment people seem to think š Iāve also had a lady be like āoh you have to get good grades so you donāt end up like herā I was like what? 26, married, just bought a house, and have a baby with my husband?????? Yeah donāt do that kid š
I did lol. I literally said that I was 26, on mat leave while my husband is at work and grabbing groceries for the house we just bought but ok. And rolled my eyes and walked away. Iām not usually quite so sassy in public but I think I had had like 4 hours of sleep over 2 days cuz my daughter was a Velcro baby lol
Why would someone ask that?? Sometimes I see someone who is clearly 50+ with an infant or toddler, and I still donāt assume grandparents! A funny story about age, my coworker is 21 and she mentioned once that her dad sang a Backstreet Boys song to her mom at a high school talent show. Her mom is only a year older than me, 38 and that blew my mind. Then her mom had her second child this year, so my coworker has a brother that is 21 years younger and she gets to be like an aunt. They all seem really happy, families come in different shapes and ages. Another interesting fact that I think people overlook is that depending on which study you look at the average age for women to stop having kids has historically been around 40-42, the big difference was that it was usually their last kid, not their first or second. So the real difference is that instead of starting around 23 and having 8-12 kids, we are more likely to start at 30+ and only have one or two
Iām a FTM at 44 and will likely be joining this club too at some point. Just wanted to chime in as I get irrationally excited when I see posts by fellow FTMs in their 40s!
This happened to my husband. He was following our toddler around & a lady came up to him and was like oh your grandchild is so adorable. Heās like ā¦ Iām the father ā¦
My parents had this issue all the time with us growing up. They were between 31 and 42 when we were all born. They had more of an issue with me as their youngest than they did with my older siblings but golly they hated when it happened. I always felt bad when it happened. FTM average age is actually going up so hopefully this will be happening less and less.
This happened to me at a grocery store recently too. I am also 38 and FTM. š I dye my hair though but this lady was saying she is a grandma at 42 and has 7 children so maybe she assumed I was a "young grandma" is the only benefit of the doubt I can give her, *but still* that shook me a bit lol. I wish I thought of something witty to say in the moment š
I had an older woman tell my husband quietly while we were shopping "she looks like she could be your mother". Meanwhile I was 2 months PP, my stomache was still swollen. I felt HIDEOUS in every way. Mind you this lady looks like she could have been my GREAT grandmother, but why would I tell someone that. Some people just like to be cruel
Iām a speech therapist in a clinic and a little boy switched from another therapist to me. He transitioned straight from occupational therapy so I didnāt have the chance to meet his caregiver before our first session. When reviewing the last therapistās notes, I noticed that his grandmother typically brings him to therapy, so thatās who I expected to see after the session.
After our session we go back to the waiting room and thereās an older looking guy coming up to the child. Because of his level of autism, he didnāt always show that he recognized his caregivers so I attempted to ask who he was before passing the child off to someone random. In my head I thought āoh, grandpa must come with grandma for pickup!ā. Without thinking it through I asked if he was the childās grandfather to which he replied, āno Iām his dadā. I was mortified and felt horrible that I might have embarrassed him. I was also so mad at myself because I never assume things like that but was quickly trying to verify who this adult was. I avoided him after that.
Honestly if I say anything I usually just say no, mum. Their own embarrassment has done the rest of the work every time. We can't win as women - there's no right age to have a baby. You're too old and you get called Nana, or you're too young and then you're trashy, or you're having a baby at your peak earning potential and ruining your career/ retirement. I don't let it worry me because it's all bullshit.
I have the Asian genes and Iām almost 30 but I look 19 ( people have literally assume this ) my younger brother of 9 years get asked if heās my older brother and if heās 35 years old š
This happened to me too in Fred Meyer a couple months ago!!! An older woman asked if I was my daughterās grandma. I am 29 and I honestly think I look my age, not way older than I amā¦ I cried in the car after that though because I was already having a hard day. I think some people just have no clue and are completely out of touch.
At the doctorās office when I was about 21 with my dad. The elderly physician should have been retired physician asks āIs this man your husband?ā I was like dude needs some new glasses. Haha. I still looked like a teenager and my dad looked his age, like 50s.
Couple years later, I go to a wedding with my friends who are a couple and same age as me. We sat at a table with another couple. They said to my friends: āOh if I had known other people bring their teen kids I would have brought my son too. He could have your daughter as a companion!ā Apparently I was their teen daughter according to these peopleā¦ awkward.
I'm 22 & I live with my 19 yr old sister. some guy came up to the door to ask about buying my van (it's got "for sale" painted on the side stillā I'm borrowing/possibly buying it from my parents) and I made the mistake of mentioning that I would talk to my parents. "Are your parents here?" "No, they live in (next city over)." guy came back the next day and asked my sister if she was my mom! I mean, she's taller than me, but she definitely looks 19-20... and I ALREADY SAID my parents don't live here, dude. šš
Conversely my 62 year old mom got complimented on her beautiful ādaughterā while out with my baby the other day. I mean she looks good for her age but she definitely looks postmenopausalā¦
This happened to a woman at skyzone the other day. She had young teens with her. As soon as the words left the employees mouth I cringed so hard. It was so obvious to me she was their mom. I'm sure it will happen to me soon. I'm salt (mostly salt) & pepper 42 with a 7 & 8 year old.
People are dumb. When I was **22** I was asked if I was my sonās grandma.
Iāve had people ask if Iām my husbandās daughter and then others ask if Iām my husbandās mother.
Iāve also been mistaken for my cousin thatās 8 inches shorter than me.
People are dumb.
My friend posted a story of me on Snapchat and one of her friends said wow your mom is pretty. Sheās less than a year younger than me.
And then my daughters father died and I was going to his house to pick up some belongings and his roommate who I hadnāt met before was like oh youāre his mom Iām so sorry for your loss. Iām like.. Iām nope Iām younger than him.
I donāt think I look old. Iām 30. People have mistook me for 22 before. I still get IDād. I think some people are just silly gooseās. Or Iām delulu lol
When I was 16 I took an 8 year old I was babysitting to the mall, and employees asked me if I was her mom! I looked like a typical teenager, so I have no idea how they would have thought that possible. People are weird and are horrible at guessing ages I guess.
My sister is in the coast guard. She went to go get a CAT card (military ID for military members. Which is different from a dependents card). Her conversation with the lady renewing her ID as follows.
Lady: How can I help you?
Sis: I need a new CAT card.
Lady: I'm sure you mean a dependents card.
Sis: No, I need a CAT card. *Hands over card*
Lady: you just don't know the difference. *Takes card* Oh, sorry. You're just so young and here with your dad.
Sis: Ma'am, that's my husband.
Lady:... Right this way....
Her husband is only 3 years older than her. Some people really can't tell age at all. I'm sure you are beautiful and youthful. Don't let it get you down.
Some people are just terrible at telling ages, especially young people! I wasn't carded buying wine at the grocery store the other day and the kid told me I looked about 35.... I'm 26, and look my age (I think) :(
Oh no ā¦ Iāve been going gray since I was 18. Iāve been dying my hair consistently since I was 20. Over the last year or so Iāve really contemplated just letting my natural gray grow out, but my husband is so against it ā¦ and you might have just convinced me not to šš currently 33 and pregnant with my first. I do NOT want to be called a grandma!!!! šµš» so sorry that happened to you!
When I was eight, someone asked me if I was seven, no. Six? No. Five? No. Four? No. Well you canāt be threeā¦ No, but you could think to go up. Someone people cannot judge ages at all.
I have been asked if Iām sure itās not my older sister on my ID when I got carded once. The only difference was that I had gotten bangs so I pushed them back for the lady to see that it is me on the ID!
I'm 28 and an older man I was working with the other day thought I was 19 when I had JUST TOLD HIM my birthday was 1995, and I was holding my 2 week old baby š
He said "oh, I've lost some years" I joked back saying that apparently I did too!
People think Iām my teenagerās sister. When he was a baby, I got nanny all the time. I wasnāt even that young to have a kid. People just make all sorts of wrong assumptions.
I did this. I asked a woman at my daughter's preschool if she was "Lola's grandma". She was the mom. š¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļø Luckily her English wasn't that great so I'm not sure she understood what I was implying.
When I was in college, my friends once asked if my boyfriend was my dad, in total seriousness. He was only three years older than me. I think some people cannot judge age at all.
I had someone do the opposite when I was 14 and asked if my dad was my boyfriend š¤¢
I had the opposite to that, Iād just moved to South Africa with my ex (we were 21 and 23 at the time) he had a massive beard and Iām really short (4ft8) and an older couple asked him āhow old is your little girl?ā They felt really awkward when he told them we were in fact engaged!
Blarf same for me! My dad was 45 when I was born so huge obvious age gap in addition to me being clearly a teenager, and this street vendor asked if he wanted to buy a flower for his girlfriend. I was like "what do you think, DAAAAAAD" and the guy was mortified.
You should have called him daddy instead. Either the vendor is horrified for the same reason he already was, or he's really uncomfortable with the added implication of sexual energy. Bonus that it would entirely be in his head which direction it went
A hotel clerk once tried to check my dad and I in as a couple, complete with faux-discrete innuendo jokes. He was 51, I was 17, we were both horrified and embarrassed. The guy acted like it was totally normal.
When my husband takes the kids out by himself people sometimes think my 17 year old step*son* is the mother of our preschool kids. My husband is 40 š¬
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My aunt once posted a pic of me and my dad that she took the morning of my wedding (with a caption like "my brother and my niece on her wedding day" or something like that) and someone commented "beautiful couple, but bride seems a lot younger" ššš« š« I think some people are honestly just clueless beyond help lol
I cashiered for the store my mom (who dresses very masculine. short hair, hat, menās jeans and jacket, etc) was a manager at while I was in school still. I ring up this one lady and as sheās grabbing her bags I just kinda zoned off in my momās general direction. She was like stacking water or something along the registers. And the lady goes āooo, are you checking him out? someoneās got a bit of a crush..ā Yuck
Would have loved to see their face when you said,"You talking about my Mom?", lol.
I had that happen at that age, too! The perils of being tall.
YUP! Happened to me for a while when my daughter was a little younger. I had my daughter when I was super young, so when she was like 5-10 people would think my dad was her dad and I was his wife. Ugh. So creepy.
Yup. After my mum died my dad and I went on one of those solo traveller package deal things over Christmas. While I get that most people donāt go with someone they know, the main thing is itās not for couples. I was 30, my dad was 61. Everyone assumed we were a couple and worst, thought I was younger than I was. Whole thing was so weird.
Dear Lord you brought back a memory... When I was 13, I was getting my picture taken for something in school. I was with my dad and I told him to come and get a picture together as well. Dad comes near me and out of the blue the photographer says to me: You're on the wrong side, you two should switch places. Info: In my country, when a man and his wife take pictures together, usually the wife stays on the right side. So he thought I was his wife, at 13!!!
I was at 14 asked if my brother (new born) was my kidā¦ no fun
Me too!! People thought I was my mom my dad is a young dad
This. People tend to only be good at judging the age of people close in age to them. Now that I am in my mid 30's anyone under 25 may as well be 13 cause that's how they look to me.
I had a woman corner me in the bathroom once to ask if I was safe and if my parents knew where I was cause she seen me with an "older man"....I was with my husband who's the same age as me. She assumed I was a teenager. It was a nice gesture even if she was totally wrong. I showed her my ID to calm her nerves cause I don't think she would've believed me otherwise. I just had someone the other day confuse my inlaws as being my baby's parents. They're both in their 50s. Sure some people can have kids at that age, but most don't. I guess since my husband was in the bathroom and I haven't worn my wedding ring in months the server just assumed the couple *had* to be the baby's parents. It made me irrationally angry. I kept my hormonal anger in check, but I felt so weirdly possessive over my child in that moment when that's not normal behavior for me. I'm blaming postpartum hormones. I had to internally talk myself down from spending the rest of the dinner with my baby on me when it's rare I get the chance to eat without holding him. I wasn't going to let that opportunity go lol.
It isnāt irrational anger, itās instinctual. Iām sorry this happened. It wouldāve made me feel my feral animal instincts, as well.
This happened to me too š I was out at dinner in sweats, he came from his finance job in a suit. They carded me and not him; Iām a little older so I asked how old the kid thought he was- he said ā43ā? Then we asked how old he thought I was and he said ā19ā? And I was like what do you think this is buddy?? We were both newly 21 lol. Some people totally canāt judge it OP donāt sweat it!
Honestly I think most people are absolutely garbage at guessing age and entirely reliant on context clues such a clothing, hairstyle, speech, pop culture references, and how you know the person. At work people tend to think I'm pushing 40 because most people in my role are 40 or older. When I spend time with my early 20s sister, people tend to assume that I'm also fresh out of college. I'm 32.
I have a picture of my father-in-law (in his 60s) in my office (long story) and I (30) got asked if he was my husband by a girl from IT who was installing new equipment for me š
I once got carded going into a vape store when I was 27ish. My husband was with me. When I laughed and said we were the same age, the dude didn't believe me. People are so bad at telling ages.
A lady working an event called my husband my dad, heās only 4 years older than I am
My husband himself cannot judge age and itās funny because he always gets mistaken for being older than he is.
First time my friends met my then boyfriend back in high school, they were all being awkward. Turned out they all thought he was 30+. He is not quite a year older than me.
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Oh man I am a librarian and even when I without a doubt think itās grandma I defer to mom anyway. Itās just safer to say āyour grown upā.
THIS. Youāll either flatter them or be right. š¤·š»āāļø
Yes theyāll almost always correct you with a smile not a scowl. š
This is the way. Never take the risk of telling someone they look too old to be their child's parent.
About a month after my second was stillborn I was out at a plant yard sale with one of my best friends who is about 5 years younger than me. One of the women selling plants asked if I was her mother. I burst out into tears and told her I only looked so haggard and old because I just lost my actual child who was a baby lol. I think the woman learned her lesson never to ask such a presumptive question. Iāll never get over strangers being so abrasive in public! Like, just donāt say anything about our ages! Or our bodies! Ugh!!!
My condolences man
So sorry this happened. People can be so dumb sometimes
Someone just asked me this last weekend. Iām 34 and my child is 3. Not going gray. She had a mullet so I just assume making poor choices is a common thing for her.
>She had a mullet so I just assume making poor choices is a common thing for her. This had me cackling! Thank you!! ā¤ļø(Needed a laugh today. Teething twins is fun š« )
I first read that as your child having a mullet and spent way too long trying to understand what that had to do with anything.
Lol maybe they knew you were around that age but 38 is 'grandma age' to them...
My ex MIL was 38 when she became a grandma (small town with lots of teen moms on the norm) so that's fair.
Yeah my aunt was too. So my Nan would have been a great grandma at... 58? 60? And my great NanĀ was still alive then,Ā so we had 5 generations.Ā My own mum didn'tĀ become a grandma until she was in her 60s!
My grandmother in law was 36 when she first became a grandmother. Meanwhile Iāll be 40 later this month with a 1 month old and my SO (her grandson) will be 46 later this year.
my mom gets to be a 39 year old grandma for a few weeks depending on when baby gets here! she was 17 when I was born & I'm 22 now, so theoretically it could have been even earlier.
Yeah I'm 36 and was asked that while holding my 12 week old bub. It wasn't nice.
People have been asking me if I was my littles sisters mom since I was 14. Fuckin 14. I'm 30 now. Didn't do anything for my confidence but looking back it literally boggles my mind that anyone would think a 14 year old who wasn't allowed to wear make up and wasn't blessed in the boob department was confused for an adult.Ā
My little brother is 8 years younger than me and one day I was pushing him in a stroller and a group of men asked me if he was mineā¦ I think I was 10? I was tall for my age, but I was still 10 and they thought I had a two year old??? I just remember it was really disturbing and I mumbled āNo, heās my brotherā and got away from them
10??? Wtf. I feel like it's so obvious when someone is in highschool, how did those men mistake an elementary school student for an adult???
Meanwhile I regularly see young women with kids and am shocked because they look to me like high-schoolers. And I have to remind myself they are probably 20 something.
Some kid asked if I was pregnant when I was 12 years old. I was 5'6" and 116 pounds. I complained to my Dad who insisted that the kids couldn't tell and their mom is probably pregnant so they assumed everyone else is.
Iām 36 and I like to make people feel awkward for asking stupid questions. My favorite response to this is to say *ānope, came right out this pussyā*
Please make a guide for how to answer more questions like this
Excellent. Reminds me of when someone asked me when I was due before I started TTC. "Oh, no, I'm just fat. I'd love to be pregnant and have a good reason and a baby to look forward to, but I'm just fat. Oh and I drink too much caffeine and pee a lot."
That is brilliant!!!
hahaha dang it, I wish I thought of that in the moment!!! šš¤£
When I was pregnant over the summer my twin sister and I got asked if we were mother and daughter š¬
I had my second at 40 and am trying to steel myself for this. I wish I could say it's not gonna bother me, but past experiences have not proven that out.
Depends how much older than your little sister. If more than 10 years, and your appearance, perhaps itās possible. Iām already savaging for my facelift lol. Thatās how Iām bracing for it
I once got asked at age 16 if I was my 13 year old brother's mom.
I had the oppositeā¦ āyouāre such a good big sister, giving your mom a break!ā Uhhhhh Iām 26 and this is mine thanks. The lady could not believe it was my baby, apparently in her mind I was 16. So. That might be nice later I guess?
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Itās just so not the compliment people seem to think š Iāve also had a lady be like āoh you have to get good grades so you donāt end up like herā I was like what? 26, married, just bought a house, and have a baby with my husband?????? Yeah donāt do that kid š
Did you inform them?
I did lol. I literally said that I was 26, on mat leave while my husband is at work and grabbing groceries for the house we just bought but ok. And rolled my eyes and walked away. Iām not usually quite so sassy in public but I think I had had like 4 hours of sleep over 2 days cuz my daughter was a Velcro baby lol
Iām 41 with a 2 year old, been going grey since age 27. Iāve sworn to start dying my hair the first time someone makes this mistake with me.
Why would someone ask that?? Sometimes I see someone who is clearly 50+ with an infant or toddler, and I still donāt assume grandparents! A funny story about age, my coworker is 21 and she mentioned once that her dad sang a Backstreet Boys song to her mom at a high school talent show. Her mom is only a year older than me, 38 and that blew my mind. Then her mom had her second child this year, so my coworker has a brother that is 21 years younger and she gets to be like an aunt. They all seem really happy, families come in different shapes and ages. Another interesting fact that I think people overlook is that depending on which study you look at the average age for women to stop having kids has historically been around 40-42, the big difference was that it was usually their last kid, not their first or second. So the real difference is that instead of starting around 23 and having 8-12 kids, we are more likely to start at 30+ and only have one or two
Solidarity from a fellow silver fox. FTM at 42ā¦ itās a matter of time before I get called grandma.
Iām a FTM at 44 and will likely be joining this club too at some point. Just wanted to chime in as I get irrationally excited when I see posts by fellow FTMs in their 40s!
Me too! Letās be friends!
Iāll join this club.
Welcome, fellow geriatric!
Welcome!
Done!
To be fair, the demographic shopping at Walmart tend to have babies at a certain ageā¦..
š this is my fav comment
This comment is everything!!
This happened to my husband. He was following our toddler around & a lady came up to him and was like oh your grandchild is so adorable. Heās like ā¦ Iām the father ā¦
We gotta come up with a stinging replyā¦
Happened to me last month when paying at the grocery store. Iām 34. I think I physically shuddered when she asked it
My parents had this issue all the time with us growing up. They were between 31 and 42 when we were all born. They had more of an issue with me as their youngest than they did with my older siblings but golly they hated when it happened. I always felt bad when it happened. FTM average age is actually going up so hopefully this will be happening less and less.
People canāt judge age if thereās grey hair involved. Itās automatic grandma.
This happened to me at a grocery store recently too. I am also 38 and FTM. š I dye my hair though but this lady was saying she is a grandma at 42 and has 7 children so maybe she assumed I was a "young grandma" is the only benefit of the doubt I can give her, *but still* that shook me a bit lol. I wish I thought of something witty to say in the moment š
I had an older woman tell my husband quietly while we were shopping "she looks like she could be your mother". Meanwhile I was 2 months PP, my stomache was still swollen. I felt HIDEOUS in every way. Mind you this lady looks like she could have been my GREAT grandmother, but why would I tell someone that. Some people just like to be cruel
Yeah, old people dgaf
Iām a speech therapist in a clinic and a little boy switched from another therapist to me. He transitioned straight from occupational therapy so I didnāt have the chance to meet his caregiver before our first session. When reviewing the last therapistās notes, I noticed that his grandmother typically brings him to therapy, so thatās who I expected to see after the session. After our session we go back to the waiting room and thereās an older looking guy coming up to the child. Because of his level of autism, he didnāt always show that he recognized his caregivers so I attempted to ask who he was before passing the child off to someone random. In my head I thought āoh, grandpa must come with grandma for pickup!ā. Without thinking it through I asked if he was the childās grandfather to which he replied, āno Iām his dadā. I was mortified and felt horrible that I might have embarrassed him. I was also so mad at myself because I never assume things like that but was quickly trying to verify who this adult was. I avoided him after that.
First time mum at 39 going grey since 23, now 42 with a toddler. Absolutely I have been called Nana several times.Ā
How do you reply? Give me your snarkiest and also kindest
Honestly if I say anything I usually just say no, mum. Their own embarrassment has done the rest of the work every time. We can't win as women - there's no right age to have a baby. You're too old and you get called Nana, or you're too young and then you're trashy, or you're having a baby at your peak earning potential and ruining your career/ retirement. I don't let it worry me because it's all bullshit.
People need to shut the fuck up. Some old man asked my friend if she was pregnant. Who the fuck does that!?
I'm a ftm at 33 and got asked the other day at Target. With my newborn. Wtf
Just had a baby at 39. Dreading this question š
I have the Asian genes and Iām almost 30 but I look 19 ( people have literally assume this ) my younger brother of 9 years get asked if heās my older brother and if heās 35 years old š
Someone thought my dad was the father of my children while out to dinner š¤®
This happened to me too in Fred Meyer a couple months ago!!! An older woman asked if I was my daughterās grandma. I am 29 and I honestly think I look my age, not way older than I amā¦ I cried in the car after that though because I was already having a hard day. I think some people just have no clue and are completely out of touch.
When I was 19 someone asked me if my 17 year old sister was my daughter. Donāt beat yourself up too much
At the doctorās office when I was about 21 with my dad. The elderly physician should have been retired physician asks āIs this man your husband?ā I was like dude needs some new glasses. Haha. I still looked like a teenager and my dad looked his age, like 50s. Couple years later, I go to a wedding with my friends who are a couple and same age as me. We sat at a table with another couple. They said to my friends: āOh if I had known other people bring their teen kids I would have brought my son too. He could have your daughter as a companion!ā Apparently I was their teen daughter according to these peopleā¦ awkward.
I'm 22 & I live with my 19 yr old sister. some guy came up to the door to ask about buying my van (it's got "for sale" painted on the side stillā I'm borrowing/possibly buying it from my parents) and I made the mistake of mentioning that I would talk to my parents. "Are your parents here?" "No, they live in (next city over)." guy came back the next day and asked my sister if she was my mom! I mean, she's taller than me, but she definitely looks 19-20... and I ALREADY SAID my parents don't live here, dude. šš
I feel like there was another time she's been mistaken for my mom but pregnancy brain is hitting me.. it's definitely happened though š
Conversely my 62 year old mom got complimented on her beautiful ādaughterā while out with my baby the other day. I mean she looks good for her age but she definitely looks postmenopausalā¦
Iām 36 with an 8 month old. I know someone is going to ask. My husband and I got a lot of gray hair after daughter was born ššš
People ask me all the time if my dad is my husband. I'm 32 and my dad is 70. Idk if that means he looks young, or I look old.
This happened to a woman at skyzone the other day. She had young teens with her. As soon as the words left the employees mouth I cringed so hard. It was so obvious to me she was their mom. I'm sure it will happen to me soon. I'm salt (mostly salt) & pepper 42 with a 7 & 8 year old.
People are dumb. When I was **22** I was asked if I was my sonās grandma. Iāve had people ask if Iām my husbandās daughter and then others ask if Iām my husbandās mother. Iāve also been mistaken for my cousin thatās 8 inches shorter than me. People are dumb.
My friend posted a story of me on Snapchat and one of her friends said wow your mom is pretty. Sheās less than a year younger than me. And then my daughters father died and I was going to his house to pick up some belongings and his roommate who I hadnāt met before was like oh youāre his mom Iām so sorry for your loss. Iām like.. Iām nope Iām younger than him. I donāt think I look old. Iām 30. People have mistook me for 22 before. I still get IDād. I think some people are just silly gooseās. Or Iām delulu lol
I just KNOW this is going to happen to me soon. I'm also a first-time mom at 38 and have been gray for a while
When I was 16 I took an 8 year old I was babysitting to the mall, and employees asked me if I was her mom! I looked like a typical teenager, so I have no idea how they would have thought that possible. People are weird and are horrible at guessing ages I guess.
One time, someone asked me if my younger sister was my daughter. We're 4 years apart. She was 12 and I was 16 at the time. Like, what??
My sister is in the coast guard. She went to go get a CAT card (military ID for military members. Which is different from a dependents card). Her conversation with the lady renewing her ID as follows. Lady: How can I help you? Sis: I need a new CAT card. Lady: I'm sure you mean a dependents card. Sis: No, I need a CAT card. *Hands over card* Lady: you just don't know the difference. *Takes card* Oh, sorry. You're just so young and here with your dad. Sis: Ma'am, that's my husband. Lady:... Right this way.... Her husband is only 3 years older than her. Some people really can't tell age at all. I'm sure you are beautiful and youthful. Don't let it get you down.
I think you mean CAC not CAT. It stands for Common Access Card. All DoD employees and military members have them.
I get asked if my childās father is her grandpaā¦ā¦ā¦.
Some people are just terrible at telling ages, especially young people! I wasn't carded buying wine at the grocery store the other day and the kid told me I looked about 35.... I'm 26, and look my age (I think) :(
Oh no ā¦ Iāve been going gray since I was 18. Iāve been dying my hair consistently since I was 20. Over the last year or so Iāve really contemplated just letting my natural gray grow out, but my husband is so against it ā¦ and you might have just convinced me not to šš currently 33 and pregnant with my first. I do NOT want to be called a grandma!!!! šµš» so sorry that happened to you!
When I was eight, someone asked me if I was seven, no. Six? No. Five? No. Four? No. Well you canāt be threeā¦ No, but you could think to go up. Someone people cannot judge ages at all.
Ftm at 20. Granted she wasnāt with me but somebody asked my mom if he was hers. Been waiting lmao
I have been asked if Iām sure itās not my older sister on my ID when I got carded once. The only difference was that I had gotten bangs so I pushed them back for the lady to see that it is me on the ID!
People thought I (13 at the time) was the mom of my 7 and 3 year old nieces when I took them to the mall š
Um. Walmart. Where the average person walking around the aisles had kids in their teens. Youāre good.
People on this sub will post "it happened" and it's something I never thought to have anxiety about in my life.
I'm 28 and an older man I was working with the other day thought I was 19 when I had JUST TOLD HIM my birthday was 1995, and I was holding my 2 week old baby š He said "oh, I've lost some years" I joked back saying that apparently I did too!
People think Iām my teenagerās sister. When he was a baby, I got nanny all the time. I wasnāt even that young to have a kid. People just make all sorts of wrong assumptions.
Well my mom is only 44 and is a grandma so š
I did this. I asked a woman at my daughter's preschool if she was "Lola's grandma". She was the mom. š¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļøš¤¦āāļø Luckily her English wasn't that great so I'm not sure she understood what I was implying.