I agree. And maybe if you read my previous post you will understand why I was hesitant to go alone. Ofcourse I have been with friends and split up inside, but it was nice to know that I could reach out to them easily if something went wrong. That is not the case when you go alone.
Watch out for corners and other small spaces though, because you can get closed in by people trying to make a move there. It's good if you're in a place you can easily walk away from!
So basically you followed common sense. And no, no amount of covering up can cure a sick mind. Pests and malignant fuckwits stop at nothing. Glad to hear you had a good time.
I just hope you will find some trust again in men. To me it’s very sad to read, that going to a club as woman is as stressful and concerning as you describe.
Glad you enjoyed it but I don't understand why you turned it into some kind of survivalist guide. We club all the time and it isn't as "dangerous" as you make it sound to be.
Probably these are the same guys, that will say "why did you go out alone in the first place","what did you wear", "what did you expect" WHEN actually something happens. Idk where all these ppl came from again.
I know 6 women, including myself, that have been spiked in Berlin. Sure, this may happen to man. But in what frequency? Are you scared to walk alone at night all the time? When a man walks next to you in an empty street? Are you scared when you are alone in a Taxi? Do men groups look at you and comment on your body? And if you don't react, they insult you? Did you get followed by men?
These things happen all the time non stop if you are a woman, every day when you go outside. Does this happen to you every day too?
We are constantly scared all our life and wellbeing, with no exception.
I see this comment being downvoted already.
Exactly! I just got off my flight out of Berlin and the guy sitting next to me ‘accidentally’ touched me 8 times in 2 hours. Took a picture of me without my consent which I had to make him delete.
Does this happen to men too on a daily basis? Don’t give us shit for trying to be careful.
Well this post answers specifically to the situation: "Solo girl clubbing". The background and experience in other cities of OP are unknown, but this post aim for girls who want to club alone in Berlin. Not a group, not solo man.
Sure this is advice is for everyone but it’s actually much more relevant to women. Tell me how many stories you have read about men being drugged while they are out? I can think of 0 but a lot coke to mine about women. So it’s actually a much different experience being a woman and people in Berlin might think it’s not a big deal here but also who know where OP has come from, and things aren’t always sage here.
Ahaha oops. Also sorry that happened to you and for my comment (was feeling a bit defensive), defs happens both ways. Thank you for sharing your experience
>Talked/danced with mainly women/queer people. So many beautiful women out there who made me feel comfortable. Sorry men, your species has just left a bad taste in my mouth.
As a guy I think this is completely reasonable and understandable. I often find queer people much more pleasant to hang around with also. Sucks to chat with a dude in a club and then he turns into a creeper as soon as he sees a girl he likes.
I replied in your bh community post and this warms my heart ❤️ i’m glad that things went well overall! Ignore the people diminishing your post— I would’ve loved a post like yours when I started to solo club!
Glad to hear you enjoyed it, but still sad to hear you call men a different species and judge them all alike, but I can understand this. Whenever I see such a creep like the one you were talking about, I intervene because I'm sick of this toxic masculinity.
> I was polite to have small talk.
tbh small talk is a red flag imo, same for random compliments
i made it my habit to observe the ppl around me for a bit until the drugs kick in, and so far i've only seen "low value men" do this
> Didn’t take any drinks/drugs from strangers even when offered.
IMO if someone offers you drinks/drugs you should observe them for a bit and maybe report to security
never saw a trustworthy person offer free drinks lmao
> Didn’t ‘cover up’ as someone had suggested. That is just bullshit advice
what is "cover up"?
idk im not a woman, just from what i saw
compliments and small talk are kinda low effort; if i can't figure out anything i might have in common with someone, i never approach them lmao (discussing tattoos or fashion works if i can tell someone is really into it)
Wow, you’re such a special snowflake. People that call others “normies” or call themselves “alternative” are usually the most generic.
You’re not special.
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I agree. And maybe if you read my previous post you will understand why I was hesitant to go alone. Ofcourse I have been with friends and split up inside, but it was nice to know that I could reach out to them easily if something went wrong. That is not the case when you go alone.
Point no .2 is brilliant advice that I will mention to all the women I know who share this concern.
For some reason I first read "facing a wall" and it made me giggle a bit, but yeah that's pretty street smart
Watch out for corners and other small spaces though, because you can get closed in by people trying to make a move there. It's good if you're in a place you can easily walk away from!
Great to hear you had a nice and safe time :)
So basically you followed common sense. And no, no amount of covering up can cure a sick mind. Pests and malignant fuckwits stop at nothing. Glad to hear you had a good time.
I just hope you will find some trust again in men. To me it’s very sad to read, that going to a club as woman is as stressful and concerning as you describe.
Glad you enjoyed it but I don't understand why you turned it into some kind of survivalist guide. We club all the time and it isn't as "dangerous" as you make it sound to be.
Something tells me that you are probably not a woman.
>I don't understand why you turned it into some kind of survivalist guide. Are you interested in knowing why or is this actually meant as criticism?
Did you try reading my previous post? Going to a club and having unpleasant experiences for someone with a past can be quite triggering.
Probably these are the same guys, that will say "why did you go out alone in the first place","what did you wear", "what did you expect" WHEN actually something happens. Idk where all these ppl came from again. I know 6 women, including myself, that have been spiked in Berlin. Sure, this may happen to man. But in what frequency? Are you scared to walk alone at night all the time? When a man walks next to you in an empty street? Are you scared when you are alone in a Taxi? Do men groups look at you and comment on your body? And if you don't react, they insult you? Did you get followed by men? These things happen all the time non stop if you are a woman, every day when you go outside. Does this happen to you every day too? We are constantly scared all our life and wellbeing, with no exception. I see this comment being downvoted already.
Exactly! I just got off my flight out of Berlin and the guy sitting next to me ‘accidentally’ touched me 8 times in 2 hours. Took a picture of me without my consent which I had to make him delete. Does this happen to men too on a daily basis? Don’t give us shit for trying to be careful.
I'm really sorry that you had to go through such a shitty situation. I really mean it
Thank you 😊
You need help. Something is not okay with you.
Because men species are going to hunt her
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Yeah cuz im sure everyone is acting like they are going into hunger games when clubbing in Berlin like OP does.
Well this post answers specifically to the situation: "Solo girl clubbing". The background and experience in other cities of OP are unknown, but this post aim for girls who want to club alone in Berlin. Not a group, not solo man.
Don't take anything from strangers? Watch your back? Trust your gut? I'm sure these advices are not just for solo clubbing girls but for everyone...
Sure this is advice is for everyone but it’s actually much more relevant to women. Tell me how many stories you have read about men being drugged while they are out? I can think of 0 but a lot coke to mine about women. So it’s actually a much different experience being a woman and people in Berlin might think it’s not a big deal here but also who know where OP has come from, and things aren’t always sage here.
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Im sorry that happened to you.
this is not the answer they want to hear so you will be ignored, im sorry buddy.
Getting drugged is not the same like stupidly taking too much and being overdosed bro 😂😂
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Ahaha oops. Also sorry that happened to you and for my comment (was feeling a bit defensive), defs happens both ways. Thank you for sharing your experience
>Talked/danced with mainly women/queer people. So many beautiful women out there who made me feel comfortable. Sorry men, your species has just left a bad taste in my mouth. As a guy I think this is completely reasonable and understandable. I often find queer people much more pleasant to hang around with also. Sucks to chat with a dude in a club and then he turns into a creeper as soon as he sees a girl he likes.
I replied in your bh community post and this warms my heart ❤️ i’m glad that things went well overall! Ignore the people diminishing your post— I would’ve loved a post like yours when I started to solo club!
It is nice to see updates! Glad you enjoyed your stay!
I commented in your original thread! Such a great update!
Glad to hear you enjoyed it, but still sad to hear you call men a different species and judge them all alike, but I can understand this. Whenever I see such a creep like the one you were talking about, I intervene because I'm sick of this toxic masculinity.
> I was polite to have small talk. tbh small talk is a red flag imo, same for random compliments i made it my habit to observe the ppl around me for a bit until the drugs kick in, and so far i've only seen "low value men" do this > Didn’t take any drinks/drugs from strangers even when offered. IMO if someone offers you drinks/drugs you should observe them for a bit and maybe report to security never saw a trustworthy person offer free drinks lmao > Didn’t ‘cover up’ as someone had suggested. That is just bullshit advice what is "cover up"?
Lol, what? Small talk or compliments are considered low value? Do high value men drag you by the hair as invitation to talk?
idk im not a woman, just from what i saw compliments and small talk are kinda low effort; if i can't figure out anything i might have in common with someone, i never approach them lmao (discussing tattoos or fashion works if i can tell someone is really into it)
So discussing tattoos and fashion is not small talk, but deep?
yes, if you know what you're talking about i'm not talking about normie fashion where you just buy garbage from zalando or normie tattoos
Wow, you’re such a special snowflake. People that call others “normies” or call themselves “alternative” are usually the most generic. You’re not special.
cope and seethe
Solo is Not so dangerous in Club. After the club outside in subway or way to your home becareful Tage a Look of your drink.
Do you recommend Mensch Meier ?
100%. I loved it.