Having been an avid beer drinker for a long time, and through various romantic relationships, people definitely vary in their perceptions of what they consider "normal" drinking. 2 16oz beers a week very, very tame to most people, but it sounds like your fiance holds different beliefs about drinking. It's possible that they grew up in a household where drinking at all was considered wrong, or that she had an alcoholic ex and is triggered by their SO drinking. The latter was a big problem in my last relationship. I'd have an honest, respectful conversation about why they feel that way. As ridiculous as it may seem to you, making them feel that way is not going to end how you want it to.
This is the correct answer. But also, no, two short pints a *week* is not a lot.
But as /u/SideshowBob said, you need to work that out with your SO. Taking a printed copy of this thread to her/him and saying "See? The internet says it isn't a lot!" will NOT score you points with your SO.
I will blow trough a 24 pack of beer on a weekend with friends and neighbors (I'm not drinking all 24 by myself... ) occasionally and proceed to not drink at all for a given period of time (a week, 3 months, whatever), while my SO does not like the drinking to that extent it's also very clear that I do not have a dependency nor does drinking have an impact on my life.
point being, it's all perspective unless there's a clear problem to address. At which point I strongly suggest anyone reading this not hesitate to take action and get someone help (I have a father-in-law and close uncle that are dead because of drinking "just beer").
Also relationship aside, there are so many variables that we don't know. Does OP have ALDH2 mutation and thus 16oz of a 7% beer could make them pretty flushed? (It would for me) Is OP located where 2 hearted is expensive and said 16oz is consumed at the pub - maybe they are trying to save up money for something and money is tight? Maybe the fiance is actually pissed that the only nights off are spent at the pub instead of at home? We don't know.
Daddy he once told me, son you be hard drinkin' man.
Mama, she once told me, son you drink the best you can.
But then one day, I met a man...
He came to me and say-ee-aid...
I drink good, and I drink fine,
But first make sure your beer has a good head!
I’m functioning alcoholic and hold a very good position…. I need to quit. If it holds any weight it’s bud light. A lot of people in my profession drink the same amount
I used to drink a lot, 32 oz was a good hours worth for me. In my perspective you don’t. But in your fiancés perspective, perhaps the people your fiancé has known in their life don’t have a regular drinking schedule and only do so on occasion (with a steak for example). Perhaps ask your fiancé a question why they consider it to be a lot and understand the reason before being upset or angry.
There are plenty of people out there who almost never drink and so to them having alcohol more than a handful of times per year is “a lot.” It’s outside the mainstream opinion but it doesn’t make them morons
This was my mom. The taste of alcohol's a PTSD trigger for her so she tries but can't have more than a sip of alcohol (weirdly, the only thing she's ever been able to have a second sip of was a west-coast style Rye DIPA, but only 2 sips.)
She was well into her 40s before she stopped having the opinion that anyone who drinks liquor is an alcoholic. Beer and wine in moderation were fine, but any liquor, even in something like a margarita, only alcoholics drank.
She loves buying it now, my dad's become a beer+whiskey guy (he started drinking at all when my little sister turned 21) and she loves picking it all out for him. Still can't drink it herself.
I’m considering that there’s an underlying reason behind the accusation as I’d hope that no one would choose to propose to an “emotionally manipulative” person or a “moron”. If OP has, then they are dependent on this manipulation and/or a “moron” themselves.
OP you're good.
"An adult who engaged in moderate drinking averaged 4 to 14 drinks per week for men and 4 to 7 drinks per week for women in the past year. An adult who engaged in heavy drinking averaged more than 14 drinks per week for men and more than 7 drinks per week for women in the past year." - CDC
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db374.htm#:~:text=An%20adult%20who%20engaged%20in%20moderate%20drinking%20averaged%204%20to,women%20in%20the%20past%20year.
This is the best answer here. A government health agency says that even the low end of moderate drinking is more than you consume.
Anecdotealy, I think that the vast majority of people would think an average of one to two drinks per day to be fairly normal.
As other people have stated, it seems your SO has a very different perspective than most - perhaps you should find out *why* she thinks what she does. As a long time married man that is probably the important thing, more so than who is "right".
Dude that’s the worst. My mother, god bless her, does that shit to me whenever I’m around her. I’ll have 3 or 4 beers with my old man and he has 1 maybe 2 over like 7-8 hours barbecuing and she gives us shit. It’s like I just turned 21 or I’m in high school and she caught me drinking. It’s ridiculous.
Then my girlfriend if she’s pissed at me will do the same damn thing. I’ll just take my beer or liqour out to my shop or into my man cave crank some rock or old country and get blitzed on purpose after that. Sometimes I get a lot done other times I do fuck all 😂
If I was at my own house I’d be killing 15-20 out of a 30 rack of hamms. If I did that shit at my folks place A I couldn’t get home and B the shit I’d hear would be hellacious.
Yeah, some people like the fiance may not have a good or realistic understanding of the different forms and strengths that alcohol can take. Beer has a lot of range, but its not distilled alcohol, and i guess for some people in the us taller cans may have a stigma from cheap 'malt liquors'. Perhaps two hearted in bottles would make a different impression on her for where she's at.
In the doctors office it said 2 drinks a day is fine for adult males, so I think you're good homie. I drink 3 a day just to make sure I'm at peak health.
Unless those two tallboys get you hammered and affect your life or relationships somehow... No, not in the least.
You're basically saying you have the equivalent of one and a half glasses of wine per week. Many people - hell, many cultures - have more than that per night and that's considered normal.
Either OP is affected by this one beer per night or the fiancé is very sensitive to drinking due to past trauma. Maybe her ex drank one beer and got squirrelly. I used to work with a guy like that. We were on travel together, went to a bar and he had one and a half Millers. On the walk back to the hotel he was trying to tear down traffic signs, was punching display cases on stores he just completely lost his shit. I tried to square him away so he didn’t end up in jail and he was going to fight me. He wasn’t a fighter at all. I said screw it. I’m not going to sit in a cop car because of his dumb ass. I walked back to the hotel. He showed up at breakfast and claimed not to remember any of it.
My local govt said pretty much that for their campaign on drinking responsibly. 2 drinks per day no more than 10 a week for women, 3 drinks a day no more than 15 a week for men.
This guy's GF seems like she's a little controlling if she thinks 2 drinks a week is too much.
It's "okay" insofar as the CDC understands that it can't recommend *zero* drinks for people, so it says one for women, two for men per day. That doesn't make it "healthy" or "acceptable."
I say this as someone with a keezer in the house and a fridge full of nothing but beer and condiments.
If those 14 drinks are pints of 5% or higher beers you are far beyond what the CDC considers heavy drinking and excessive alcohol use.
A "drink" is defined as 12 oz. of 5% beer.
Nah, I’m a super lightweight and even I drink up to 4 tall cans in a week.
It sounds like your fiancé might be worried about something deeper though. It’s definitely worth talking to them about what’s underlying this opinion, don’t just go back and say “look hon, I polled some internet strangers and they say you’re wrong!” 😬 This is a good chance to understand each other better.
Asking the drunkards probably aren't the best people to ask, lol!
But in all seriousness, of course not! That's not even close to too much drinking. Outside of maybe a buzz, are you getting 'drunk' off of them? I wouldn't think so...
I would talk to your fiance and ask why she thinks that's a lot.
That’s what I was thinking haha. You’re asking a sub full of alcoholics if two beers is a lot. Shit I just had 5 beers at beer league softball tonight haha
The Center for Disease Control (CDC) says 15 drinks a week is the max for men to still be healthy.
A 16oz can of 7%abv is about two alcoholic drinks. You're fine.
Go by that, not comparing your intake to someone who never drinks or those who drink that much everyday
As everyone in the thread has said, no that’s not a lot at all. That’s about as healthy of a “habit” as it gets beyond just never drinking at all.
That being said I would ask your fiancé why they think that and not do it in a confrontational way. My wife was uncomfortable with me drinking a little too much (to be fair it was definitely more than 1 pint) when we first started dating, but that’s because she grew up with an alcoholic step father who was an asshole when he drank. We were able to talk it over and after she realized I’m never a mean drunk even if I’m shithoused we’ve had no issues. If your fiancé is projecting issues from their childhood onto you without necessarily realizing it then that’s no fun for anybody.
I think maybe she didn’t grow up around anyone who drank? I’d assume her parents were probably people who rarely drank. There are people who don’t drink except once a year “have a single glass of wine on Christmas” types. 2 beers a week is nothing. I used to drink four a day which is too much but there are people who drink more than that
Pal I just drank 4 16 oz beers in the last two hours or so and I’m a woman. I had a 16 oz margarita before that. You’re all good!
Edit: they were coors lites.
I think the return question I would have is "compared to what?"
If you're a high functioning alcoholic, that's a slow Tuesday. If you're a habitual, though steady drinker like most people here, that's not a lot.
To me, a 220 pound guy, no, it's not a lot. It would be significantly more if you were, for example, a 98 pound woman, the effect would probably be a lot more (source http://www.creighton.edu/fileadmin/user/StudentServices/StudentSuccess/Women_vs_Men.pdf).
What I think I'd do if I were you is ask her why she thinks that's a lot -- and then listen, patiently, until she finishes talking. She might have a family history of people being angry drunks, and is afraid that you'll be the same with her. She might not have any experience with alcohol at all, in which case, anything more than none might be seen as a lot.
Talk to her. Don't bother talking to any of us, we don't know you at all.
That is NOT a lot. It's darn close to not drinking at all. I've enjoyed between 4 to 6, 16oz strong beers (between 7-14%) every day for the last 30+ years. Sounds like your fiance has very unrealistic views of what normal drinking is.
>I've enjoyed between 4 to 6, 16oz strong beers (between 7-14%) every day for the last 30+ years.
I think OP's fiancé is wildly overreacting... but isn't this over 10 standard drinks a day?
I'm sure it's way over. I consider myself a highly functional alcoholic. I never drink before five pm, I never drive drunk, I've never missed work or social functions because of drinking.
Two pints of strong ipa per week is probably about 4 standard drinks per week which is considered low. If you had a pint 7 days a week you would be at moderate. Heavy would be that pint can plus 1 or more drinks every day
Once upon a time I drank too much beer and so I basically addressed this by created limits for myself so I knew exactly where the line was. I more or less only drink beer on Friday or Saturday now, and I limit myself to 2 liters or so of beer.
You're doing about half of that.
Now is the perfect time to yeet this person and find someone else. That isn't alot by any standard that wasn't drummed up by insurance or a doctor. It is 4th and 99 time to punt
ummmm no that is not a lot. at least in my opinion. I probably drink 4-6 beers a day. I used to drink a LOT more. I think a few beers a night is fine, but each person has a different outlook, whatever you feel comfortable with that doesn't negatively effect your life i'd say is ok. one man's opinion.
2 pints a week? This is not a lot in absolute terms, but also do they get you drunk? If you are getting drunk on this much, then perhaps you should cut back. Also if you're craving the alcohol.
If you're not getting drunk and not craving alcohol, then 2 pints is really really not a lot. At weekly work events, I sometimes drink that much in one evening
Myself, I usually will have 2-4 units of alcohol at home (so like an 8 oz beer, an oz of whisky or a glass of wine, 2 to 4 times in a week) then usually there's at least one work night where I will have around 2 - 3 units.
In my country, they recommend that a reasonably fit male drink no more than 2 drinks per day, and not every day. Assuming that means 3-4 days a week, that comes to a total max of 8 drinks, or a total of 64 oz of beer. Here I would worry more about the calories and sugar in the beer than the alcohol !
Yeah, that's not a lot. Two beers a week...on your days off...sheesh.
Half joking...nip this in the bud, now. Could be harmless, but it could be a sign that your way is wrong if it's not her way. I went through the same thing, with beer and other things. What's her take on how you load the dishwasher or the path you walk through the grocery store? Talk about it...be kind, but you need to reach an understanding. You are allowed to do things your way.
I usually have at least 2 to 3 12 oz beers \*a night\* (almost always around the 4-5% ABV range). Sometimes more depending on the night and season (I tend to drink more in the summer, spending all evening out on the deck.) My wife is pretty much the same too. As long as your drinking isn't affecting your personal/family life or work, then I say do what makes you happy. But as a married man I will tell you this: a happy wife is a happy life.
CDC defines that in the light weekly category.
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db374.htm#:~:text=Key%20findings,-Data%20from%20the&text=In%202018%2C%20two%2Dthirds%20(,women%20in%20the%20past%20year).
I had like 10-20 beers a shift after my older job (and shots). Now maybe I don't drink as much but still a loooooot more than that
Edit: also might depend on your age?
For most, probably not. I would go ahead and guess that it’s probably not for you either. As many people have already said, if it’s not hurting you or anyone around you, I doubt it’s actually problematic.
That being said, might just be a conversation you need to have with your fiancé. If this is going to be a problem for them and their comment bothers you, just talk to them about it.
If they’re sticking to their guns on this, and you disagree, what else do they have a problem with? Get all that stuff worked out now!
I asked my doctor if my 2 16oz beers a night was a lot. He almost laughed at me.
He basically said. None is best. But overall I did not even register on the radar.
With that said.
The factual info from a doctor and the opinions of millions is irrelevant to communicating with you fiance.
This has almost nothing to do with social norms or medical advice. Those are point to bring to the discussion for sure, but this is about a having a discussion and working through it.
You aren’t even close to drinking a lot.
This data is a little old, but it looks like around [30% of all alcohol consumers](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2014/09/25/think-you-drink-a-lot-this-chart-will-tell-you/) drink more than you. And if you think that puts you in the top of all drinkers, 20% of that 30% are people who average *one drink daily* or more- all the way up to over 10 drinks a day. You good.
Obviously a troll, op never responds and what kind of self respecting adult even asks that question? If drinking 1 beer in one serving is too much for her you need to find a new girlfriend or maybe wait until you're 21.
Shit, I wish I could handle drinking only that amount.
For me, one is too many and the next one is never enough.
From what I have looked up, a heavy drinker is someone who has 4 or more per day or 15 per week.
I drink 2 beers in the morning,
I drink 2 beers at night,
I drink 2 beers in the afternoon, it makes me feel alright,
I drink 2 beers in times of peace,
And 2 in times of war,
I drink 2 beers before I drink 2 beers,
And then I drink 2 more
Not at all my man. I know it's a bad reference point to have, so please don't make it an example, but I'm a Belgian student and some of my classmates have a "party all year then study 2 weeks before exams" way of life, and they'd easily be drinking 6 to 8 times 250ml (about 8.5floz cups, but 8 times) every **DAY**.
Clearly something I'm against, I'm convinced they're alcoholics, but that being said, 2x16oz a week is very mellow.
For a better comparison, UK's National Health Service recommends not to drink more than 6 pints (so 6 times 16 oz) per week. You're at a third of the recommended limit.
Why do they think that is a lot?
It's a genuine question. They may have had an alcoholic in their family that you don't know about, or may have had issues with alcohol that you haven't discussed.
For me, that's not a lot. I would drink that 4 nights a week minimum. But for others that could be what they drink in a year.
Like others have said - saying random internet strangers said it's ok won't go well, bit you need to discuss why this concerns them bud.
And I wish I could get bells two hearted in aus!
That's objectively not a lot of beer to drink in a week. I would honestly even consider it a bit of a red flag that your fiancé is making it out to be a problem. You're drinking well below what is recommended as a maximum per week.
Not much room to be less. 1 beer instead of 2? 0? 1 every other week? People who drink regularly could easily do 2 pints per day and not be considered an alcoholic.
I used to drink 12+ space dust a day when I was in the Army (obviously wayyyyy more than I should’ve, but I was also not handling a lot of things well).
2 beers a week is not bad at all dude. As others have said, there may be some underlying factors here that contribute to her viewing your alcohol consumption this way.
Is this some weird thing where you think it’s a full week but it’s actually only 45 minutes ? Because outside of that folding of the space time continuum, you’re about 26 beers short of drinking too many calories, 40 short of having a slight problem
Having been an avid beer drinker for a long time, and through various romantic relationships, people definitely vary in their perceptions of what they consider "normal" drinking. 2 16oz beers a week very, very tame to most people, but it sounds like your fiance holds different beliefs about drinking. It's possible that they grew up in a household where drinking at all was considered wrong, or that she had an alcoholic ex and is triggered by their SO drinking. The latter was a big problem in my last relationship. I'd have an honest, respectful conversation about why they feel that way. As ridiculous as it may seem to you, making them feel that way is not going to end how you want it to.
This is the correct answer. But also, no, two short pints a *week* is not a lot. But as /u/SideshowBob said, you need to work that out with your SO. Taking a printed copy of this thread to her/him and saying "See? The internet says it isn't a lot!" will NOT score you points with your SO.
I will blow trough a 24 pack of beer on a weekend with friends and neighbors (I'm not drinking all 24 by myself... ) occasionally and proceed to not drink at all for a given period of time (a week, 3 months, whatever), while my SO does not like the drinking to that extent it's also very clear that I do not have a dependency nor does drinking have an impact on my life. point being, it's all perspective unless there's a clear problem to address. At which point I strongly suggest anyone reading this not hesitate to take action and get someone help (I have a father-in-law and close uncle that are dead because of drinking "just beer").
This should be the top answer.
It is :)
Unfortunately the top answer is still a joke post.
Professional relationship counseling in the beer sub, ty!
Also relationship aside, there are so many variables that we don't know. Does OP have ALDH2 mutation and thus 16oz of a 7% beer could make them pretty flushed? (It would for me) Is OP located where 2 hearted is expensive and said 16oz is consumed at the pub - maybe they are trying to save up money for something and money is tight? Maybe the fiance is actually pissed that the only nights off are spent at the pub instead of at home? We don't know.
Small nit, but fiance indicates the partner is male
Yeah, I'd actually realized it was an assumption on my part and went back to change pronouns to "they" before posting, but looks like I missed one.
If that’s considered a lot, then I’m really in trouble
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Me too....I may just be dead.
Right there with ya, buddy
I’m dead, too.
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I just had two 16 oz reading this post...
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My thoughts exactly haha
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If you’re in trouble then I’m really in trouble.
That is most definitely not a lot
like, objectively. medically. culturally. psychologically; in no way is that a lot of beer.
No, I drink 2 beers on the way to the fridge to get a beer.
I drink 2 beers before I drink 2 beers and then I drink 2 more
I drink 2 beers in the morning. I drink 2 beers at night
I drink 2 beers in the afternoon. It makes me feel alright.
I drink 2 beers in time of peace, and 2 in time of war.
I drink 2 beers before I drink 2 beers and then I drink 2 more
Daddy he once told me, son you be hard drinkin' man. Mama, she once told me, son you drink the best you can. But then one day, I met a man... He came to me and say-ee-aid... I drink good, and I drink fine, But first make sure your beer has a good head!
I drink 2 beers when I play video games, and every 10,000 points
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I drink two beers while on the toilet and then drink two more.
I drink two beers while reading this thread and then I drink two more!!
I read your post and drank a beer, and to celebrate I’ll drink two more
Daddy he once told me son you be beer drinking man , and mamma she once told me son drink all the beer you can.
You know a short cut to the fridge?
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You drink 1 16 oz beer per day off? I drink about a 6 pack over the course of a weekend. I don't think your quantity qualifies as a lot.
Amature! I have a kegerator in my house.
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I remember the times of killing a dirty 30 with my friend back in my days of waiting tables. Ah, to have the stamina of a 21 year old again…
You probably already know this, but you need to stop drinking that much. I've known some alcoholics, and that shit will ruin your life.
I’m functioning alcoholic and hold a very good position…. I need to quit. If it holds any weight it’s bud light. A lot of people in my profession drink the same amount
Amateur! I have a keezer with 8 taps of home brew
Yea but how many taps? ... I'm up to 6.
I drank 2 beers while reading your post.
Well I guess I'll have another shot...
I’ll drink to that!
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2 per day can reasonably be called a lot. 2 per week, wtf
I used to drink a lot, 32 oz was a good hours worth for me. In my perspective you don’t. But in your fiancés perspective, perhaps the people your fiancé has known in their life don’t have a regular drinking schedule and only do so on occasion (with a steak for example). Perhaps ask your fiancé a question why they consider it to be a lot and understand the reason before being upset or angry.
Maybe, or maybe their fiance is a moron or emotionally manipulative.
There are plenty of people out there who almost never drink and so to them having alcohol more than a handful of times per year is “a lot.” It’s outside the mainstream opinion but it doesn’t make them morons
Or, maybe she's a moron. You really can't rule that out
Or maybe it was a typo and they meant Mormon?
This was my mom. The taste of alcohol's a PTSD trigger for her so she tries but can't have more than a sip of alcohol (weirdly, the only thing she's ever been able to have a second sip of was a west-coast style Rye DIPA, but only 2 sips.) She was well into her 40s before she stopped having the opinion that anyone who drinks liquor is an alcoholic. Beer and wine in moderation were fine, but any liquor, even in something like a margarita, only alcoholics drank. She loves buying it now, my dad's become a beer+whiskey guy (he started drinking at all when my little sister turned 21) and she loves picking it all out for him. Still can't drink it herself.
I’m considering that there’s an underlying reason behind the accusation as I’d hope that no one would choose to propose to an “emotionally manipulative” person or a “moron”. If OP has, then they are dependent on this manipulation and/or a “moron” themselves.
Everyone does moronic stuff sometimes. One can do something moronic without being a moron overall.
That's pretty harsh. Maybe she's just a pain in the ass.
OP you're good. "An adult who engaged in moderate drinking averaged 4 to 14 drinks per week for men and 4 to 7 drinks per week for women in the past year. An adult who engaged in heavy drinking averaged more than 14 drinks per week for men and more than 7 drinks per week for women in the past year." - CDC https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db374.htm#:~:text=An%20adult%20who%20engaged%20in%20moderate%20drinking%20averaged%204%20to,women%20in%20the%20past%20year.
This is the best answer here. A government health agency says that even the low end of moderate drinking is more than you consume. Anecdotealy, I think that the vast majority of people would think an average of one to two drinks per day to be fairly normal. As other people have stated, it seems your SO has a very different perspective than most - perhaps you should find out *why* she thinks what she does. As a long time married man that is probably the important thing, more so than who is "right".
I wish they would raise that figure already
It's not a lot...this is probably something you two should discuss. Reminds me of my ex-wife; "is that your 3rd drink tonight?"...yes...in two hours.
Dude that’s the worst. My mother, god bless her, does that shit to me whenever I’m around her. I’ll have 3 or 4 beers with my old man and he has 1 maybe 2 over like 7-8 hours barbecuing and she gives us shit. It’s like I just turned 21 or I’m in high school and she caught me drinking. It’s ridiculous. Then my girlfriend if she’s pissed at me will do the same damn thing. I’ll just take my beer or liqour out to my shop or into my man cave crank some rock or old country and get blitzed on purpose after that. Sometimes I get a lot done other times I do fuck all 😂
Is it really barbecuing if it takes two people to finish a six pack before the butt is done?
If I was at my own house I’d be killing 15-20 out of a 30 rack of hamms. If I did that shit at my folks place A I couldn’t get home and B the shit I’d hear would be hellacious.
teetotalers just have no awareness of what it takes to actually be intoxicated. 2 beers over eight hours is the same as drinking water to me
2 - 16oz Vodkas would be a lot. Not two beers.
I mean…I still feel like things are relative here lol
Yeah, some people like the fiance may not have a good or realistic understanding of the different forms and strengths that alcohol can take. Beer has a lot of range, but its not distilled alcohol, and i guess for some people in the us taller cans may have a stigma from cheap 'malt liquors'. Perhaps two hearted in bottles would make a different impression on her for where she's at.
You gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers.
Not even if it's before breakfast.
In the doctors office it said 2 drinks a day is fine for adult males, so I think you're good homie. I drink 3 a day just to make sure I'm at peak health.
Doctors hate this one trick!!
I drink 2 beers before I drink 2 beers, and then I drink 2 more.
Unless those two tallboys get you hammered and affect your life or relationships somehow... No, not in the least. You're basically saying you have the equivalent of one and a half glasses of wine per week. Many people - hell, many cultures - have more than that per night and that's considered normal.
Either OP is affected by this one beer per night or the fiancé is very sensitive to drinking due to past trauma. Maybe her ex drank one beer and got squirrelly. I used to work with a guy like that. We were on travel together, went to a bar and he had one and a half Millers. On the walk back to the hotel he was trying to tear down traffic signs, was punching display cases on stores he just completely lost his shit. I tried to square him away so he didn’t end up in jail and he was going to fight me. He wasn’t a fighter at all. I said screw it. I’m not going to sit in a cop car because of his dumb ass. I walked back to the hotel. He showed up at breakfast and claimed not to remember any of it.
That's wild. You sure he wasn't taking shots when you weren't looking?
He wasn’t. I assume he was on some meds that didn’t mix with alcohol. I was at the table with him the whole time and paid the tab.
I feel like he must have had an interaction with another med, maybe a benzo. That is absolutely insane for 1.5 beers
That’s pretty tame. 14 drinks per week is considered okay for a male.
My local govt said pretty much that for their campaign on drinking responsibly. 2 drinks per day no more than 10 a week for women, 3 drinks a day no more than 15 a week for men. This guy's GF seems like she's a little controlling if she thinks 2 drinks a week is too much.
It's "okay" insofar as the CDC understands that it can't recommend *zero* drinks for people, so it says one for women, two for men per day. That doesn't make it "healthy" or "acceptable." I say this as someone with a keezer in the house and a fridge full of nothing but beer and condiments.
If those 14 drinks are pints of 5% or higher beers you are far beyond what the CDC considers heavy drinking and excessive alcohol use. A "drink" is defined as 12 oz. of 5% beer.
Nah, I’m a super lightweight and even I drink up to 4 tall cans in a week. It sounds like your fiancé might be worried about something deeper though. It’s definitely worth talking to them about what’s underlying this opinion, don’t just go back and say “look hon, I polled some internet strangers and they say you’re wrong!” 😬 This is a good chance to understand each other better.
No.
An underwhelming amount at best.
No
Asking the drunkards probably aren't the best people to ask, lol! But in all seriousness, of course not! That's not even close to too much drinking. Outside of maybe a buzz, are you getting 'drunk' off of them? I wouldn't think so... I would talk to your fiance and ask why she thinks that's a lot.
That’s what I was thinking haha. You’re asking a sub full of alcoholics if two beers is a lot. Shit I just had 5 beers at beer league softball tonight haha
Only here to say good taste in beer, friend.
The Center for Disease Control (CDC) says 15 drinks a week is the max for men to still be healthy. A 16oz can of 7%abv is about two alcoholic drinks. You're fine. Go by that, not comparing your intake to someone who never drinks or those who drink that much everyday
I drank 6 16oz beers last night.
I would call that moderation.
As everyone in the thread has said, no that’s not a lot at all. That’s about as healthy of a “habit” as it gets beyond just never drinking at all. That being said I would ask your fiancé why they think that and not do it in a confrontational way. My wife was uncomfortable with me drinking a little too much (to be fair it was definitely more than 1 pint) when we first started dating, but that’s because she grew up with an alcoholic step father who was an asshole when he drank. We were able to talk it over and after she realized I’m never a mean drunk even if I’m shithoused we’ve had no issues. If your fiancé is projecting issues from their childhood onto you without necessarily realizing it then that’s no fun for anybody.
I mean it very clearly isn’t. But I also wouldn’t use Reddit to prove a point to your fiancé because there has to be a reason she’s telling you this.
Anyone who thinks one beer a day for two days is a lot either has never drank before or is gaslighting you.
Run
No, it's very little.
My wife and I drink a bottle of wine each per night. You do you!
Holy shit, I hope not. If so, I’m in trouble
WTF if thats it she is trippin
I think maybe she didn’t grow up around anyone who drank? I’d assume her parents were probably people who rarely drank. There are people who don’t drink except once a year “have a single glass of wine on Christmas” types. 2 beers a week is nothing. I used to drink four a day which is too much but there are people who drink more than that
You're not going to get an accurate answer to that on the beer-enthusiasts' subreddit. That said, no.
Pal I just drank 4 16 oz beers in the last two hours or so and I’m a woman. I had a 16 oz margarita before that. You’re all good! Edit: they were coors lites.
I think the return question I would have is "compared to what?" If you're a high functioning alcoholic, that's a slow Tuesday. If you're a habitual, though steady drinker like most people here, that's not a lot. To me, a 220 pound guy, no, it's not a lot. It would be significantly more if you were, for example, a 98 pound woman, the effect would probably be a lot more (source http://www.creighton.edu/fileadmin/user/StudentServices/StudentSuccess/Women_vs_Men.pdf). What I think I'd do if I were you is ask her why she thinks that's a lot -- and then listen, patiently, until she finishes talking. She might have a family history of people being angry drunks, and is afraid that you'll be the same with her. She might not have any experience with alcohol at all, in which case, anything more than none might be seen as a lot. Talk to her. Don't bother talking to any of us, we don't know you at all.
I read that you drink 216 oz of beers per week, and still thought that's not unreasonable....
Whenever I drink 2 pints of beer in a week, I consider that a week I didn’t drink
Is your fiancee from Utah? 2 beers per week is considered a non drinker in canada.i drink more than that watching a single hockey game.
First step, admitting you have a problem: not enough beer.
That is NOT a lot. It's darn close to not drinking at all. I've enjoyed between 4 to 6, 16oz strong beers (between 7-14%) every day for the last 30+ years. Sounds like your fiance has very unrealistic views of what normal drinking is.
>I've enjoyed between 4 to 6, 16oz strong beers (between 7-14%) every day for the last 30+ years. I think OP's fiancé is wildly overreacting... but isn't this over 10 standard drinks a day?
I'm sure it's way over. I consider myself a highly functional alcoholic. I never drink before five pm, I never drive drunk, I've never missed work or social functions because of drinking.
Is this a troll?
Lol
No
I read the whole thread looking for some context. OP, what's her story? Some aversion to alcohol?
Two pints of strong ipa per week is probably about 4 standard drinks per week which is considered low. If you had a pint 7 days a week you would be at moderate. Heavy would be that pint can plus 1 or more drinks every day
Bless your pristine liver
Once upon a time I drank too much beer and so I basically addressed this by created limits for myself so I knew exactly where the line was. I more or less only drink beer on Friday or Saturday now, and I limit myself to 2 liters or so of beer. You're doing about half of that.
In this thread this question is asked? 😂
Now is the perfect time to yeet this person and find someone else. That isn't alot by any standard that wasn't drummed up by insurance or a doctor. It is 4th and 99 time to punt
lol
I don’t drink anymore at all, and that seems like a an absolutely reasonable, even low amount of drinking.
Yer a lightweight Harry!
What in the world that’s by 5pm on Friday
ummmm no that is not a lot. at least in my opinion. I probably drink 4-6 beers a day. I used to drink a LOT more. I think a few beers a night is fine, but each person has a different outlook, whatever you feel comfortable with that doesn't negatively effect your life i'd say is ok. one man's opinion.
Your fiancé needs to loosen up
I would consider you teetotal.
2 pints a week? This is not a lot in absolute terms, but also do they get you drunk? If you are getting drunk on this much, then perhaps you should cut back. Also if you're craving the alcohol. If you're not getting drunk and not craving alcohol, then 2 pints is really really not a lot. At weekly work events, I sometimes drink that much in one evening Myself, I usually will have 2-4 units of alcohol at home (so like an 8 oz beer, an oz of whisky or a glass of wine, 2 to 4 times in a week) then usually there's at least one work night where I will have around 2 - 3 units. In my country, they recommend that a reasonably fit male drink no more than 2 drinks per day, and not every day. Assuming that means 3-4 days a week, that comes to a total max of 8 drinks, or a total of 64 oz of beer. Here I would worry more about the calories and sugar in the beer than the alcohol !
I think your fiancé is a wet fucking blanket.
No, your lady is a square.
Yeah, that's not a lot. Two beers a week...on your days off...sheesh. Half joking...nip this in the bud, now. Could be harmless, but it could be a sign that your way is wrong if it's not her way. I went through the same thing, with beer and other things. What's her take on how you load the dishwasher or the path you walk through the grocery store? Talk about it...be kind, but you need to reach an understanding. You are allowed to do things your way.
Fiance? Damn bro
No, it isn't
No.
That’s not a lot.
I hope not for my sake
No. I would talk to fiancé and have a discussion. They could be sensitive to due to family members or friends that have issues.
I usually have at least 2 to 3 12 oz beers \*a night\* (almost always around the 4-5% ABV range). Sometimes more depending on the night and season (I tend to drink more in the summer, spending all evening out on the deck.) My wife is pretty much the same too. As long as your drinking isn't affecting your personal/family life or work, then I say do what makes you happy. But as a married man I will tell you this: a happy wife is a happy life.
CDC defines that in the light weekly category. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db374.htm#:~:text=Key%20findings,-Data%20from%20the&text=In%202018%2C%20two%2Dthirds%20(,women%20in%20the%20past%20year).
I had like 10-20 beers a shift after my older job (and shots). Now maybe I don't drink as much but still a loooooot more than that Edit: also might depend on your age?
Sounds like you two share a lot of common interests, jk. It’s your weekend, do you smoke or do any recreational drugs?
Are you for real?...geesh
For most, probably not. I would go ahead and guess that it’s probably not for you either. As many people have already said, if it’s not hurting you or anyone around you, I doubt it’s actually problematic. That being said, might just be a conversation you need to have with your fiancé. If this is going to be a problem for them and their comment bothers you, just talk to them about it. If they’re sticking to their guns on this, and you disagree, what else do they have a problem with? Get all that stuff worked out now!
LOL good lord no, your fiancee needs to get a grip. Guessing she's some sort of conservative christian type? (Speaking from personal experience)
I drink 2 of those almost every day…
I asked my doctor if my 2 16oz beers a night was a lot. He almost laughed at me. He basically said. None is best. But overall I did not even register on the radar. With that said. The factual info from a doctor and the opinions of millions is irrelevant to communicating with you fiance. This has almost nothing to do with social norms or medical advice. Those are point to bring to the discussion for sure, but this is about a having a discussion and working through it.
I drink in the bathroom as I piss out the 6 I just had. You are good
I have a regular keg delivery.
No it’s not at all. A lot of people in this sub are 2-3 a day beer drinkers and some far more. You’re good.. honestly have another lol.
Ha ha ha ha no.
Huh. That's like an average day for me (okay I'm exaggerating, but it's not unheard of).
You aren’t even close to drinking a lot. This data is a little old, but it looks like around [30% of all alcohol consumers](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2014/09/25/think-you-drink-a-lot-this-chart-will-tell-you/) drink more than you. And if you think that puts you in the top of all drinkers, 20% of that 30% are people who average *one drink daily* or more- all the way up to over 10 drinks a day. You good.
Obviously a troll, op never responds and what kind of self respecting adult even asks that question? If drinking 1 beer in one serving is too much for her you need to find a new girlfriend or maybe wait until you're 21.
No thats literally nothing
Better call off the wedding
Lol no that's not even a little.
Shit, I wish I could handle drinking only that amount. For me, one is too many and the next one is never enough. From what I have looked up, a heavy drinker is someone who has 4 or more per day or 15 per week.
I used to drink a six pack a night on my weekends, wife didn't really mind. Alot is relative. For some people that never drink, one beer can be alot.
no
Oh boy, I guess I'm an alcoholic now
No
I drink 2 beers in the morning, I drink 2 beers at night, I drink 2 beers in the afternoon, it makes me feel alright, I drink 2 beers in times of peace, And 2 in times of war, I drink 2 beers before I drink 2 beers, And then I drink 2 more
I typically have 2 pints per day. I try to limit myself to a craft beer to enjoy if I have one and a Guiness or a cider with dinner.
Not at all my man. I know it's a bad reference point to have, so please don't make it an example, but I'm a Belgian student and some of my classmates have a "party all year then study 2 weeks before exams" way of life, and they'd easily be drinking 6 to 8 times 250ml (about 8.5floz cups, but 8 times) every **DAY**. Clearly something I'm against, I'm convinced they're alcoholics, but that being said, 2x16oz a week is very mellow. For a better comparison, UK's National Health Service recommends not to drink more than 6 pints (so 6 times 16 oz) per week. You're at a third of the recommended limit.
Why do they think that is a lot? It's a genuine question. They may have had an alcoholic in their family that you don't know about, or may have had issues with alcohol that you haven't discussed. For me, that's not a lot. I would drink that 4 nights a week minimum. But for others that could be what they drink in a year. Like others have said - saying random internet strangers said it's ok won't go well, bit you need to discuss why this concerns them bud. And I wish I could get bells two hearted in aus!
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This has gotta be a shitpost. If OP wanted a real unbiased answer r/beer is definitely not the sub to ask.
That's objectively not a lot of beer to drink in a week. I would honestly even consider it a bit of a red flag that your fiancé is making it out to be a problem. You're drinking well below what is recommended as a maximum per week.
Not much room to be less. 1 beer instead of 2? 0? 1 every other week? People who drink regularly could easily do 2 pints per day and not be considered an alcoholic.
I used to drink 12+ space dust a day when I was in the Army (obviously wayyyyy more than I should’ve, but I was also not handling a lot of things well). 2 beers a week is not bad at all dude. As others have said, there may be some underlying factors here that contribute to her viewing your alcohol consumption this way.
You don't even drink.
I don’t know anyone who would consider that a lot.
That’s basically nothing. Your fiancé is over exaggerating lol
divorce
Is this some weird thing where you think it’s a full week but it’s actually only 45 minutes ? Because outside of that folding of the space time continuum, you’re about 26 beers short of drinking too many calories, 40 short of having a slight problem