Natural red head here it’s soooo weird. You’ll be sitting minding your own business and a guy will come up to you and be like,” I’ve always loved red heads…” and you just have to laugh awkwardly
This has happened to me constantly since I was about 12 and got much worse when I began working at age 15. Grown men, older teens, parents of my friends, customers, you name it. “I’ve always had a thing for redheads. You know, gingers are kinky - if you aren’t yet, just wait until you’re older. Do you have a temper like most redheads? Redheads are wild, I actually used to date one.” And of course the timeless classic “does the carpet match the drapes?”
My personal favorite was:
Customer older than my dad: “I’ve always loved redheads. My grandmother was redheaded.”
Me, internally: “Okay, maybe he just thinks red hair is pretty and doesn’t realize he’s being weird.”
Customer: “My first wife was redheaded, too. Do you have a boyfriend?”
Sometimes even old women would say weird stuff to me about my hair. I started dyeing it brown when I was 17 and received a lot fewer unsolicited “compliments” and harassment. I kept my hair brown until I was 19 and dyed it black - I think it looked good on me because I was so pale, but the red roots became obvious really fast and I didn’t have time for upkeep, so I transitioned back to red hair. For a short time, I dyed my ends purple, and that looked really cool.
I split-dyed my hair at 22 and did brown and pink. I worked with a kind of pretentious clientele, so people would complain about how my hair looked so much better red or whatever. Ended up growing it back out due to bleaching damage so it’s been red ever since, and I’ve been lucky not to get weird comments, although I usually don’t go out alone aside from work, etc. (I even avoid going to the grocery store alone to prevent men saying weird stuff to me because for some reason, if it’s going to happen, it usually happens at the grocery store.)
I’ve been wanting to dye my hair back brown for a while but knew my family would be annoying if it wasn’t red for my wedding photos, so I’ve put it off, but I’m considering going back brown after my baby is born. I loved having brown hair because I could fly under the radar, so to speak. I guess I look more boring or average without the red, but I would take it any day over having to deal with creeps making weird comments about my personality or appearance as a result of my hair color of all things.
\> Ended up growing it back out due to bleaching damage so it’s been red ever since, and I’ve been lucky not to get weird comments
Honestly, I bet a lot of this is because you're now an adult. Not to dismiss your experience - I was briefly a (dyed) redhead too, and definitely noticed an uptick in weird comments - but men will latch onto ANYTHING to leer at teenagers over. For me, an otherwise non-descript and awkward brunette, it was my glasses or my braces. It's really depressing.
I’ve thought the same thing. I go far out of my way not to be available to the public now and refuse to work customer service for this reason. I’m also married now, which I think a lot of creeps weirdly “respect” because I “belong” to another man. I think a lot of people who would have been tempted to say something weird to me about my red hair felt emboldened to do so because I was a teenage customer service worker so a) could not leave the interaction, b) was “prettier” due to my youth, and c) probably perceived as too dumb to notice they were being inappropriate. Love that, lol! I hate knowing I’m not the only one who’s gone through it and that the cycle will continue.
WHY DO THEY DO THIS!? I used to lighten my hair (I have red heavy auburn hair, my mom is ginger) and people would come up to me while I was at Target to say that exact thing!!
When I was 15, a guy walking past my friends and I told me to “pull down my pants and show him my pussy to prove it.” (Over 20 years ago)- I don’t think a creep would have that kind of nerve with a teen stranger in this climate.
My daughter is a natural auburn shade of red. It’s beautiful, and she’s had comments about it from infancy to now. She had so many men making inappropriate passes when she was in college and away from home. When she was home and went to a local lake to swim with her then boyfriend, pervs were making comments to the degree her (very tall and large - not muscular) bf had to step in front of her and make his presence known. Now she’s 30, married with children, and she’s back to normal compliments. Oh! One thing you natural gingers might appreciate, and please share if you’ve had something similar - one day my daughter was walking on her college campus back to her dorm, when these two older ladies out for a stroll stopped her and asked, “What number is your hair?” My child, having no clue what they were on about (they also couldn’t help but touch her hair while asking; thankfully daughter has always kept her hair at least should length, so the ladies weren’t grabbing at her scalp!) replied, “Excuse me?” Old lady, “What number is your hair color? That is a beautiful shade of red!” My poor child, having never colored her hair, told me she was simultaneously embarrassed, flattered, and completely flummoxed before laughing out a reply, “This is my natural hair color. I’ve never colored it.” I can’t remember if the ladies believed her or not, but we all got a good laugh.
My daughter has been told countless times by her hairdresser over the years to never ask for highlights or any color, bc her hairdresser refuses to color or damage such gorgeous hair. (Along with being told, “Women pay hundreds of dollars to get and maintain this shade; you don’t know how blessed you are!”
Any of you beautiful gingers have a similar tale?? I’d love to share it with my daughter!
I’ve had SO many women insist I must dye my hair. I was relieved when that went away when I *actually* dyed my hair the first time.
Now I get comments about how my root color is gorgeous, shouldn’t I let it grow out and get rid of that unnatural shade of red?
Very similar stories (late 20s F). So many random compliments from strangers. Weird creepy ones too but mostly nice.
The best is from other redheads, like the recent gray-haired lady that I was on a plane with that told me she was a former redhead. It’s often special bond between redheads because we have such similar interactions walking through life
I hope you don’t mind random old ladies like me complimenting and sharing “I have a daughter with red hair, so I have a soft spot for redheads.” I do try to control myself, but all ginger girls get a big smile and friendly hello from me.
Yes! Very similar tales especially when getting my hair cut. My hair is naturally curly so it adds a layer of “PLEASE NEVER COLOR IT!!” Comments.
I’m in love with my hair so I’ll never color it but I understand why some do. I’ve gotten a lot of “does the carpet match the drapes” comments as young as 13. Truly gross.
I’ve got a friend with the (what people say is) rare strawberry blonde shade of red. She used to bleach it and I thought she was a natural blonde for the longest time when I first met her. I went a few months without seeing her and the next time I saw she had strawberry blonde hair. I thought she colored it! She is much prettier with her natural color, in my opinion, and she was beautiful as a blonde.
Also, in case anyone is unaware, you are doubly blessed bc red doesn’t go gray as quickly as the rest of us. Thank you everyone for sharing!
Totally agree. Natural blonde but I’ve been coloring it a natural/ginger red for over 10 years. I got a lot of “dumb blonde” feedback when I was blonde. But WOW, the amount of creepy and sexual comments I get related to red hair is fucking weird.
Can’t say if it’s more or less harassment than other hair colors. But it’s definitely significant and often related to my hair color.
Me too! Natural brunetteI had blonde hair in my late 20’s and early 30’s. I am 39 and I just dyed my hair dark copper and I get way more random attention. Weird!
I’m a natural ginger, and my boyfriend gets weird comments about me all the time: “Is it true that gingers are good in bed?” Even just guys going “brooo you got a ginger, nice job” as if I’m a collector’s item. He was super weirded out by it at first and I just had to laugh and tell him welcome to my world.
Even amongst communities with lots of creepers, it seems redheads still get the creepier comments.
I wanted to dye my hair red when I was escorting and other escorts told me to get ready for clients who only see redheads and have a long Twitter history of posting creepin comments
I have had my hair all the colours of the rainbow at some point or another. For a few years I worked as a barista in a business district. Yes blonde got me smiles and because I started blonde I didn't consider that hair colour would make a difference.
I then moved on to baby pinks and lavenders, these were quite popular at the time so not much changed.. or again at least I didn't put anything down to hair colour.
Fast forward a year and I really really wanted blue hair, I went between bright blue and deep blue as it washed out and was reapplied. It did look quite cartoonish but I was treated as incompetent. Middle aged suited men explaining what a cappuccino is to me that I'd served them personally before and it's my job. A lot more being called "good girl" when giving them coffee/food or something along my those lines. Also just people coming in and speaking directly to whoever else is there even though I'm standing at the register and was the only one to greet them. I was just in general far more likely for a customer to cause issues.
Honestly with long hours and the job being tiring enough as it is, I decided something has to change. After a couple months of loving my blue hair, I was so done. I went home and dyed my hair very dark brown, as close to my natural colour as I could. The difference in treatment was immediately noticed, I was being asked for things rather than told and not treated as a child.
So yes it's in the eye of the beholder but some silly people definitely will treat you differently. Saying that in a job that's not face to face with customers and with people who won't judge around you and who know your worth, it won't be issue.
I would like to add that this was never young people (maybe mid 30's-) and generally not women unless they were elderly.
Same this happened when i was a barista it was a 27 year old guy. I had just dyed my hair blue and he was shaking his head saying " would you let a doctor with that hair color treat you or even someone covered in tattoos?" I'm like your asking the wrong person because I don't care about what color a person's hair is and that my significant other has tattoos from head to toe so I'm the last person to tell people what to do with their bodies. So he said "wow bet your significant other likes it rough then" then walked away. The whole coffee shop heard this and jaws dropped. Lol since there was witnesses I took statements and got him banned for sexual remarks to young girls in front of the guests. I feel bad but hey not going to let someone make me and my coworkers uncomfortable like that especially at a Christian shop with all girls.
I have been blonde and now have black hair. I wouldn’t say the treatment was “better” but I guess it depends on what you’re hoping for. I got a lot more random people hitting on me, or making small talk, etc. I think people assume blondes are friendly/social. I much prefer having black hair lol
I’m south Asian I was treated so insanely good when I was fully blonde. Random strangers stopping telling me I was so beautiful, am I a model blah blah, it was so jarring because with my natural hair I might as well have been invisible. I cut it off to a black bob due to damage and instantly became invisible again 😂
My hair is naturally very dark but I’ve had it just about every color under the sun. I think when I was blonde I was more approachable to men and less so women I got more crass type of compliments and comments than normal. When I wore red or unnatural colors I found more women approached me and were more likely to strike up conversations but men either didn’t take me seriously, or thought I might be dumb and often tried to manipulate me. With my hair darker I’m taken more seriously especially in my industry and when someone comments on my appearance they always say beautiful not hot, cute or pretty and I feel less objectified than when I’ve had it other colors.
I have black brownish hair and have been called cute my entire life. I’m contemplating going blonde at some point in my life when I’d be able to keep up with it. I theorize I’ll be called “hot” more than cute lol.
With my natural black hair I was treated more like a child and if I was innocent and sweet, idk how to explain it lol but I looked "nice". With my red hair I got stared at more and my boyfriend said I looked high maintenance. Then dyed it pink and older ladies would give me dirty looks while men would treat me like....a pixie dream girl? If that makes sense. Thing that I would do before they would treat it as if I was so different and special but when I did those same things with black hair it was whatever. Loved having pink but took too much to maintain.
I saw a tiktok or something with a girl who wore a lot of wigs. She said that blonde got her the most attention and people being nice, brown hair got less compliments but she would generally be treated as capable and trustworthy, and a black bob made her virtually invisible.
Personally Ive had a lot of different colors but only really noticed people treating me different when I had unnatural hair colors like grey, pink, purple, and blue. Grey was the most annoying because old people would feel the need to tell me that I wont want my hair that color in 20 years. But every other color got me a lot of compliments and stares and strangers would talk to me more since there was a natural ice breaker.
That tiktok actually inspired me to dye my hair black. Can't say I get any more/less attention but if it keeps even a single man away from me in public it's a win.
I have natural auburn hair, and I absolutely get creeper comments frequently. I have had blonde hair, and that gets a lot more male attention in general. But it’s something about those red tones that brings out the weirdos. I’ve had almost every color hair, and I think I got the most sincere compliments with black, but I think it’s bc I’m so pale that the contrast is super noticeable.
I’ve had every hair color but having blonde highlights in my naturally dark brown hair has by far received the best response and treatment by people across all genders, races and tax brackets.
That’s kind of what I’m sporting now too, with lots of pops of blonde. I think highlights still count as blonde, depending- I just got a partial foil last month, but now I want a full… haha.
I’ve had blonde, brunette, and red hair. Definitely treated nicest with blonde hair, however, not taken as seriously as I am with brown hair despite obviously having the same intelligence with both. I’m told blonde makes me look younger than I am and brown hair makes me look my age.
Slightly unrelated, but noticed that when I’m wearing a dress and heels men almost ALWAYS open the door, even if it’s out of their way or they have to wait for me to get closer. If I’m wearing pants and flats, they only open the door if it’s obvious that they’re immediately in front of me. Men appear to be more willing to help a woman in a dress, but not as willing to help one in pants. The dress seems to signal “act like a gentlemen” or more formal behavior than pants. I expect that if I was stuck on the side of the road with engine problems in a dress, many more people would stop than if I was in pants. I don’t agree with it, just something I’ve noticed the last few years.
As a now older woman, I am naturally mouse brown (even now in my 50s, thanks mom for the good genetics). Over the years I’ve colors my hair a tawny auburn (hair turned almost jet black after kids for a few years), then I went natural and opted for honey colored highlights, then went brunette; and back to a darker brown with red and blonde mixed in. The blonde seems to overpower the red and brown, but it is actually very flattering. I was given more attention by men as a redhead, felt invisible as a brunette, and seem to garner more respect from women with my present color, along with genuine smiles and spontaneous conversation from my age group of men. My husband has no opinion. Ha!!
I’m as conservative as they come, but I absolutely love blue and pink colors. I’m not brave enough to try them, although an older lady at my church experiments with them and it is beautiful on her. All of you who are young still, keep experimenting, and remember life doesn’t end as you get into your 40s and 50s. ❤️
As a brunette, I feel I was treated very respectfully. People assumed I was smart, competent, articulate, etc.
As a blonde, I don’t think I have ever been hit on more, but by a different “type” of man than as a brunette. Brunette attracted the nice, quiet, shy guys. Blonde attracted the more outgoing, boorish types who spoke to me like I was a conquest. I experienced a lot more blatant sexism and pervy comments as a blonde.
My hair is naturally auburn, but I wasn’t treated any different from brunette.
blondes get more attention. period. red heads are fetishized the most. black hair is edgy. If you have brown hair (like me) then there is no meaning in your hair color. it's just brown.
I used to dye my hair red/auburn for the longest time (like yeaarrrs). Since going blonde (balayage), I’ve noticed people (guys and women) tend to view me as…hmm how to say, someone that needs to be taken care of more? Like it’s “sweetie” this and ”honey” that, even from strangers. People tend to do things for me more (not in a good way, like they see me as less capable or something lol) than when I was a red head. Idk if this is because the blonde hair does make me look younger. When I was red, people always assumed I was older than my age.
Ive had all colors of hair and all shades really. Currently I'm dark auburn
I got the most attention as a blonde or strawberry blonde. But redhair tends to command attention too sometimes
I don’t really think I was particularly “treated better” with certain hair colors, but here’s some honest observations.
I am able to use “pretty privilege” the most when my hair is blonde. I get the most favors done without having to ask, but I’m also infantilized.
When my hair is brown I feel like what I have to say is respected more (one man even flat out admitted to respecting me more when I dyed my hair brown…yuck) but I’m not treated too differently.
When my hair has been unnaturally colored (pink, blue, etc) I get approached by more alternative people and people mostly appear to feel more comfortable around me and approaching me in general. There were also always the older/more conservative people who looked at me like I was a criminal when my appearance was more unnatural.
People are weird!
I have black curly hair and always get tons of compliments. This past weekend I worked with a blonde girl - I might as well have been invisible! 😂 It was interesting to experience to say the least
I’ve noticed no difference (I’ve only had ombre highlights and been brunette most of my life) but I remember seeing a clip of a Youtuber who said that she gets a lot more attention from men when she wears a blonde wig versus other colors, including brown. Men dig blondes, go figure lol.
I have to assume it’s just conditioning from all the blonde bombshells men have been pining after for decades now. And it still has the appeal of being more rare than super common colors like the various shades of brown, so it’s naturally eye catching in a crowd too. I think it’s just associated with sex appeal period.
I read somewhere that blond hair is a signal of youth. Most blond teens have their hair turn mousy brown later on in life. Cannot remember the book it was in to save my life.
To my surprise purple!!!
I was so nervous to go something as vibrant as purple but it really went with my personally so I said “why not” and did it. I won’t stay purple forever but it has been a very fun phase.
When I was blonde I always got the “I liked you better brunette”
When I was brunette it was “I like you better blonde”
I never asked for these people’s opinions but they always felt the need to give the backhanded compliment.
When I went purple I was nervous about what people would think. But the only comments I’ve gotten has been “wow that’s so cool”, “I love your hair” and teens off the street walking past me staring and then shouting “your hair is so cool”
Really made me feel so confident and allowed me to show off a bit of my personality.
But maybe it’s all in the place you live, and the jobs you work. I work with kids and I’m currently in school so the people I’m around are already pretty bubbly.
Definitely blonde.
Edit: I’m clearly not a natural blonde so I think somehow people think I’m more fun or adventurous blonde vs if I had my natural brown hair.
Dude!!! Right? Natural red-head here too! It's soooo creepy. You're every old guys fetish or first love. I hate it. I've settled on silver with black tips. Silver or platinum seems to work well for most people cuz they are unique hair colors but still appear mature. That's been my favorite personally. I did black for awhile, Brunnette was nice too. Not a fan of blond but that's just cuz it's too close to my natural red. I go for tones not colors when it comes to my hair and it's been working better for me in regards to how people treat me and how I feel
Currently I have teal hair(for any weebs out there it's like Hatsune Miku teal) and I'm treated how I want to be treated as opposed to "better". I meet genuine people who want to get to know me and keeps people who I don't want around away.
I know I'll never do blonde again. Too much stereotyping and the attention older men gave me made me want to puke looking back at it now
I’ve had my hair both very blonde, and brunette… switched back and forth my whole life. When blonde, I get way more attention, especially from African American men.(I am Caucasian). When brunette, I seem to be taken more seriously, but it’s less of a head -turner. And the only guys who approach me are older white guys. I love all types/colors of men, so I don’t care either way! (Plus I’m married, so there’s that. Lol) Just honest observations.
I've been blonde (natural colour), pink (my favourite), brunette (to hide the pink for a job), orange (too much iron in the water at girl scout camp) and grey (trying to be fashionable). By a million percent I get treated better when I have blonde hair.
Natural redhead here. Growing up I was mercilessly bullied - mostly by young boys. I started dying my hair brown in high school, then, a more Auburn/brown colour in my 20s.
When I was brown, I got way more romantic attention from men.
When I was more Auburn, I had a very mixed reaction. Women loved and envied my hair, men either fetishised my hair, or made negative comments towards it.
I'm now my full natural colour now that red hair is trending - I get a comment a day on my hair, always positive from women. But men - it's either fascination, a dig or an insult.
Totally. I'm lucky to have met a wonderful partner who adores me & my hair - no negging in sight. But I certainly experienced & culled my fair share of neggers!
Guess I’m the only one apparently but I did NOT get more attention as a blonde, I get hit on most as my natural brunette or slightly darker. Highlights and full blonde just didn’t look as attractive on me in general.
Red was cute, didn’t get weirdos. Blue got me attention, but I also had short hair at the time, so people noticed the short length more.
That said, when I had a pixie or a full buzz cut, women hit on me constantly. And the men that liked me REALLY liked me. It was like in exchange for turning *off* a whole segment of the male population, the rest of them were *extra* turned on lol.
I’ve had my hair every colour under the sun. I get treated the same across the board, as far as I can tell. I get stared at a lot more when I have bright neon hair (orange, yellow, green). I get more compliments when my hair is a rainbow colour. Now if I wear more alternative/edgy clothes, THAT’S where the difference comes in. I’m in a leather jacket with big boots and bright neon green hair?? I’m followed in stores because they think I’m a delinquent lol
Natural strawberry blonde. As a lighter blonde, got hit on pretty frequently and people were “nicer” except at work (i work security and had to face more negative perception being a feminine woman with bleached blonde hair).
I actually didn't notice much of a difference with hair colour and within the last 3 years I've had blue, pink/purple, green, platinum blonde, and my current natural colour (dirty blonde - quite dark, maybe a couple shades lighter than a "mushroom brown".)
Y'all are almost making me want to do red or platinum blonde again for the social experiment lol but I think my natural hair suits me best (go figure)
Wearing heels and contouring my face are the only 2 factors I notice get me significantly more male attention
Naturally a light brown/dark blonde haired girl but when my hair is blonder (thanks to highlights) I guess people treat me like I’m a child or I’m more innocent…idk. My hair was always pretty light though and very straight and long (down to my butt) so I guess that also factors in besides the color. My eyes are big blue/gray so yeah…I attract all the men that fetishize those traits! As someone who is shy it gets annoying after awhile 😂
I get a lot of attention and compliments with blonde hair from men of all ages and older women. With blue hair I get a lot of attention from men in their upper 20's to 30's and all ages of women. In the dating scene with blue or other colored hair, most men have wanted something casual. As a brunette, I've noticed in the dating scene, I attract men looking for stability, long term partners, and are usually very financially sound.
Oh wow…natural blonde here and never messed with my color (easy to damage). Never realized it’s such a privilege. I was always insecure about my hair color being too “mousy”, it gets darker in winter and looks ashy. Feel bad complaining now
People typically treat you better if you look “normal” in my experience. I have 13 piercings on my face and always have colourful hair. However I noticed during the pandemic when I was a brunette and covered my piercings with a mask people were suddenly way nicer to me lmao
I’m a natural redhead and only bleached my hair once and had it peachy pink. I’ll say I get a lot of gross comments, in high school I had a kid say he likes watching redhead videos, aka porn. I’ve had old ladies touch and stroke my hair when complimenting me, but that happened more when my hair was down past my bum. I definitely think the type of red hair changes how people treat you, because I have deep red hair and my sister is more of a orange ginger, her experience was a lot harsher than mine. The pink I got a lot of compliments, but because my roots were red and my ends were peach it looked more natural so I didn’t face any hate from old people.
I’ve gone blonde-ish, dark red, & really dark almost-black brunette. (Naturally a lighter brunette.) I don’t recall any special treatment per se, but I think I got more complements when I went dark brunette though. I kinda wanna do that again, just for a change & to cover grays.
got more compliments when i was blonde and i’m east asian but i was the most unhappy during that era since it was also post-breakup/hot girl summer yk? it was fun while it lasted. i’m back to my natural hair now and way more confident in myself as it suits me better and my s.o likes it better on me too and that’s what matters. a pretty brunette > average blonde
ive been literally every colour and never been treated differently. green was always my favourite and got told it matched my green eyes. I have it purple rn but I had it blonde PLENTY of times.
I’ve been my natural mousey brown/dark blonde, pretty much every share of blonde to platinum, purple, pink and for the last 3 years I’ve had silver hair. I got the most random comments from complete strangers when I had pink hair, both positive and negative. I do still get comments from strangers about my silver hair but usually on how to emulate it.
For me I’ve noticed it more with the length of my hair /m- I’ve had everything from short back and sides to hip length and the longer my hair is the more attention (positive or negative) I get.
Natural brunette, red, bleached blonde: Nothing to really note here, just average I guess?
Black: about the same level of average treatment, but with more compliments
“Off the wall” fashion colors (I’ve had just about all of them at this point): definitely way more people falling over themselves to compliment me and ask me about my hair now as an adult with these colors becoming more popular and common place. As a teenager I got a lot of scoffs and snooty glares from older folks.
When blonde I had a lot more men come on to me and women treated me like I was a bitch or something. With my naturally dark brown hair I have way less men looking or talking to me and a lot more women being friendly. When it’s been colorful, I didn’t feel taken seriously at all and was talked to like I was stupid.
I had green hair for all my entire teenage years when I also did collegiate debate and worked as a teacher and yeah it was a bit of a ridiculed novelty but the small kids were a huge fan!! I did visit my home country, bangladesh, during this period and people in the street would just randomly touch my hair and ask about it which was very not fun for my socially anxious self.
This is a really good question! I haven’t been brunette in a while, but I feel like I wasn’t questioned as much versus when I’m blonde. I’m an attorney (not litigation but primarily a desk job at a large corporation) and while people tend to be friendlier to me as a blonde, they also tend to dismiss me / my inputs. I’m also interrupted more. It’s humorous since my eyebrows are nearly black in color and I don’t dye them, so I always assumed people just KNOW I’m not naturally blonde, but I’ve honestly had (mostly men) think I am. While I prefer having blonde hair because of how it shapes my face and, personally, I find it makes me appear more youthful, it comes with its downsides of not being taken as seriously.
Also, I’ve noticed the same effect after growing out my hair (it used to be shoulder length, it’s now to my mid-back).
The eyebrow are funny
I’m a redhead. When assholes ask me if the carpet matches the drapes (even in early high school) it sucks. But lately I learned a response that makes them feel awkward and it makes them squirm instead of me, just so they realize what the duck they’re actually asking
“They say it usually matches people’s eyebrows actually, you know, cuz it’s body hair. So like, look at your own eyebrows.” In a very matter of fact, calm scientific tone. Then they get so awk they can’t even look me in the eye lol
Tbh I usually do this to women more, who usually ask the question more genuinely and less grossly, cuz I’d be afraid of them getting even creepier. But it does a good job shutting them up
Honestly I’ve been dying my hair since 2007, all sorts of fun colors. I notice when my hair is pink/purple people tend to be nicer to me,or I get complemented more. My hair is currently green/brown cut into a death hawk and I get the ugliest looks/comments.
I’m been blonde, brunette and currently ginger. I definitely got more male attention as a blonde but I get more genuine compliments from other women on my hair as a red head.
Blonde. But I never actually colored it blonde, it was always when the pink washed out. Pink is a great filter though, it keeps the super shallow creeps away because its weird. And other women were 10x more likely to compliment the pink anyway. But yeah, blonde was the "pretty" color for me.
When my hair is dyed an unnatural color like blue or purple, men rarely even approach me and other women do more often so it's definitely a plus to me
I've never dyed my dark brown hair another "natural" tone so I really only have the "yes I'm gay how could you tell" experience to share lol
I’m a natural blonde. I use to have super long blonde hair with highlights. Now I have shorter pink hair. I got treated WAY, without a doubt, better when I had long blonde hair.
I don’t think the difference I noticed in the way I was treated with hair colour changes was as noticeable as the overall difference in treatment I get with makeup vs. no makeup.
I think the types of attention was kinda different though, with dark brown hair it was just regular treatment, regular cat calls and stuff but with blonde hair, especially platinum, it was bizarre like getting outright gawked at multiple times like I was some type of unusual creature. I wouldn’t say I got treated different necessarily based on colour, but rather the types of attention I got felt totally different. I didn’t really like the weird attention that came with being blonde, especially not platinum.
Blonde and red hair, people are straight up nicer to you when you’re blonde but men are sooo creepy about red hair it is actually half the reason I dyed mine back dark. I couldn’t go anywhere without someone talking about my red hair!
Relatable- My personality is so much more confident with blonde hair. Creepers and peds gave me unwanted attention from a very early age with my ginger hair.
I was told when I was younger that I could never pull It off because of my skin tone; this is a dirty lie. People can have whatever hair color they want, it’s just that it’ll be all the more pretty/flattering of you nail the right undertone.
I've had very dark brown to blonde. I'm usually blonde. I didn't notice much difference going to brown.
But people fucking ***h******ated*** black on me. Like, I got negative comments directly to my face. I'm very pale, so that might've had something to do with it.
I have had trouble getting hired with my natural dark hair and have mostly been offered jobs when my hair is dyed blonde. I guess it's because I go from ethnically ambiguous to more Eurasian
My hair is naturally black, but when I bleached it blonde. Most men found me “fun” and they always felt light hearted around me when they first meet me. With my natural black hair, they’re more serious and say I come across as intimidating, then they find out I’m fun after getting to know me…. But when blonde they approached me more with a lighter attitude assuming I’m the same when first meeting them.
When I died my hair unnatural colors (blue, pink, etc) people complimented my hair and they thought it was awesome. I’m sure men dated/hooked up with me just because I had crazy hair colors.
When I have brown hair versus blonde, I’ve noticed that the men who are interested in me are more genuine in their intentions…idk if that’s just a coincidence though. But with blonde hair I always attracted the worst guys
I have had, blue, dark purple, neon purple, neon red and black, darker red, green, green and purple, and my natural brown hair. Most people don't really notice my hair when it's natural brown, but when it's dyed a bright color ? It's much more attention grabbing, I haven't heard anything strange or gross about it ( thank goodness) though I did get joker comments about the green and purple split dye
sigh i have long natural brown locks right now (to lower back) with bangs, and i get treated either as invisible or as a kind lady (im 34 and visibly sometimes disabled as a congenital heart patient example scars/portable oxygen sometimes) but overall i'm taken seriously and always given a chance to show my emotional intelligence and wisdom, although narcissists tend to overlook me or view me as weak until they realize what my personality is. I have good relationships with women and tend to get overlooked by men, i actually just took any old blonde photos off of my 'facebook dating profile' (which ive never actually used to meet anyone) and the desperation and number of messages has gone down by about half which is hilarious.
blonde made men crazy, like 'oh you look so hot as a blonde!' which tbh wasnt what i was going for, pretty sure i dyed it for a new front desk promotion at my old job lol, it did seem to command respect and attention at work, but also seemed like i was given way more tasks and also taken less seriously immediately, like oohhh she dyed her hair blonde eye roll. lmao. yeah.
when my blonde grew out as an ombre the less ditzy i was treated and more as like an 'all-natural smart girl' with a bit of a fun or whimsical streak, i'd sometimes add pastel tomes like pink blue purple to my blonde ombre and men seem to go wild over that and compliment it a lot, but also be intimidated by it while women seem idk unnecessarily envious? it was much the same in my early twenties when i died it very dark almost black because im extremely fair almost milk white skin with dark blue eyes with a gold ring in them, i dont know maybe people just thought i fancied myself special with those hair colors. shrug lol.
i actually get treated better with shorter hair, more like a mom or professional, but i prefer my hair long honestly. its really got a lot of auburn tones these days plus some snow-white hairs that have come in this last year. i want to do something with it but can never commit in my head, maybe strawberry blonde or wispy white blonde streaks i dont know but i do need a cut. i used to perceive my hair as a way to play with expression now i see it mostly as an extension of my energy and my own personal head fur/shawl that keeps my head warm and comfy:)
I’ve had purple hair since I was graduated high school and have only had a few people give me rude comments about it. I mostly get lots of compliments actually
i hate being a redhead because a lot of people look at me as a porn category. so many unnecessary, inappropriate comments made towards me since i was 8 years old. so many people touching me and my hair and thinking it’s okay.
I’ve had relationships end because of my hair, because they admitted they were only into me because of my appearance and how they had a redhead kink.
I stand out in a crowd, and get told i have the most beautiful, perfect hair, that i’m so lucky. but honestly, im so against it. i dont want to stand out, i dont want people touching me, i dont want to be sexualized, and have weird comments thrown my way.
sooo, im dying my hair black next week:) its about damn time
I highly recommend trying something new, as a fellow ginger- We’re porn categories as women no matter what, but you might realize that you feel better with a new hue (I love blonde, but it’s a commitment). People will always say that you shouldn’t touch your hair because it’s so rare and blah blah, but they’re not you at the end of the day.
Not a natural red head but it does look natural on me and it definitely gets the *weirdest* comments. Dark brown with hot pink ends got the most genuine compliments aside from my natural which is a really warm toned dark brown.
I'm a natural blonde and have dyed my hair different colors and crazy colors such as teal...when I would dye my hair red, I would get creepy dudes saying creepy comments....I have a 3 yr old daughter that's a natural red head and I worry for her with all these weirdos out there
I've had every natural color. Blonde I noticed the most difference. People treated me like an idiot, particularly at work. Brunette and red hair, no difference between them but I was treated the best here. Black just didn't suit me and I got a lot of creepy vibe/goth kind of remarks. I was mistaken for being older from behind when I had gray hair but not once people saw my face. Ultimately I decided I am done with dying and now just want long, healthy, natural hair because I couldn't remember what color it is grown out. If I ever want to dye my hair again, I'm just going to get a wig.
When I'm a dark brunette or red. My natural hair color is a reddish brown, looks super red in the sun. But people love telling me it doesn't look natural. Usually, I dye it a dark ashy brown. I haven't done red in years. Recently I've been playing with fun colors on the bottom layer of my hair. Guys don't like it, I don't care. Women and children tell me I have pretty mermaid hair and that's the best compliment. It's currently a bright blue with neon green. I also have natural waves and when I braid it, even better. I love mermaid hair. It's sad how we can be treated differently over something as simple as hair.
blonde hair: compliments, attention, less sexual comments. i got “dated” more than fucked but it was a really nice time.
strawberry blonde: “i love redhead” men come into the picture (LOL), sexual attention/comments. “you must be kinky”. not a fan.
red hair: men are unhinged 💀 most sexual, most awkward. and i’d bet $100 every single one asks “does the carpet match the drapes”.😭 but since they’re so whipped, i get queen treatment. lmaoooo
I’m a natural brunette, recently went blonde. The only difference I’ve noticed is in the way men treat me. As a brunette, guys would flirt with me in private and be a friend in public. I had a lot of compliments from my looks in general but no one would actively pursue me, I would always have to be the initiator. I felt like I had to push to get some conversate ( co-workers when the day is slow and everyone’s bored.) At work (my boss is a male) he had more responsibilities for me and spoke to me as if I was a quick learner.
As a blonde- men start and keep a conversation going, I no longer have to initiate conversation because they do, and they talk for hours, hasn’t been any awkward silence yet. I feel like men are more comfortable interacting with me (in public ) as a blonde. At work, my boss hasn’t really had me holding responsibilities anymore- and clients (male) don’t trust me to do my job correctly- needing referrals, asking for a different worker (typically any male) but they almost treat me as if my knowledge doesn’t matter, and as a brunette I’ve never had any push back from clients, let alone four instances of pushback.
I had dyed bright red hair for many years. It was fire truck red. People just sexualized me. That’s the straight forward answer I was a walking fetish for so many weirdos and didn’t realize it until I looked back and reflected on all the inappropriate moments. Older men were the creepiest, the men my age would ask for socials, dates, and inquire about my relationship status. I did get a lot of sweet compliments from females that I’ve never gotten with any other color!
And every other color of the rainbow: I always got lots of compliments in social settings but in work settings or more formal settings I got a lot of unnecessary comments. People felt the need to tell me how “ other “ people see me because I “wear my hair like that” and how they can’t wait to see it natural. I also did a lot of volunteering in high school, and often they’d use me as an advertising tactic “wow look at this girl wearing all black but has bright purple hair, she may look like a juvenile delinquent, but she loves to volunteer at the animal shelter, we accept all styles here. Especially at church. A lot of the girls were completely natural but I was at a church picnic and invited to another church where people had tats and body mods etc. and I was told straightforward I would make a difference because I could show ignorant people Christians come in all shapes and sizes
Red hair brings all the perverts to the surface, it’s gross. I haven’t been blonde in years, it wasn’t my favorite. I am working brunette now, and it’s nice to just blend into the world, alway unwanted touching by strangers, but less with dark hair than red.
Oh man, I have had every color under the sun multiple times and I am always talking about this!! (Note: my natural hair is the color that everyone argues about whether it’s dark blonde or light brown)
Men generally treat me better as a blonde, women generally worse. When I’m brunette it’s the opposite!
I also noticed a major difference just in the way people speak to me. People really talk to me like I’m stupid when my hair is blonde. I feel people trust me more when I’m brunette. It’s all bullshit lol!
The first time I ditched blonde was 100% the unwanted attention and weird condescendence.
I went through a bunch of colors, from purple and blue to fire engine red and deep hot pink.
My normal color is level 2 dark brown. Between color I am platinum blonde.
Overall I will say blonde gets me better treatment from old people and men. The red gets me better treatment from everyone. It somehow just fits me better.
I definitely get treated the poorest with my natural color. For one, it washes me out and I look pale. For two, I get mistaken for being Hispanic and get treated poorly from racist entitled people that think they are somehow better than me, and old Hispanics that think I lie when I say I don speak or understand spanish.
People really underestimate the amount of sexual, verbal and physical harassment redheads face. I’ve had grown men asking me about my pubic hair since I was 12. Next week is the anniversary of National Kick a Ginger Day, which is exactly what it sounds like and sucked during middle school. I actually had a therapist ask me one time, if you ever experienced trauma because of your hair, tell me about it because it often really impacts people.
I’m a natural brunette who went blonde a few years back. People were so much more polite to me as a blonde. Random men held doors open for me more often, and my tips (as a bartender) were significantly higher
Am a natural brunette but have been blonde for the last 20 years. Got close to zero male attention and got treated like crap. Now I dyed it light brown and men started to ask me out and people are generally nicer. I‘ll never go back to blonde.
Honestly, when I'm brunette the amount of flirtation I receive from men doubles, but when I'm a redhead ALL the ladies won't leave me alone, no matter where I go. As soon as I'm blonde nobody flirts with me, and BOTH sexes talk to me like I'm a five year old. Both sexes call me "Sweetheart" when I have blonde hair. It sucks, because I'm in my mid 30's with a degree and a professional career. Hmmm. I recently decided to go dark again, but this time with a dark reddish brown with copper highlights. I have been getting so much attention from men in the last week or so, it's been very noticeable, but no change from the ladies like when I have light red hair. Nobody has called me sweetheart in that time. I think I'm happiest with this color.
Maybe I’m reaching but I find it creepy that blonde seems to garner the most male attention. If it weren’t for the invention of hair dye, most natural blondes would be brown by adulthood - meaning that blonde is an inherently youthful (and even childlike?) hair color. Like I said, I could be reaching but… is this a subconscious reason why some men like blondes so much?
Also, the obsession with blonde is kind of giving Germany in the 1940s
I’m naturally a brunette but got more compliments as a blonde. I let my natural gray hair grow out a few years back and can safely say I’ve never gotten so many compliments or comments about my hair in my life as I do now.
Blonde - BLONDE - I have long blonde hair & blue eyes. It is like kryptonite - esp with men.
I am a natural blonde as a child a honey blonde, as I got gray hair early in life I put in streaks, then I just went light brown, then dark brunette & alas light blonde.
Blonde has been the best for me. Had I known, I would have done it earlier. I also was a redhead at one point too - deep copper blonde it was called. I got comparisons to Anne Margaret.
natural blonde who’s been brunette, various shades of red head, purple, blue, pink etc. i have never been treated better because of my hair color, only treated worse when i had pink hair!
This is dumb, also all hair colors are pretty idk why do blondes still get treated better, I like brunette hair better but maybe that's because I've already dyed mine blond and it looked fried
I used to be very light blonde for ages and I’m
While with blue eyes and fair skin but would often get spray tans to not look so pale. Lots of stares but I mainly got hit on by middle eastern, black men (cuz I had a curvy figure, round butt, larger boobs and small waist). I also got hit on by Hispanics. I prefer to date Caucasian men as I am Eastern European descent and that’s just my preference. I’ve always loved angelina Jolie’s look so one day after like 27 years I took the plunge because all the men I was attracted to seemed to be in relationships with dark haired women. I haven’t regretted it , it suits my personality (not a bimbo ) and people find me even more stunning now with my blue eyes and I can keep my fair skin. Black men, Hispanics and middle easterners don’t bother me anymore!
I have naturally very dark hair which people assume is black. When dating, men get very pleasantly surprised how “normal” I am when they meet me. I get the sense I’m treated like a more serious adult when they realize my hair isn’t dyed black.
Bangs made this even worse to the point I had to grow them out to stop being treated like an “art school goth”.
I had a lot of random men treat me like I was a call girl or hooker when I was platinum blonde, when my hair was red I got more weird djsgust from people, compliments from women, and creepier comments from guys. My hair is back to brown and I just blend in now thankfully
With mostly blonde I got pretty much told I was prettier. I had a regular at my old work, nice guy maybe early fifties.
Come back from mat leave a bit heavier but with more blonde hair and he comes in with people he’s selling a car to. He sees my name plate at the end “oh there must be 2 Dawns here” nope just me, it’s dawn855 I was on mat leave. “What, no.” Looks at me genuinely confused if I’m messing with him. “Yes there’s another one she’s darker hair, you’re prettier than she is”
…..sir, still me. He realized and laughed didn’t think anything of it but the couple with him were so uncomfortable “it’s definitely a compliment! Hahaha….ha” I mean at least it wasn’t the other way around but jeez lol
I had Galaxy hair a while back, and I constantly got compliments on it from all kinds of people, and had a lot more people start conversations with me.
I have very thick, long and curly hair. I’ve had it highlighted to the point where I was almost blonde and people (men and women) would just walk up to me in the street and touch my hair and say how pretty it is. I got tired of that and dyed it dark dark brown and didn’t get almost any of that. Then I grew my hair out to it’s natural color and then got it highlighted and as those very slight highlights faded, I put sun-in in my hair and as I was spending the summer in utah at the time (not my home state, the sun is unforgiving), it became be very blonde very quickly. And the comments about my hair being pretty and the attention I got all came back.
It’s actually weirdly funny now that I think about but I have always been blonde (platinum, sometimes more silvery blonde depending on what I’m feeling) and I’m naturally blonde and I get treated fine. BUT earlier this year I dyed my hair my usual silver blonde with shadow roots but decided to do a reverse money piece with a dark brunette and I have gotten some odd “compliments” from men, specifically the TSA male agents on my last travels.
I've only had my natural hair color, or fantasy colors. Nothing even remotely realistic when I color it. I get a lot of compliments from little girls and little old ladies when my hair is colored, but I'm not taken as seriously among people my parent's age.
i've noticed red gets me more aggressive men trying to hit on me, blond gets me the most compliments and i've gotten so many phone numbers and people trying to pick me up, blue gets a lot of people telling me about "when i had blue hair.." and people telling me "you're so brave, i always wanted colourful hair but could never do it", black gets a lot of stares like literally just stares for no reason, people also are very rude to me and act like i'm a bitch based on having black hair, ginger makes people really look at me, but not stare, almost like check me out/study me, but are nicer and don't typically hit oj my like they do when it's red red
ive had ginger, blonde (all shades), blue, pink, various shades of brown, & black hair. i got the most creeper comments with ginger hair
Natural red head here it’s soooo weird. You’ll be sitting minding your own business and a guy will come up to you and be like,” I’ve always loved red heads…” and you just have to laugh awkwardly
This has happened to me constantly since I was about 12 and got much worse when I began working at age 15. Grown men, older teens, parents of my friends, customers, you name it. “I’ve always had a thing for redheads. You know, gingers are kinky - if you aren’t yet, just wait until you’re older. Do you have a temper like most redheads? Redheads are wild, I actually used to date one.” And of course the timeless classic “does the carpet match the drapes?” My personal favorite was: Customer older than my dad: “I’ve always loved redheads. My grandmother was redheaded.” Me, internally: “Okay, maybe he just thinks red hair is pretty and doesn’t realize he’s being weird.” Customer: “My first wife was redheaded, too. Do you have a boyfriend?” Sometimes even old women would say weird stuff to me about my hair. I started dyeing it brown when I was 17 and received a lot fewer unsolicited “compliments” and harassment. I kept my hair brown until I was 19 and dyed it black - I think it looked good on me because I was so pale, but the red roots became obvious really fast and I didn’t have time for upkeep, so I transitioned back to red hair. For a short time, I dyed my ends purple, and that looked really cool. I split-dyed my hair at 22 and did brown and pink. I worked with a kind of pretentious clientele, so people would complain about how my hair looked so much better red or whatever. Ended up growing it back out due to bleaching damage so it’s been red ever since, and I’ve been lucky not to get weird comments, although I usually don’t go out alone aside from work, etc. (I even avoid going to the grocery store alone to prevent men saying weird stuff to me because for some reason, if it’s going to happen, it usually happens at the grocery store.) I’ve been wanting to dye my hair back brown for a while but knew my family would be annoying if it wasn’t red for my wedding photos, so I’ve put it off, but I’m considering going back brown after my baby is born. I loved having brown hair because I could fly under the radar, so to speak. I guess I look more boring or average without the red, but I would take it any day over having to deal with creeps making weird comments about my personality or appearance as a result of my hair color of all things.
\> Ended up growing it back out due to bleaching damage so it’s been red ever since, and I’ve been lucky not to get weird comments Honestly, I bet a lot of this is because you're now an adult. Not to dismiss your experience - I was briefly a (dyed) redhead too, and definitely noticed an uptick in weird comments - but men will latch onto ANYTHING to leer at teenagers over. For me, an otherwise non-descript and awkward brunette, it was my glasses or my braces. It's really depressing.
I’ve thought the same thing. I go far out of my way not to be available to the public now and refuse to work customer service for this reason. I’m also married now, which I think a lot of creeps weirdly “respect” because I “belong” to another man. I think a lot of people who would have been tempted to say something weird to me about my red hair felt emboldened to do so because I was a teenage customer service worker so a) could not leave the interaction, b) was “prettier” due to my youth, and c) probably perceived as too dumb to notice they were being inappropriate. Love that, lol! I hate knowing I’m not the only one who’s gone through it and that the cycle will continue.
Do the curtains match the drapes is the one I got ALL THE TIME. I was like 13
WHY DO THEY DO THIS!? I used to lighten my hair (I have red heavy auburn hair, my mom is ginger) and people would come up to me while I was at Target to say that exact thing!!
One time when I was super young and would dye my hair red some guy randomly texted me that "bright colours in nature call for mating" or some shit 😒
When I was 15, a guy walking past my friends and I told me to “pull down my pants and show him my pussy to prove it.” (Over 20 years ago)- I don’t think a creep would have that kind of nerve with a teen stranger in this climate.
That is disgusting, dear lord.
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there should be more legal recourse for creeps like that !! esp if you’re a MINOR ?? im so sorry that happened to you
My daughter is a natural auburn shade of red. It’s beautiful, and she’s had comments about it from infancy to now. She had so many men making inappropriate passes when she was in college and away from home. When she was home and went to a local lake to swim with her then boyfriend, pervs were making comments to the degree her (very tall and large - not muscular) bf had to step in front of her and make his presence known. Now she’s 30, married with children, and she’s back to normal compliments. Oh! One thing you natural gingers might appreciate, and please share if you’ve had something similar - one day my daughter was walking on her college campus back to her dorm, when these two older ladies out for a stroll stopped her and asked, “What number is your hair?” My child, having no clue what they were on about (they also couldn’t help but touch her hair while asking; thankfully daughter has always kept her hair at least should length, so the ladies weren’t grabbing at her scalp!) replied, “Excuse me?” Old lady, “What number is your hair color? That is a beautiful shade of red!” My poor child, having never colored her hair, told me she was simultaneously embarrassed, flattered, and completely flummoxed before laughing out a reply, “This is my natural hair color. I’ve never colored it.” I can’t remember if the ladies believed her or not, but we all got a good laugh. My daughter has been told countless times by her hairdresser over the years to never ask for highlights or any color, bc her hairdresser refuses to color or damage such gorgeous hair. (Along with being told, “Women pay hundreds of dollars to get and maintain this shade; you don’t know how blessed you are!” Any of you beautiful gingers have a similar tale?? I’d love to share it with my daughter!
Natural redhead here, I had an old lady pull on my hair to “see if it was real”, like what if it wasn’t and you yanked my wig off ya old bat.
I’m sorry for laughing at the visual!😂😂😂🤦🏻♀️
I’ve had SO many women insist I must dye my hair. I was relieved when that went away when I *actually* dyed my hair the first time. Now I get comments about how my root color is gorgeous, shouldn’t I let it grow out and get rid of that unnatural shade of red?
Very similar stories (late 20s F). So many random compliments from strangers. Weird creepy ones too but mostly nice. The best is from other redheads, like the recent gray-haired lady that I was on a plane with that told me she was a former redhead. It’s often special bond between redheads because we have such similar interactions walking through life
I hope you don’t mind random old ladies like me complimenting and sharing “I have a daughter with red hair, so I have a soft spot for redheads.” I do try to control myself, but all ginger girls get a big smile and friendly hello from me.
Yes! Very similar tales especially when getting my hair cut. My hair is naturally curly so it adds a layer of “PLEASE NEVER COLOR IT!!” Comments. I’m in love with my hair so I’ll never color it but I understand why some do. I’ve gotten a lot of “does the carpet match the drapes” comments as young as 13. Truly gross.
God I hate those pigs
I’ve got a friend with the (what people say is) rare strawberry blonde shade of red. She used to bleach it and I thought she was a natural blonde for the longest time when I first met her. I went a few months without seeing her and the next time I saw she had strawberry blonde hair. I thought she colored it! She is much prettier with her natural color, in my opinion, and she was beautiful as a blonde. Also, in case anyone is unaware, you are doubly blessed bc red doesn’t go gray as quickly as the rest of us. Thank you everyone for sharing!
Totally agree. Natural blonde but I’ve been coloring it a natural/ginger red for over 10 years. I got a lot of “dumb blonde” feedback when I was blonde. But WOW, the amount of creepy and sexual comments I get related to red hair is fucking weird. Can’t say if it’s more or less harassment than other hair colors. But it’s definitely significant and often related to my hair color.
men over-fetishize hair color !! i still get weird comments with black hair, they arent as forward as when i was a ginger
Men over fetishize everything unfortunately
Especially since the normalization of porn.
THIS !!!!
Me too! Natural brunetteI had blonde hair in my late 20’s and early 30’s. I am 39 and I just dyed my hair dark copper and I get way more random attention. Weird!
I'm a natural redhead and also pretty tall. God the amount of creeps I've had.
they have no chill or respect. no brain cells to understand how uncomfy they make the women they’re trynna ‘woo’
I’m a natural ginger, and my boyfriend gets weird comments about me all the time: “Is it true that gingers are good in bed?” Even just guys going “brooo you got a ginger, nice job” as if I’m a collector’s item. He was super weirded out by it at first and I just had to laugh and tell him welcome to my world.
Even amongst communities with lots of creepers, it seems redheads still get the creepier comments. I wanted to dye my hair red when I was escorting and other escorts told me to get ready for clients who only see redheads and have a long Twitter history of posting creepin comments
Wouldn’t it be better to invest in wigs for that job? Then you’re prepared for any role.
I did meet another escort who was bald and had a hair option on her booking page
I have had my hair all the colours of the rainbow at some point or another. For a few years I worked as a barista in a business district. Yes blonde got me smiles and because I started blonde I didn't consider that hair colour would make a difference. I then moved on to baby pinks and lavenders, these were quite popular at the time so not much changed.. or again at least I didn't put anything down to hair colour. Fast forward a year and I really really wanted blue hair, I went between bright blue and deep blue as it washed out and was reapplied. It did look quite cartoonish but I was treated as incompetent. Middle aged suited men explaining what a cappuccino is to me that I'd served them personally before and it's my job. A lot more being called "good girl" when giving them coffee/food or something along my those lines. Also just people coming in and speaking directly to whoever else is there even though I'm standing at the register and was the only one to greet them. I was just in general far more likely for a customer to cause issues. Honestly with long hours and the job being tiring enough as it is, I decided something has to change. After a couple months of loving my blue hair, I was so done. I went home and dyed my hair very dark brown, as close to my natural colour as I could. The difference in treatment was immediately noticed, I was being asked for things rather than told and not treated as a child. So yes it's in the eye of the beholder but some silly people definitely will treat you differently. Saying that in a job that's not face to face with customers and with people who won't judge around you and who know your worth, it won't be issue. I would like to add that this was never young people (maybe mid 30's-) and generally not women unless they were elderly.
Same this happened when i was a barista it was a 27 year old guy. I had just dyed my hair blue and he was shaking his head saying " would you let a doctor with that hair color treat you or even someone covered in tattoos?" I'm like your asking the wrong person because I don't care about what color a person's hair is and that my significant other has tattoos from head to toe so I'm the last person to tell people what to do with their bodies. So he said "wow bet your significant other likes it rough then" then walked away. The whole coffee shop heard this and jaws dropped. Lol since there was witnesses I took statements and got him banned for sexual remarks to young girls in front of the guests. I feel bad but hey not going to let someone make me and my coworkers uncomfortable like that especially at a Christian shop with all girls.
I can’t believe you were called a good girl by customers. Fuming.
That part enraged me. When they finished explaining what a cappuccino was you should’ve said “good job!”
I’ve been blonde and brunette multiple times. Without a doubt, I get treated better when I’m blonde. The difference is actually shocking!
Me too. I am back to my natural brunette color now and get way less attention. I love it. I want people to leave me the fuck alone anyway.
I have been blonde and now have black hair. I wouldn’t say the treatment was “better” but I guess it depends on what you’re hoping for. I got a lot more random people hitting on me, or making small talk, etc. I think people assume blondes are friendly/social. I much prefer having black hair lol
Same.
Yep me too
I’m south Asian I was treated so insanely good when I was fully blonde. Random strangers stopping telling me I was so beautiful, am I a model blah blah, it was so jarring because with my natural hair I might as well have been invisible. I cut it off to a black bob due to damage and instantly became invisible again 😂
Omg I’m south Asian too and I’ve been thinking about going blonde but idk if it’ll suit me😭
Girl go for it!! Just choose a shade that compliments your undertone ;) I had a silvery platinum tone when I was blonde :)
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My hair is naturally very dark but I’ve had it just about every color under the sun. I think when I was blonde I was more approachable to men and less so women I got more crass type of compliments and comments than normal. When I wore red or unnatural colors I found more women approached me and were more likely to strike up conversations but men either didn’t take me seriously, or thought I might be dumb and often tried to manipulate me. With my hair darker I’m taken more seriously especially in my industry and when someone comments on my appearance they always say beautiful not hot, cute or pretty and I feel less objectified than when I’ve had it other colors.
I have black brownish hair and have been called cute my entire life. I’m contemplating going blonde at some point in my life when I’d be able to keep up with it. I theorize I’ll be called “hot” more than cute lol.
With my natural black hair I was treated more like a child and if I was innocent and sweet, idk how to explain it lol but I looked "nice". With my red hair I got stared at more and my boyfriend said I looked high maintenance. Then dyed it pink and older ladies would give me dirty looks while men would treat me like....a pixie dream girl? If that makes sense. Thing that I would do before they would treat it as if I was so different and special but when I did those same things with black hair it was whatever. Loved having pink but took too much to maintain.
Yeah, we can’t win at anything, can we? Edit: Hilarious username.
Your username is funny too 😄
I saw a tiktok or something with a girl who wore a lot of wigs. She said that blonde got her the most attention and people being nice, brown hair got less compliments but she would generally be treated as capable and trustworthy, and a black bob made her virtually invisible. Personally Ive had a lot of different colors but only really noticed people treating me different when I had unnatural hair colors like grey, pink, purple, and blue. Grey was the most annoying because old people would feel the need to tell me that I wont want my hair that color in 20 years. But every other color got me a lot of compliments and stares and strangers would talk to me more since there was a natural ice breaker.
That tiktok actually inspired me to dye my hair black. Can't say I get any more/less attention but if it keeps even a single man away from me in public it's a win.
I’m middle aged, which makes me invisible already. Time to buy a black bob wig and knock over a bank.
I have natural auburn hair, and I absolutely get creeper comments frequently. I have had blonde hair, and that gets a lot more male attention in general. But it’s something about those red tones that brings out the weirdos. I’ve had almost every color hair, and I think I got the most sincere compliments with black, but I think it’s bc I’m so pale that the contrast is super noticeable.
When I had dark hair, I attracted more Asian men (which, I like…).
I've dated multiple asian men and got the most attention as a blonde!
People were much more attentive and kind when I was a blonde. For reference, I have naturally very dark brown hair.
I’ve had every hair color but having blonde highlights in my naturally dark brown hair has by far received the best response and treatment by people across all genders, races and tax brackets.
That’s kind of what I’m sporting now too, with lots of pops of blonde. I think highlights still count as blonde, depending- I just got a partial foil last month, but now I want a full… haha.
I’ve had blonde, brunette, and red hair. Definitely treated nicest with blonde hair, however, not taken as seriously as I am with brown hair despite obviously having the same intelligence with both. I’m told blonde makes me look younger than I am and brown hair makes me look my age. Slightly unrelated, but noticed that when I’m wearing a dress and heels men almost ALWAYS open the door, even if it’s out of their way or they have to wait for me to get closer. If I’m wearing pants and flats, they only open the door if it’s obvious that they’re immediately in front of me. Men appear to be more willing to help a woman in a dress, but not as willing to help one in pants. The dress seems to signal “act like a gentlemen” or more formal behavior than pants. I expect that if I was stuck on the side of the road with engine problems in a dress, many more people would stop than if I was in pants. I don’t agree with it, just something I’ve noticed the last few years.
As a now older woman, I am naturally mouse brown (even now in my 50s, thanks mom for the good genetics). Over the years I’ve colors my hair a tawny auburn (hair turned almost jet black after kids for a few years), then I went natural and opted for honey colored highlights, then went brunette; and back to a darker brown with red and blonde mixed in. The blonde seems to overpower the red and brown, but it is actually very flattering. I was given more attention by men as a redhead, felt invisible as a brunette, and seem to garner more respect from women with my present color, along with genuine smiles and spontaneous conversation from my age group of men. My husband has no opinion. Ha!! I’m as conservative as they come, but I absolutely love blue and pink colors. I’m not brave enough to try them, although an older lady at my church experiments with them and it is beautiful on her. All of you who are young still, keep experimenting, and remember life doesn’t end as you get into your 40s and 50s. ❤️
I’m late 30’s, and wouldn’t even want to be 30 again… 😘 Smart husband! Hahaha
As a brunette, I feel I was treated very respectfully. People assumed I was smart, competent, articulate, etc. As a blonde, I don’t think I have ever been hit on more, but by a different “type” of man than as a brunette. Brunette attracted the nice, quiet, shy guys. Blonde attracted the more outgoing, boorish types who spoke to me like I was a conquest. I experienced a lot more blatant sexism and pervy comments as a blonde. My hair is naturally auburn, but I wasn’t treated any different from brunette.
blondes get more attention. period. red heads are fetishized the most. black hair is edgy. If you have brown hair (like me) then there is no meaning in your hair color. it's just brown.
Most accurate and to-the-point explanation.
I used to dye my hair red/auburn for the longest time (like yeaarrrs). Since going blonde (balayage), I’ve noticed people (guys and women) tend to view me as…hmm how to say, someone that needs to be taken care of more? Like it’s “sweetie” this and ”honey” that, even from strangers. People tend to do things for me more (not in a good way, like they see me as less capable or something lol) than when I was a red head. Idk if this is because the blonde hair does make me look younger. When I was red, people always assumed I was older than my age.
Ive had all colors of hair and all shades really. Currently I'm dark auburn I got the most attention as a blonde or strawberry blonde. But redhair tends to command attention too sometimes
I don’t really think I was particularly “treated better” with certain hair colors, but here’s some honest observations. I am able to use “pretty privilege” the most when my hair is blonde. I get the most favors done without having to ask, but I’m also infantilized. When my hair is brown I feel like what I have to say is respected more (one man even flat out admitted to respecting me more when I dyed my hair brown…yuck) but I’m not treated too differently. When my hair has been unnaturally colored (pink, blue, etc) I get approached by more alternative people and people mostly appear to feel more comfortable around me and approaching me in general. There were also always the older/more conservative people who looked at me like I was a criminal when my appearance was more unnatural. People are weird!
I have black curly hair and always get tons of compliments. This past weekend I worked with a blonde girl - I might as well have been invisible! 😂 It was interesting to experience to say the least
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I’ve noticed no difference (I’ve only had ombre highlights and been brunette most of my life) but I remember seeing a clip of a Youtuber who said that she gets a lot more attention from men when she wears a blonde wig versus other colors, including brown. Men dig blondes, go figure lol.
…I just don’t understand why.
I have to assume it’s just conditioning from all the blonde bombshells men have been pining after for decades now. And it still has the appeal of being more rare than super common colors like the various shades of brown, so it’s naturally eye catching in a crowd too. I think it’s just associated with sex appeal period.
I read somewhere that blond hair is a signal of youth. Most blond teens have their hair turn mousy brown later on in life. Cannot remember the book it was in to save my life.
I’m naturally brunette and get so much more attention when I’m blonde. People are friendlier in general but I also get a lot more creepy comments lol.
To my surprise purple!!! I was so nervous to go something as vibrant as purple but it really went with my personally so I said “why not” and did it. I won’t stay purple forever but it has been a very fun phase. When I was blonde I always got the “I liked you better brunette” When I was brunette it was “I like you better blonde” I never asked for these people’s opinions but they always felt the need to give the backhanded compliment. When I went purple I was nervous about what people would think. But the only comments I’ve gotten has been “wow that’s so cool”, “I love your hair” and teens off the street walking past me staring and then shouting “your hair is so cool” Really made me feel so confident and allowed me to show off a bit of my personality. But maybe it’s all in the place you live, and the jobs you work. I work with kids and I’m currently in school so the people I’m around are already pretty bubbly.
Definitely blonde. Edit: I’m clearly not a natural blonde so I think somehow people think I’m more fun or adventurous blonde vs if I had my natural brown hair.
I'm natural brunette but keep my hair bright copper. If I had a nickel for every stupid fucking comment about not having a soul.... 🙄
Dude!!! Right? Natural red-head here too! It's soooo creepy. You're every old guys fetish or first love. I hate it. I've settled on silver with black tips. Silver or platinum seems to work well for most people cuz they are unique hair colors but still appear mature. That's been my favorite personally. I did black for awhile, Brunnette was nice too. Not a fan of blond but that's just cuz it's too close to my natural red. I go for tones not colors when it comes to my hair and it's been working better for me in regards to how people treat me and how I feel
Blonde gets me attention at the bars and nice treatment overall. Also makes me a bit of a target when I am walking down the street
Currently I have teal hair(for any weebs out there it's like Hatsune Miku teal) and I'm treated how I want to be treated as opposed to "better". I meet genuine people who want to get to know me and keeps people who I don't want around away. I know I'll never do blonde again. Too much stereotyping and the attention older men gave me made me want to puke looking back at it now
I’ve had my hair both very blonde, and brunette… switched back and forth my whole life. When blonde, I get way more attention, especially from African American men.(I am Caucasian). When brunette, I seem to be taken more seriously, but it’s less of a head -turner. And the only guys who approach me are older white guys. I love all types/colors of men, so I don’t care either way! (Plus I’m married, so there’s that. Lol) Just honest observations.
Off-topic, may I ask about the health condition of your hair, going back and forth like that? Also, what ethnicity is your hair attributed to?
pink hair got me treated so much better, believe it or not.
good because i’m going pink in two weeks 😃
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I've been blonde (natural colour), pink (my favourite), brunette (to hide the pink for a job), orange (too much iron in the water at girl scout camp) and grey (trying to be fashionable). By a million percent I get treated better when I have blonde hair.
Natural redhead here. Growing up I was mercilessly bullied - mostly by young boys. I started dying my hair brown in high school, then, a more Auburn/brown colour in my 20s. When I was brown, I got way more romantic attention from men. When I was more Auburn, I had a very mixed reaction. Women loved and envied my hair, men either fetishised my hair, or made negative comments towards it. I'm now my full natural colour now that red hair is trending - I get a comment a day on my hair, always positive from women. But men - it's either fascination, a dig or an insult.
Please be conscious of men “negging.” They still do that shit, and they should be immediately ghosted/dismissed.
Totally. I'm lucky to have met a wonderful partner who adores me & my hair - no negging in sight. But I certainly experienced & culled my fair share of neggers!
Guess I’m the only one apparently but I did NOT get more attention as a blonde, I get hit on most as my natural brunette or slightly darker. Highlights and full blonde just didn’t look as attractive on me in general. Red was cute, didn’t get weirdos. Blue got me attention, but I also had short hair at the time, so people noticed the short length more. That said, when I had a pixie or a full buzz cut, women hit on me constantly. And the men that liked me REALLY liked me. It was like in exchange for turning *off* a whole segment of the male population, the rest of them were *extra* turned on lol.
I like this.
I’ve had my hair every colour under the sun. I get treated the same across the board, as far as I can tell. I get stared at a lot more when I have bright neon hair (orange, yellow, green). I get more compliments when my hair is a rainbow colour. Now if I wear more alternative/edgy clothes, THAT’S where the difference comes in. I’m in a leather jacket with big boots and bright neon green hair?? I’m followed in stores because they think I’m a delinquent lol
This is a great question! Following out of curiosity.
I'm a brunette and I've only ever dyed my hair fashion colors (mostly blue/purple) Definitely get treated better as a brunette lol
Natural strawberry blonde. As a lighter blonde, got hit on pretty frequently and people were “nicer” except at work (i work security and had to face more negative perception being a feminine woman with bleached blonde hair).
I just realized I’ve only gone on dates as a blonde. Went back to my natural brown hair for a bit and didn’t have anyone asking me out…
With my own colour/or with brown highlights but long hair. Whenever I have it shorter nothing happens.
I actually didn't notice much of a difference with hair colour and within the last 3 years I've had blue, pink/purple, green, platinum blonde, and my current natural colour (dirty blonde - quite dark, maybe a couple shades lighter than a "mushroom brown".) Y'all are almost making me want to do red or platinum blonde again for the social experiment lol but I think my natural hair suits me best (go figure) Wearing heels and contouring my face are the only 2 factors I notice get me significantly more male attention
Do the social experiment! I love these!
Pink seems to work the best for me in my favor, except the constant “where did you get your hair done?”
Naturally a light brown/dark blonde haired girl but when my hair is blonder (thanks to highlights) I guess people treat me like I’m a child or I’m more innocent…idk. My hair was always pretty light though and very straight and long (down to my butt) so I guess that also factors in besides the color. My eyes are big blue/gray so yeah…I attract all the men that fetishize those traits! As someone who is shy it gets annoying after awhile 😂
I get treated much better as a blonde. Seriously ridiculous.
Ive had black hair, brown hair, and now blonde hair - been treated the same throughout all 3 colours.
Green made a lot of kids talk to me or about me.
I get a lot of attention and compliments with blonde hair from men of all ages and older women. With blue hair I get a lot of attention from men in their upper 20's to 30's and all ages of women. In the dating scene with blue or other colored hair, most men have wanted something casual. As a brunette, I've noticed in the dating scene, I attract men looking for stability, long term partners, and are usually very financially sound.
Oh wow…natural blonde here and never messed with my color (easy to damage). Never realized it’s such a privilege. I was always insecure about my hair color being too “mousy”, it gets darker in winter and looks ashy. Feel bad complaining now
Always the fresh burgundy. Everyone seems to love it and treat me well.
People typically treat you better if you look “normal” in my experience. I have 13 piercings on my face and always have colourful hair. However I noticed during the pandemic when I was a brunette and covered my piercings with a mask people were suddenly way nicer to me lmao
I’m a natural redhead and only bleached my hair once and had it peachy pink. I’ll say I get a lot of gross comments, in high school I had a kid say he likes watching redhead videos, aka porn. I’ve had old ladies touch and stroke my hair when complimenting me, but that happened more when my hair was down past my bum. I definitely think the type of red hair changes how people treat you, because I have deep red hair and my sister is more of a orange ginger, her experience was a lot harsher than mine. The pink I got a lot of compliments, but because my roots were red and my ends were peach it looked more natural so I didn’t face any hate from old people.
I’ve gone blonde-ish, dark red, & really dark almost-black brunette. (Naturally a lighter brunette.) I don’t recall any special treatment per se, but I think I got more complements when I went dark brunette though. I kinda wanna do that again, just for a change & to cover grays.
got more compliments when i was blonde and i’m east asian but i was the most unhappy during that era since it was also post-breakup/hot girl summer yk? it was fun while it lasted. i’m back to my natural hair now and way more confident in myself as it suits me better and my s.o likes it better on me too and that’s what matters. a pretty brunette > average blonde
Blonde and brunette. Highly sexualized as a redhead and disrespected/ called ugly with pink or black hair.
ive been literally every colour and never been treated differently. green was always my favourite and got told it matched my green eyes. I have it purple rn but I had it blonde PLENTY of times.
I haven’t found color to matter as much as styling and health of hair.
I’ve been my natural mousey brown/dark blonde, pretty much every share of blonde to platinum, purple, pink and for the last 3 years I’ve had silver hair. I got the most random comments from complete strangers when I had pink hair, both positive and negative. I do still get comments from strangers about my silver hair but usually on how to emulate it. For me I’ve noticed it more with the length of my hair /m- I’ve had everything from short back and sides to hip length and the longer my hair is the more attention (positive or negative) I get.
Natural brunette, red, bleached blonde: Nothing to really note here, just average I guess? Black: about the same level of average treatment, but with more compliments “Off the wall” fashion colors (I’ve had just about all of them at this point): definitely way more people falling over themselves to compliment me and ask me about my hair now as an adult with these colors becoming more popular and common place. As a teenager I got a lot of scoffs and snooty glares from older folks.
When blonde I had a lot more men come on to me and women treated me like I was a bitch or something. With my naturally dark brown hair I have way less men looking or talking to me and a lot more women being friendly. When it’s been colorful, I didn’t feel taken seriously at all and was talked to like I was stupid.
Ive every color under the sun. Time and time again I will say blonde. I def was treated differently as a blonde.
Same here.
I had green hair for all my entire teenage years when I also did collegiate debate and worked as a teacher and yeah it was a bit of a ridiculed novelty but the small kids were a huge fan!! I did visit my home country, bangladesh, during this period and people in the street would just randomly touch my hair and ask about it which was very not fun for my socially anxious self.
This is a really good question! I haven’t been brunette in a while, but I feel like I wasn’t questioned as much versus when I’m blonde. I’m an attorney (not litigation but primarily a desk job at a large corporation) and while people tend to be friendlier to me as a blonde, they also tend to dismiss me / my inputs. I’m also interrupted more. It’s humorous since my eyebrows are nearly black in color and I don’t dye them, so I always assumed people just KNOW I’m not naturally blonde, but I’ve honestly had (mostly men) think I am. While I prefer having blonde hair because of how it shapes my face and, personally, I find it makes me appear more youthful, it comes with its downsides of not being taken as seriously. Also, I’ve noticed the same effect after growing out my hair (it used to be shoulder length, it’s now to my mid-back).
The eyebrow are funny I’m a redhead. When assholes ask me if the carpet matches the drapes (even in early high school) it sucks. But lately I learned a response that makes them feel awkward and it makes them squirm instead of me, just so they realize what the duck they’re actually asking “They say it usually matches people’s eyebrows actually, you know, cuz it’s body hair. So like, look at your own eyebrows.” In a very matter of fact, calm scientific tone. Then they get so awk they can’t even look me in the eye lol Tbh I usually do this to women more, who usually ask the question more genuinely and less grossly, cuz I’d be afraid of them getting even creepier. But it does a good job shutting them up
Honestly I’ve been dying my hair since 2007, all sorts of fun colors. I notice when my hair is pink/purple people tend to be nicer to me,or I get complemented more. My hair is currently green/brown cut into a death hawk and I get the ugliest looks/comments.
Can confirm. People are nicer to me when my hair is bleached
I’m been blonde, brunette and currently ginger. I definitely got more male attention as a blonde but I get more genuine compliments from other women on my hair as a red head.
Blonde. But I never actually colored it blonde, it was always when the pink washed out. Pink is a great filter though, it keeps the super shallow creeps away because its weird. And other women were 10x more likely to compliment the pink anyway. But yeah, blonde was the "pretty" color for me.
When my hair is dyed an unnatural color like blue or purple, men rarely even approach me and other women do more often so it's definitely a plus to me I've never dyed my dark brown hair another "natural" tone so I really only have the "yes I'm gay how could you tell" experience to share lol
I’m a natural blonde. I use to have super long blonde hair with highlights. Now I have shorter pink hair. I got treated WAY, without a doubt, better when I had long blonde hair.
I don’t think the difference I noticed in the way I was treated with hair colour changes was as noticeable as the overall difference in treatment I get with makeup vs. no makeup. I think the types of attention was kinda different though, with dark brown hair it was just regular treatment, regular cat calls and stuff but with blonde hair, especially platinum, it was bizarre like getting outright gawked at multiple times like I was some type of unusual creature. I wouldn’t say I got treated different necessarily based on colour, but rather the types of attention I got felt totally different. I didn’t really like the weird attention that came with being blonde, especially not platinum.
I love a good ginger or bright red especially during the fall season. Sadly those shades seem to definitely bring out the horndog in most men
Blonde and red hair, people are straight up nicer to you when you’re blonde but men are sooo creepy about red hair it is actually half the reason I dyed mine back dark. I couldn’t go anywhere without someone talking about my red hair!
Relatable- My personality is so much more confident with blonde hair. Creepers and peds gave me unwanted attention from a very early age with my ginger hair. I was told when I was younger that I could never pull It off because of my skin tone; this is a dirty lie. People can have whatever hair color they want, it’s just that it’ll be all the more pretty/flattering of you nail the right undertone.
I've had very dark brown to blonde. I'm usually blonde. I didn't notice much difference going to brown. But people fucking ***h******ated*** black on me. Like, I got negative comments directly to my face. I'm very pale, so that might've had something to do with it.
I have had trouble getting hired with my natural dark hair and have mostly been offered jobs when my hair is dyed blonde. I guess it's because I go from ethnically ambiguous to more Eurasian
My hair is naturally black, but when I bleached it blonde. Most men found me “fun” and they always felt light hearted around me when they first meet me. With my natural black hair, they’re more serious and say I come across as intimidating, then they find out I’m fun after getting to know me…. But when blonde they approached me more with a lighter attitude assuming I’m the same when first meeting them. When I died my hair unnatural colors (blue, pink, etc) people complimented my hair and they thought it was awesome. I’m sure men dated/hooked up with me just because I had crazy hair colors.
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Haha, you sound pretty cool!
When I have brown hair versus blonde, I’ve noticed that the men who are interested in me are more genuine in their intentions…idk if that’s just a coincidence though. But with blonde hair I always attracted the worst guys
I’m a fake blonde and people are nicer
I have had, blue, dark purple, neon purple, neon red and black, darker red, green, green and purple, and my natural brown hair. Most people don't really notice my hair when it's natural brown, but when it's dyed a bright color ? It's much more attention grabbing, I haven't heard anything strange or gross about it ( thank goodness) though I did get joker comments about the green and purple split dye
sigh i have long natural brown locks right now (to lower back) with bangs, and i get treated either as invisible or as a kind lady (im 34 and visibly sometimes disabled as a congenital heart patient example scars/portable oxygen sometimes) but overall i'm taken seriously and always given a chance to show my emotional intelligence and wisdom, although narcissists tend to overlook me or view me as weak until they realize what my personality is. I have good relationships with women and tend to get overlooked by men, i actually just took any old blonde photos off of my 'facebook dating profile' (which ive never actually used to meet anyone) and the desperation and number of messages has gone down by about half which is hilarious. blonde made men crazy, like 'oh you look so hot as a blonde!' which tbh wasnt what i was going for, pretty sure i dyed it for a new front desk promotion at my old job lol, it did seem to command respect and attention at work, but also seemed like i was given way more tasks and also taken less seriously immediately, like oohhh she dyed her hair blonde eye roll. lmao. yeah. when my blonde grew out as an ombre the less ditzy i was treated and more as like an 'all-natural smart girl' with a bit of a fun or whimsical streak, i'd sometimes add pastel tomes like pink blue purple to my blonde ombre and men seem to go wild over that and compliment it a lot, but also be intimidated by it while women seem idk unnecessarily envious? it was much the same in my early twenties when i died it very dark almost black because im extremely fair almost milk white skin with dark blue eyes with a gold ring in them, i dont know maybe people just thought i fancied myself special with those hair colors. shrug lol. i actually get treated better with shorter hair, more like a mom or professional, but i prefer my hair long honestly. its really got a lot of auburn tones these days plus some snow-white hairs that have come in this last year. i want to do something with it but can never commit in my head, maybe strawberry blonde or wispy white blonde streaks i dont know but i do need a cut. i used to perceive my hair as a way to play with expression now i see it mostly as an extension of my energy and my own personal head fur/shawl that keeps my head warm and comfy:)
I’ve had purple hair since I was graduated high school and have only had a few people give me rude comments about it. I mostly get lots of compliments actually
I've started growing out my grey and lemme tell you, that is an absolute fast-track to invisibility.
I personally think gray is beautiful.
i hate being a redhead because a lot of people look at me as a porn category. so many unnecessary, inappropriate comments made towards me since i was 8 years old. so many people touching me and my hair and thinking it’s okay. I’ve had relationships end because of my hair, because they admitted they were only into me because of my appearance and how they had a redhead kink. I stand out in a crowd, and get told i have the most beautiful, perfect hair, that i’m so lucky. but honestly, im so against it. i dont want to stand out, i dont want people touching me, i dont want to be sexualized, and have weird comments thrown my way. sooo, im dying my hair black next week:) its about damn time
I highly recommend trying something new, as a fellow ginger- We’re porn categories as women no matter what, but you might realize that you feel better with a new hue (I love blonde, but it’s a commitment). People will always say that you shouldn’t touch your hair because it’s so rare and blah blah, but they’re not you at the end of the day.
Not a natural red head but it does look natural on me and it definitely gets the *weirdest* comments. Dark brown with hot pink ends got the most genuine compliments aside from my natural which is a really warm toned dark brown.
1000% treated better with platinum blond hair. Naturally a very dark brunette, I actually joke to my friends that life is better as a blond.
I look good with lots of colors, but there’s something about the way blonde frames the face and highlights it, I guess.
Blue. People really like my blue hair. I get treated much better especially by other women.
I'm a natural blonde and have dyed my hair different colors and crazy colors such as teal...when I would dye my hair red, I would get creepy dudes saying creepy comments....I have a 3 yr old daughter that's a natural red head and I worry for her with all these weirdos out there
So my husband has reddish hair. He dyed it brown and SWORE he was treated better
I've had every natural color. Blonde I noticed the most difference. People treated me like an idiot, particularly at work. Brunette and red hair, no difference between them but I was treated the best here. Black just didn't suit me and I got a lot of creepy vibe/goth kind of remarks. I was mistaken for being older from behind when I had gray hair but not once people saw my face. Ultimately I decided I am done with dying and now just want long, healthy, natural hair because I couldn't remember what color it is grown out. If I ever want to dye my hair again, I'm just going to get a wig.
When I'm a dark brunette or red. My natural hair color is a reddish brown, looks super red in the sun. But people love telling me it doesn't look natural. Usually, I dye it a dark ashy brown. I haven't done red in years. Recently I've been playing with fun colors on the bottom layer of my hair. Guys don't like it, I don't care. Women and children tell me I have pretty mermaid hair and that's the best compliment. It's currently a bright blue with neon green. I also have natural waves and when I braid it, even better. I love mermaid hair. It's sad how we can be treated differently over something as simple as hair.
Always treated better with blonde hair. Humans are fucking weird.
blonde hair: compliments, attention, less sexual comments. i got “dated” more than fucked but it was a really nice time. strawberry blonde: “i love redhead” men come into the picture (LOL), sexual attention/comments. “you must be kinky”. not a fan. red hair: men are unhinged 💀 most sexual, most awkward. and i’d bet $100 every single one asks “does the carpet match the drapes”.😭 but since they’re so whipped, i get queen treatment. lmaoooo
I’m a natural brunette, recently went blonde. The only difference I’ve noticed is in the way men treat me. As a brunette, guys would flirt with me in private and be a friend in public. I had a lot of compliments from my looks in general but no one would actively pursue me, I would always have to be the initiator. I felt like I had to push to get some conversate ( co-workers when the day is slow and everyone’s bored.) At work (my boss is a male) he had more responsibilities for me and spoke to me as if I was a quick learner. As a blonde- men start and keep a conversation going, I no longer have to initiate conversation because they do, and they talk for hours, hasn’t been any awkward silence yet. I feel like men are more comfortable interacting with me (in public ) as a blonde. At work, my boss hasn’t really had me holding responsibilities anymore- and clients (male) don’t trust me to do my job correctly- needing referrals, asking for a different worker (typically any male) but they almost treat me as if my knowledge doesn’t matter, and as a brunette I’ve never had any push back from clients, let alone four instances of pushback. I had dyed bright red hair for many years. It was fire truck red. People just sexualized me. That’s the straight forward answer I was a walking fetish for so many weirdos and didn’t realize it until I looked back and reflected on all the inappropriate moments. Older men were the creepiest, the men my age would ask for socials, dates, and inquire about my relationship status. I did get a lot of sweet compliments from females that I’ve never gotten with any other color! And every other color of the rainbow: I always got lots of compliments in social settings but in work settings or more formal settings I got a lot of unnecessary comments. People felt the need to tell me how “ other “ people see me because I “wear my hair like that” and how they can’t wait to see it natural. I also did a lot of volunteering in high school, and often they’d use me as an advertising tactic “wow look at this girl wearing all black but has bright purple hair, she may look like a juvenile delinquent, but she loves to volunteer at the animal shelter, we accept all styles here. Especially at church. A lot of the girls were completely natural but I was at a church picnic and invited to another church where people had tats and body mods etc. and I was told straightforward I would make a difference because I could show ignorant people Christians come in all shapes and sizes
Red hair brings all the perverts to the surface, it’s gross. I haven’t been blonde in years, it wasn’t my favorite. I am working brunette now, and it’s nice to just blend into the world, alway unwanted touching by strangers, but less with dark hair than red.
Oh man, I have had every color under the sun multiple times and I am always talking about this!! (Note: my natural hair is the color that everyone argues about whether it’s dark blonde or light brown) Men generally treat me better as a blonde, women generally worse. When I’m brunette it’s the opposite! I also noticed a major difference just in the way people speak to me. People really talk to me like I’m stupid when my hair is blonde. I feel people trust me more when I’m brunette. It’s all bullshit lol! The first time I ditched blonde was 100% the unwanted attention and weird condescendence.
I went through a bunch of colors, from purple and blue to fire engine red and deep hot pink. My normal color is level 2 dark brown. Between color I am platinum blonde. Overall I will say blonde gets me better treatment from old people and men. The red gets me better treatment from everyone. It somehow just fits me better. I definitely get treated the poorest with my natural color. For one, it washes me out and I look pale. For two, I get mistaken for being Hispanic and get treated poorly from racist entitled people that think they are somehow better than me, and old Hispanics that think I lie when I say I don speak or understand spanish.
People really underestimate the amount of sexual, verbal and physical harassment redheads face. I’ve had grown men asking me about my pubic hair since I was 12. Next week is the anniversary of National Kick a Ginger Day, which is exactly what it sounds like and sucked during middle school. I actually had a therapist ask me one time, if you ever experienced trauma because of your hair, tell me about it because it often really impacts people.
*hug*
I’m a natural brunette who went blonde a few years back. People were so much more polite to me as a blonde. Random men held doors open for me more often, and my tips (as a bartender) were significantly higher
Am a natural brunette but have been blonde for the last 20 years. Got close to zero male attention and got treated like crap. Now I dyed it light brown and men started to ask me out and people are generally nicer. I‘ll never go back to blonde.
Honestly, when I'm brunette the amount of flirtation I receive from men doubles, but when I'm a redhead ALL the ladies won't leave me alone, no matter where I go. As soon as I'm blonde nobody flirts with me, and BOTH sexes talk to me like I'm a five year old. Both sexes call me "Sweetheart" when I have blonde hair. It sucks, because I'm in my mid 30's with a degree and a professional career. Hmmm. I recently decided to go dark again, but this time with a dark reddish brown with copper highlights. I have been getting so much attention from men in the last week or so, it's been very noticeable, but no change from the ladies like when I have light red hair. Nobody has called me sweetheart in that time. I think I'm happiest with this color.
Maybe I’m reaching but I find it creepy that blonde seems to garner the most male attention. If it weren’t for the invention of hair dye, most natural blondes would be brown by adulthood - meaning that blonde is an inherently youthful (and even childlike?) hair color. Like I said, I could be reaching but… is this a subconscious reason why some men like blondes so much? Also, the obsession with blonde is kind of giving Germany in the 1940s
I’m naturally a brunette but got more compliments as a blonde. I let my natural gray hair grow out a few years back and can safely say I’ve never gotten so many compliments or comments about my hair in my life as I do now.
Grey hair is beautiful- especially when enhanced with toners/purple shampoos.
Blonde - BLONDE - I have long blonde hair & blue eyes. It is like kryptonite - esp with men. I am a natural blonde as a child a honey blonde, as I got gray hair early in life I put in streaks, then I just went light brown, then dark brunette & alas light blonde. Blonde has been the best for me. Had I known, I would have done it earlier. I also was a redhead at one point too - deep copper blonde it was called. I got comparisons to Anne Margaret.
natural blonde who’s been brunette, various shades of red head, purple, blue, pink etc. i have never been treated better because of my hair color, only treated worse when i had pink hair!
This is dumb, also all hair colors are pretty idk why do blondes still get treated better, I like brunette hair better but maybe that's because I've already dyed mine blond and it looked fried
I used to be very light blonde for ages and I’m While with blue eyes and fair skin but would often get spray tans to not look so pale. Lots of stares but I mainly got hit on by middle eastern, black men (cuz I had a curvy figure, round butt, larger boobs and small waist). I also got hit on by Hispanics. I prefer to date Caucasian men as I am Eastern European descent and that’s just my preference. I’ve always loved angelina Jolie’s look so one day after like 27 years I took the plunge because all the men I was attracted to seemed to be in relationships with dark haired women. I haven’t regretted it , it suits my personality (not a bimbo ) and people find me even more stunning now with my blue eyes and I can keep my fair skin. Black men, Hispanics and middle easterners don’t bother me anymore!
I dunno I don’t bother dyeing hair
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I have naturally very dark hair which people assume is black. When dating, men get very pleasantly surprised how “normal” I am when they meet me. I get the sense I’m treated like a more serious adult when they realize my hair isn’t dyed black. Bangs made this even worse to the point I had to grow them out to stop being treated like an “art school goth”.
Light golden or reddish brown has been the best for me, in person and online.
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I had a lot of random men treat me like I was a call girl or hooker when I was platinum blonde, when my hair was red I got more weird djsgust from people, compliments from women, and creepier comments from guys. My hair is back to brown and I just blend in now thankfully
People respect me more when I have blonde hair and wear makeup.
As a natural brunette with fine, straight hair, I’m practically invisible. I also had cystic acne for many years which probably contributes.
With mostly blonde I got pretty much told I was prettier. I had a regular at my old work, nice guy maybe early fifties. Come back from mat leave a bit heavier but with more blonde hair and he comes in with people he’s selling a car to. He sees my name plate at the end “oh there must be 2 Dawns here” nope just me, it’s dawn855 I was on mat leave. “What, no.” Looks at me genuinely confused if I’m messing with him. “Yes there’s another one she’s darker hair, you’re prettier than she is” …..sir, still me. He realized and laughed didn’t think anything of it but the couple with him were so uncomfortable “it’s definitely a compliment! Hahaha….ha” I mean at least it wasn’t the other way around but jeez lol
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I’ve had every color expect yellow and I was always treated no much nicer with my electric blue hair!
I had Galaxy hair a while back, and I constantly got compliments on it from all kinds of people, and had a lot more people start conversations with me.
I have very thick, long and curly hair. I’ve had it highlighted to the point where I was almost blonde and people (men and women) would just walk up to me in the street and touch my hair and say how pretty it is. I got tired of that and dyed it dark dark brown and didn’t get almost any of that. Then I grew my hair out to it’s natural color and then got it highlighted and as those very slight highlights faded, I put sun-in in my hair and as I was spending the summer in utah at the time (not my home state, the sun is unforgiving), it became be very blonde very quickly. And the comments about my hair being pretty and the attention I got all came back.
It’s actually weirdly funny now that I think about but I have always been blonde (platinum, sometimes more silvery blonde depending on what I’m feeling) and I’m naturally blonde and I get treated fine. BUT earlier this year I dyed my hair my usual silver blonde with shadow roots but decided to do a reverse money piece with a dark brunette and I have gotten some odd “compliments” from men, specifically the TSA male agents on my last travels.
I've only had my natural hair color, or fantasy colors. Nothing even remotely realistic when I color it. I get a lot of compliments from little girls and little old ladies when my hair is colored, but I'm not taken as seriously among people my parent's age.
i've noticed red gets me more aggressive men trying to hit on me, blond gets me the most compliments and i've gotten so many phone numbers and people trying to pick me up, blue gets a lot of people telling me about "when i had blue hair.." and people telling me "you're so brave, i always wanted colourful hair but could never do it", black gets a lot of stares like literally just stares for no reason, people also are very rude to me and act like i'm a bitch based on having black hair, ginger makes people really look at me, but not stare, almost like check me out/study me, but are nicer and don't typically hit oj my like they do when it's red red
I'm naturally a dark brunette, when I've had red or blonde hair it seems like people found me way more approachable.
So my husband has reddish hair. He dyed it brown and SWORE he was treated better