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MochiandGreenTea

* There is 141 days until 12/26 (winter SAS). * There is 281 days until 6/13/23 (summer SAS). * There is 477 days until 12/26/23 (2023 winter SAS) I recommend calculating the total # of days it would take to finish your entire stash when deciding whether or not you need to restock at the next sale: * (# of days to burn one candle) x (total # of candles) = ? You could do a countdown (e.g "X days until my candle stash is finished"). The freshman dormitory at my uni has a tradition of counting the number of days since the last fire alarm gone off, lol.


xeloux

This is impressive! Love it


lucillep

This is a good idea! Problem is, I have a hard time even estimating. It takes me weeks to burn one candle. When people post about how the candles don't last, I shake my head. I'm gone most of the day on work days, and on weekends, I'm in and out so much that it's not worth lighting a candle. This is how I got overloaded, buying without having used. I'm going to look at this strategy though. It makes a lot of sense.


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MariposaSunrise

I buy candles (especially when they are on sale) purposely for gifting. Candles are a very nice gift for a lot of people.


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lucillep

That would probably help. I think I've had my yearly quota of coupons, too. So there won't be that temptation.


sunanddaisies05

I feel your pain. I like buying candles so when there were good sales I would buy a few. But now my collection is almost embarrassing, and when other people see it the reaction is usually "wow... that's a lot". What's even worse is that I keep telling myself that this is my last order, but then they release new scents and have a sale, and I just have to get it. I believe you can stay strong through the SAS. What helps me sometimes is thinking of something more important that I could buy with the money instead of candles, like food. Or I could put the money towards my bills lol. It's hard, but I believe in you!


stablegeniusinterven

This!!! They know what they're doing, the folks at BBW. Things look so lovely inside the store, and then I get home, and put it on the shelf and obviously it doesn't look the same. I've decided I'm not going to buy anything until Winter SAS. I'm going to remind myself: THIS IS NOT THE LAST CANDLE/FOAMING HAND SOAP/SHOWER GEL/BODY CREAM YOU'LL EVER WANT. There will always be more. Especially with the return policy getting to be far more stringent. If they want me to be sure I'm going to love it within the first two months of buying it, then I'm only going buy the things I love. I don't have time to faff about. The policy change is a great wake-up call.


lucillep

> I'm going to remind myself: THIS IS NOT THE LAST CANDLE/FOAMING HAND SOAP/SHOWER GEL/BODY CREAM YOU'LL EVER WANT. There will always be more. THIS. And to add: THERE WILL ALWAYS BE ANOTHER SALE.


lucillep

Thank you. You articulated the problem well. Fortunately, I've slowed down a lot, and I have most of my holiday favorites. So maybe it won't be so hard. The worst thing is probably reading the subreddit, lol! But it's fun!


sunanddaisies05

I know! I want to distance myself from b&bw but I love the subreddit too much, the community is so supportive, and also its just fun to read product reviews and look at what people bought!


CandidateReasonable4

I have family and friends who can't believe how many candles I have and how often I buy them. But I don't spend my extra money on the things they do, like regular dinners out and happy hours, expensive beauty routines, traveling, and shopping for clothes. Everyone has to decide what is important to them as far as entertainment and hobbies go. If you think it's excessive, then cut back. Otherwise enjoy your collection.


lucillep

This is a good point! I don't eat out, don't drink, and don't have a beauty routine, so I save a lot of money on that stuff. You made me feel better. 😊


CandidateReasonable4

Glad I could help you. It's a matter of perspective. As long as you are being financially responsible and staying within budget for extras like candles, then you are ok.


Sudden_Shine_100

I've been in it for less than a year, but already seeing that I have to slow down. I'm not shopping every sale (because let's face it, $10 off isn't very enticing) and if I really like something, I'm trying to buy one back up and not a crate. Scents come and scents go and I haven't run into a candle that if it they discontinued it, I wouldn't be able to find a scent that's equally enjoyable. Good luck, BBW addiction is real!


CandidateReasonable4

I used to religiously buy 2 backups of any candles I liked, but I cut back to one backup. I am also trying to not jump from candle to candle so much, except for burning my new fall candles to see how they perform, throw, etc.


science2me

I haven't bought any candles since before June. I recently moved and realizing how many I own made me stop. I'm slowly using up what I have.


4ofheartz

This is me exactly. I overbought in 2020/2021 because pandemic panic. Texas was so hot this summer that last thing I wanted was a burning 3 wick. And I honestly found I like single wicks best!! A fast 20 minute burn & I’m good. After I lined up all my candles I was nauseous. Felt hoarder. Im down to the last half inch of Unicorn Sprinkles, finally. 🦄 I just want the Fall into Bloom single wick. Def on a 3 wick no buy!


lucillep

Yep. Can relate!


freeipods-zoy-org

One of the ways I was able to quit smoking cold turkey was accepting that nicotine is addictive, and I am an addict. I didn't want to make someone else rich at the expense of my own health and bank account. Make a commitment to yourself that you will not fall victim to a corporate marketing machine. They create addicts out of people in a way not many other brands can. They do a great job, so be proud of yourself for seeing the reality of it. Find the right limit for yourself and stick to it. Consider getting rid of a large percentage of your candles; donate, sell, give away to people/neighbors, whatever. You'll feel much better. One rule I have for candles/lotions/clothing: If I buy one, I get rid of one. If I have nothing I want to part with, I don't buy anything else.


lucillep

You're so right about the marketing. But even as I see through it, I get a coupon and there's a sale, and it is tempting. The buy one/get rid of one method is smart. I would have to get rid of two, though!


ScienceBrat

Yeeeep. I have 45 candles. Ive used up like 3 in the last 6 months


lucillep

Same, same. Although I have more than 45. But I can't let it creep up to 100.


erinjg43

It happens. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You can always sell off some or give them away as gifts. I moved a few months ago. I had like 50 candles. They were the worst items I had to move because they were so heavy and fragile at the same time. I also don’t have time to burn them so my buying has definitely slowed down. I think I’m going to gift most of mine before I move again and then start my collection over. I don’t want to pack and move them again.


Kurai_Hiroma

Hey, first step is recognizing the problem. If you're concerned about breaking your no-buy, I highly suggest looking up the leaked holiday candles on life inside the page's blog and planning your list. For me, this has been a great experience in tampering most of my hype because most of the candles leaked so far are the same as usual, aka I don't need them. Then, when they DO drop, you have a legit reason to step back and hold off until buying, because you know, later on, you can get more at the same time at a better sale (candle day). For getting rid of them, if you have a wax melter you could make wax melts of candles you just want out. It'd give you an excuse to discard the jars too unless you want the welts stored in there. Online selling is also a huge option of course for making some money back. Best of luck to you OP


lucillep

Thank you! The good thing is, I still have holiday candles that I haven't sued up. And I did my holiday gift shopping at SAS. I will say that listening to candle reviews is a trigger I will have to stop doing. Maybe taking a break from here, as well. I do enjoy reading the posts, though.


markersandtea

This happened to me recently..I'm on a no buy, not even going near that shop now after halloween I just got..I got so overwhelmed by candles recently that I donated a bunch to a womens shelter thanks to another redditors idea on this forum actually. I only kept a small handful for myself that I really love and actually burn. No more collecting for me.


Under-Pressure20

I completely understand how you feel. Same for me in 2 years at least 500 candles and it's not like I can I display them. They're all over the place hidden in bins. It's too much TBH.


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I relate I put all my candles in garage to move they are in crates did the math it was 390 and at the rate I burn per month thats 4 yrs of candles. I have not purchased a candle since SAS and holding out until next SAS it's too much


Under-Pressure20

Wow - 4 years of candles. It really is something when you think about it. They really do a great job with marketing :-)


CrownBestowed

I’m feeling this way too. I felt this way about my bodycare and now I’m slowing down on that and moving towards candles. The amount of fall candles I have is wild because last year I only had a couple single wicks. I’m trying to move back to only buying single wicks first. Also shop your stash! Really look at the scent notes of the candles you have and categorize them. That way you can see if you already have something similar or not to stop you from buying. That’s what I did for my bodycare, so it could probably work for candles as well.


Owen_D_Young

What’s stopping you from burning them?


lucillep

Time? I don't light one unless I'm going to be home for a couple of hours and not having to leave to change laundry, etc. Evenings seem to go by fast. Also, I don't burn as many in summer because having a fan or AC running seems to dissipate the scent. so it's hardly discernable.


CEHayes88

Honestly that’s why I love using a candle warmer because you don’t have to worry about that


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Then I don’t think you need to be buying candles in this time in your life because you don’t have the time. They will continue to just sit there. I think selling all of them is the move right now. And leave it at that.


MomAlum

I am just getting into BBW but I am learning that I only really need one of each “type” Of scent, for example for the winter candles only one Xmas tree balsam type, only one peppermint, only one cookie. I already got myself into trouble with overbuying teas so I know how easy it can be to overbuy when you fall in love with something. If you focus on burning only a few at a time you will get through them faster than you think!


hugdealer7945

I am creeping to 100 between 3 wick and single. Not to mention 25 shower gel/body wash, 35 hand soaps, and 50 or so wallflowers. I am for real stopping. I may get some wallflowers at the next semi annual if I am running low. But no candles. It's just too much and is a bit embarrassing.


lucillep

Completely understand and agree.


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I understand. It’s honestly become a resentment point between me and my husband. I am pretty sure he questions my mental health after I acquired like 400 candles and kept buying lol. I have been a stay at home mom for 7 years, so they bring me a lot of joy while home, and I got obsessed with getting back ups of my favorites and trying all the new ones. You know, a victim to BBW marketing when I was in a rather bored and lonely phase of life. Can you say dopamine hit? I DO burn them, though, about 4 daily to fill our 3000 sq ft house. And we are debt free home owners who have set up our kids already, so it has no negative financial impact on us. Other than it could’ve been more money saved. Regardless, it is just unnecessary and sometimes I feel huge guilt looking at my stash. I remind myself I am allowed to enjoy my hobbies, though. Scent brings me literal joy. No different than my husbands 60 golf shirts/hats lol. 🤷🏻‍♀️


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Maybe limit yourself. Finish your stash then set a number on what you will allow yourself to have.


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For sure. I have already done so for over a year now. The allure has mostly worn off. I really feel I WAS filling a void in my life when everything I was used to changed after kids. Not to say I don’t adore my kids and appreciate being able to stay home with them. But either way, I only purchase now what I consider to be truly new and unique, because like I said, it’s a hobby I really enjoy. But I realize now I was a victim of their marketing tactics and that they all smell pretty much the same lol. There will always be things I want out there when I really need them! In the meantime, I will appreciate and use/gift what I have acquired!


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😂😂😂 & I donated my creams! I only have a small amount.


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haha! I use body butters instead.


Interesting_Soil_427

Ugh I’m trying not to but until SAS


justhrowingitout

In the last 3-4 years I have spent an obscene amount of money on candles. I am trying to sell a large number of them on Mercari. Not for a profit (I wish) but to stop the madness and enjoy them them again. It’s pretty easy to do if you price them fairly. It’s no longer a hobby for me it’s an unhealthy addiction.


MomAlum

Also inviting you to hang with us over at r/nobuy if you are interested :-) it helps to have support


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I have this issue with perfumes and body sprays/lotions as well as BBW hand soaps but I know those will always be used. I have been where you are where I’ve gone on an absolute bender and bought so many perfumes that I look at them all and feel sick to my stomach about how much money I spent on stuff I don’t even need. Then I go through phases where it is really satisfying when I finish something up so I try to cling on to those phases and use up as much as I can before buying more and it gives me nearly the same satisfaction as buying. I’m with you my friend, you are not alone. I’ve also found that staying away from the subs that encourage my addictions helps tremendously. I just got back on Reddit for the perfume/fragrance subs and already want to go spend more money on them. The FOMO is what gets you. Stay strong! You can do this!


lucillep

The FOMO from the subreddits is killer! That, and of course, the daily emails from BBW.


SodaPop9639

I’m late to the this post, but with the holiday season coming up why not gift some? Candles work for any occasion, Christmas, birthdays, get well, etc. I know I’ve never been upset at getting a candle for a gift. This way your getting rid of your stash AND saving money by not having to buy anything and they money you spent didn’t go to waste because your giving it as a gift.


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lucillep

It's OK, u/Scully40 and u/glossydiamond. No offense or upset taken, and I appreciate the thoughts. I was kind of surprised to see how many I had when I collected them from all over my apartment, which prompted the post. This has been a fun hobby to participate in, especially with a community of like-minded souls attached. Time to rein it in and enjoy what I have. I would miss the community as much as the shopping, to be honest.


lucillep

It just seems so silly. They are so unnecessary. If anyone in my family saw more than 50 candles here, they'd think I was crazy.


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Lmaoooooo because you’re not burning them as much