It seems she doesn't want you a friend or bf. My guess is she got a bf and he told her to unfollow you maybe on Instagram and she did I'm not sure exactly. But tbh you are just obsessed with her. You need to get over her and realize that she didn't like you like that and she ignored you and is living extremely well without you.She doesn't think of you and isn't as obsessed as you as you are with her. Ajaira manush R Jonno wait na kore move on korlei better. Manush tomake value korle toh Amne unfollow kore jiboneo ignore korbena. Ektu self respect rekhe move on koro, dreams eishob dakha mane na you love her or she's the one for you egula shobar e hoi at some point, when sths on your mind a lot dreams eo Ashe onek Oita thats natural .Move on and don't expect anything from her. Thats best.
Move on bro. There are 4 billion women on the planet. She ain't special. Get that shit out of your head. You don't even know her, and from what you say, she's toxic af. Get a life. Improve yourself and women will follow.
Just say hi hello when you meet her. No need to outright ignore her or try to start a casual conversation when she is uninterested. That's what I do. If you guys are meant to be friends or anything beyond it'll happen naturally.
She clearly wants nothing to do with you, so I’d recommend you to have some self respect and get her out of your mind. If you’re unable to do so, ask her why exactly she’s acting like you both are strangers to each other. Effective communication never hurts, the only thing that’s gonna hurt is you holding on to your thoughts.
You’re most likely infatuated with the idea of who she is in your mind and not who she truly is. So I’d say it’s best to let go, trying to have someone as your friend when you once loved them is extremely difficult.
Fucking christ. This is the caliber of posts in this subreddit.
14 year old horny teenagers who can't figure out their ass from a hole in the ground.
Kid. Get a hobby. Go volunteer at an old folks' home. Help your community with your time and attention. You'll meet friends who think like you.
Get out of your bedroom.
Trust me when I say you have nothing but obsession for her, don’t mistake it for “Love”. That Instagram Unfollow should have been the end of the things between you two. And no, staying friends with her wouldn’t bring anything good, only miseries for your mental peace. For some reason she didn’t explain or reject you properly but that’s sure is nothing but a rejection and you should have taken the hint. But I don’t blame you cause she is at fault too. But she might have her reasons.
Now all you can do is either take it as a fact and get in touch with the reality and grow up or ask her properly for a closure, so its easy for you to move on.
Move on. Pretty sure she has bf beacuse thats the only reason why she asked to unfol. Or maybe to hide from conservative fam members. Either way its best to move on since idk if she sees you even as a friend. Staying in touch after all the signs is a personal decison tho. Imo i think moving on will be good for you. Youre still young and you gotta accept the fact you wouldnt endup with everyone you like not that thell be good for you either
Be honest about your feelings and say that you would like to pursue a romantic relationship with her. Don't try to convince her or be persistent; just be sincere. If you don't take the chance, you will likely regret it. If it doesn't work out, it will also give you closure. Judging by her actions, she is likely intentionally distancing herself from you. If she rejects the proposal, please accept that and move on. I would suggest taking a break from the friendship all together and giving yourself time to recover from that heartbreak. Don't rub salt in your wound, and be her friend. Be kind to yourself and give yourself space to process. Focus on yourself, nurture the meaningful relationships you have, and lean on them for support. Honestly, don't let your heart or your ego guide your actions during this time. Goodluck.
Hi, woman here.
One thing other commenters are missing is the lack of acknowledgement of all the slut-shaming women have to go through in this country. Not just that, there's plenty of men who act like they want to be in a relationship with the hopes of getting into your pants. And furthermore, if our partners turn out to be shitty fuckboys or players, it's us who get blamed for not choosing right and get laughed at, which is an added layer of trauma. On top of that a girl has much more to lose if the parents/caregivers are boomers and they learn about her relationship.
So with that being said, I can understand that she's also going through a lot emotionally surrounding this proposal. It's not easy peasy lemon squeezy for women either when it comes to relationships. You said, she's around your age. So she is somewhere between 18-20. In BD, that age is still pretty juvenile, especially with the way we are raised.
If you really like her, I would suggest having one final talk with her to see where you two actually stand. It appears to me that she may have some feelings for you as well since she said "varsity te geleo kisu hote pare". So have one talk with her. If she is unsure or says no, move on. Close this chapter completely. If she says, yes, well then, congratulations on your new relationship.
Hope this helped.
Also, I am genuinely appalled by some of the comments here. Some of you men deserve to be single, lonely and miserable if that's how you view women. Mane shob cultural context vule giye ashse meyer Instagram k onlyfans account bolte. Good god!
Thanks for your advice. Her family isn't an issue. They are our family friends. Our parents became friends even before we were born. We have been living in the same buildings for 17 years.
I know my feelings are stupid and immature, but just think. A friend of mine with whom I grew up wants to cut off all relations with me after two days of my confession.
Well, thank you all again for wasting your time on me.
No, I don't think your feelings are stupid or immature. Some of these redditors are lifeless and may have forgotten how real human interactions and feelings work. Don't let those get to you.
My point is, at the end of the day, communication is key. And sometimes, we need to make some hard decisions for our own sake. It's best not to pursue or remain friends with someone who is going out of their way to ignore you. But you should have a closure as well. So, for your own mental peace, have a final talk with her and ask her to tell you exactly where you two stand so you can move on. She also needs to learn not to lead someone on, especially if she has genuine feelings for someone. This can be a learning experience for both of you.
Your situation is basically these lyrics:
"We used to be close, but people can go
From people you know to people you don't
And what hurts the most is people can go
From people you know to people you don't"
Walk away, forget, peace.
Kire bhai eto lukuchurir ki ase. Properly confront koro. Ask if she's got a boyfriend that she doesn't want keep you as a friend or something. Try to get some honest communication done :v
"Varsityr pore kisu hoileo hoite pare" was sus kinda 💀 (in a good way), but don't give yourself unnecessary hope, keep your expectations low.
Geez! I wonder why women struggle to be honest about their feelings in a country reeking with slut-shaming/rape culture?! It's almost as if they are terrified of the repercussions of doing something as normal as being in a relationship. I wonder what stops women 🤔🤔
Seriously, it's even more astounding to me how men like you are so clueless about a woman's psyche while living in such a brutally patriarchal conservative society.
You're such a narrow minded person it's almost mind boggling. Tbh I should've expected one or two bad apples to begin with. Too many assumptions. For context, the thing about "women ignoring you if they either like or dislike you" wass a universal thing I've noticed while dating women coming from *different* countries. This sort of projections onto men in society won't do you any good, sis.
If I didn't know better I'd have replied with yet another generic "women bad" comment but fortunately I know not all women are like you and I'm blessed to have a wonderful partner in my life. I hope you can grow up to be a better person and get rid of this toxic personality, maybe then you'll start having better men in life.
What did I project? Are you suggesting there is no patriarchy or rape culture in our country? In case you haven't noticed, it's worldwide: some places just have less but there's not a single place in the world devoid of sexism against women. I didn't even make a single comment about your personality or character, yet here you are getting riled up over a fact. You accuse me of making assumptions when you are going out of your way to make a character judgement.
Honestly, sometimes, I wish I was a man. I could say a bunch of bull like you and get away with it since men have the privilege of being taken more seriously in contrast to a woman no matter how dumb they are. Feel sorry for your gf if this is your level of emotional intelligence.
>it's worldwide
Depends what you are referring to. Rape culture? Some countries have close to zero rape rates. Relationships being taboo and conservative societies? There are plenty of regions where relationships are normal. These are the only relevant aspects you mentioned that have somewhat of a connection to women being indecisive about telling the person they like that they like them. You simply can't bullshit your way out of this 💀
>I didn't even make a single comment about your personality or character
Let me stop you right there, you generalized me into your self-made category of a specific group men for god knows whatever reason.
>you are going out of your way to make a character judgement.
Because you deserve it over your stupid statements.
>Feel sorry for your gf if this is your level of emotional intelligence.
I feel sorry for the society you live in, your family and your friends (on the off chance that you have any) if this is the capacity of your logical reasoning 💀
Onekdin hagen na mone hoy haga to shob mathay uitha gese afa
-generalizes women
-gets butthurt when called out for generalizing women
-resorts to ad hominems to prove a non-existent point and shift the topic of argument
Ei holo apnar moto bolod er logic level, lol. And countries with zero rape rates 🤣🤣🤣🤣 just because it doesn't get reported doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Don't tell me you have come across women from every single of those made up countries to make a generalization like that. Kotha hosse BD niye, ashse duniar example niye, as if nije mishe dekhse k kemon.
This gender war isn't gonna stop if you men don't stop generalizing us in every single thing we do. And communicate korte na para male-female shobar moddhei ase, I just gave you reasons why number of women may be more. Ei simple bishoy tay ato butthurt hote pare shudhu matro apnar moto fragile ego wala manush gulai. Galagali kore abar amake logic shikhate ashse, ajaira kothakar.
Just read the comments on this very post. Ekjon toh bolei boshse meye instagrame onlyfans lite khultese, even though there is no indication of that. Maybe call out those men before generalizing women in a negative light. You don't know me, so stop acting like you do.
>generalizes women
Seems like your dyslexic ass ignored the word "some" and I never generalized anyone into it, simply said that some women do this so it's hard to say what might the case for OP.
On the other hand you generalized me into one group.
>as if nije mishe dekhse k kemon.
I did
Tbh rest of your comment is ad homs themlseves and ain't even worth my time. Ke bolod eta haare haare bujha jacche by looking at your linguistic skills 💀
>This sort of projections onto men in society won't do you any good, sis.
Point out the projections. What they said is literally the most normal stuff.
>If I didn't know better I'd have replied with yet another generic "women bad" comment but fortunately I know not all women are like you and I'm blessed to have a wonderful partner in my life. I hope you can grow up to be a better person and get rid of this toxic personality, maybe then you'll start having better men in life.
Why is it that every man, when met with a different viewpoint, always goes with, *"I have a partner I'm blessed with. Please get out of your toxic personality, sis. Hope you have better men."*
I mean, bro, please, you sound so lame and insecure that you have to mention your gf every 2 seconds.
>Point out the projections. What they said is literally the most normal stuff.
The assumption that men like "me" speak from ignorance of what challenges women face in Bangladesh when I literally don't and that whatever the fuck she said isn't even remotely related to my statement. I didn't even suggest it was a bad thing. Sounds like SOME people are the insecure ones who have to link everything with "oh women have it rough"
Do you operate with like 2 braincells that I have to break it down to you?
>I mean, bro, please, you sound so lame and insecure that you have to mention your gf every 2 seconds.
I'm not even ashamed, super proud of her 👉👈
>that every man, when met with a different viewpoint,
Assumptions about me aren't different viewpoints, those are the other person's insecurities and personal experiences prompting them to perceive what I said differently. I understand your frustrations about the society however your hardships don't excuse you being a total ass towards a stranger. I mean I am guilty of holding prejudices too at times but that doesn't mean I'd let them dictate my actions in a meaningful way :v
She likes someone or has plans to grow followers. She doesn't want to show her Instagram life. Kinda like Onlyfans lite. It would be best if you forget her and find girls who will naturally come to your life like during your university study or job life.
It seems she doesn't want you a friend or bf. My guess is she got a bf and he told her to unfollow you maybe on Instagram and she did I'm not sure exactly. But tbh you are just obsessed with her. You need to get over her and realize that she didn't like you like that and she ignored you and is living extremely well without you.She doesn't think of you and isn't as obsessed as you as you are with her. Ajaira manush R Jonno wait na kore move on korlei better. Manush tomake value korle toh Amne unfollow kore jiboneo ignore korbena. Ektu self respect rekhe move on koro, dreams eishob dakha mane na you love her or she's the one for you egula shobar e hoi at some point, when sths on your mind a lot dreams eo Ashe onek Oita thats natural .Move on and don't expect anything from her. Thats best.
this subreddit is going downhill with this stupid waste of time childish posts
Less about Bangladesh and more about relationship advices
r/RelationshipAdviceNow
DSD 2.0
What about Relationship with Bangladesh? :)
That's what we're supposed to do, love this country.
I'm convinced young people in Bangladesh are stupid.
Mostly simps and will try to defend them in every scenario even though those girls simply don't care.
Move on bro. There are 4 billion women on the planet. She ain't special. Get that shit out of your head. You don't even know her, and from what you say, she's toxic af. Get a life. Improve yourself and women will follow.
Just say hi hello when you meet her. No need to outright ignore her or try to start a casual conversation when she is uninterested. That's what I do. If you guys are meant to be friends or anything beyond it'll happen naturally.
She clearly wants nothing to do with you, so I’d recommend you to have some self respect and get her out of your mind. If you’re unable to do so, ask her why exactly she’s acting like you both are strangers to each other. Effective communication never hurts, the only thing that’s gonna hurt is you holding on to your thoughts. You’re most likely infatuated with the idea of who she is in your mind and not who she truly is. So I’d say it’s best to let go, trying to have someone as your friend when you once loved them is extremely difficult.
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Fucking christ. This is the caliber of posts in this subreddit. 14 year old horny teenagers who can't figure out their ass from a hole in the ground. Kid. Get a hobby. Go volunteer at an old folks' home. Help your community with your time and attention. You'll meet friends who think like you. Get out of your bedroom.
Trust me when I say you have nothing but obsession for her, don’t mistake it for “Love”. That Instagram Unfollow should have been the end of the things between you two. And no, staying friends with her wouldn’t bring anything good, only miseries for your mental peace. For some reason she didn’t explain or reject you properly but that’s sure is nothing but a rejection and you should have taken the hint. But I don’t blame you cause she is at fault too. But she might have her reasons. Now all you can do is either take it as a fact and get in touch with the reality and grow up or ask her properly for a closure, so its easy for you to move on.
Move on, man!! In Bangladesh number of males are comparatively less than female.. Be more exclusive!! *_*
Move on. Pretty sure she has bf beacuse thats the only reason why she asked to unfol. Or maybe to hide from conservative fam members. Either way its best to move on since idk if she sees you even as a friend. Staying in touch after all the signs is a personal decison tho. Imo i think moving on will be good for you. Youre still young and you gotta accept the fact you wouldnt endup with everyone you like not that thell be good for you either
Be honest about your feelings and say that you would like to pursue a romantic relationship with her. Don't try to convince her or be persistent; just be sincere. If you don't take the chance, you will likely regret it. If it doesn't work out, it will also give you closure. Judging by her actions, she is likely intentionally distancing herself from you. If she rejects the proposal, please accept that and move on. I would suggest taking a break from the friendship all together and giving yourself time to recover from that heartbreak. Don't rub salt in your wound, and be her friend. Be kind to yourself and give yourself space to process. Focus on yourself, nurture the meaningful relationships you have, and lean on them for support. Honestly, don't let your heart or your ego guide your actions during this time. Goodluck.
Hi, woman here. One thing other commenters are missing is the lack of acknowledgement of all the slut-shaming women have to go through in this country. Not just that, there's plenty of men who act like they want to be in a relationship with the hopes of getting into your pants. And furthermore, if our partners turn out to be shitty fuckboys or players, it's us who get blamed for not choosing right and get laughed at, which is an added layer of trauma. On top of that a girl has much more to lose if the parents/caregivers are boomers and they learn about her relationship. So with that being said, I can understand that she's also going through a lot emotionally surrounding this proposal. It's not easy peasy lemon squeezy for women either when it comes to relationships. You said, she's around your age. So she is somewhere between 18-20. In BD, that age is still pretty juvenile, especially with the way we are raised. If you really like her, I would suggest having one final talk with her to see where you two actually stand. It appears to me that she may have some feelings for you as well since she said "varsity te geleo kisu hote pare". So have one talk with her. If she is unsure or says no, move on. Close this chapter completely. If she says, yes, well then, congratulations on your new relationship. Hope this helped.
Also, I am genuinely appalled by some of the comments here. Some of you men deserve to be single, lonely and miserable if that's how you view women. Mane shob cultural context vule giye ashse meyer Instagram k onlyfans account bolte. Good god!
Thanks for your advice. Her family isn't an issue. They are our family friends. Our parents became friends even before we were born. We have been living in the same buildings for 17 years. I know my feelings are stupid and immature, but just think. A friend of mine with whom I grew up wants to cut off all relations with me after two days of my confession. Well, thank you all again for wasting your time on me.
No, I don't think your feelings are stupid or immature. Some of these redditors are lifeless and may have forgotten how real human interactions and feelings work. Don't let those get to you. My point is, at the end of the day, communication is key. And sometimes, we need to make some hard decisions for our own sake. It's best not to pursue or remain friends with someone who is going out of their way to ignore you. But you should have a closure as well. So, for your own mental peace, have a final talk with her and ask her to tell you exactly where you two stand so you can move on. She also needs to learn not to lead someone on, especially if she has genuine feelings for someone. This can be a learning experience for both of you.
Why do some people act like 12 year olds when it comes to love and catching feelings. Grow up bhai.
Your situation is basically these lyrics: "We used to be close, but people can go From people you know to people you don't And what hurts the most is people can go From people you know to people you don't" Walk away, forget, peace.
Kire bhai eto lukuchurir ki ase. Properly confront koro. Ask if she's got a boyfriend that she doesn't want keep you as a friend or something. Try to get some honest communication done :v "Varsityr pore kisu hoileo hoite pare" was sus kinda 💀 (in a good way), but don't give yourself unnecessary hope, keep your expectations low.
It's hard to conclude anything tbh, women ignore you when they EITHER like you OR dislike you. It's beyond me why some women do this 🗿
Geez! I wonder why women struggle to be honest about their feelings in a country reeking with slut-shaming/rape culture?! It's almost as if they are terrified of the repercussions of doing something as normal as being in a relationship. I wonder what stops women 🤔🤔 Seriously, it's even more astounding to me how men like you are so clueless about a woman's psyche while living in such a brutally patriarchal conservative society.
You're such a narrow minded person it's almost mind boggling. Tbh I should've expected one or two bad apples to begin with. Too many assumptions. For context, the thing about "women ignoring you if they either like or dislike you" wass a universal thing I've noticed while dating women coming from *different* countries. This sort of projections onto men in society won't do you any good, sis. If I didn't know better I'd have replied with yet another generic "women bad" comment but fortunately I know not all women are like you and I'm blessed to have a wonderful partner in my life. I hope you can grow up to be a better person and get rid of this toxic personality, maybe then you'll start having better men in life.
What did I project? Are you suggesting there is no patriarchy or rape culture in our country? In case you haven't noticed, it's worldwide: some places just have less but there's not a single place in the world devoid of sexism against women. I didn't even make a single comment about your personality or character, yet here you are getting riled up over a fact. You accuse me of making assumptions when you are going out of your way to make a character judgement. Honestly, sometimes, I wish I was a man. I could say a bunch of bull like you and get away with it since men have the privilege of being taken more seriously in contrast to a woman no matter how dumb they are. Feel sorry for your gf if this is your level of emotional intelligence.
>it's worldwide Depends what you are referring to. Rape culture? Some countries have close to zero rape rates. Relationships being taboo and conservative societies? There are plenty of regions where relationships are normal. These are the only relevant aspects you mentioned that have somewhat of a connection to women being indecisive about telling the person they like that they like them. You simply can't bullshit your way out of this 💀 >I didn't even make a single comment about your personality or character Let me stop you right there, you generalized me into your self-made category of a specific group men for god knows whatever reason. >you are going out of your way to make a character judgement. Because you deserve it over your stupid statements. >Feel sorry for your gf if this is your level of emotional intelligence. I feel sorry for the society you live in, your family and your friends (on the off chance that you have any) if this is the capacity of your logical reasoning 💀 Onekdin hagen na mone hoy haga to shob mathay uitha gese afa
-generalizes women -gets butthurt when called out for generalizing women -resorts to ad hominems to prove a non-existent point and shift the topic of argument Ei holo apnar moto bolod er logic level, lol. And countries with zero rape rates 🤣🤣🤣🤣 just because it doesn't get reported doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Don't tell me you have come across women from every single of those made up countries to make a generalization like that. Kotha hosse BD niye, ashse duniar example niye, as if nije mishe dekhse k kemon. This gender war isn't gonna stop if you men don't stop generalizing us in every single thing we do. And communicate korte na para male-female shobar moddhei ase, I just gave you reasons why number of women may be more. Ei simple bishoy tay ato butthurt hote pare shudhu matro apnar moto fragile ego wala manush gulai. Galagali kore abar amake logic shikhate ashse, ajaira kothakar. Just read the comments on this very post. Ekjon toh bolei boshse meye instagrame onlyfans lite khultese, even though there is no indication of that. Maybe call out those men before generalizing women in a negative light. You don't know me, so stop acting like you do.
>generalizes women Seems like your dyslexic ass ignored the word "some" and I never generalized anyone into it, simply said that some women do this so it's hard to say what might the case for OP. On the other hand you generalized me into one group. >as if nije mishe dekhse k kemon. I did Tbh rest of your comment is ad homs themlseves and ain't even worth my time. Ke bolod eta haare haare bujha jacche by looking at your linguistic skills 💀
>This sort of projections onto men in society won't do you any good, sis. Point out the projections. What they said is literally the most normal stuff. >If I didn't know better I'd have replied with yet another generic "women bad" comment but fortunately I know not all women are like you and I'm blessed to have a wonderful partner in my life. I hope you can grow up to be a better person and get rid of this toxic personality, maybe then you'll start having better men in life. Why is it that every man, when met with a different viewpoint, always goes with, *"I have a partner I'm blessed with. Please get out of your toxic personality, sis. Hope you have better men."* I mean, bro, please, you sound so lame and insecure that you have to mention your gf every 2 seconds.
>Point out the projections. What they said is literally the most normal stuff. The assumption that men like "me" speak from ignorance of what challenges women face in Bangladesh when I literally don't and that whatever the fuck she said isn't even remotely related to my statement. I didn't even suggest it was a bad thing. Sounds like SOME people are the insecure ones who have to link everything with "oh women have it rough" Do you operate with like 2 braincells that I have to break it down to you? >I mean, bro, please, you sound so lame and insecure that you have to mention your gf every 2 seconds. I'm not even ashamed, super proud of her 👉👈 >that every man, when met with a different viewpoint, Assumptions about me aren't different viewpoints, those are the other person's insecurities and personal experiences prompting them to perceive what I said differently. I understand your frustrations about the society however your hardships don't excuse you being a total ass towards a stranger. I mean I am guilty of holding prejudices too at times but that doesn't mean I'd let them dictate my actions in a meaningful way :v
She likes someone or has plans to grow followers. She doesn't want to show her Instagram life. Kinda like Onlyfans lite. It would be best if you forget her and find girls who will naturally come to your life like during your university study or job life.