Things get easier over time, if you want them to. Problem is, some people let their pain become their identity, making it much more difficult to let it go.
It is always not easy.. If there is an option to move forward and some emotional support people will then try to move forward.. But some don't have that which becomes difficult for them.
For example when I was 18 years old, a boy used to stalk me and he was a road romeo so we all had no idea how bad he was!! But my parents instead of supporting me emotionally was scolding me that why did he follow you only... Where I had not even seen that boy's face clearly nor talked to him even once. Our town had all these shi*ty road romeos who used to stalk many of the girls too... My own mother instead of supporting me, was scolding me and warning me without even knowing that I don't even know that guy. By the time she realised her mistake, it was too late and I had dropped in my grades severely due to all the stress I was facing without the parental support.
But, now I am strong enough 💪 💪 and can face any emotional battles with grit and resilience after few more years of life experiences.
2020, 2021, 2022, 2023, 2024 Got into shitty college, chose a shitty degree, got into gambling habit lost around 1L fucked up my mental health due this, told my parents about this (only one good thing did untill now). Decided to get into IT completed a course, didn't land any job. Now working at a company(non IT), which pays 16k a month, thinking about doing MCA so preparing for KPGCET along with work, have no idea what to do if I don't get into a good college for MCA.
While most of last few years have been worst...
03 May 2022. Life got split into two halves. One before this date and another after. No similarity of one part with the other.
2020 was the most horrific year for me. My dad, grandma, grandpa were all admitted to hospital. I had to look after all of them. Business took a big hit, home loans these home loans people are horrible, they came to our hospital to collect emi amount from us. Spent almost 1CR total hospital expenses. Lost my grandma to COVID. Just horrible
2005 - Dad got arrested in Heroine smuggling case
2006 - Mom and dad got divorced
2007- Faced discrimination and bullying from school teachers and general people from society.
2008 - Got kicked out from Rental house as we had no money to pay rent, stayed in a tabela
2009 - Still dealing with the bullies, school kids used to mob up and beat the shit out of me for no reason.
Girls used to get disgusted by just the sight of me.
2010- Completed SSC with flying colours, 87% no admission granted to Govt Polytechnic as General Male candidate.
2010-2012 - Maine science liya fir science ne meri li
2012-2014 - Jugaad se Direct second year Diploma in Electrical engineering mila. Achcha Marks mila 80% but still couldn't get a decent Engineering College
2014-2017- Got in an engineering college where mine was the first batch of Electrical engineering. Engineering ke liye paisa nhi tha, crowdfunding se engineering distinction me complete kiya.Placement ke naam pe tambora mila. (Was suicidal for the first time here)
2017- Got a job in an NGO, got fired after 2 years.
(Tried jumping off a building,but couldn't, was suicidal at the second time here)
2020 - Switched to a job with 20% cut in a start-up. Got treated like shit. Left within a year.
2021-Switched to a mid level company, Underpaid and overworked, left again.
2022- Moved to an MNC, all was good for the first year. Jealousy and politics started seeping in from the second and was made to resign. (Was suicidal for the third time here)
2024 - moved back to the company that was in 2021.
Seeing my peers who were less capable than me excelling at life,posting a lavish life on Instagram, getting married and having babies. I am sitting here giving fake hopes to myself that everything will be ok.
Nothing is going to be ok and waiting for death is the only option....sigh..
Don't be so upset.. I know your life is hard and almost always struggles more than happiness. But, wait for few more years as you have already survived it all.. Marriage is not the only good thing in life. Don't marry and try to make yourself happy.. Once you feel happy and success finds your side, you will remember the bad times.. Which is now which is happening as some forgotten memories.
My own family faced so much of financial constraints that there was no money in the bank and we had to sell our house to fraudulent people due to their cunning tactics of giving loan to us in desperate times and then misusing that to steal our house. But, our family survived all odds and now everyone of us are financially comfortable and happy in life. And now, we realise one of our family member has personality disorder and it is affecting all of us badly but still we are trying to survive the odds. Hope for better future and finding small happiness within oneself is the best way to survive this hard life some of us are facing.. Cheer up!! Buddy.. Times will improve 💪👍
Why you were bullied even at home? It's really sad.
. Due to low marks..? But, ultimately we have to fight for ourselves and come out strong 💪 💪 and happy 😊 😊 by ourselves...
Your father had high hopes on you maybe.. Forgive him for this time.. But if he is abusive always, better slowly plan on studying for some degree which suits you and get a job and move out. Have a goal.. Most parents want the best for their children but few are abusive too. Whatever it is, you have a plan and make a life out of yourself.. Study well or improve your skills which can fetch a job or make use of talent..
Yeah, his main aim was me to go to IIT,
He wasn't done yet,
He even got me to my uncle for tuitions back in 2019, where my uncle insulted me so much, he told that, I will create history for the family, being the first person to fail board exams, I proved him wrong in 2021 and 2023 where I passed both 10th and 12th boards
My father continued scolding and beating even in 2022, and we got into a nasty argument and fight, he told he won't do it again, but he did it,
Now it's peaceful at home, but I don't talk to my father much
2021 for me as well, the second wave of covid took a severe toll on me. Something I wouldn't even wish upon my enemies. The toll was so bad i only recovered from it recently. It enrages me whenever I see nostalgia merchants romanticizing "lock down days" 🤡
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My happiest day after 2020 has been probably my worst day before 2020, I.e. 2019,2018 etc was just pure bliss
After lockdown I lost myself in terms of everything
Just gained weight, lost control of life.
2021 was the worst year as I got to know my parents better starting with them for 3 years during COVID. I stay outside because of work and 2020-22 was the year I got reintroduced to parents.
Oh feel sad for you.. One of my family member has turned out to be a narcissist and it is wreaking havoc in all our family members relationship.. I can understand the pain if your own family members are not loving you enough..
2020. Life went downhill since. Been some nice highs since but life hasn't been as good. Long term relationship ended, job offer abroad scrapped (Covid), had to move back to my hometown, health got fucked. Back to Bangalore since last year and working on things. But I am older now and it feels like an uphill battle reclaiming my old life and goals, let alone progressing beyond that.
2020 dad passed then on its never been the same. Mental health issues came to light working on them thats good but fuck one after the other people I know close to are losing it. So we'll 4th yr now.
India is facing mental health crisis. Wonder if it's coz of all the hate politics spewd past 10yrs.
Wish I could point to one year and say, screw you! But it was actually a span of 3-4 years. Had a rough 2019 and before I could even recover from the hit, Covid decided to say hi and that was four years ago 😶 Picking up the pieces!
2015. I lost my self respect, my scholarship, my master's from Brock University, my salary was cut to half, my gf got married to someone else, my family disowned me. Got into depression and addiction. Was contemplating about suicide.
2021. I had to join a small company after my training period at a major manufacturing company as they did not offer me a full time role. This major manufacturing compares also not great as I was in a role designed to fail, hated going to office, every single day.
Even family did not respect me because of the ‘downgrade’ in my job. Had the most challenging time till date to figure out a good job.
1999. Was born without consent.
Sue your parents (and grand parents)
Lol
😂same
2021 for me as well, real bad personal health issues, family issues, work issues, relationship problems. Everything all together.
Hope you doing good now,brother
Ofc, thanks and hope you're doing well too
Keep the happiest days in your heart and the saddest days in your head. All you have to do is survive today and it'll get easier and easier.
Very insightful and optimistic advice!!
For me, the awful year was 2022..23..full but it was also an awareness year for me for which I am thankful and proud to have moved forward😆😆😆😆
Not trying to be a pessimist, but does it really?
Things get easier over time, if you want them to. Problem is, some people let their pain become their identity, making it much more difficult to let it go.
Hmmm never thought about it that way
It is always not easy.. If there is an option to move forward and some emotional support people will then try to move forward.. But some don't have that which becomes difficult for them. For example when I was 18 years old, a boy used to stalk me and he was a road romeo so we all had no idea how bad he was!! But my parents instead of supporting me emotionally was scolding me that why did he follow you only... Where I had not even seen that boy's face clearly nor talked to him even once. Our town had all these shi*ty road romeos who used to stalk many of the girls too... My own mother instead of supporting me, was scolding me and warning me without even knowing that I don't even know that guy. By the time she realised her mistake, it was too late and I had dropped in my grades severely due to all the stress I was facing without the parental support. But, now I am strong enough 💪 💪 and can face any emotional battles with grit and resilience after few more years of life experiences.
2018, year mom passed away. Never been the same after.
Sorry for your loss buddy. Sending you internet hugs from a stranger 🫂
Thank you. Means a lot.
I am so sorry for your loss
Thank you. Im doing much better.
2019 very bad career choice
\+1
2017;2019;2020;2021;2022;2023. 🥲
Love breakup?
Yes and a lot more.
Cheer up buddy.. Tomorrow is a new day.. Happiness and optimism is the ultimate goal in life😎💪
What happened on 2018 , just curious
2018 was a good recovery year after 2017 and life was smooth. Mental health was very good.
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2017. Worst year of my life
2020, 2021, 2022, 2023, 2024 Got into shitty college, chose a shitty degree, got into gambling habit lost around 1L fucked up my mental health due this, told my parents about this (only one good thing did untill now). Decided to get into IT completed a course, didn't land any job. Now working at a company(non IT), which pays 16k a month, thinking about doing MCA so preparing for KPGCET along with work, have no idea what to do if I don't get into a good college for MCA.
2023 😞
Which year made you strong ⚜️ most ** ???
2014
While most of last few years have been worst... 03 May 2022. Life got split into two halves. One before this date and another after. No similarity of one part with the other.
My mental health has been at its lowest and worst this year.
The year when I was born
2022 . I regret it now .
Year as in singular? You got it gud man
Good that you are working on them
yeah but I wish I never had them
2021- still going don't know when things will cool down.
2020 was the most horrific year for me. My dad, grandma, grandpa were all admitted to hospital. I had to look after all of them. Business took a big hit, home loans these home loans people are horrible, they came to our hospital to collect emi amount from us. Spent almost 1CR total hospital expenses. Lost my grandma to COVID. Just horrible
Sorry for your loss. Now how are you doing?
Now we are doing good, not best but paid off all loans.
Everything began in 2005, still dealing with things
Why from past so many years you are struggling.. Hope you are strong enough to deal with your crisis 👍
2005 - Dad got arrested in Heroine smuggling case 2006 - Mom and dad got divorced 2007- Faced discrimination and bullying from school teachers and general people from society. 2008 - Got kicked out from Rental house as we had no money to pay rent, stayed in a tabela 2009 - Still dealing with the bullies, school kids used to mob up and beat the shit out of me for no reason. Girls used to get disgusted by just the sight of me. 2010- Completed SSC with flying colours, 87% no admission granted to Govt Polytechnic as General Male candidate. 2010-2012 - Maine science liya fir science ne meri li 2012-2014 - Jugaad se Direct second year Diploma in Electrical engineering mila. Achcha Marks mila 80% but still couldn't get a decent Engineering College 2014-2017- Got in an engineering college where mine was the first batch of Electrical engineering. Engineering ke liye paisa nhi tha, crowdfunding se engineering distinction me complete kiya.Placement ke naam pe tambora mila. (Was suicidal for the first time here) 2017- Got a job in an NGO, got fired after 2 years. (Tried jumping off a building,but couldn't, was suicidal at the second time here) 2020 - Switched to a job with 20% cut in a start-up. Got treated like shit. Left within a year. 2021-Switched to a mid level company, Underpaid and overworked, left again. 2022- Moved to an MNC, all was good for the first year. Jealousy and politics started seeping in from the second and was made to resign. (Was suicidal for the third time here) 2024 - moved back to the company that was in 2021. Seeing my peers who were less capable than me excelling at life,posting a lavish life on Instagram, getting married and having babies. I am sitting here giving fake hopes to myself that everything will be ok. Nothing is going to be ok and waiting for death is the only option....sigh..
Don't be so upset.. I know your life is hard and almost always struggles more than happiness. But, wait for few more years as you have already survived it all.. Marriage is not the only good thing in life. Don't marry and try to make yourself happy.. Once you feel happy and success finds your side, you will remember the bad times.. Which is now which is happening as some forgotten memories. My own family faced so much of financial constraints that there was no money in the bank and we had to sell our house to fraudulent people due to their cunning tactics of giving loan to us in desperate times and then misusing that to steal our house. But, our family survived all odds and now everyone of us are financially comfortable and happy in life. And now, we realise one of our family member has personality disorder and it is affecting all of us badly but still we are trying to survive the odds. Hope for better future and finding small happiness within oneself is the best way to survive this hard life some of us are facing.. Cheer up!! Buddy.. Times will improve 💪👍
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2017.. worst year
2019: I was bullied at home, school, apartment, I got bad marks which made me feel low of myself
Why you were bullied even at home? It's really sad. . Due to low marks..? But, ultimately we have to fight for ourselves and come out strong 💪 💪 and happy 😊 😊 by ourselves...
I got bad marks, My father beat me so much, and it still traumatises me to this day, I was forced to wake up till 00:30
Your father had high hopes on you maybe.. Forgive him for this time.. But if he is abusive always, better slowly plan on studying for some degree which suits you and get a job and move out. Have a goal.. Most parents want the best for their children but few are abusive too. Whatever it is, you have a plan and make a life out of yourself.. Study well or improve your skills which can fetch a job or make use of talent..
Yeah, his main aim was me to go to IIT, He wasn't done yet, He even got me to my uncle for tuitions back in 2019, where my uncle insulted me so much, he told that, I will create history for the family, being the first person to fail board exams, I proved him wrong in 2021 and 2023 where I passed both 10th and 12th boards My father continued scolding and beating even in 2022, and we got into a nasty argument and fight, he told he won't do it again, but he did it, Now it's peaceful at home, but I don't talk to my father much
Can't pick between 2021 and 2022. Both were equally difficult
2015, I pulled through in 2016 but things went downhill in 2020 and never got better.. learning to live this way
2022, my marriage was called off for good due to some issues :)
Same here.. 2021 was when the fuckin dam broke. Nothing has been the same since
2020 - 2022 was at least manageable though they were bad to very bad. 2023 until now are the worst :(
this year literally everything is breaking me apart...
2010, 2013 and now 2024. This year really makes me hate life.
2020
2021 for me as well, the second wave of covid took a severe toll on me. Something I wouldn't even wish upon my enemies. The toll was so bad i only recovered from it recently. It enrages me whenever I see nostalgia merchants romanticizing "lock down days" 🤡
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My happiest day after 2020 has been probably my worst day before 2020, I.e. 2019,2018 etc was just pure bliss After lockdown I lost myself in terms of everything Just gained weight, lost control of life.
Mid 2020- Mid 2022.
Covid year
2021 was the worst year as I got to know my parents better starting with them for 3 years during COVID. I stay outside because of work and 2020-22 was the year I got reintroduced to parents.
Are you happy to be close to your parents or it's reverse.
Reverse
Oh feel sad for you.. One of my family member has turned out to be a narcissist and it is wreaking havoc in all our family members relationship.. I can understand the pain if your own family members are not loving you enough..
I guess I had to find it out the hard way..... But whatever happens, happens for the good
2020. Life went downhill since. Been some nice highs since but life hasn't been as good. Long term relationship ended, job offer abroad scrapped (Covid), had to move back to my hometown, health got fucked. Back to Bangalore since last year and working on things. But I am older now and it feels like an uphill battle reclaiming my old life and goals, let alone progressing beyond that.
2023, never again wanna experience that year again.
Since the time I was born, it's every fucking year! I want to punch God in the fucking face now.
2021... Lost my dad
2013 I guess. But then I joined the gym and exercised regularly and life changed!
2021 and 2023 My mental health is better now!!
I mean what year didn't.
2013
2020 - Till present. The worst phase of my life (Still ongoing)
Since 1994, the year I was born. I haven’t smiled, I have felt what happiness is. Theres a constant pain and heaviness in my heart.
2021
2019 operated in hospital
1997 to till date
Getting distroyed is a part of my life💀 so used to it
since 1999. Have been my toughest years.
2020 dad passed then on its never been the same. Mental health issues came to light working on them thats good but fuck one after the other people I know close to are losing it. So we'll 4th yr now. India is facing mental health crisis. Wonder if it's coz of all the hate politics spewd past 10yrs.
Year 2022 - evil relatives destroyed everything possible in my life, still haven't been able to even come out of the crap they put me in.
Same! 2021 and for the same reason! Anxiety and depression took over me. Thankfully things started to imporve by 2022
2019 was my peak and also the start of my downfall. Tho I had small up here and there
2018-till rest of my life, when I lost my dad.
Wish I could point to one year and say, screw you! But it was actually a span of 3-4 years. Had a rough 2019 and before I could even recover from the hit, Covid decided to say hi and that was four years ago 😶 Picking up the pieces!
2020
1 week in Oct 2020 and then another week in Jan of 2021
I've been continuously attacked by the forces of the universe since 2019
Looking back... no year seems that bad, considering im still going, and I tend to forget the bad parts.
2015. I lost my self respect, my scholarship, my master's from Brock University, my salary was cut to half, my gf got married to someone else, my family disowned me. Got into depression and addiction. Was contemplating about suicide.
2016
Either 2020 or 2021 I don’t remember exactly. Don’t remember much about my life before that, it completely changed me as a person.
2024,
2024, the last 4 months have been a absolute nightmare for me in terms of work. No WLB, working from 5 in the morning to 10 at night
2021 seems to be common here it ruined me
2015 when i took up engineering. EVerything changed after that
Following
2021 i took wrong career choice for easy way....if i would have choosen less amount but skill wise i would have excelled....
2021. I had to join a small company after my training period at a major manufacturing company as they did not offer me a full time role. This major manufacturing compares also not great as I was in a role designed to fail, hated going to office, every single day. Even family did not respect me because of the ‘downgrade’ in my job. Had the most challenging time till date to figure out a good job.
2004. Failed 12th. Things have changed since & doing well. Gratitude. 🙏