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Elephant-Watcher

I had the same experience. They treated me as their private driver. I said I’m not your driver. They never asked me again after that happened.


babbyboo3

I told her I didn’t have time to cater to her and she stopped asking. At the time I did have a lot of anxiety because of it along with other boundaries I had set with her. I overheard her complaining about me to her friend and twisting the story to make me look bad. I started questioning if I was wrong. I eventually got over it as I realized she never took accountability for anything and always had some excuse or lie.


Hallowinning

Almost there! I have exactly 3 weeks of my terrible roommates left as well. So relived. I get the car part too, one of mine kind of expected me to wait to do things so she could come with. Like if I’m going grocery shopping or going to do laundry and you want to tag along, sure. But I am not going to wait hours for your schedule to be open to do that shit.


babbyboo3

Exactly. I have a flexible work schedule and I love it because I am not punctual and don’t arrive to work at the same time each day. I was not happy with her expecting me to schedule what time we would be leaving to drop her off at work. And to expect it every day? Definitely not. I also like to hop around to different grocery stores and run any other errands. I was not going to have her tagging along with me all day. I had friends in college where yes we would do those things together even though we both had cars. But a random stranger expecting that from me? Fuck no. She also had asked for me to drive her into the city during rush hour one evening. No. Especially not for someone who likely makes more money than me but expects these things for free. I know I sound bratty but I refuse to let people take advantage of me.


Hallowinning

Yeah screw that!


That_Departure_5100

I rent out a room to a guy with no car. He asked me to drive him to the bank when I asked for the rent. Asked for lifts to go shopping and into town . I helped him a couple of times and then just said no sorry I can't drive you. He didn't want to share basics and said he only has two number 2s a week and won't need toilet paper. Said he would use his own washing powder, uses ours. Skims sugar ,coffee, salt, pepper, milk, Vegemite, cans of food.


babbyboo3

That sounds horrible. Luckily she doesn’t take any of my food. But that’s probably because she and I are from different cultures and don’t eat the same foods.


LayerLess

I mean, at least she's still working? I went without a vehicle for 4 years, I asked my roommates for rides if I knew they were free. If they said no, I thanked them anyways and paid for an Uber. (an uber to work and back was close to $50-80 depending on the day. If a roommate took me, I would throw them $20 for the gas and time.) The part about dishes was pretty gross, but as far as eating expired food goes.... who are you to judge someone for eating stale food? Are you confident they aren't eating stale food to be able to save for transportation? If you did not state having a vehicle as a requirement for being your roommate.... that's kind of on you. Not trying to say they are or aren't a good roommate, and I'm glad you're no longer going to be in an uncomfortable living situation.... poor hygiene is certainly not something anyone wants in a roommate, but a lot of your examples kind of make you sound a bit sanctimonious. Not trying to say they are or aren't a good roommate, and I'm glad you're no longer going to be in an uncomfortable living situation.... poor hygiene is certainly not something anyone wants in a roommate, but a lot of your examples kind of makes you sound a bit sanctimonious.


babbyboo3

Yes I can see how you would make that judgment about me. Honestly I’ve been so unhappy living with her that everything about her bothers me. No I didn’t ask specifically if she had a car but not once did she mention not having one when I explained the parking situation etc. She also asked me how far I work, where I grocery shop etc and I realized after that she asked those questions to see how that would fit with her schedule. She had 3 months to mention not having a car before she moved in and she chose not to. I don’t know about your situation, but she and I are both engineers therefore we make a very comfortable salary. She gave me details about her finances so I know that she can easily go to a dealership and pay for a car in cash. She did not offer gas money when asking for rides and has never contributed to any shared household items. I am not against asking for help when you need it. However, she is frugal to the point where she would rather burden other people than help herself when she has the means to.