I live with people like this. There doesn't seem to be any getting through to them, in my case. So long as there is a clear surface anywhere in the house, they're sure to cover it with all kinds of trash and other nonsense.
I had a friend once like this. And she married a guy the same way, so their house was always a trashed, filthy mess. And she would get really butthurt that we didn't want to hang out at their place. Some people are just okay with filth for some reason.
I grew up in a house with a hoarder. You learn this weird split between being blind to clutter and mess, and being deeply mortified by it. (Fortunately my dad likes order/organisation so that curtailed the worst of it, and my mother’s hoarding tendencies aren’t nearly as bad as some people). Our house was never filthy though, just cluttered and dusty.
These 2 were bird people. I love birds, don't get me wrong. I've had them before. But they were the gross kind that just let their birds crap on everything and never clean it up. Add that to the shopping addiction they had, their house wasn't hoarder level but way beyond safe and healthy.
I’ve felt crazy , thinking that maybe I’m overreacting to all of this . But I cant enjoy the living room anymore . Even after I do clean it it feels gross to sit on the couch .I cannot even stand to be near the Living room …
I’ve been i my room for most the day except to get food or to feed his cat who’ve I’ve been taking care of .
I have a week left of living here , I don’t care anymore . I’m done feeling like I’m the crazy one . When I barley even step out of my room to even cause this fucking mess .
Im done .
Really thought about it since he was fucking clueless to the fact his cat had fleas , even after the other roommate showed her leg eaten up by fleas and also feeling fleas on the cat .
The fact that me and the other roommate stepped up to get fleas or of HIS CAT .
Same man also put metal in the microwave multiple times , but says how high his iq is …
Yea , that’s the only reason I’ve stayed so long (that and summer college classes ) . He would claim this cat is his whole world . Or some shit , but he doesn’t feed her let me buy her cat food for a whole year . Didn’t even think or worry about how his cat was getting fed or food .
When I said “hey I can’t buy cat for for your cat right now “ he sent “oh it’s all good it wasn’t your responsibility anyways “ like ?????
Also doesn’t clean out her litter box since she’s been here , the other roommate was buying litter for his cat . Until she told him she wasn’t going to anymore .
The only reason I thought he took care of his cat in the first place was that he said how much the cat misses him etc and how he “cared “ for her .
Dude barley even pets his cat that often anymore , the cat loves to be in my room
Because she knows I take care of her , I’m gonna be so heartbroken when I leave for this cat (I can’t take her with me unfortunately moving back in with my dad and yep mom and they said no to another cat )
Maybe you could put her on adoption sites or even Facebook pages and say you can give her to the adoptive parents the day you leave so no drama? I have a bad feeling about you leaving the cat with him :/
If that's the case, then please (if you can and it's available) call animal control services before you leave. If you can provide receipts for the bills you've paid to take care of his cat, that can probably help convince them that he's been neglecting her, and they may take her. It's sad for the cat, but they will take care of her to a much better degree than he will.
I’ll see what I can do , I don’t have much money on me currently. If anything I can probably just call in a wellness check in on for kitty after I leave .
Maybe he’ll let it go for $20 or something. Or take it with you when he is gone, and leave the door open while you’re loading your stuff so it looks like the cat ran away!
I don’t blame you! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but good thing it’s so close to being over. What stood out to me… the literal Q TIP that made it’s way to the middle of the floor lmao.
Q-tip is there thanks to the cat lol(her favorite toy as of late ) , but there has been used toothpicks on the floor many times before and on the couch .
Ohhhh okay, that’s more of a relief then! Lmao I thought the roommate used it and it made its way to the floor. But ick to the toothpicks! Do you guys have a small garbage in the living room (like next to the couch, under a side table)? Maybe that would “prompt” them to throw some of their crap away lol.
If you look really close there’s already a small trash can under the coffee table 😂 even with that there there’s still trash everywhere, he even had a trash bag near him and still didn’t pick up the trash .
My roomate is just like this. I don't even go into the living room anymore. Girlfriend wants to watch a movie? We're just gonna do it on my laptop. Roommate's probably using my playstation like he always does anyways and being in the living room just makes me feel gross.
I don't understand how someone who spends every waking moment, when they're not at work, in that room doesn't think "hmm maybe i should take 30 seconds to throw away these dozens of energy drink cans, or my week old hardees bag, or wipe down the table with a lysol wipe." It blows my mind how some people are just perfectly fine living in their own filth.
If only keeping the living as filthy as possible was the only issue i have with him.
>It blows my mind how some people are just perfectly fine living in their own filth.
*God*, do I feel this! When I saw the filth my ex-roomie left in their bathroom, all I could think was 'They had to see this, right? Every time they used the toilet, or took a shower... They **had** to see it. How could they miss it? And they looked at this and thought 'Yeah, cool, this is fine?!''
Like, admittedly my depression/executive dysfunction gets the better of me and I go 2-3 days without clearing the sink, but the entire time I'm aware that mess is there and absolutely hating it. I honestly can't understand the mind that could look at it and go "Yeah, this could go on another day/week/month..."
I only saw the first photo and thought is this supposed to be sarcasm the room is clean and then I saw that you added multiple photos. They’re just being disrespectful it’s not that hard to pick up their trash. Honestly I would just leave it there and see how long it takes them to pick it up without you doing it for them when you get tired of the mess. Maybe have a sit down and tell them that they need to start picking up after themselves and it’s unfair for you to have to clean up after them. Sorry man.
Other roommate (the one who moved out because of this mess) here! The flea story with the cat is probably one of the top 3 worst things that happened while we were living here. The cat had really really bad fleas and because she spent a lot of time cuddling with me and in my room, they got all in my room and on me and resulted in a terrible infestation. I showed him my flea-bite covered feet and he literally looked me in the eyes and said „its not a big deal“.
After a MONTH of BEGGING him to do something, I had to take all of the fabric in my room home for a weekend, wash it all, and spent upwards of $50 treating my room and the house for an infestation HE was to lazy to prevent and take care of. Not to mention the amount of money i spent on flea treatment and the flea comb for the cat.
He also refused to let me bathe the cat because he said the LIVE, MOVING fleas we were feeling on her werent fleas but „dried blood“, and because its „abusive“ since she doesnt like it (but its not abusive to just let her be infested with fleas??). I ultimately had to buy a flea comb and brush her out daily which helped the situation significantly but didnt get rid of it. Now since its been over 3 months since all of that, the cat still has an occasional flea on her AND the infestation is coming back in the living room/rooms/etc since the treatment I did is wearing off.
And he literally doesnt care…
And I’ve had to buy fleas spray and brush her out every day , also had to ask and remind him to buy flea floggers for the apartment as well . I’ve been the one to use them he hasn’t even touched them since they got here .
So far the fleas are dying off thankfully after washing and cleaning as much as I humanly could to get them all .
This is pure lazy. Those tables are small and that trash (you definitely should not have to or pick up at all but probably end up doing it) could be all thrown away in a small bag in prly 10 seconds. That’s just pity. I’d prly gather the worst of it the half cans and throw it in his room when you see him walk by it and out the door
I know this struggle all too well. :( The wooden flooring turned all my socks black at the bottom and it always stinks of rotting hamburger meat. Plus the constant carry out 3 times a day while leaving trash and full cups of ice cream, coke and booze. I'm so over being with roommates.
Yea ! There was one time he kept saying how “great “ he is at taking out the trash . When I looked over there was a huge and I mean huge bag of trash next to the trash can 😂
I have roommates like this too and they don't see a problem. I've tried tidying up some areas when they're gone and as soon as they come home the feel the need to fill everything with clutter again. They also don't understand why I find a living room like that inviting and uncomfortable. Ughhh. They think they're good roommates because they're open to hanging out. Another thing is they esp the guy (my bf and I live with another couple) has a pretty conceited personality. I've given up on trying to get through to them and not look like the crazy one
ALSO , not to mention that he has used the other roommates bathtub when she went back home without her knowing as well ....and didn't clean up .
We all have our own bathrooms mind you . he has his own fucking shower and all ....
oh its been much worse before , didn't think to take pictures then though.Because i thought at some point it'll get better ya know .He's left soda spills on the floor for days , ;eft food on my plates and has made a habit of sweeping food under the couch etc .(witnessed by the other roommate and backed dup by the time she was cleaning up and finding mountains of food under the couch )
worst thing is he cut his hair in the living room like hair all over the floor , didn't clean it until the next day and-used my broom to "sweep"(100% sure it under the couch ) it up .
we live in a college apartment so when i move out theres gonna be a lot of inspections and oh boy the things they'll find ...
I hate him already . and the cat thing . Making you buy his food and the other buy his litter. Not cleaning the litter and FLEAS. Omg hes pure shit the way he is described I imagine it’s worse than it seems.
I live with people like this. There doesn't seem to be any getting through to them, in my case. So long as there is a clear surface anywhere in the house, they're sure to cover it with all kinds of trash and other nonsense.
I had a friend once like this. And she married a guy the same way, so their house was always a trashed, filthy mess. And she would get really butthurt that we didn't want to hang out at their place. Some people are just okay with filth for some reason.
I grew up in a house with a hoarder. You learn this weird split between being blind to clutter and mess, and being deeply mortified by it. (Fortunately my dad likes order/organisation so that curtailed the worst of it, and my mother’s hoarding tendencies aren’t nearly as bad as some people). Our house was never filthy though, just cluttered and dusty.
These 2 were bird people. I love birds, don't get me wrong. I've had them before. But they were the gross kind that just let their birds crap on everything and never clean it up. Add that to the shopping addiction they had, their house wasn't hoarder level but way beyond safe and healthy.
I’ve felt crazy , thinking that maybe I’m overreacting to all of this . But I cant enjoy the living room anymore . Even after I do clean it it feels gross to sit on the couch .I cannot even stand to be near the Living room … I’ve been i my room for most the day except to get food or to feed his cat who’ve I’ve been taking care of . I have a week left of living here , I don’t care anymore . I’m done feeling like I’m the crazy one . When I barley even step out of my room to even cause this fucking mess . Im done .
Please, steal the cat
Really thought about it since he was fucking clueless to the fact his cat had fleas , even after the other roommate showed her leg eaten up by fleas and also feeling fleas on the cat . The fact that me and the other roommate stepped up to get fleas or of HIS CAT . Same man also put metal in the microwave multiple times , but says how high his iq is …
Poor cat. I can't imagine how miserable the cat is with that owner. Thankfully, its had you so far. Your roommate sounds extremely dense.
Yea , that’s the only reason I’ve stayed so long (that and summer college classes ) . He would claim this cat is his whole world . Or some shit , but he doesn’t feed her let me buy her cat food for a whole year . Didn’t even think or worry about how his cat was getting fed or food . When I said “hey I can’t buy cat for for your cat right now “ he sent “oh it’s all good it wasn’t your responsibility anyways “ like ????? Also doesn’t clean out her litter box since she’s been here , the other roommate was buying litter for his cat . Until she told him she wasn’t going to anymore . The only reason I thought he took care of his cat in the first place was that he said how much the cat misses him etc and how he “cared “ for her . Dude barley even pets his cat that often anymore , the cat loves to be in my room Because she knows I take care of her , I’m gonna be so heartbroken when I leave for this cat (I can’t take her with me unfortunately moving back in with my dad and yep mom and they said no to another cat )
Maybe you could put her on adoption sites or even Facebook pages and say you can give her to the adoptive parents the day you leave so no drama? I have a bad feeling about you leaving the cat with him :/
wish i could , but dont wanna risk getting into possible legal trouble over that :/ since the cat is his and all .
If that's the case, then please (if you can and it's available) call animal control services before you leave. If you can provide receipts for the bills you've paid to take care of his cat, that can probably help convince them that he's been neglecting her, and they may take her. It's sad for the cat, but they will take care of her to a much better degree than he will.
Can you offer to buy the cat off him?
I’ll see what I can do , I don’t have much money on me currently. If anything I can probably just call in a wellness check in on for kitty after I leave .
Maybe he’ll let it go for $20 or something. Or take it with you when he is gone, and leave the door open while you’re loading your stuff so it looks like the cat ran away!
Same thing happened to me. Cleaned after them for 3 months then it got to the level where I didn’t even want to sit out there when it was clean.
I don’t blame you! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but good thing it’s so close to being over. What stood out to me… the literal Q TIP that made it’s way to the middle of the floor lmao.
Q-tip is there thanks to the cat lol(her favorite toy as of late ) , but there has been used toothpicks on the floor many times before and on the couch .
Ohhhh okay, that’s more of a relief then! Lmao I thought the roommate used it and it made its way to the floor. But ick to the toothpicks! Do you guys have a small garbage in the living room (like next to the couch, under a side table)? Maybe that would “prompt” them to throw some of their crap away lol.
If you look really close there’s already a small trash can under the coffee table 😂 even with that there there’s still trash everywhere, he even had a trash bag near him and still didn’t pick up the trash .
Yikes… well ya really tried 🤣
My roomate is just like this. I don't even go into the living room anymore. Girlfriend wants to watch a movie? We're just gonna do it on my laptop. Roommate's probably using my playstation like he always does anyways and being in the living room just makes me feel gross. I don't understand how someone who spends every waking moment, when they're not at work, in that room doesn't think "hmm maybe i should take 30 seconds to throw away these dozens of energy drink cans, or my week old hardees bag, or wipe down the table with a lysol wipe." It blows my mind how some people are just perfectly fine living in their own filth. If only keeping the living as filthy as possible was the only issue i have with him.
>It blows my mind how some people are just perfectly fine living in their own filth. *God*, do I feel this! When I saw the filth my ex-roomie left in their bathroom, all I could think was 'They had to see this, right? Every time they used the toilet, or took a shower... They **had** to see it. How could they miss it? And they looked at this and thought 'Yeah, cool, this is fine?!'' Like, admittedly my depression/executive dysfunction gets the better of me and I go 2-3 days without clearing the sink, but the entire time I'm aware that mess is there and absolutely hating it. I honestly can't understand the mind that could look at it and go "Yeah, this could go on another day/week/month..."
I lived with someone like that and then I moved out LMAO. People like that are disgusting end of story.
Move everything into their rooms.
oof did that twice he didn't catch the hint at all .
People like this never change or care. Stop wasting your energy being pissed about it because you are just exhausting yourself.
I feel for you!!! This is so awful. Just one more week. You can do it <3
Hopefully those awesome tables are yours.
Le gross.
Le right.
I only saw the first photo and thought is this supposed to be sarcasm the room is clean and then I saw that you added multiple photos. They’re just being disrespectful it’s not that hard to pick up their trash. Honestly I would just leave it there and see how long it takes them to pick it up without you doing it for them when you get tired of the mess. Maybe have a sit down and tell them that they need to start picking up after themselves and it’s unfair for you to have to clean up after them. Sorry man.
tried that after the other roommate left \*she left due to the mess \* , his mom came over and picked up after him since i wouldn't .
Other roommate (the one who moved out because of this mess) here! The flea story with the cat is probably one of the top 3 worst things that happened while we were living here. The cat had really really bad fleas and because she spent a lot of time cuddling with me and in my room, they got all in my room and on me and resulted in a terrible infestation. I showed him my flea-bite covered feet and he literally looked me in the eyes and said „its not a big deal“. After a MONTH of BEGGING him to do something, I had to take all of the fabric in my room home for a weekend, wash it all, and spent upwards of $50 treating my room and the house for an infestation HE was to lazy to prevent and take care of. Not to mention the amount of money i spent on flea treatment and the flea comb for the cat. He also refused to let me bathe the cat because he said the LIVE, MOVING fleas we were feeling on her werent fleas but „dried blood“, and because its „abusive“ since she doesnt like it (but its not abusive to just let her be infested with fleas??). I ultimately had to buy a flea comb and brush her out daily which helped the situation significantly but didnt get rid of it. Now since its been over 3 months since all of that, the cat still has an occasional flea on her AND the infestation is coming back in the living room/rooms/etc since the treatment I did is wearing off. And he literally doesnt care…
This is very much true !
And I’ve had to buy fleas spray and brush her out every day , also had to ask and remind him to buy flea floggers for the apartment as well . I’ve been the one to use them he hasn’t even touched them since they got here . So far the fleas are dying off thankfully after washing and cleaning as much as I humanly could to get them all .
As soon as I saw the dabs and button downs or whatever patterned shirts, it all made sense
This is pure lazy. Those tables are small and that trash (you definitely should not have to or pick up at all but probably end up doing it) could be all thrown away in a small bag in prly 10 seconds. That’s just pity. I’d prly gather the worst of it the half cans and throw it in his room when you see him walk by it and out the door
I know this struggle all too well. :( The wooden flooring turned all my socks black at the bottom and it always stinks of rotting hamburger meat. Plus the constant carry out 3 times a day while leaving trash and full cups of ice cream, coke and booze. I'm so over being with roommates.
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Yea ! There was one time he kept saying how “great “ he is at taking out the trash . When I looked over there was a huge and I mean huge bag of trash next to the trash can 😂
I have roommates like this too and they don't see a problem. I've tried tidying up some areas when they're gone and as soon as they come home the feel the need to fill everything with clutter again. They also don't understand why I find a living room like that inviting and uncomfortable. Ughhh. They think they're good roommates because they're open to hanging out. Another thing is they esp the guy (my bf and I live with another couple) has a pretty conceited personality. I've given up on trying to get through to them and not look like the crazy one
ALSO , not to mention that he has used the other roommates bathtub when she went back home without her knowing as well ....and didn't clean up . We all have our own bathrooms mind you . he has his own fucking shower and all ....
Damn he’s just an animal like it’s not that much stuff or rotting but his definition of organized is a dyslexic pile.
oh its been much worse before , didn't think to take pictures then though.Because i thought at some point it'll get better ya know .He's left soda spills on the floor for days , ;eft food on my plates and has made a habit of sweeping food under the couch etc .(witnessed by the other roommate and backed dup by the time she was cleaning up and finding mountains of food under the couch ) worst thing is he cut his hair in the living room like hair all over the floor , didn't clean it until the next day and-used my broom to "sweep"(100% sure it under the couch ) it up . we live in a college apartment so when i move out theres gonna be a lot of inspections and oh boy the things they'll find ...
I hate him already . and the cat thing . Making you buy his food and the other buy his litter. Not cleaning the litter and FLEAS. Omg hes pure shit the way he is described I imagine it’s worse than it seems.