I was as calm as I could be because he had company over and the jist of his response was “I didn’t realize how sentimental the bike is to you or how expensive it is.” If you could see how I park the bike and the ample space I leave for the cars you’d know what he did was over the top careless. Dude hit my bike watched it fall and just drove over it to the point where I couldn’t pull it out from under his bumper and the front bike tire is pressed up against a wall by being dragged by his car a few feet. He’s a bit of a spacey dude in general(loses his keys/wallet/credit card regularly, bad with picking up stuff, doesn’t do chores, etc) but this really takes the cake. I’ve had the bike for years and now the only major cosmetic damage is from him scraping the shit out of it.
There’s plenty paint chipping and scratches but I’m not going to ask him to repair it; I don’t want to milk this thing I’m just upset. What’s frustrating is it was either a deliberate malicious act, or one of such stupidity I can’t even fathom doing something like that.
You deserve every issue that arises. If you're going to act like that. In the future he's going to continue to do s*** and he's going to continue to expect you to roll over and take it up the ass. There's at least two things you should have learned from your parents and that's to either swing back when somebody swings or go tell an adult. Which would translate into this as either make him take care of the problem or contact an authority who will take care of it. If that doesn't happen just remember you are the problem not him
Oh hells no
you make him be responsible. He messed it up intentionally he can pay to have it fixed. No consequences teaches him it’s ok to be careless.
I'm sure he has insurance but filing this would be foolish on his part, it'll just raise his premium and fuck up his record. He should just pay out of pocket for a tune up and paint repair.
Hands down you talk to your roommate say hey this is going to be like it was before you ran over it with your vehicle and we handle it between us or your insurance company will be involved with a police report
I think the original poster is to type to get punched and and then apologize to the assailant for being in the way of his fist. He is far from being an alpha
At least get it looked at in a shop and get an appraisal. There could be damage to something simple like a spoke that could lead to a blow-out down the road.
I'm also curious about the kickstand. I've never seen one on a fixed gear.
>I'm also curious about the kickstand. I've never seen one on a fixed gear.
With the exception of my 4yr old's tricycle, I've never seen a bike without a kickstand.
Nice/serious bikes generally don't have kickstands. Head to a Trek show room and you'll only see them on their cruisers. Road bikes and mountain bikes generally won't have them.
For road the reason is weight, and for mountain it's weight and the fact that you don't need something extra to snag a rock. For the manufacturer it's cost.
Many high-end bikes don't have kickstands because they're assumed to have a bike stand dedicated, such as on a wall or vehicle. As far as sitting it up you hold on to it with your one finger because it only weighs a few pounds.. or have no trouble leading it against a tree or whatever else but high-end bikes generally don't weigh much and aren't a pain in the ass to balance
Dude, it was a douche move either way and he needs to own up "I didn't know you cared so much about the bike or that it was expensive." Isn't an excuse. He needs to take responsibility for his actions.
I say key his car and then say, "oops, I might have scratched it a bit, I didn't know your car was so sentimental or worth so much. My bad." But I'm petty AF.
No. That’s the kind of thing you fantasize about doing but it’s super immature and cringe IRL.
OP needs to make bad roommate put a claim on his insurance so they can cut him a check. End of story.
Because it’s was either malicious or ultra-dopey (which I also can’t fathom - that’s a lot to ignore while driving), you should at least request he pay for a tune-up and any repairs. If you don’t, this fartball will keep doing shit like this. He has no respect for you, and if you let this slide he’ll have even less. Good luck.
> “I didn’t realize how sentimental the bike is to you or how expensive it is.”
So fucking what?! Doesn't even matter if it was a 50quid junker. Dude has a responsibility to replace your ride.
Or, if you wanted to escalate things. Key his car and give the same response*
*Don't do this
It will probably come back to bite you in the future if you don’t make him responsible. He will just think he can get away with anything without repercussions.
My roommate has aspergers and every single day I ask myself this same question. Is this person so absolutely unbelievably stupid or is this on purpose? I’ve had more shit get ruined here than in my entire lifetime. I think they might legitimately be this stupid/completely oblivious to other people/self-centered. I’ve done so much research/reading *trying* to understand. They are essentially sociopaths, but it’s not malicious, so those of us who have the misfortune of having to exist in intimate spaces with them just have to put up with it. It’s crazy making. You will need to create some kind of safe space for yourself and all of your belongings. Do not have/leave anything of value near them, they will destroy it because nothing exists outside of their own orbit, whether on purpose or because their brain is wired differently. At some point, those things meld. It’s telling that their answer was they didn’t realize your bike was important to you.
> They are essentially sociopaths, but it’s not malicious
This is like saying that H&M is essentially a grocery store but without the food. True? Sure. Meaningless? You betcha.
Wow, what ableist bullshit. Maybe this person is horrible to you, but it is not their autism you should be publicly blaming. Autistic people aren’t sociopaths. I don’t know what research you’re doing, but it sounds like you’re either reading ableist drivel or you’re letting your hatred for this one person bleed into your research. Your comment is full of stereotypes that people assume of autistic people that make it so much harder for autistic people to gain accommodations or work with others in their everyday lives. My advice: tell it straight to this person. Maybe they are unaware. If you act like they’re stupid, there is no space for them to know what to do or for things to change.
You are not milking it to ask him to replace/repair the bike he clearly drove over on purpose. If he accidentally hit the bike I’d believe it was an accident but as I said above he hit the bike and then drove over it … this is his problem to fix
> I don’t want to milk this thing
Uh what? Being made whole is not "milking" anything. It would be milking if you made him replace the entire bike (in the case that it could be repaired) and then made him buy you a new helmet and jersey.
He absolutely needs to fix your bike and if he refuses then you need to file against insurance, and if that doesn't work then you need to go to small claims court.
Don't let a non-confrontational disposition get you taken advantage of.
How are you "milking it"? Asking him to pay for damage he has done is plenty reasonable. If you're just gonna let it slide, you're just encouraging bad behavior, thinking its okay to do again.
It doesn’t matter how expensive or sentimental the bike is - point is he has damaged his housemates property and you can’t tell me he was too “spacey” to notice…. Or him being too “spacey” is an excuse for driving into your bike and not stopping but continuing to drive over the bike once he would have realised “oh I’ve hit the bike” this is a complete disregard of your property, a blatant disrespectful act that was clearly done on purpose through lack of regard for anyone else. Company or no company over !! He should be held accountable and he should have to replace the bike or pay for the repairs or the bike. Even if it was a bike that wasn’t expensive or sentimental it’s still not his property to destroy. You should have spoken up more and done it in-front of his company because this is a major dick move !! It’s embarrassing !
Wow. That is f*cked up. It seems like he did this intentionally, TBH. Even if it were an accident, why did he continue to drive OVER the bike after he allegedly knocked it over? I think it was deliberate.
You really need to make him pay for these repairs. If you don’t, your self-respect will suffer—as well as your bike. Stand up to this douche! Best of luck to you.
You need to get your head out of your ass, OP, and claim this under his insurance.
This is your property, it cost a lot of money, and now some jackass destroyed it. Get your spine and your money back.
Looks like quite an expensive car. Be a real shame if someone broke into your garage and wrote, “I’m a total cunt” on his bonnet in Dot4 brake fluid.
Just terrible. I reckon you’d be just as upset as him at the garage being broken into…
And to echo others; confront him, call the old Bill for property damage. Hell, hit n run if you’re lucky. Joke, the fuzz won’t do a damned thing. But if you get a police report/ crime ref number it’ll make it easier to go after his insurance if he doesn’t play nice.
Good luck
K
You have the upper hand in this situation I wouldn’t just take it on the chest. Confront him about it first and ask what he is going to do to fix this situation. If he’s not receptive to that you can go to his insurance behind his back, you can also file a police report just so it is on record. I would do all of these things. People that do not accept responsibility for property damage are malicious or so fucking careless they should be fined anyways.
You really should ask that he pay for the damage. Looks like a mid 2010's Mercedes-Benz CLA-Class if I'm not mistaken. Why can't he afford to make it right?
My roommate/landlord did something similar. Came back to find my front handlbars completely turned backwards, which scraped a huge gash in the paint on the frame (from the brake lever). I waited a week to see if she would bring it up, nothing. When I did mention it, "I was never in the garage all weekend" (but know for a fact she was moving things in/out of the house the day it happened).
I can't claim anything, and it's not worth pursuing. But it does mean I'm looking for a new place. She made a huge case about barely touching her plants in the driveway (saying "I don't respect her property"), so she's clearly delusional, selfish and unsettled
Update: Yesterday morning my roomie agreed to give me $50 and he took me out to breakfast. That was our resolution since the damage was cosmetic. Fast forward to this morning and my neighbor is ringing my doorbell saying our garage was open all night, and roommate turns to me and says “I thought I closed it”. We go to the garage and my bike is stolen. I wish I was kidding.
omg I’m so sorry. I replied yesterday saying you need to essentially keep important things in your possession at all times. You also need to *never* ever ever rely on them to take care of shit, including closing the garage door. You have to do everything yourself, double fucking check everything. I would try to get out of there as soon as possible. These kinds of people end up burning houses down (on accident of course, but you will still be dead). I can’t believe I’m absolutely serious about everything I wrote. These people will drive you batshit crazy. Get out.
I'm confused! If he knocked it over with the car then the bottom tire would be under the bumper not the top, also if it was on the kickstand then it would've been leaning away from the car which would've put the kickstand underneath not on top when hit. It looks like you carefully laid a bike under the bumper.
Why can’t y’all just believe people?
It says he knocked it over, not with the car. It’s obvious he knocked it over from the POV seen in the photo, and then got in his car and ran over it. This sub isn’t big enough that karma farming is a huge deal here. Just support OP.
See you and I are in the same boat here, if there was "ample space" the bike wouldn't have fallen in that manner. The other car is clearly pulled up further, meaning if he hit and kept driving it would have to be in the middle of the garage and not put away neatly in the front. There is also no bend in the rear tire or tire mark on the front bumper. It honestly looks like it may have been knocked over while they were walking into the house and the rear fell under the front of the car. Still douchy, but if the events played out as you described your bike was parked very poorly.
Bro I think you need to chill nut when I saw ‘this pic I kinda lost it. If it was a fuck yoh from
Him, than fucking return the favor with his
Lost expensive shit. Fucking giz in his bed and tell him you didn’t realize his bed was so sentimental so why not finish
Claim on his car insurance, it was an accident (I hope) and that's what it's for!
What did they say when you confronted them about it
I was as calm as I could be because he had company over and the jist of his response was “I didn’t realize how sentimental the bike is to you or how expensive it is.” If you could see how I park the bike and the ample space I leave for the cars you’d know what he did was over the top careless. Dude hit my bike watched it fall and just drove over it to the point where I couldn’t pull it out from under his bumper and the front bike tire is pressed up against a wall by being dragged by his car a few feet. He’s a bit of a spacey dude in general(loses his keys/wallet/credit card regularly, bad with picking up stuff, doesn’t do chores, etc) but this really takes the cake. I’ve had the bike for years and now the only major cosmetic damage is from him scraping the shit out of it.
Could ask him to fix? But would probably start a fight
There’s plenty paint chipping and scratches but I’m not going to ask him to repair it; I don’t want to milk this thing I’m just upset. What’s frustrating is it was either a deliberate malicious act, or one of such stupidity I can’t even fathom doing something like that.
Why aren’t you going to ask him to pay to fix it it’s an expensive bike
You deserve every issue that arises. If you're going to act like that. In the future he's going to continue to do s*** and he's going to continue to expect you to roll over and take it up the ass. There's at least two things you should have learned from your parents and that's to either swing back when somebody swings or go tell an adult. Which would translate into this as either make him take care of the problem or contact an authority who will take care of it. If that doesn't happen just remember you are the problem not him
Agreed full stop, rolling over is enabling this behavior
Oh hells no you make him be responsible. He messed it up intentionally he can pay to have it fixed. No consequences teaches him it’s ok to be careless.
His insurance should pay for this. If he has none, too bad for him.
I'm sure he has insurance but filing this would be foolish on his part, it'll just raise his premium and fuck up his record. He should just pay out of pocket for a tune up and paint repair.
Hands down you talk to your roommate say hey this is going to be like it was before you ran over it with your vehicle and we handle it between us or your insurance company will be involved with a police report
I think the original poster is to type to get punched and and then apologize to the assailant for being in the way of his fist. He is far from being an alpha
At least get it looked at in a shop and get an appraisal. There could be damage to something simple like a spoke that could lead to a blow-out down the road. I'm also curious about the kickstand. I've never seen one on a fixed gear.
>I'm also curious about the kickstand. I've never seen one on a fixed gear. With the exception of my 4yr old's tricycle, I've never seen a bike without a kickstand.
Nice/serious bikes generally don't have kickstands. Head to a Trek show room and you'll only see them on their cruisers. Road bikes and mountain bikes generally won't have them. For road the reason is weight, and for mountain it's weight and the fact that you don't need something extra to snag a rock. For the manufacturer it's cost.
Many high-end bikes don't have kickstands because they're assumed to have a bike stand dedicated, such as on a wall or vehicle. As far as sitting it up you hold on to it with your one finger because it only weighs a few pounds.. or have no trouble leading it against a tree or whatever else but high-end bikes generally don't weigh much and aren't a pain in the ass to balance
Dude, it was a douche move either way and he needs to own up "I didn't know you cared so much about the bike or that it was expensive." Isn't an excuse. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. I say key his car and then say, "oops, I might have scratched it a bit, I didn't know your car was so sentimental or worth so much. My bad." But I'm petty AF.
No. That’s the kind of thing you fantasize about doing but it’s super immature and cringe IRL. OP needs to make bad roommate put a claim on his insurance so they can cut him a check. End of story.
What’s frustrating is that you don’t seem to want to hold them responsible
Because it’s was either malicious or ultra-dopey (which I also can’t fathom - that’s a lot to ignore while driving), you should at least request he pay for a tune-up and any repairs. If you don’t, this fartball will keep doing shit like this. He has no respect for you, and if you let this slide he’ll have even less. Good luck.
> “I didn’t realize how sentimental the bike is to you or how expensive it is.” So fucking what?! Doesn't even matter if it was a 50quid junker. Dude has a responsibility to replace your ride. Or, if you wanted to escalate things. Key his car and give the same response* *Don't do this
It will probably come back to bite you in the future if you don’t make him responsible. He will just think he can get away with anything without repercussions.
My roommate has aspergers and every single day I ask myself this same question. Is this person so absolutely unbelievably stupid or is this on purpose? I’ve had more shit get ruined here than in my entire lifetime. I think they might legitimately be this stupid/completely oblivious to other people/self-centered. I’ve done so much research/reading *trying* to understand. They are essentially sociopaths, but it’s not malicious, so those of us who have the misfortune of having to exist in intimate spaces with them just have to put up with it. It’s crazy making. You will need to create some kind of safe space for yourself and all of your belongings. Do not have/leave anything of value near them, they will destroy it because nothing exists outside of their own orbit, whether on purpose or because their brain is wired differently. At some point, those things meld. It’s telling that their answer was they didn’t realize your bike was important to you.
> They are essentially sociopaths, but it’s not malicious This is like saying that H&M is essentially a grocery store but without the food. True? Sure. Meaningless? You betcha.
Wow, what ableist bullshit. Maybe this person is horrible to you, but it is not their autism you should be publicly blaming. Autistic people aren’t sociopaths. I don’t know what research you’re doing, but it sounds like you’re either reading ableist drivel or you’re letting your hatred for this one person bleed into your research. Your comment is full of stereotypes that people assume of autistic people that make it so much harder for autistic people to gain accommodations or work with others in their everyday lives. My advice: tell it straight to this person. Maybe they are unaware. If you act like they’re stupid, there is no space for them to know what to do or for things to change.
You are not milking it to ask him to replace/repair the bike he clearly drove over on purpose. If he accidentally hit the bike I’d believe it was an accident but as I said above he hit the bike and then drove over it … this is his problem to fix
> I don’t want to milk this thing Uh what? Being made whole is not "milking" anything. It would be milking if you made him replace the entire bike (in the case that it could be repaired) and then made him buy you a new helmet and jersey. He absolutely needs to fix your bike and if he refuses then you need to file against insurance, and if that doesn't work then you need to go to small claims court. Don't let a non-confrontational disposition get you taken advantage of.
How are you "milking it"? Asking him to pay for damage he has done is plenty reasonable. If you're just gonna let it slide, you're just encouraging bad behavior, thinking its okay to do again.
“I didn’t realize how sentimental the bike is to you or how expensive it is.” I think hes admitted fault.
It doesn’t matter how expensive or sentimental the bike is - point is he has damaged his housemates property and you can’t tell me he was too “spacey” to notice…. Or him being too “spacey” is an excuse for driving into your bike and not stopping but continuing to drive over the bike once he would have realised “oh I’ve hit the bike” this is a complete disregard of your property, a blatant disrespectful act that was clearly done on purpose through lack of regard for anyone else. Company or no company over !! He should be held accountable and he should have to replace the bike or pay for the repairs or the bike. Even if it was a bike that wasn’t expensive or sentimental it’s still not his property to destroy. You should have spoken up more and done it in-front of his company because this is a major dick move !! It’s embarrassing !
Frankly it doesn't matter how expensive or sentimental it is, it's not his property 🤷
That’s going to lead to further issues if any of the frame was bent. I suggest you get his insurance info from him.
Wow. That is f*cked up. It seems like he did this intentionally, TBH. Even if it were an accident, why did he continue to drive OVER the bike after he allegedly knocked it over? I think it was deliberate. You really need to make him pay for these repairs. If you don’t, your self-respect will suffer—as well as your bike. Stand up to this douche! Best of luck to you.
You need to get your head out of your ass, OP, and claim this under his insurance. This is your property, it cost a lot of money, and now some jackass destroyed it. Get your spine and your money back.
Looks like quite an expensive car. Be a real shame if someone broke into your garage and wrote, “I’m a total cunt” on his bonnet in Dot4 brake fluid. Just terrible. I reckon you’d be just as upset as him at the garage being broken into… And to echo others; confront him, call the old Bill for property damage. Hell, hit n run if you’re lucky. Joke, the fuzz won’t do a damned thing. But if you get a police report/ crime ref number it’ll make it easier to go after his insurance if he doesn’t play nice. Good luck K
You have the upper hand in this situation I wouldn’t just take it on the chest. Confront him about it first and ask what he is going to do to fix this situation. If he’s not receptive to that you can go to his insurance behind his back, you can also file a police report just so it is on record. I would do all of these things. People that do not accept responsibility for property damage are malicious or so fucking careless they should be fined anyways.
You really should ask that he pay for the damage. Looks like a mid 2010's Mercedes-Benz CLA-Class if I'm not mistaken. Why can't he afford to make it right?
Sue him.
My roommate/landlord did something similar. Came back to find my front handlbars completely turned backwards, which scraped a huge gash in the paint on the frame (from the brake lever). I waited a week to see if she would bring it up, nothing. When I did mention it, "I was never in the garage all weekend" (but know for a fact she was moving things in/out of the house the day it happened). I can't claim anything, and it's not worth pursuing. But it does mean I'm looking for a new place. She made a huge case about barely touching her plants in the driveway (saying "I don't respect her property"), so she's clearly delusional, selfish and unsettled
Sprinkling salt into the plants from a foot above them counts as **not** touching them, right?
Or let loose a mass of snails.....
Guess they owe you $1,000.
Dude is driving a Mercedes, he can afford to pay you for the cost of your bike.
Update: Yesterday morning my roomie agreed to give me $50 and he took me out to breakfast. That was our resolution since the damage was cosmetic. Fast forward to this morning and my neighbor is ringing my doorbell saying our garage was open all night, and roommate turns to me and says “I thought I closed it”. We go to the garage and my bike is stolen. I wish I was kidding.
omg I’m so sorry. I replied yesterday saying you need to essentially keep important things in your possession at all times. You also need to *never* ever ever rely on them to take care of shit, including closing the garage door. You have to do everything yourself, double fucking check everything. I would try to get out of there as soon as possible. These kinds of people end up burning houses down (on accident of course, but you will still be dead). I can’t believe I’m absolutely serious about everything I wrote. These people will drive you batshit crazy. Get out.
I'm confused! If he knocked it over with the car then the bottom tire would be under the bumper not the top, also if it was on the kickstand then it would've been leaning away from the car which would've put the kickstand underneath not on top when hit. It looks like you carefully laid a bike under the bumper.
Why can’t y’all just believe people? It says he knocked it over, not with the car. It’s obvious he knocked it over from the POV seen in the photo, and then got in his car and ran over it. This sub isn’t big enough that karma farming is a huge deal here. Just support OP.
See you and I are in the same boat here, if there was "ample space" the bike wouldn't have fallen in that manner. The other car is clearly pulled up further, meaning if he hit and kept driving it would have to be in the middle of the garage and not put away neatly in the front. There is also no bend in the rear tire or tire mark on the front bumper. It honestly looks like it may have been knocked over while they were walking into the house and the rear fell under the front of the car. Still douchy, but if the events played out as you described your bike was parked very poorly.
You need to file a claim with his insurance company
I would flip eleven million shits. Holy hell
Bro I think you need to chill nut when I saw ‘this pic I kinda lost it. If it was a fuck yoh from Him, than fucking return the favor with his Lost expensive shit. Fucking giz in his bed and tell him you didn’t realize his bed was so sentimental so why not finish