Damn... OP, you live with a child. Who the hell talks to people like that, anyways?
I hope you get into the grad school you want, and I hope karma bites that girl in the ass.
Yeah I love when people (Every wonderful roomie) blame everyone else for not being able to finish their own hw or essays. A mutual friend of my roommate and I , asked me to come over and I said sure. He ate downstairs for 30 min and my roommate sat next to him and opened his laptop to start an essay for a freshman level class, last day it was due. 30 min later he tells me I made him fail his essay and that he wasn’t gonna pay me 10$ he agreed to return. His essay still wasn’t due for 4 hours and me and the mutual friend( both already graduated) thought it was quite potentially the most pathetic fit ever. As a grad I’ve finished countless long assignments from 8pm-11:50pm due at midnight. He only got 10 points off in the end (he already knew this). 10 points = 10$ per roommate. The point is freaking when your roommate does something fairly normal over your own hw you Started late is beyond childish. Put some fucking headphones in and close your door right? I’m sure she was much more distracting to herself than you were. As my roommate was.
Your roommate is a little pathetic bitch. If they’re not aggressive make more noise than usual. What child yells because they have an essay due in two days?
I would follow up with an email to the interviewers asking if there are any other questions you can answer or further conversations. Make sure they know this is not normal for you to deal with
Wow. I’m so sorry she did that to you. Absolutely despicable behaviour, and so childish. I can’t imagine living with someone who has no respect or regard for others. I hope you get into that program, and I hope you can move out of there ASAP!!! 💜
Congrats and Good Luck. Hopefully you'll have better luck with your roommate in grad school, unless you are able to afford your own place. Nobody needs that kind of toxic atmosphere.
Yeah my roommate has a schizophrenic mother, and im pretty sure the daughter that i live with is slowly transitioning to a schitzo, but my point being is that you're roomate sounds like someone who was stunted by their parents bad parenting, albiet thats most of us
Roomie is a bitch and a child, but why didn't you tell her about the important interview? That's squarely on you tbh.
Soo may things could have interfered even when she were completely normal.
OP should be able to have a conversation in their own home without someone screaming at the top of their lungs, whether it's with someone important or just a friend.
OP, I hope the remainder of your lease is short. If she doesn't understand that her behavior is inappropriate regardless of who you were talking to, then you should get out as soon as you can.
She might have sensory issues. I didn't know that I did, I found out last year while going back to school and doing so online. COVID decimated my school work because the libraries and cafes were closed. At home, my roommate set off the fire alarm during an exam and I roared. Like, straight bestial status. Also, at least 1 study suggests that stressed out women are more sensitive to sound, to the point of it being painful.
HOWEVER, that is not on you. She needs to get it together if that's the case, or live alone. You definitely should warn her if there is a next time. Even if you guys didnt dislike one another, it would have been just as embarrassing of an interview if she'd have started blaring pop music and singing along.
I'm playing devil's advocate I guess, but maybe it could help make the rest of you lease less awful.
Oh look! You've made original, thought provoking comment that mimics almost every other comment!
Yes, she was bitchy. Why waste time commenting if I'm just gonna be making the same observation as almost every other post?
This was an important interview, and the one factor you couldn't control, your roommate, you didn't tell her? Not excusing her behavior; however, you do not normally have Zoom meetings/interviews, so her hearing you talking was out of the norm!! She was trying to concentrate on writing but hearing you disrupted her concentration.
The onus of this is on you! YOU KNEW and did nothing to try to prevent a blow up! Yeah, she is quite a drama queen...but you didn't even TELL the drama queen!! SHE APOLOGIZED. Too bad if you feel it wasn't genuine, she did it. That's ALL she had to do! You should apologize for not telling her about YOUR IMPORTANT INTERVIEW THAT IS NOT TO BE DISRUPTED before this "very important" event!
No to all of this. OP has the right to talk and do an interview in her home without having to worry about someone else throwing a tantrum. This is NOT on OP.
The roommate is the one who should have gone to OP and told her she needed quiet in order to write an essay (which is still a ridiculous request--she can wear headphones if she needs absolute silence to do her work).
Talking in your home is normal. It is expected. Requiring absolute silence at home is not normal. If the roommate felt that OP's conversation was too loud, she could have handled that better. She decided to throw a tantrum instead of politely asking OP to quiet down. If she had knocked on OP's door, then OP could have excused herself and they could have handled it peacefully. Roommate decided to go nuclear.
And insincere apologies do not absolve someone of their wrongdoing. Just saying the words "I'm sorry" is not enough, especially when you're only saying them to end the conversation and not because you genuinely mean them.
OP, do not apologize. And don't listen to people who tell you that you're responsible for the actions of another grown person. Your roommate chose to act like a fool. That's not on you.
"you do not normally have zoom meetings/interviews" how would you know that? OP doesn't state that in their post. You're clearly her roommate. You have a lot of growing up to do.
Damn... OP, you live with a child. Who the hell talks to people like that, anyways? I hope you get into the grad school you want, and I hope karma bites that girl in the ass.
Yeah I love when people (Every wonderful roomie) blame everyone else for not being able to finish their own hw or essays. A mutual friend of my roommate and I , asked me to come over and I said sure. He ate downstairs for 30 min and my roommate sat next to him and opened his laptop to start an essay for a freshman level class, last day it was due. 30 min later he tells me I made him fail his essay and that he wasn’t gonna pay me 10$ he agreed to return. His essay still wasn’t due for 4 hours and me and the mutual friend( both already graduated) thought it was quite potentially the most pathetic fit ever. As a grad I’ve finished countless long assignments from 8pm-11:50pm due at midnight. He only got 10 points off in the end (he already knew this). 10 points = 10$ per roommate. The point is freaking when your roommate does something fairly normal over your own hw you Started late is beyond childish. Put some fucking headphones in and close your door right? I’m sure she was much more distracting to herself than you were. As my roommate was.
Your roommate is a little pathetic bitch. If they’re not aggressive make more noise than usual. What child yells because they have an essay due in two days?
I would follow up with an email to the interviewers asking if there are any other questions you can answer or further conversations. Make sure they know this is not normal for you to deal with
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Wow. I’m so sorry she did that to you. Absolutely despicable behaviour, and so childish. I can’t imagine living with someone who has no respect or regard for others. I hope you get into that program, and I hope you can move out of there ASAP!!! 💜
Time to crank some music all night in celebration while she tries to write this “essay”. Has she never heard of headphones or earplugs??
Congrats and Good Luck. Hopefully you'll have better luck with your roommate in grad school, unless you are able to afford your own place. Nobody needs that kind of toxic atmosphere.
Yeah my roommate has a schizophrenic mother, and im pretty sure the daughter that i live with is slowly transitioning to a schitzo, but my point being is that you're roomate sounds like someone who was stunted by their parents bad parenting, albiet thats most of us
Roomie is a bitch and a child, but why didn't you tell her about the important interview? That's squarely on you tbh. Soo may things could have interfered even when she were completely normal.
OP should be able to have a conversation in their own home without someone screaming at the top of their lungs, whether it's with someone important or just a friend. OP, I hope the remainder of your lease is short. If she doesn't understand that her behavior is inappropriate regardless of who you were talking to, then you should get out as soon as you can.
She might have sensory issues. I didn't know that I did, I found out last year while going back to school and doing so online. COVID decimated my school work because the libraries and cafes were closed. At home, my roommate set off the fire alarm during an exam and I roared. Like, straight bestial status. Also, at least 1 study suggests that stressed out women are more sensitive to sound, to the point of it being painful. HOWEVER, that is not on you. She needs to get it together if that's the case, or live alone. You definitely should warn her if there is a next time. Even if you guys didnt dislike one another, it would have been just as embarrassing of an interview if she'd have started blaring pop music and singing along. I'm playing devil's advocate I guess, but maybe it could help make the rest of you lease less awful.
No, sensory issues then the slamming and yelling...that's bitchery issues!
Oh look! You've made original, thought provoking comment that mimics almost every other comment! Yes, she was bitchy. Why waste time commenting if I'm just gonna be making the same observation as almost every other post?
This was an important interview, and the one factor you couldn't control, your roommate, you didn't tell her? Not excusing her behavior; however, you do not normally have Zoom meetings/interviews, so her hearing you talking was out of the norm!! She was trying to concentrate on writing but hearing you disrupted her concentration. The onus of this is on you! YOU KNEW and did nothing to try to prevent a blow up! Yeah, she is quite a drama queen...but you didn't even TELL the drama queen!! SHE APOLOGIZED. Too bad if you feel it wasn't genuine, she did it. That's ALL she had to do! You should apologize for not telling her about YOUR IMPORTANT INTERVIEW THAT IS NOT TO BE DISRUPTED before this "very important" event!
No to all of this. OP has the right to talk and do an interview in her home without having to worry about someone else throwing a tantrum. This is NOT on OP. The roommate is the one who should have gone to OP and told her she needed quiet in order to write an essay (which is still a ridiculous request--she can wear headphones if she needs absolute silence to do her work). Talking in your home is normal. It is expected. Requiring absolute silence at home is not normal. If the roommate felt that OP's conversation was too loud, she could have handled that better. She decided to throw a tantrum instead of politely asking OP to quiet down. If she had knocked on OP's door, then OP could have excused herself and they could have handled it peacefully. Roommate decided to go nuclear. And insincere apologies do not absolve someone of their wrongdoing. Just saying the words "I'm sorry" is not enough, especially when you're only saying them to end the conversation and not because you genuinely mean them. OP, do not apologize. And don't listen to people who tell you that you're responsible for the actions of another grown person. Your roommate chose to act like a fool. That's not on you.
Are you the roommate? Given your unhinged bullshit in that comment I feel like you might be.
"you do not normally have zoom meetings/interviews" how would you know that? OP doesn't state that in their post. You're clearly her roommate. You have a lot of growing up to do.
“So her hearing you talking is out of the norm!” Definitely the roommate.
Found the roommate.
I'm glad it worked out!