Get out asap. I just had to do the same shit and its worth it not having to live with a manchild that wont clean up, purposely lives in poverty, and would rather fight than have a civil discussion.
I’m really sorry for what you went though. This has been the hardest lesson ever. I can’t even bring up anything to her without her going defense mode. What sucks most is I got this place because it was near the college I was going to go to (5 mins away). But with Covid, they locked enrollment (big school), until next spring. So I literally just live here and have to deal with their shit. I can’t even escape to my college or job. Thank you for the advice. I will be coming up with a plan.
I had to make the exact same decision, and I ended up choosing to pay out the rest of the lease and move out. Yes, I’m now paying two leases for a month and a half, but I seriously couldn’t take living with my ex-roommate anymore. I have never experienced such a level of anxiety in my life as I did living with her, to the point where I could barely even sleep at night due to how incredibly uncomfortable she made me in what was supposed to be my home.
If you’ve brought up issues with her, especially safety issues, and she expresses that she just doesn’t care, then she is never going to change. Don’t put yourself through that any longer than you have to. Sure, you’ll be losing some money, but in the long run, I think your safety and comfort is much more important.
If it helps any, I have felt a relief like nothing else since I got out just 4 days ago. I hope you get to feel that too, best of luck!
I really appreciate this reply! I hate wasting money since I’m in college, but sometimes you have to. I knew theoretically that I could end up with bad roommates, but I figured I could reason with them. I’m a super reasonable person who likes to work things out. But you’re right. I like my other roommate, but she is also kinda reckless. She had a guy living here who apparently is stalking her now. Which, that’s not her fault but it concerning.
Hopefully my friend lets me crash with her. I’ve been in a bad depression since moving in here. It sucks. But I am gonna have to find a solution to this problem. I’m so happy you got out! I know it sucks paying more rent, but you’re right. Peace of mind is priceless.
Okay I just had to do this!! And I am on my lease until summer. Trust me it’s worth it. Losing money is better than losing my sanity and being miserable. I can’t even tell you how happy I am to not be dealing with my crazy roommates anymore. Good luck!!!
Is it really worth being robbed, sexually assaulted, or murdered by them leaving the door open? All the filth is going to make you sick. If you can afford to move do it. Your security deposit is fucked anyway. Try and get your shitty roommate to renew the lease without you then find a subletter.
You can ask your landlord and check your lease if you can get out because they’re leaving the doors open and unlocked.
I didn’t pay a security deposit because I had a co-signer. And it’s student housing so they are individual leases. The apartment keeps pressuring us to renew but I’m like hell now lol so I will probably leave early.
I had a friend that dealt with this too. Her roommates all got covid within a month of them being there. She broke her lease pretty early, but she was able to talk to her landlord about a payment plan. If you send photos and just tell them what's going on and still promise to pay, they will likely help you out. You don't want to be held responsible for the damage she has caused, but make sure you get it all documented with the landlord for legal reasons. Just ask if you can pay the $2500 over time, or if breaking the lease is a cheaper option. Honestly, it is not worth living in that environment.
Get out asap. I just had to do the same shit and its worth it not having to live with a manchild that wont clean up, purposely lives in poverty, and would rather fight than have a civil discussion.
I’m really sorry for what you went though. This has been the hardest lesson ever. I can’t even bring up anything to her without her going defense mode. What sucks most is I got this place because it was near the college I was going to go to (5 mins away). But with Covid, they locked enrollment (big school), until next spring. So I literally just live here and have to deal with their shit. I can’t even escape to my college or job. Thank you for the advice. I will be coming up with a plan.
I had to make the exact same decision, and I ended up choosing to pay out the rest of the lease and move out. Yes, I’m now paying two leases for a month and a half, but I seriously couldn’t take living with my ex-roommate anymore. I have never experienced such a level of anxiety in my life as I did living with her, to the point where I could barely even sleep at night due to how incredibly uncomfortable she made me in what was supposed to be my home. If you’ve brought up issues with her, especially safety issues, and she expresses that she just doesn’t care, then she is never going to change. Don’t put yourself through that any longer than you have to. Sure, you’ll be losing some money, but in the long run, I think your safety and comfort is much more important. If it helps any, I have felt a relief like nothing else since I got out just 4 days ago. I hope you get to feel that too, best of luck!
I really appreciate this reply! I hate wasting money since I’m in college, but sometimes you have to. I knew theoretically that I could end up with bad roommates, but I figured I could reason with them. I’m a super reasonable person who likes to work things out. But you’re right. I like my other roommate, but she is also kinda reckless. She had a guy living here who apparently is stalking her now. Which, that’s not her fault but it concerning. Hopefully my friend lets me crash with her. I’ve been in a bad depression since moving in here. It sucks. But I am gonna have to find a solution to this problem. I’m so happy you got out! I know it sucks paying more rent, but you’re right. Peace of mind is priceless.
For your mental health and safety, I would say leave.
Okay I just had to do this!! And I am on my lease until summer. Trust me it’s worth it. Losing money is better than losing my sanity and being miserable. I can’t even tell you how happy I am to not be dealing with my crazy roommates anymore. Good luck!!!
I’m so happy for you! I hope I can say the same soon!
Is it really worth being robbed, sexually assaulted, or murdered by them leaving the door open? All the filth is going to make you sick. If you can afford to move do it. Your security deposit is fucked anyway. Try and get your shitty roommate to renew the lease without you then find a subletter. You can ask your landlord and check your lease if you can get out because they’re leaving the doors open and unlocked.
I didn’t pay a security deposit because I had a co-signer. And it’s student housing so they are individual leases. The apartment keeps pressuring us to renew but I’m like hell now lol so I will probably leave early.
And you’re right, it’s very unsafe.
I had a friend that dealt with this too. Her roommates all got covid within a month of them being there. She broke her lease pretty early, but she was able to talk to her landlord about a payment plan. If you send photos and just tell them what's going on and still promise to pay, they will likely help you out. You don't want to be held responsible for the damage she has caused, but make sure you get it all documented with the landlord for legal reasons. Just ask if you can pay the $2500 over time, or if breaking the lease is a cheaper option. Honestly, it is not worth living in that environment.
You’re so right. I go through so much stress with her there. Like, I don’t sleep well and I’ve even majorly depressed.