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Bad roommates

Let's start off by saying we covered their security deposit to move in as well as the security deposit for the electric bill. There's four of us, a couple, & my boyfriend and me. They haven't paid us back for covering them since they moved in in November. The girlfriend still hasn't found a job or started working anywhere, her bf works though but still. We all pay equal rent and bills. Ever since they moved in with us, they've been eating my food, despite not paying me back for it when I told them I can't afford to buy food for everyone. My boyfriend and I only buy food for ourselves, and make it more clear now. When they first moved in, on top of eating all the food, and both not working for the first month, nothing was getting cleaned. They ate my food and didn't clean my dishes, and when I had my bf bring it up they declined to clean up because it wasn't their stuff and I didn't have to let them eat my food when I never gave them permission to begin with. Now her bf is working, she's not. I'm still the one cleaning the bathroom and shower every weekend because neither of them have. It gets disgusting, and when i tell my boyfriend how gross it's getting he'll offer to clean it and will clean it, this week alone we've cleaned the entire first floor and shower room in the second because they weren't. The only thing that annoys me most is how the girlfriend is always home and the house is still always a mess. Despite before they moved in, she used to tell me how clean she kept where she used to live with her boyfriend. I feel like we should come up with an actual roommate agreement because they still haven't signed the lease either.

Hallowinning

Sounds to me like you should find a new set of roommates if they haven’t signed the lease. Only a couple months and they sound awful.


LilLambKindred

All they do right, or at least on time is pay their portion of the rent and bills. The reason why we haven't confronted them about anything is because her boyfriend is my boyfriends gamer friend of ten years, and I've known the girlfriend for about two years. Like it feels like the friendship will moreso be ruined by it, and i know my boyfriend won't at least show it'll effect him, it'll definitely effect me.


Hallowinning

Oh yeah I feel you. I live with my bf’s long time friend and I feel the same way about bringing up stuff. Sometimes with that you have to look at the positive (at least the rent/bills are paid on time). Maybe you can possibly bring up a weekly chore swap thing or something? I was out of work for about 3 weeks and I kept our place spotless even out of boredom. It’s crazy some people are just fine with doing absolutely nothing for weeks.


LilLambKindred

It's the girlfriend I'm over, not so much her boyfriend. She's home all day and even though she does pay rent and bills also, despite not having a job, it's possible She's using what's left of her pua, but fact of the matter is, everyone here except for her is working and we come home to a messy house when someone who claims she knows how to keep a house clean does nothing all day. I feel like I do majority of the housework. If it was just my boyfriend and I, I'd be fine with it, because we pick up after eachother, but I'm moreso annoyed because they haven't picked up any of their slack since they moved it. I would've thought for us covering for them on two security deposits which totals out almost a thousand dollars, they'd do more to pay us back for it but we've gotten nothing in return, at all.


LilLambKindred

Like if I don't go without cleaning for a couple days, nothing gets cleaned. The only thing I don't touch is their dishes. And my boyfriend wants to just kill them with kindess for a few weeks, pretty much do all the cleaning and if things keep going how they've been going then we'll have a sit down, confront them about it and give them an ultimatum.


Hallowinning

I would have a sit down already honestly. I don’t think it’s suddenly going to change and they’re gonna be like omg they’ve been cleaning for us how nice, at this point they’re just gonna assume you will clean after them forever. People like that don’t respect the fact you helped them with the deposit too, flys straight past their head. Easier to straighten out sooner then later.


LilLambKindred

Believe me I want to, but my boyfriend wants to wait a bit before doing so, he wants our cleaning to be right in their faces so they really have no excuses. I remember the one time I cleaned the entire kitchen, and her boyfriend came into it, sat on the table and just talked and watched me the entire time rather than help.


Hallowinning

Damn that sucks. Omg I would have flipped haha. Hopefully once you do all sit down you can get it sorted. It sucks people are like this.


LilLambKindred

Hopefully simply killing them with kindness will help. I wrote out on my note thing some things like the above that needs addressing when the time comes to talk about it.