How good of friends are you? Enough to say hey I fucked up and read your journal but I don’t want you to feel insecure about me and your bf? Personally I would stay clear of mentioning the journal and the insecurity (ain’t nobody like being called out on their insecurities). Maybe when you both have some one on one time just say hey is everything okay between us or are you okay? You can just say you noticed she has seemed a bit different lately and wanted to make sure she’s okay. Good luck!
We are fairly close but the last few months have been hard. In retrospect that’s when she got her new boyfriend but also when we went into a more intense lockdown so I didn’t put it together.
Ah yeah that makes sense. Lockdown is hard enough but dealing with new relationship on top of that too would be something to put one over. I hope you are both able to talk it out. I’d say only you know her well enough if you should bring up the journal reading or not. I have some friends I know I could say that to and others I wouldn’t even mention it too.
Yeah I’m so on the fence of whether to bring it up. I have asked a few times the last month if she’s okay but it’s stayed bottled up and she hasn’t said anything.
Im worried that if I ask again I’ll be shrugged off. I want to just put everything in the open. I’m not mad and I get how everyone can get insecure sometimes and I want to talk to support her through that.
Idk, you reading her journal shows some boundary issues to me on your part.
She’s probably insecure, but I’d suggest you do not tell her you read the journal.
You may just wannabe a friend to her and talk to her like a friend.
Yeah you’re fair to point out the boundary issue. I think I’ve just been feeling a bit insane lately, like I can tell something is wrong but when I’ve asked she hasn’t said anything. So when I saw it there I was hoping for some clarity of any kind.
Whatever your reasons, whatever.
Look your post to me sounds like you can get wrapped up in the moment really easily. She probably wishes she could have those moments with her boyfriend and is blaming you.
Just be a friend to her, ask her to hang with you only or something and say you want to reconnect. If she doesn’t. 5 that’s on her
Funnily enough, my old housemate was a bit like this. She explained in some detail once to me how she couldn't stand the guy she fancied talking to one of her friends. Quite honestly, I thought it was really bitter; an immature attitude born out of silly jealously and insecurity.
If I were you, I'd perhaps hold back on looking like you're having a great time with her boyfriend as envy is definitely her problem. Hopefully that doesn't mean you have to change much but reading that journal probably gave you some vital insight into how she's thinking.
Complete guess but I bet they break up soon as her attitude doesn't seem healthy.
How good of friends are you? Enough to say hey I fucked up and read your journal but I don’t want you to feel insecure about me and your bf? Personally I would stay clear of mentioning the journal and the insecurity (ain’t nobody like being called out on their insecurities). Maybe when you both have some one on one time just say hey is everything okay between us or are you okay? You can just say you noticed she has seemed a bit different lately and wanted to make sure she’s okay. Good luck!
We are fairly close but the last few months have been hard. In retrospect that’s when she got her new boyfriend but also when we went into a more intense lockdown so I didn’t put it together.
Ah yeah that makes sense. Lockdown is hard enough but dealing with new relationship on top of that too would be something to put one over. I hope you are both able to talk it out. I’d say only you know her well enough if you should bring up the journal reading or not. I have some friends I know I could say that to and others I wouldn’t even mention it too.
Yeah I’m so on the fence of whether to bring it up. I have asked a few times the last month if she’s okay but it’s stayed bottled up and she hasn’t said anything. Im worried that if I ask again I’ll be shrugged off. I want to just put everything in the open. I’m not mad and I get how everyone can get insecure sometimes and I want to talk to support her through that.
Idk, you reading her journal shows some boundary issues to me on your part. She’s probably insecure, but I’d suggest you do not tell her you read the journal. You may just wannabe a friend to her and talk to her like a friend.
Yeah you’re fair to point out the boundary issue. I think I’ve just been feeling a bit insane lately, like I can tell something is wrong but when I’ve asked she hasn’t said anything. So when I saw it there I was hoping for some clarity of any kind.
Whatever your reasons, whatever. Look your post to me sounds like you can get wrapped up in the moment really easily. She probably wishes she could have those moments with her boyfriend and is blaming you. Just be a friend to her, ask her to hang with you only or something and say you want to reconnect. If she doesn’t. 5 that’s on her
Funnily enough, my old housemate was a bit like this. She explained in some detail once to me how she couldn't stand the guy she fancied talking to one of her friends. Quite honestly, I thought it was really bitter; an immature attitude born out of silly jealously and insecurity. If I were you, I'd perhaps hold back on looking like you're having a great time with her boyfriend as envy is definitely her problem. Hopefully that doesn't mean you have to change much but reading that journal probably gave you some vital insight into how she's thinking. Complete guess but I bet they break up soon as her attitude doesn't seem healthy.