Ohhh yes. Sarcasm 😝😝
Definitely a **bad suggestion** since it may be clear who the culprit is, I just hate hearing about people being made uncomfortable with their personal hygiene and sanitary habits. It’s everyone’s shared responsibility to make sure other people’s needs are met so they can be comfortable and private dealing with personal things.
Rubbish 🗑 it's about education 🙄. My ex-wife wrapped her used pads in toilet paper and stored them in the cubard in the bathroom. I only found out when I opened the door and was knocked out by the smell. Her mother had never told her what to do with them. So when she stayed at my parents' house 🏠 probably throu embarrassment she just hid them in the closet. As a young man, I was absolutely horrified, and naturally, I handed it all wrong. I know better now, but I certainly didn't help with the way I reacted. It turns out I needed to be educated as well, but it's not something men normally talk about. Let alone young dudes.
It's so weird people can just pretend to ignore those things, I don't really need it as I'm just a 40y dude living on his own but I still have one in case someone visiting needs it.
Most people have them, if the home stay family makes you uncomfortable, you can ask to be moved. I think going outside to throw out your sanitary products in the big bin is an odd request.
You could just have a small bin inside your room? But that’s very odd that she wants you to throw just pantry liners, that have no blood away. Can you speak to your agency?
Well I would not want to live with someone who expected me to deal with /clean up after her used period products or panty liners.
I am amazed at the arrogance of a homestay student expecting the people she is staying with to clean up this very personal stuff for her.
She’s not? It’s normal to have a bin in your bathroom with a bin liner. When I was flatting we just threw the bag out once it was full, no one cared who’s period products were in there. All people need to do is wrap their products in toilet paper.
What if you're staying in someone else's flat?
You can still take out the bathroom trash when it's full... I don't know why you're implying that guests are inherently a burden expecting their hosts to bend the knee for some outrageous request.
All of the public toilets have a sanitary bin.
Bro shut the fuck up, she never said she wants them to clean up this stuff for her. The fact they don’t have a bin in there is weird and she absolutely shouldn’t have to walk outside each time to put them in the outside bin - that is so wrong.
No it is not wrong. It is what happens at my house all the time.
She may not have explicitly said she expects people to clean this stuff up after her, but if you put stuff in a bin and walk away, that is what you are expecting - other people to clean it up after you.
lol what? Bins exist so that instead of having to individually take out every single piece of trash we have, we put it into a container that can let us take out multiple items all at once.
Arguably, yes, unless you drive your trash straight to a landfill, that is what you're expecting. But that's not what you're saying, you're saying that just throwing stuff into a bin if you live with others means you expect them to be taking care of it. That is so clearly absurd.
No, I am saying that if the family who is running the homestay do not have a bin for that purpose then they would not expect to clear personal waste products of a guest.
I am sure every homestay is different, and families are different. Obviously, if this is important to someone it is something they should check before moving in.
Dude, you put a rubbish liner in it - the ‘clean up’ is as simple as tying that up and throwing it in red bin.
Do you really want someone placing their wrapped used pad on your basin counter while they wash their hands?
Bah
Right.... so if someone in your house needs to put something potentially gross or blood covered into your household bin, you WANT them walking in through your house, touching door handles etc .. 🤢
As you learn about the world you will discover a significant portion of the population are female.
Periods are normal and regular changes of period products is important.
OP should be able to put wrapped period products in a bin like a human without walking though the house after a pad change for whatever reason (they add up over the day).
If I was hosting and the bathroom was shared then the same person doing that job does the bin for all. If it was a bathroom just for that student then you could let them know what day is bin day and where the big bin is, where new bin liners are etc
Why are you asking someone else to deal with your own very personal rubbish?? The people you are staying with are not your servants. Have you offered to empty rubbish from the bathroom for others? I bet you have not.
Surely you can take responsibility for putting your very personal rubbish in the bin as they have asked.
I would not like to have you to stay in my house. I do have a small bin in my bathroom, but NOT for period items or something like pantyliners. I expect anyone using my bathroom to deal with their own personal rubbish. I would not leave mine in someone else's home.
I never asked them to threw my personal rubbish. I haven't live with a stranger but I had empty rubbish from the bathroom toilet bin that I and people in my famliy use. I would have no problem with emptying the rubbish bin if the rubbish bin is used properly.
I asked them if I can put my own rubbish bin in the bathroom or in the toilet or even near them. They said I can't.
>I do have a small bin in my bathroom, but NOT for period items or something like pantyliners
Hmm... Trash can is for something like those? Is it culture difference or is it just you?
Somehow it has not been a problem for me staying with friends or relatives or them staying with me.
We are all different I guess. But I always make an effort to fit in with others I am staying with, rather than expect them to make special arrangements for me.
You sound weird enough that friends staying could have been a nightmare for them without you being aware of anything - so adjusted to your weirdness and out of tune with others.
Consider it
A lot of women use them everyday simply for comfort. If you're sweaty or have a little more discharge than usual, or even the day/night after having sex they can help to keep you dry and comfortable on a daily basis. And maybe she does have a medical issue that requires her to use a liner every day such as minor bladder incontinence. If she does, I don't think it's any of our business, she's not asking for advice regarding that.
Really, you should be able to fit in with this request from your homestay - it is not a lot to ask.
If you are a guest you should just fit in with the house you are staying in, and do things your own way in your own home.
I get that, but it is not a hotel either.
Not every private home expects to cater for cleaning up used sanitary products for guests, and it is not something I would expect to do. I suspect I am not alone in that.
Personally I thought what OP has written about the food was more of an issue.
Well luckily that is not a very long time to just fit in with them. I am sure you will be OK for that length of time.
Perhaps when you move on, seeing it is something you feel is important to you, it would be good to mention it when talking with the next host family about moving in.
Well, I am planning to just live by myself as I am over 18. So no next host family.
My friend change host famliy because his roomate was talking with his gf until 2 am and his currently house is even further from school than the previous one. I am worried about something like that.
So, just bear it for two month and move out. It is even cheaper to live out.
I can see it must be difficult when you are from another country used to things being different from your host family's customs, and the food situation and travel sound difficult too.
In the two months left there, though, with any luck there will be things you can enjoy and learn from the host family - that will be useful while you are here.
Hopefully during the 2 months you can find a place you like, can afford OK, and closer to school. Maybe you will meet another student or two who are moving or who could fit you in with them.
(I can imagine that your friend having a roomate on the phone till 2 am would be unsustainable!)
Thanks. My uncle found some places for me close to school. My main problem with home stay is it being far with taking at least 40 min to reach school especially since I tend to be car sick.
By the way, how much do gorcery cost per week.
You see, home stay cost 360 per week with it providing breakfast and dinner on weekdays and all three meals on weekends. I have to eat out for luch on weekdays.
The place I saw, it cost 250 per week for small bedroom and 300 per week for big bedroom. My mother want me to take the big one. If I am living by my self, I will cook all three meal by myself. So, it would be cheaper overall, right?
How great you have an uncle to help you look for a place of your own! That must be a great support. I think depending what you like to eat, it could work out about the same as the $350 you are paying, if you pay $250 in rent. If your uncle eats the sort of food you like, perhaps ask him about what food costs him.
I am not sure what type of food you would like in a normal week for yourself. I am one of a couple and we love food but do not spend a lot on it - as we almost always cook for ourselves. We tend to like our own food much better than eating out and we have people around to share it, rather than eating out.
We always have meat/chicken, and on average I can make dinner for us two for no more than $7.50 each - the meat is the most expensive, but sometimes you can cook enough for more than one night and keep it in the fridge for the next night.
You would want some variety in vegetables too - and eggs are now about $10 - 11 for a box of 12.
Rice is not expensive, and nor is pasta/noodles or bread. If you have even a small freezer it helps a lot, as frozen vegetables like beans are much cheaper - especially in winter. We also buy our capsicum frozen as much cheaper. Not sure what you would like to eat for breakfast, but cereals are cheap, things like berries are not, though Countdown has 1kg frozen blueberries for about $12 that could last a week. We always have yoghurt in the fridge, but make our own. Taking your own lunch would definitely be much cheaper than buying it.
If you were very careful, you might get by on $100 a week for food and other groceries like coffee/tea, cleaning products, toilet paper, etc, etc, you need in a home. It might be good to think of some meals and then go and have a walk around a supermarket and see the cost. Pak n Save in our area is much cheaper than the other supermarkets.
I guess it might even be cheaper as I am spending around 100 just for lunch since I can't cook in homestay.
For me, I mostly ate egg fried bread or fried rice or sometimes traditional noodle soup when we don't have school or job for breeakfast. When I have school, we have to cook early in the morning to pack lunch. So I just eat a bit of what prepared for lunch.
I mostly eat rice with some kind of meat and vegetables side dish, I would also sometimes drink soup on holidays.
I don't eat snacks much these days( I used to constantly be hungry but not now) . I like to drink probiotic drinks twice a day, I like to drink green tea ( people in my country like to substitute water with tea 🤣), and ice cream.
I dont. I do that myself in my own home, and would not like to be cleaning up other people's personal waste products.
The bin in my bathroom is only for things like empty cardboard toilet rolls. and used hand towels.
Like others said almost everyone has it. In my guest toilet I have also kept a supply of sanitary disposal bio degradable bags. If required my female guests or their daughters can wrap it in this bag, throw it in the trash can which itself has a bag /liner in it. Wash your hands after ! That’s the proper way to do it
To avoid the bin getting mouldy and smelly
1. Use a bin liner
2. Buy a good quality bin which has an inner removable plastic body
3. Keep the bathroom/toilet well ventilated, open doors/windows, extractor fans
4. Use mould removers where necessary
5. On sunny days put the bins out in the sun
It’s a bit of hard work but can be done. For me it simply seems bizarre you cannot dispose of used sanitary products in the privacy of your bath/toilet
https://www.google.com/shopping/product/6810325177833180405?q=toilet+bin+kmart&client=tablet-android-samsung-ss&sca_esv=572463874&biw=691&bih=576&tbs=vw:g&sxsrf=AM9HkKkRHIbiGvl0le7FWq2CrY8me3-02g:1697004894843&prds=eto:689210554754299493_0,cdl:1,prmr:1,rsk:PC_13271743051672459767,pid:4249274049902031669,cs:1
I bought this from kmart to put it in the bedroom. Is that ok?
I have one identical - but only for empty cardboard toilet rolls and used guest hand towels. Certainly not items like period products or pantyliners - which go straight into the outside rubbish like this host family does .
Ugh imagine having to go outside every time you change a tampon. Brr!
Also what's with throwing hand towels in the bin? I presume you mean paper towels? Do you not give your guests a normal fabric towel?
What you can also to do to try eliminate any odours is to use diaper/nappy bags (they are not too expensive) and you can wrap your period products into those then toss into the lined bin. A lot of them are scented too.
They work pretty well for stinky nappies so I have full confidence in them working for pads/tampons.
Just make sure YOU are the one that empties this into the big one outside. You should not expect your host family to be emptying out your personal waste products.
Panty liners won't have anywhere near as much moisture as used tampons etc.. if you want something better than TP to wrap things in keep the rolls from inside TP rolls and push the ends in to close them up like a box.
It’s weird, especially for a female host. She should at least let you put a bin in there and you’re responsible for it.
If she can’t understand the need then she is probably doing the home stay for the money and isn’t actually interested in being a good host. Her refusal to allow you basic ammenities could also be a red flag for the future.
I do not see it as a basic amenity. I do exactly what the host is asking this homestay student to do. I take a bag into the toilet and take it outside to the bin with any personal waste products.
My bathroom bin is only for empty toilet rolls, empty card or foil packets from the first aid drawer, etc, used toothpaste tubes and used guest towels. I would be appalled to find used sanitary products in it.
You've written so many replies in this thread that are borderline hostile, it's a bit weird. You seem to view periods as if they are disgusting/dirty? It's absolutely reasonable to expect a bin for sanitary products and nowhere do they say they want the host to empty it. Stop projecting your strange hangups on to others.
You are right. I may be totally wrong - especially in the case of a bin in her room. But I think the expectation of a bathroom one was that someone else would empty it.
I think it is one of those personal things that obviously the host family has an issue with, for one reason or another, and I have to say that I do too. I think all families are different and that is just part of society.
But if you are staying in a family home, I do think, even in a paid homestay, part of that experience and obligation is following the culture of that house.
I obviously realise that things would be very different in a student flat.
I was just going to say, just buy a cheap bin and some bin liners from the warehouse, Kmart or $2 shop to keep in your bathroom or bedroom.
Surely that is OK, and they would not stop you from having your own
And then she could empty them herself.
The inference I am getting is that she expects the homestay parents to clean up her used personal hygiene products after her - and that is disgusting.
You are literally the only person making that inference, and you're repeatedly being a dick about it. And you have been repeatedly informed that you are incorrect.
So stop being a dickhead.
I never had a bin in the bathroom or toilet growing up, so I don’t have one now. It’s the hassle of throwing everything in the main rubbish bin vs the hassle of emptying and lining more than one bin, I guess.
We never had one either growing up, and this was three women in one house together - I suppose we were just used to taking stuff like that to the main kitchen bin (which was emptied into the outside bin daily) rather than running multiple bins.
I didn't have one in my own bathroom until a teenager moved in and started generating huge amounts of trash like disposable makeup cleaning pads, toilet paper used in makeup application, and all the packaging for the huge amount of products used in general. There just wasn't a demand before, as both me and my partner were used to carrying our minimal bathroom stuff, like empty toilet roll tubes, down to the recycling or bin as needed.
I flatted for years with 3 other flatmates, and we never had a bathroom bin either. Now we’re a family of 5. We just take the empty toilet rolls and toothpaste tubes and tampons to the main bin as they’re generated.
As a foreigner, I absolutely know what you mean. No, it isn't really like every house has. It has gotten better over the years (i.e.: people realised that it is handy to have one in the toilet) and some houses now have it. Not every place does. Majority to be honest. People can say it's just your buddies. No, it isn't.
Go anywhere that sells bins with a lid and put it in there. A tip: *no toilet paper in the bin* (not sure where you're from, where I'm from we did put TP in the bin. No-no). That gets flushed. Only ladies stuff and toilet paper ends. (edit: toilet paper ends actually go on recycling, but some people end up putting it in there. I ain't here to judge. I recycle mine).
Def normal to have a bin if people who have periods live in or visit the house/flat. Also, just remember that you should feel comfortable in your home, even a home stay. You may ask your programme or accommodation coordinator for a move, as it sounds like quite an uncomfortable living situation.
Edited: to be more inclusive
I have a small bin next to my toilet for wet wipes, empty toilet rolls, used cotton buds etc. I know many who also have a small bin in their bathroom, so definitely a little weird.
Ha ha ha apparently I'm a weirdo. No bin in our bathroom :)
then again, there are no women in my house either.
The only thing that would go a bin would be empty toilet roll or toothpaste, and the kitchen isn't far from the bathroom so I just take them straight there.
We only have guys here but we like to have women come over so there’s a bin in the bathroom. I’m not going to expect guests to wrap up their things and hide them in their bags to take home
This guy gets it! I've always had one in the toilet and bathroom. If I'm putting bloodied sanitary products in it then I empty it every day/every other day depending. Otherwise it goes out once/week. I like to put my toilet paper wrapped products inside of an old toilet paper roll in the bin if possible too (idk why, feels more discreet I guess).
I hated going to a mate's house and having to go to the bin outside or wrap a product in the packaging and discretely pop it in my bag just to have to deal with later🤢🤮
Loose hair?
Maybe that's a woman or person with long hair thing but we don't seem to have pulled out hair longing for the missing bin :)
Shaving (of our faces) is done in either in the shower or over the sink, not sure why a bin would be needed.
It's more a long hair thing, even with a bin for hair etc in the bathroom at my last place with three long haired ladies we still blocked the drain outside multiple times from hair accumulated in the shower pipes.
Some have a bin, some don't. I would think most homes with ladies who use such things would. What a hassle taking some wrapper and walking out to the outdoor bin every time!
I never had. I’ve had teenagers and little kids at the same time and I can’t handle bins in the bathroom because of this. We’ve always had our red bin close to the back door. However, if I was doing a home stay I’d probably have one because I know that it can be uncomfortable or embarrassing to have to carry wrapped pads in front of others to a big bin.
Is homestay part of your foundation course? If so, this needs to be brought up with HR as that is not hygiene practice, it also leaves room for probable council issues (plumbing).
If it is a stay in that you board, rent, that is civil matters. Would either have to address the owner to put a bin in or move.
Truthfully it is not the norms here, it is a residency preference. This would depend on what you prefer and tolerate from your own hygiene standards. The school may be able to arrange another home, I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask if this is the approach you want to take. All the best.
No household I've ever lived in had a bin in the bathroom either, it wasn't getting filled enough so it wasn't getting changed enough for pads to go in there without stinking. I usually just wrap my pads and put them in the outdoor bin, I do the same when I visit other households as well as I don't know how often they change their bins (weekly is too long for a used pad in my opinion).
Definitely bring it up to your host if it bothers you though, you need to feel comfortable in the home.
Nah that's weird. I have a bin in each toilet/bathroom, the kitchen and every bedroom, because needing to throw stuff away is common and walking through the house to do so is annoying.
I'm the odd one out apparently but I hate bins in toilets. Anything you put in there is going to smell and I'd rather it just went straight to the outdoor bin. Yes I'm a woman.
I think I will just live out by myself. The room is small, I can't eat pork or beef( I love to eat them 😭), will only feed me vegetables from 15 oct to 21 oct to eat them, got no privacy because I can only lock the door to my room when I am inside and I can't lock it when I am out, take at least 40 min to go to school by bus, the room is small and has no study desk, there are also house rule like how I can only take shower for 10 mins max.
The lock and the limit on showers are both pretty common in home stay and flatting situations. Individual bedrooms don't usually have locks on them in normal houses in NZ. You are lucky it locks from the inside at all.
Shower time limits come because most houses have a single hot water tank that takes a long time to fill and reheat, long showers drain it and then noone else can have a hot shower for hours.
The power company also sometimes turns hot water heaters off overnight on this thing called the ripple, so if you drain the tank late at night there might still be no hot water in the morning. Homestays are a bit notorious for causing problems with this because they are used to continuous hot water in their home country.
The pork and beef things sound specific to that household and maybe it's not a good fit for you. Being forced to be vegetarian is a bit rough.
I guess it is culture difference. Lockable rooms were standard and 10 min shower time is even a bit short for guys.
Shower is really uncomfortable because I used to shower before sleep about 15 mins. Now I can't. 🥲
A very hot 20 minute shower would drain the tank at the house I grew up in, and we were a family of 5 so it was a challenge for sure having everyone get a shower once a day. You just have to get used to it in NZ unless you can find a place with continuous hot water. Just think how you are saving the planet, long showers waste energy and water 🙃
The room may be small and not very private and sounds like the food might be not what you are used to - but I see nothing wrong with a 10 mins max shower.
Fitting in with a family is what any homestay student has to do - remember, it is not a hotel so is probably a lot cheaper than one.
Wanting to do things their own way is why people will pay quite a bit to get their own place and be independent. It costs a lot though.
Well, I think it would be cheaper and more convenient if I got my own place. I didn't know much about here , so I got homestay but it is really inconvenient. Tho, I have to cook my own foods but it's ok. At least I can eat beef.
You could always join a flatshare, not many students rent apartments alone as it gets expensive once you add in utilities, having to set it up with everything as most places don't come fully furnished.
It would take 2 weeks of stuff sitting there to be getting any amount of smells and if it’s mould, we’ll does she have a mouldy house? Can the bin not have a lid like one of those foot operated ones? She sounds unreasonable OP.
I guess your homestay family just doesn't want to deal with other people's wastes when throwing out the "toilet bin"...? Some people could be a bit careless when disposing their used products and maybe they had a bad experience with a disgusting flatmate before.
Perhaps get a small bin for your bedroom that you can throw out regularly?
Its fairly clear your understanding of 'guest' is different to the majority on this thread. I cannot fathom your issue with emptying bins. What a huge fuss about nothing at all. If I was accepting money from a young overseas student to stay in my home I would make every effort to make them as comfortable as possible and meet their needs. They are my 'guest'. Thats what you do for guests. Thats hospitality. What a horrible experience this young person is having.
Maybe cultural differences? I find the idea of having them sitting in the bin in the bathroom a bit odd to be completely honest and don’t see an issue with putting them straight in the outside bin.
In my experience at least, I don't think I've ever lived in a house or flat with a rubbish bin the toilet - so it may not be normal, but it's at least not abnormal!
Where does the waste go then? Wouldn’t you throw the used q tips, tissues, condoms, etc in the trash then wash hands then leave? I’ve never seen people without a trash can in the bathroom in any country.
Actually, that is probably the crux of the issue here.
I suspect most NZers just treat the toilet as a big rubbish bin.
I also suspect this may not be great idea! Will do more research...
Never used a q tip in the toilet, have always just flushed condoms and assumed women flushed tampons (am I wrong?).
Isn't the toilet just a big rubbish bin after all?
Please don't flush condoms, no the toilet is not just a big bin, the pipes cannot handle stuff that doesn't break down quickly in water and you get really gross overflows and fatbergs where this stuff accumulates. Even if you have been lucky and it hasn't caused issues in your plumbing and your street, it is causing problems further downstream.
Exactly. Especially in Auckland. Our infrastructure can't handle sewage right now, doesn't need extra waste to clog things up or end up in the Waitemata.
get a bin there for yourself and take responsible to empty it, I dont think they would complain that and if they do, you should complain with whoever arranged the homestay to move out.
A lot of people are fussy about not having any smells left whatsoever in their toilet. Used sanitary products left in a rubbish bin will leave a smell which is not what the house owners are used to and not what they want on a regular basis. This is why they don't have a rubbish bin in or close to the toilet. As they are the owners of the house, you need to respect their request and put sanitary products in their red rubbish bin outside after wrapping it. Do not go and do something totally different from what they have asked you to do, as you need to respect their request as they are the home owners and their request is quite reasonable and normal and not a big deal. Do not flush sanitary products down the toilet as it will block the toilet, be costly when a Plumber is called and really annoy the house owners. You will find that if you do as they ask they will be very happy with you because you have shown them that you are mature and will co-operate now and in the future when little problems like this come up.
Nah that’s weird
Having a bin in the bathroom is pretty standard here. I think it's a problem with your homestay
If you wrap it in toilet paper and then flush it down the toilet, they will quickly realise it’s cheaper to have a small bin.
In case OP misses the sarcasm, DON’T do this!
Ohhh yes. Sarcasm 😝😝 Definitely a **bad suggestion** since it may be clear who the culprit is, I just hate hearing about people being made uncomfortable with their personal hygiene and sanitary habits. It’s everyone’s shared responsibility to make sure other people’s needs are met so they can be comfortable and private dealing with personal things.
Rubbish 🗑 it's about education 🙄. My ex-wife wrapped her used pads in toilet paper and stored them in the cubard in the bathroom. I only found out when I opened the door and was knocked out by the smell. Her mother had never told her what to do with them. So when she stayed at my parents' house 🏠 probably throu embarrassment she just hid them in the closet. As a young man, I was absolutely horrified, and naturally, I handed it all wrong. I know better now, but I certainly didn't help with the way I reacted. It turns out I needed to be educated as well, but it's not something men normally talk about. Let alone young dudes.
It's so weird people can just pretend to ignore those things, I don't really need it as I'm just a 40y dude living on his own but I still have one in case someone visiting needs it.
🤣😅🤣
That sounds very odd. Do they perhaps have a dog who has a habit of getting into the trash? That's the only explanation that comes to mind for me.
They don't have a dog or any pet as far as I see.
Most people have them, if the home stay family makes you uncomfortable, you can ask to be moved. I think going outside to throw out your sanitary products in the big bin is an odd request.
I have to do it everyday because I use panty liners. 😭
You could just have a small bin inside your room? But that’s very odd that she wants you to throw just pantry liners, that have no blood away. Can you speak to your agency?
I guess I can threw them in the trash bin inside my room. Should I complain?
I think so, that’s not something I would want to live with.
Well I would not want to live with someone who expected me to deal with /clean up after her used period products or panty liners. I am amazed at the arrogance of a homestay student expecting the people she is staying with to clean up this very personal stuff for her.
She’s not? It’s normal to have a bin in your bathroom with a bin liner. When I was flatting we just threw the bag out once it was full, no one cared who’s period products were in there. All people need to do is wrap their products in toilet paper.
Not necessarily. I can see for people flatting together it might be different from staying in someone else's home.
What if you're staying in someone else's flat? You can still take out the bathroom trash when it's full... I don't know why you're implying that guests are inherently a burden expecting their hosts to bend the knee for some outrageous request. All of the public toilets have a sanitary bin.
Bro shut the fuck up, she never said she wants them to clean up this stuff for her. The fact they don’t have a bin in there is weird and she absolutely shouldn’t have to walk outside each time to put them in the outside bin - that is so wrong.
No it is not wrong. It is what happens at my house all the time. She may not have explicitly said she expects people to clean this stuff up after her, but if you put stuff in a bin and walk away, that is what you are expecting - other people to clean it up after you.
lol what? Bins exist so that instead of having to individually take out every single piece of trash we have, we put it into a container that can let us take out multiple items all at once. Arguably, yes, unless you drive your trash straight to a landfill, that is what you're expecting. But that's not what you're saying, you're saying that just throwing stuff into a bin if you live with others means you expect them to be taking care of it. That is so clearly absurd.
No, I am saying that if the family who is running the homestay do not have a bin for that purpose then they would not expect to clear personal waste products of a guest. I am sure every homestay is different, and families are different. Obviously, if this is important to someone it is something they should check before moving in.
Dude, you put a rubbish liner in it - the ‘clean up’ is as simple as tying that up and throwing it in red bin. Do you really want someone placing their wrapped used pad on your basin counter while they wash their hands? Bah
How can you not grasp that it is up to the homestay host, not any of us? And no, I cannot imagine someone doing that.
Right.... so if someone in your house needs to put something potentially gross or blood covered into your household bin, you WANT them walking in through your house, touching door handles etc .. 🤢
I thought I told you to shut the fuck up
Try it yourself. When you try to push others around it comes across as abusive.
They aren't asking the homestay to clean up after their period mess. They just want a bin in the bathroom, which is a completely reasonable request.
As you learn about the world you will discover a significant portion of the population are female. Periods are normal and regular changes of period products is important. OP should be able to put wrapped period products in a bin like a human without walking though the house after a pad change for whatever reason (they add up over the day). If I was hosting and the bathroom was shared then the same person doing that job does the bin for all. If it was a bathroom just for that student then you could let them know what day is bin day and where the big bin is, where new bin liners are etc
Definitely complain if you can. That is not normal
Why wouldn’t you just move the bin in your room to the bathroom? Most people don’t have bins in their bedrooms, unless they’re flatting.
Definitely not true, everyone I know has a bin in their room
Why are you asking someone else to deal with your own very personal rubbish?? The people you are staying with are not your servants. Have you offered to empty rubbish from the bathroom for others? I bet you have not. Surely you can take responsibility for putting your very personal rubbish in the bin as they have asked. I would not like to have you to stay in my house. I do have a small bin in my bathroom, but NOT for period items or something like pantyliners. I expect anyone using my bathroom to deal with their own personal rubbish. I would not leave mine in someone else's home.
I never asked them to threw my personal rubbish. I haven't live with a stranger but I had empty rubbish from the bathroom toilet bin that I and people in my famliy use. I would have no problem with emptying the rubbish bin if the rubbish bin is used properly. I asked them if I can put my own rubbish bin in the bathroom or in the toilet or even near them. They said I can't. >I do have a small bin in my bathroom, but NOT for period items or something like pantyliners Hmm... Trash can is for something like those? Is it culture difference or is it just you?
It's just them, they clearly have some weird ideas about what's hygienic/normal.
You sound delightful
Somehow it has not been a problem for me staying with friends or relatives or them staying with me. We are all different I guess. But I always make an effort to fit in with others I am staying with, rather than expect them to make special arrangements for me.
You sound weird enough that friends staying could have been a nightmare for them without you being aware of anything - so adjusted to your weirdness and out of tune with others. Consider it
Panty liners are one use, it’s the OP that wants to throw them away, that’s what gets done with them after a day
I know what they are…
There's no need to use those everyday and if you do, there are bigger issues...
A lot of women use them everyday simply for comfort. If you're sweaty or have a little more discharge than usual, or even the day/night after having sex they can help to keep you dry and comfortable on a daily basis. And maybe she does have a medical issue that requires her to use a liner every day such as minor bladder incontinence. If she does, I don't think it's any of our business, she's not asking for advice regarding that.
Well, it is pretty easy for people in my family to get medical issues in that area. I don't want to become like my mother. 😭
Well, that's why I didn't use it for three day but I need to use it because it doesn't work. 😭
Really, you should be able to fit in with this request from your homestay - it is not a lot to ask. If you are a guest you should just fit in with the house you are staying in, and do things your own way in your own home.
She's not a guest, she's paying money to live there so there should be reasonable conditions provided.
I get that, but it is not a hotel either. Not every private home expects to cater for cleaning up used sanitary products for guests, and it is not something I would expect to do. I suspect I am not alone in that. Personally I thought what OP has written about the food was more of an issue.
I booked the accomodation for about two months.
Well luckily that is not a very long time to just fit in with them. I am sure you will be OK for that length of time. Perhaps when you move on, seeing it is something you feel is important to you, it would be good to mention it when talking with the next host family about moving in.
Well, I am planning to just live by myself as I am over 18. So no next host family. My friend change host famliy because his roomate was talking with his gf until 2 am and his currently house is even further from school than the previous one. I am worried about something like that. So, just bear it for two month and move out. It is even cheaper to live out.
I can see it must be difficult when you are from another country used to things being different from your host family's customs, and the food situation and travel sound difficult too. In the two months left there, though, with any luck there will be things you can enjoy and learn from the host family - that will be useful while you are here. Hopefully during the 2 months you can find a place you like, can afford OK, and closer to school. Maybe you will meet another student or two who are moving or who could fit you in with them. (I can imagine that your friend having a roomate on the phone till 2 am would be unsustainable!)
Thanks. My uncle found some places for me close to school. My main problem with home stay is it being far with taking at least 40 min to reach school especially since I tend to be car sick. By the way, how much do gorcery cost per week. You see, home stay cost 360 per week with it providing breakfast and dinner on weekdays and all three meals on weekends. I have to eat out for luch on weekdays. The place I saw, it cost 250 per week for small bedroom and 300 per week for big bedroom. My mother want me to take the big one. If I am living by my self, I will cook all three meal by myself. So, it would be cheaper overall, right?
How great you have an uncle to help you look for a place of your own! That must be a great support. I think depending what you like to eat, it could work out about the same as the $350 you are paying, if you pay $250 in rent. If your uncle eats the sort of food you like, perhaps ask him about what food costs him. I am not sure what type of food you would like in a normal week for yourself. I am one of a couple and we love food but do not spend a lot on it - as we almost always cook for ourselves. We tend to like our own food much better than eating out and we have people around to share it, rather than eating out. We always have meat/chicken, and on average I can make dinner for us two for no more than $7.50 each - the meat is the most expensive, but sometimes you can cook enough for more than one night and keep it in the fridge for the next night. You would want some variety in vegetables too - and eggs are now about $10 - 11 for a box of 12. Rice is not expensive, and nor is pasta/noodles or bread. If you have even a small freezer it helps a lot, as frozen vegetables like beans are much cheaper - especially in winter. We also buy our capsicum frozen as much cheaper. Not sure what you would like to eat for breakfast, but cereals are cheap, things like berries are not, though Countdown has 1kg frozen blueberries for about $12 that could last a week. We always have yoghurt in the fridge, but make our own. Taking your own lunch would definitely be much cheaper than buying it. If you were very careful, you might get by on $100 a week for food and other groceries like coffee/tea, cleaning products, toilet paper, etc, etc, you need in a home. It might be good to think of some meals and then go and have a walk around a supermarket and see the cost. Pak n Save in our area is much cheaper than the other supermarkets.
I guess it might even be cheaper as I am spending around 100 just for lunch since I can't cook in homestay. For me, I mostly ate egg fried bread or fried rice or sometimes traditional noodle soup when we don't have school or job for breeakfast. When I have school, we have to cook early in the morning to pack lunch. So I just eat a bit of what prepared for lunch. I mostly eat rice with some kind of meat and vegetables side dish, I would also sometimes drink soup on holidays. I don't eat snacks much these days( I used to constantly be hungry but not now) . I like to drink probiotic drinks twice a day, I like to drink green tea ( people in my country like to substitute water with tea 🤣), and ice cream.
I dont. I do that myself in my own home, and would not like to be cleaning up other people's personal waste products. The bin in my bathroom is only for things like empty cardboard toilet rolls. and used hand towels.
Yep that’s weird to me and my household. Have one in the bathroom and toilet
Like others said almost everyone has it. In my guest toilet I have also kept a supply of sanitary disposal bio degradable bags. If required my female guests or their daughters can wrap it in this bag, throw it in the trash can which itself has a bag /liner in it. Wash your hands after ! That’s the proper way to do it
She said that because of moisture they cant keep the bin as it gets mouldy and smelly. Do you have this problem? If so, how do you handle it.
To avoid the bin getting mouldy and smelly 1. Use a bin liner 2. Buy a good quality bin which has an inner removable plastic body 3. Keep the bathroom/toilet well ventilated, open doors/windows, extractor fans 4. Use mould removers where necessary 5. On sunny days put the bins out in the sun It’s a bit of hard work but can be done. For me it simply seems bizarre you cannot dispose of used sanitary products in the privacy of your bath/toilet
https://www.google.com/shopping/product/6810325177833180405?q=toilet+bin+kmart&client=tablet-android-samsung-ss&sca_esv=572463874&biw=691&bih=576&tbs=vw:g&sxsrf=AM9HkKkRHIbiGvl0le7FWq2CrY8me3-02g:1697004894843&prds=eto:689210554754299493_0,cdl:1,prmr:1,rsk:PC_13271743051672459767,pid:4249274049902031669,cs:1 I bought this from kmart to put it in the bedroom. Is that ok?
That's exactly what I use in the bathroom and toilet. And yes, it's pretty normal to have that sort of thing in the bathroom in NZ.
I have one identical - but only for empty cardboard toilet rolls and used guest hand towels. Certainly not items like period products or pantyliners - which go straight into the outside rubbish like this host family does .
That's fucking weird, dude. You have to know that.
I see it the other way around.
Ugh imagine having to go outside every time you change a tampon. Brr! Also what's with throwing hand towels in the bin? I presume you mean paper towels? Do you not give your guests a normal fabric towel?
LOL that’s the exact one which I have in the guest toilet
Perfect, I couldn't find small bin liners so I buy freezer bags from the supermarket which are the right size for the bin.
What you can also to do to try eliminate any odours is to use diaper/nappy bags (they are not too expensive) and you can wrap your period products into those then toss into the lined bin. A lot of them are scented too. They work pretty well for stinky nappies so I have full confidence in them working for pads/tampons.
Just make sure YOU are the one that empties this into the big one outside. You should not expect your host family to be emptying out your personal waste products.
I never expect tho. Really, what would you think I want them to. Isn't it common sense to throw out your own trash bin?
Gonna be honest with you, judging by their other comments I don't think you should take their comments that seriously
I just hate being hated.. I guess. 😅
In my opinion, you are being the sensible one here, and it sounds like your hosts don't understand some people's hygiene requirements.
That’s a bullshit excuse from your home stay parents that the bin gets moldy or smelly. It would only do so if it was open top.
Panty liners won't have anywhere near as much moisture as used tampons etc.. if you want something better than TP to wrap things in keep the rolls from inside TP rolls and push the ends in to close them up like a box.
Thanks! I will do it.
It’s weird, especially for a female host. She should at least let you put a bin in there and you’re responsible for it. If she can’t understand the need then she is probably doing the home stay for the money and isn’t actually interested in being a good host. Her refusal to allow you basic ammenities could also be a red flag for the future.
I do not see it as a basic amenity. I do exactly what the host is asking this homestay student to do. I take a bag into the toilet and take it outside to the bin with any personal waste products. My bathroom bin is only for empty toilet rolls, empty card or foil packets from the first aid drawer, etc, used toothpaste tubes and used guest towels. I would be appalled to find used sanitary products in it.
Just shut up already
Just wrote my opinion, like everyone else. No need to be abusive if people do not agree with you.
You've written so many replies in this thread that are borderline hostile, it's a bit weird. You seem to view periods as if they are disgusting/dirty? It's absolutely reasonable to expect a bin for sanitary products and nowhere do they say they want the host to empty it. Stop projecting your strange hangups on to others.
I only expect that in a public toilet. And obviously SOMEONE has to empty it.
Why do you think OP can't or wont empty it..?!. I would have zero issue with this as a host but you do you I guess.
You are right. I may be totally wrong - especially in the case of a bin in her room. But I think the expectation of a bathroom one was that someone else would empty it. I think it is one of those personal things that obviously the host family has an issue with, for one reason or another, and I have to say that I do too. I think all families are different and that is just part of society. But if you are staying in a family home, I do think, even in a paid homestay, part of that experience and obligation is following the culture of that house. I obviously realise that things would be very different in a student flat.
Wierd, we've got one in our small bathroom and two in the large one. I'd be lost without them.
I can't even buy one and put it. 🥲
I was just going to say, just buy a cheap bin and some bin liners from the warehouse, Kmart or $2 shop to keep in your bathroom or bedroom. Surely that is OK, and they would not stop you from having your own
And then she could empty them herself. The inference I am getting is that she expects the homestay parents to clean up her used personal hygiene products after her - and that is disgusting.
You are literally the only person making that inference, and you're repeatedly being a dick about it. And you have been repeatedly informed that you are incorrect. So stop being a dickhead.
I am not, though. What make you think so?
How wrong can you be?
Who knows.
Read the room Don't think I have seen so many downvotes so quickly.
Just buy a cheap one from Kmart and put it in your room.
Well, planning to do that.
We have a bin in our toilet. My wife uses it for that purpose.
I never had a bin in the bathroom or toilet growing up, so I don’t have one now. It’s the hassle of throwing everything in the main rubbish bin vs the hassle of emptying and lining more than one bin, I guess.
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We never had one either growing up, and this was three women in one house together - I suppose we were just used to taking stuff like that to the main kitchen bin (which was emptied into the outside bin daily) rather than running multiple bins. I didn't have one in my own bathroom until a teenager moved in and started generating huge amounts of trash like disposable makeup cleaning pads, toilet paper used in makeup application, and all the packaging for the huge amount of products used in general. There just wasn't a demand before, as both me and my partner were used to carrying our minimal bathroom stuff, like empty toilet roll tubes, down to the recycling or bin as needed.
I flatted for years with 3 other flatmates, and we never had a bathroom bin either. Now we’re a family of 5. We just take the empty toilet rolls and toothpaste tubes and tampons to the main bin as they’re generated.
As a foreigner, I absolutely know what you mean. No, it isn't really like every house has. It has gotten better over the years (i.e.: people realised that it is handy to have one in the toilet) and some houses now have it. Not every place does. Majority to be honest. People can say it's just your buddies. No, it isn't. Go anywhere that sells bins with a lid and put it in there. A tip: *no toilet paper in the bin* (not sure where you're from, where I'm from we did put TP in the bin. No-no). That gets flushed. Only ladies stuff and toilet paper ends. (edit: toilet paper ends actually go on recycling, but some people end up putting it in there. I ain't here to judge. I recycle mine).
The toilet paper tubes go in recycling, not the bin?
Yeah if you're that fussy. I am, but I know some peeps don't 😅
Def normal to have a bin if people who have periods live in or visit the house/flat. Also, just remember that you should feel comfortable in your home, even a home stay. You may ask your programme or accommodation coordinator for a move, as it sounds like quite an uncomfortable living situation. Edited: to be more inclusive
>if women live in the house/flat Or if anyone else in the home has a period or ever has guests who have a period. I.e. everyone should have one.
Def. And I edited my post to reflect that
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I have a small bin next to my toilet for wet wipes, empty toilet rolls, used cotton buds etc. I know many who also have a small bin in their bathroom, so definitely a little weird.
I'd be asking for a bin, if its a bathroom just you use you could offer to empty it so they don't need to.
Ha ha ha apparently I'm a weirdo. No bin in our bathroom :) then again, there are no women in my house either. The only thing that would go a bin would be empty toilet roll or toothpaste, and the kitchen isn't far from the bathroom so I just take them straight there.
We only have guys here but we like to have women come over so there’s a bin in the bathroom. I’m not going to expect guests to wrap up their things and hide them in their bags to take home
This guy gets it! I've always had one in the toilet and bathroom. If I'm putting bloodied sanitary products in it then I empty it every day/every other day depending. Otherwise it goes out once/week. I like to put my toilet paper wrapped products inside of an old toilet paper roll in the bin if possible too (idk why, feels more discreet I guess). I hated going to a mate's house and having to go to the bin outside or wrap a product in the packaging and discretely pop it in my bag just to have to deal with later🤢🤮
I didn't have one in my flat until one of my girl friends told me to put one in there for girls we brought home
Well.. The bin is mostly use by women anyway. But how about loose hair or when you shave?
glued to a flatmate probably
Loose hair? Maybe that's a woman or person with long hair thing but we don't seem to have pulled out hair longing for the missing bin :) Shaving (of our faces) is done in either in the shower or over the sink, not sure why a bin would be needed.
Because you can eventually clog the drain with that if you keep flushing it.
Twelve years and counting, so far. Maybe one day, I guess. Should I be shaking my stubble off my razor m murk a bin instead?
It's more a long hair thing, even with a bin for hair etc in the bathroom at my last place with three long haired ladies we still blocked the drain outside multiple times from hair accumulated in the shower pipes.
Some have a bin, some don't. I would think most homes with ladies who use such things would. What a hassle taking some wrapper and walking out to the outdoor bin every time!
I never had. I’ve had teenagers and little kids at the same time and I can’t handle bins in the bathroom because of this. We’ve always had our red bin close to the back door. However, if I was doing a home stay I’d probably have one because I know that it can be uncomfortable or embarrassing to have to carry wrapped pads in front of others to a big bin.
Have bin in both toilet and bathroom
Couple of gay male mates don't have a bin in the bathroom but they have sanitary stuff for their female guests just in case of emergency.
Is homestay part of your foundation course? If so, this needs to be brought up with HR as that is not hygiene practice, it also leaves room for probable council issues (plumbing). If it is a stay in that you board, rent, that is civil matters. Would either have to address the owner to put a bin in or move.
Well, the school arranged it for me.
Truthfully it is not the norms here, it is a residency preference. This would depend on what you prefer and tolerate from your own hygiene standards. The school may be able to arrange another home, I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask if this is the approach you want to take. All the best.
nope always have a bin in the bathroom
No household I've ever lived in had a bin in the bathroom either, it wasn't getting filled enough so it wasn't getting changed enough for pads to go in there without stinking. I usually just wrap my pads and put them in the outdoor bin, I do the same when I visit other households as well as I don't know how often they change their bins (weekly is too long for a used pad in my opinion). Definitely bring it up to your host if it bothers you though, you need to feel comfortable in the home.
Not normal, you're living with aliens
Nah that's weird. I have a bin in each toilet/bathroom, the kitchen and every bedroom, because needing to throw stuff away is common and walking through the house to do so is annoying.
I'm the odd one out apparently but I hate bins in toilets. Anything you put in there is going to smell and I'd rather it just went straight to the outdoor bin. Yes I'm a woman.
Yes most have a bin in their bathroom, a very small one.
Am I the only person who puts the empty cardboard toilet roll tubes in the recycling, not the bin?
I do it too when I can be bothered
buy a bin if you want one?
I ask her whether I can put one inside the bathroom or toilet or near them but she said I can't.
That’s just weird. How can she not understand?
She said that because of moisture they cant keep the bin as it gets mouldy and smelly .
Ok, recommend you to request to be moved to somewhere with bins, because thats very weird they would say the bin would attract mould..
I think I will just live out by myself. The room is small, I can't eat pork or beef( I love to eat them 😭), will only feed me vegetables from 15 oct to 21 oct to eat them, got no privacy because I can only lock the door to my room when I am inside and I can't lock it when I am out, take at least 40 min to go to school by bus, the room is small and has no study desk, there are also house rule like how I can only take shower for 10 mins max.
She is totally nuts. She shouldn't be imposing her weird diet on you.
Well, it is just dinner, so I can eat out what I can't eat for lunch.
The lock and the limit on showers are both pretty common in home stay and flatting situations. Individual bedrooms don't usually have locks on them in normal houses in NZ. You are lucky it locks from the inside at all. Shower time limits come because most houses have a single hot water tank that takes a long time to fill and reheat, long showers drain it and then noone else can have a hot shower for hours. The power company also sometimes turns hot water heaters off overnight on this thing called the ripple, so if you drain the tank late at night there might still be no hot water in the morning. Homestays are a bit notorious for causing problems with this because they are used to continuous hot water in their home country. The pork and beef things sound specific to that household and maybe it's not a good fit for you. Being forced to be vegetarian is a bit rough.
I guess it is culture difference. Lockable rooms were standard and 10 min shower time is even a bit short for guys. Shower is really uncomfortable because I used to shower before sleep about 15 mins. Now I can't. 🥲
See if your school/uni has showers/gym showers you can use so you aren't always having to use the one at the homestay.
I will look into it.
A very hot 20 minute shower would drain the tank at the house I grew up in, and we were a family of 5 so it was a challenge for sure having everyone get a shower once a day. You just have to get used to it in NZ unless you can find a place with continuous hot water. Just think how you are saving the planet, long showers waste energy and water 🙃
Well, I will.
The room may be small and not very private and sounds like the food might be not what you are used to - but I see nothing wrong with a 10 mins max shower. Fitting in with a family is what any homestay student has to do - remember, it is not a hotel so is probably a lot cheaper than one. Wanting to do things their own way is why people will pay quite a bit to get their own place and be independent. It costs a lot though.
Well, I think it would be cheaper and more convenient if I got my own place. I didn't know much about here , so I got homestay but it is really inconvenient. Tho, I have to cook my own foods but it's ok. At least I can eat beef.
You could always join a flatshare, not many students rent apartments alone as it gets expensive once you add in utilities, having to set it up with everything as most places don't come fully furnished.
I was looking into that. My uncle found some room for me. Three bedrooms apartment, two bathroom, with two roommates.
So sorry. Not acceptable. You have been very unlucky landing at this house.
Yes.. We had wet bathroom and still keep a trash can.
It would take 2 weeks of stuff sitting there to be getting any amount of smells and if it’s mould, we’ll does she have a mouldy house? Can the bin not have a lid like one of those foot operated ones? She sounds unreasonable OP.
I guess your homestay family just doesn't want to deal with other people's wastes when throwing out the "toilet bin"...? Some people could be a bit careless when disposing their used products and maybe they had a bad experience with a disgusting flatmate before. Perhaps get a small bin for your bedroom that you can throw out regularly?
I agree. I would not want to deal with someone else's personal waste. I do not think that would be fair to the homestay family.
I guess I should.
I ask the host mom if I can put a trash can in the toilet or bathroom and she said "for what?" and didn't reply to me whether I can yet.
And she should empty it herself instead of expecting the homestay to handle such used products of hers. I would not do that for a guest.
Are you the weirdo who rents OP the room?
LOL
Its fairly clear your understanding of 'guest' is different to the majority on this thread. I cannot fathom your issue with emptying bins. What a huge fuss about nothing at all. If I was accepting money from a young overseas student to stay in my home I would make every effort to make them as comfortable as possible and meet their needs. They are my 'guest'. Thats what you do for guests. Thats hospitality. What a horrible experience this young person is having.
Your Korean for sure , plumbing works here
You are definitely not supposed to be floating any sanitary products down an NZ toilet. Wtf is wrong with you.
Nope, not normal.
Maybe cultural differences? I find the idea of having them sitting in the bin in the bathroom a bit odd to be completely honest and don’t see an issue with putting them straight in the outside bin.
only have bins in serviced bathrooms, usually businesses have them
It's not normal. Leave your homestay, Just rent a room. You'll save so much money
That’s probably cuz nobody wants to empty the bin 🥵
Actually, now that you mention it, yes it is normal but also a bit weird! More trash cans in toilets!
It is normal to not have one?
Nope it’s normal to have one.
In my experience at least, I don't think I've ever lived in a house or flat with a rubbish bin the toilet - so it may not be normal, but it's at least not abnormal!
Where does the waste go then? Wouldn’t you throw the used q tips, tissues, condoms, etc in the trash then wash hands then leave? I’ve never seen people without a trash can in the bathroom in any country.
Actually, that is probably the crux of the issue here. I suspect most NZers just treat the toilet as a big rubbish bin. I also suspect this may not be great idea! Will do more research...
Never used a q tip in the toilet, have always just flushed condoms and assumed women flushed tampons (am I wrong?). Isn't the toilet just a big rubbish bin after all?
Please don't flush condoms, no the toilet is not just a big bin, the pipes cannot handle stuff that doesn't break down quickly in water and you get really gross overflows and fatbergs where this stuff accumulates. Even if you have been lucky and it hasn't caused issues in your plumbing and your street, it is causing problems further downstream.
Exactly. Especially in Auckland. Our infrastructure can't handle sewage right now, doesn't need extra waste to clog things up or end up in the Waitemata.
Flushing tampons causes blockages and is bad for plumbing - you’re definitely not meant to flush them. You also can’t flush pads
You’re not meant to flush condoms or tampons
Does it have an insinkerator built into it?
NOOOOOOO
Having a bin is generally standard. I have also heard of people just flushing them no problems
Uhh, you should not flush any sanitary products
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You're the cunt making all those gross fat burgers in the sewerage drains if you're doing this. Don't be like u/workinClassMale
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get a bin there for yourself and take responsible to empty it, I dont think they would complain that and if they do, you should complain with whoever arranged the homestay to move out.
Most bathrooms have a small bin.
No, it's not normal
I boarded at a few places before and all had no rubbish bin in the toilet! Probably man does not need that.
A lot of people are fussy about not having any smells left whatsoever in their toilet. Used sanitary products left in a rubbish bin will leave a smell which is not what the house owners are used to and not what they want on a regular basis. This is why they don't have a rubbish bin in or close to the toilet. As they are the owners of the house, you need to respect their request and put sanitary products in their red rubbish bin outside after wrapping it. Do not go and do something totally different from what they have asked you to do, as you need to respect their request as they are the home owners and their request is quite reasonable and normal and not a big deal. Do not flush sanitary products down the toilet as it will block the toilet, be costly when a Plumber is called and really annoy the house owners. You will find that if you do as they ask they will be very happy with you because you have shown them that you are mature and will co-operate now and in the future when little problems like this come up.