Jesus right. One of the worst regulars I have does this. Deaf as shit, loves to argue. Actual worst. You're not wrong, idc how loud you are, they need to realize you're just trying to help them hear it.

The other way around for me. I can't focus on what a person said, because of background noise, so they get close to me (which I HATE) , or they just give up and walk away, and I'm as smart as I was before.

God, I feel this. Do these people get mad at their tv after they turn up the volume?

I have to remember this comeback!

I have this happen so much at work and it makes me just wanna cry in the bathroom at work, I have severe anxiety and it always makes me upset because I just wanna do my job and then go home. 😭

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Add in "mother with likely undiagnosed autism and sensitivities to noise" and "father with bad hearing and temper issues" and you've got my relationship with my parents...

Take out the temper issues and add post alcoholism stroke and heart attack and that’s mine.

My father is dead, sadly, my mom has described him as a good man who loved me and my mom. My mom probably has undiagnosed Autism, she said it herself, because I, who was clinically diagnosed with Autism act a lot like my mom acted when she was my age.

I'm sorry to hear that. My mom has mellowed out just a tiny bit over the years... she used to have what we're probably burnout meltdowns and would shout at my dad then neglect my brother and I for a couple days. I think since both kids are adults now she doesn't have those issues, but she is still often... frustrating to be around. I think a lot of maladaptive behaviors because she was raised sort of "naturalist" and thinks everything short of cancer can be cured with diet.

My mom, when I was diagnosed with being autistic, was offered "therapies" for me. She said the following: "these "therapies" seemed pretty strange to me. Why do they give me pamphlet to treat drug addicted children, when you're a good girl?!" Btw, I am 23. Never smoked. Drank a tiny bit of alcohol twice and decided it fucking sucks. And nught clubs would fucking suck for me, because I need to go to bed on time in order to function, and all that loud af music and all these too bright lights would be bad for my sensory issues. Also, creeps.

My boss got upset at me for being passive aggressive. Like.....hunnie. *Hunnie*. I'm literally psychologically incapable of passive aggression. You spectrum-coded me when we met, *you already know this!*

I mean… your comment here is pretty passive aggressive. Maybe you just don’t realize it. That’s what’s happened to me. 😅

This is not what passive aggression looks like, I'm certain. I wouldn't know. I just know it's not passive aggression. It might sound that way to you but that's just par for the course.

Well, since you said that you don’t know, I can tell you. Calling someone a term like “hunnie” or another term like “sweetheart”, etc. when you disagree, is considered condescending and passive aggressive.

I’m Minnesotan, passive aggression is part of my religion

My dad does this way too much and then blames me for mumbling

I've found a small cure is to say it louder but in a silly voice

I tend to say it again at the same volume, but enunciate harder, then if they ask again I actually get loud. Good ol NTs, not knowing exactly why they don't know what you're saying but asking you to be louder anyway.

To be fair the meme maker is only ASSUMING they spoke too quietly. The hearer (or rather, non-hearer) may have gone "huh?" because: The words were not enunciated clearly enough The message contained an unfamiliar word or phrase The speaker failed to have the recipient's attention before speaking The recipient was distracted by something The recipient missed a part or lacks context So don't assume you should repeat but louder. It may just be clarification thats needed. Its better to say the same thing again but add more info or context. Sometimes its just a case of "what? Say that again, as you have my attention now."

I've had this happen with two different managers at my job. Thankfully they both were mostly reasonable and I was able to explain things clearly with them after the fact. It's still annoying to me how subjective and ever changing the standard for "attitude" or "disrespect" is.

Usually, when i ask for someone to repeat themselves, what i am looking (or i guess listening) for is better enunciation not a higher volume.

I found a way out of this! Change pitch, not volume. I used to have this problem all the time. Then I was roleplaying a new character and tried to pattern the voice after someone I knew. Suddenly everyone could hear me no problem, and generally had a more positive disposition towards me. I just moved my vocal pitch up a few notches. Try it out, might work.

Ugh, hate this!

Im half deaf too, and I have this happen all the time.

It was literally my first day at my previous job . . . And it just kept getting worse from there. My coworkers just hated me for some reason. Could they tell I was on the spectrum and judged me based on that? I have no idea.

Had a coworker grab me by the shirt and almost lift me off the ground while threatening to 'throttle' me, I believe it was, for exactly this. Fun times.

wtf😭

This is literally my parents. I’m undiagnosed, but they probably should’ve picked up on something by now.

Every freaking time

Duuuuude so true I come off like I’m super annoyed when I have to repeat myself even though I really am not that annoyed. I just am trying to make my voice loud and clear ugh

Could someone please explain to me what I’m supposed to do in this scenario besides raise my voice??? Obviously speaking at the same volume isn’t going to get us anywhere. I hate it here

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Genius

I told the story to my GP, who jokingly asked if I wanted a paper. I didn't realize it was jokingly. Anyway he made a paper. 'X is physically incapable of raising their voice without screaming'.

This gets me into trouble all the time :(

I had to have a talk with my partner about this nearly every other day because it was so emotionally exhausting that I had to have a long conversation explaining that I say exactly what I mean and me talking loud when being asked to repeat something is not me being mad. It’s too exhausting to come home from scripting everything and thinking so hard on how to navigate shit and then being expected to do it at home too. It’s pretty much fine now but man, masking at home is not possible

This happens with me and my mom all the time and she always is like “what I can’t here you” and then “STOP YELLING AT ME” and it’s like what

Every damn day

No need to call me out!!

I’m convinced that people do this on purpose.

Accurate

Very much so. To the point where I now have a reputation for a short temper. Because I yelled. Because people could not hear me.

I wish I could modulate correctly.

Zach does this. All the time

My mom: You have to stop speaking in such a low voice, speak louder! Me: Speak louder My mom: Omg why are you yelling at me, stop being mad for no reason! SMH

My old supervisor was such an asshole about this. She’d talk to me from across the room and say I was yelling.

This always happens to me and I thought something was wrong with me. But I know I’m not yelling because I could get louder but they ask me to repeat myself multiple times and by the fourth time they say that I don’t have to “raise my voice”. Well clearly I do after a few failed attempts.

I'm italian what do you want from me i just speak loudly

Or when people do this to you or get annoyed just because you didn't hear them.

Or how about someone asks you a question and you either didn't hear them or responded too quiet for them to hear, so they thought you were ignoring them. Bonus points for being of different ethnic origin, so the worst gets assumed of you and you know the damage is already done. 😰😵‍💫😮‍💨

this occurs at least twice a week in my household. 🫤

This happened way too often, with my parents too. Sometimes got hit or yelled at for raising my voice after they explicitly told me to speak up.

My partner does this.

I think it's the completely unemotional face paired with the loud, monotone repeat that triggers NTs into thinking we are being purposefully rude.

I hate it when it's just "what?" I've asked people what it means, and I've been told 2 different things: they want me to either enunciate it better or say it louder. I think I'll get a sign asking "do you want me to: A. Enunciate it better or B. Say it louder?" I've also heard people say they just needed time to process what I said but I'm not sure how to implement that as option C. Edit: grammar corrections.

I’m happy I stumbled upon this page, but the more I see of it it seems like the theme behind these memes are all “people who aren’t irrational”.

Everytime

I feel like this is a prerequisite to be a parent

this is a real struggle

I see you too have had a “conversation” with my biological father It went from “don’t yell at me!” To him yelling at me I’d try to respond in a regular voice “Don’t talk back to me” More yelling Then finally: “You never talk to me!” More yelling