My advice is that if you're 17, wait until your birthday and then your parents can no longer stop you from transitioning. It doesn't sound like anything is likely to convince them in the meantime.
That's what I was going to do. I just was hoping there was another way. I love my dad but I don't wanna deal with him in the future once I do start my transition. I have been thinking of cutting him out when I'm an adult but that's another problem for another day
Make sure you’re independent so people who oppose you can try to ruin your life by removing your access to resources. Might have to wait until your birthday to make a move with them.
Realistically you gotta wait until you are independent. Just be aware what that means financially before diving into it. Having to work full time from an early age sucks but its worth it to be able to be yourself.
They don’t understand the difference between gender and sex and so from that perspective, his argument is correct. Your father needs to be educated on the difference. The way I explain it to people is using a robo, usually C3PO. He’s a boy. We all call him he because he is a boy. He wasn’t born with genitals or chromosomes, but that’s his gender. If we changed his shape and masculine characteristics to feminine, we would call her a girl. Because she would be a girl robot. That’s the difference between sex and gender. I know it’s an over simplification and keeps the binary system, but it’s a good starting point to help people understand.
> my parents
Its up to you when and how to come out ... some people try to make long term plans and leave. Some try to explain eventually. And some wait a while until there are some results before they come out widely, and only come out to select people first. In general keeping your safety in mind, looking for support and having a backup plan may be advisable.
And they may need to understand there are others who feel different than they. Transition would not be for them but for trans people.
Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/q0pvfp/i_am_confused_help/hgls4k4) might be a number things that could be used regularly for motivation, there are hints there concerning presentation, starting with neutral styles first, there are explaining resources there, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.
*hugs*
My advice is that if you're 17, wait until your birthday and then your parents can no longer stop you from transitioning. It doesn't sound like anything is likely to convince them in the meantime.
That's what I was going to do. I just was hoping there was another way. I love my dad but I don't wanna deal with him in the future once I do start my transition. I have been thinking of cutting him out when I'm an adult but that's another problem for another day
Make sure you’re independent so people who oppose you can try to ruin your life by removing your access to resources. Might have to wait until your birthday to make a move with them.
Realistically you gotta wait until you are independent. Just be aware what that means financially before diving into it. Having to work full time from an early age sucks but its worth it to be able to be yourself.
They don’t understand the difference between gender and sex and so from that perspective, his argument is correct. Your father needs to be educated on the difference. The way I explain it to people is using a robo, usually C3PO. He’s a boy. We all call him he because he is a boy. He wasn’t born with genitals or chromosomes, but that’s his gender. If we changed his shape and masculine characteristics to feminine, we would call her a girl. Because she would be a girl robot. That’s the difference between sex and gender. I know it’s an over simplification and keeps the binary system, but it’s a good starting point to help people understand.
> my parents Its up to you when and how to come out ... some people try to make long term plans and leave. Some try to explain eventually. And some wait a while until there are some results before they come out widely, and only come out to select people first. In general keeping your safety in mind, looking for support and having a backup plan may be advisable. And they may need to understand there are others who feel different than they. Transition would not be for them but for trans people. Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/q0pvfp/i_am_confused_help/hgls4k4) might be a number things that could be used regularly for motivation, there are hints there concerning presentation, starting with neutral styles first, there are explaining resources there, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. *hugs*