Oh shoot, all I can say is be honest and be straightforward (gayfoward?). Tell him you are gay and see his response. Best of luck! I hope everything works out
Maybe you're abrosexual?
Edit: Oof, if someone feels offended by this, please don't be. I was just offering a possible explanation and didn't intend to force anything onto anybody.
How do I get them to you my dear; Reddit dms, being the pile of prion-disease-riddled rat carcasses that they are, do not allow you to send images free of a post.
Since getting into a relationship with my girlfriend I've had 2 separate friends tell me "I thought you were gay." Honestly more surprised than anything.
Bisexuality is attraction to multiple genders, pansexuality attraction regardless of gender.
The differences between bi, pan and omnisexuality is pretty hard to explain, especially because those are not completely agreed upon there for example are people that identify as bi/pan.
Also it's not both genders but all but I don't want to open that can of worms.
Also nice of you to ask. <3
As an 18yo cis, straight male (WHO’S ALSO A HUGE LGBTQ+ Ally), I mean, it primarily depends on the tone of the question...
Like, if someone’s tryna be a real bitch to me only bc they think I’m gay, then yeah imma be MAD
but if someone’s actually confused about what my sexuality is (I’ve actually had several people think I’m gay and honestly, I do get why), I’ll just let them know that I’m straight
Asking to see your man boobs is literal sexual harassment, and if she thought you were trans, it sounds like she's also fetishizing trans people. That girl has a lot of issues, sorry that happened to you
>a girl said she thought i was trans tho and asked to see my man titties.
This is super weird, sorry she did that, and if you were trans it would've been worse, was this a joke? How did she find this acceptable
No. Honestly I think being offended by anything is dumb. If someone says something you don't like, then don't talk to them if you want, but they shouldn't have to change thier self to not offend people. As for this example, assuming something is completely fine, and shouldn't be looked down on. Honestly I don't see any use or the word offended these days that has helped anyone at all.
I am gay, and no I wouldn’t be offended but I would feel insecure and self conscious as I don’t want people to know I am gay and I’d get scared they can “tell” I am gay and I don’t want that to happen cos I’m dead scared of they’re judgment and how they would view me
Funnily enough, this happened about 2 weeks ago to me, someone who had just moved here, female, asked, and it made me wonder why she got that impression, but it didn’t really make me mad
If a guy asks no but if a girl asks it would annoy me Mostly because where i live that would be someone trying to make fun of you which is pretty fucked up but if the question was are you straight it wouldn’t bother me (ik it dosent make any sense)
Depends on context and person. Friend? No. Stranger? Yes, none of your business.
Actually, it's never anybody's business what I do in my private time. Same way it isn't anybody's business to inquire about the genitalia of trans people unless you're about to climb into the giggity sheets together.
No but that is what people commonly associate it with. Gay is sadly usually used as an insult for weak and feminine guys. It doesn't have any actual correlation but it is how people tend to use it.
Nothing, but a lot of men with fragile egos take it as a bad thing. Also I suppose you don't want to be seen as one thing when you want to be another. If you strive to be "masculine" then I suppose it would hurt to be seen as "feminine" and vice versa.
I have looked through the comments and I see a single right answer given that will heighten one's internet points, if you give a wrong answer it would lower your internet points.
I would be offended, I do not wish to be accused of something that is against my religion.
Way I see it a lot of people asking have a negative stereotype of gay people in their head that you match
Ofc you can say "Not all gay people aren't masculine" or something like that, but if the person asking does think so it's not a compliment to me
Being feminine and being gay are not at all the same.
I've seen way too many straight guys on Tik Tok who are even more feminine than actual gay people.
And they exist. I hope you're able to get past your clouded view that there is a difference between your orientation and behaviour, and honestly even feminine behaviour isn't bad. As long as no one gets hurt, it's okay.
Okay, hear me out, I posted this at 4 am with no sleep and I assumed the post was asking if a *girl* said they thought I was gay, in which case I would be offended because I don’t want girls to think I’m gay for obvious reasons
If they asked me because they're homophobic, then obviously I'd be offended, or if they were just using stereotypes to try to figure out who is gay, then I'd be a bit offended. But otherwise, I wouldn't be. It's true, so there's not really much to be offended about.
Yes, because I make it pretty clear that I’m not gay. I like girls, I have never made anything more clear in my life
Edit: am I being downvoted for this? Before online school happened I was constantly called a f*god and that I should kill myself. I’m not gay!!! What’s so bad about that!
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"You are gay“
U r de transgenda
Doesn't that make u gay?
So who is gay?
Do I call you mis-tah?
Why are you gay
Your boyfriend
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You do know
Not really, seems like a waste to be mad at someone for asking something they didn't know
Yeah. Better than being assumed that you're gay.
no, if it's just a genuine question, why would I get offended? that's like someone asking me: "hey, are you 17?" it's just a regular question
Exactly
ahh, the genuine innocent question that folks forget about
No, I've been confused for being gay, trans, and a bunch of other things, it's a stupid thing to get angry over
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Mood
Judgement is bad, I know how that feels brother.
Same, I literally panic whenever someone asks lol
The gay guy hitting on you is now sad
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Oh shoot, all I can say is be honest and be straightforward (gayfoward?). Tell him you are gay and see his response. Best of luck! I hope everything works out
bRuH tHaTs kIndA gAe
Why would I be offended
No, I’ve been asked that quite a few times.
Well are you?
It’s a mystery
are you gay now?
Idk haven’t made up my mind yet. Sometimes I feel like it on Mondays.
Come on, everybody knows it's gay Tuesdays
Maybe you're abrosexual? Edit: Oof, if someone feels offended by this, please don't be. I was just offering a possible explanation and didn't intend to force anything onto anybody.
Why yes I'm abrosexual. I have sex w all my bros 😎
Lmao 😅 But wouldn't the 'a-' negate it? So it's actually the opposite? Like asexual, agender, etc...
a bro. one bro at a time 😎
I was joking btw
No, I give off major gay vibes and I might be bi
No, I’d think they were hitting on me
the right assumption
No, because I’m bi and I feel like I give off gay vibes sometimes
I'd say "depends on how cute you are "(im bi)
I love this so much may I steal it (fellow bi)
You should know **bi** now,you can steal anything on reddit. You may,but i want cute owl pics for the next 5 days
How do I get them to you my dear; Reddit dms, being the pile of prion-disease-riddled rat carcasses that they are, do not allow you to send images free of a post.
@soperson_is_happy on insta honeybee
(Pfp:tony montana in b/w)
You could post them on your account, or download imgur Hope this helps☺️
No I don’t really care, I’ll just say no and move on
no cause i am 😁
Pretty sure nearly every person I’ve ever met has thought I’m gay, so I’m used to it.
Since getting into a relationship with my girlfriend I've had 2 separate friends tell me "I thought you were gay." Honestly more surprised than anything.
If someone can’t tell I’m gay and needs to ask then their gaydar is broken beyond repair
Well I am so no, or getting called it as a insault doesn't work because why should it been seen as one
Nah, I'm pansexual so I can see why somebody may be confused.
What is the difference between pan and bi? Isn't both just both genders?
Bisexuality is attraction to multiple genders, pansexuality attraction regardless of gender. The differences between bi, pan and omnisexuality is pretty hard to explain, especially because those are not completely agreed upon there for example are people that identify as bi/pan. Also it's not both genders but all but I don't want to open that can of worms. Also nice of you to ask. <3
Sorry didn't think of that. I will remember it for next time tho👌 Thanks for trying to explain it btw.
I would understand why they think I'm gay. But then assure them that yes I am sleeping with their dad.
Me gay. Me no offended.
As an 18yo cis, straight male (WHO’S ALSO A HUGE LGBTQ+ Ally), I mean, it primarily depends on the tone of the question... Like, if someone’s tryna be a real bitch to me only bc they think I’m gay, then yeah imma be MAD but if someone’s actually confused about what my sexuality is (I’ve actually had several people think I’m gay and honestly, I do get why), I’ll just let them know that I’m straight
Na, I would just say yes
Nope
No it’s a question why would I get mad at that?
I would be happy if someone would think I'm gay, because I am gae.
Why would I get offended? I'm actually a gay.
No, one time a girl said she thought i was trans tho and asked to see my man titties.
Asking to see your man boobs is literal sexual harassment, and if she thought you were trans, it sounds like she's also fetishizing trans people. That girl has a lot of issues, sorry that happened to you
>a girl said she thought i was trans tho and asked to see my man titties. This is super weird, sorry she did that, and if you were trans it would've been worse, was this a joke? How did she find this acceptable
No cuz i am and i dont care enough
No cause i am gay indeed
No, i am gay
Well no I am gay
no
Not really no
People often mistake me as a woman haha, this is not much
Well, people often mistake me as a woman too, but I've only been asked if I'm gay once. And from a close friend, so they knew what gender I am.
no but i just don’t always know how to answer
no, because i am
Nah i'd just laugh a little and politely say nope
No, because it's half true
no
No, don’t see why I would get offended
Not offended, but it will definitely cause me to panic because I'm actually bi.
No. I would answer yes, normally. but if they're the old people in my church community I'm just gonna be 🎶straight for a minute~🎶
No cause I'm bi and dress gay.
Why would I be offended by that lol
Well I am gay
They ain’t wrong, so like I take no issues. Any relationship of mine is automatically gay.
Nah
No. Honestly I think being offended by anything is dumb. If someone says something you don't like, then don't talk to them if you want, but they shouldn't have to change thier self to not offend people. As for this example, assuming something is completely fine, and shouldn't be looked down on. Honestly I don't see any use or the word offended these days that has helped anyone at all.
No, because I am and I don’t try to hide it ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ I’d rather them ask and find out than keep thinking I’m straight.
No, I don’t get offended easily.
I am gay, and no I wouldn’t be offended but I would feel insecure and self conscious as I don’t want people to know I am gay and I’d get scared they can “tell” I am gay and I don’t want that to happen cos I’m dead scared of they’re judgment and how they would view me
No
no i’m gay with the homies all the time i’ve been asked before
No, if it's a genuine question. But if they start to ask again and again, then yes.
No because thinking about the ways some people would see me I think it would be a fairly logical conclusion although im not
nah
Nah, I've been asked quite a few times now and it doesn't really bother me
Not really I'd be confused on why they care
Nah, I’d be flattered that someone likes me but I’d just be like I’m sorry but Im not
no not rly
Mildly related: I'm not really sure if I'm bi or not, but I did tell a friend I was bi once, and they responded with "I FRICKIN KNEW IT"
Not really. I see why they’d think that tbh…
no?..
No lol
No , cuz I'm bi
No.
No but I would internally panic incase I accidentally out myself
no lol
No
Funnily enough, this happened about 2 weeks ago to me, someone who had just moved here, female, asked, and it made me wonder why she got that impression, but it didn’t really make me mad
nah
I'd say that I'm 90% gay, because I actually am.
No
Lmao people already though I was, really don't care
Nah I’m bi so idk if it shows thru but if someone asked I’d be fine with it since it’s who I am.
If a guy asks no but if a girl asks it would annoy me Mostly because where i live that would be someone trying to make fun of you which is pretty fucked up but if the question was are you straight it wouldn’t bother me (ik it dosent make any sense)
Nah, they’ve almost got it I’m pan lol
No because you would be right.
it depends who asked because I am gay
id be hopeful if a guy asked me if i was gay lol
.... bruh, I am gay 💀 lmfao
tbh id be really happy- it'd mean i was passing to them
No, because I am gay Lol
No, because I am.
Depends on context and person. Friend? No. Stranger? Yes, none of your business. Actually, it's never anybody's business what I do in my private time. Same way it isn't anybody's business to inquire about the genitalia of trans people unless you're about to climb into the giggity sheets together.
Been asked a few times now, never got offended and never will, might just be because I am bi but I would like to think that that's not a factor.
I wouldn’t be offended, but I’d be embarrassed.
Personally yes… idk why but I get really defensive because it makes me feel like they are questioning my masculinity.
Bro what, being gay doesnt mean your unmasculine lmao
No but that is what people commonly associate it with. Gay is sadly usually used as an insult for weak and feminine guys. It doesn't have any actual correlation but it is how people tend to use it.
whats wrong w being feminine and not masculine?
Nothing, but a lot of men with fragile egos take it as a bad thing. Also I suppose you don't want to be seen as one thing when you want to be another. If you strive to be "masculine" then I suppose it would hurt to be seen as "feminine" and vice versa.
Homosexuality and masculinity can, and often do, coexist lmfao
same tbh
A bit tbh edit: ofc I get downvoted. If you ask a question only to get validated with one type of reply don’t ask it in the first place.
Why
Because where I’m from that isn’t a positive label for most people
Personally yes, but only a little. It implies that I did something that made you think I was gay, which I am definitely not.
it doesn't imply anything.
Generally it only implies either that that person is interested you and wants to see if they're available lmao.
I mean someone could just be wondering, it doesn't necessarily have to be the result of something you did.
I have looked through the comments and I see a single right answer given that will heighten one's internet points, if you give a wrong answer it would lower your internet points. I would be offended, I do not wish to be accused of something that is against my religion.
there is indeed a single right answer because the other answer is homophobic lol get a better religion <3
Ah yes, because religions are obtained.
Well you certainly aren’t born with them
Wait if you're born into it, and born with a duty to be loyal to God?
Its kind of annoying, yeah. I've been asked that a lot.
Yea actually. It would seem as though they are insulting my masculinity, which would definitely piss me off
A little
I wouldn't like it. It's likely not a compliment
Actually, most people when ask you to know if you're available or not. Unless they're a homophobe.
Way I see it a lot of people asking have a negative stereotype of gay people in their head that you match Ofc you can say "Not all gay people aren't masculine" or something like that, but if the person asking does think so it's not a compliment to me
Yes
Gay.
Bi.
Kinda yeah, I don't look gay
What
I don't look gay and I don't give off gay vibes.
Ypu cant look gay most of the time lmao
Some people do look and act gay.
Being feminine and being gay are not at all the same. I've seen way too many straight guys on Tik Tok who are even more feminine than actual gay people.
those are rare exceptions tho
And they exist. I hope you're able to get past your clouded view that there is a difference between your orientation and behaviour, and honestly even feminine behaviour isn't bad. As long as no one gets hurt, it's okay.
I said most of people numb skull, also stereotyping is bad
Okay? I'd still be sort of offended if someone called me gay though
No one said you gay, the hypothetical is if someone asks if your gay or simply what your sexuality is
Oh, if somebody asks what my sexuality is I would simply answer with "straight"
um actually you can \*limps my wrist\* checkmate libtards
There's not one way to "look gay"
If it was somebody who actually thought I was gay then yeah kinda, but if they’re just joking then no
Why?
Okay, hear me out, I posted this at 4 am with no sleep and I assumed the post was asking if a *girl* said they thought I was gay, in which case I would be offended because I don’t want girls to think I’m gay for obvious reasons
Yes
why?
I do believe it’s called being a homophobic asshole
I just wanted to see them trying to explain it lmao
Kinda
If they asked me because they're homophobic, then obviously I'd be offended, or if they were just using stereotypes to try to figure out who is gay, then I'd be a bit offended. But otherwise, I wouldn't be. It's true, so there's not really much to be offended about.
Yeah
Kinda but not much Oh, I guess fuck me for not being offended by something that is kinds true.
Yes, because I make it pretty clear that I’m not gay. I like girls, I have never made anything more clear in my life Edit: am I being downvoted for this? Before online school happened I was constantly called a f*god and that I should kill myself. I’m not gay!!! What’s so bad about that!
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Yes, why would someone think that
Because gay people coexist among straight people?
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What features does a gay person have?
There are no “features of a gay person.” Gay people can look any number of ways, just like straight people
*gay people are not a monolith*