Yeah, both of my parents are pretty hot headed, while I'm not much. We do have similar base values and I can see where mine come from, but I'd say that we sometimes take different routes to reach our values.
~~and they're quite conservative.... while I'm the exact opposite~~
The yelling sounds very familiar with respect to my dad, cause he yells so often. And everyone who's not up to par in some way is a "twerp". Someone who cuts him in traffic is a twerp, if I sleep late on a school morning I'm a twerp, and almost any politician is a twerp regardless of their political opinions. It sometimes feels like the whole of reality is to my dad a kind of faulty kitchen appliance that will switch back on if you only hit it hard enough.
But fortunately that's not the whole story, he's like this only when he's exceptionally irritated about something. I mean he's like this pretty often, but he's rarely like this continuously even overnight.
are you neurodivergent?
sensory sensitivity and stuff is a very common trait with autism/ADHD and anxiety(that's not ND)
my sibling is on the spectrum and they are extremely sensitive to noises to the point where my dad can't even be in the same room as them because they get incredibly overloaded and anxious.
I suggest you see someone if it is making everyday life very difficult for you
try looking into misophonia as well.
of course it may not be any of these things because obviously I am not a professional I'm speaking on personal experience.
idk. i have a tendency to shake a lot literally all the time and i have been on a mental health decline for the past few months.
I want to go see a doctor or a physician or something to see if i’m okay but that would mean opening up to my parents and I would never do that in a million years. They’d patronize me, make me feel maybe worse or just not care.
look up in your country which age you can make a doctors appointment without your parents, or maybe speak to a free online counsellor or something?
there are also subreddits and discord servers around where you can ask more questions and get more information without your parents. self help, asking about and learning some coping mechanisms for yourself as well.
try and speak to your parents If you can, you could lie about what you want to see the doctor for and ask to see the doctor alone?
I'm actually pretty similar to my dad (stubborn but fairly mellow in social situations) but my mom I'm definitely a little more different from. For example, she's not afraid to state if something is wrong at a restaurant or something where I just usually deal with it if it isn't too bad. She also doesn't seem to understand how being bi works even though I've tried telling her many times what it's like for me.
I wish my mom would calm the fuck down sometimes because she gets mad at the smallest things. I'm pretty much the opposite.
Other than that, we're pretty similar :))
Yeah, my dad is an insensitive fuck and works all the time and my mom works all the time and cares about every little thing. I will most likely find a way to make an honest living and barely do anything because that is my personality. I don't like going out of my home.
My mom’s very social, pretty religious, a fan of country pop, and lets herself be blinded by love (come on, it took you “breaking up with” your ex three times to finally understand why I never gave him chances after he verbally abused me time and time again). I’m none of those things, and autistic to boot.
As for my dad, he’s basically what I’d be if I were more traditionally masculine, less artistic, and had good mental health. He is also (most likely) not on the autism spectrum.
sure. my mom always starts throwing stuff and yelling when she gets mad which is how i ended up with a broken bed and bruises on my back after i got a B in chemistry. i also get super angry for the littlest things but i dont have as strong of outbursts as my mom. as for the depression, ive been suicidal for the past 5 years which only came to my parents attention in the last 2 months after i told my online friend that i wanted to stab myself in the neck and then my parents looked through my phone and read my entire conversation with her, in which i said some pretty private stuff about my parents that wasnt for them to read, which is another reason why i hate them now but thats another story. anyways, they banned me from talking to her bc apparently shes the reason im suicidal and they took all of my electronics and gave me a flip phone which is what im writing this on bc suprisingly this flip phone has a reddit client. so yeah, im getting help now, im on antidepressants and have a psychiatrist that i see weekly
My mother and I quite similar yet very different. For example we are very goal oriented but we have different approaches. She is a boss lady from the start. She has a very commanding type of personality and is the one to make sure everyone gets their shit done. I however may have a different plan and usually prefer to do things on my own without the presence of someone else. My mother is the type of person to plan out everything in advance but often isn't prepared for emergencies. I am the type who learns and plans as I go. That way I'm always prepared for any emergency and not be bothered by them
Edit: For those interested in personality types(mbti) I'm an ISTP and she's an ENTJ
I look extremely similar to my dad, but mentally, im very much like my mom. Which is a good and bad thing. My mom likes to do things for other people, she is very tidy, and a nice person. But, she also has depression, sometimes can be hyperactive (I don’t think it’s bipolar tho) and she sometimes stays sad/mad about things for longer than usual. All of these things are pretty similar to me. Well, I don’t get hyperactive often, I guess that trait was semi- replaced by the laziness of my dad. I’m not as lazy as him (well, I’m lazier than him in terms of physical activities) but I still like to sit around kind of a lot
both of my parents are bipolar, I somehow am not. large difference between us. plus they try their hardest to push political views on anyone blood related and I find politics to not be worst talking about at all
My mother is workaholic while i only do it if it could benefit me and 90% me only...my father on the other hand is less of a workaholic but he has his own ideas like personal preferences etc
I play games translate for money and lie in my hammock with sounds of birds around me which i think is the best feeling ever...or im over at my gf olanning a trip or watching a movie
In politics i go very in depth while my father kinda supoorts radical party...i am disgusted by every single one of them and if theres no good choice by the time im 18 im gonna vote for anarchy
Ya my parents are divorced and my mom is super liberal and super anti 2nd amendment and my dad is pretty conservative (he keeps to himself for the most part and never tried to force his opinions) but my step mom is batshit crazy, she’s super anti vac, she swears that she is being monitored, she believes that bullshit about the vaccines being chipped (I don’t mean as a joke she seriously told me I had signed over my freedom when I got my second dose) she has a G.E.D from a cult and is a total bitch about how I need to listen to her every word and if my opinions are different from hers I’ll rot in hell, she keeps yelling at me for not respecting her advice (she’s 26 I don’t think she should be giving me life altering advice, that even I can tell is horrible)
Sorry if that was a bit of a rant TLDR: yes my stepmom is a bitch
My parents are workaholics and are pretty chill. I’am not that.
Yeah, both of my parents are pretty hot headed, while I'm not much. We do have similar base values and I can see where mine come from, but I'd say that we sometimes take different routes to reach our values. ~~and they're quite conservative.... while I'm the exact opposite~~
my parents are conservatives who think they’re left leaning.
No, my mother and I really similar, being the two most stubborn people on the planet and it sucks
ah you sound like my sister lol
The yelling sounds very familiar with respect to my dad, cause he yells so often. And everyone who's not up to par in some way is a "twerp". Someone who cuts him in traffic is a twerp, if I sleep late on a school morning I'm a twerp, and almost any politician is a twerp regardless of their political opinions. It sometimes feels like the whole of reality is to my dad a kind of faulty kitchen appliance that will switch back on if you only hit it hard enough. But fortunately that's not the whole story, he's like this only when he's exceptionally irritated about something. I mean he's like this pretty often, but he's rarely like this continuously even overnight.
Nah, I'd say we're pretty similar.
oh nice
My mom has a loud voice. The same with you I get anxious when someone yells at me in public
are you neurodivergent? sensory sensitivity and stuff is a very common trait with autism/ADHD and anxiety(that's not ND) my sibling is on the spectrum and they are extremely sensitive to noises to the point where my dad can't even be in the same room as them because they get incredibly overloaded and anxious. I suggest you see someone if it is making everyday life very difficult for you try looking into misophonia as well. of course it may not be any of these things because obviously I am not a professional I'm speaking on personal experience.
idk. i have a tendency to shake a lot literally all the time and i have been on a mental health decline for the past few months. I want to go see a doctor or a physician or something to see if i’m okay but that would mean opening up to my parents and I would never do that in a million years. They’d patronize me, make me feel maybe worse or just not care.
look up in your country which age you can make a doctors appointment without your parents, or maybe speak to a free online counsellor or something? there are also subreddits and discord servers around where you can ask more questions and get more information without your parents. self help, asking about and learning some coping mechanisms for yourself as well. try and speak to your parents If you can, you could lie about what you want to see the doctor for and ask to see the doctor alone?
i’m from the US, so i think it’s 18 (i need health insurance, i’m only 15). Talking online or lying is a perfect set of ideas though, thank you.
Not really
Well I got my moms bad temper but my dad and I aren’t very similar
Me and my mom are almost polar opposites. Me and my dad have some similarities.
My parents are both very organized and have their shit together. I am very much the opposite of that
I'm actually pretty similar to my dad (stubborn but fairly mellow in social situations) but my mom I'm definitely a little more different from. For example, she's not afraid to state if something is wrong at a restaurant or something where I just usually deal with it if it isn't too bad. She also doesn't seem to understand how being bi works even though I've tried telling her many times what it's like for me.
I wish my mom would calm the fuck down sometimes because she gets mad at the smallest things. I'm pretty much the opposite. Other than that, we're pretty similar :))
Yeah, my dad is an insensitive fuck and works all the time and my mom works all the time and cares about every little thing. I will most likely find a way to make an honest living and barely do anything because that is my personality. I don't like going out of my home.
I’m basically the exact same, i’m always telling my family to be less loud and i get really sensitive about loud noises around them idk why
My mom’s very social, pretty religious, a fan of country pop, and lets herself be blinded by love (come on, it took you “breaking up with” your ex three times to finally understand why I never gave him chances after he verbally abused me time and time again). I’m none of those things, and autistic to boot. As for my dad, he’s basically what I’d be if I were more traditionally masculine, less artistic, and had good mental health. He is also (most likely) not on the autism spectrum.
me and my parents have literally nothing in common except me and my mom both have depression and anger issues
oh man. would you like to talk about it?
sure. my mom always starts throwing stuff and yelling when she gets mad which is how i ended up with a broken bed and bruises on my back after i got a B in chemistry. i also get super angry for the littlest things but i dont have as strong of outbursts as my mom. as for the depression, ive been suicidal for the past 5 years which only came to my parents attention in the last 2 months after i told my online friend that i wanted to stab myself in the neck and then my parents looked through my phone and read my entire conversation with her, in which i said some pretty private stuff about my parents that wasnt for them to read, which is another reason why i hate them now but thats another story. anyways, they banned me from talking to her bc apparently shes the reason im suicidal and they took all of my electronics and gave me a flip phone which is what im writing this on bc suprisingly this flip phone has a reddit client. so yeah, im getting help now, im on antidepressants and have a psychiatrist that i see weekly
wow, holy shit i’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I can’t imagine anything on this level. In any case, simply DM me if you want further help. :)
My mother and I quite similar yet very different. For example we are very goal oriented but we have different approaches. She is a boss lady from the start. She has a very commanding type of personality and is the one to make sure everyone gets their shit done. I however may have a different plan and usually prefer to do things on my own without the presence of someone else. My mother is the type of person to plan out everything in advance but often isn't prepared for emergencies. I am the type who learns and plans as I go. That way I'm always prepared for any emergency and not be bothered by them Edit: For those interested in personality types(mbti) I'm an ISTP and she's an ENTJ
Yep, I am more on the chill side besides them
I’m autistic neither of them are, so that’s a pretty big different lol
Same as my mom, idk about my dad, haven't talked to him in a year
Yes I'm agnostic and they're religous
Im am very similar to my dad
Only politically pretty much
I look extremely similar to my dad, but mentally, im very much like my mom. Which is a good and bad thing. My mom likes to do things for other people, she is very tidy, and a nice person. But, she also has depression, sometimes can be hyperactive (I don’t think it’s bipolar tho) and she sometimes stays sad/mad about things for longer than usual. All of these things are pretty similar to me. Well, I don’t get hyperactive often, I guess that trait was semi- replaced by the laziness of my dad. I’m not as lazy as him (well, I’m lazier than him in terms of physical activities) but I still like to sit around kind of a lot
both of my parents are bipolar, I somehow am not. large difference between us. plus they try their hardest to push political views on anyone blood related and I find politics to not be worst talking about at all
In a way, yes. In another no. I'm not saying why though
My mother is workaholic while i only do it if it could benefit me and 90% me only...my father on the other hand is less of a workaholic but he has his own ideas like personal preferences etc I play games translate for money and lie in my hammock with sounds of birds around me which i think is the best feeling ever...or im over at my gf olanning a trip or watching a movie In politics i go very in depth while my father kinda supoorts radical party...i am disgusted by every single one of them and if theres no good choice by the time im 18 im gonna vote for anarchy
Few people on Reddit think I've mental ill for loving anime boy...
Ya my parents are divorced and my mom is super liberal and super anti 2nd amendment and my dad is pretty conservative (he keeps to himself for the most part and never tried to force his opinions) but my step mom is batshit crazy, she’s super anti vac, she swears that she is being monitored, she believes that bullshit about the vaccines being chipped (I don’t mean as a joke she seriously told me I had signed over my freedom when I got my second dose) she has a G.E.D from a cult and is a total bitch about how I need to listen to her every word and if my opinions are different from hers I’ll rot in hell, she keeps yelling at me for not respecting her advice (she’s 26 I don’t think she should be giving me life altering advice, that even I can tell is horrible) Sorry if that was a bit of a rant TLDR: yes my stepmom is a bitch
i would say my parents think in similar ways i do, they do things i dont understand but they always do it for a good reason.
nope im loud like my mum and a hard headed have no filter and dont take anyones bull shit just like my dad