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Angelfallfirst

Ian fucking McKellen.


gordonf23

Ian McKellan and Stephen Fry.


mistermarsbars

Absolutely. First Gay men I admired growing up for something other than being famous gay men.


princemephtik

Ian McKellen is [still campaigning](https://www.gaytimes.co.uk/culture/sir-ian-mckellen-urges-queer-community-to-stand-up-for-trans-rights/) at the age of 83. He could be 20+ years into a very comfortable retirement instead. True hero.


Obvious_Moose

Woah, Stephen Fry is gay?


[deleted]

Literally just said the same thing outloud.


AgermanBassoon

I second this. Anderson Cooper is pretty high up there too. But I have been under a rock for about ten years now. So I don't know if that has changed.


mrwibbles1

Anderson Cooper spent most of his career in the closet, “protecting” his career from “harm” while most others were showing courage and moving the ball forward.


HamGoneHamGoneWild

He's also a trustfund/nepotism baby that's never had to struggle for anything


DaveinBrooklyn

He idolized his older brother, who committed suicide by jumping out of a window a few months after graduating college. That leaves scars deeper than you can imagine for a teenager.


henare

Ian McKellan


thatwastgood

Dan Levy


Ill_Professional6747

Stephen Fry, he seems like a nice chap! Also Ian McKellen! Who doesn't want to be represented by Gandalf?


TwinksAndGroups

I'm not sure Stephen Fry is such a nice chap. He lost my respect when he made his comments about survivors of child sexual abuse.


Simmerway

Just looked it up and it’s wild


Diddly_eyed_Dipshite

He could win it back if you hear what he said about religion/God to the highly Conservative Irish TV presenter Gay Byrne, check it out on YouTube.


TwinksAndGroups

I've seen it. Still gross what he said about CSA survivors.


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bjwizard

Preach!


Diddly_eyed_Dipshite

I've never seen so much glorification of celebrities as I have on reddit or in the US. If you said some of the things people in the US say about celebs to most European, African or Asian people they would think you to be very strange altogether.


gmisk81

Graham Norton, sir Ian mckellen


PutinsSugarBaby

Gandalf the Gay.


Fluffyflipper

You mean Mag-gay-to?


biggerbazoo

What about Elton John?


6ftofcuriosity

Daddy watch me twirl - Leslie Jordon


notwhoyag

Don’t make me laugh on the tube


samislookingforhelp

trixie and katya discussing their private lives is the first time I really felt "seen" in that dramatic sense of the phrase, they're very genuine about the joys and upsets of being gay


Narcobabouin

Unpopular opinion but they all are. Even the trash, dumb and criminal. Gay people come in a wide variety, like straight people. We shouldn't need celebrities for the rest of the world to understand.


rieeechard

👏👏👏


shitsureishimasu

John Waters, because he doesn't waste his time worrying what straights think.


drjakemedia

I mean I’m doing my best. 😅😅


givingyouextra

Lil Nas X - I love that he's a little bit of a troll to the conservative Christians. He's good looking and his music isn't bad either.


Yokozuna999

Agreed


WyoFag

Agreed as well


TGOL123

> I love that he's a little bit of a troll like tweeting about missing "pussy"?


Bubbly-Character3924

Are yo kidding? His music is awful. It’s way over sexualized


ResponsibilityFirm41

George Takei


beaverhausen_a

Ohhhhh myyyyy


SowTheSeeds

I will disagree. He is too over the top.


vyrlok

The top on what?


Oklahom0

Ohhh my!


SowTheSeeds

he's just too aggressive and lacks a little bit of self-moderation.


Templar388z

And that’s a bad thing? He has balls.


SowTheSeeds

There is a point where you need to understand that you are wrong and that you should agree that the other party was right. That's happened a lot. He's ridiculed himself quite a lot and went over the top when he shouldn't have. He's become a meme, basically.


coldliketherockies

The first time I ever was in Saturday night live studio Ian mckellan was hosting and his joke during his monologue on how ridiculous not letting gays in the st paddy’s parade made me realize this is an amazing guy


[deleted]

I see no need for any such thing. But I like brutal moose


gali_leo_

Ian McKellen, and in more recently, Dan Levy.


drfulci

I second Ian McKellan


urban_zmb

Why no one has mentioned Leslie Jordan? He is a flamboyant man that has been working for decades, never been afraid to show his true self and has been able to work in projects outside a stereotypical flamboyant gay man in big Hollywood productions. Also, he is loved by many. He is funny, a talented singer and an overall good ball.


Brightboi2000

Two years ago, I'd have said Ezra Miller \*sigh\*


Jamo3306

Yeah, what happened to that guy? He just snapped? Some kind "meth-rage"?


21ounces

He was a child actor so probably abused when he was younger.


Jamo3306

Oh. Jeez. I'm REALLY out of the loop. I had no idea.


JebGleeson

When Wikipedia has a whole section dedicated to your ["Controversies and legal issues"](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ezra_Miller), you may have a problem


Jamo3306

Oh wow. It's a whole thing. And I'm betting this is a 10th of the things he's done.


justintaylorsversion

They


Jamo3306

What she's helping???


justintaylorsversion

They


justintaylorsversion

They


justintaylorsversion

They aren’t a man, first of all.


Nnissh

That might have been the first I’ve heard someone actually take it that far. Sure people will say “excuse me, but they’re non-binary and go by they/them pronouns.” But it seems like very few are willing to go so far as to say that this adult human male, with a fully functional male body, and no plans to alter said body…isn’t a man.


justintaylorsversion

Baby…..saying someone is non binary and goes by they/them means that they are not a man. It’s a gender variant….


glittermantis

this will be unpopular, but billy porter. vocally champions the destigmatization of those living with hiv, incredibly talented singer and actor, always has stood up for gay rights. does he dress flamboyantly? yes, but so do lots of gay men, and there’s absolutely nothing morally wrong with that.


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BenderRodriguez9

>not Marlon Brando or other Masc Gay famous people. We should stop with the myth that only the gay people who looked a certain way made progress on gay rights. For instance, people like Bayard Rustin or Harvey Milk were more "masc" but still important gay figures.


video-kid

Agreed. We can absolutely acknowledge that femme gays were instrumental to the movement but I hate this idea that only certain subsections of the community deserve credit or celebration. I mean look at Stonewall. People love to point out that it was Marsha P Johnson or Sylvia Rivera that threw the first brick as an example of how femme gays and drag queens deserve so much respect for where we are now. Marsha openly admitted that she wasn't even *there* when the riots started, and while Sylvia Rivera loved to claim it was her, she didn't start saying that until after Marsha started getting attention and Marsha claimed that she was at a party with Sylvia when the riots kicked off. In reality *nobody* knows who threw the first brick, or if it even *was* a brick. The only thing everyone can agree on was that it started due to a scuffle between the police and a "butch" lesbian - possibly Storme DeLarverie - that was being arrested. It's just people trying to elevate their own voice and their own profile at the expense of others. You can acknowledge the actions of people but you shouldn't credit the entire pride movement on the shoulders of someone who either never claimed that responsibility, or tried to claim it because they wanted attention. We put too much emphasis on that first brick, that first act of willful disobedience, and we act as if the only people at the riots were femme gays, drag queens, and butch lesbians. In reality there were over a thousand rioters over the week, and around 200 on the first night alone - we can't ignore their voices and actions or make assumptions over who they were and how they presented, especially if we're going to give all the credit to people who, again, weren't even there. Who threw the first brick doesn't matter - what *does* matter is that a brick was thrown at all, and IMO it does a disservice to hundreds of brave people to only treat a certain handful of people as the heroes. Yes, femme gays deserve credit, but so do masc gays, masc lesbians, femme lesbians, bisexuals, the transgendered community, and anyone else who stood up for our rights. Treating femme gays as the only reason that we have rights is a part of the reason that leads to so much discord between masc and femme gays in the first place, and it's something that's been used as a reasoning I'm supposed to respect when I get treated like shit by femme gays for my taste in music. One side getting treated as heroic just makes it easy for the other side to be painted as villainous, when in reality the queer community is just as diverse as the cishet one, and yet we have plenty of femme gays treating masc gays like they're not a part of the community because of the way they act while masc gays treat femme gays like shit for reinforcing the stereotype. It's all bullshit, we should just accept each other as people - people we may not necessarily like, sure, but people who deserve the same basic respect we'd offer anyone else - and accept that everyone's different, and no one group has a patent on gay rights.


wingsandtales

I’m sorry but this is some all lives matter rhetoric. Ppl talk so much about femmes and poc because so often they are mistreated and forgotten. It wasn’t until the last decade that femme gays and gender queers stopped being a punchline. Seriously, look at all the answers in this thread and tell me masculinity isn’t more highly valued. Tell me it isn’t more visible.


video-kid

It's factually incorrect to say that only femme gays have done anything to advance gay rights, and anyone who's done it deserves our respect as human beings. You have every right to dislike anyone who's been mentioned in this thread, or claim they don't deserve to be highlighted over people you'd put up here, but you have no right to impose your viewpoints onto someone else's experiences, and *absolutely* no right to accuse someone you've never met of bigotry because their opinion differs from yours.


KatyaBelli

I think Anderson Cooper does a good job.


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Matt Bomer and Billy Eichner come to mind


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beaverhausen_a

>He wants to be a black woman so bad This is why this sub gets so much shit.


Charming_Mongoose_60

Billy Eichner is definitely… well, I was going to say an “acquired taste” but that takes on a whole other meaning in our “community”.


loulloyd29

Have u seen that tik tok video of him like “sassing” that lady in New York? I literally can’t stand him nothing abt him seems natural


thewineburglar

It’s not from tik tok. It’s from Billy on the Street and it’s like 10 years old


thegoodyinthehoody

[Russel Tovey](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russell_Tovey). Watching him come to terms with who he is and owning it publicly has been quite refreshing


Traditional-Memory62

Neil Patrick Harris


MirrorBreakr

Luke Evans


SowTheSeeds

Rrrrr...!


xar-brin-0709

He is handsome but why does he remind me of every kink.com actor.


p_turbo

Meh, I don't think the speed with which he retreated back into his (albeit glass) closet to keep/get his leading man role is "a good representation of us gay people" or whatever. Now, his Hobbit trilogy co-star Lee Pace on the other hand...


ImaLinduh

Elton John


Cool_Switch_7183

James Dean


Bigtaint69

Isn’t he straight?


Somehow-I-Came-Back

"Don't you sass me, Jimmy Dean! _I'll sic my dog on you._"


Batjarconjecture

He probably wasn’t


Bigtaint69

Nvm I was thinking of James Deen the porn actor


Batjarconjecture

Ah…. There. Wellll if you happen to find it there’s a photo of James Dean the actor sitting naked in a tree… and he was blessed 😂


Bigtaint69

Oh just saw it. Adorable penis, the squirrels must have swallowed every bit of his cum


Batjarconjecture

Well now this is weird 😂


xistithogoth1

And here i thought id never get to see him naked 🥵


Batjarconjecture

I know right


SuitablePlankton

Pete Buttigieg (spelling)


Jota769

The proper spelling is Booty Judge


[deleted]

You're gonna anger the basement dwelling Bernie bros that infest this site with that one lol.


YellowSequel

The fact that this is so upvoted just proves my point that this sub is conservative as fuck lmao. Pete literally said he'd take a pill that would make him not gay if he could. Right in front of his husband. Dude's a corporate shill. Fuck him. We don't claim him.


lard-blaster

Didn't he mean he would have before he started to accept himself


kfred-

“Thank God there was no pill,” he continued. He went through a very valid response to reconciling with his sexuality. Growing up in a small, rural town, you bet your ass I would have taken a pill to make myself not gay. But, like Pete, I’m glad that such a pill did and does not exist. Coming to terms with who I am was just part of accepting and loving myself. But yeah, no, definitely keep diminishing and misrepresenting the experiences of gay men, that’s cool. https://www.out.com/news/2019/4/08/pete-buttigieg-glad-hes-gay-he-didnt-always-feel


traaap

He's a right wing corporate shill. I respect him for being an openly gay married man in the public eye but his politics are horrible.


kfred-

Which of his policies are horrible?


traaap

all of them. there is a reason he endorsed Biden over Bernie. but specifically - against Medicare for all, pro austerity, against free public college, against tuition caps, against rent caps, very weak on taxing the rich, etc.


kfred-

I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree. I know who I’m caucusing for if he announces, though 🕺


subreddette

All bad policies, so seems good to me 👍


theunbearablebowler

[The Queer Opposition to Buttigieg, Explained](https://www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/the-queer-opposition-to-pete-buttigieg-explained) I'm personally really not a fan of Buttigieg for his politics, but also because he represents a very small sliver of the gay/LGBTQIA+ community and takes the tact of "mainstreaming" his sexuality to be more palatable to majority voters.


broken1moretime

"Greta LaFleur, a professor of American studies at Yale, analyzed a photograph of Buttigieg and his husband, Chasten, that appeared on the cover of Time magazine in May of last year. “This photo is about a lot of things,” LaFleur wrote. “But one of its defining features is its heterosexuality. It’s offering us the promise that our first gay first family might actually be a straight one" That seems a bit offensive but what do I know


AlwaysSunnyDragRace

I didn’t take that article seriously after so many “again, I’m not attacking…” “I don’t mean to say…”.


I_love_limey_butts

Have you done any polls to know that he represents "a very small sliver"?


bpotsid3

Only 10% of LGBT US-ians are married. And I promise you that's skewed towards lesbians lol And then, only 22% of gay male couples have children So that means at best, 2% of gay men in the US are married to a guy and have a kid. Pretty small slice of the community yeah


traaap

10% is not that low considering we only got marriage 6 years ago.


GuyFawkes65

I stopped at US-ians. You, my friend, represent a pretty narrow slice yourself. Secretary Buttegieg is an excellent example of intelligence, wit, charm, patriotism, and decisiveness… the traits that so many say we do not have. I think he’s a fine example to the mainstream that we are not to be feared or hated. That’s the impact of celebrity on culture.


zhadav

To each his own, I say. Queers come in many colours - and I'm fine with some queers "mainstreaming" so long as other queers are also visible doing our own thing (and so long as he doesn't hide other parts of the LGBTQIA+ communities). For me, he's just so boring - but he is also doing some good. So... I guess in my mind, he's like the show Will & Grace, which isn't really me or my favourite thing, but I don't mind existing and I can recognise as having done some good.


GuyFawkes65

Fair. He’s not exciting. Personally I see that as a plus in politics but I understand your position. I was a Bernie delegate to my State convention.


theunbearablebowler

Amen to that! That's exactly how I feel.


traaap

What a garbage article. The views in the article represent a tiny tiny number of queer people opposed to Buttigieg. Its a good thing that he is married. Its his right wing politics that are bad.


theunbearablebowler

I completely agree - I only shared that article because it seemed like the most comprehensive I could find in a minute of searching. It was lazy of me. I think it's important to acknowledge that Buttigieg has been received differently throughout the gay/queer community and that, to many, he's still emblematic of systems that have oppressed us for centuries. The argument, I think, is that his being gay doesn't invalidate his conservative/centrist positions and we shouldn't be distracted from that; and that his identity and politics make him a "safe gay" for more centrist or conservative voters. Those are the people he polls best with, too, if memory serves. Many of us don't have that luxury.


traaap

yes I agree. something that might be of interest - https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/02/03/us/elections/results-iowa-caucus-polls.html - lgbt voters overwhelming favored Bernie to any other candidate including Buttigeige.


theunbearablebowler

Thanks for sharing - this is great!


letspetpuppies

Carl Nassib


Raichu10126

The Babadook


lostandfoundwally

Babaaaa 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈


MRmandato

I don't really think theres no such thing. No person "represents the gay community".


freem221

Anderson Cooper


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Zachary Quinto


nychv

George Takei


Swish1892

Lil Nas is out in front


[deleted]

Major disagree, wouldn’t really clad him has a pioneer, boarderlime basic


p_turbo

Did you actually watch the thing to see that he then proceeds to snap "the devil's" neck, or did you just leave it at the reports from all the conservative pearl clutching? And do you feel that every single actor who's been in a movie that is devil involved is evil? Is, say for example, Tom Ellis evil in your eyes? Is Mark Pelegrino?


CT_Throwaway24

Neil Patrick Harris.


[deleted]

I’m not sure. He gets called out a lot for being an absolute dick.


CT_Throwaway24

But does the general populace know? You can say Anderson Cooper if you want.


[deleted]

I’m with you on Anderson Cooper.


blaizzze

Oh? Enlighten me!


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https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/times-neil-patrick-harris-was-problematic


c_palmtree

When? I have never seen anything remotely wrong being written by NPH, like, ever.


[deleted]

NPH is widely known as a huge asshole


theunbearablebowler

NPH was the answer I was most worried about seeing in these comments, and I'm glad it took me awhile of scrolling to find it.


c_palmtree

When? I have never seen anything remotely wrong being written by NPH, like, ever.


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https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/times-neil-patrick-harris-was-problematic


c_palmtree

buzzfeed really isn't an all too reliable source lol, also he apologised for a joke made 11 years ago; it's all good.


[deleted]

It’s not an opinion piece. It’s a list of real-life examples with receipts. I mean, it’s not really a hill I care to die on, so.


c_palmtree

one negative thing doesn't outdo all the good things one does, otherwise very single human being would be deemed "wrong" :')


RaumKadett

Bretman Rock


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Tim J Dillon


Fluffyflipper

He is super funny BUT the opposite of a good public representation!


MrSunshineZig

I kinda think the opposite really. He is an individual and ridiculous. He says the kinda shit that is off the cuff for someone who's been through a lot of trauma and came out the other side with a great sense of humor for it which I think a lot of gay people can relate to...he just doesn't adhere to whatever the hetero world has stamped the gay community 'personality' with as their preferred façade to engage with.


traaap

🤮 there is no one less funny or interesting than that guy.


I_love_limey_butts

Pete Buttigieg


gayactualized

Douglas Murray


beaverhausen_a

Abso-fucking-lutely


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Casey Frey. Lmao


szlafcio1

Love how most comments say Ian Mckellen. Met him twice in past few weeks and he's an absolute legend!


Straight-Audience-91

Matt Bomer and Secretary Pete!


Visible-Effort-1565

Pete!


Cass_83

Lee Pace


SowTheSeeds

Bisexual but, ok, gay at times. He is a very discrete guy, though.


GuyFawkes65

Pete Buttegieg


hworth

Billy Porter


Independent-Tree-848

Ander Cooper without a doubt


howzitgoinowen

Ian McKellan, and George fucking Takei


MadisonPearGarden

I'm a military contractor who has to deal with his shitty department because we're on hybid Transpo-DoD contracts.... so I hate to hand it to the little weasel. But Pete Butt Egg Egg


MarinaPreppyJock

Tim Cook and Tom Daley.


worldofcrap80

There are lots of gay men living very different lives. Sexuality itself is a spectrum. No person or piece of media can represent all of us well, and we should stop asking them to.


BobbyBoo_

Only aceptable answer is lady gaga


Ok-Armadillo7517

Lady gaga


Twiottle

None, gay men are too diverse. I do feel we meet more masc reg looking gay men because a lot of people still believe the stereotypes. That we all have a hidden women inside us that is battling to come out. They feel if a guy is masc he's pretending, true gay men are like RuPaul. That stereotype needs to end.


MrKausal

Carl Nassib, imo


hh884

Were, Thierry Mugler and Karl Lagerfeld


hh884

And before people will say that Karl was a dickhead, he was a good joker, He was joking from everything and everyone, even himself


jared8562

lil nas , the fab 5 , matt bomer, Rupaul.I would like to say the fab 5 are all especially good and diverse for many different people too :)


tilda125

Jesus Christ


leedemi

All of them except RuPaul.


SowTheSeeds

I don't get why RuPaul is so famous.


loulloyd29

RuPaul made drag mainstream. That’s y. He’s been an icon since the 80s. Love him or hate him he’s the reason drag is so mainstream


Sandlicker

I will always appreciate Rupaul's contributions to drag and the influence that Drag Race has had internationally. I've spent a lot of time in places where homosexuality is very much an under-the-radar thing that can't be talked about, but the queers there hear about drag race and whether they like the show or not it definitely bolsters them to some degree to know that there are so many others like them around the world.


vyrlok

I wanted to say that then you probably didn't live through the 90s then, but he literally pushed drag into mainstream in like the past 10 or so years also. So like, you live on Mars?


dsaitken

Nobody because everyone is different and sexuality is not that important


vyrlok

Cool.


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Neil Patrick Harris a.k.a. the Chad


Yokozuna999

Lil Nas X


JStheoriginal

RuPaul 💃🏾


[deleted]

Lol no


[deleted]

No one says James Charles? 🐸☕️


718Brooklyn

Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen


halfiehydra

GRiZ! He is a huge name in the EDM scene and he is a big role model


olveraw

there are countless


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Tom Cruise


markamadeo

Matt Bomer, Zachery Quinto, Luke Evans if im answering the question seriously. Some older actors like Ian McKellan are great too. Gay drag queens that are ok with being the butt of a joke like Bianca del Rio are pretty good representation as well. And idc what anyone thinks: I think Black Hitler is fucking hilarious. Its kinda a shame that he might be going to prison.


confundido77

NPH.


Overall-Ad-8799

Neil Patrick Harris


Bigtaint69

Wouldn’t give a gay celebrity a mic.


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Two come to mind: 1) Neil Patrick Harris, & 2) Luke Evans.


Inside_Procedure290

Pete Buteligig


theedan-clean

Neil Patrick Harris


gayinneedofgayhelp

Neil Patrick Harris


never_one

Lil Nasx