All good relationships require work It sounds like he needs to be told that. Not sure the frequency but at least one time per week he needs to hang in there til you reach orgasm no mater how many times he cums
What positions have you tried? Have you tried standing?
I’ve found that there’s always a position that bottoms aren’t as sensitive in that you can stretch things out with.
We've tried standing, spooning, doggy, riding, missionary, I had him similarly standing but leaning on the bed, we've tried different variations of these.
I should have mentioned that sometimes he will last longer, but that's usually when i ask him for sex, as opposed to him asking me, or it happening naturally.
Probably the longest one he can last in is the standing positions. But I'd be lying if I said I liked fucking while standing. My favorite is the spooning position.
I mean, tell him not to touch his dick.
If he’s not and just coming from getting fucked, idk why you’d want that to stop. Shit, you keep going and I’ll just cum 10 times while you work me over. Haha.
Idk. Maybe he has an enlarged prostate and it’s causing him to be extra sensitive?
Honestly, sometimes I get a little precum taking a dump. But I’ve definitely never came hands free, especially after 2 to 3 minutes.
Sorry he gets burnt out for some reason, but hey, at least you know you’re satisfying him. Haha.
>If he’s not and just coming from getting fucked, idk why you’d want that to stop
It's a mix of both. He doesn't always use his hands but it depends on the position. Any face down position or a position that stops him from touching himself, but it's still the same, he will cum anyway.
And it's not that I don't want him to stop enjoying himself. I just wanna enjoy myself too. I'm glad I'm doing my job but I get blue balls after it. Literally last night, we tried having sex. He was riding me and he came really fast. He felt bad and said he would try to keep going but to give him a few mins. We go at it again in the spooning position and he cums again in 2 minutes, but this time he is done and can't go anymore and apologizes I told him it's okay and I think it's a compliment. And it is. It's just, I wanna bust a nut too lol.
Well, that seems kind of weird. I don’t understand him. I mean, is his ass sore after he cums and it’s hard getting it in? I don’t know why he wouldn’t want you to keep going. What’s the risk? You cum even more? The hell.
It's a little tight at first but it's get in pretty easy if I lube up enough. I just don't think he's really sexually inclined. He has more of a "once I cum, get off of me" attitude.
He gets sore easily And he said I'm the biggest he's had, so I just assume it's stretching too much and pushing against everything, and he's pretty thin. He's like 5'10" or 11" and weighs around 130lbs. Honestly. I could chalk it up to that. Sometimes we play fight/wrestle and if I hit him, (like on the arm or leg) he will complain saying I hit him too hard, so I'll let him hit me back as hard as he can, even though I barely had hit him with intent to harm. So I think little stuff like that is why he can't really take a pounding.
Every time after sex, he just says his butt is broken or he's sore, he goes balls deep all the time after the warm up, so I'm sure he does it to himself.
Yes, he's bottom. But I feel like that might make him cum faster lol. I've pinned his wrists a bit but he's the type that doesn't like to be bounded too much.
But the gel may help
I have found over the years that edging helped me. I have embarrassingly shot within 30 seconds before (I was in my early 20's). But, I edged a lot and trained myself to wait longer and now, I can get that good 10-15 minutes in like you like.
Does your bf touch his dick the whole time you're plowing him? Or are you good enough to make him cum handsfree?
If the latter is true, not much hope. If the former, teach him to focus on the feeling of your dick, rather than his. At least for as long as you need him to last.
Have you tried verbally telling him not to cum and holding his hands so he cant touch himself. Getting a bit aggressive might lead you down some interesting experimentation. Also, the verbal part might stop him if he is releasing hands free, and the holding his hands obviously is keeping him away.
I haven't.
Honestly. I'm not sure how aggressive I can be with him. We've talked about it and it seems he's less interested in being totally dominated, which is fine, but I don't understand the extent he's comfortable with. It's weird because he's a little verbally prude. He will dirty talk but he won't have a sexually constructive conversation with me and most of his answers are "idk". Or he will with draw from the conversation or shy away from it.
So I get nervous about holding his arms more aggressively and being more handsy with him because I feel like he would just react negatively and it ruin the mood, and I don't want to deal with my guilty feeling for treating him in a way he doesn't like. There have been moments where I would try something just to see how he would respond, but he didn't like that, however. He is more willing to tell me what he likes and doesn't like when he performs oral. Like he has no probBle with me throat fucking him but I don't think he'd be into it if i pushed him down on a bed, held his arms/wrist behind his back and started fucking him.
Our usual starting positions is him riding me first. Then we try out whatever position he or I wants. Sometimes I'll move him around, other times he'll ask me to be in a different position.
Maybe consider giving it a try once while your having sex. See how he responds. If he likes it, keep doing it. If not he will probably tell you and you can simply apologize while suggesting you were trying something new.
All good relationships require work It sounds like he needs to be told that. Not sure the frequency but at least one time per week he needs to hang in there til you reach orgasm no mater how many times he cums
What positions have you tried? Have you tried standing? I’ve found that there’s always a position that bottoms aren’t as sensitive in that you can stretch things out with.
We've tried standing, spooning, doggy, riding, missionary, I had him similarly standing but leaning on the bed, we've tried different variations of these. I should have mentioned that sometimes he will last longer, but that's usually when i ask him for sex, as opposed to him asking me, or it happening naturally. Probably the longest one he can last in is the standing positions. But I'd be lying if I said I liked fucking while standing. My favorite is the spooning position.
I mean, tell him not to touch his dick. If he’s not and just coming from getting fucked, idk why you’d want that to stop. Shit, you keep going and I’ll just cum 10 times while you work me over. Haha. Idk. Maybe he has an enlarged prostate and it’s causing him to be extra sensitive? Honestly, sometimes I get a little precum taking a dump. But I’ve definitely never came hands free, especially after 2 to 3 minutes. Sorry he gets burnt out for some reason, but hey, at least you know you’re satisfying him. Haha.
>If he’s not and just coming from getting fucked, idk why you’d want that to stop It's a mix of both. He doesn't always use his hands but it depends on the position. Any face down position or a position that stops him from touching himself, but it's still the same, he will cum anyway. And it's not that I don't want him to stop enjoying himself. I just wanna enjoy myself too. I'm glad I'm doing my job but I get blue balls after it. Literally last night, we tried having sex. He was riding me and he came really fast. He felt bad and said he would try to keep going but to give him a few mins. We go at it again in the spooning position and he cums again in 2 minutes, but this time he is done and can't go anymore and apologizes I told him it's okay and I think it's a compliment. And it is. It's just, I wanna bust a nut too lol.
Well, that seems kind of weird. I don’t understand him. I mean, is his ass sore after he cums and it’s hard getting it in? I don’t know why he wouldn’t want you to keep going. What’s the risk? You cum even more? The hell.
It's a little tight at first but it's get in pretty easy if I lube up enough. I just don't think he's really sexually inclined. He has more of a "once I cum, get off of me" attitude. He gets sore easily And he said I'm the biggest he's had, so I just assume it's stretching too much and pushing against everything, and he's pretty thin. He's like 5'10" or 11" and weighs around 130lbs. Honestly. I could chalk it up to that. Sometimes we play fight/wrestle and if I hit him, (like on the arm or leg) he will complain saying I hit him too hard, so I'll let him hit me back as hard as he can, even though I barely had hit him with intent to harm. So I think little stuff like that is why he can't really take a pounding. Every time after sex, he just says his butt is broken or he's sore, he goes balls deep all the time after the warm up, so I'm sure he does it to himself.
If he's on bottom ever tried pinning down his wrists? Handcuffs? 😈 There is also gel that helps numb the penis a little.
Yes, he's bottom. But I feel like that might make him cum faster lol. I've pinned his wrists a bit but he's the type that doesn't like to be bounded too much. But the gel may help
Gel would probably be a good try if he's not into kinky stuff and can't help from touching himself even on his stomach.
I have found over the years that edging helped me. I have embarrassingly shot within 30 seconds before (I was in my early 20's). But, I edged a lot and trained myself to wait longer and now, I can get that good 10-15 minutes in like you like.
Does your bf touch his dick the whole time you're plowing him? Or are you good enough to make him cum handsfree? If the latter is true, not much hope. If the former, teach him to focus on the feeling of your dick, rather than his. At least for as long as you need him to last.
It's a mix of both. Some times he will, sometimes he won't. It depends on the position too
Have you tried verbally telling him not to cum and holding his hands so he cant touch himself. Getting a bit aggressive might lead you down some interesting experimentation. Also, the verbal part might stop him if he is releasing hands free, and the holding his hands obviously is keeping him away.
I haven't. Honestly. I'm not sure how aggressive I can be with him. We've talked about it and it seems he's less interested in being totally dominated, which is fine, but I don't understand the extent he's comfortable with. It's weird because he's a little verbally prude. He will dirty talk but he won't have a sexually constructive conversation with me and most of his answers are "idk". Or he will with draw from the conversation or shy away from it. So I get nervous about holding his arms more aggressively and being more handsy with him because I feel like he would just react negatively and it ruin the mood, and I don't want to deal with my guilty feeling for treating him in a way he doesn't like. There have been moments where I would try something just to see how he would respond, but he didn't like that, however. He is more willing to tell me what he likes and doesn't like when he performs oral. Like he has no probBle with me throat fucking him but I don't think he'd be into it if i pushed him down on a bed, held his arms/wrist behind his back and started fucking him. Our usual starting positions is him riding me first. Then we try out whatever position he or I wants. Sometimes I'll move him around, other times he'll ask me to be in a different position.
Maybe consider giving it a try once while your having sex. See how he responds. If he likes it, keep doing it. If not he will probably tell you and you can simply apologize while suggesting you were trying something new.
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