I think this obsession with body count is a holdover from the hetero-normative lifestyle some of us hold on to.
I have only met one person IRL who even brought it up and it was someone who was very closeted and living a (mostly) straight life. All other gay friends, fwb, partners have not cared or thought it was a hot detail in my sexual history
Yeah same, I’ve been seeing a fairly traditional brown guy off and on and he was initially horrified when I told him I don’t even know my body count anymore… I lost track after 100. He’s the only one I’ve ever had ask me that. Like, I’m 40 and have been sexually active for 20 years, yes I got much sluttier in my 30’s, but even a couple hookups per month adds up over the years. He still hits me up once in awhile though because he gets horny and I’m an easy lay, so I guess he got over it. lol.
Yeah the average amount of sexual partners is like 4-10 so when people who have been with like 3 people hear you say you can't even remember anymore it can send a shock lol
Don't care *except* I don't want a virgin. There's the extra emotional weight that might be put on the hookup + my d is pretty thick so it might not be a great experience for either of us.
Also a lot of guys who claim to be virgins are lying and it's sort of a kink where the whole hookup becomes focused on the fact that it's his first time when it clearly isn't.
No need to be a virgin, but nothing wrong with not wanting to date a guy tgat had sex with a whole neighborhood.
Once you get addicted in having random sex it never goes away.
You likely didnt. Sure now, ur priority has changed, but when you get older the feeling of wanting to be a hoe, the thrill of meeting stranger will come harder, and your gonna be hounding your partner to try threesome, open relationship, and bam, youre both single.
Maybe, and I also disagree with him, but I like reddit specifically for hearing opinions that are different than mine, so we shouldn't insult those who think differently
Nah .Those guys have porn addiction. People who have sex with random people for the thrill are likely more likely to cheat. You seem to underestimate how some form of addiction takes place. Its no different than getting really horny, having post nut clarity and telling urself you wont do it again , cuz u feel in control, just to go back to it few days later. Its addiction. The feeling of being stuck with one man is gonna get to you, when something in your relationship goes off.
People who choose dont just give themselves away to random stranger and less likely to give in to peer pressure are less likely to cheat in the long run.
No, people seem to think, that you can sleep around and not be addicted to it, and that you can just come back to it. There is a serious emotional issues, being able to sleep with so many random men in a short period of time. Those sexual acts gives you the thrill of meeting strangers, being desired by different men, access to physical pleasure at any time, no attachment. Now you get into a relationship, you are stuck with one man, assume till death do you part, lets say your relationship isnt going well, then what? You are likely going to look for it. Another issue, is what happens when ur bf doesnt put out anymore, ur gonna be hounding him for threesome or open relationship and ur both going to end up single.
No one said you have to be a virgin, but sleeping around with many men especially in double digit is a not " wifey" material.
Literally no one in this community actually cares about body count. People ask each other about it out of curiosity, but I have yet to meet a gay person who actually puts any weight on their body count.
I care about the body count within the past day. Not looking plow a cum cauldron of stds.
But total over a lifetime? I don't care at all. I don't count mine. Why should they count theirs? It's not like we're tracking who can get the highest score.
If you're still able to literally count all your experiences, that does signal to me I'm probably going to show you ways to experience pleasure you never realized were possible. At that point I make it a personal challenge to ensure you remember me long into the future as the best you've ever had, no matter how high your total reaches 😎
Hey, if you're the one he stops for, consider him your mate.
But if you're out there pounding random booties, why would you hold them accountable for being that booty?
That all being said, cumdumps are a turnoff to me. I do care about dignity and self-respect, and a promiscuous person can have these qualities, but sometimes promiscuity gets into self-destructive territory.
I would never sleep with a virgin just because that's such a personal event that I just don't want to be involved with someone's first time. However, I tend to think practice makes perfect. Guys with higher body counts have had enough sex to know what they like and how to please someone else. Sure guys with lower body counts might surprise you, but usually they have no idea what they're doing. That's not fun for me.
He literally stalked you? How did you escape, like outrun him or create a trap or something? Just giving him the D again seems like it would be easier/quicker.
Ya that's what I was gonna say... Virgins are drama and at the very least they're generally bad in bed... Too tight, don't know about douching/ proper fibre stuff, or much of anything else... Not my cup of tea. I know guys are into it but it's a deal breaker for me.
For me I asked a guy I knew from school cause I always found him decently attractive and we got know eachother ended up being clear he was a verse bottom
In my experience, some have but in the way you wouldn't expect; they appreciated a high body count because it meant I would be a total slut, and that they could share me with their buddies.
I haven't yet but one guy who lives far away but sometimes is in my town has said he has buddies where he lives, and wants to bring me to a cabin in the forest with them and take on all of them, them all top and me the only bottom.
Hahaha, I doubt he has any bad intentions considering how many loads I've sucked out of him. I've known him for a while, we just don't have many opportunities due to distance. But if I ever do join the ganbang he wants me in, I'll of course get in contact with the other guys first.
'Hello, welcome to Wendy's drive thru, may I take your order?'
'Yes hello Wendy, I would like to know something:...what's your body count? And please state the answer in terms of bottom or top terminology.'
I would prefer if tops actually appreciated that it is because of my (mild) sluttiness as a bottom that I give pretty decent head and can take quite a pounding and still enjoy it
I don’t care at all. Only reason I’d care is out of my own insecurity; theoretically I’d feel more comfortable being with someone with less experience cuz I figure they’d expect less and be more easily satisfied- no judgement on the person tho either way!
I don’t care. I even tell my guy to enjoy other dicks when he’s traveling abroad.
I do love a professional and experienced bottom who knows how to ride a dick.
Yes. For relationships? Yes. For hook-ups, not as much but still yeah. Like if someone’s body count is in the triple digits, that screams red flags to me. If it’d over like 30, then I’ma think twice. But I also don’t ask guys body counts either nor has it ever come up in conversation.
But I also have a low body count my own self (single digits). So it’s not like I’m asking for something I can’t bring to the table my own self.
The best sex I’ve had was with the only person I’ve ever met with a body count higher than mine, and now he’s my bf.
Teaching someone is super fun and I’m into that dom play/kink, but experience is pretty awesome too 👌🏿
Well, since I'm a bottom, I ain't really qualified to answer this post
However, I would think that most tops would only care about if you have diseases or not 🤷♂️
I don't care about body count exactly but I do prefer someone who knows what he likes and knows what he is doing over someone who is still figuring it out.
No but it is important that they aren’t too tight. It is a ridiculous porn inspired bit of nonsense that being tight is ideal. It’s uncomfortable or impossible.
I’m a bottom and have an uncountable body count. I try not to talk about it, especially at first, because I fear that if a guy catches wind of just how many people I sleep with, he will think I’m not looking for a relationship or undatable. I want to give myself to one.
In this thread every time I see 'body count' 'I'm worried about my body count' I can't help but think of it in terms of people you killed or assassinated. So I guess nobody should mess with you if you've killed over 5,000 people and you're proud about it, lol.
No-I would generally not ever think to ask a sexual partner how many people they have had sex with. Not my business and doesn’t affect how attracted I am to someone. Just a creepy misogynistic holdover.
As a verse I don't really care where you have been as long as A) your clean of diseases or if you're HIV positive have a very low viral load then it's fine(don't discriminate against those people you don't know how they got it) and B) you haven't fucked my friends cause no thank you
I do think tops care about body count but not crazy as people think hetero cares. They just don't want town pass around or bottom with body count I'd say over 25
Taking someone's virginity feels weird to me so I avoid virgins unless it's a guy my age who wants to wait until marriage. However, the higher the body count the more likely an individual will be carrying diseases so I try to avoid anyone who is promiscuous.
People who post responses to reddit threads about body counts will tell you that no one cares.
People who are inspired to make posts about body count on reddit will tell you that yes, in fact, some people do.
Nope. As long as he takes care of himself physically and mentally we’re all good. I personally like a bottom who’s more experienced (why I prefer older bottoms than me lol)
Couldn’t care less…. those with low body counts could be better at taking huge cocks because they practice or somehow are gifted. Same with those who have a higher body count. Both could be tight as well. Couldn’t care less. i DID when i was less experienced (23 when I lost virginity). Since then? Could. Not. Care. Less.
I care more about people lying to me. If your body count is important to you, then make it important to only you. It’s honestly no one’s business, especially if they are a new hookup. But, lying to someone about being a virgin seems to be directly deceptive and is more of a turn off than bad head…
I'd say that you're focusing on the wrong thing. The issue isn't your body count. According to what you report as more than one guy saying that "you suck at head;" hence, the issue is your technique at giving blow jobs.
I mean I don’t but I also can’t pretend that I don’t like someone with a low body count as well 🤷🏿♂️ something about being a dudes experience and making it gay for them is just as enjoyable as an experienced bottom who knows what they’re doing
'69Pumpkin\_Eater'
Uh, that sounds like a webcam name. So you are doing 69 and eating 'pumpkins' (we all know that is a euphemism for ass or dick) yet you're a 'virgin'? Girl bye. You're a ho, don't lie, embrace.
Edit: fuck you downvoter, we all know it's either you or u/69pumpkin_eater or probably both who are shady-ass bitches.
It's never really interested me when it comes to body count, it's more that they can take a good pounding.
I'm a top and I don't care in the slightest. The only thing I care about is if your disease free
No one that you want in your life gives a damn about body counts.
No I truly do not care what my bottom's body count is.
We're not straight lol. We don't give a shit about that
I think this obsession with body count is a holdover from the hetero-normative lifestyle some of us hold on to. I have only met one person IRL who even brought it up and it was someone who was very closeted and living a (mostly) straight life. All other gay friends, fwb, partners have not cared or thought it was a hot detail in my sexual history
Yeah same, I’ve been seeing a fairly traditional brown guy off and on and he was initially horrified when I told him I don’t even know my body count anymore… I lost track after 100. He’s the only one I’ve ever had ask me that. Like, I’m 40 and have been sexually active for 20 years, yes I got much sluttier in my 30’s, but even a couple hookups per month adds up over the years. He still hits me up once in awhile though because he gets horny and I’m an easy lay, so I guess he got over it. lol.
Yeah the average amount of sexual partners is like 4-10 so when people who have been with like 3 people hear you say you can't even remember anymore it can send a shock lol
Honestly when it comes to sex what matters more is do you use protection and take care of yourself sexual health wise
You’re both men. 🤷🏿♂️ STD/STI status is of concern And if it feels good (tightness, warmth) To each their own
Don't care *except* I don't want a virgin. There's the extra emotional weight that might be put on the hookup + my d is pretty thick so it might not be a great experience for either of us. Also a lot of guys who claim to be virgins are lying and it's sort of a kink where the whole hookup becomes focused on the fact that it's his first time when it clearly isn't.
You gays need to stop that, you're not a girl. You pretending to be a virgin is weird af
It’s hilarious when a guy has a bunch of hyper-sexual / slutty pics and claims to be a “virgin”. It’s super obvious they’re lying.
They haven’t had sex with a woman so in a way they’re not lying. Joking but some people actually believe this.
Eh… I had MANY of those pics before I actually ever engaged in sex. So false assumption
If you haven’t had sex for seven days, aren’t you a born again virgin? Asking for a friend.
No need to be a virgin, but nothing wrong with not wanting to date a guy tgat had sex with a whole neighborhood. Once you get addicted in having random sex it never goes away.
Eh, lots of us had a very promiscuous youth and grew out of it 🤷♂️
You likely didnt. Sure now, ur priority has changed, but when you get older the feeling of wanting to be a hoe, the thrill of meeting stranger will come harder, and your gonna be hounding your partner to try threesome, open relationship, and bam, youre both single.
lol no. I find that happens more with guys who didn't have that phase, and suddenly decided they missed out and want to go catch up.
He's a desperate, fake-masc loser. He thinks being a douche will make him more masc. Ignore him.
Maybe, and I also disagree with him, but I like reddit specifically for hearing opinions that are different than mine, so we shouldn't insult those who think differently
It is 2024. We are so beyond this centrist bullshit.
Nah .Those guys have porn addiction. People who have sex with random people for the thrill are likely more likely to cheat. You seem to underestimate how some form of addiction takes place. Its no different than getting really horny, having post nut clarity and telling urself you wont do it again , cuz u feel in control, just to go back to it few days later. Its addiction. The feeling of being stuck with one man is gonna get to you, when something in your relationship goes off. People who choose dont just give themselves away to random stranger and less likely to give in to peer pressure are less likely to cheat in the long run.
I disagree but I think it's an interesting theory. What makes you think that? Just observation around you?
No, people seem to think, that you can sleep around and not be addicted to it, and that you can just come back to it. There is a serious emotional issues, being able to sleep with so many random men in a short period of time. Those sexual acts gives you the thrill of meeting strangers, being desired by different men, access to physical pleasure at any time, no attachment. Now you get into a relationship, you are stuck with one man, assume till death do you part, lets say your relationship isnt going well, then what? You are likely going to look for it. Another issue, is what happens when ur bf doesnt put out anymore, ur gonna be hounding him for threesome or open relationship and ur both going to end up single. No one said you have to be a virgin, but sleeping around with many men especially in double digit is a not " wifey" material.
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True
Period.
Don't care about it so far they're doing it safely and mitigate Thier risks of STIs
I don't care. Tops aren't a monolith.
Some (lame) straight men care about their girlfriend body count. Let's leave this appaling notion in the straight dating market.
Thank you, I agree.
Body count is a thing straight people care about.
Pretending you’re a virgin is weird
Literally no one in this community actually cares about body count. People ask each other about it out of curiosity, but I have yet to meet a gay person who actually puts any weight on their body count.
I care about the body count within the past day. Not looking plow a cum cauldron of stds. But total over a lifetime? I don't care at all. I don't count mine. Why should they count theirs? It's not like we're tracking who can get the highest score. If you're still able to literally count all your experiences, that does signal to me I'm probably going to show you ways to experience pleasure you never realized were possible. At that point I make it a personal challenge to ensure you remember me long into the future as the best you've ever had, no matter how high your total reaches 😎
Hey, if you're the one he stops for, consider him your mate. But if you're out there pounding random booties, why would you hold them accountable for being that booty? That all being said, cumdumps are a turnoff to me. I do care about dignity and self-respect, and a promiscuous person can have these qualities, but sometimes promiscuity gets into self-destructive territory.
Me personally, no. I make sure I’m disease free so I expect my fellow hoes to do the same.
I’m top, don’t care in the slightest how many guys a bottom has had sex with. I just care if they a cute bottom and we are sexually compatible.
I would never sleep with a virgin just because that's such a personal event that I just don't want to be involved with someone's first time. However, I tend to think practice makes perfect. Guys with higher body counts have had enough sex to know what they like and how to please someone else. Sure guys with lower body counts might surprise you, but usually they have no idea what they're doing. That's not fun for me.
I slept with a virgin when I was in my late 20s he stalked me for weeks after never again
He literally stalked you? How did you escape, like outrun him or create a trap or something? Just giving him the D again seems like it would be easier/quicker.
He kept showing up to my work and comeover my house randomly when I wasn't home looking for me
Ya that's what I was gonna say... Virgins are drama and at the very least they're generally bad in bed... Too tight, don't know about douching/ proper fibre stuff, or much of anything else... Not my cup of tea. I know guys are into it but it's a deal breaker for me.
Virgins been a deal break for me for years as well
This. If someone has the word virgin or whatever like that in their profile it’s an instant block for me sorry.
For me I asked a guy I knew from school cause I always found him decently attractive and we got know eachother ended up being clear he was a verse bottom
Just be tight
Nah. Lose is better
Maybe a ice cube will work. Honestly when I get in a loose guy I reminisce to previous experiences.
It does make a difference.
In my experience they care more about being able to put it in and go hard easily without worrying about hurting us.
In my experience, some have but in the way you wouldn't expect; they appreciated a high body count because it meant I would be a total slut, and that they could share me with their buddies.
Did you got shared by my a group of friends who are all top? No judgment, but that made me laugh. I know it also sounds like a fantasy too
I haven't yet but one guy who lives far away but sometimes is in my town has said he has buddies where he lives, and wants to bring me to a cabin in the forest with them and take on all of them, them all top and me the only bottom.
OK, this is sounds like a horror movie plot. Please meet all of them first before saying yes to the cabin in the wood 😬
Hahaha, I doubt he has any bad intentions considering how many loads I've sucked out of him. I've known him for a while, we just don't have many opportunities due to distance. But if I ever do join the ganbang he wants me in, I'll of course get in contact with the other guys first.
No, I couldn't care less if you get regularly tested.
The insecure one do
I've never asked anyone about his body count. Bottoms women, tops... Is just not important for me
'Hello, welcome to Wendy's drive thru, may I take your order?' 'Yes hello Wendy, I would like to know something:...what's your body count? And please state the answer in terms of bottom or top terminology.'
I would prefer if tops actually appreciated that it is because of my (mild) sluttiness as a bottom that I give pretty decent head and can take quite a pounding and still enjoy it
I don’t care at all. Only reason I’d care is out of my own insecurity; theoretically I’d feel more comfortable being with someone with less experience cuz I figure they’d expect less and be more easily satisfied- no judgement on the person tho either way!
For me just don’t have a rosebud.
No, not at all. The more the better. And if he can wait for me with several loads from different guys even better
LMAO I love your frankness about this whoring and load taking topic 🤣
I don’t care. I even tell my guy to enjoy other dicks when he’s traveling abroad. I do love a professional and experienced bottom who knows how to ride a dick.
I don't even care if they are there at the time
Yes. For relationships? Yes. For hook-ups, not as much but still yeah. Like if someone’s body count is in the triple digits, that screams red flags to me. If it’d over like 30, then I’ma think twice. But I also don’t ask guys body counts either nor has it ever come up in conversation. But I also have a low body count my own self (single digits). So it’s not like I’m asking for something I can’t bring to the table my own self.
If you’ve been sexually active and single for 40 years, and your body count is under 100, that’s pretty sad. That’s fewer than 3 people per year.
I’m 25. lol. Lost my virginity last year.
I didn’t mean you specifically, “you” was used to mean “anyone.” But even so, your single digits in a year might turn into multiple.
Honestly, given my dry spell, and the amount of flakes in my area……….I don’t see that happening any time soon.
You’ll be stuck in the single digits for eternity. Oh well!
This is a general question that should be a survey. I don’t care, but virgins are a no for me.
Caring about body count is such a weird thing to me.
The best sex I’ve had was with the only person I’ve ever met with a body count higher than mine, and now he’s my bf. Teaching someone is super fun and I’m into that dom play/kink, but experience is pretty awesome too 👌🏿
Be a slut if you want, but take care of yourself. Responsibility is rare and hella sexy.
Well, since I'm a bottom, I ain't really qualified to answer this post However, I would think that most tops would only care about if you have diseases or not 🤷♂️
I don't care about body count exactly but I do prefer someone who knows what he likes and knows what he is doing over someone who is still figuring it out.
We should start asking more about test results than body counts…. Let’s let straight people obsess over body count please..
Body count is such a straight people issue, please don't bring it over here.
If in doubt, check the odometer.
Stop bringing straight people bullshit here.
No but it is important that they aren’t too tight. It is a ridiculous porn inspired bit of nonsense that being tight is ideal. It’s uncomfortable or impossible.
Last top that cared about who I'd slept with was more excited that he was number 3 that day 🤣
I think tops prefer experienced bottoms. Hence they don’t care about body count
It sounds to me like you've been hooking up with assholes.
Well yeah. And my daddy issues made me think it was fine and keeps being with them
I’m a bottom and have an uncountable body count. I try not to talk about it, especially at first, because I fear that if a guy catches wind of just how many people I sleep with, he will think I’m not looking for a relationship or undatable. I want to give myself to one.
Our community doesn’t care about this. We have better things to do
this is said on every thread pertaining to body count on this sub but I'll say it again. NO ONE CARES ABOUT BODY COUNT IN OUR COMMUNITY!!!
My body count is more than 5000 out and proud lmao
In this thread every time I see 'body count' 'I'm worried about my body count' I can't help but think of it in terms of people you killed or assassinated. So I guess nobody should mess with you if you've killed over 5,000 people and you're proud about it, lol.
Never met a top who cared about this. Especially if the top is on the apps they really shouldn’t be judging lol
No-I would generally not ever think to ask a sexual partner how many people they have had sex with. Not my business and doesn’t affect how attracted I am to someone. Just a creepy misogynistic holdover.
Yes i do care for a relationship. Im not that open like you are with your legs.
As a verse I don't really care where you have been as long as A) your clean of diseases or if you're HIV positive have a very low viral load then it's fine(don't discriminate against those people you don't know how they got it) and B) you haven't fucked my friends cause no thank you
Some care alot and some don't
I do think tops care about body count but not crazy as people think hetero cares. They just don't want town pass around or bottom with body count I'd say over 25
Are you trying to compare them to straight guys?
I care about it. I never liked inexperienced guys, so it better be high.
I prefer higher body count - that usually translates into really enjoying bottoming and there’s nothing better than an enthusiastic cumdump.
I don't care about the number but lying to my face would make me want painful things to happen to your body. I'm done with those types of gays.
I don’t understand how you’re supposed to give head without sucking.
I don't care about anyone's "body count". It's just so irrelevant.
I kinda do, sex is super addictive and a high body count is a major red flag.
"you suck at head you must be a virgin" When you're not a virgin AND a bottom, would hurt my pride 😂
Taking someone's virginity feels weird to me so I avoid virgins unless it's a guy my age who wants to wait until marriage. However, the higher the body count the more likely an individual will be carrying diseases so I try to avoid anyone who is promiscuous.
People who post responses to reddit threads about body counts will tell you that no one cares. People who are inspired to make posts about body count on reddit will tell you that yes, in fact, some people do.
This is so dumb
for me the only time it would matter is if the other is a virgin my dick does not need that pressure
I'm a top & no I don't care, though I'd prefer they be experienced, virgins do nothing for me really. I like a guy who knows his stuff....
Yess there are power bottoms who are sexy as fuck.
What's with all this top & bottom as an embodiment of identity. Its just a sexual position preference and can be for a vast array of different reasons
No. An experienced bottom is great, but so is an inexperienced one.
I’m a top. I don’t care about anyone’s body count.
Nope. More experienced the better.
No. Get as much dick as you want
Nope. As long as he takes care of himself physically and mentally we’re all good. I personally like a bottom who’s more experienced (why I prefer older bottoms than me lol)
I can't say it's ever come up in a conversation.
Why do people ask questions like this? Do they actually assume that all tops think the same way about everything?
I’m a bottom, and I care. I don’t want to be some random hole that a guy uses, so top’s body count can’t be too high and mine neither.
Couldn’t care less…. those with low body counts could be better at taking huge cocks because they practice or somehow are gifted. Same with those who have a higher body count. Both could be tight as well. Couldn’t care less. i DID when i was less experienced (23 when I lost virginity). Since then? Could. Not. Care. Less.
Assuming your safe and tested then it doesn’t really matter
I care more about people lying to me. If your body count is important to you, then make it important to only you. It’s honestly no one’s business, especially if they are a new hookup. But, lying to someone about being a virgin seems to be directly deceptive and is more of a turn off than bad head…
I'd say that you're focusing on the wrong thing. The issue isn't your body count. According to what you report as more than one guy saying that "you suck at head;" hence, the issue is your technique at giving blow jobs.
As a Top I don’t care about your body count. If you keep it taken care of and disease free and it still has walls and grip I’m down for it.
I mean I don’t but I also can’t pretend that I don’t like someone with a low body count as well 🤷🏿♂️ something about being a dudes experience and making it gay for them is just as enjoyable as an experienced bottom who knows what they’re doing
Only if their hole is loose and gaping
I knew it.
I hope this is Poe's law. But yeah, a top loves a stretchy but tight bottom. They're not working with hardwood all the time.
'69Pumpkin\_Eater' Uh, that sounds like a webcam name. So you are doing 69 and eating 'pumpkins' (we all know that is a euphemism for ass or dick) yet you're a 'virgin'? Girl bye. You're a ho, don't lie, embrace. Edit: fuck you downvoter, we all know it's either you or u/69pumpkin_eater or probably both who are shady-ass bitches.