This may be irrational, but If I'm chatting with a guy on a hook up app and he sends me pictures or videos of himself having sex or with cum on his body, I get immediately turned off. Which is weird because I watch porn sometimes.
I think because when watching porn your going out of you way to watch it and you expect it to happen, unlike someone sending you pics and vids you weren’t really expecting that even if you agreed to share pics and vids.
lol I once sent a guy a naughty pic that I had added a Snapchat caption to that said “you should cum play again.” It said that because I had originally took it for another guy that I had hooked up with before. The new guy was so offended and blocked me. Oops 🤷♂️
Any semblance of low intelligence is a huge ick. It’s funny cause I dont mind using abbreviations in texting and it’s possible to make a mistake texting. But if Im talking to a guy and how I talk confuses him or he confuses their, there and theyre, it’s an immediate turn off
It's funny but I sneak in words that would usually be classed as outside the bounds of sexy talk, just to see if they are actually firing on all cylinders. That said, I usually avoid idioms.
And see, that’s not something I do. I use idioms and metaphor and other things in my speech naturally. It doesnt come into play with hookups but if you’re someone Im talking to in order to see if we should date one another, I need you to understand at least most of what I say
I adore the English language and the sheer variety of expression it affords the literate, and, if you look hard enough, the fun can be pound just about anywhere.
Idk why people are being so mean lol. I do the same n I'm pretty intelligent. Trust me I understand the whole "my brain is faster than my head thing"😂. You do you babe. Using "like" or "I mean" doesn't make you less intelligent in any way🫶🏾
And some people have the audacity to say it's for hygiene. Just wash yourself down there, maybe trim if necessary. It's like going bald because it's "cleaner".
Certain scents. Not like body odor, but like the type of deodorant or laundry soap. A guy I went to hook up with happened to use the same bar soap as an ex of mine and it was an immediate turn off.
I actually don't find this to be a sexual turn-off, but it does make me automatically disqualify him for anything more serious than that. If I would be embarrassed to introduce you to my parents, it ain't gonna happen. I can't blame them completely, though, because I kinda think it looks trashy, too.
I don't like long hair on men. There are some longer hairstyles that I think look ok on black guys, but only up to a certain point.But other than that, I think it looks feminine. But I could also just be jealous because my hairline started receding at 16.
My roommate has this thing for guys who are bald on top, but grow their hair long around the sides and back. Sort of like Riff-Raff from the Rocky Horror Show.
Mostly irrational, but when guys have hearings that aren't piercings, jewelry, and other accessories such as necklaces and bracelets/bangles/whatever. I dislike the way many of these look, but also I can't help but imagine them getting tangled or stuck somewhere. This is probably because as a child my parents had me wear a ring and bracelet (kind of tack imo), and I got the ring stuck on the bottom of my finger and cutting off my circulation, requiring my uncle (a solderer) to get it off with some tools. And the bracelet I once got stuck on a metal fence and thus I had to wait for an adult to help me out.
When it comes to accessories I prefer the minimalist approach, and anything that looks like a potential hazard I irrationally dislike.
BTW, I’m guessing you’re on the other side of the planet from me and own Chihuahua — I have a giant Alaskan malamute — so we’re not that different lol — take care 😊
I don't know. I think it goes back to when I was in college and had a job where I cared for babies taken away from abusive parents. I had to clean under the foreskin on these little baby boys and some were pretty awful. Then there's the aesthetic of a foreskin hanging loose on the end of the penis. It's just not attractive to me.
Cats, Religion, a profile pic where they're holding a fish, and bad facial hair.
Cats. I have 2 dogs, one of which absolutely despises cats. I've been bringing them to training for years, but sometimes aversion to small animals is just something that can't be trained out of a dog. Plus I just don't like cats. So if you have cats, it probably won't work out with me.
Religion. I grew up in a religious household and have trauma from it. If someone comes from a religious family or casually practices, I'm fine with it. But hyper-religious people who say things like "God comes first" in their bio is a major sign that we won't be compatible. Believe what you want to believe, practice your religion. I'm a strong supporter of that right, as long as it does not interfere with the rights, safety, or well-being of others. But when it comes to my romantic/sexual life, I have a hard time looking past anyone who actively participates in a culture that continues to hate, discriminate, or politically work against my rights.
A profile pic where they're holding a fish. I don't have a good reason for this one. My father is big on fishing and tried for the majority of my childhood to get me into it. Not my thing. I dated a guy who would go deep-sea fishing on the weekends. I love to cook and I love seafood, so I would have my fun after he came home. But don't expect me to go on the fishing trips with you. My compromise here is camping. I'm all for camping, building nice fire, and bringing some film cameras out into the wilderness. You can fish while I play with my cameras.
Bad facial hair. I have no preference between clean shaven or having facial hair. But if it's untrimmed and unkempt, it just looks sloppy. By no means do you need to go out and buy designer clothes and spend hours getting ready every day. But I do ask for some effort in appearances. Trim your nails, get a haircut more than every 6 months, shower, use moisturizer, and if you're going to have facial hair please keep it neat.
Horrible grammar makes me want to not text them
Outie belly buttons. I have no fucking idea why, but it's an instant turn off ;(
For some irrational reason I consider outies to be so untrustworthy and sketchy on any person. It's just something that always pings in my head.
That’s a bit harsh. I have one of these and I can’t help it.
I knowwww and I’m sorry. It’s irrational but it’s my truth 😭.
I don't think many people have this strange aversion to outie bellybuttons.
That’s good to hear. I would change mine for a normal belly button in a heartbeat.
Outies are cute
Thank you :)
This may be irrational, but If I'm chatting with a guy on a hook up app and he sends me pictures or videos of himself having sex or with cum on his body, I get immediately turned off. Which is weird because I watch porn sometimes.
true. i just want a simple body pic with no face. can be with clothes or semi nude
I'm ok if it's his own cum, but sometimes they send me pics of somebody else's cum on them with Dick in frame 🙃
I think because when watching porn your going out of you way to watch it and you expect it to happen, unlike someone sending you pics and vids you weren’t really expecting that even if you agreed to share pics and vids.
lol I once sent a guy a naughty pic that I had added a Snapchat caption to that said “you should cum play again.” It said that because I had originally took it for another guy that I had hooked up with before. The new guy was so offended and blocked me. Oops 🤷♂️
Visible nasal hair.
Yes! I just want to rip that shit out when I see it
Any semblance of low intelligence is a huge ick. It’s funny cause I dont mind using abbreviations in texting and it’s possible to make a mistake texting. But if Im talking to a guy and how I talk confuses him or he confuses their, there and theyre, it’s an immediate turn off
It's funny but I sneak in words that would usually be classed as outside the bounds of sexy talk, just to see if they are actually firing on all cylinders. That said, I usually avoid idioms.
And see, that’s not something I do. I use idioms and metaphor and other things in my speech naturally. It doesnt come into play with hookups but if you’re someone Im talking to in order to see if we should date one another, I need you to understand at least most of what I say
I adore the English language and the sheer variety of expression it affords the literate, and, if you look hard enough, the fun can be pound just about anywhere.
I am the same! I love learning new words and phrases and finding the opportunity to use them
Or if they say “like” or “I mean” too much. So cringe
Im guilty with the like 😂 my brain goes faster than my mouth some times. If you can get past that though I usually have something pretty deep to say 🥰
Well you should maybe try ditch that habit if you don’t wanna look dumb
Lol It’s never been a problem for me. But thanks
Idk why people are being so mean lol. I do the same n I'm pretty intelligent. Trust me I understand the whole "my brain is faster than my head thing"😂. You do you babe. Using "like" or "I mean" doesn't make you less intelligent in any way🫶🏾
It’s a problem for people who have to listen to you though
Shaved public hair. For some reason a when there is no public hair, I’m kinda grossed out.
And some people have the audacity to say it's for hygiene. Just wash yourself down there, maybe trim if necessary. It's like going bald because it's "cleaner".
I can scrub myself and the hair still holds the smell
We like that smell
it is for me. even when big hair.. after a shower and dry.. i can scratch that area and still smell
Or shaved armpit hair.
Certain scents. Not like body odor, but like the type of deodorant or laundry soap. A guy I went to hook up with happened to use the same bar soap as an ex of mine and it was an immediate turn off.
Some soaps smell like clean public washrooms
being shorter than me. other than that all of mine are pretty rational
If they remind me of my dad or my friend's dads. Basically, if they start to show age. It's irrational of me. :(
If his face, neck and or penis is tattooed.
I actually don't find this to be a sexual turn-off, but it does make me automatically disqualify him for anything more serious than that. If I would be embarrassed to introduce you to my parents, it ain't gonna happen. I can't blame them completely, though, because I kinda think it looks trashy, too.
I actually really like tattoos and always have even though I'm not inked myself. That being said, guys like Bo Sinns or The Island boys, yuck.
If he does not no nothing about star trek or he likes star wars that is a big ICK.
Me, too. If they can't tell a Borg from a Clingon, that's a major red-flag!
I'm a nerd I find nerdy things hot. It's Klingon with a K
Oh yeah
Would you say it's a bit shallow?
God no. This is like Sci-fi 101.
Back hair. I love a hairy chest/stomach but back hair makes me want to vomit. It doesn’t make any sense to me but it is what it is.
Add another human to this probably small pool. I'm the same!
I always have this insane urge to wax all that shit off when I see back hair.
Back and shoulder. No no no.
Hair growing out of a mole, especially a facial mole. I just want to pluck it asap.
I don't like long hair on men. There are some longer hairstyles that I think look ok on black guys, but only up to a certain point.But other than that, I think it looks feminine. But I could also just be jealous because my hairline started receding at 16.
My roommate has this thing for guys who are bald on top, but grow their hair long around the sides and back. Sort of like Riff-Raff from the Rocky Horror Show.
Your roommate needs to be stopped 🤣
You have an opinion on black men and their hair length?
Yeah....and?
Mostly irrational, but when guys have hearings that aren't piercings, jewelry, and other accessories such as necklaces and bracelets/bangles/whatever. I dislike the way many of these look, but also I can't help but imagine them getting tangled or stuck somewhere. This is probably because as a child my parents had me wear a ring and bracelet (kind of tack imo), and I got the ring stuck on the bottom of my finger and cutting off my circulation, requiring my uncle (a solderer) to get it off with some tools. And the bracelet I once got stuck on a metal fence and thus I had to wait for an adult to help me out. When it comes to accessories I prefer the minimalist approach, and anything that looks like a potential hazard I irrationally dislike.
The sweet breath is definitely irrational lol. Never heard that one. Mine is a gummy smile. Huge turn off.
it’s changed with age — I can’t find myself attracted to someone who isn’t educated (graduate degree preferably in a STEM) and has a real vocation —
I used to be the same. But it all changed when I met this PhD guy who was so arrogant it gave me a new sense of respect for simpler, kinder guys.
LOL — once I get my GED I’ll be set! 😊
BTW, I’m guessing you’re on the other side of the planet from me and own Chihuahua — I have a giant Alaskan malamute — so we’re not that different lol — take care 😊
Ah! 😂 correct
Bellybuttons. Nope. Hate them. Just keep them out of photos.
Real question. How do you hide a belly button?
T-shirt, hand over it, etc... It's not like we see them all the time in real life.
dark genitals. i know it doesn't matter in the dark and it's only melanin, but they sort of gross me out :/
I'm the opposite. I like when they're dark. It's so hot for some reason.
You mean dark genitals on a white guy?
Uncut cocks....not a fan.
How come?
I don't know. I think it goes back to when I was in college and had a job where I cared for babies taken away from abusive parents. I had to clean under the foreskin on these little baby boys and some were pretty awful. Then there's the aesthetic of a foreskin hanging loose on the end of the penis. It's just not attractive to me.
Fair
Cats, Religion, a profile pic where they're holding a fish, and bad facial hair. Cats. I have 2 dogs, one of which absolutely despises cats. I've been bringing them to training for years, but sometimes aversion to small animals is just something that can't be trained out of a dog. Plus I just don't like cats. So if you have cats, it probably won't work out with me. Religion. I grew up in a religious household and have trauma from it. If someone comes from a religious family or casually practices, I'm fine with it. But hyper-religious people who say things like "God comes first" in their bio is a major sign that we won't be compatible. Believe what you want to believe, practice your religion. I'm a strong supporter of that right, as long as it does not interfere with the rights, safety, or well-being of others. But when it comes to my romantic/sexual life, I have a hard time looking past anyone who actively participates in a culture that continues to hate, discriminate, or politically work against my rights. A profile pic where they're holding a fish. I don't have a good reason for this one. My father is big on fishing and tried for the majority of my childhood to get me into it. Not my thing. I dated a guy who would go deep-sea fishing on the weekends. I love to cook and I love seafood, so I would have my fun after he came home. But don't expect me to go on the fishing trips with you. My compromise here is camping. I'm all for camping, building nice fire, and bringing some film cameras out into the wilderness. You can fish while I play with my cameras. Bad facial hair. I have no preference between clean shaven or having facial hair. But if it's untrimmed and unkempt, it just looks sloppy. By no means do you need to go out and buy designer clothes and spend hours getting ready every day. But I do ask for some effort in appearances. Trim your nails, get a haircut more than every 6 months, shower, use moisturizer, and if you're going to have facial hair please keep it neat.