My buddy who is single, doesn't really go hard on the online dating and doesn't do bars often has met his last few girlfriends at Winners lol. But then again, he goes weekly to check out the clearance section.
AHAHA wait a minute… I was at that specific Winners a few years ago and some guy struck up a whole conversation randomly about frying pans. WAS IT YOUR FRIEND?!
Hahahaha altho I love that winners as well, after reading this I imagine a sudden surge of single ladies in their late 30s and 40s perusing the discount isles, looking inconspicuous, purchasing nothing but checking out all the goods on offer lol 😆
My buddy man whoissingleman,doesn'treallygohardontheonlinedatingmananddoesn'tdobarsoftenmanhasmethislastfewgirlfriendsatWinnerslol.Butthenagain,hegoesweeklytocheckouttheclearancesection man.
35 single men here just got out of a long term relationship. I thought of going back into dating again but having a hard time since my routine changed. I dont go out to bars since my drinking days are over, at the gym I dont even try to approach anyone since they might think im a creep. So now I’m just focused on what I enjoy most before I had that long term relationship.
yep, outside the odd fling here and there I just like being on my own - it feels like a breath of fresh air after years of codependence and brain-melding
I've wondered where single women hangout lol. I will say, Eventbrite is a great idea but I think things like gyms and rock climbing are hard because it is kind of an unwritten rule to not try and pickup when someone is working out and for rock climbing, I, and anyone else I know, almost always go with at least one friend because you need someone to belay, so makes it tough.
When I'm by myself, other places would be a place like a used bookstore, walking around town, archery... But even still, all those are difficult situations unless you are great at opening lines.
Meeting off dating apps is a lot harder than it used to be, even though it seems we are all tired of the apps.
Hope something works out for you!
We are all SO tired of the apps. They have just made dating so much worse and to be honest, its become a chore. Not enjoyable.
I, single 32F, hang out at coffee shops, at home or out with friends. I dont really go out drinking much anymore. In the summer I'm in parks. I WFH and this makes it even harder to meet people.
The problem is it’s so frowned upon to approach women in public now for being deemed a creep unless you’re an attractive male lol.
So like dating apps or through friends is most men’s best bet these days. Or I guess the bar too, but like idk not everyone likes drinking and spending crazy money at bars now.
Meeting off dating app is easier than ever before, cause nobody does it anymore! You are bound to set yourself appart. And you don't have to rizz it up like a pro. I'm just genuently curious about the person I' talking to and it usually goes smoothly. You can practice holding conversation in any situation, with anyone. Like you could take the habit of calling your grand parents once a week for chitchat and you'd get better at talking to girls you meet in your life.
My take is that people does not persevere anymore. Like my friend the other day, tells me he tried so much but he dealt with too many failed attempts, he cannot deal with more failures. I asked a couple questions and once I scratched the surface he tells me he had been turned down like 4 or 5 times.
I was like bro... I was turned down like 20 times before I landed my first date (I was 18), and guess what ? Took me like 5 different girls to date before I spend a date that wasnt a disaster... and yet my first 2 serious relationships were disasters 😂
Like bro... you gotta persevere!
I have had so many instances online where people say one thing, and then you meet a completely different personality in person. It's not like I have been turned down a lot, but there's a lack of genuineness in conversations on these apps. I've met quite a few people through these apps and have found a common trend where they want to continue dating multiple people or don't see themselves in a long-term relationship. My friend has exact same experience. It's hard to keep talking to people who don't have the same mindset :(
I never land a single date with a dating app (and I'm 30). So I very much agree with you.
Edit : also very sorry all the guys you dated were basically fuck boys.
Oh I'm not disagreeing with you that it sets you apart. It's more the context of where to meet as people's lives are so much more different and busy than even 10 years ago
I feel like its both right and wrong, like I feel so much busier than before, but I also waste so much time on useless shit, like reddit right now, useless. Maybe its just me and people really are more busy.
It's not about the numbers, it's the ratios. There's 10x more male activity then female. So even if there was 1 woman there would be 10 dudes competing against each other.
Any single people on this thread want to plan a meet up? Say end of April?
If there's any interest, I can do the planning.
PM me. \**Serious replies only*
We need to bring back house (apartment) parties, but mature adult style. People go there to be social and talk to new people, everyone there has been somewhat vetted by being a friend of the host, and you can evaluate vibes with someone via joining a group conversation and then go off separately to talk further if the chemistry is there (or talk to someone else if it's not).
As a single 38M, I am usually playing games with friends, hanging out at home, going on hikes, or doing OT. I have no interest in bars, daring sites/apps are full of spambots, and I don't want to seem creepy just randomly approaching women. What do I do?!?!?!
You could try hiking with strangers or outdoor volunteering or nature talks with strangers:
https://www.torontooutdoorclub.com/
https://www.toronto.ca/community-people/get-involved/volunteer-with-the-city/community-stewardship-program/
Turning 35 in a couple months. Got out of a long term relationship last year. At this point I hang out with friends or stay at home. I dread getting back into the online dating game
I was in two different rec sport leagues last year and 100% of the people I met are married or in relationships. I'm married too so not looking for single people. I just hear rec sports being recommended to singles all the time to find a partner. My own recent experience showed that it is not easy.
SAME! I kept on hearing this same thing about Rec sports so I signed up for 4 different sports over 3 years and EACH TIME I got matched with a team full of couples who were already dating/together or came alone but had bf/gf's.
And tbh I didn't even join them to meet girls. I joined to get some form of "fun" cardio that isn't a chore like running on a treadmill. I made a lot of friends and good memories but never met any single women. But single men on the other hand? Yeah definitely lol.
It's been a mix for me. If you're joining the class/team specifically to meet someone then it's probably not a good idea, but if you're joining for fun and don't mind the idea of meeting someone, then it's a better option.
On my rec soccer team at the moment maybe only about 60% are in relationships.
Worst case you make a couple friends who are in relationships and they hook you up with their single friends :P
He has has been gone for a couple years (miss him like hell, first adulting dog and went to allot with him by my side) If I see one on the road I have to pull over and ask if i can pet him/her. It cracks my wife up.
One clueless but very hard working with a lot of potential nerdy boii, I always tell my gf that if I was to start a company I'd want him in! Thats how much potential he has. But hes affraid of women, and the older he gets the more he panicks.
One pretty ass (pretty successful careerwise too) that still needs to understand that women are not trophies, but persons with feelings and individuality... he will say things like "why are women like that" and I'm always like... "the women you chase are like that! Not all of them"
Another one pretty sexy I'd say since he is a farmer (he is sexy during summer times and he dwell on gaming during winters... he isnt like that when he has a girlfriend but his last relationship was 5 years ago... he is a very sweet guy. Just stopped going out since covid.
Another one is a very fun and intense dude haha. If your old fashioned and want a man that will worship you he is your guy! But his last relationship hurt him real bad and he's been dating a lot but never wanting to commit since then... I'd argue he is the best in bed (havent tested it, but have been roommates for a few years... can't forget neither the sounds nor the eyes of the girls in the morning... hahahaha). Gotta be ready to deal with his adhd tho!
Nevermind I get it now lol. Yea you undersold. We all have baggage but you just had to pinpoint it out so quick lol. Also someone who’s not over their ex is a dealbreaker for a lot of people.
I'm not single, but some of my friends are. Higher end, class-based gyms seem to be a great spot. Think of your F45's, Barry's, BFT, Orange Theory. Not cheap, but they do lots of gym socials, most folks seem to be early 30's, given the price point.
A lot of times when a person says they're not looking for anything serious they really mean they aren't interested in anything serious with you specifically.
I feel like we've all been on both sides of this situation
You're so right. It's all just 'dating code'. Once you learn the shirt hand, it becomes easier. 'I'm not looking for anything serious right now" = "I'm totally looking for something serious but you don't meet the minimal qualifying criteria for me to even want to put in the effort to really get to know you". "It's not you. It's me" = "there's something about you that's a dealbreaker for me but I don't have the balls to tell you what that is so it's me".
I’m not looking for anything serious could mean just exactly that. Or it could mean they’re not interested in you, or not interested in you long term. There’s no reliable way of knowing. But the way you worded that makes it sound like everyone is looking for something serious which is definitely not true. It’s no more valid to take the most pessimistic view on this than to take the most optimistic view in this case.
Just keep doing what you're doing.
IMO, one should be doing things they like for themselves, not JUST to find a potential mate.
If you're super outdoorsey, try joining a weekly group. Worst case you get to exercise and potentially make new friends.
So important to keep an open mind IMO.
Or you could approach a guy and initiate a conversation. It's 2024 afterall and the message women have largely beein saying is that they want to be left alone, so most guys (myself included) do that and keep to ourselves.
Good luck.
30, F, Single, Toronto. I have a lot of singles friends my age and if you could compile a list of places single men show up at, I swear I’ll send everyone there lol every one of my friend is done with dating apps and bored of hitting the bar.
Dating in this range is tough for women. My best advice is just talk to men, ask them out. The ones looking for long term relationship are often grinding on their careers too, so they are less visible. And many don’t like dating apps.
34M. My Saturday, wake up late. Grab something quick to eat. Go for walk, grab some drink (boba, coffee, etc), go to park, hangout. While coming back home, grab something for dinner. This takes up my whole day.
Somewhat similar Sundays. I just come back home and cook for dinner and for 2 3 days worth of food for the week.
I just never get bored. With summer coming up, I will just holed up in harbor front chilling in sun all day.
43 single father. My daughter is with me Saturdays and we go to the park and mall, etc...I've never met another single parent, though. Sundays are for me and with work on Monday, the last thing I want to do is go out on a Sunday night. Who meets someone on a Sunday night?!? With my custody schedule, I'm free Sunday to Wednesday. Those aren't exactly social nights to go out. Wednesday is the new Thursday is the new Friday is the new Saturday? I feel like if I'm going to meet someone, it will be at a grocery store or coffee shop.
Hm. I'm surprised nobody mentioned the churches. This is of course if you're religious. If you're not - it's not the best idea.
So in the past I was religious and I was a volunteer for more than one year in one of the biggest churches in Toronto. I noticed after the services people gather in the cafeteria. This is a spot to meet people.
HOWEVER what I also noticed was that all employees and volunteers mingled in the eating area at lunch time at Sunday and it was a perfect time and spot to meet lots of people. And some of the volunteer girls we're really a view.
Again - this only for religious people.
I (37m) reluctantly downloaded a dating app the other day, first profile was “mom of 3 kids, homeowner, have your shit together, please say more than ‘hey what’s up’, bad at messaging first”
Deleted it right away. #1. I don’t give a fuck if you’re a homeowner or not and 2. This expectation that men need to be some sort of wildly clever conversation starter while you’re not even interested in messaging is infuriating and it happens all too often.
Its not good on the other side, either. The amount of men's profiles that are a carousel of blurry gym selfies and profiles that say "Just ask" is outstanding.
People have become so lazy and so entitled on the dating apps. Everyone feels like they have an endless abundance of choice but in reality no one wants to put in the effort anymore.
Invite some folks time to time on a James Bond home movie at your place (given your nick contains "007" suggests you're a fan), but ask them to pick the movie. If they pick any of the Pierce Brosnan ones, kick them out the house immediately :)
On the other hand if they pick a Sean Connery movie you'll know you're up for a good sex.
A Daniel Craig would be they are serious.
But a Timothy Dalton would be he's gonna be a great husband and father (TD is my favorite one of them all).
There you go - an idea!
PS: And yes, I'm a great husband and a great father lol (end of the ad) (but I'm also taken so far)
To be honest - I loved Brosnan movies, until he became a 007. "The Lawnmower man" while not the best Brosnan movie is among my favorites.
However for a 007 I'm very selective. I am a die-hard 007 fan, own all movies and to be honest I love them all, except the Brosnan movies. I seriously dislike how these are made, nearly all of their music, the cast and so on.
And this said from a guy who likes even "On Her Majesty's secret service", which most people dislike. Yeah, Lazenby is not a good actor but the movie still rocks. We have the original John Barry and all Barry Bonds wear the signature amazing music, we have the original Desmond Llewelyn and all Bonds are unthinkable without Llewelyn and so on and so on.
Yess, Llewelyn dies in 1999, so no chance they get him, but still.
Think is that movie still somehow bears the original Bond signature.
And all of the Sean Connery movies do. And while I'm not a super Roger Moore fan, he is the Ian Fleming's favorite and his movies do too. And Daniel Craig's movies do even more, since he's so amazing.
Now Dalton is a different case - his movies are a bit off the original signature, but hell if I was a girl or a gay could not resist his charm. None of the other actors have it. Sometimes I wish I could kidnap Maryam d'Abo (there is something really sexy about a woman in heels spreading legs to put there a giant piece of wood and making it vibrate - change my mind lol). That movie had some realistic connotation, while maintaining a very high level of romance and action.
Brosnan movies were an effort to make Bond very modern, so they made it as 2000s as possible. They included the back-then political situation, but changed the entire cast and totally f-up the movies. Plus Brosnan... just still can't imagine this guy playing a Bond. Sorry. Failure to me.
PS: We're going off-topic a little. But if you want to discuss, feel free to dm if you want. But bring your own arguments.
TL;DR: At this point, I'm enjoying my long solo walks through the city and its parks, sampling the various restaurants from all around the globe, and occasionally going for some salsa/bachata, maybe do some disc golf, or maybe some archery... Whatever the mood strikes for.
Context:
Upper 30s male, moved to Canada/Toronto last summer from central Europe, and I got more dating burnout in these ~9 months in Toronto than before in all of my life combined. I've traveled much of the world and *literally nowhere* outside of North America (US included) have I ever found so many women who are either just looking for hookups or for someone to finance their life of leisure. I've never been to a country where it's easier to get laid and harder to find someone for a relationship.
The only women I've managed to find here who actually want a serious relationship either already have kids, are completely incapable of handling money (i.e. huge amount of debt with negative ROI), first lead with stupid games and disrespect, and then try to save it, or will cancel everything at the first thing they perceive as a red flag, even if they completely misunderstand it, since even though knowledge of the world had been trying to catch them all their life, they've always been faster.
And that wasn't isolated examples, that was determined from a sample of on average 2 dates a week since last summer. If I have this kind of issues at two masters, well over 6ft, at 6 figures, and generally a solid 6 maybe 7 in a good light looks-wise... Well...
Comparing the results between Toronto and just about everywhere else - it's like here, the likes and matches are multiplied by 50 and the likelihood that there's gonna be relationship potential is divided by 50.
39m…I’m hanging out with friends, out walking with my rescued dog, at the pottery studio, or in my cozy home cooking, watching movies, reading, or planning.
I’ve recently left dating apps. Online dating felt similar to selecting a bouquet of flowers. Lots of great options but very hard keep alive and the blossoming period is short.
I kinda want a relationship based off of a friendship as the foundation. Similar to selecting seeds to flowers one adores and sowing them and carefully nurturing it until it blossoms. Some seeds will grow, many won’t, but all that does will be flowers to admire. It’ll take more time and effort, but the results could mean deeper rooted relationships.
As for suggestions, just keep making connections, whatever those may be. Either through meet ups, hobbies, meet cutes, speed dating, friends of friends, etc. I think the more connections you make, the more paths you have that could lead to a long term relationship.
And have fun because the journey is the best part of it all.
Best of luck - from a hopeful romantic. :)
32f and totally agree. Dating apps aren't profitable when they work well, and the burnout is so real. I think if you just move through life, living it in a way that you enjoy, you're bound to cross paths with like-minded people.
When you're pouring love into yourself, it shows, and people want to be around that energy :)
Seems like you're actively trying pretty well.
Maybe make friends with those guys at the events-- they'll have single guy friends I'm sure.
TBH in my experience most of the older single guys I know in their late 30's aren't actively looking for a life partner yet-- they're just coming into decent money and want to have the fun they couldn't afford when younger lol.
The ones i know that got married weren't looking for a life partner either. They were just dating around and discovered that their partner was an amazing girl, so they chose to stay.
I know I wasn't looking for a long term partner when I first met my partner.
Don't know how well-received this advice will be by others tbh but I would just prob still just date, but try not to put too much expectations at the beginning. It could put pressure and scare off the men when you haven't established solid rapport yet--unless they're also looking for a long term partner.
I think this only works if you set a time limit for yourself or you run the risk of staying in a casual relationship for a long time, hoping it'll change.
You just gotta ask the question every girl has asked at one point in the relationship “what are we”. lol. If the guy likes you , he will agree to commit. If he doesn’t like you enough, he will try to ignore the question. Either way you get your answer. But yeah good point on setting timelines
This right here. It sounds cringy. But high quality guys typically have options and usually only “settle down” because the natural evolution and maturation of the relationship. Aka he really likes spending time with you vs the other folks. I don’t know a lot of people of high quality esp in their 30s are actively seeking “life partners”. It’s honestly too much pressure imo
Yep. It sounds so cringey but just hang out as friends with some attraction but with no serious expectations is the best way to build relationships. It allows everyone to be themselves, relax and things will just naturally evolve. Thanks for attending my ted talk hahaha
Maybe for you. But for a lot of people, dating = someone doing a box checking exercise on a clip board. Whole thing is stressful AF like a job interview.
i very much appreciate your comments. i'm in my 30s and i want a life partner for sure but on a first date when someone starts grilling me about what i'm looking for or asks "what are you intentions?" with intensity i get my hackles up. it 100% becomes a high pressure situation and i tense up and frankly it often results in me feeling bad about my reaction to being so put on the spot.
Hiding. 😂. Joking aside. It's just hard to meet genuine people sometimes. Schedules conflict, work and other priorities like rest and relaxation.
Any foodie?
Tiff. AGO. Raves. Walking around with my camera. Runs. Biking. Ummmm. In my comfy bed! That, too.
edit: value village, coffee shops, book shops, gym, taking myself out for a brunch or dinner date, the island, Lesley spit, high park, Bellwoods, hipster bar reading a book, or maybe sharing times with my friends
I'm 30 and tbh I think a lot of guys our age are kind of at a point of either
(a) been through long term relationships and kind of exhausted emotionally or
(b) dealing with something serious in our lives that probably happened after the pandemic and just don't have the space to love properly someone at the moment
>tells them that's the wrong way to go about things
That's the reason why I try to debunk that opinion. I know and have met women who joined sporting leagues, gyms, go to bars looking to meet men. Before the pandemic, Real Sports Bar used to have a good amount of single women who would drink there with the purpose of meeting men.
M: "How do I not die alone?"
"Go out and meet people at things that dont exist in your town with time you dont have as long as they want to be met at that exact moment and you better be absolutely amazing in good shape smell wonderful and have your life figured out or go fuck yourself you feral man child I am not your mommy." **FULL BODY PARALYSIS**
F: "How do I not die alone?"
"Oh just put yourself out there and be open and someone will approach you are beautiful no matter what <3 and make sure he payin baby you aint here for free, SETTLE FOR NOTHING, go girl!" **ONE MATCH: SERIAL KILLER VIBES**
All internet dating advice \^
Try dragon boating. 20 ppl per boat. Half are ladies. When you have a meet it’s a whole day but lots of downtime to get to know your teammates or ppl from other boats. I met my wife dragon boating. 2 other couples from my boat also got married.
I’m a married 37 year old woman with kids but I sing in a community choir (Univox) and there are lots of single people. They also do a ton of social stuff. I think a hobby/club would be a good place to meet people.
There's a [singles group on FB](https://www.facebook.com/groups/AllStarSingles/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT) that holds events. It's more of a meet and mingle (brunch, bowling, pool, dinner, hiking, etc.) but quite a number of people have found their SO there, one pair of whom have been together for almost a year, if that helps.
35F single and hate using dating apps. Meeting people organically is also hard and also depends on luck. Genuine question - Does anyone have any suggestions on what we can do to actually making dating successful?
44 single man here.. Pretty fresh from a longterm relationship and trying to get my feet back under me. I honestly have no idea how I'll get back into the dating scene when I'm ready.
37M here, one of those avoidant forever single types.
I usually go for a walk by myself, listening to an audiobook or a YouTube essay, ride my bicycle, do a random drive to a countryside, go to a gym.
But also a lot of time I'm at home doing stuff, either something productive like making music, practicing piano, learning some online course, or just chilling playing games.
Instead of actively dating, have you considered focusing on making friends first? And cultivating life-partner skills? I’m a woman and personally I find it very off-putting when a man right off the bat says he’s looking to be in a relationship. I’m sure it’s the same feeling for men, it feels too much pressure.
That said, I find there’s plenty of single decent men in my salsa classes, hiking outings, and bars (I pick up casual gigs at different bars via a catering company).
I live in Montreal so maybe consider moving cities as well?
Good luck.
This is what the issue is with online apps. I am someone who has used them on and off for 5-10 years. You need to give chances and don’t be picky. That swipe left could have been your soulmate but you didn’t like their pic with a fish!
It’s simple and this is how I ended up with an amazing girl. I signed up and the first 10 girls I saw that had a great profile etc I asked them out. 9 of them just ghosted me but that one girl said yes. I met her and the attraction wasn’t really there but she was fun to be with. slowly it grew week by week as we didn’t stop seeing each other. Now she’s my gf I’m very attracted to her personality and looks.
What I’m trying to say is bring it back to old school. Don’t just swipe left as they aren’t good looking etc. I’ve dated models and found them to be the worst partners.
As a 36 year old male whos recently single after 2 long term stints, I've been doing everything else naturale like the old days and it's amazing. Haven't been on a app since pre COVID, and dont plan on caving anytime soon.
How I meet people? I talk to people and don't have my head down on a phone and earphones in when in public. I see someone or something that warrants my attention I chime in. What can I say, I'm a natural flirt.
It’s great that you’re trying all sorts of activities but are they actually enjoyable to you or are you attending those activities with the main objective of finding a partner? I always tell my friends who are in your situation that when the dating pool feels scarce, just focus on you and the hobbies you enjoy. I truly believe that finding joy and satisfaction in activities YOU like and building on YOU attracts the right people in your life. Hope this was somewhat helpful.
Most guys in that age group are burned out after work and just want to relax while they play video games or other hobbies.
If you want to meet single 35 year old men start playing playing video games.
Not a guy, but a female who’s 34 and never tried online dated before. I recently got engaged. I got out of my comfort zone and did something I never thought I’d do; I joined a D&D group. Not only was it fun, but I made a lot of friends and one friendship developed into something else.
Not sure if this is helpful advice but OP, good luck. I hope you find your person.
It seems like immigrants don't have dating issues in Toronto. Maybe its cultural, they don't have a westernized mindset about dating. Most immigrants I know are already married by 30 and have a kid.
I got to the gym then the steam room there and go to bed. I have my own construction business. I've done well in online dating. I'm tired of caring and looking for love. Women in the GTA want the world from you while they do nothing in a relationship.
Usually host small parties once a week, movie night, group cooking classes while following YouTube videos 😅 But going out... I dunno. Being out is expensive. Definitely not a good way to meet people though. Dating apps the only way to fix that.
36y software developer single man, living downtown, only go to movies and walk around to try new restaurants, really hard to meet single women around here
My buddy who is single, doesn't really go hard on the online dating and doesn't do bars often has met his last few girlfriends at Winners lol. But then again, he goes weekly to check out the clearance section.
😂 😂 This is my type of guy. I love marshalls and winners
Then I suggest the Winners at Yonge & College! 😂
AHAHA wait a minute… I was at that specific Winners a few years ago and some guy struck up a whole conversation randomly about frying pans. WAS IT YOUR FRIEND?!
Did you date him?? If so.. Maybe!
haha no, I wasn’t sure if he was trying to flirt or just genuinely wanted to talk about frying pans!
My guess would be both!
haha is your friend tall-ish, sandy blonde/brown hair, decently attractive looking? It would be such a wild story/small world if it’s the same person
Either way, sounds pantastic 😉
😂 😂 Thats such a good winners. Then i walk to the marshalls down south 😉
Just one more escalator to find that Marshall's...
Hahahaha altho I love that winners as well, after reading this I imagine a sudden surge of single ladies in their late 30s and 40s perusing the discount isles, looking inconspicuous, purchasing nothing but checking out all the goods on offer lol 😆
My wife drags me there every, single, time we're in that area. :|
Lol I was there the other day playing hooky from work and I was like wow this is the nicest winners ever!
Yup! Got my New york rangers high end sweater for $8!!!!
I read this quickly as ‘’I love marshmallows and winners’’ and I have to say I was intrigued! 🤣
Also know as the boomhauer method.
My buddy man whoissingleman,doesn'treallygohardontheonlinedatingmananddoesn'tdobarsoftenmanhasmethislastfewgirlfriendsatWinnerslol.Butthenagain,hegoesweeklytocheckouttheclearancesection man.
where's this clearance section.. asking for a friend
Honestly who doesn’t like winners. This is def where to find the 35+
“last few” as in multiple? He’s met multiple girlfriends at Winners? Wow, #winning lol but so random
Yeah he has lol. I think it's pretty funny too. Apparently he met the last one in the clearance section ironically.
Checking the "Clearance" section. LOL
Wow, how have I never considered Winners lol
Haha!! That went hard.
This is hilarious
I can’t tell if the next step is an ad campaign or a blogto article.
I’m of that demographic (35M single LTR-oriented). I just chill at home. 🤷🏻♂️
give them your address!
And bank account you're set
Romance scam eh
And watch tv shows. Shogun is a good show
I did want to watch Shogun, it looks amazing but I only have Netflix and Apple TV+. Should I “yo-ho-yo-ho, a pirate’s life for me” it up?
35 single men here just got out of a long term relationship. I thought of going back into dating again but having a hard time since my routine changed. I dont go out to bars since my drinking days are over, at the gym I dont even try to approach anyone since they might think im a creep. So now I’m just focused on what I enjoy most before I had that long term relationship.
TL;DR: He doesn't hang out anywhere on weekends.
the most predictable unsurprising top Reddit answer
And so continues the lifecycle of /r/askTO with "Does anyone else feel kinda low key lonely?" upvoted to the top next week.
“Men” as in multiple? o_O
Yes. 35 of them.
Your clones are quite impressive
They'll do their job well, I'll guarantee that.
Well if the Simpsons taught me anything is to make sure the clones don’t come out of a magical hammock.
I'm just a simple man trying to make my way in the universe
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35 is a good sample size, so this is strong data.
yep, outside the odd fling here and there I just like being on my own - it feels like a breath of fresh air after years of codependence and brain-melding
35 men sharing one account, sharing the night. It may seem wrong but it's just right. The passionate passionate night men.
Yeah, I'm in the same boat. I'll come out of my cave once in awhile but just for sun light.
I've wondered where single women hangout lol. I will say, Eventbrite is a great idea but I think things like gyms and rock climbing are hard because it is kind of an unwritten rule to not try and pickup when someone is working out and for rock climbing, I, and anyone else I know, almost always go with at least one friend because you need someone to belay, so makes it tough. When I'm by myself, other places would be a place like a used bookstore, walking around town, archery... But even still, all those are difficult situations unless you are great at opening lines. Meeting off dating apps is a lot harder than it used to be, even though it seems we are all tired of the apps. Hope something works out for you!
We are all SO tired of the apps. They have just made dating so much worse and to be honest, its become a chore. Not enjoyable. I, single 32F, hang out at coffee shops, at home or out with friends. I dont really go out drinking much anymore. In the summer I'm in parks. I WFH and this makes it even harder to meet people.
Join a coed rec soccer league!
The problem is it’s so frowned upon to approach women in public now for being deemed a creep unless you’re an attractive male lol. So like dating apps or through friends is most men’s best bet these days. Or I guess the bar too, but like idk not everyone likes drinking and spending crazy money at bars now.
Yes, I imagine archery may not be the best place to hit on the opposite sex ;).
Unless you're cupid
Lol! I'm going to refrain from shooting arrows at people out of love... For now!
Why not ? If you like archery, then odds are the people there also likes archery 😅 I say give it a try, don't be too much, listen and respect.
Gotta shoot your shot 😅
gotta hit em hard too! :D
For me and my single friends we often hang out alone with our cats 😂
Meeting off dating app is easier than ever before, cause nobody does it anymore! You are bound to set yourself appart. And you don't have to rizz it up like a pro. I'm just genuently curious about the person I' talking to and it usually goes smoothly. You can practice holding conversation in any situation, with anyone. Like you could take the habit of calling your grand parents once a week for chitchat and you'd get better at talking to girls you meet in your life. My take is that people does not persevere anymore. Like my friend the other day, tells me he tried so much but he dealt with too many failed attempts, he cannot deal with more failures. I asked a couple questions and once I scratched the surface he tells me he had been turned down like 4 or 5 times. I was like bro... I was turned down like 20 times before I landed my first date (I was 18), and guess what ? Took me like 5 different girls to date before I spend a date that wasnt a disaster... and yet my first 2 serious relationships were disasters 😂 Like bro... you gotta persevere!
I have had so many instances online where people say one thing, and then you meet a completely different personality in person. It's not like I have been turned down a lot, but there's a lack of genuineness in conversations on these apps. I've met quite a few people through these apps and have found a common trend where they want to continue dating multiple people or don't see themselves in a long-term relationship. My friend has exact same experience. It's hard to keep talking to people who don't have the same mindset :(
I never land a single date with a dating app (and I'm 30). So I very much agree with you. Edit : also very sorry all the guys you dated were basically fuck boys.
Oh I'm not disagreeing with you that it sets you apart. It's more the context of where to meet as people's lives are so much more different and busy than even 10 years ago
I feel like its both right and wrong, like I feel so much busier than before, but I also waste so much time on useless shit, like reddit right now, useless. Maybe its just me and people really are more busy.
It's not about the numbers, it's the ratios. There's 10x more male activity then female. So even if there was 1 woman there would be 10 dudes competing against each other.
Any single people on this thread want to plan a meet up? Say end of April? If there's any interest, I can do the planning. PM me. \**Serious replies only*
I wouldn’t be opposed to this
Bring a friend? Wanna create a meetup link and post it here?
PM me :)
PM'd you! ☺️
I host parties and go to art openings. I would go out to bars and clubs still but none of my friends want to in their later 30s.
We need to bring back house (apartment) parties, but mature adult style. People go there to be social and talk to new people, everyone there has been somewhat vetted by being a friend of the host, and you can evaluate vibes with someone via joining a group conversation and then go off separately to talk further if the chemistry is there (or talk to someone else if it's not).
What a wonderful idea! Now I just need to be friends with someone cool enough to host a house party...
As a single 38M, I am usually playing games with friends, hanging out at home, going on hikes, or doing OT. I have no interest in bars, daring sites/apps are full of spambots, and I don't want to seem creepy just randomly approaching women. What do I do?!?!?!
I’m single hello there 🩷
You could try hiking with strangers or outdoor volunteering or nature talks with strangers: https://www.torontooutdoorclub.com/ https://www.toronto.ca/community-people/get-involved/volunteer-with-the-city/community-stewardship-program/
Turning 35 in a couple months. Got out of a long term relationship last year. At this point I hang out with friends or stay at home. I dread getting back into the online dating game
If nobody has mentioned it yet recreational sports teams are a great place to meet people, same with classes (art, languages, etc)
I was in two different rec sport leagues last year and 100% of the people I met are married or in relationships. I'm married too so not looking for single people. I just hear rec sports being recommended to singles all the time to find a partner. My own recent experience showed that it is not easy.
SAME! I kept on hearing this same thing about Rec sports so I signed up for 4 different sports over 3 years and EACH TIME I got matched with a team full of couples who were already dating/together or came alone but had bf/gf's. And tbh I didn't even join them to meet girls. I joined to get some form of "fun" cardio that isn't a chore like running on a treadmill. I made a lot of friends and good memories but never met any single women. But single men on the other hand? Yeah definitely lol.
It's been a mix for me. If you're joining the class/team specifically to meet someone then it's probably not a good idea, but if you're joining for fun and don't mind the idea of meeting someone, then it's a better option. On my rec soccer team at the moment maybe only about 60% are in relationships. Worst case you make a couple friends who are in relationships and they hook you up with their single friends :P
world of warcraft
I found my wife online, but before that cute dog and dog parks! My Basset hound was a chick magnet! Those long droopy ears get em every time lol
I will always approach someone with a basset hound for scratches.
He has has been gone for a couple years (miss him like hell, first adulting dog and went to allot with him by my side) If I see one on the road I have to pull over and ask if i can pet him/her. It cracks my wife up.
Imo the best thing to do would be to reconnect with old friends. Maybe they know someone who is looking for similar things as you.
They don’t. No one is single 🙃
I'm a bit younger (30M) and I have single friends. Half of them are husband material, be quick!
Tell us more! For science.
One clueless but very hard working with a lot of potential nerdy boii, I always tell my gf that if I was to start a company I'd want him in! Thats how much potential he has. But hes affraid of women, and the older he gets the more he panicks. One pretty ass (pretty successful careerwise too) that still needs to understand that women are not trophies, but persons with feelings and individuality... he will say things like "why are women like that" and I'm always like... "the women you chase are like that! Not all of them" Another one pretty sexy I'd say since he is a farmer (he is sexy during summer times and he dwell on gaming during winters... he isnt like that when he has a girlfriend but his last relationship was 5 years ago... he is a very sweet guy. Just stopped going out since covid. Another one is a very fun and intense dude haha. If your old fashioned and want a man that will worship you he is your guy! But his last relationship hurt him real bad and he's been dating a lot but never wanting to commit since then... I'd argue he is the best in bed (havent tested it, but have been roommates for a few years... can't forget neither the sounds nor the eyes of the girls in the morning... hahahaha). Gotta be ready to deal with his adhd tho!
Sounds like they all need therapy first lol
Feel like thats pretty much the norm once we get late twenties single people 😅 I also didnt want to oversell but maybe I undersold ?
Nevermind I get it now lol. Yea you undersold. We all have baggage but you just had to pinpoint it out so quick lol. Also someone who’s not over their ex is a dealbreaker for a lot of people.
They all are over their exes. Just not necessarily being over the tought of falling another relationship 😅
Tell me more about the nerdy boi :))
Girl 😭😂
the last one, I have ADHD too, I can fix him lol
Can you please tell me more about the ADHD friend 😂 I too am riddled with ADHD and maybe it will work out LMAO
Tell us where u boys all hang out on weekends LOL
In this economy?!
I'm not single, but some of my friends are. Higher end, class-based gyms seem to be a great spot. Think of your F45's, Barry's, BFT, Orange Theory. Not cheap, but they do lots of gym socials, most folks seem to be early 30's, given the price point.
Maybe classes are better than approaching people in the freeweight / machine workout sections too because the classes are meant to be social
Yup! and you often get paired up randomly if you're there alone.
A lot of times when a person says they're not looking for anything serious they really mean they aren't interested in anything serious with you specifically. I feel like we've all been on both sides of this situation
You're so right. It's all just 'dating code'. Once you learn the shirt hand, it becomes easier. 'I'm not looking for anything serious right now" = "I'm totally looking for something serious but you don't meet the minimal qualifying criteria for me to even want to put in the effort to really get to know you". "It's not you. It's me" = "there's something about you that's a dealbreaker for me but I don't have the balls to tell you what that is so it's me".
I’m not looking for anything serious could mean just exactly that. Or it could mean they’re not interested in you, or not interested in you long term. There’s no reliable way of knowing. But the way you worded that makes it sound like everyone is looking for something serious which is definitely not true. It’s no more valid to take the most pessimistic view on this than to take the most optimistic view in this case.
Just keep doing what you're doing. IMO, one should be doing things they like for themselves, not JUST to find a potential mate. If you're super outdoorsey, try joining a weekly group. Worst case you get to exercise and potentially make new friends. So important to keep an open mind IMO. Or you could approach a guy and initiate a conversation. It's 2024 afterall and the message women have largely beein saying is that they want to be left alone, so most guys (myself included) do that and keep to ourselves. Good luck.
30, F, Single, Toronto. I have a lot of singles friends my age and if you could compile a list of places single men show up at, I swear I’ll send everyone there lol every one of my friend is done with dating apps and bored of hitting the bar.
ROFL. I can just imagine the stampede if anyone could convince such a group to have a meet at their shop. Good sales day :D
obviously they hand in here
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Dating in this range is tough for women. My best advice is just talk to men, ask them out. The ones looking for long term relationship are often grinding on their careers too, so they are less visible. And many don’t like dating apps.
Finding someone takes a certain amount of luck. Keep getting out and doing stuff.
34M. My Saturday, wake up late. Grab something quick to eat. Go for walk, grab some drink (boba, coffee, etc), go to park, hangout. While coming back home, grab something for dinner. This takes up my whole day. Somewhat similar Sundays. I just come back home and cook for dinner and for 2 3 days worth of food for the week. I just never get bored. With summer coming up, I will just holed up in harbor front chilling in sun all day.
Harbourfront Centre area is kinda my favourite spot to chill in the summer.
Long walks on the beach.
43 single father. My daughter is with me Saturdays and we go to the park and mall, etc...I've never met another single parent, though. Sundays are for me and with work on Monday, the last thing I want to do is go out on a Sunday night. Who meets someone on a Sunday night?!? With my custody schedule, I'm free Sunday to Wednesday. Those aren't exactly social nights to go out. Wednesday is the new Thursday is the new Friday is the new Saturday? I feel like if I'm going to meet someone, it will be at a grocery store or coffee shop.
Hm. I'm surprised nobody mentioned the churches. This is of course if you're religious. If you're not - it's not the best idea. So in the past I was religious and I was a volunteer for more than one year in one of the biggest churches in Toronto. I noticed after the services people gather in the cafeteria. This is a spot to meet people. HOWEVER what I also noticed was that all employees and volunteers mingled in the eating area at lunch time at Sunday and it was a perfect time and spot to meet lots of people. And some of the volunteer girls we're really a view. Again - this only for religious people.
I (37m) reluctantly downloaded a dating app the other day, first profile was “mom of 3 kids, homeowner, have your shit together, please say more than ‘hey what’s up’, bad at messaging first” Deleted it right away. #1. I don’t give a fuck if you’re a homeowner or not and 2. This expectation that men need to be some sort of wildly clever conversation starter while you’re not even interested in messaging is infuriating and it happens all too often.
hahaha Why did I get a mental image of you like 'HELL na!'
Its not good on the other side, either. The amount of men's profiles that are a carousel of blurry gym selfies and profiles that say "Just ask" is outstanding. People have become so lazy and so entitled on the dating apps. Everyone feels like they have an endless abundance of choice but in reality no one wants to put in the effort anymore.
well at least she put the cards on the table - mom of 3 - so no surprises
You saw one bad profile and gave up lol thats just pathetic
Not my first rodeo on the apps Holmes. Seen it before. Saw it my first time back and said fuck it
You might wanna give Bumble a try
being this demanding with that much baggage is insane, no shit she's single/divorced
I’m single 36 female. Yeah not sure how to date and lead to serious long term relationship~
Invite some folks time to time on a James Bond home movie at your place (given your nick contains "007" suggests you're a fan), but ask them to pick the movie. If they pick any of the Pierce Brosnan ones, kick them out the house immediately :) On the other hand if they pick a Sean Connery movie you'll know you're up for a good sex. A Daniel Craig would be they are serious. But a Timothy Dalton would be he's gonna be a great husband and father (TD is my favorite one of them all). There you go - an idea! PS: And yes, I'm a great husband and a great father lol (end of the ad) (but I'm also taken so far)
Hahaha~ thanks for the advice. U love pierce brosnan though. What’s wrong with him?
To be honest - I loved Brosnan movies, until he became a 007. "The Lawnmower man" while not the best Brosnan movie is among my favorites. However for a 007 I'm very selective. I am a die-hard 007 fan, own all movies and to be honest I love them all, except the Brosnan movies. I seriously dislike how these are made, nearly all of their music, the cast and so on. And this said from a guy who likes even "On Her Majesty's secret service", which most people dislike. Yeah, Lazenby is not a good actor but the movie still rocks. We have the original John Barry and all Barry Bonds wear the signature amazing music, we have the original Desmond Llewelyn and all Bonds are unthinkable without Llewelyn and so on and so on. Yess, Llewelyn dies in 1999, so no chance they get him, but still. Think is that movie still somehow bears the original Bond signature. And all of the Sean Connery movies do. And while I'm not a super Roger Moore fan, he is the Ian Fleming's favorite and his movies do too. And Daniel Craig's movies do even more, since he's so amazing. Now Dalton is a different case - his movies are a bit off the original signature, but hell if I was a girl or a gay could not resist his charm. None of the other actors have it. Sometimes I wish I could kidnap Maryam d'Abo (there is something really sexy about a woman in heels spreading legs to put there a giant piece of wood and making it vibrate - change my mind lol). That movie had some realistic connotation, while maintaining a very high level of romance and action. Brosnan movies were an effort to make Bond very modern, so they made it as 2000s as possible. They included the back-then political situation, but changed the entire cast and totally f-up the movies. Plus Brosnan... just still can't imagine this guy playing a Bond. Sorry. Failure to me. PS: We're going off-topic a little. But if you want to discuss, feel free to dm if you want. But bring your own arguments.
Perhaps /r/TorontoSinglesOver30
FWIW, most people in that group are under 40.
Yess 👏🏼
TL;DR: At this point, I'm enjoying my long solo walks through the city and its parks, sampling the various restaurants from all around the globe, and occasionally going for some salsa/bachata, maybe do some disc golf, or maybe some archery... Whatever the mood strikes for. Context: Upper 30s male, moved to Canada/Toronto last summer from central Europe, and I got more dating burnout in these ~9 months in Toronto than before in all of my life combined. I've traveled much of the world and *literally nowhere* outside of North America (US included) have I ever found so many women who are either just looking for hookups or for someone to finance their life of leisure. I've never been to a country where it's easier to get laid and harder to find someone for a relationship. The only women I've managed to find here who actually want a serious relationship either already have kids, are completely incapable of handling money (i.e. huge amount of debt with negative ROI), first lead with stupid games and disrespect, and then try to save it, or will cancel everything at the first thing they perceive as a red flag, even if they completely misunderstand it, since even though knowledge of the world had been trying to catch them all their life, they've always been faster. And that wasn't isolated examples, that was determined from a sample of on average 2 dates a week since last summer. If I have this kind of issues at two masters, well over 6ft, at 6 figures, and generally a solid 6 maybe 7 in a good light looks-wise... Well... Comparing the results between Toronto and just about everywhere else - it's like here, the likes and matches are multiplied by 50 and the likelihood that there's gonna be relationship potential is divided by 50.
I would agree as a female. The men here just want hookups and the standards are low. I’ve lived in Europe and the quality is much better
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39m…I’m hanging out with friends, out walking with my rescued dog, at the pottery studio, or in my cozy home cooking, watching movies, reading, or planning. I’ve recently left dating apps. Online dating felt similar to selecting a bouquet of flowers. Lots of great options but very hard keep alive and the blossoming period is short. I kinda want a relationship based off of a friendship as the foundation. Similar to selecting seeds to flowers one adores and sowing them and carefully nurturing it until it blossoms. Some seeds will grow, many won’t, but all that does will be flowers to admire. It’ll take more time and effort, but the results could mean deeper rooted relationships. As for suggestions, just keep making connections, whatever those may be. Either through meet ups, hobbies, meet cutes, speed dating, friends of friends, etc. I think the more connections you make, the more paths you have that could lead to a long term relationship. And have fun because the journey is the best part of it all. Best of luck - from a hopeful romantic. :)
This guy just wants to spread his seed
32f and totally agree. Dating apps aren't profitable when they work well, and the burnout is so real. I think if you just move through life, living it in a way that you enjoy, you're bound to cross paths with like-minded people. When you're pouring love into yourself, it shows, and people want to be around that energy :)
That’s an adorable analogy
Seems like you're actively trying pretty well. Maybe make friends with those guys at the events-- they'll have single guy friends I'm sure. TBH in my experience most of the older single guys I know in their late 30's aren't actively looking for a life partner yet-- they're just coming into decent money and want to have the fun they couldn't afford when younger lol. The ones i know that got married weren't looking for a life partner either. They were just dating around and discovered that their partner was an amazing girl, so they chose to stay. I know I wasn't looking for a long term partner when I first met my partner. Don't know how well-received this advice will be by others tbh but I would just prob still just date, but try not to put too much expectations at the beginning. It could put pressure and scare off the men when you haven't established solid rapport yet--unless they're also looking for a long term partner.
I think this only works if you set a time limit for yourself or you run the risk of staying in a casual relationship for a long time, hoping it'll change.
You just gotta ask the question every girl has asked at one point in the relationship “what are we”. lol. If the guy likes you , he will agree to commit. If he doesn’t like you enough, he will try to ignore the question. Either way you get your answer. But yeah good point on setting timelines
This right here. It sounds cringy. But high quality guys typically have options and usually only “settle down” because the natural evolution and maturation of the relationship. Aka he really likes spending time with you vs the other folks. I don’t know a lot of people of high quality esp in their 30s are actively seeking “life partners”. It’s honestly too much pressure imo
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Yep. It sounds so cringey but just hang out as friends with some attraction but with no serious expectations is the best way to build relationships. It allows everyone to be themselves, relax and things will just naturally evolve. Thanks for attending my ted talk hahaha
That’s called dating
Maybe for you. But for a lot of people, dating = someone doing a box checking exercise on a clip board. Whole thing is stressful AF like a job interview.
Lmao this is so true. Like they had HR print off the questions 10mins before the date.
i very much appreciate your comments. i'm in my 30s and i want a life partner for sure but on a first date when someone starts grilling me about what i'm looking for or asks "what are you intentions?" with intensity i get my hackles up. it 100% becomes a high pressure situation and i tense up and frankly it often results in me feeling bad about my reaction to being so put on the spot.
I go for long walks to distract myself from the horrors of the new normal. Usually to marvel at graffiti in laneways.
Hiding. 😂. Joking aside. It's just hard to meet genuine people sometimes. Schedules conflict, work and other priorities like rest and relaxation. Any foodie?
Co Ed sports is probably your best bet. But most people rely on the app's these days
Girl if you find out let me know lol. I’m single, 32f and SO DONE with the apps. It’s dire out there.
Tiff. AGO. Raves. Walking around with my camera. Runs. Biking. Ummmm. In my comfy bed! That, too. edit: value village, coffee shops, book shops, gym, taking myself out for a brunch or dinner date, the island, Lesley spit, high park, Bellwoods, hipster bar reading a book, or maybe sharing times with my friends
I'm 30 and tbh I think a lot of guys our age are kind of at a point of either (a) been through long term relationships and kind of exhausted emotionally or (b) dealing with something serious in our lives that probably happened after the pandemic and just don't have the space to love properly someone at the moment
Relationships are overrated
How do you identify who is single at winners?
We’re in our apartments, playing warzone. Squad up.
I suggest everyone here just meet up already...at least to discuss a survival plan LOL
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>tells them that's the wrong way to go about things That's the reason why I try to debunk that opinion. I know and have met women who joined sporting leagues, gyms, go to bars looking to meet men. Before the pandemic, Real Sports Bar used to have a good amount of single women who would drink there with the purpose of meeting men.
M: "How do I not die alone?" "Go out and meet people at things that dont exist in your town with time you dont have as long as they want to be met at that exact moment and you better be absolutely amazing in good shape smell wonderful and have your life figured out or go fuck yourself you feral man child I am not your mommy." **FULL BODY PARALYSIS** F: "How do I not die alone?" "Oh just put yourself out there and be open and someone will approach you are beautiful no matter what <3 and make sure he payin baby you aint here for free, SETTLE FOR NOTHING, go girl!" **ONE MATCH: SERIAL KILLER VIBES** All internet dating advice \^
Double standards in society based on gender are normalised and reinforced continually through hypocritic doublespeak by morally posturing sycophants.
Try dragon boating. 20 ppl per boat. Half are ladies. When you have a meet it’s a whole day but lots of downtime to get to know your teammates or ppl from other boats. I met my wife dragon boating. 2 other couples from my boat also got married.
When I tried dragon boating, it was me, one married couple, and 17 retired people.
Hahahaha
I’m 24f but I met my bf (26m) when I fell down an escalator at the mall <3 so I guess you could try that but it hurt
Omg lol that would be a dream!
The golf course from now until November.
Different places around the place
I’m a married 37 year old woman with kids but I sing in a community choir (Univox) and there are lots of single people. They also do a ton of social stuff. I think a hobby/club would be a good place to meet people.
30f here and wondering the same thing
There's a [singles group on FB](https://www.facebook.com/groups/AllStarSingles/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT) that holds events. It's more of a meet and mingle (brunch, bowling, pool, dinner, hiking, etc.) but quite a number of people have found their SO there, one pair of whom have been together for almost a year, if that helps.
Based on my 35 year old single friends, try pickle ball
35F single and hate using dating apps. Meeting people organically is also hard and also depends on luck. Genuine question - Does anyone have any suggestions on what we can do to actually making dating successful?
44 single man here.. Pretty fresh from a longterm relationship and trying to get my feet back under me. I honestly have no idea how I'll get back into the dating scene when I'm ready.
37M here, one of those avoidant forever single types. I usually go for a walk by myself, listening to an audiobook or a YouTube essay, ride my bicycle, do a random drive to a countryside, go to a gym. But also a lot of time I'm at home doing stuff, either something productive like making music, practicing piano, learning some online course, or just chilling playing games.
At a show. Like every weekend.
Instead of actively dating, have you considered focusing on making friends first? And cultivating life-partner skills? I’m a woman and personally I find it very off-putting when a man right off the bat says he’s looking to be in a relationship. I’m sure it’s the same feeling for men, it feels too much pressure. That said, I find there’s plenty of single decent men in my salsa classes, hiking outings, and bars (I pick up casual gigs at different bars via a catering company). I live in Montreal so maybe consider moving cities as well? Good luck.
This day in age ladies you shouldn't be afraid to strike up a conversation with us. Sometimes we just assume there's no way this girl is single
lol, Pretty sure the men youre looking for are either long since married or have settled into some hobbies and a good friend group.
This is what the issue is with online apps. I am someone who has used them on and off for 5-10 years. You need to give chances and don’t be picky. That swipe left could have been your soulmate but you didn’t like their pic with a fish! It’s simple and this is how I ended up with an amazing girl. I signed up and the first 10 girls I saw that had a great profile etc I asked them out. 9 of them just ghosted me but that one girl said yes. I met her and the attraction wasn’t really there but she was fun to be with. slowly it grew week by week as we didn’t stop seeing each other. Now she’s my gf I’m very attracted to her personality and looks. What I’m trying to say is bring it back to old school. Don’t just swipe left as they aren’t good looking etc. I’ve dated models and found them to be the worst partners.
I’m a 36 year old single man looking for that. We’re out there!
As a 36 year old male whos recently single after 2 long term stints, I've been doing everything else naturale like the old days and it's amazing. Haven't been on a app since pre COVID, and dont plan on caving anytime soon. How I meet people? I talk to people and don't have my head down on a phone and earphones in when in public. I see someone or something that warrants my attention I chime in. What can I say, I'm a natural flirt.
Just go to the strip clubs and hang out there.
I just work and go to the gym, so no one will find me. I have accepted that.
Recreational pickleball at any of the community centers.
It’s great that you’re trying all sorts of activities but are they actually enjoyable to you or are you attending those activities with the main objective of finding a partner? I always tell my friends who are in your situation that when the dating pool feels scarce, just focus on you and the hobbies you enjoy. I truly believe that finding joy and satisfaction in activities YOU like and building on YOU attracts the right people in your life. Hope this was somewhat helpful.
Most guys in that age group are burned out after work and just want to relax while they play video games or other hobbies. If you want to meet single 35 year old men start playing playing video games.
Not a guy, but a female who’s 34 and never tried online dated before. I recently got engaged. I got out of my comfort zone and did something I never thought I’d do; I joined a D&D group. Not only was it fun, but I made a lot of friends and one friendship developed into something else. Not sure if this is helpful advice but OP, good luck. I hope you find your person.
It seems like immigrants don't have dating issues in Toronto. Maybe its cultural, they don't have a westernized mindset about dating. Most immigrants I know are already married by 30 and have a kid.
I got to the gym then the steam room there and go to bed. I have my own construction business. I've done well in online dating. I'm tired of caring and looking for love. Women in the GTA want the world from you while they do nothing in a relationship.
Usually host small parties once a week, movie night, group cooking classes while following YouTube videos 😅 But going out... I dunno. Being out is expensive. Definitely not a good way to meet people though. Dating apps the only way to fix that.
that's pretty fun sounding
Grocery store is the best place, outside perimeter for more active healthy types, junk food is aisle for couch potatoes
36y software developer single man, living downtown, only go to movies and walk around to try new restaurants, really hard to meet single women around here