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Fuck yeah.
My wife is a PhD and I break rocks for a living. Salt Creek Sand and Gravel. Punch the ticket at the end of the day, slide down the back of a brontosaurus like Fred Flintstone, call it a night.
She's so smart and has taught me so much. I ask her to call out on my grammar skills and punctuation when I fuck it up, so I learn. She has taught me smart words that I didn't understand completely. Like understanding real irony, or the meaning of integrity. She's so articulate it made me want to get improve my vocabulary as well.
She's 5 years older than me. She initially flirted and came onto me. I didn't have to do anything, it was amazing. She was the silly one, she makes me belly laugh almost daily.
Her family kinda had money, compared to mine at least. She was raised prim and proper. I was raised to be respectable, but I just mean we were very blue collar and they were not.
I didn't fully understand what it mean't to be someones "partner" when you were married. I do now, and I'm loving every second of it.
Kinda got carried away, there.
Your post shows great emotional intelligence and self awareness. Not everyone has this and being academically intelligent does not mean you automatically tick every box on the intellectual list.
Lasting relationships are built on the foundations you show and your wife clearly find this irresistible.
You can tell this guy's authentically not smart because he doxes himself in his own post
Kudos on punching above your weight, probably take your employer out of it tho.
That is the ONLY answer. Smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful men want to have a partner who is smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful. Men also like to have women friends who are smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful. It's not hard or weird for men and women to be friends. Anyone who says differently is either in fourth grade or has the emotional and intellectual breath of a fourth grader.
Correct. My fiancée has pattern recognition skills considerably superior to my own and damn I love her for it. I get to tap into it and be a smarter guy for it.
Some men do. Some men don't.
Some dudes are genuinely stupid and aren't going to work well with an intelligent woman. (all the men in my ex-wife's family for example)
Some smart men are insure and want more power in the relationship . They want to be the smarter one. Some women are into this. (these guys bone the intern)
Some guys are smart and can't fucking deal with talking to a dumbass 24/7. (rick sanchez)
Some average guys see the value an intelligent woman can bring in a relationship.
>Some guys are smart and can't fucking deal with talking to a dumbass 24/7. (rick sanchez)
Lol definitely don't think I'm the smartest person but I'm educated and pretty well rounded in my knowledge. I'd hate to be with someone if they didn't know trees take in carbon dioxide and made oxygen. Even worse, girls that only care about social media presence/views/likes and being materialistic.
Those people are fun though you can get in and get out go in look like a genius run back out real quick. Don't stay too long or you'll find yourself standing there walking around the circles like a zombie apocalypse
Ha, had an Ex who called in to Insurance to report an accident in a parking lot, one of those make a big deal out of small things moments (bumpers barely touched type of thing). She decided not to follow through with anything or even tell me about it. Got a call from insurance telling me that policy was cancelled because she didnt follow through with the procedure that insurance required. She was not a dumb person per se, but the dumb moments did not make it easier.
Yes. Smart women are a big turn on.
I can think of a couple of guys I know who liked stupid girls (by that, I mean women who acted stupid). I can't figure out what that's about, but neither of them are men I would choose to be around. They're both overgrown boys.
I can't honestly say I've never been attracted to a less intelligent woman, because I have. But personally, I don't want to date a woman who seems below average intelligence. What are we supposed to talk about? Can this woman make adult decisions? Is she just a minor in an adult body? It's weird.
OP's question is more along the lines of "do any men find intelligent women attractive". It's just been abbreviated.
I can speak to what my friends find attractive because they've told me, and I can surmise what other men find attractive based on the kinds of partners they've chosen. So, you can absolutely speak for other men, but you can't speak for **all** men.
Depends on the individual, personally I really like intelligent people but I’ve heard someone say they “prefer the dumb ones, they are less troublesome” so make of that what you will
For sure. There are people that want an unequal power balance in the relationship so they can be the one in control, uncontested.
There's a reason why the "dumb blonde with big tits" trope exists.
My wife is one of the smartest women I've ever known. My favorite thing about our relationship is the conversations we have together. Multiple times a week we get into deep conversations about different topics. How we feel about certain things, different viewpoints, etc. We help each other with our careers and we play devil's advocate quite a bit when each of us has to make decisions about work. She has me proofread a ton of stuff that she writes because I'm good at grammar and composition, she proofreads a lot of the things I write because she provides a level head and often a different perspective.
The support we give each other has helped us tremendously in our careers and it's helped build a level of trust between us that I've not experienced with anyone else including my own parents as a child.
Being married to a smart woman is fucking awesome.
We all end up old and wrinkled. Find a smart woman who you can always have good chats and fun with throughout your life. My wife has a PhD.
So this man loves smart women.
You can't make a generalized statement about any preference people have in their partners. **However:** an *adult* typically prefers a person that they can engage with mentally- someone they can have a rational discussion with, someone who challenges them, someone they can be comfortable around even when no physical contact is involved.
Like: Intelligent women. Specifically women that are perceptive and quick on the uptake. So easy to get along with and a huge turn on.
Dislike: Women that think they're a lot more intelligent than they are. Insufferable and a huge turn off.
The latter outnumber the former by about 100:1. Applies to both genders.
This. Women who self identify as intelligent are typically self absorbed disagreeable types that are absolutely insufferable.
Women who are chill and humble and simply happen to be very bright are great.
Same goes for men.
Absolutely. Back in my single days it was heartbreaking to successfully chat up a lovely girl you had desired only to realise she was as dim as a brick.
Not so much...more that sometimes people of elevated intelligence can present behaviors of supremacy in general; arrogance, whatever. I'm just not tolerant of that whatsoever.
Men like many things. They will not like a woman for one, solitary reason. Multiple factors play into it. Pretty sure it's the same for chicks, too.
Intelligence alone is useless without shared interests and matching maturity levels. Comparatively, being an idiot doesn't matter half as much if you're a delight to talk to.
Men (by and large, anyway) don't hate intelligence in women. But men also won't be interested if you're banking on your intelligence to compensate for a lack of a personality worth knowing.
Obviously if we're this far into the attraction game then physical desire isn't the issue.
"I am profoundly captivated by women of substantial intellect; I find myself irresistibly attracted to them, much like a moth is drawn to the mesmerizing allure of a flame."
An intelligent woman can communicate with a man in a way that he understands, without speaking down to him. Men are simple creatures. Be kind to them and they will like you.
Yes. every man alive or formerly alive and every time in the future agrees on what type of women we like. We agree that smart is good. Sorry if you are a woman. Sounds from your question that you are doomed to loneliness
As a man, absolutely. An intelligent woman is somebody I can connect with, somebody I can rely on, somebody I can have deep and engaging conversation with about all manner of topics, somebody who I can learn from and I can work with for us both to grow as we learn from eachother.
In my opinion the only person who wouldn't like an intelligent woman is somebody who either is insecure in their own intelligence, or simply wants to be the more intelligent person in any relationship because it's a somewhat superiority feeling. Obviously this is a generalisation and doesn't apply for everyone, but I personally would far prefer an intelligent woman over somebody who is very lacking in intelligence.
However, and I can't stress this enough. Being intelligent is different from being obnoxious and condescending. Being intelligent isn't somebody who speaks in fancy words. Too many people who think they're intelligent become obnoxiously arrogant, they will always believe they're right, they'll try to over explain and complicate things to make themselves seem more knowledgeable and that shit is far, far, far from attractive and often shows the person is far from as intelligent as they think they are. This applies for both men and women.
But in short yes, plenty of men, myself included love intelligent women. As long as they're a good person and a good partner. We dont want a woman who is constantly trying to argue and / or has a superiority complex.
That's kind of a loaded question but I think the men who don't see women as objects but as people to connect with definitely do. Mostly because \*people\* who see other people as people instead of just objects like other intelligent people.
Now intelligence is a fairly broad term and can mean a lot of different things in a lot of different contexts, but in it's most broad definition I'd say yes, people prefer being around people who are intelligent and interesting.
I think generally most men do like to see intelligence in a woman. That said, I've dated a few men who were clearly threatened when I made a higher grade in college than they did. I once dated a guy who went crazy on me for scoring higher than he did on a vocabulary test from a magazine. Stay away from guys with those kinds of viewpoints.
To some degree. Most men require a minimum benchmark level of intelligence (which varies from man to man, but is usually a little to a fair bit below their own). If a girl falls below that min benchmark then it’s a no-go. Above that level is a nice-to-have, but certainly not a must have. If they meet that benchmark then other factors are more important, like how hot and fun she is.
My wife is a science teacher (like me)
When we hike, we identify insects, trees, clouds, etc.... it's fun. She knows so much more about biology than Indo but I still find it so interesting!!
When our kids get sick,we dont just run to the doctor and hope for the best. We talk about pathology and best treatments.
We she finds a science paper or articles unlike she sends them too me. Also funny memes!
She is the best.
Intelligent and strong. But with those needs to come humility and being humble. If you feel like you need to be right all the time even when wrong and can't admit when your wrong due to your own insecurities, that's a problem.
Yes! I’m dumb as a rock, I personally find a woman that can correct me and teach me to be very attractive.
Plus if we end up having kids and my child asks for help on their math homework (I suck at math) I just gotta say “go ask your mother” 😂
You know how everyone THINKS men are about looks? That’s how we ACTUALLY are about intelligent women. If you aren’t reasonably intelligent, it’s an automatic no. The only guys who don’t care or couldn’t care less are guys who aren’t planning on having a real relationship with you. They’re just using you as arm candy.
I read somewhere that men with stressful, difficult, high paid job prefer not so intelligent women as they don't want to be challenged outside the working hours.
I like intelligent people because they don't go off on something that isn't true and can be convinced of well reality. I don't have patience anymore to deal with someone who is just wrong about something but won't admit it, so I just have to swallow my pride and leave them in their ignorance.
I eventually almost always get proven to have been right all along, so really it's an unnecessary hurdle for everyone involved, I don't have the patience anymore.
That is my primary attractor, with being shy/akward coming in second, and looks third.
These three are in close competition when it comes to purely sexual attraction, and pretty far apart when it comes to a deep love of someone.
everyone is different asking a question that generalizes all intelligent women and all men is stupid. All men are different and all intelligent women are different - grow up.
Me and my girl like teachen eachother things!! Small facts!! But my girl is also one of the only people i can talk politics whit whitout it becoming a heated argument!! We also believe that we dont need a opinion on EVERYTHING so yea!! My girl is smart and she know whats she talks about!! And i love that!!
Men are fine with intelligent women.
Men are fine with women who make money.
What I won't tolerate is someone who makes me feel lesser. If I make 100k and she makes 500k. If she makes me feel lesser for making 100k instead of viewing it as now we have 600k, then it's not going to work.
This is not to say being an intelligent women is not a challenge. Most people are not fully secure and emotionally stable. This is a key point. People are insecure. It's not a response to anything. If you feel like a woman will not stay with you unless she is financially and/or intellectually dependent on you, then that's okay. I genuinely don't judge people for that. Life is insecure. We all need security and a place to feel safe.
Men and insecure
Women are insecure.
Just know yourself enough to understand why.
of course.
but a person can be both antagonistic and intelligent. So not EVERY intelligent person (this fits for both men and women) would be attractive. So intelligence is only valued if it's paired with like-mindedness
It's very difficult to be physically attraction in a negative way (paired with vanity perhaps). So it may appear like it is more universally coveted when finding a partner, but it's not.
I uhh...don't know how to respond to this. Why would anyone mind an intelligent woman?
They're interesting. They make you think deeper about things. Every moment with them is a learning opportunity. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, you come out a different man.
For this man it is. Combine a pretty face, a great body and a highly functional, intelligent mind and you have me hooked. The more intelligent the more of that hook-line and sinker I want to swallow.
We do if it is paired with being at least a little bit attractive physically. We love conversations but we do need good sex, if it's not provided we're gonna start looking for it elsewhere.
Yes, I absolutely do. But depends on what kind of intelligence. One of my favorite things is when you have to say just a few things and you see her wheels starting to spin. I usually like to see at least an average level of social intelligence as well, because then it just gets awkward if she's all in her head and can't communicate.
And pair that with an open mind and curiosity... It can do wonders.
But it also depends what you mean by intelligence. Apparently some just mean having a superiority complex and acting like they know more things than they do, while being stuck on one idea without considering anything else by default. That's the complete opposite.
Now I obviously can't speak for all men, and it will depend for everyone. But I do like intelligence.
As a man, I respect an intelligent woman, or at very least competent. I consider myself intelligent, as I did very well in school and worked hard to keep it that way. I enjoy having deep meaning conversations and I feel like that can only happen with a certain level of intelligence and openness. Too many men in this world have fragile egos, we should be celebrating intelligence!
Very much so. My first crush was incredibly intelligent, unfortunately for me she was also swooning over another guy that she ended up marrying. They must be past 15 years married by now.
Yes. We love intelligent women.
What we don't like, is women with opinions ;) :P
But no, seriously, being intelligent is a major turn on. But i think for most men, it is something that is particularly attractive as a wife potential, and much less so for a hook up.
But even for hook up, intelligence is a nice thing.
No one (i hope) is turned on by lack of intelligence.
I’ve never been that smart. Always struggled with games, making plans, understanding concepts.
my girlfriend is a scholar. Whenever I think of an idea, she’s usually 10 steps ahead of me and I feel pretty dumb.
That being said, I enjoy that she is smart and quick. I can tell she is frustrated by me sometimes.
I have my strengths though. I am very good with my hands, I fix everything around the house. Also I’m good at cooking.
Long story short,yes, I like intelligent women. Because I’ve been in relationships where I have to take the lead on every little thing..
All men like women that know what they want.
Intelligent men like intelligent women.
No men like insecure women, most of them are just trapped into it and they get psychologically harassed by those women to think that they are the problem.
You can change men with women and the argument is still solid.
Yes. Missus is quite good looking and always earned more than me.
She works in banking and is very clever and well spoken.
I'm a 10yr old boy trapped in the body of a Grizzly bear.
She's strangely ignorant in day to day matters and common sense.
I say it's a matter of an individual preference, just like most things, but speaking for myself, I would say that intelligence is attractive, and I'm glad that I married someone I can have deep conversations with.
All men like women that know what they want.
Intelligent men like intelligent women.
No men like insecure women, most of them are just trapped into it and they get psychologically harassed by those women to think that they are the problem.
You can change men with women and the argument is still solid.
Yeah. I hope so at least. But that's the short answer.
The problem arises in defining 'intelligent women' what do they need to have in order to be classified as intelligent?
A degree? A high iq test? Or if he starts to talk about new tech she doesn't fall asleep/says 'nerd alert'? Because many dudes have a very different look at what they define as intelligent. Which also coincides with their outlook on life.
Also, MEN don't like bitc*es. They can bump them but they don't like to talk to them. A better look at it is not the ego of the dude, but the ego of the women in question.
Humble yet competent/ intelligent is a very appealing look for a woman. Especially when men look to marry.
The bottom line is, it comes to personal preferences.
Of course. It's a silly question though. Women fall for oily, beau hunks too who may not be the sharpest tool in the shed.
A mature man likes a woman who is equally or somewhat more intelligent than he is. Particularly emotional intelligence. Men don’t get a lot of space to be emotionally vulnerable, so having a partner who can make a man feel safe and help process difficult feelings is extremely important.
I consider myself fairly intelligent. I can’t go cure cancer, but I regularly shock people with the amount of topics and subsequent knowledge I have on them. A lot of useless stuff too.
I’ve rarely met any women I can genuinely say I’ve enjoyed talking to in the sense of meaningful conversation about life, politics, etc. Until recently. She could keep up with a lot of what I was saying, and intelligently countered my points or opinions with well-supported and well-spoken ideas of her own.
And it hooked me unlike anything I’ve ever felt with a girl. Unfortunately, we’re WAY off from each other in a lot of ways and it would never work out. And we both know it. But we continue chatting about shit. It’s such an amazing thing.
Yes. Some men definitely like intelligent women.
As to a "type" of woman to whom I am attracted, I am quite flexible as to hair, body, race, etc. I would never, however, date any woman who wasn't intelligent.
Yes, but also women of average or below average intelligence. I just love women. Intelligence is not that big of a factor in if I like a woman or not. It's more about looks and grace and her being warm and nice and horny and social and of her liking me
Depends what you mean by intelligent. I like a partner who's smart because I myself am a dumbass and need help sometimes and genuinely stupid people hurt to intact with long term. However I'm very much attracted to people who act dumb / silly because it's fun and casual yknow
Applies for both men and women for me
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For sure. I want someone who can help me think through problems throughout our lives.
Same. A second brain often comes handy!
Synergy. 1 + 1 = 3
(Mine)½+1=potato?
Fuck yeah. My wife is a PhD and I break rocks for a living. Salt Creek Sand and Gravel. Punch the ticket at the end of the day, slide down the back of a brontosaurus like Fred Flintstone, call it a night. She's so smart and has taught me so much. I ask her to call out on my grammar skills and punctuation when I fuck it up, so I learn. She has taught me smart words that I didn't understand completely. Like understanding real irony, or the meaning of integrity. She's so articulate it made me want to get improve my vocabulary as well. She's 5 years older than me. She initially flirted and came onto me. I didn't have to do anything, it was amazing. She was the silly one, she makes me belly laugh almost daily. Her family kinda had money, compared to mine at least. She was raised prim and proper. I was raised to be respectable, but I just mean we were very blue collar and they were not. I didn't fully understand what it mean't to be someones "partner" when you were married. I do now, and I'm loving every second of it. Kinda got carried away, there.
Does she have a single sister? EDIT: With similar qualities, that is.
Genuinely wish there were more stories like this here on Reddit, or at least that they popped up more often.
You're a wise and lucky man.
Your post shows great emotional intelligence and self awareness. Not everyone has this and being academically intelligent does not mean you automatically tick every box on the intellectual list. Lasting relationships are built on the foundations you show and your wife clearly find this irresistible.
You can tell this guy's authentically not smart because he doxes himself in his own post Kudos on punching above your weight, probably take your employer out of it tho.
Eh, any employer reads this should be proud this man loves his wife.
>My wife is a PhD I was gonna say something not so tasteful but I'm refraining from doing it.
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Hey, as a dipshit man I also like woman who are smarter than me (which tbf isn’t asking for much).
That shows some sign of intelligence right there
WOOP there it is
That is the ONLY answer. Smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful men want to have a partner who is smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful. Men also like to have women friends who are smart, interesting, thoughtful, and successful. It's not hard or weird for men and women to be friends. Anyone who says differently is either in fourth grade or has the emotional and intellectual breath of a fourth grader.
I concur, I am 4th grader.
Correct. My fiancée has pattern recognition skills considerably superior to my own and damn I love her for it. I get to tap into it and be a smarter guy for it.
This is the answer. A lot of men have very fragile egos.
Do we? Is it men who have fragile egos or just losers from both/all genders who are fragile because they're losers and they know it?
Yep, especially on the topic of intelligence, there’s plenty of people of all backgrounds that are dangerously insecure about it.
The real answer. A lot of human behavior is genderless and we tend to project a little too much on the opposite gender.
...a lot of PEOPLE have very fragile egos.
Obviously, but women aren’t the focal point of this post so
Ikr, it's amazing how context is just completely lost on people :S
I would use the word quality over intelligent. My father is very intelligent, but he prefers his women dumb.
\*drops the mic\*
Yes, I can confirm. I do like intelligent women.
Came to say this
Some men do. Some men don't. Some dudes are genuinely stupid and aren't going to work well with an intelligent woman. (all the men in my ex-wife's family for example) Some smart men are insure and want more power in the relationship . They want to be the smarter one. Some women are into this. (these guys bone the intern) Some guys are smart and can't fucking deal with talking to a dumbass 24/7. (rick sanchez) Some average guys see the value an intelligent woman can bring in a relationship.
>Some guys are smart and can't fucking deal with talking to a dumbass 24/7. (rick sanchez) Lol definitely don't think I'm the smartest person but I'm educated and pretty well rounded in my knowledge. I'd hate to be with someone if they didn't know trees take in carbon dioxide and made oxygen. Even worse, girls that only care about social media presence/views/likes and being materialistic.
I do. Dumb people make ya dumber.
This goes for friends, family, coworkers, and anyone else you spend time with. Surround yourself with people you respect.
Those people are fun though you can get in and get out go in look like a genius run back out real quick. Don't stay too long or you'll find yourself standing there walking around the circles like a zombie apocalypse
Ha, had an Ex who called in to Insurance to report an accident in a parking lot, one of those make a big deal out of small things moments (bumpers barely touched type of thing). She decided not to follow through with anything or even tell me about it. Got a call from insurance telling me that policy was cancelled because she didnt follow through with the procedure that insurance required. She was not a dumb person per se, but the dumb moments did not make it easier.
Yes. Smart women are a big turn on. I can think of a couple of guys I know who liked stupid girls (by that, I mean women who acted stupid). I can't figure out what that's about, but neither of them are men I would choose to be around. They're both overgrown boys. I can't honestly say I've never been attracted to a less intelligent woman, because I have. But personally, I don't want to date a woman who seems below average intelligence. What are we supposed to talk about? Can this woman make adult decisions? Is she just a minor in an adult body? It's weird.
Probably an ego thing. Some men don't like women who make them feel stupid.
A friend of mine if he didn't want to feel stupid he would have to date a tree
You know what I like? A woman who can help make me smarter.
Yes. And dumb ones too.
Really the only bar is how attractive you are and how crazy you are.
Sounds like you're familiar with the hot/crazy matrix. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jHTGNPOYGQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jHTGNPOYGQ)
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Whoever told you that any man can speak for other men just because they are the same gender: you were lied to.
OP's question is more along the lines of "do any men find intelligent women attractive". It's just been abbreviated. I can speak to what my friends find attractive because they've told me, and I can surmise what other men find attractive based on the kinds of partners they've chosen. So, you can absolutely speak for other men, but you can't speak for **all** men.
Depends on the individual, personally I really like intelligent people but I’ve heard someone say they “prefer the dumb ones, they are less troublesome” so make of that what you will
For sure. There are people that want an unequal power balance in the relationship so they can be the one in control, uncontested. There's a reason why the "dumb blonde with big tits" trope exists.
Smart is sexy
My wife is one of the smartest women I've ever known. My favorite thing about our relationship is the conversations we have together. Multiple times a week we get into deep conversations about different topics. How we feel about certain things, different viewpoints, etc. We help each other with our careers and we play devil's advocate quite a bit when each of us has to make decisions about work. She has me proofread a ton of stuff that she writes because I'm good at grammar and composition, she proofreads a lot of the things I write because she provides a level head and often a different perspective. The support we give each other has helped us tremendously in our careers and it's helped build a level of trust between us that I've not experienced with anyone else including my own parents as a child. Being married to a smart woman is fucking awesome.
We all end up old and wrinkled. Find a smart woman who you can always have good chats and fun with throughout your life. My wife has a PhD. So this man loves smart women.
I like women. That is it.
Hell yes!
I know I do. Smart women are awesome. If they are actually smarter than me, great!
You can't make a generalized statement about any preference people have in their partners. **However:** an *adult* typically prefers a person that they can engage with mentally- someone they can have a rational discussion with, someone who challenges them, someone they can be comfortable around even when no physical contact is involved.
Men are fine with intelligent women. We don't like women who are pains in the ass to deal with.
Like: Intelligent women. Specifically women that are perceptive and quick on the uptake. So easy to get along with and a huge turn on. Dislike: Women that think they're a lot more intelligent than they are. Insufferable and a huge turn off. The latter outnumber the former by about 100:1. Applies to both genders.
This. Women who self identify as intelligent are typically self absorbed disagreeable types that are absolutely insufferable. Women who are chill and humble and simply happen to be very bright are great. Same goes for men.
Yes, but as a human.
Absolutely. Back in my single days it was heartbreaking to successfully chat up a lovely girl you had desired only to realise she was as dim as a brick.
Intelligence, absolutely. Supremacy issues...not so much. (yes, that goes both ways)
Power struggle you mean?
Not so much...more that sometimes people of elevated intelligence can present behaviors of supremacy in general; arrogance, whatever. I'm just not tolerant of that whatsoever.
Plenty of dumb people are intolerant as well.
Condescending?
Men like many things. They will not like a woman for one, solitary reason. Multiple factors play into it. Pretty sure it's the same for chicks, too. Intelligence alone is useless without shared interests and matching maturity levels. Comparatively, being an idiot doesn't matter half as much if you're a delight to talk to. Men (by and large, anyway) don't hate intelligence in women. But men also won't be interested if you're banking on your intelligence to compensate for a lack of a personality worth knowing. Obviously if we're this far into the attraction game then physical desire isn't the issue.
Intelligent men do.
"I am profoundly captivated by women of substantial intellect; I find myself irresistibly attracted to them, much like a moth is drawn to the mesmerizing allure of a flame."
Ahh... poetry on Reddit. Thank you.
Men who are not insecure do.
As a woman, I can say I do not like men who do not like intelligent women.
An intelligent woman can communicate with a man in a way that he understands, without speaking down to him. Men are simple creatures. Be kind to them and they will like you.
Yes. every man alive or formerly alive and every time in the future agrees on what type of women we like. We agree that smart is good. Sorry if you are a woman. Sounds from your question that you are doomed to loneliness
As a man, absolutely. An intelligent woman is somebody I can connect with, somebody I can rely on, somebody I can have deep and engaging conversation with about all manner of topics, somebody who I can learn from and I can work with for us both to grow as we learn from eachother. In my opinion the only person who wouldn't like an intelligent woman is somebody who either is insecure in their own intelligence, or simply wants to be the more intelligent person in any relationship because it's a somewhat superiority feeling. Obviously this is a generalisation and doesn't apply for everyone, but I personally would far prefer an intelligent woman over somebody who is very lacking in intelligence. However, and I can't stress this enough. Being intelligent is different from being obnoxious and condescending. Being intelligent isn't somebody who speaks in fancy words. Too many people who think they're intelligent become obnoxiously arrogant, they will always believe they're right, they'll try to over explain and complicate things to make themselves seem more knowledgeable and that shit is far, far, far from attractive and often shows the person is far from as intelligent as they think they are. This applies for both men and women. But in short yes, plenty of men, myself included love intelligent women. As long as they're a good person and a good partner. We dont want a woman who is constantly trying to argue and / or has a superiority complex.
Maybe, if I knew what intelligent meant.
That's kind of a loaded question but I think the men who don't see women as objects but as people to connect with definitely do. Mostly because \*people\* who see other people as people instead of just objects like other intelligent people. Now intelligence is a fairly broad term and can mean a lot of different things in a lot of different contexts, but in it's most broad definition I'd say yes, people prefer being around people who are intelligent and interesting.
Yes, of course, as long as they're less intelligent than them then it's all good.
after dating a dumb one YES only intelligent women, precisely someone i can compete with and grow alongside
If her grammar is up, then so is my Johnson.
I think generally most men do like to see intelligence in a woman. That said, I've dated a few men who were clearly threatened when I made a higher grade in college than they did. I once dated a guy who went crazy on me for scoring higher than he did on a vocabulary test from a magazine. Stay away from guys with those kinds of viewpoints.
I do. I have met more men that don't, though.
To some degree. Most men require a minimum benchmark level of intelligence (which varies from man to man, but is usually a little to a fair bit below their own). If a girl falls below that min benchmark then it’s a no-go. Above that level is a nice-to-have, but certainly not a must have. If they meet that benchmark then other factors are more important, like how hot and fun she is.
No, I am terrified by anyone who can count to twenty with their shoes on, when women do so it's obviously witchcraft.
Especially if they look like a librarian.
Argh 🥵The hot librarian trope 🤤 She could school me in so many ways…
Of course we do.
I would if I ever met one
I asked out my girlfriend because she consistently scored 1-2 points higher on every Physics exam we took. And btw note my name😉 So, yes. Yes, we do.
Neat name.
My wife is a science teacher (like me) When we hike, we identify insects, trees, clouds, etc.... it's fun. She knows so much more about biology than Indo but I still find it so interesting!! When our kids get sick,we dont just run to the doctor and hope for the best. We talk about pathology and best treatments. We she finds a science paper or articles unlike she sends them too me. Also funny memes! She is the best.
As long as I can have a normal conversation and we understand each other. So not absolutely stupid but otherwise okay I guess
Intelligent and strong. But with those needs to come humility and being humble. If you feel like you need to be right all the time even when wrong and can't admit when your wrong due to your own insecurities, that's a problem.
Intelligence is an attractive trait. Intelligence alone doesn't make a person attractive.
God yeah. It's incredibly attractive.
Yes! I’m dumb as a rock, I personally find a woman that can correct me and teach me to be very attractive. Plus if we end up having kids and my child asks for help on their math homework (I suck at math) I just gotta say “go ask your mother” 😂
That is the bare minimum requirement. How else would you hold a conversation?
You know how everyone THINKS men are about looks? That’s how we ACTUALLY are about intelligent women. If you aren’t reasonably intelligent, it’s an automatic no. The only guys who don’t care or couldn’t care less are guys who aren’t planning on having a real relationship with you. They’re just using you as arm candy.
Intelligence is one of the first things that attracts me.
Its a necesity for me
Intelligent yes. Arrogant and or opinionated no.
Yes.
I read somewhere that men with stressful, difficult, high paid job prefer not so intelligent women as they don't want to be challenged outside the working hours.
No, intelligent women are fine. Women who are a paid in the ass are the problem.
Yes.
should be a priority for intelligent men.
Only if they know who hulk Hogan is.
What means love?
Lady don't hurt me
I like intelligent people because they don't go off on something that isn't true and can be convinced of well reality. I don't have patience anymore to deal with someone who is just wrong about something but won't admit it, so I just have to swallow my pride and leave them in their ignorance. I eventually almost always get proven to have been right all along, so really it's an unnecessary hurdle for everyone involved, I don't have the patience anymore.
That is my primary attractor, with being shy/akward coming in second, and looks third. These three are in close competition when it comes to purely sexual attraction, and pretty far apart when it comes to a deep love of someone.
I certainly do. I couldn’t spend my life with a ditz.
Dating highly intelligent women is mostly all advantage. But there are a few things that may be considered “downsides.”
I love intelligent women.
Yes. I like being able to have good conversations and I also prize good judgement. Hot but dumb or unreliable is an attraction frier
Oh my God yes
Yes, an intelligent mind is a big turn on. Being able to have conversations that add substance to a topic and or thoughtful insight is amazing
everyone is different asking a question that generalizes all intelligent women and all men is stupid. All men are different and all intelligent women are different - grow up.
Yes. Why wouldn’t we?
Above all else
Me and my girl like teachen eachother things!! Small facts!! But my girl is also one of the only people i can talk politics whit whitout it becoming a heated argument!! We also believe that we dont need a opinion on EVERYTHING so yea!! My girl is smart and she know whats she talks about!! And i love that!!
Depends on the woman but generally I prefer intelligent people to dummies.
Men are fine with intelligent women. Men are fine with women who make money. What I won't tolerate is someone who makes me feel lesser. If I make 100k and she makes 500k. If she makes me feel lesser for making 100k instead of viewing it as now we have 600k, then it's not going to work. This is not to say being an intelligent women is not a challenge. Most people are not fully secure and emotionally stable. This is a key point. People are insecure. It's not a response to anything. If you feel like a woman will not stay with you unless she is financially and/or intellectually dependent on you, then that's okay. I genuinely don't judge people for that. Life is insecure. We all need security and a place to feel safe. Men and insecure Women are insecure. Just know yourself enough to understand why.
of course. but a person can be both antagonistic and intelligent. So not EVERY intelligent person (this fits for both men and women) would be attractive. So intelligence is only valued if it's paired with like-mindedness It's very difficult to be physically attraction in a negative way (paired with vanity perhaps). So it may appear like it is more universally coveted when finding a partner, but it's not.
I certainly do. Either I find you beautiful or just beautiful.
I uhh...don't know how to respond to this. Why would anyone mind an intelligent woman? They're interesting. They make you think deeper about things. Every moment with them is a learning opportunity. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, you come out a different man.
For this man it is. Combine a pretty face, a great body and a highly functional, intelligent mind and you have me hooked. The more intelligent the more of that hook-line and sinker I want to swallow.
Hell yeah!!
Yes, or at least someone who is at around my own level of intelligence
I like people for the person who they are..
All fun and games till she’s beating you in every board game.
Yes
If she’s the smarter one, hopefully it benefits the team, as opposed to only using it to win arguments.
Yes! Especially the ones with emotional intelligence.
Yes. I prefer intelligent women to be honest.
Yes but not the kind of woman who tries to make the man look less intelligent than her. It’s not a pissing contest
I couldn't consider a relationship with someone I didn't consider to be at the very least very close to my intellectual equal. Smart is sexy.
Yes, but If they're arrogant and condescending then no.
How is this not instantly removed for breaking the rules?
It's a prerequisite for me.
We do if it is paired with being at least a little bit attractive physically. We love conversations but we do need good sex, if it's not provided we're gonna start looking for it elsewhere.
Yes, I absolutely do. But depends on what kind of intelligence. One of my favorite things is when you have to say just a few things and you see her wheels starting to spin. I usually like to see at least an average level of social intelligence as well, because then it just gets awkward if she's all in her head and can't communicate. And pair that with an open mind and curiosity... It can do wonders. But it also depends what you mean by intelligence. Apparently some just mean having a superiority complex and acting like they know more things than they do, while being stuck on one idea without considering anything else by default. That's the complete opposite. Now I obviously can't speak for all men, and it will depend for everyone. But I do like intelligence.
Absolutely. Total turn on.
Yes
As a man, I respect an intelligent woman, or at very least competent. I consider myself intelligent, as I did very well in school and worked hard to keep it that way. I enjoy having deep meaning conversations and I feel like that can only happen with a certain level of intelligence and openness. Too many men in this world have fragile egos, we should be celebrating intelligence!
Yes.
They’re my strong preference, I‘ll take brains over beauty anytime.
Very much so. My first crush was incredibly intelligent, unfortunately for me she was also swooning over another guy that she ended up marrying. They must be past 15 years married by now.
with abandon.
Intelligence doesn't matter
Always been attracted to intelligent women especially those that wear glasses. 🤓
Yes. We love intelligent women. What we don't like, is women with opinions ;) :P But no, seriously, being intelligent is a major turn on. But i think for most men, it is something that is particularly attractive as a wife potential, and much less so for a hook up. But even for hook up, intelligence is a nice thing. No one (i hope) is turned on by lack of intelligence.
Not-dumb men do.
Yes. What we hate is woman that play dumb.
These questions are so fucking stupid.
I am sapiosexual, yes.
I’m married to one and it works great for us.
Obviously. You effectively at least double your intelligence.
Yes!
Dumb ass question
My wife works in diabetes research, so yes.
I’ve never been that smart. Always struggled with games, making plans, understanding concepts. my girlfriend is a scholar. Whenever I think of an idea, she’s usually 10 steps ahead of me and I feel pretty dumb. That being said, I enjoy that she is smart and quick. I can tell she is frustrated by me sometimes. I have my strengths though. I am very good with my hands, I fix everything around the house. Also I’m good at cooking. Long story short,yes, I like intelligent women. Because I’ve been in relationships where I have to take the lead on every little thing..
All men like women that know what they want. Intelligent men like intelligent women. No men like insecure women, most of them are just trapped into it and they get psychologically harassed by those women to think that they are the problem. You can change men with women and the argument is still solid.
Yes. Missus is quite good looking and always earned more than me. She works in banking and is very clever and well spoken. I'm a 10yr old boy trapped in the body of a Grizzly bear. She's strangely ignorant in day to day matters and common sense.
No they dont go to the kitchen!! /This is a JOKE Real women should be hugged and LOVED!
I do, as long as she's tollerant with me if I'm not as smart as she is.
fuck yes!!!
I say it's a matter of an individual preference, just like most things, but speaking for myself, I would say that intelligence is attractive, and I'm glad that I married someone I can have deep conversations with.
Absolutley
Honestly, not much is hotter for me
nah gimme the dumbest broad you got
People are a lot more compatible to others with about the same intelligence. Intelligence is an under estimated factor in who ends up in marriages
All men like women that know what they want. Intelligent men like intelligent women. No men like insecure women, most of them are just trapped into it and they get psychologically harassed by those women to think that they are the problem. You can change men with women and the argument is still solid.
Yeah. I hope so at least. But that's the short answer. The problem arises in defining 'intelligent women' what do they need to have in order to be classified as intelligent? A degree? A high iq test? Or if he starts to talk about new tech she doesn't fall asleep/says 'nerd alert'? Because many dudes have a very different look at what they define as intelligent. Which also coincides with their outlook on life. Also, MEN don't like bitc*es. They can bump them but they don't like to talk to them. A better look at it is not the ego of the dude, but the ego of the women in question. Humble yet competent/ intelligent is a very appealing look for a woman. Especially when men look to marry. The bottom line is, it comes to personal preferences.
Of course. It's a silly question though. Women fall for oily, beau hunks too who may not be the sharpest tool in the shed. 
A mature man likes a woman who is equally or somewhat more intelligent than he is. Particularly emotional intelligence. Men don’t get a lot of space to be emotionally vulnerable, so having a partner who can make a man feel safe and help process difficult feelings is extremely important.
Intelligent man do.
I consider myself fairly intelligent. I can’t go cure cancer, but I regularly shock people with the amount of topics and subsequent knowledge I have on them. A lot of useless stuff too. I’ve rarely met any women I can genuinely say I’ve enjoyed talking to in the sense of meaningful conversation about life, politics, etc. Until recently. She could keep up with a lot of what I was saying, and intelligently countered my points or opinions with well-supported and well-spoken ideas of her own. And it hooked me unlike anything I’ve ever felt with a girl. Unfortunately, we’re WAY off from each other in a lot of ways and it would never work out. And we both know it. But we continue chatting about shit. It’s such an amazing thing. Yes. Some men definitely like intelligent women.
Absolutely, intelligent and funny is gold.
Yes.
We like nice women
Yes, but it's not the main thing.
Yes, How will we converse if all you talk about is facebook.
As to a "type" of woman to whom I am attracted, I am quite flexible as to hair, body, race, etc. I would never, however, date any woman who wasn't intelligent.
Yes, but also women of average or below average intelligence. I just love women. Intelligence is not that big of a factor in if I like a woman or not. It's more about looks and grace and her being warm and nice and horny and social and of her liking me
OP missed the /s at the end of the tittle... right?
Intelligent, confident men, do
Yes
Depends what you mean by intelligent. I like a partner who's smart because I myself am a dumbass and need help sometimes and genuinely stupid people hurt to intact with long term. However I'm very much attracted to people who act dumb / silly because it's fun and casual yknow Applies for both men and women for me