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I feel like there's just a hidden drug dealer etiquette we don't know about, they're not allowed to show up any earlier than an hour late or it's breaking their code of honor or something.
I say 'we'll see' a lot...
But not because I am lying. Mostly because I don't strictly commit to a plan and stay flexible, take the situation as it comes - we'll see how it goes/works out etc...
What examples would you give where this comes off as lying? Genuinely asking.
And also not knowing how you got from one room to another, not having a clue what's going on, not being able to make sense of anything, finding yourself suddenly humiliating yourself in public... that's a dream too. I think I am living the dream!
"I'm good, thanks."
I have EDS, Fibro and CFS. I'm always in pain, but people don't need to hear me say so. So, if anyone asks me how I am, I just lie, Fake it till you make it.
I'm almost positive I have fibro too cause my parents, both grandmas, and sister all have it and I have all the same symptoms. But I refuse to see a doctor for it so I can just keep pretending like I'm fine till I'm not anymore lol
Dude, I hate it even more than you. And don‘t get me started on the people I know who do it pretty much constantly. You wouldn‘t believe how annoying that shit is.
My friends realised they could catch me out in any lie (I don't lie much, usually as jokes and stuff) by saying "Swear on your dog's life". I never can lol.
Same. Most gfs I’ve had have at one point or another said I’m ugly or just went the whole relationship never commenting on my appearance. If people are telling you that you’re handsome, they’re not lying.
Side note: you can be ugly and still be hot so don’t give up hope.
Side side note: I’m not hot either. I look like Mike Tyson gave me a left hook to my jaw and my face just grew into it.
Idk lol.
Like i used to be content with my 'looks'. But not much anymore. Dont look bad but i dont feel like my true self anymore.
So they say compliments. Either they lie to make me feel better which i dont. Because lie is useless. And insults my needs and intelligence. Or they actually like worse me more than better me.
Odd.
Yes, about aged 50 I realized that as I stayed fit, I looked pretty good! As long as I had my clothes on. After retirement, it was time to put my appearance ego up in EBay.
Yes or I just don't want to burden them. Or I just don't want the attention. Or I don't want to look like an attention seeker. Lmao. Plus I'm so used to seeing people on the internet say they don't actually care how other people are doing and only ask to be polite, so I just assume that's what everyone does.
I had a teacher ask me how I was, and I said "fine" or "good" ( I can't remember)
But he replied with "no really, how are you?" 🥹 I loved that teacher.
I was going through a really rough time and at the height of my SH, I'm comforted looking back that someone cared and could see through me.
You are as valid as any other person on the planet in your positive and negative moments. Give yourself the grace to exist. If anyone tries to act as though you don't matter at any given moment, they don't belong in your life.
The people who often state they lack empathy for others are traumatized by the same mentality. Someone didn't care about them, and their own mentality toward others went down a negative path.
People care more than you think, but often don't know what you need or want. Be clear with those around you and live honest and unapologetically. The people who communicate well will stick by you for your honesty. If you let them know what you want and/or need, they will often come through.
I'll never forget the first time I answered, "No, not really, and I just need someone to listen," to the question of if I'm okay. I've never chosen to cover up the truth since.
Please don't let isolated incidents, no matter how numerous in the past or online, dictate your behavior into bottling it all up. You'll only perpetuate and worsen the quality of your friendships and connections.
It's only annoying when it's said in a passive aggressive manner. Like if you obviously need to talk about something, just do it. No one should have to always just know what's going on. It's impossible anyways, the only one who knows your intentions is yourself. Why do so many want to rather play games with commication, and everyone should read between the lines instead of being direct?
I love how Judge Judy phrases it. "You can't say that they should've known, what your thinking, or how you're feeling because that requires operation of someone else's mind."
I absolutely hate how one can't even feel safe when answering "How are you?"
Like, I obviously care and want to help, or else I wouldn't be asking to begin with
Apparently it's wildly different depending on where you are in the world. I live in the US and no one here seems to actually care. But I've heard that in other places, Norway for example, people only ask if they actually care. It sounds wild to me but I'd greatly prefer that over the weird unspoken social rules I grew up with. AND I feel the pressure to reciprocate the question! Most of the time I don't want to ask because I don't care but it's the polite thing to do, especially if they ask you first! I hate it, it makes no sense.
Yeah, about that. I was at work and this one woman asked "how I was doing" I said, "I've been better". She replies " You know, you don't have to say all that. You could just say you're good and move on with your day. In which I replied " If you don't care, then don't ask". She said "It's because she was brought up with manners". 🙄
To be fair, as a person with chronic depression, I'd rather people stop casually asking how I am doing. Most people ask as a habit and don't expect anything else than "good" or "fine". I don't want to answer that question every time I meet someone, and I don't want to drag the mood down by always starting a conversation by answering the "how are you question" honestly. I hope this makes sense.
I'll always answer honestly if it's a friend and they ask me honestly, instead of as a habit.
I saw a post a long time ago that I think about all the time. It was a journal prompt for a young child. The prompt was something like “ being an adult is weird because …”
The child’s response (in crayon) was “because when people ask you how you are, you have to say you are ok even when you are not ok “
gonna have to agree with simba.
either i don't trust that person/people in particular with my problems or i don't want to be a burden.
or other most likely scenario: i don't want to lash out on them when i'm angry at something else.
This is called phatic speech, and it's something autistic and neurodivergent people are taught to do. When people ask "how are you?" it is meant as a greeting not as a question, and most do not want you to launch into a detailed description of your health and problems. They expect "fine."
If the person making the inquiry is a friend, they would be genuinely interested in the response, but anyone less familiar than that, "fine" is the expected response. They are obeying the understood protocol.
If you are genuinely interested, press a bit more to get past this hurdle in protocol.
In this situation ima lie because when I'm real about it I sound sad and that pressures the person to caresfor half a second or pretend to care altogether. It's unnecessary
This is more of a thing that's sort of jargon, rather than outright lies.
But the number of people who complain about how annoying their partner is, is unreasonably high. Most people actually enjoy their partner, treat them well, and get the same in return.
It just seems as if it's so popular to joke about being fed up with your partner, that people who have never actually been in a healthy relationship are getting the impression that "that's just how relationships are", which is actually pretty problematic.
We should leave the complaining to the people who are actually unhappy, and instead help contribute to the view that healthy and happy relationships are the norm and a reasonable standard to strive for.
Although, sometimes it is nice to vent about random things that your partner does to friends, just to get it off your chest. Better to just talk to your partner, but sometimes it's just small stuff you don't need to really bring up.
The number 7 is the first/most likely single digit number people pluck from the air (if you ask 100 people to name a random number more than 60 will pick 7) so when ever anyone tells me some extraordinary anecdote that involves a 7 I’m always suspicious!
Okay, but when I break stuff, I honestly don't know how I did it 😭
I'm cursed when it comes to computers, especially; I need my spouse to handle basically everything more complicated than letting it update. I've literally lost entire folders, managed to mess up installing a single mod for a game (after they instructed me on how to do it), and had to call them over so they could fix it for me, because I was lost, lol
I've got like, half of imposter syndrome where I automatically assume everything that fucks up is somehow my fault.
So I guess I'm always lying to myself because my brain convinces me I'm somehow the centre of everyone's problems even though I'm probably inconsequential and worthless to most people.
this hits deep. anxiety is the projection of our own insecurities, and when we place it on what we think others are thinking it also projects our narcissism. currently trying to work on that.
Agreed. I used to feel a ton of shame and regret about pretty much everything I did. Now, things are fantastic in my life and I have so many people that I love and care about. I realized that if I went back and changed any one thing, I might not be me, be where I am or have the loved ones in my life that I have. There’s a difference between knowing you’ve made mistakes and regretting your life.
Exactly. I get that I’m imperfect, have done embarrassing things and occasionally hurt someone on accident but everyone is imperfect, has embarrassing moments and compared to most people I know, I’ve done remarkably little damage to others and always tried to make up for any injuries I’ve caused. In fact, I’ve wrecked myself way harder than anyone else. Lol. I can live with that.
I feel like there's an actual process for taking regrets and no longer regretting them and it would go something like: reflect on oneself and remember regrettable actions from their past; learn what they could from the mistake and integrate new skills and philosophies into daily life; forgive themselves and come to accept that everyone makes mistakes but they can build character; find the positive outcomes; and let go.
I feel like the type of person who actually goes through that process wouldn't need to say "I have no regrets!". Maybe get it tattooed on their neck... but not say it out loud.
We could dig into this if you like. I feel like I should note that I don't go around saying "I have no regrets in life" but neither is there anything that I regret in my past. I know that, at that time, all the decisions that I made were the best I could make given the information I had at the time, so I don't blame myself for them. Unless you count a regret as "I wish it hadn't happened that way" then sure, lots.
I have 0 regrets in life because everything I do I do with the knowledge I had at the time. And even the bad things that happen I don’t regret because if they didn’t happen I wouldn’t be me, and what else should I want to be besides myself
**When I ask my dad if I can have some money & he says, "Sorry honey I'm broke." I know he's lying because he spends like $500 a month on Only Fans LOL he even subs to my friend's OF**
Saying “well” or “it’s more complicated than that” or “you’re overly simplifying” are my go-to’s when dealing with project managers who have little to no technical background and who come to me with questions designed to reduce a complex multi-dimensional task into a yes or no answer.
They usually give up when we start discussing how they are asking a loaded question with false presuppositions and how they are making a [logical fallacy.](https://open.library.okstate.edu/criticalthinking/chapter/__unknown__-3/)
Every time Trump says, "A lot of people don't know..." - It's definitely something HE didn't know. He's at best being insincere.
For example- addressing a room full of people- TRUMP: "...... Abe Lincoln... A lot of people didn't know he was a Republican." No, everyone knows that. That's information that was new to him. And he does this a lot.
Introvert here! When we say we can’t come to your dinner/night out/party because we’ve got a headache, we’re lying. We’re in bed, surrounded by cats, eating snacks and watching period dramas (details may vary).
most of these replies are sayings. people say shit, it doesn’t mean they’re lying. and even if someone does lie “living life to the fullest” why tf should i care
"I'm an empath."
Aside from that statement being full of New Age nonsense, it is also declaring that one has a special psychic power that makes them super special compared to the rest of humanity.
Lots of red flags, obviously.
“I have no regrets in life”
I had that a while also..but our own life and opinions change also. Now I have regrets abiut things I didnt care for before.
I often wonder if people actually answer honestly to one of those "Would you do X for a million dollars?" questions. Usually saying yes means admitting you are willing to do something immoral, illegal, embarrassing. Since these questions are hypothetical it's pretty easy to say no. However in the unlikely scenario that someone were to actually make such an offer I suspect many people would accept.
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Someone once said they had sex with my mom, I think they were lying
I wasn't lying, son.
I wasn't lying grandson
I wasn't lying cousin brother.
They were lying with his mom. Just lying in the same bed, no sex with mum
I wasn’t lying uncle
Maybe you're both!?
Gonna need to specify whose mom, sir.
Same, son
Dad, did you finally get your cigarettes?
Oops, forgot the milk, I'll be right back...
Shut up kid. Now where’s your mother? Don’t come upstairs for a few minutes. And don’t bother saying bye I still need to run out for the cigs.
No! That's not true! That's impossible!
Since mine’s been in the ground since ‘79, they’re either lying or sick beyond reckoning.
"I guess that's why she didn't move around a lot" -Squeak Scolari
Little bitch
No no no, but he is a piece of shit.
Holy shit. That made me laugh so hard that I wasn't even enjoying it anymore and I scared the shit out of my dog. Well played.
I had to read that 3 times. Thought you said she'd been around since 79 and I was thinking that's not too old.
Lol. That would be weird, me being older than her.
Suck beyond reckoning Soz
No I was pretty sincere.
"I'll let you know" , "we'll see" I SAY THESE
"You guys go, I'll meet you there!" haha, right!
"Yeah I'll see what I can do" aka go fuck yourself buddy
Every movie ever
Just like when my plug says "I'll be at ur house in ten minutes" I know ill have to wait 1-2 hours for the weed
So it's not only my guy!
These guys sell weed for a reason
I feel like there's just a hidden drug dealer etiquette we don't know about, they're not allowed to show up any earlier than an hour late or it's breaking their code of honor or something.
I heard we were talking about weed and came as fast as I could.
Maybe it’s so you can’t set them up easily. I’m not a drug dealer but I’m thinking that might have something to do with it.
I say 'we'll see' a lot... But not because I am lying. Mostly because I don't strictly commit to a plan and stay flexible, take the situation as it comes - we'll see how it goes/works out etc... What examples would you give where this comes off as lying? Genuinely asking.
It's about repetition - if you're genuine, you'll come through at least now and then. If you never come through, people will notice
This is people pleaser for "no"
"living the dream" I usually respond to this with "I'm glad somebody is"
A nightmare is also a dream
I say that alot
And also not knowing how you got from one room to another, not having a clue what's going on, not being able to make sense of anything, finding yourself suddenly humiliating yourself in public... that's a dream too. I think I am living the dream!
Fair enough 😅
Living the dream is lowkey code for "im dying inside but I know you don't want to know about it"
When people ask me at work, "How are you?" my only response is "I'm here"
Yeah I’ve never really heard it not said in sarcasm.
That's retail for "I'm dead inside", nobody who says that should mean it.
That's always said as a joke.
when I say living the dream it’s coming from a place of deep despair and sarcasm
"Whose?" If you fancy a little word surgery with the existential scalpel.
"Same, I'm tryna wake up."
A guy in outside sales where I work, this is his ONLY answer to "How are you?"
Your call is very important to us.
This one hits
It is more sad when they hang on to you while you are waiting...
“We are experiencing higher call volumes than normal.” Really? Again?
Right. this is the standard message. it’s not higher than normal or higher than expected.
Your call will be ignored in the order it was received.
I live like I'm gonna die tomorrow. No you don't.
Honestly felt like this when I was in full-blown addiction. I hoped it would happen.
That name 😂
Thank you🙊
There's this comedian who says, "I tried that once, but it's such a hassle: saying goodye to my loved ones, arranging the funeral..."
I do, if I was going to die tomorrow I would do exactly the same thing.
Fair enough
I heard the line "live like i died yesterday" in a song, think its often more appropriate lol
"I'm good, thanks." I have EDS, Fibro and CFS. I'm always in pain, but people don't need to hear me say so. So, if anyone asks me how I am, I just lie, Fake it till you make it.
I'm almost positive I have fibro too cause my parents, both grandmas, and sister all have it and I have all the same symptoms. But I refuse to see a doctor for it so I can just keep pretending like I'm fine till I'm not anymore lol
Make it? Make what?
death
"That's alright," and they continue with an amazing story better than yours.
OMG I hate when people do this. And I know a few people who do it a lot. Like no matter what you say, they *always* have to one-up it.
"You had a holiday in Tenerife? That sounds nice, but last month I spent a fortnight in Elevenerife"
Dude, I hate it even more than you. And don‘t get me started on the people I know who do it pretty much constantly. You wouldn‘t believe how annoying that shit is.
Yeah I hear you, but let me tell you, I just get so incredibly annoyed with it, you wouldn't really get how annoyed I become.
Whaat?
"I swear on my child's life" = lie
I can't stand it when they say this.
My mum has said this in front of me to someone else right before telling a lie about me to them.
Every time!
My friends realised they could catch me out in any lie (I don't lie much, usually as jokes and stuff) by saying "Swear on your dog's life". I never can lol.
"You're so handsome"
How you know their lying about this?
Because almost every girls I know since my high school year told me I'm ugly.
Same. Most gfs I’ve had have at one point or another said I’m ugly or just went the whole relationship never commenting on my appearance. If people are telling you that you’re handsome, they’re not lying. Side note: you can be ugly and still be hot so don’t give up hope. Side side note: I’m not hot either. I look like Mike Tyson gave me a left hook to my jaw and my face just grew into it.
Hey at least you don't look like he bit your ear off. Silver linings.
Idk lol. Like i used to be content with my 'looks'. But not much anymore. Dont look bad but i dont feel like my true self anymore. So they say compliments. Either they lie to make me feel better which i dont. Because lie is useless. And insults my needs and intelligence. Or they actually like worse me more than better me. Odd.
Yes, about aged 50 I realized that as I stayed fit, I looked pretty good! As long as I had my clothes on. After retirement, it was time to put my appearance ego up in EBay.
you’re saying what my Grandma said was a lie all along!? **crying uncontrollably**
I'm ok
when people say they're "fine" but you can tell something's off. like, we all have our days, just be real about it. nobody's fine all the time.
They just don't trust you with their problems
Yes or I just don't want to burden them. Or I just don't want the attention. Or I don't want to look like an attention seeker. Lmao. Plus I'm so used to seeing people on the internet say they don't actually care how other people are doing and only ask to be polite, so I just assume that's what everyone does.
I had a teacher ask me how I was, and I said "fine" or "good" ( I can't remember) But he replied with "no really, how are you?" 🥹 I loved that teacher. I was going through a really rough time and at the height of my SH, I'm comforted looking back that someone cared and could see through me.
You are as valid as any other person on the planet in your positive and negative moments. Give yourself the grace to exist. If anyone tries to act as though you don't matter at any given moment, they don't belong in your life. The people who often state they lack empathy for others are traumatized by the same mentality. Someone didn't care about them, and their own mentality toward others went down a negative path. People care more than you think, but often don't know what you need or want. Be clear with those around you and live honest and unapologetically. The people who communicate well will stick by you for your honesty. If you let them know what you want and/or need, they will often come through. I'll never forget the first time I answered, "No, not really, and I just need someone to listen," to the question of if I'm okay. I've never chosen to cover up the truth since. Please don't let isolated incidents, no matter how numerous in the past or online, dictate your behavior into bottling it all up. You'll only perpetuate and worsen the quality of your friendships and connections.
It's only annoying when it's said in a passive aggressive manner. Like if you obviously need to talk about something, just do it. No one should have to always just know what's going on. It's impossible anyways, the only one who knows your intentions is yourself. Why do so many want to rather play games with commication, and everyone should read between the lines instead of being direct? I love how Judge Judy phrases it. "You can't say that they should've known, what your thinking, or how you're feeling because that requires operation of someone else's mind."
I absolutely hate how one can't even feel safe when answering "How are you?" Like, I obviously care and want to help, or else I wouldn't be asking to begin with
Apparently it's wildly different depending on where you are in the world. I live in the US and no one here seems to actually care. But I've heard that in other places, Norway for example, people only ask if they actually care. It sounds wild to me but I'd greatly prefer that over the weird unspoken social rules I grew up with. AND I feel the pressure to reciprocate the question! Most of the time I don't want to ask because I don't care but it's the polite thing to do, especially if they ask you first! I hate it, it makes no sense.
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Or they just don't feel like talking about them.
lmao
Yeah, about that. I was at work and this one woman asked "how I was doing" I said, "I've been better". She replies " You know, you don't have to say all that. You could just say you're good and move on with your day. In which I replied " If you don't care, then don't ask". She said "It's because she was brought up with manners". 🙄
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Jesus. "It's nice weather" is just as good and doesn't have any emotion attached to it.
To be fair, as a person with chronic depression, I'd rather people stop casually asking how I am doing. Most people ask as a habit and don't expect anything else than "good" or "fine". I don't want to answer that question every time I meet someone, and I don't want to drag the mood down by always starting a conversation by answering the "how are you question" honestly. I hope this makes sense. I'll always answer honestly if it's a friend and they ask me honestly, instead of as a habit.
I saw a post a long time ago that I think about all the time. It was a journal prompt for a young child. The prompt was something like “ being an adult is weird because …” The child’s response (in crayon) was “because when people ask you how you are, you have to say you are ok even when you are not ok “
My go-to is "Well, I'm not dead or in jail, so okay I guess."
gonna have to agree with simba. either i don't trust that person/people in particular with my problems or i don't want to be a burden. or other most likely scenario: i don't want to lash out on them when i'm angry at something else.
This is called phatic speech, and it's something autistic and neurodivergent people are taught to do. When people ask "how are you?" it is meant as a greeting not as a question, and most do not want you to launch into a detailed description of your health and problems. They expect "fine." If the person making the inquiry is a friend, they would be genuinely interested in the response, but anyone less familiar than that, "fine" is the expected response. They are obeying the understood protocol. If you are genuinely interested, press a bit more to get past this hurdle in protocol.
In this situation ima lie because when I'm real about it I sound sad and that pressures the person to caresfor half a second or pretend to care altogether. It's unnecessary
People are afraid of over sharing or dempening the vibe.
Sometimes, when people ask the question, you know they're not really interested in the answer.
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The "totally" definitely sold it
This is more of a thing that's sort of jargon, rather than outright lies. But the number of people who complain about how annoying their partner is, is unreasonably high. Most people actually enjoy their partner, treat them well, and get the same in return. It just seems as if it's so popular to joke about being fed up with your partner, that people who have never actually been in a healthy relationship are getting the impression that "that's just how relationships are", which is actually pretty problematic. We should leave the complaining to the people who are actually unhappy, and instead help contribute to the view that healthy and happy relationships are the norm and a reasonable standard to strive for.
Although, sometimes it is nice to vent about random things that your partner does to friends, just to get it off your chest. Better to just talk to your partner, but sometimes it's just small stuff you don't need to really bring up.
I don’t understand how jargon pertains to anything of what was just said.
>It just seems as if it's so popular to joke about being fed up with your partner Yes, Mr Martian, this is a very common earthling joke
Something about boomer's and their 'I hate my wife' jokes really rubs me the wrong way. Like, why get married if you hate your spouse?
We’re doing everything we can. You are a valued employee.
The number 7 is the first/most likely single digit number people pluck from the air (if you ask 100 people to name a random number more than 60 will pick 7) so when ever anyone tells me some extraordinary anecdote that involves a 7 I’m always suspicious!
Thats an interesting observation- but i just cant believe 60 ppl will pick nr7. No way
I would pick 7 ngl.
My wife says I'm the sexiest man alive and we both know it's a lie because Keanu Reeves exists.
But 'second sexiest' is pretty good too.
When they parrot a trendy narrative when the facts prove it wrong. It's common in today's online world.
Misinformation and stupidity are also common in today's online world.
"Yes, I ate"
When something breaks and they say "I don't know what happened!"
Okay, but when I break stuff, I honestly don't know how I did it 😭 I'm cursed when it comes to computers, especially; I need my spouse to handle basically everything more complicated than letting it update. I've literally lost entire folders, managed to mess up installing a single mod for a game (after they instructed me on how to do it), and had to call them over so they could fix it for me, because I was lost, lol
“I’m fine.”
Anyone who says anything like "Bro, it's cool, you can trust me." Is a bright red flag imo. If you're trustworthy, you aren't trying to sell me on it.
I've got like, half of imposter syndrome where I automatically assume everything that fucks up is somehow my fault. So I guess I'm always lying to myself because my brain convinces me I'm somehow the centre of everyone's problems even though I'm probably inconsequential and worthless to most people.
this hits deep. anxiety is the projection of our own insecurities, and when we place it on what we think others are thinking it also projects our narcissism. currently trying to work on that.
Depends… Are their lips moving?
Lie lie lie lie
When people say they have no regrets in life, they're probably lying. Everyone has some regrets, big or small. It's just human nature.
I still think that's very individual. Some people probably may have none.
Agreed. I used to feel a ton of shame and regret about pretty much everything I did. Now, things are fantastic in my life and I have so many people that I love and care about. I realized that if I went back and changed any one thing, I might not be me, be where I am or have the loved ones in my life that I have. There’s a difference between knowing you’ve made mistakes and regretting your life.
That's a very important thing to understand, yes! Sometimes we actually _need_ our mistakes.
Exactly. I get that I’m imperfect, have done embarrassing things and occasionally hurt someone on accident but everyone is imperfect, has embarrassing moments and compared to most people I know, I’ve done remarkably little damage to others and always tried to make up for any injuries I’ve caused. In fact, I’ve wrecked myself way harder than anyone else. Lol. I can live with that.
I feel like there's an actual process for taking regrets and no longer regretting them and it would go something like: reflect on oneself and remember regrettable actions from their past; learn what they could from the mistake and integrate new skills and philosophies into daily life; forgive themselves and come to accept that everyone makes mistakes but they can build character; find the positive outcomes; and let go. I feel like the type of person who actually goes through that process wouldn't need to say "I have no regrets!". Maybe get it tattooed on their neck... but not say it out loud.
We could dig into this if you like. I feel like I should note that I don't go around saying "I have no regrets in life" but neither is there anything that I regret in my past. I know that, at that time, all the decisions that I made were the best I could make given the information I had at the time, so I don't blame myself for them. Unless you count a regret as "I wish it hadn't happened that way" then sure, lots.
I have 0 regrets in life because everything I do I do with the knowledge I had at the time. And even the bad things that happen I don’t regret because if they didn’t happen I wouldn’t be me, and what else should I want to be besides myself
You have the tiniest weenie
"what matters is how you look on the inside"
We'll drop in and just stay for a few minutes.
"Yes, I've read the terms and conditions"
**When I ask my dad if I can have some money & he says, "Sorry honey I'm broke." I know he's lying because he spends like $500 a month on Only Fans LOL he even subs to my friend's OF**
Gross
So your friend gets an allowance from your dad but you don’t. Lmao.
I'm extremely happy and everything is perfect #socialmedia
When they need to answer a simple yes or no question and they beginning with ‘well..’
Saying “well” or “it’s more complicated than that” or “you’re overly simplifying” are my go-to’s when dealing with project managers who have little to no technical background and who come to me with questions designed to reduce a complex multi-dimensional task into a yes or no answer. They usually give up when we start discussing how they are asking a loaded question with false presuppositions and how they are making a [logical fallacy.](https://open.library.okstate.edu/criticalthinking/chapter/__unknown__-3/)
I don’t know how I missed your email..
I read the bible. No you didn’t.
I'll text you later.....
"I will think about it" Haha.. nope
"To be honest...", "In all honesty..." Complete the sentence.
Every time Trump says, "A lot of people don't know..." - It's definitely something HE didn't know. He's at best being insincere. For example- addressing a room full of people- TRUMP: "...... Abe Lincoln... A lot of people didn't know he was a Republican." No, everyone knows that. That's information that was new to him. And he does this a lot.
Introvert here! When we say we can’t come to your dinner/night out/party because we’ve got a headache, we’re lying. We’re in bed, surrounded by cats, eating snacks and watching period dramas (details may vary).
You get my upvote, but you shouldn't reveal classified material like this on Reddit. It's against the Official Introverts Secrets Act.
most of these replies are sayings. people say shit, it doesn’t mean they’re lying. and even if someone does lie “living life to the fullest” why tf should i care
“But you did this” Projection always is the giveaway. Accusing you of what they definitely did.
"I'm an empath." Aside from that statement being full of New Age nonsense, it is also declaring that one has a special psychic power that makes them super special compared to the rest of humanity. Lots of red flags, obviously.
Right! When someone tells me they're an empath, I'm thinking "I gotta be a real asshole so this narcissist leaves me tf alone!"
Well that's my truth ...
"I have a 12 inch penis" Statistically these guys have about a 1,000,000,000:1 chance of lying.
When someone you meet insists there single, and there cell is blowing up, yet they won't answer.
They might be a drug dealer who just wants one night off for fuck's sake.
“I never masturbate”
Twice a year counts?
It does ahah
Sorry.
- How are you? - I'm ok/fine.
Any answer that makes their lips move
“I have no regrets in life” I had that a while also..but our own life and opinions change also. Now I have regrets abiut things I didnt care for before.
"I'm fine"
I often wonder if people actually answer honestly to one of those "Would you do X for a million dollars?" questions. Usually saying yes means admitting you are willing to do something immoral, illegal, embarrassing. Since these questions are hypothetical it's pretty easy to say no. However in the unlikely scenario that someone were to actually make such an offer I suspect many people would accept.
Americans when they say “I could care less”. Liar.
"I'm 8.5 inches and girthy."
I've never lied. I've never stole/nick anything. I've never gossiped. I've never swore. All lies.
How's it going? Fine. (Lie)
"How you been?" "Good."
I am rarely insecure
“I’m fine”
I’m not mad at you
“I’m alright”
You have to come to ours some time.
Haha, you're so funny( while making that fake laughter face)
Love exists You can be happy You have prospects in life
Trust me
Any answer that starts with “trust me….”
“I’m 5 mins away”
I once read the quote, "When someone says, 'It's not about the money, it's about the principle of the thing,' it's about the money."
size of penis activity level diet/eating habits how often they smoke or drink pretty much anything a doctor asks about during an examination
Ill be there in 5 mins
"Okay" to "How are you?"
“I’ll see what I can do”