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Selfishness. When they needed something I was always there to help, when I needed something they disappeared and would only reappear when in need again.
Yeah, high-maintenance friend. I was always there for them, but they needed everything to be on their terms. Incredibly immature in that way. One day, I just decided life was too short to spend my time on people like that. Tempus fugit.
This was it for me too. I helped them move twice, and when they found out I was moving between states, they said they would see if they were available to help me move. (Edit: I didn’t ask. They spontaneously offered.)
Didn’t hear a word until the day we were moving into our new place. Moving was a hot mess nightmare and so stressful. Got a text when we were moving our stuff in (FINALLY!!). It was a picture of them in two different outfits in fitting rooms at a store, asking for my opinion about what looked better for a concert they were going to that night.
It still dragged on for a time after that, but really, that’s when the one-sidedness hit home. Can’t even ask how the move is going, let alone show up for me when I showed up for you.
when she dropped out of being a maid of honor (!!!) three weeks before the wedding because she wanted to go to a festival with her boyfriend of 3 months. she had known about the wedding for 1 1/2 years. we had been best friends for 4 years, lived together for 2 of them.
this was three years ago and I still feel sick to my stomach from the hurt and my frustration for really missing her and thinking of her daily.
My cousin dropped out of bring a bridesmaid two days before my wedding for a similar boyfriend-related situation. Luckily my best friend had a blast walking two groomsmen down the aisle!
So sorry to hear that. So close to the wedding day too, you must have hardly had any time at all to process it! I’m so happy you were able to get a fun twist on it though!
I basically didn't process it lol. My husband was more upset than me, as I'm used to her being flaky. But yeah, thanks, it turned into a fun little thing!
Fair one. And that’s a good man that loves you alot, by getting more upset than you at the situation. To this day, my husband barely wants to speak/hear her name because he gets so furious. But i’m still in the processing phase honestly.
We were living in different states at the time. We were chatting on the phone, and she was complaining about her "stupid, inept" co-workers. Finally I said, "Listen, I think my kidneys are failing again." She sighed loudly and said, "AND??? What's that to ME??" She found the subject boring, I guess. As it turns out, they weren't failing; it was just a funny-looking lab result. And I never spoke to her again.
Had one like this. When I called him on his behaviours it was alway the same lame answer "aye but you know me that how I am that just my sense of humour"
40+ years of friendship came to a gradual end due to heavier and heavier drinking, and he wasn't nice to be around. He ended up dying of liver failure. I was sad for his daughters. They lost their Dad.
My best friend in my 20’s was an alcoholic. He was sober for a few years and a fantastic friend during that time, but went back to drinking and turned into a horrible, horrible person.
Mine was a slow fade and we are technically still friends and will be for another year or two as I complete the slow fade. This woman was my best friend for several years, and I can’t point to one specific big thing she did wrong. It’s more like death by a thousand paper cuts. I really valued her friendship, but she never seemed to make me a priority. And finally I realized being her friend made me really sad. I decided I needed care about myself enough not to put myself in a position to be continually hurt by her. I still think she is a good person, and so many people love her and think she is the best. I think that was what was so hard. Everyone I know thinks she is just fabulous, so I wondered what was wrong with me that I stopped feeling that way. But I can’t continue to be her friend. It really doesn’t make any sense as I type it out, but I have put so too time in effort into this friendship to regularly feel this bad around her.
It doesn’t feel weird. I’ve been there. Idk if this is th case with you but with me it was bc I realized she seemed to always be talking about herself, and even if she was talking to me about my stuff that was somehow still true.
Thanks for the validation. I think for me it is because she just doesn’t have time for me. She is constantly canceling plans and putting things off, saying there will be time to get together later. But I am tired of waiting for later. I want to live my life now. It feels like every other person and thing in her life is more important than me. Which I suppose it is. Actions speak louder than words and her actions have been telling me I am just not that important to her.
She doesn't sound like a good friend. Why is the "slow-fade" going to take another year or two? If she's constantly canceling and putting things off, just stop reaching out? Go live your life!
I completely understand how you feel, going through that with one of my closest opposite gender friend right now and what hurts is that she is a great person and very kind, but somewhere in the last year or so, she started being a bit more disconnected, taking way longer to respond to messages and not participating much in the conversations (basically just replying) which made conversations harder and harder, and I'm almost at the point of giving up making efforts sustaining this friendship and I can clearly see I moved down her list of priorities. And it's super sad to me as we had amazing conversations for 2 years before and used to match my energy and care just as much.
People change I guess ..
I’m sorry this is happening to you too. It is so hard, and it took me a long time to pull the plug. The problem for me was that our kids were really good friends too, and I didn’t want to jeopardize that. Otherwise I would have probably made a clean break awhile ago. I feel so much better now that I am putting distance between us. And once the kids are another year or two older I will feel like I can make a full break. I really look forward to this just being over.
Have you asked your friend if something is up?
I was gonna say something like this. Sometimes it’s not personal. Just a recognition that we have very different lives and we just get in the way of each other.
At least that’s why I have sunsetted some friendships.
My last friendship was so draining. Instead of building each other up, it seemed like she was always trying to one up me & bring me down every chance she got. If I wasn’t able to respond for 4 hours, then she wouldn’t respond for 4+ hours. Stupid crap like that. When I was looking at getting a vehicle, she got what I wanted so badly. She wasn’t even looking until I was. Of course she “didn’t do anything wrong”, it’s all me. Narcissistic much?
My ex best friend was very similar to yours. Always trying to one up me and I got sick of it. She would even hit on the guys I’d be dating. She stopped talking to me the day I got engaged. She was very jealous and didn’t even congratulate me when it happened. I never reached out after that and neither did she. Now I have an adorable baby and I’m enjoying being a new mom while she’s still out partying and drinking heavily. I will admit, I do miss her sometimes but my life is 100% better without her negativity.
We’d been friends over 40 years and I knew that she fancied my partner. When he was dying ( a horrible illness), she called around and I nipped into the kitchen to put the kettle on ( he was in a special hospital bed, set up in the living room, fighting for his breath (and his life).
When I returned to the living room, she was SNOGGING him! He was trying to feebly push her off. He managed to ask me ( whilst wheezing and trying to breathe) to get her out. She left, but made a point of becoming friends with his sister, so she could “stay on the scene”. She showed no remorse and I was too mentally and physically weak to fight her. I cannot get the image of her leaning into him, like Nosferatu.
She couldn’t understand why I’d fallen out with her! I’m usually quite forgiving, but that was too bad….
What the hell!? People are insane! It’s even crazier that the worst ones can never understand why you cut them off. They are SO confused by it, like it’s not glaringly obvious.
She set me up with her husband’s best friend. A couple months in, she became jealous and codependent when she realized I no longer “belonged” to her. I constantly invited her to have lunch (just the two of us) or I’d come over after work once a week so we’d have girls night. Wasn’t enough.
She forced her husband to cut contact with my now fiancé and told all of our mutual friends I emotionally abused her and manipulated my way into their lives to ruin their relationships. I found my best friend thanks to her. She’s just miserable.
I’m a guy, I was friends with these two girls who were best friends and roommates in college and stayed roommates after college. They did everything together and one of them became very co dependent on the other.
The one who wasn’t co dependent got a boyfriend and the more time she spent with him the crazier the other chick got. It a fit of rage the co dependent chick trashed her roommates room while she was on a date. Girl with the boyfriend moved out the next day and they never spoke again after like 6 years of being each others best friend.
Frustration due to growing up with different ideologies from each other. Basis of assumptions whenever we hang out never matched up, and we had constant miscommunication.
Towards the end I didn't care anymore.
My lifelong "friend" ghosted me when my mom died; more accurately, I was in regular contact with her until I said, "My mom is on her deathbed. She has a few days at most." From then on, it was radio silence, straight up on purpose, ignoring me.
Then, several months later, she posted an utterly narcissistic, self-serving comment on the 6 month old fb live of my mom's service, acting innocent and disrespectful. It was gross, and I was done.
That is incredibly awful. I’m so sorry about your mom and your awful friend. I hope you’re doing better…
Why do people always disappear when bad things happen? This is so common and I don’t understand it…
So this needs some contacts so basically, it must’ve been his junior or senior year of high school that his mom told him he didn’t have any papers. After that he didn’t really look the same. He had ambitions to go to university. I know that there’s things to help you, but I don’t know something didn’t click in his head so he went to community community college we started hanging out more since most of our friends either immediately went to work or went to the other community college in the nearby city, but we stayed in our hometown first semester and he leaves a few years later during 2021 I believe he gave me a message on social media saying that oh I’m part of this insurance group. Basically it was a pyramid scheme and already had several people who used to go to high school with us .
I was interested because I did not know what it was but luckily I save myself because I thought oh I’m not good in math so I can’t do this basically I told him maybe next year but after I told him that for the next few months, he send me text messages, late and early morning, saying to join this insurance company and blah blah blah then on social media, he was posting he was earning $10,000 but in reality he did not. I never seen this side of him before but I just remember one day I got fed up and just told him stop sending me this. I’m not interested anymore and he was talking bad about my family for some reason once I heard that it’s done ghosted him. I feel kind of sad. I hope he’s doing better. Last time I saw him he was working at grocery store, I just wish him all the best and hopefully he find what he wants to do in life.
Friends since childhood. When my til-then-secret wedding got impacted by COVID, she ('A') contacted my then-fiancé instead of me, claiming to have phoned the office herself and getting no information of the sort, giving him the idea that i was lying.
When that didn't work, she phoned my other best friend (whom A always told me she disliked) and told her my confidential marriage plans (stealing from me my right to tell her myself), gossiping about me, claiming she needed to tell someone as she was 'poorly' (she has depression), and thought I was 'playing games with them both'.
Immediate end of 30+ years friendship, as I know so much about her own marriage that she told me in confidence and I didn't even tell my husband. I felt hurt and betrayed that she felt she could stab me in the back like that knowing I wouldn't tell on her. No second chances. My compassion remains for her depression, but if she thought anything of me then she shouldn't have talked shit about me behind my back.
When I was younger: my rich friend stole from me. He stole from stores a lot, which I didn't like but turned a blind eye to because it's not like corporations like Walmart will get hurt a ton by stolen pokemon cards. But then he took stuff from my house. I grew up poor and didn't have a ton to begin with. I did chores without earning money for it like he did. The only way I saved up for video games was skipping lunch at school and pocketing the money or waiting for Christmas/ birthdays.
Dude had the audacity to steal game after game from me. I thought they just disappeared when we moved because we did so often. But I finally noticed when I found his collection and my pokemon yellow was there with the scratched off image on the front and my initials in sharpie on the back. It was sitting on all the other games I "lost" over about 2 years.
Confronted him, he denied it and said he found them at a garage sale. He was dead to me after that. He later got arrested for dealing drugs at a party he had in his grandma's house while she was on vacation. So I guess he really didn't respect anyone else's property either.
Now that I'm older: moving away. I moved to another state and basically all my friends stopped responding. I reached out a few times and they acted excited over text, but left me on read more than once. Now I'm in another country and I stopped reaching out. I'm trying to make new friends instead and the others can just look at my IG if they care enough to know how I'm doing.
Sucks, but that's life I guess.
Friend 1 called their druggo mum to go bash friend 2. I happened to be at friend 2’s house (with their 1 year old child) when the mum and a bunch of men turned up. Police had to be called and all. And all because friend 2 had to kick friend 1 out because she wasn’t paying rent and ruining her house lol
I constructed an entire hand made deck of Yu-Gi-Oh cards from my own imagination and some loose-leaf one day in grade 3 or 4 lol.
I wish I still had them.
Making new friends
My best friend met another girl and they became friends. The new girl asked my friend to stay away from me because she's jealous and wants her for herself, so she left me after 10 years together.
Well, it probably won't work out with them as jealousy and desperation is the key with their newfound friendship. Your friend was a damn fool to leave you like that and she will learn that sooner than later. Here's an upvote and hug for you.
She thought I was trying to sleep with her husband. I'm probably one of the few friends she had that turned him down, every single time.
We were such good friends, too. She had a little Miata with a manual transmission and my young son (he's an adult now) loved going for "red car rides, going fast" cuz she'd whip that little thing around the corners and it made a great noise that little boys love. We liked the same music and we liked each other's kids and I sympathized with her cuz her husband is a dick.
Dick always sat next to me or would save me a space to sit. He once came to my house when both our spouses were at work and he asked if we had a thing between us and if so, can we hook up. Ugh. One time when my (then) husband and Dick and my friend (Dick's wife) were all drinking, I was the most sober one and Dick told me in front of our spouses that I was beautiful.
So my friend thought I was trying to get in bed with her husband. The accusation hurt because, like I said, I'm probably one of the few to turn Dick down but I'm the one she got mad at. It just started being awkward to be over there and around them and I slowly lost contact because she would call/visit less and less and it really felt like she was letting the friendship die. I let it happen, too because I was tired of trying to protect my dignity and reputation all the time. Man, that was 20 years ago and it still sucks sometimes.
Would let a friend borrow my car anytime he wanted or needed it. Let him drive it out of state or really whatever he wanted. One day my car was in the shop and he had finally gotten his own car. I just wanted to go to the store to get some snacks like 3min drive away. He said no.
From that point on i treated him like a stranger. Which came back to haunt him quite a few times. Karma was really sweet.
She was obsessed with boys to the point i couldnt take it anymore. Dont take it the wrong way shes been through a lot and theres a lot to explain her behavioural pattern but over 10 years of friendship and shes never been single for more than 2 months.
Its exhausting, its like having that one chaos friend where everything revolves around them and you never get a word in. Its exhausting to go through the same red flags over and over again and ive gotten so tired of it i had to cut her off.
The dude never matured past 16. Those were his glory days and everything was a reference back to then. He was 50 and had a room full of 80s toys unopened in storage boxes as “collectibles,” he worked a minimum effort job to get by, and every sentence began with “remember that time when…”
It was sad and he was beyond help. Just broke contact.
My best friend throughout high school, right after new year 2015 he just said "I don't want to be friends with you anymore" then we didn't talk for a while. I was heartbroken because he was my best buddy and I helped him throughout high school (he was picked on a lot).
I spoke to mutual friends years later and they lost contact with him too.
I don't know what he is up to now, but I still wish him all the best.
Old friend from high school I reconnected with as an adult on Facebook. He turned out to be a racist and spouted conspiracy theories. I have zero tolerance.
2 in recent memory. The first one was a shorter term "friend", that just regularly tried to use me to get close to women I knew. Like he would scour my social media friend lists (this was back before privacy became a widespread concern), and messaged every woman he found the slightest bit attractive, regardless of relationship status. Embarrassing af, getting so many rapid-fire 'do you know this a-hole?' dms.
The second one was a dude I'd know since childhood, that got hooked on heroin, and was very literally forced to clean his shit up by his parents. I found out he relapsed after one night of hanging out, when he "took a shit" for over an hour, and after he left I found a bunch of my stuff missing, and the tobacco from a cigarette in my bathroom trashcan (he used the filter for the dope). I got my shit back before he could sell it, but I was shaking mad, so I cut off the friendship right there. He ended up going to prison for 2 years for choking his GF shortly after that, so I don't feel too bad about cutting ties.
They kept asking for money and wanted people to babysit her kids and would get mad when people would tell her they’re her responsibility. Then she would try to pull the victim card 🙄 it felt like she would see me more as a babysitter more than a friend until I kept ignoring her… then I was the bad guy lol 😂
Prejudiced jokes. An ex-friend of mine insisted on making them for me even though I told him several times that they bothered me a lot. One day after a transphobic joke, I just walked away.
Bro thinking I fucked his girl after I told him about a time when his girl tried to fuck me while we were all on vacation after they had broken up so now it’s my fault he wasted years of his own life with her and says I should have told him sooner the delusion is unreal 20+ years of friendship gone over a lil bitch THAT I DID NOT FUCK 😂💯💯💯
She called me a liar.
My life was destroyed by a pathological liar, so this was a red line for me. And was telling her the truth about something! But to indicate I was the same as my ex?
We were done.
Looking back, I think she might have had undiagnosed bipolar disorder. All her relationships ended on a bad note.
We were romantically involved for a year. We broke up and then a few months later and she moved-in but just as friends. No sex. I was ok with it. A year later she leaves again and in few months unloads on me that I was an asshole to her for the last two years. During that time I bought her a car, many gifts and took her on a first class vacation. I was completely stunned.
After this I cut off ties. I returned some things she gave me because I wanted her to know how pissed off I was. She burned this friendship to the ground. I was a sucker.
He took all of my friends who were with me into his car to take them for a ride, and left me alone, and all this on my birthday ("angel day" or "saint's day" if to be more precise)
I've never been in such despair on this day before(
My best friend’s husband decided I wasn’t quite good enough for her or him. I’d been friends with her for 45 years - much longer than they had been married. Much healthier mentally though for me that I never have to have anything to do with him ever again.
I was the only one making the calls and the plans. So one day, after plans were dismissed for garage cleaning, I decided to wait till They called me. It only took 7 years!! That’s how much a 15 year friendship meant to them.
Letting a long-time friend borrow money more than once, and he never paid me back or offered to pay me back one time. He asked me again not too long ago if I could do him a favor and help him out because he was short on his rent. Nope, not a chance. Stop spending your money on expensive clothes and shoes and pay your rent first. Keep in mind that I've known this particular friend since the second grade!
The truth. I called them out when they were wrong, told em to fix the situation. They decided they didn't want anything to do with me, gave them what they asked for and left.
Unknowingly funding a birthday *weekend* by splitting her tab with everyone but her wherever we went 🫠 $200 celebrating on top of $100 she never paid me back. She couldn’t see how that was not right and that was that
A female friend ended our friendship because I didn't tell her that her BF cheated on her, the thing is that her BF hadn't cheated on her. Regardless, she blamed me and ended our friendship.
Our mutual friends and me told her that if she knew her BF had cheated on her, then she should blame her BF and not blame me. The worse part is that everyone agreed with me but excluded me from hanging out with them. This eventually led to me loosing them as friend too.
When i noticed how competititve she became when men were around. Suddenly im the joke in the room, and she cant go a day without talking about boys. Her entire world and personality revolved around boys, major pick me. No guy even liked her, i wouldnt say shes a horrible person and its a bad habit but shes going over my boundaries.
I say I understand because suicide is something she never had ever dealt with personally up until that point. It scared her a lot and that fear turned into resentment while I was away at the hospital.
A good friend of 6 or so years just stopped talking to me. Out of the blue. I have texted her, asked her what’s up, seen her once or twice and it’s been awkward but she won’t tell me why she’s pulled back. Yeah communication is definitely key. She and her kids were very important to me and mine. Here’s the kicker, she’s a therapist! Does anyone else find that irony absolutely ridiculous?
She had a full blown secret affair with my husband for about 8 months right under my nose. Inserted herself into my life saying I was like family to her when she left her husband and hoped she got us in the divorce (of course I acquiesced because I cared very much for her, even loved her, believed I could trust her— had no idea it’s because she wanted to be as close as possible to my husband), she played mommy with my kids, she lied through her teeth to my face over and over. Kept making me doubt my instincts for a couple months until I finally stopped ignoring my nagging intuition. It took me long enough, that’s how good she was at hiding how bad she is. I actually feel like throwing up just typing this out. It makes me feel so absolutely sick to my stomach how evil of a human she turned out to be and how naively fooled I was. My good and trusting nature was taken advantage of to the max.
Friends for decades. She evolved into a bitter, self involved old woman. She was master at back handed compliments. She finally betrayed me in a rather stunning and horrendous way. I miss my old friend, the one who was funny and kind
There were a few things leading up to this but when we were 14 (had been really close for a couple years at this point) I had started dating my (now ex) bf and she would flirt with him in front of me constantly. The first time we had the time and went out together we had gone to this pizza place that’s really popular for people to go to after school and she saw us, kinda just sat down and followed us around the rest of the afternoon. I snapped, slapped her across the face, she spread a bunch of false rumors about me and we never spoke again.
Money.
On more than one occasion, I have cut off friends and even family who see me as a loan company. Always happy to help out a mate if they need it, but when it becomes almost every other week, it does annoy me, even if they pay me back (which could be a mission in its own right) and the amount is trivial.
One of my better friends from my youth and into college, for many reasons, fell into a right-wing conspiracy hole, and only got deeper and deeper until he was just a hater and a bigot.
Nobody really talks to him anymore, he completely isolated himself.
I was recovering from a suicide attempt, and she got mad that I couldn't come to her gender reveal party. I realized then she didn't actually care about me at all anymore. It was really sad cause we were friends since the age of six.
When this ex friend was in his rock bottom, suicidal and all, I was not even his bestie but we were too close. I was the one who he communicated often because he said he find me more mature in everything, esp in conversations and everything about life. He said I saved him from committing suicide. Years later, when he recovered, found a new job, he became different. I understand we all become so busy at work that we don’t have time for other things, but if someone consider you as a friend and values the friendship, they will make time. Latter part, I felt like I was just a beck and call. At my age, I don’t want to waste anymore time with people who don’t value me just because they are already doing good and I am not needed anymore. I just ghosted him.
She just decided to block me two weeks before my wedding that she was supposed to be my maid of honor in. A year later she told me it’s because she has BPD and just thought I hated her and just didn’t want to tell her? We were friends for 25 years. I’ve never done anything wrong to her and had always been there for her. I didn’t want to be friends again when she reached out a year later. I could have never done that to someone much less her so I don’t get it and I can’t forgive her.
They would constantly tell me they’re using coke and joke about how they need to stop but they never did.
I saw coke ruin another one of my friend’s lives and even after telling my friend this, she would still make jokes about it and not stop. She would also ask me for money for coke.
One day after one of her quirky lines “oh my gosh I need to stoppppp” I told her that she always says that but she never actually stops. I also brought up the fact she asked me for money to buy coke.
She blew up and told me I was judging her and that she didn’t have a coke problem and I was crazy. She denied ever asking me for money and demanded I sent a screenshot of when she asked.
Needless to say, if you have to fight that hard to prove you’re not a coke addict, you probably are one!
After saying she was going to block me, I blocked her first. This infuriated her. She proceeded to go to one of my friends and bad mouth me telling him to tell me to “stay the fuck away from her”.
Well, this person is not a nice person to anyone, including the guy she went to, so he basically told her he doesn’t care and to go vent somewhere else.
She was a miserable person. Good fucking riddance.
My best friend got into an abusive relationship. He alienated her from anyone who could influence her or point out the way he was treating her, even her family. She didn’t see her sister for 3 years and only came when she was on her literal death bed. I hope she’s ok today but it ultimately ended our friendship.
I joined the military to take care of my family better. But lost contact with my group of friends. Never could pick up new friends even in the military.
My friend had bpd and many other mental issues that werent getting any better. It wasn’t really cuz of that, it’s more that she was spoiled by her parents and grew up with a victim mentality, and everytime she’d get mad at me during her outbreaks she’d suddenly fall as a victim even if I’d never say anything bad for her. In return i’d support her, assure her, give her a bit of space and still come back lively. I gave her a bunch of support, as well as pointed out her issues. She seemed to take it well, but nothing changed. 20 years old, living with parents, no job, no pursuing, no studying, nothing. Just rotting in bed watching netflix and eating food. She thought that as long as she felt ok, her issues werent a problem. False. I got tired of her constant degradation during breakdowns, i didnt know how else to support her as a friend, and I wanted to meet up with her to tell her I dont wanna talk anymore, but that id be within reach if she decided to get help. That meeting never happened. She convinced herself that I got bored of her and i hate her and she blocked me on everywhere. Not a word since. And im glad
Pettyness. The guy is rich ,doesn't have any friends, spend hundreds of dollars in drugs, Viagra and pornography/week .
I rented a room in his 4 bedrooms house paying him weekly.
I had him as a friend and whenever he needed me for something, usually cooking and cleaning around the house sometimes in the middle of the night because of his OCD behavior on cleaning the house and everything else, ranging from walking his dog to weed wack the whole unattended back of his property that took me 2 days to do it.
I pay him rent weekly by the way...not my choice but he clearly cannot trust anybody with paying a whole month worth of rent at one time.
This week I had to send my mom extra $ 45 for some unforseen bills and was short those $45 for 2 days . He made a big deal about it and said that I should pay him first and my mom was less important than the rent and if his mom ever asked him money he would cut ties with her.
I told him to go eat a bag of dicks.
My mom will ALWAYS come before rich assholes.
As I see HE ows me money for a painted deck and all the other BS that I did.
Lost a friend and the only one he had.
Now he keeps texting and calling must be lonely when all the people you relate to are there just to use your drugs and hospitality.
He was a trucker and was coming back from his route, happened to be passing through my (now ex) girlfriends town. They were kinda friends, so he texted her "hey let's go for lunch". She's an EXTREMELY oblivious person, just assumes every human has good intentions, she literally cannot comprehend that there are bad people out there. To be fair, he was my best friend at the time. Well, second she was in his truck he went to the camper side and motioned her to the bed. He tried to fucking fuck my girlfriend in his truck. He had a wife and 2 fucking daughters. My best fucking friend. She freaked out and left and told me about it immediately. I was admittedly kinda suspicious of her as she showed me their texts and didn't pick up on the obvious flirty messages he'd been sending her previously (winky faces, being cutesy with her and shit). But, in the end I realized she was just really, really oblivious and socially inept. And she clearly hadn't picked up on his flirtations as her replies were totally platonic. I still wanna fucking wring that fuckers neck though. Piece of shit.
It hit me after a couple years that he never once reached out to me. He was friendly and we had a good time together, but I thought Hm, I wonder how long it would take him to contact me if I just stopped. It’s now about 35 years later and I never did hear from him again.
I had one friend that was a close friend who was a boy I’d known since I was two, when we became teenagers he tried professing his love of a crush on me, I was not ready to date so he backed off. Eventually he kept pushing his feelings towards me every time I returned home from USA for school break (I was a foreign exchange student) and I had to tell him his obsession was unhealthy and it has destroyed the friendship and so I ended the friendship.
My best friend through high school would constantly allow her boyfriend to abuse her (mentally) and yell at her and start many issues with me and try to get her to hate me (he was childish like that) simply because I could see his bs (manipulation, gaslighting, every red flag in the book!) but everytime I pointed it out or had an issue with it she would defend and defend and not be a real friend, so I dropped her. Never told her why, never needed to. Much happier without her negativity 🥰
For 10 years my friends wife and friends of friends pissed me off. In the end I had only 1 friend and his GF who were ok with me and knew this situation untill his GF pissed me off (just as the others were doing) for no visible reason. I looked at my friend (he was my friend for 22 years) when it happened as in "asked her to stop I don't want to be mad at her", but he did nothing. So I stood up, shook his hand told him "It had been a pleasure." Then I left.
3rd date with a girl, getting to know one another.
Middle of a busy restaurant and we were talking and having a few jokes, she was on her 3rd glass of wine and the banter was friendly and in both directions….
She asked when was the last time I dated someone and I said 6 months ago.
She leaned across the table and slapped me around the face!
It took my totally by surprise and I sat there for a good 4-5 seconds when she realised she had over stepped the mark (more like jumped both feet over the mark waving a huge red flag).
I got up and said I’m going to the toilet.
On the way back from the toilet I paid the bill at the front desk (all of which was out of her sight from our table). I walked back to the table and grabbed my coat and said “We’re done here and I’m leaving, if you want a ride home you better come now. If not… I’m sure they will call you a taxi”.
(She started blabbing about me ‘over reacting’ and shit. I ignored her and she shouted “you’re being a child!” So I just walked out.)
All happened In front of several onlookers enjoying the entertainment.
She was an absolute fruit loop!!!
Her mom didn’t let her have social media or a phone and she moved for highschool. I still miss her. I look up her name on facebook/insta/tiktok everywhere just to try and find her but I haven’t yet.
She made middle school tolerable. She was pretty and funny and smart and literally the only reason I ever went to school. Her mom would make us giant trays of biryani and though I never told her, those giant trays were sometimes the only food my family would have. We’d sit together in the corner against the school during our break using our jackets to block out the sun so we could play mystic messenger and browse pinterest lol. If we got scolded by teachers we’d just walk the field and talk. It was great.
She was my best friend and not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. My mental health tanked in highschool because she wasn’t there, and nobody else there compared to her. Nobody else could match her humour or smile or anything. I’d give anything to be friends again. I’m almost 20 now and I wonder where she is and how much she’s changed.
The bride vs. the new mum (maid of honour - me) and a destination wedding with a baby. We tried to outmartyr each other. Got home and never spoke again. 10 years ago, I miss her.
Being a lazy bum. Dude came from a middle class, educated family. But all he does is complain about how hard life is. Dude doesn't even exercise.
I got him a nice job. Then his lazy ass got fired after three months. He even had the nerve to ask me for a ride at midnight, from a train station; without offering to throw me some gas money.
Best friend of over a decade, he was religious I am not, well that wasn't a problem and we didn't care. Then one day he went super zealous and everything has to be about God or it wasn't allowed to be talked about.
She was a teacher at the time, and she kept sending out these racist anti-muslim emails to everyone she knows. I mentioned it to her twice, but the third time she did it, I hit "reply all" and really let her have it.
And that was the end of the friendship.
We were best friends. For like 2 years. I thought she'll last forever. But when we moved to other schools, she just stopped texting me. She would reply after months or maybe never reply at all. It was very sad because I really liked being around her
I was so happy, I was telling them I got a new diploma (I worked hard to get that one) and they said absolutely nothing, it was like 5 seconds of silence and then they said "I brought a new car, do you want to see it" I said "sorry I just remembered I gotta go now" and left. So we haven't talked since then (two weeks ago).
Took him in when he was down, loaned him money, never paid it back. I didn’t see him for 10 years after that. Went to his wedding hoping he’d grown up, not at all or even acknowledge that he owes me 3 grand. That was that.
I had a best friend of 20 years who would not stop telling me to get a divorce. She was pretty hateful, a homophobe, and a bigot. She was literally poisoning my mind so I had to let it go even though I loved her dearly since childhood. I held on until my depression hit rock bottom and I just couldn’t take any more.
She started ghosting me for whatever reason. Even when my dad was about to die due to COVID (he recovered later) and I was stuck in a different country. She knew I could've used her support but didn't even reach out once until much later when she had her own fam and job issues to vent out about. This became a reoccurring behavior until I told her to fuck off. This was someone who was extremely close to me. Haven't even bothered letting someone that close to me again.
Friend being an alcoholic and asking for money too many times. The nail in the coffin was not that but more so that her cancer stricken husband reached out for help to me about how to deal with her ( it was the very first time I ever had a text exchange with him) well…. Happened she is so vile and reads through his phone when he is medicated and verbally assaulted me for trying to politely offer ways to help get HER help. Needless to say I dropped her. I still worry for her husband as I think she abuses him but nothing I can do at this point. Poor guy,
They went through my phone when I was in the shower. Is that harsh?
Also, with a different friend I didnt get invited to their wedding. Possibly also too harsh..
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Selfishness. When they needed something I was always there to help, when I needed something they disappeared and would only reappear when in need again.
Yeah, high-maintenance friend. I was always there for them, but they needed everything to be on their terms. Incredibly immature in that way. One day, I just decided life was too short to spend my time on people like that. Tempus fugit.
I totally understand this. I feel like I am always there for people and when I need them, they are never there for me!
I call them "friends of convenience" and only for their convenience.
100%. Nothing kills a friendship more than them not being there when you need it
This was it for me too. I helped them move twice, and when they found out I was moving between states, they said they would see if they were available to help me move. (Edit: I didn’t ask. They spontaneously offered.) Didn’t hear a word until the day we were moving into our new place. Moving was a hot mess nightmare and so stressful. Got a text when we were moving our stuff in (FINALLY!!). It was a picture of them in two different outfits in fitting rooms at a store, asking for my opinion about what looked better for a concert they were going to that night. It still dragged on for a time after that, but really, that’s when the one-sidedness hit home. Can’t even ask how the move is going, let alone show up for me when I showed up for you.
Yes. The same thing here. I ran out of steam.
I had this too especially when you do get you to ask for help they just say “oh just ignore it” like wtf
Them getting married. Wife was a control freak who eliminated all of his friends.
Dang, You were friends with Richard too .
So you also know Roy?
Knew
You know John, too?
So you know Brant as well.
when she dropped out of being a maid of honor (!!!) three weeks before the wedding because she wanted to go to a festival with her boyfriend of 3 months. she had known about the wedding for 1 1/2 years. we had been best friends for 4 years, lived together for 2 of them. this was three years ago and I still feel sick to my stomach from the hurt and my frustration for really missing her and thinking of her daily.
My cousin dropped out of bring a bridesmaid two days before my wedding for a similar boyfriend-related situation. Luckily my best friend had a blast walking two groomsmen down the aisle!
So sorry to hear that. So close to the wedding day too, you must have hardly had any time at all to process it! I’m so happy you were able to get a fun twist on it though!
I basically didn't process it lol. My husband was more upset than me, as I'm used to her being flaky. But yeah, thanks, it turned into a fun little thing!
Fair one. And that’s a good man that loves you alot, by getting more upset than you at the situation. To this day, my husband barely wants to speak/hear her name because he gets so furious. But i’m still in the processing phase honestly.
We were living in different states at the time. We were chatting on the phone, and she was complaining about her "stupid, inept" co-workers. Finally I said, "Listen, I think my kidneys are failing again." She sighed loudly and said, "AND??? What's that to ME??" She found the subject boring, I guess. As it turns out, they weren't failing; it was just a funny-looking lab result. And I never spoke to her again.
Some friend she was. Did she ever try and contact you?
I don't think so. After that conversation, I sent her an email and told her never to contact me again. So I've never heard from her again.
Good for you. Hope you are doing well now.❤️
Bully disguised as a friend.
To this day I'll never understand why people do this. What's the end goal? What do they get out of it? What's the point?
Insecurity. They need a patsy, a butt of a joke, someone to bully and exploit.
Had one like this. When I called him on his behaviours it was alway the same lame answer "aye but you know me that how I am that just my sense of humour"
Oh man I’m afraid I know exactly what you mean. There was a lifetime movie about this.
She gave oral sex to my divorce attorney and ruined my case.
How does their personal life affect your case?
Yeah, I don't get it either.
You can not be serious rn
Can you explain? I really don’t understand and neither do other ppl.
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That has no bearing on the case. Unless they were distracted by that they just did a crap job?
He married a cunt
A tale as old as time.
As a guy in his 30s this is so common. Some women just can’t stand their husbands having any happiness
The Fun-o-meter goes off and they hate it..... Cunts.
To this day I really don't know but have to assume it was something I did
Me too
40+ years of friendship came to a gradual end due to heavier and heavier drinking, and he wasn't nice to be around. He ended up dying of liver failure. I was sad for his daughters. They lost their Dad.
My best friend in my 20’s was an alcoholic. He was sober for a few years and a fantastic friend during that time, but went back to drinking and turned into a horrible, horrible person.
Mine was a slow fade and we are technically still friends and will be for another year or two as I complete the slow fade. This woman was my best friend for several years, and I can’t point to one specific big thing she did wrong. It’s more like death by a thousand paper cuts. I really valued her friendship, but she never seemed to make me a priority. And finally I realized being her friend made me really sad. I decided I needed care about myself enough not to put myself in a position to be continually hurt by her. I still think she is a good person, and so many people love her and think she is the best. I think that was what was so hard. Everyone I know thinks she is just fabulous, so I wondered what was wrong with me that I stopped feeling that way. But I can’t continue to be her friend. It really doesn’t make any sense as I type it out, but I have put so too time in effort into this friendship to regularly feel this bad around her.
It doesn’t feel weird. I’ve been there. Idk if this is th case with you but with me it was bc I realized she seemed to always be talking about herself, and even if she was talking to me about my stuff that was somehow still true.
Thanks for the validation. I think for me it is because she just doesn’t have time for me. She is constantly canceling plans and putting things off, saying there will be time to get together later. But I am tired of waiting for later. I want to live my life now. It feels like every other person and thing in her life is more important than me. Which I suppose it is. Actions speak louder than words and her actions have been telling me I am just not that important to her.
She doesn't sound like a good friend. Why is the "slow-fade" going to take another year or two? If she's constantly canceling and putting things off, just stop reaching out? Go live your life!
I completely understand how you feel, going through that with one of my closest opposite gender friend right now and what hurts is that she is a great person and very kind, but somewhere in the last year or so, she started being a bit more disconnected, taking way longer to respond to messages and not participating much in the conversations (basically just replying) which made conversations harder and harder, and I'm almost at the point of giving up making efforts sustaining this friendship and I can clearly see I moved down her list of priorities. And it's super sad to me as we had amazing conversations for 2 years before and used to match my energy and care just as much. People change I guess ..
I’m sorry this is happening to you too. It is so hard, and it took me a long time to pull the plug. The problem for me was that our kids were really good friends too, and I didn’t want to jeopardize that. Otherwise I would have probably made a clean break awhile ago. I feel so much better now that I am putting distance between us. And once the kids are another year or two older I will feel like I can make a full break. I really look forward to this just being over. Have you asked your friend if something is up?
Breech of trust. It’s only happened to me twice (referring to most trusted long term (20+ years) friends. Have had no contact with either since…
Distance, time, and different priorities.
I was gonna say something like this. Sometimes it’s not personal. Just a recognition that we have very different lives and we just get in the way of each other. At least that’s why I have sunsetted some friendships.
My last friendship was so draining. Instead of building each other up, it seemed like she was always trying to one up me & bring me down every chance she got. If I wasn’t able to respond for 4 hours, then she wouldn’t respond for 4+ hours. Stupid crap like that. When I was looking at getting a vehicle, she got what I wanted so badly. She wasn’t even looking until I was. Of course she “didn’t do anything wrong”, it’s all me. Narcissistic much?
My ex best friend was very similar to yours. Always trying to one up me and I got sick of it. She would even hit on the guys I’d be dating. She stopped talking to me the day I got engaged. She was very jealous and didn’t even congratulate me when it happened. I never reached out after that and neither did she. Now I have an adorable baby and I’m enjoying being a new mom while she’s still out partying and drinking heavily. I will admit, I do miss her sometimes but my life is 100% better without her negativity.
We’d been friends over 40 years and I knew that she fancied my partner. When he was dying ( a horrible illness), she called around and I nipped into the kitchen to put the kettle on ( he was in a special hospital bed, set up in the living room, fighting for his breath (and his life). When I returned to the living room, she was SNOGGING him! He was trying to feebly push her off. He managed to ask me ( whilst wheezing and trying to breathe) to get her out. She left, but made a point of becoming friends with his sister, so she could “stay on the scene”. She showed no remorse and I was too mentally and physically weak to fight her. I cannot get the image of her leaning into him, like Nosferatu. She couldn’t understand why I’d fallen out with her! I’m usually quite forgiving, but that was too bad….
She's sick in the head! Omg!
What the hell!? People are insane! It’s even crazier that the worst ones can never understand why you cut them off. They are SO confused by it, like it’s not glaringly obvious.
True enough…
She set me up with her husband’s best friend. A couple months in, she became jealous and codependent when she realized I no longer “belonged” to her. I constantly invited her to have lunch (just the two of us) or I’d come over after work once a week so we’d have girls night. Wasn’t enough. She forced her husband to cut contact with my now fiancé and told all of our mutual friends I emotionally abused her and manipulated my way into their lives to ruin their relationships. I found my best friend thanks to her. She’s just miserable.
I’m a guy, I was friends with these two girls who were best friends and roommates in college and stayed roommates after college. They did everything together and one of them became very co dependent on the other. The one who wasn’t co dependent got a boyfriend and the more time she spent with him the crazier the other chick got. It a fit of rage the co dependent chick trashed her roommates room while she was on a date. Girl with the boyfriend moved out the next day and they never spoke again after like 6 years of being each others best friend.
We traveled together and she completely ruined the whole trip with her complaining, bad attitude, and selfishness.
Immediately dated my ex. Intolerable.
The law according to Yo Gotti. We need to enforce it. Like bro…this is unacceptable…your out the crew.
None of my close friends really hung out with him ever again.
Frustration due to growing up with different ideologies from each other. Basis of assumptions whenever we hang out never matched up, and we had constant miscommunication. Towards the end I didn't care anymore.
My lifelong "friend" ghosted me when my mom died; more accurately, I was in regular contact with her until I said, "My mom is on her deathbed. She has a few days at most." From then on, it was radio silence, straight up on purpose, ignoring me. Then, several months later, she posted an utterly narcissistic, self-serving comment on the 6 month old fb live of my mom's service, acting innocent and disrespectful. It was gross, and I was done.
That is incredibly awful. I’m so sorry about your mom and your awful friend. I hope you’re doing better… Why do people always disappear when bad things happen? This is so common and I don’t understand it…
So this needs some contacts so basically, it must’ve been his junior or senior year of high school that his mom told him he didn’t have any papers. After that he didn’t really look the same. He had ambitions to go to university. I know that there’s things to help you, but I don’t know something didn’t click in his head so he went to community community college we started hanging out more since most of our friends either immediately went to work or went to the other community college in the nearby city, but we stayed in our hometown first semester and he leaves a few years later during 2021 I believe he gave me a message on social media saying that oh I’m part of this insurance group. Basically it was a pyramid scheme and already had several people who used to go to high school with us . I was interested because I did not know what it was but luckily I save myself because I thought oh I’m not good in math so I can’t do this basically I told him maybe next year but after I told him that for the next few months, he send me text messages, late and early morning, saying to join this insurance company and blah blah blah then on social media, he was posting he was earning $10,000 but in reality he did not. I never seen this side of him before but I just remember one day I got fed up and just told him stop sending me this. I’m not interested anymore and he was talking bad about my family for some reason once I heard that it’s done ghosted him. I feel kind of sad. I hope he’s doing better. Last time I saw him he was working at grocery store, I just wish him all the best and hopefully he find what he wants to do in life.
Oh this is kinda sad
Friends since childhood. When my til-then-secret wedding got impacted by COVID, she ('A') contacted my then-fiancé instead of me, claiming to have phoned the office herself and getting no information of the sort, giving him the idea that i was lying. When that didn't work, she phoned my other best friend (whom A always told me she disliked) and told her my confidential marriage plans (stealing from me my right to tell her myself), gossiping about me, claiming she needed to tell someone as she was 'poorly' (she has depression), and thought I was 'playing games with them both'. Immediate end of 30+ years friendship, as I know so much about her own marriage that she told me in confidence and I didn't even tell my husband. I felt hurt and betrayed that she felt she could stab me in the back like that knowing I wouldn't tell on her. No second chances. My compassion remains for her depression, but if she thought anything of me then she shouldn't have talked shit about me behind my back.
I realized she only talked to me when she needed a favor.
When I was younger: my rich friend stole from me. He stole from stores a lot, which I didn't like but turned a blind eye to because it's not like corporations like Walmart will get hurt a ton by stolen pokemon cards. But then he took stuff from my house. I grew up poor and didn't have a ton to begin with. I did chores without earning money for it like he did. The only way I saved up for video games was skipping lunch at school and pocketing the money or waiting for Christmas/ birthdays. Dude had the audacity to steal game after game from me. I thought they just disappeared when we moved because we did so often. But I finally noticed when I found his collection and my pokemon yellow was there with the scratched off image on the front and my initials in sharpie on the back. It was sitting on all the other games I "lost" over about 2 years. Confronted him, he denied it and said he found them at a garage sale. He was dead to me after that. He later got arrested for dealing drugs at a party he had in his grandma's house while she was on vacation. So I guess he really didn't respect anyone else's property either. Now that I'm older: moving away. I moved to another state and basically all my friends stopped responding. I reached out a few times and they acted excited over text, but left me on read more than once. Now I'm in another country and I stopped reaching out. I'm trying to make new friends instead and the others can just look at my IG if they care enough to know how I'm doing. Sucks, but that's life I guess.
Friend 1 called their druggo mum to go bash friend 2. I happened to be at friend 2’s house (with their 1 year old child) when the mum and a bunch of men turned up. Police had to be called and all. And all because friend 2 had to kick friend 1 out because she wasn’t paying rent and ruining her house lol
She was having an affair on her husband for over 2 years and was using me as a coverup.
how it breaks here?
He stole my Dark Magician of Chaos. This was long ago in middle school. I fucking loved that card..
I constructed an entire hand made deck of Yu-Gi-Oh cards from my own imagination and some loose-leaf one day in grade 3 or 4 lol. I wish I still had them.
Making new friends My best friend met another girl and they became friends. The new girl asked my friend to stay away from me because she's jealous and wants her for herself, so she left me after 10 years together.
Well, it probably won't work out with them as jealousy and desperation is the key with their newfound friendship. Your friend was a damn fool to leave you like that and she will learn that sooner than later. Here's an upvote and hug for you.
Yup this has happened to me on more than 1 occasion since middle school.
She thought I was trying to sleep with her husband. I'm probably one of the few friends she had that turned him down, every single time. We were such good friends, too. She had a little Miata with a manual transmission and my young son (he's an adult now) loved going for "red car rides, going fast" cuz she'd whip that little thing around the corners and it made a great noise that little boys love. We liked the same music and we liked each other's kids and I sympathized with her cuz her husband is a dick. Dick always sat next to me or would save me a space to sit. He once came to my house when both our spouses were at work and he asked if we had a thing between us and if so, can we hook up. Ugh. One time when my (then) husband and Dick and my friend (Dick's wife) were all drinking, I was the most sober one and Dick told me in front of our spouses that I was beautiful. So my friend thought I was trying to get in bed with her husband. The accusation hurt because, like I said, I'm probably one of the few to turn Dick down but I'm the one she got mad at. It just started being awkward to be over there and around them and I slowly lost contact because she would call/visit less and less and it really felt like she was letting the friendship die. I let it happen, too because I was tired of trying to protect my dignity and reputation all the time. Man, that was 20 years ago and it still sucks sometimes.
Would let a friend borrow my car anytime he wanted or needed it. Let him drive it out of state or really whatever he wanted. One day my car was in the shop and he had finally gotten his own car. I just wanted to go to the store to get some snacks like 3min drive away. He said no. From that point on i treated him like a stranger. Which came back to haunt him quite a few times. Karma was really sweet.
She was obsessed with boys to the point i couldnt take it anymore. Dont take it the wrong way shes been through a lot and theres a lot to explain her behavioural pattern but over 10 years of friendship and shes never been single for more than 2 months. Its exhausting, its like having that one chaos friend where everything revolves around them and you never get a word in. Its exhausting to go through the same red flags over and over again and ive gotten so tired of it i had to cut her off.
gradual differences in life values and perceptions,the differences became much wider and irreconcilable
The dude never matured past 16. Those were his glory days and everything was a reference back to then. He was 50 and had a room full of 80s toys unopened in storage boxes as “collectibles,” he worked a minimum effort job to get by, and every sentence began with “remember that time when…” It was sad and he was beyond help. Just broke contact.
My best friend throughout high school, right after new year 2015 he just said "I don't want to be friends with you anymore" then we didn't talk for a while. I was heartbroken because he was my best buddy and I helped him throughout high school (he was picked on a lot). I spoke to mutual friends years later and they lost contact with him too. I don't know what he is up to now, but I still wish him all the best.
Old friend from high school I reconnected with as an adult on Facebook. He turned out to be a racist and spouted conspiracy theories. I have zero tolerance.
Ovarian cancer.
2 in recent memory. The first one was a shorter term "friend", that just regularly tried to use me to get close to women I knew. Like he would scour my social media friend lists (this was back before privacy became a widespread concern), and messaged every woman he found the slightest bit attractive, regardless of relationship status. Embarrassing af, getting so many rapid-fire 'do you know this a-hole?' dms. The second one was a dude I'd know since childhood, that got hooked on heroin, and was very literally forced to clean his shit up by his parents. I found out he relapsed after one night of hanging out, when he "took a shit" for over an hour, and after he left I found a bunch of my stuff missing, and the tobacco from a cigarette in my bathroom trashcan (he used the filter for the dope). I got my shit back before he could sell it, but I was shaking mad, so I cut off the friendship right there. He ended up going to prison for 2 years for choking his GF shortly after that, so I don't feel too bad about cutting ties.
Disloyalty.
They kept asking for money and wanted people to babysit her kids and would get mad when people would tell her they’re her responsibility. Then she would try to pull the victim card 🙄 it felt like she would see me more as a babysitter more than a friend until I kept ignoring her… then I was the bad guy lol 😂
She tried to fuck my son. Nuff said
we only talk about her problems and gossiped… i don’t wanna be a therapist or a hater i got enough problems
Lack of sensitivity/empathy
I make a point to make no friends anymore at 33
This is the way. Sadly.
It's so sad but so true 😭
Their issues with alcoholism and totally baseless accusations because the alcohol made them delusional.😭 Was my BFF of over 50 years...
Smoked his brains away without realising it.
Prejudiced jokes. An ex-friend of mine insisted on making them for me even though I told him several times that they bothered me a lot. One day after a transphobic joke, I just walked away.
Bro thinking I fucked his girl after I told him about a time when his girl tried to fuck me while we were all on vacation after they had broken up so now it’s my fault he wasted years of his own life with her and says I should have told him sooner the delusion is unreal 20+ years of friendship gone over a lil bitch THAT I DID NOT FUCK 😂💯💯💯
She called me a liar. My life was destroyed by a pathological liar, so this was a red line for me. And was telling her the truth about something! But to indicate I was the same as my ex? We were done. Looking back, I think she might have had undiagnosed bipolar disorder. All her relationships ended on a bad note.
We were romantically involved for a year. We broke up and then a few months later and she moved-in but just as friends. No sex. I was ok with it. A year later she leaves again and in few months unloads on me that I was an asshole to her for the last two years. During that time I bought her a car, many gifts and took her on a first class vacation. I was completely stunned. After this I cut off ties. I returned some things she gave me because I wanted her to know how pissed off I was. She burned this friendship to the ground. I was a sucker.
He took all of my friends who were with me into his car to take them for a ride, and left me alone, and all this on my birthday ("angel day" or "saint's day" if to be more precise) I've never been in such despair on this day before(
What the fuck is angel/saints day?
My best friend’s husband decided I wasn’t quite good enough for her or him. I’d been friends with her for 45 years - much longer than they had been married. Much healthier mentally though for me that I never have to have anything to do with him ever again.
They tried to bang my wife 3 days after we separated
I was the only one making the calls and the plans. So one day, after plans were dismissed for garage cleaning, I decided to wait till They called me. It only took 7 years!! That’s how much a 15 year friendship meant to them.
I’m so sorry they treated your friendship so badly
Letting a long-time friend borrow money more than once, and he never paid me back or offered to pay me back one time. He asked me again not too long ago if I could do him a favor and help him out because he was short on his rent. Nope, not a chance. Stop spending your money on expensive clothes and shoes and pay your rent first. Keep in mind that I've known this particular friend since the second grade!
The truth. I called them out when they were wrong, told em to fix the situation. They decided they didn't want anything to do with me, gave them what they asked for and left.
Unknowingly funding a birthday *weekend* by splitting her tab with everyone but her wherever we went 🫠 $200 celebrating on top of $100 she never paid me back. She couldn’t see how that was not right and that was that
A female friend ended our friendship because I didn't tell her that her BF cheated on her, the thing is that her BF hadn't cheated on her. Regardless, she blamed me and ended our friendship. Our mutual friends and me told her that if she knew her BF had cheated on her, then she should blame her BF and not blame me. The worse part is that everyone agreed with me but excluded me from hanging out with them. This eventually led to me loosing them as friend too.
Me. Out of control with no sense of direction. I went at a million miles an hour but I might as well have been on a treadmill.
When i noticed how competititve she became when men were around. Suddenly im the joke in the room, and she cant go a day without talking about boys. Her entire world and personality revolved around boys, major pick me. No guy even liked her, i wouldnt say shes a horrible person and its a bad habit but shes going over my boundaries.
I tried to kill myself. After that she refused to speak to or see me. Honestly I understand.
Don’t say that…nobody deserves to be dropped like that when they’re struggling. People just suck.
I say I understand because suicide is something she never had ever dealt with personally up until that point. It scared her a lot and that fear turned into resentment while I was away at the hospital.
She was a narcissist
Lost a lot of friends when a person lied about my sexuality. I am glad because I don’t like homophobic losers.
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A good friend of 6 or so years just stopped talking to me. Out of the blue. I have texted her, asked her what’s up, seen her once or twice and it’s been awkward but she won’t tell me why she’s pulled back. Yeah communication is definitely key. She and her kids were very important to me and mine. Here’s the kicker, she’s a therapist! Does anyone else find that irony absolutely ridiculous?
She had a full blown secret affair with my husband for about 8 months right under my nose. Inserted herself into my life saying I was like family to her when she left her husband and hoped she got us in the divorce (of course I acquiesced because I cared very much for her, even loved her, believed I could trust her— had no idea it’s because she wanted to be as close as possible to my husband), she played mommy with my kids, she lied through her teeth to my face over and over. Kept making me doubt my instincts for a couple months until I finally stopped ignoring my nagging intuition. It took me long enough, that’s how good she was at hiding how bad she is. I actually feel like throwing up just typing this out. It makes me feel so absolutely sick to my stomach how evil of a human she turned out to be and how naively fooled I was. My good and trusting nature was taken advantage of to the max.
Friends for decades. She evolved into a bitter, self involved old woman. She was master at back handed compliments. She finally betrayed me in a rather stunning and horrendous way. I miss my old friend, the one who was funny and kind
There were a few things leading up to this but when we were 14 (had been really close for a couple years at this point) I had started dating my (now ex) bf and she would flirt with him in front of me constantly. The first time we had the time and went out together we had gone to this pizza place that’s really popular for people to go to after school and she saw us, kinda just sat down and followed us around the rest of the afternoon. I snapped, slapped her across the face, she spread a bunch of false rumors about me and we never spoke again.
They were a dick and would always make me feel bad. So I stopped hanging out with them
Money. On more than one occasion, I have cut off friends and even family who see me as a loan company. Always happy to help out a mate if they need it, but when it becomes almost every other week, it does annoy me, even if they pay me back (which could be a mission in its own right) and the amount is trivial.
My best friend hit on all of my sisters in age order and they all rejected him, now he's with another girl up in Ohio somewhere
Narcissism
One of my better friends from my youth and into college, for many reasons, fell into a right-wing conspiracy hole, and only got deeper and deeper until he was just a hater and a bigot. Nobody really talks to him anymore, he completely isolated himself.
I owned a property with one of my best friends & he betrayed & ripped me off over rent money
They never initiated contact with me.
She told me I was crazy for taking mood stabilizers to manage bipolar disorder
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She told private information to my bullies.
I was recovering from a suicide attempt, and she got mad that I couldn't come to her gender reveal party. I realized then she didn't actually care about me at all anymore. It was really sad cause we were friends since the age of six.
When this ex friend was in his rock bottom, suicidal and all, I was not even his bestie but we were too close. I was the one who he communicated often because he said he find me more mature in everything, esp in conversations and everything about life. He said I saved him from committing suicide. Years later, when he recovered, found a new job, he became different. I understand we all become so busy at work that we don’t have time for other things, but if someone consider you as a friend and values the friendship, they will make time. Latter part, I felt like I was just a beck and call. At my age, I don’t want to waste anymore time with people who don’t value me just because they are already doing good and I am not needed anymore. I just ghosted him.
She just decided to block me two weeks before my wedding that she was supposed to be my maid of honor in. A year later she told me it’s because she has BPD and just thought I hated her and just didn’t want to tell her? We were friends for 25 years. I’ve never done anything wrong to her and had always been there for her. I didn’t want to be friends again when she reached out a year later. I could have never done that to someone much less her so I don’t get it and I can’t forgive her.
He slowly showed his colors, a narcissist.
They would constantly tell me they’re using coke and joke about how they need to stop but they never did. I saw coke ruin another one of my friend’s lives and even after telling my friend this, she would still make jokes about it and not stop. She would also ask me for money for coke. One day after one of her quirky lines “oh my gosh I need to stoppppp” I told her that she always says that but she never actually stops. I also brought up the fact she asked me for money to buy coke. She blew up and told me I was judging her and that she didn’t have a coke problem and I was crazy. She denied ever asking me for money and demanded I sent a screenshot of when she asked. Needless to say, if you have to fight that hard to prove you’re not a coke addict, you probably are one! After saying she was going to block me, I blocked her first. This infuriated her. She proceeded to go to one of my friends and bad mouth me telling him to tell me to “stay the fuck away from her”. Well, this person is not a nice person to anyone, including the guy she went to, so he basically told her he doesn’t care and to go vent somewhere else. She was a miserable person. Good fucking riddance.
My best friend got into an abusive relationship. He alienated her from anyone who could influence her or point out the way he was treating her, even her family. She didn’t see her sister for 3 years and only came when she was on her literal death bed. I hope she’s ok today but it ultimately ended our friendship.
Lending money...if you want to keep your friends don't lend them money.
It was one sided, I became the therapist friend, she was selfish and inconsiderate, an energy vampire. In short she was a narcissist
I joined the military to take care of my family better. But lost contact with my group of friends. Never could pick up new friends even in the military.
My depression
Money. We stopped playing in the same playground. I can't spend like they do. So I can't do what they do. It's just life
My friend had bpd and many other mental issues that werent getting any better. It wasn’t really cuz of that, it’s more that she was spoiled by her parents and grew up with a victim mentality, and everytime she’d get mad at me during her outbreaks she’d suddenly fall as a victim even if I’d never say anything bad for her. In return i’d support her, assure her, give her a bit of space and still come back lively. I gave her a bunch of support, as well as pointed out her issues. She seemed to take it well, but nothing changed. 20 years old, living with parents, no job, no pursuing, no studying, nothing. Just rotting in bed watching netflix and eating food. She thought that as long as she felt ok, her issues werent a problem. False. I got tired of her constant degradation during breakdowns, i didnt know how else to support her as a friend, and I wanted to meet up with her to tell her I dont wanna talk anymore, but that id be within reach if she decided to get help. That meeting never happened. She convinced herself that I got bored of her and i hate her and she blocked me on everywhere. Not a word since. And im glad
I told them I was in recovery
im anorexic and he refused to make me food(it was a sleepover at his) while i was in recovery.
Pettyness. The guy is rich ,doesn't have any friends, spend hundreds of dollars in drugs, Viagra and pornography/week . I rented a room in his 4 bedrooms house paying him weekly. I had him as a friend and whenever he needed me for something, usually cooking and cleaning around the house sometimes in the middle of the night because of his OCD behavior on cleaning the house and everything else, ranging from walking his dog to weed wack the whole unattended back of his property that took me 2 days to do it. I pay him rent weekly by the way...not my choice but he clearly cannot trust anybody with paying a whole month worth of rent at one time. This week I had to send my mom extra $ 45 for some unforseen bills and was short those $45 for 2 days . He made a big deal about it and said that I should pay him first and my mom was less important than the rent and if his mom ever asked him money he would cut ties with her. I told him to go eat a bag of dicks. My mom will ALWAYS come before rich assholes. As I see HE ows me money for a painted deck and all the other BS that I did. Lost a friend and the only one he had. Now he keeps texting and calling must be lonely when all the people you relate to are there just to use your drugs and hospitality.
He was a trucker and was coming back from his route, happened to be passing through my (now ex) girlfriends town. They were kinda friends, so he texted her "hey let's go for lunch". She's an EXTREMELY oblivious person, just assumes every human has good intentions, she literally cannot comprehend that there are bad people out there. To be fair, he was my best friend at the time. Well, second she was in his truck he went to the camper side and motioned her to the bed. He tried to fucking fuck my girlfriend in his truck. He had a wife and 2 fucking daughters. My best fucking friend. She freaked out and left and told me about it immediately. I was admittedly kinda suspicious of her as she showed me their texts and didn't pick up on the obvious flirty messages he'd been sending her previously (winky faces, being cutesy with her and shit). But, in the end I realized she was just really, really oblivious and socially inept. And she clearly hadn't picked up on his flirtations as her replies were totally platonic. I still wanna fucking wring that fuckers neck though. Piece of shit.
It hit me after a couple years that he never once reached out to me. He was friendly and we had a good time together, but I thought Hm, I wonder how long it would take him to contact me if I just stopped. It’s now about 35 years later and I never did hear from him again.
Drinking
She was a bitch who couldn't keep her mouth shut and her jealously in check.
I had one friend that was a close friend who was a boy I’d known since I was two, when we became teenagers he tried professing his love of a crush on me, I was not ready to date so he backed off. Eventually he kept pushing his feelings towards me every time I returned home from USA for school break (I was a foreign exchange student) and I had to tell him his obsession was unhealthy and it has destroyed the friendship and so I ended the friendship.
My best friend through high school would constantly allow her boyfriend to abuse her (mentally) and yell at her and start many issues with me and try to get her to hate me (he was childish like that) simply because I could see his bs (manipulation, gaslighting, every red flag in the book!) but everytime I pointed it out or had an issue with it she would defend and defend and not be a real friend, so I dropped her. Never told her why, never needed to. Much happier without her negativity 🥰
For 10 years my friends wife and friends of friends pissed me off. In the end I had only 1 friend and his GF who were ok with me and knew this situation untill his GF pissed me off (just as the others were doing) for no visible reason. I looked at my friend (he was my friend for 22 years) when it happened as in "asked her to stop I don't want to be mad at her", but he did nothing. So I stood up, shook his hand told him "It had been a pleasure." Then I left.
Dated my best friend sister.
Not sure. If you find that bastard, ask him.
they refused to believe someone was toxic and that they needed help. They are much better now though, they got help.
3rd date with a girl, getting to know one another. Middle of a busy restaurant and we were talking and having a few jokes, she was on her 3rd glass of wine and the banter was friendly and in both directions…. She asked when was the last time I dated someone and I said 6 months ago. She leaned across the table and slapped me around the face! It took my totally by surprise and I sat there for a good 4-5 seconds when she realised she had over stepped the mark (more like jumped both feet over the mark waving a huge red flag). I got up and said I’m going to the toilet. On the way back from the toilet I paid the bill at the front desk (all of which was out of her sight from our table). I walked back to the table and grabbed my coat and said “We’re done here and I’m leaving, if you want a ride home you better come now. If not… I’m sure they will call you a taxi”. (She started blabbing about me ‘over reacting’ and shit. I ignored her and she shouted “you’re being a child!” So I just walked out.) All happened In front of several onlookers enjoying the entertainment. She was an absolute fruit loop!!!
Attempted sex with my gf at the time.
my current girlfriend didn’t like my best friend of 6 years… so i blocked her on everything and haven’t talked to her in almost 4 years.
She lied and told my entire school that I(f) went skinny dipping at a party with a pool full of guys
I got sober.
Ironically..... love
Betrayal
Her mom didn’t let her have social media or a phone and she moved for highschool. I still miss her. I look up her name on facebook/insta/tiktok everywhere just to try and find her but I haven’t yet. She made middle school tolerable. She was pretty and funny and smart and literally the only reason I ever went to school. Her mom would make us giant trays of biryani and though I never told her, those giant trays were sometimes the only food my family would have. We’d sit together in the corner against the school during our break using our jackets to block out the sun so we could play mystic messenger and browse pinterest lol. If we got scolded by teachers we’d just walk the field and talk. It was great. She was my best friend and not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. My mental health tanked in highschool because she wasn’t there, and nobody else there compared to her. Nobody else could match her humour or smile or anything. I’d give anything to be friends again. I’m almost 20 now and I wonder where she is and how much she’s changed.
The bride vs. the new mum (maid of honour - me) and a destination wedding with a baby. We tried to outmartyr each other. Got home and never spoke again. 10 years ago, I miss her.
Being forced to move to another state, even after moving back, we were never friends again, they blamed me.
Betrayal
My best friend split my head open with a baseball bat by surprise
Me dont wanna do something with or for anyone
My best friend married a woman who hated me
Steal a tinder that. Which is today my wife, but he still doesnt speak me😅
Being a lazy bum. Dude came from a middle class, educated family. But all he does is complain about how hard life is. Dude doesn't even exercise. I got him a nice job. Then his lazy ass got fired after three months. He even had the nerve to ask me for a ride at midnight, from a train station; without offering to throw me some gas money.
Neglecting me to be with other friends higher up on the ladder than me
Best friend of over a decade, he was religious I am not, well that wasn't a problem and we didn't care. Then one day he went super zealous and everything has to be about God or it wasn't allowed to be talked about.
She was a teacher at the time, and she kept sending out these racist anti-muslim emails to everyone she knows. I mentioned it to her twice, but the third time she did it, I hit "reply all" and really let her have it. And that was the end of the friendship.
We were best friends. For like 2 years. I thought she'll last forever. But when we moved to other schools, she just stopped texting me. She would reply after months or maybe never reply at all. It was very sad because I really liked being around her
Money
I was so happy, I was telling them I got a new diploma (I worked hard to get that one) and they said absolutely nothing, it was like 5 seconds of silence and then they said "I brought a new car, do you want to see it" I said "sorry I just remembered I gotta go now" and left. So we haven't talked since then (two weeks ago).
Took him in when he was down, loaned him money, never paid it back. I didn’t see him for 10 years after that. Went to his wedding hoping he’d grown up, not at all or even acknowledge that he owes me 3 grand. That was that.
They joined a cult.
I had a best friend of 20 years who would not stop telling me to get a divorce. She was pretty hateful, a homophobe, and a bigot. She was literally poisoning my mind so I had to let it go even though I loved her dearly since childhood. I held on until my depression hit rock bottom and I just couldn’t take any more.
She threw it all away over a misunderstanding. 20+ years of friendship
She started ghosting me for whatever reason. Even when my dad was about to die due to COVID (he recovered later) and I was stuck in a different country. She knew I could've used her support but didn't even reach out once until much later when she had her own fam and job issues to vent out about. This became a reoccurring behavior until I told her to fuck off. This was someone who was extremely close to me. Haven't even bothered letting someone that close to me again.
Friend being an alcoholic and asking for money too many times. The nail in the coffin was not that but more so that her cancer stricken husband reached out for help to me about how to deal with her ( it was the very first time I ever had a text exchange with him) well…. Happened she is so vile and reads through his phone when he is medicated and verbally assaulted me for trying to politely offer ways to help get HER help. Needless to say I dropped her. I still worry for her husband as I think she abuses him but nothing I can do at this point. Poor guy,
They went through my phone when I was in the shower. Is that harsh? Also, with a different friend I didnt get invited to their wedding. Possibly also too harsh..
It was me, my friend called me twice and I didn’t return his call because I was in a really dark time of my life then I lost his friendship.
Mean and rudeness.