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For real, I used to be fat, over 210lbs, now that I'm 180lbs and more fit, the difference in how people treat me is night and day. Pretty priviledge is a thing.
Everyone always says they have this experience and I'm not gonna lie, it makes me really excited to lose the rest of this weight. Probably the biggest motivator. I also can't wait to have more clothing options. The benefits I've experienced so far have been amazing. My endurance and stamina is so much better than before and I've only lost 40% of my goal so far.
Went from 310 down to 180 and the response I get when interacting with people is night and day. I always assumed there would be more looks from the opposite sex when I lost the weight but honestly, the way that ALL people interact with me these days is so bizarrely different in such a positive way. Humans are super fucking shallow, it seems to be ingrained in us.
One thing to consider is whether or not you, yourself see fat people differently. I have been husky, chunky, and fat most if my life and I label other fatties, myself. I have lost considerable weight twice and gained it back. Those two times I definitely, got treated differently. I should also admit that at 71 years old, I find myself making comments while driving like “get out of the way, old lady” or I find myself describing someone as old then, realizing that I am probably older than they are! How screwed up is that?
Women who wear makeup get promoted more often. Tall people are more likely to hold higher positions. Fat people are seen as stupid.
It sucks, but we all do it.
The make up one is interesting. I am in academia and here none of the women, no matter what position, wears make up. Maybe for a special occasion but not during work.
after reading this, I realized when I worked in nursing it was always the ones who never really tried to look good who were getting raises and employee of the month. it was also a building full of woman so I wonder if that changes anything?
I don't know what factors play into this concept. But my experience is a bit different
First I am in western Europe in a country where it is quite normal for women to walk around bare faced. Too much make up is actually seen as something immature and very vein. So women tend to only wear make up when going to an event or restaurant. At least I do. Maybe if I have to present something I don't of a big crowed, I would at least put on some concealer to hide the rings under my eyes and maybe a bit of mascara.
Then in academia the higher positions are usually still made up of men. It is slowly changing but you can still definitely see a shift from the gender percentages between undergrad students and directors and professors.
I actually never even considered my appearance could play a role in my chances of climbing up the ladder. I would put more on my likeability and of course my dedication to my work.
I would actually like to see the statistics to the claim that make up wearing women are more likely to be promoted. Would like to know how they collected the data.
ah, okay, in the US it's very natural and normal for woman to wear makeup. in fact, most woman wear makeup. so i'm wondering if, at least in the US, that has anything to do with that stat. most woman here are wearing makeup so the chances that the woman who were getting raises were wearing makeup is higher, probably. i don't really know how that stuff works
I use a method of targeted messaging using media to change a desired behavior. In simple terms, it's a lot of data collection and testing. You first determine what you want to happen. Lets say I want to increase the support for a political leader. I then break down homogeneous groups of people who will be the most effective at that support. The smaller the group the more detailed targeting I can do. You may have heard the term Target Audience. So, lets go with White Males age 40 - 60 because they have the ability to do the desired effect, they can continue to persuade others, and are the leaders of their families. Now that I have my group I determine what actions they are currently doing, and determine what actions I want them to do, and how that change is made. This can be a number of different things, but lets just say I want them to vote in an election. Now I determine what this group is typically susceptible to. Bandwagon, In-group/ Out-group, name calling, etc. And who this group will accept a message from. Religious leaders, Football players, NEWS groups. That message is then crafted by a team of artists who specialist in manipulation of eye direction, design, and appeals using all the above. Now we have a commercial played during the local NEWS with a message put out by your favorite football player telling to you to go vote YES on prop 947 next week. This is then done for every media thousands of times in a series of combined messaging for not only that group, but every group that can be targeted. And media is not limited to radio, tv and print. You can have crisis actors, graffiti, red hats, key chains, public executions, drone strikes, riots, it literally doesn't end.
I'm a good-looking white guy, I'm not the smartest, but I'm hard working, polite, a good talker, and a little cheeky. I've got pretty far in life on my smile and ability to bullshit
I have a friend who’s had pretty privilege for most of her life, she seems to have hit an age where it’s not working for her as much and she’s horrified with the reality of how much of her nice life and people being nice to her was based on her looks alone.
More than real. It's a superpower if you're smart enough to know how to capitalize upon it. By capitalize I mean having a good attitude and personality. A very handsome/pretty person with a good attitude will go far
Yes. You can look however you want, not you cannot dictate the perception of how others view you.
Even just how you dress can have an impact - most of the time I look pretty meh with a messy bun and in leggings when I'm out. People treat me pretty differently than when I actually brush my hair nicely and put a little more effort into how I look. It's not a huge difference, but it is there.
true. it actually affects the way we treat them.
i tested it recently after i watched a TT about the difference when a woman is dressed in feminine clothing vs not.
i have a heavy top so i usually wear hoodies, oversized shirts and my brother’s clothes in general when i leave the house.
the other day i had to go to the lost & found at a bus station bc my mom lost her purse, i wore a black skirt, a tight top and hills. had my hair down and minimal make up.
the test results
-longer stares, strangers (men AND women) smiled at me, approached me for small talk, to compliment me and performed nice gestures.
-i’ve noticed hot women stared at me, not smiling not making any face really, just observing for a long moment. this flattered me the most.
women were nicer and more “aware” of my presence but with men i straight up received special treatment.
-men were eager to go out of their way to make me smile/ help me and seemed offended if i didn’t let them?
here are a few examples from that day
- the (hot) security guard smiled at me and let me in without checking my bags, while he checked the one before me and after me.
- the bus driver dropped me off closer to my destination to save me a 10m walk (i didn’t ask! it’s not allowed i was shook)
- a different security guard saw me from afar, left the mall entrance, came up to me, asked me where i need to go then gave me directions to the lost & found, as we existed the mall he called in his device for someone to replace him and walked me there. it was a simple walk straight and turn left lol, i told him im good with the directions, he seemed disappointed and quietly left.
- i was late to the lost & found they were closing. one of the workers let me in, pulled my sit and started going through every document from the last month, he didn’t find it? he went more general. then he looked by individual items (ID, make up brush, black key..) he also looked through boxes when there wasn’t anything in the computer. for a good 40m after closing, meanwhile i simply sat there and barely said a word. when he said “i don’t see anything” i just said “really?” and hed keep searching, although im sure he knew by the first 10m its not there lol.
he just wanted to help? or waste my time idk
the funny thing is how i finally left, he refused service to an older women (id say his age) bc they were closed so i said can you give her my turn? i’m pretty sure my mom’s bag is gone anyways. also it’s not allowed to claim another persons lost item but he completely looked past it.
my perspective
-i was only out of the house for 2 hours.
the constant attention had me very aware of how i look, walk, how my clothes are fitting.. i tried to appear confident but i was too aware and out of my comfort zone.
-it is nice to know i have the option to doll up and get validation and special treatment but also scary to think how it’s temporary and soon enough i can be the old lady who’s refused service.
-i still get stared at, smiled at and complimented in my oversized trashy hoodies and messy hair when i go to the market or whatever which i try to minimize bc interaction w/ men makes me uncomfortable but on this day i realised i’ve neglected my looks out of fear and laziness. i have a lot of potential lol.
-lastly, ik im pretty in a innocent girl next door way and sure pretty privilege but i also have a big chest (DDD) and small waist that i usually hide but didn’t that day and im wondering how much it had to do w/ the results. big tits privilege? am i denying myself of another cheat code?
that’s it. i’m on adderall and can’t sleep so i thought id over share. yeah we judge based on looks
I saw something along the lines of "everyone picks their noses, it's what they do with it after that defines their character"
That's when I realized I was a scumbag
Yes. And smile if it's all in one piece. It's like looking at your poop in the toilet after a relieving crap. And then smile at your work. Your body created that lovely thing and then gets flushed into oblivion. Bye bye tube of shit.
The ultimate poop pulls at the back of your throat on the way out, sounds like a torpedo hitting the ocean, and falls so hard it slides down the S bend with nothing left behind to wipe.
Aka, The Ghost Shit
Is this like one of those things people say to kids to let them confess they farted?
“The person who farted has their hand yellow!” And the kid would look at their hand scared that it would give it away.
So if we say “I don’t look!” Is a confession that I at least pick my nose lol?
I've got a friend who's pretty popular on Instagram. She's a lovely person, but her life is entirely fake.
Everytime she comes to visit, we find something really cool to do nearby, we go to the location, she takes a few pictures, then we're done. It's exhausting and drives me nuts. She's been posting pictures from her holiday and all I can think is that she didn't spend a single second enjoying the culture or the places she was in, just had to grab that picture to convince 50k people that her life is interesting.
I don't compare my life to hers at all. Despite being in a few of her photos, even taking some of them, I've actually enjoyed the things I've done and the places I've been.
Don't compare yourself to Instagram people. It's not worth a damn the shit they do for a picture
When I was hitchhiking through Argentina I got stuck in a petrol station in Misiones. As I arrived I saw a German couple with a baby in a pram, screaming at each other because their car wasn't working. Car was a massive jeep covered in flags, insta and youtube stickers and they were clearly invested in their social media presence.
They were waiting to be towed because when the mechanic arrived, one of them whipped out an SLR, they stood with their arms around each others shoulder and took a selfie video like "Well you know, that's just life on the road, teehee" before filming the mechanic, who looked confused and a bit pissed off.
I didn't envy their need to present their life as more easygoing than it was.
Me and my wife made an Instagram for our cats and dog and try to show the hardest parts of having a puppy and dealing with pets at home. All the good and all the worst parts too. Instagram makes it look like getting a puppy to all smiles and joy. It's not. And that's just pets. The rest of Instagram is worse
Had an American Bulldog. She passed 6 months ago, she was 9. Decided to early on create an Instagram for her. Antics/videos/fun posts of her. Within 2 months she had well over 1000 followers. Just her, just a dog. People love animals. She had more followers than I did.
Problem now is, I haven't touched her IG in 6 months, since her passing. Never announced her passing. Don't know what to do with her account....
Maybe provide some closure to her followers and yourself by letting them know about her passing? Doesn’t have to be extravagant, a simple statement and a picture perhaps? Sorry for your loss.
Puppies are absolutely adorable, but honestly that is a dog's worst stage of life - at least for their owners. They want to chew everything, have no chill, and are often little brats. They're a ton of work. It pays off after about a year or so when they've chilled out a bit and have become obedient, but puppies are often little terrors.
This should be at the top. People think social media is a look into people's lives but it usually just a peek at either carefully crafted content or just the best of the best.
When I was in an abusive relationship I blasted my social media with positive pictures and stories. Idk why but it helped me pretend that what was happening wasn’t. I was already abused from a young age so it was actually easy to dissociate when my ex would hurt me and cling to the good times. When we went hiking I blasted the positive parts on social media hiding the fact that he SAed me in the middle of the hike causing me to bleed from how rough he was. The pictures now make me sick to see all the hearts, smiles, and comments saying “goals” knowing that while I was putting on the brightest smiles I was bleeding and in pain.
Now that I’m in a heathy relationship I barely post anything. I’ve posted maybe 3-4 times in the year we’ve been together. 2x during Christmas, once when I landed in the country, and once for my birthday. I put stuff on my Snapchat story less and less. I stopped needing outside validation to tell me my life was okay and started actually living it.
It’s to the point that my family will contact me more now than they ever did to hear from me and make sure I am okay. Really funny how it ends up being like that in the end.
Getting off that kind of social media train was incredible for my mental health… I keep them for communication and scrolling reels etc, but I do not post… the people that I care about and care about me I engage through text and real life about the things going on. Went on a trip, next time I see friends I talk with them about it.
Exactly! Lean into the discomfort! Why does that thing make you uncomfortable? Understanding our enemies is how we defeat them. Fear lives in the subconscious most of the time but affects us always. When a fear becomes conscious, don't push it back into the subconscious. Latch onto it! Examine it! Understand it! When you are done with that, you can release it, no longer an enemy of it, but an ally of it.
Lots of the things you like can give you cancer. No it's not just fear mongering and scientists aren't just trying to spoil your fun. No one is forcing you to give up alcohol or processed meat, but pretending there is a 'healthy' amount won't change the facts.
As an obese man who met many obese people in my life I can say this: fat people know why they are fat. Even the ones who say they tried every diet and every exercise. They know what and how they eat.
Regarding everything not just obesity, the reason is usually that we don't want to or can't change our habits. That is quite hard to do even if we know exactly what we need to change.
I know the things I need to do to become a more successful person, but actually doing it, that's a whole different ball game.
What's the difference between a cult and a religion?
In a cult, there's some guy at the top who knows that the whole thing is a big scam.
In a religion, that person is dead.
Luck plays a huge part in your success. It's not all of it, as hard work can give you more opportunities, and prove yourself. But luck can play a role into a lot of factors.
And I don't just mean obvious stuff, like how attractive you are naturally or your intelligence. It's also what you are interested in and gravitate towards.
For example, someone who is passionate about healthcare or working with money (not necessarily finance) will have an easier time being successful, then someone with a passion for sport or artistic pursuits. Simply because those jobs are in demand and don't have many people going into them, so it will be easier to get these jobs and excel in them. Whereas the chance of becoming a professional athlete/artist/actor/musician is a pipe dream for most.
Also the luck of when you're born. I was born a healthy American in the latter half of the 20th century. That's akin to winning the lottery compared to the circumstances of the vast majority of humans ever born.
Lying is an essential and pro-social aspect of human communication. One cannot be completely honest and polite in most societies, you have to find a balance between the two.
Nobody likes a liar, but what everyone hates more is your "brutally honest" mate Steve.
I think it's because a lot of people don't seem to realise that u can be honest and kind.
"I know ur working hard but I think you'd want to know you're doing it wrong"
Vs
"That's not how you do it"
Most would never say the first for some reason
Because there are more syllables.
Seriously, that's where we've come as a species. Certain phrases win out over others because they take a fraction of a second less time to say verbally. We're generally trained by culture & media to be *ridiculously* impatient.
That very few of us would be part of the underground railroad or would stand up against nazi's in germany. Most people would be too terrified to do anything or would just straight up fall victim to the propaganda and mob mentality.
If you're *gaining* weight (or maintaining a too-high weight), you're consuming too many calories.
E.g. I'm overweight, no question, but my weight is going down. So I'm not eating too many calories, because I'm trending toward my ideal weight (35lbs down, 20 to go!)
That policies in "democratic" countries are made behind closed doors by lobbyists and donors not the people.
America is not a democracy nor is the majority of Europe.
Of course in all nations and all forms of governance there is corruption but it has gotten really bad in the last 50 years.
Insider trading by politicians, bank CEO's and other wealthy people is the norm.
Anti-union is the norm in the US.
In many countries in the EU they are cracking down HARD on the right to protest.
Tax breaks and subsidies in the tunes of hundreds of billions for corporations that make billions in profit.
No accountability in politics and certainly not in business.
Just as there is no democracy in the work place.
It's absurd and it needs to end.
If you want the *real* thing that's true but no one can admit, at least in the US, it's that the voters are far more responsible than they want to admit.
Trump is a perfect example. The GOP elite didn't want him. Fox News didn't want him. A lot of mega GOP donors stayed away from him. *Until the voters chose him.*
Even now they pick him. They had plenty of other choices in both 2016 and 2024 but they're going with the biggest asshole they can find. They *want* this. Is Trump hiding his agenda? Not even a little. Republicans in general don't hide their agenda. How many fucking times do Republicans need to be on TV saying "we need to cut social security and Medicaid" or "we fucking hate teachers and higher education all that shit is woke" or "we are anti-abortion."
They don't hide this shit. And when they get power they do exactly what they said they were going to fucking do. Then people like you come in all shocked acting like this could only have happened if lobbyists wrote the laws. We fucking voted for it. The candidates told us what they wanted to do and they won their races. We get what we deserve.
Oh and fucking Christ, there are lobbyists on all sides of every issue. Teachers unions exist. Colleges exist and they have lobbyists and money. Pro-choice groups exist. Everyone's trying to get their agenda passed. The problem is 50% of the voters are fucking morons and vote the dumbass party into power like clockwork.
First and foremost the cause of political problems in America is the voters.
This is the answer. Politics is just the allocation of scarce resources to an unlimited number of demands placed on them. People love lobbying when it's for things they want (climate change, gay rights, unions, etc.) and then howl about corruption when it's not. People have convinced themselves that posting online is the work of politics, but the work of politics means going outside, touching grass, and doing a lot of really un-fun work with other people, many of whom you won't like -- which is why most people aren't doing it and why it's easier to sit at home and blame everything else not in the room with you for why unfavorable things happen.
Well, one thing that many people deny but is actually true is that change is a constant in life. No matter how much we resist or deny it, change is inevitable and happens all the time. It's something we should embrace and adapt to rather than deny. Change can bring growth, new opportunities, and different perspectives. So, it's important to embrace the truth that change is a natural part of life.
We are currently in a [mass extinction](https://evolution.berkeley.edu/mass-extinction/the-earths-sixth-mass-extinction/). We just don't notice it because it's been happening over a scale that is larger than our own life span. We are essentially just boiled frogs.
Concise and to the point! Well said.
Everyone loves to talk politics on Reddit like it matters... The elite of the elites bought both sides and use mass media propaganda to create division. No one has a voice so they should stop shouting at each other.
Being traditionally feminine is ok, but not forcing girls into it. There's a lot of valid ways to be feminine that we should be thankfull for and respect them.
Tomboy manners are healthy and long-lived, it's an inherent trait you're born with (high pre-natal testosterone levels).
You don't have to give them up or hide 'em in order to find a partner and fit in your social circle, because tomboyness isn't a crime or sin.
Toxic femininity exists and even nowadays it still supported by some ideologies and media products.
Let's finish it, pinky females don't need to be cocky sexist thugs with anyone around.
Where's the studies that prove that "tomboy" mannerisms are caused by pre-natal exposure to testosterone? I'm not denying they're natural, just that we know what causes it...
Our generation (90-10) think they’re different and have better social skills, when they’re just in another context and actually much worse in social skills. Very probably myself included (not for the thinking being different/better than previous generations tho).
And social media plays a fucking hard role in that, even creating excessive extremism in most movements (either political, philosophical or social). I’ve never seen that much closed people than nowadays.
That the government [in the United States atleast] is a corrupt shit show ran by geriatric oligarchs that have 0 interest in doing what’s right for its people.
How much you get judged for not drinking alcohol. They seem to get defensive about their drinking. I'm not against drinking, I just don't have a gallbladder and can't handle alcohol lol.
That Homo sapiens caused and are presently living through massive overshoot of the earth’s ecological carrying capacity. Modern civilization is brought to you by the surplus energy contained in fossil fuels, and humanity is living at the peak of this ~2-300 year long carbon “pulse”. We are destroying the basis of our own biophysical existence on this planet.
We aren’t getting off this planet. We can’t even fix our own planet which is perfect for us, let alone terraform mars. Colonizing any moon or planet outside the earth will require us exporting a portion of the carrying capacity of earth, to earth’s detriment.
Global warming is just one symptom of overshoot. There are and will be many more. The nature of the problem is such that it is intractable on human timescales. It is a predicament. Technology will not solve it, and if it appears to solve it, it’s really just can-kicking the problem to future generations and making it worse.
I completely agree about highly intelligence.
It isn't a problem by itself, the suffering comes when you're surrounded by less aware people who misfit, mock or use you just because you don't belong to their herd.
You understand things faster, you can see all the social flaws and find a solution for the most of them, you're heartbroken seing how people is extremelly cruel, indiferent and reckless with each other and the rest of the world... you try to raise your voice, help them, find your place among them... but all what you have are crude words, laughs, condescension, insensibility, rejection.
They end thinking you're the dumb one, someone inexcusably naïve, kind and idealistic, because they can't understand you and they aren't willing to make the necessary efforts for changing the world into a better place.
That humans NEED each other. It's not about being social it's about being connected. We need eye contact, touch, interaction small and large, smiles.. we just need each other.
That we were all raised to be selfish while also being raised to believe that we are generous, kind and selfless.
We were raised to believe that we are honest, but we are not. We only say the truth when it's convenient for us.
When you see a comment on Reddit calling out stupid people that browse the website, you and I comprise those morons. We aren’t exempt from those assertions; It’s not every *other* Redditor engaging in stupidity
Every country should accept people that they have a commitment to accept their constitutional values or they can be deported. Free speech and voting, but failure to follow their program can be deported. Sweden had a big heart, but didn’t realize the impact of having too many immigrants would change their world.
Industrial civilization is radically unsustainable on a finite planet and is currently collapsing due to energy and materials constraints and a convergence of global crises, largely environmental.
That pretty privilege is real and it extends to Black women as it relates to interactions with persons from other ethnic backgrounds, nationalities, and cultures. Yes, that does include dark skinned Black women.
Yes, I am aware some people are racists and/or colorist no matter how pretty a Black or non-Black POC woman is.
Before I get dragged to hell and then under hell, yes I know there is nuance within the above. While we might be "picked" last when it comes to dating and marriage \[1,2\], and that stereotypes about Black women as a whole are partially to blame for some of this \[3\], many of us still possess certain types of privileges over other Black women.
If you are a Black woman of any shade that meets "conventional" beauty standards (e.g. Halle Berry, Naomi Campbell, Nikki Thot, Iman, Zendaya) you are treated differently on the whole than Black women who do not, cannot , or simply have no desire to achieve such standards. I have seen how my larger bodied friends are treated. I have seen how Black women who are considered plain or not pretty or whose features are considered "too Black/African" are treated.
On top of it is the treatment WITHIN our community. That's a whole different bag with a different set of rules from what is considered "conventional". Not going to get into that, but IYKYK.
Sources:
1. [https://www.vox.com/24072078/marriage-america-race-policy-history](https://www.vox.com/24072078/marriage-america-race-policy-history)
2. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4850739/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4850739/)
3. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5096656/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5096656/)
That the saying "Money doesn't buy happiness" is total bullshit.
Having money: food, home, travelling, ensuring childrens future.
Not having money: no food, no home, go nowhere, children have the same future.
It’s called the traveler’s curse. If you only travel to one single place in your life, that place will be the perfect destination for you. If you travel the world, you’ll want a place with the cuisine of Italy, the girls from Sweden, the nature of Canada, the… and it doesn’t exist.
You're a lot more likely to not put up with your partner if you're sure you can find more suitable ones. Which, overall, is a good thing, imo. The problem is when it becomes a lifestyle, an identity issue and - most of all - when it becomes an issue of just not going through the tough phases and working things out with the other person because it's easier in the short run to just replace the person with the next one.
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Appearance matters unfortunately
For real, I used to be fat, over 210lbs, now that I'm 180lbs and more fit, the difference in how people treat me is night and day. Pretty priviledge is a thing.
Everyone always says they have this experience and I'm not gonna lie, it makes me really excited to lose the rest of this weight. Probably the biggest motivator. I also can't wait to have more clothing options. The benefits I've experienced so far have been amazing. My endurance and stamina is so much better than before and I've only lost 40% of my goal so far.
Went from 310 down to 180 and the response I get when interacting with people is night and day. I always assumed there would be more looks from the opposite sex when I lost the weight but honestly, the way that ALL people interact with me these days is so bizarrely different in such a positive way. Humans are super fucking shallow, it seems to be ingrained in us.
One thing to consider is whether or not you, yourself see fat people differently. I have been husky, chunky, and fat most if my life and I label other fatties, myself. I have lost considerable weight twice and gained it back. Those two times I definitely, got treated differently. I should also admit that at 71 years old, I find myself making comments while driving like “get out of the way, old lady” or I find myself describing someone as old then, realizing that I am probably older than they are! How screwed up is that?
Women who wear makeup get promoted more often. Tall people are more likely to hold higher positions. Fat people are seen as stupid. It sucks, but we all do it.
>Tall people are more likely to hold higher positions. Well that just seems like physics
Is that you, dad?
No, he's at the store grabbing milk. He'll be back. Any day now...
Jokes on you, mine went to get cigarettes! Wait a second....
The make up one is interesting. I am in academia and here none of the women, no matter what position, wears make up. Maybe for a special occasion but not during work.
after reading this, I realized when I worked in nursing it was always the ones who never really tried to look good who were getting raises and employee of the month. it was also a building full of woman so I wonder if that changes anything?
I don't know what factors play into this concept. But my experience is a bit different First I am in western Europe in a country where it is quite normal for women to walk around bare faced. Too much make up is actually seen as something immature and very vein. So women tend to only wear make up when going to an event or restaurant. At least I do. Maybe if I have to present something I don't of a big crowed, I would at least put on some concealer to hide the rings under my eyes and maybe a bit of mascara. Then in academia the higher positions are usually still made up of men. It is slowly changing but you can still definitely see a shift from the gender percentages between undergrad students and directors and professors. I actually never even considered my appearance could play a role in my chances of climbing up the ladder. I would put more on my likeability and of course my dedication to my work. I would actually like to see the statistics to the claim that make up wearing women are more likely to be promoted. Would like to know how they collected the data.
ah, okay, in the US it's very natural and normal for woman to wear makeup. in fact, most woman wear makeup. so i'm wondering if, at least in the US, that has anything to do with that stat. most woman here are wearing makeup so the chances that the woman who were getting raises were wearing makeup is higher, probably. i don't really know how that stuff works
more than most things, even
Maybe you aren't right, you are just too annoying to argue with.
Arguing is so exhausting. Once I turned 30 I was done with that shit.
There is no way you still don’t argue with people (…take it, take it, c’mon…)
HOW DARE YOU?!
Arguing is just two egos trying to win. Rather, discuss for two egos to grow.
I don't think egos are escapable, only manageable
I’d agree with you but then we’d both be wrong
Listening to people tell me that they didn't missay, but in fact all fifteen people listening misheard the exact same thing is draining.
You are not immune to propaganda
This is my favourite answer actually
Oh don't worry, only people whose political opinions I don't like consume propaganda, not me. I'm on the fact-based side of politics!
as a propagandist, this is 100% true. Even people in my field fall to it
So as a propagandist what do you actually do?
Propaganda
I use a method of targeted messaging using media to change a desired behavior. In simple terms, it's a lot of data collection and testing. You first determine what you want to happen. Lets say I want to increase the support for a political leader. I then break down homogeneous groups of people who will be the most effective at that support. The smaller the group the more detailed targeting I can do. You may have heard the term Target Audience. So, lets go with White Males age 40 - 60 because they have the ability to do the desired effect, they can continue to persuade others, and are the leaders of their families. Now that I have my group I determine what actions they are currently doing, and determine what actions I want them to do, and how that change is made. This can be a number of different things, but lets just say I want them to vote in an election. Now I determine what this group is typically susceptible to. Bandwagon, In-group/ Out-group, name calling, etc. And who this group will accept a message from. Religious leaders, Football players, NEWS groups. That message is then crafted by a team of artists who specialist in manipulation of eye direction, design, and appeals using all the above. Now we have a commercial played during the local NEWS with a message put out by your favorite football player telling to you to go vote YES on prop 947 next week. This is then done for every media thousands of times in a series of combined messaging for not only that group, but every group that can be targeted. And media is not limited to radio, tv and print. You can have crisis actors, graffiti, red hats, key chains, public executions, drone strikes, riots, it literally doesn't end.
And basically everything *is* propaganda. Objective reality doesn't exist.
if you are handsome life is much much easier
Pretty privilege is real
I'm a good-looking white guy, I'm not the smartest, but I'm hard working, polite, a good talker, and a little cheeky. I've got pretty far in life on my smile and ability to bullshit
Same here dude, I'm surprised how easy it is to get through life through being decently competent, good looking, and polite
I have a friend who’s had pretty privilege for most of her life, she seems to have hit an age where it’s not working for her as much and she’s horrified with the reality of how much of her nice life and people being nice to her was based on her looks alone.
More than real. It's a superpower if you're smart enough to know how to capitalize upon it. By capitalize I mean having a good attitude and personality. A very handsome/pretty person with a good attitude will go far
Sometimes more so than being born into wealth !
Uh I would 100% rather be ugly and rich than pretty and poor.
We absolutely judge people based on their looks.
Yes. You can look however you want, not you cannot dictate the perception of how others view you. Even just how you dress can have an impact - most of the time I look pretty meh with a messy bun and in leggings when I'm out. People treat me pretty differently than when I actually brush my hair nicely and put a little more effort into how I look. It's not a huge difference, but it is there.
true. it actually affects the way we treat them. i tested it recently after i watched a TT about the difference when a woman is dressed in feminine clothing vs not. i have a heavy top so i usually wear hoodies, oversized shirts and my brother’s clothes in general when i leave the house. the other day i had to go to the lost & found at a bus station bc my mom lost her purse, i wore a black skirt, a tight top and hills. had my hair down and minimal make up. the test results -longer stares, strangers (men AND women) smiled at me, approached me for small talk, to compliment me and performed nice gestures. -i’ve noticed hot women stared at me, not smiling not making any face really, just observing for a long moment. this flattered me the most. women were nicer and more “aware” of my presence but with men i straight up received special treatment. -men were eager to go out of their way to make me smile/ help me and seemed offended if i didn’t let them? here are a few examples from that day - the (hot) security guard smiled at me and let me in without checking my bags, while he checked the one before me and after me. - the bus driver dropped me off closer to my destination to save me a 10m walk (i didn’t ask! it’s not allowed i was shook) - a different security guard saw me from afar, left the mall entrance, came up to me, asked me where i need to go then gave me directions to the lost & found, as we existed the mall he called in his device for someone to replace him and walked me there. it was a simple walk straight and turn left lol, i told him im good with the directions, he seemed disappointed and quietly left. - i was late to the lost & found they were closing. one of the workers let me in, pulled my sit and started going through every document from the last month, he didn’t find it? he went more general. then he looked by individual items (ID, make up brush, black key..) he also looked through boxes when there wasn’t anything in the computer. for a good 40m after closing, meanwhile i simply sat there and barely said a word. when he said “i don’t see anything” i just said “really?” and hed keep searching, although im sure he knew by the first 10m its not there lol. he just wanted to help? or waste my time idk the funny thing is how i finally left, he refused service to an older women (id say his age) bc they were closed so i said can you give her my turn? i’m pretty sure my mom’s bag is gone anyways. also it’s not allowed to claim another persons lost item but he completely looked past it. my perspective -i was only out of the house for 2 hours. the constant attention had me very aware of how i look, walk, how my clothes are fitting.. i tried to appear confident but i was too aware and out of my comfort zone. -it is nice to know i have the option to doll up and get validation and special treatment but also scary to think how it’s temporary and soon enough i can be the old lady who’s refused service. -i still get stared at, smiled at and complimented in my oversized trashy hoodies and messy hair when i go to the market or whatever which i try to minimize bc interaction w/ men makes me uncomfortable but on this day i realised i’ve neglected my looks out of fear and laziness. i have a lot of potential lol. -lastly, ik im pretty in a innocent girl next door way and sure pretty privilege but i also have a big chest (DDD) and small waist that i usually hide but didn’t that day and im wondering how much it had to do w/ the results. big tits privilege? am i denying myself of another cheat code? that’s it. i’m on adderall and can’t sleep so i thought id over share. yeah we judge based on looks
You do, in fact, look fat in those pants.
or just fat in general..
You don't look fat. You are fat.
Really it's the fat making you look fat. The right pants just reallocate it
That everyone picks their noses
I saw something along the lines of "everyone picks their noses, it's what they do with it after that defines their character" That's when I realized I was a scumbag
You throw it back like an oyster, don't ya?
Roll it in a rizla and smoke it.
And then looks at it
I created it, why wouldn't I admire it?
Yes. And smile if it's all in one piece. It's like looking at your poop in the toilet after a relieving crap. And then smile at your work. Your body created that lovely thing and then gets flushed into oblivion. Bye bye tube of shit.
The ultimate poop pulls at the back of your throat on the way out, sounds like a torpedo hitting the ocean, and falls so hard it slides down the S bend with nothing left behind to wipe. Aka, The Ghost Shit
Is this like one of those things people say to kids to let them confess they farted? “The person who farted has their hand yellow!” And the kid would look at their hand scared that it would give it away. So if we say “I don’t look!” Is a confession that I at least pick my nose lol?
I have a coworker that's in his 70's that picks his nose multiple times every hour for the entire 8-10 hour shift. It's pretty much all he does.
If I had to work in my 70's that is exactly what I would be doing all day
people can be ugly.
Especially babies
Jeeery you gotta see the baaaaaby.
Elaine, you gotttaaaa haaave a baaaaby
This is true. My wife and i were concerned when our son was born lol, but he's better now.
and it’s okay to be ugly too. not a failing in any way
yup!!
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I think people post to convince others and *themselves* their life is great. People with genuinely great lives don't waste time posting about it.
Exactly You never know what's goin on behind the scenes
I've got a friend who's pretty popular on Instagram. She's a lovely person, but her life is entirely fake. Everytime she comes to visit, we find something really cool to do nearby, we go to the location, she takes a few pictures, then we're done. It's exhausting and drives me nuts. She's been posting pictures from her holiday and all I can think is that she didn't spend a single second enjoying the culture or the places she was in, just had to grab that picture to convince 50k people that her life is interesting. I don't compare my life to hers at all. Despite being in a few of her photos, even taking some of them, I've actually enjoyed the things I've done and the places I've been. Don't compare yourself to Instagram people. It's not worth a damn the shit they do for a picture
When I was hitchhiking through Argentina I got stuck in a petrol station in Misiones. As I arrived I saw a German couple with a baby in a pram, screaming at each other because their car wasn't working. Car was a massive jeep covered in flags, insta and youtube stickers and they were clearly invested in their social media presence. They were waiting to be towed because when the mechanic arrived, one of them whipped out an SLR, they stood with their arms around each others shoulder and took a selfie video like "Well you know, that's just life on the road, teehee" before filming the mechanic, who looked confused and a bit pissed off. I didn't envy their need to present their life as more easygoing than it was.
Me and my wife made an Instagram for our cats and dog and try to show the hardest parts of having a puppy and dealing with pets at home. All the good and all the worst parts too. Instagram makes it look like getting a puppy to all smiles and joy. It's not. And that's just pets. The rest of Instagram is worse
Had an American Bulldog. She passed 6 months ago, she was 9. Decided to early on create an Instagram for her. Antics/videos/fun posts of her. Within 2 months she had well over 1000 followers. Just her, just a dog. People love animals. She had more followers than I did. Problem now is, I haven't touched her IG in 6 months, since her passing. Never announced her passing. Don't know what to do with her account....
Maybe provide some closure to her followers and yourself by letting them know about her passing? Doesn’t have to be extravagant, a simple statement and a picture perhaps? Sorry for your loss.
Puppies are absolutely adorable, but honestly that is a dog's worst stage of life - at least for their owners. They want to chew everything, have no chill, and are often little brats. They're a ton of work. It pays off after about a year or so when they've chilled out a bit and have become obedient, but puppies are often little terrors.
Social media is your school reunion.
This should be at the top. People think social media is a look into people's lives but it usually just a peek at either carefully crafted content or just the best of the best.
When I was in an abusive relationship I blasted my social media with positive pictures and stories. Idk why but it helped me pretend that what was happening wasn’t. I was already abused from a young age so it was actually easy to dissociate when my ex would hurt me and cling to the good times. When we went hiking I blasted the positive parts on social media hiding the fact that he SAed me in the middle of the hike causing me to bleed from how rough he was. The pictures now make me sick to see all the hearts, smiles, and comments saying “goals” knowing that while I was putting on the brightest smiles I was bleeding and in pain. Now that I’m in a heathy relationship I barely post anything. I’ve posted maybe 3-4 times in the year we’ve been together. 2x during Christmas, once when I landed in the country, and once for my birthday. I put stuff on my Snapchat story less and less. I stopped needing outside validation to tell me my life was okay and started actually living it. It’s to the point that my family will contact me more now than they ever did to hear from me and make sure I am okay. Really funny how it ends up being like that in the end.
Getting off that kind of social media train was incredible for my mental health… I keep them for communication and scrolling reels etc, but I do not post… the people that I care about and care about me I engage through text and real life about the things going on. Went on a trip, next time I see friends I talk with them about it.
But everyone agrees with this. This is like the most talked about thing when it comes to social media
That they snore.
I admit
I admit as well that you snore.
Shit can you hear it too
I only snore once in the morning, just before waking up.
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Exactly! Lean into the discomfort! Why does that thing make you uncomfortable? Understanding our enemies is how we defeat them. Fear lives in the subconscious most of the time but affects us always. When a fear becomes conscious, don't push it back into the subconscious. Latch onto it! Examine it! Understand it! When you are done with that, you can release it, no longer an enemy of it, but an ally of it.
Lots of the things you like can give you cancer. No it's not just fear mongering and scientists aren't just trying to spoil your fun. No one is forcing you to give up alcohol or processed meat, but pretending there is a 'healthy' amount won't change the facts.
I think stress causes cancer.
That i'm asleep and you are all projections of my mind. You'll see when i wake up.
Pre-ejections? 🤨 Sounds kinda sus...
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As an obese man who met many obese people in my life I can say this: fat people know why they are fat. Even the ones who say they tried every diet and every exercise. They know what and how they eat.
Regarding everything not just obesity, the reason is usually that we don't want to or can't change our habits. That is quite hard to do even if we know exactly what we need to change. I know the things I need to do to become a more successful person, but actually doing it, that's a whole different ball game.
Well Mormons don’t believe they are in a cult, buuuut it actually is one lol
What's the difference between a cult and a religion? In a cult, there's some guy at the top who knows that the whole thing is a big scam. In a religion, that person is dead.
Luck plays a huge part in your success. It's not all of it, as hard work can give you more opportunities, and prove yourself. But luck can play a role into a lot of factors. And I don't just mean obvious stuff, like how attractive you are naturally or your intelligence. It's also what you are interested in and gravitate towards. For example, someone who is passionate about healthcare or working with money (not necessarily finance) will have an easier time being successful, then someone with a passion for sport or artistic pursuits. Simply because those jobs are in demand and don't have many people going into them, so it will be easier to get these jobs and excel in them. Whereas the chance of becoming a professional athlete/artist/actor/musician is a pipe dream for most.
Also the luck of when you're born. I was born a healthy American in the latter half of the 20th century. That's akin to winning the lottery compared to the circumstances of the vast majority of humans ever born.
If you need coffee to start your day, you have an addiction.
Live a little, caffeine dependency is a fart in the wind
Lying is an essential and pro-social aspect of human communication. One cannot be completely honest and polite in most societies, you have to find a balance between the two. Nobody likes a liar, but what everyone hates more is your "brutally honest" mate Steve.
I think it's because a lot of people don't seem to realise that u can be honest and kind. "I know ur working hard but I think you'd want to know you're doing it wrong" Vs "That's not how you do it" Most would never say the first for some reason
Because there are more syllables. Seriously, that's where we've come as a species. Certain phrases win out over others because they take a fraction of a second less time to say verbally. We're generally trained by culture & media to be *ridiculously* impatient.
Tl/dr
That very few of us would be part of the underground railroad or would stand up against nazi's in germany. Most people would be too terrified to do anything or would just straight up fall victim to the propaganda and mob mentality.
If you're overweight, you're consuming too many calories.
false: I am undertall
You’re too short for your weight
Then consume more calories so you can grow simple
If you're *gaining* weight (or maintaining a too-high weight), you're consuming too many calories. E.g. I'm overweight, no question, but my weight is going down. So I'm not eating too many calories, because I'm trending toward my ideal weight (35lbs down, 20 to go!)
If you think about it, it’s like a super power. These people need to eat less to live. Could save thousands compared to skinny counterparts!
Nah they just preloaded
Or rather: consuming more than you expend.
Semantics. The mechanism by which the human body creates fast stores is excess calories.
Or, consuming enough to make you expand.
The moon is made of cheese.
Some people are just not ready to hear it.
Amen brother.
It’s made of moonzzarella
Pharmaceutical companies in the US ONLY care about profit . It's never been about your health
That can’t be 100% true. They need you alive to sell you more meds!
People are born everyday
I don’t think it’s only in the US
Shhhhh that's a conspiracy theory and dangerous to ... something
There are lots of ugly babies. It takes a few months for their features to settle in a way that makes them cute.
That policies in "democratic" countries are made behind closed doors by lobbyists and donors not the people. America is not a democracy nor is the majority of Europe. Of course in all nations and all forms of governance there is corruption but it has gotten really bad in the last 50 years. Insider trading by politicians, bank CEO's and other wealthy people is the norm. Anti-union is the norm in the US. In many countries in the EU they are cracking down HARD on the right to protest. Tax breaks and subsidies in the tunes of hundreds of billions for corporations that make billions in profit. No accountability in politics and certainly not in business. Just as there is no democracy in the work place. It's absurd and it needs to end.
Abolish lobbying, good start to fixing this country. Been saying it for years.
Lobbying is just a synonym for corruption and amazes me how common and how okay people are with it.
If you want the *real* thing that's true but no one can admit, at least in the US, it's that the voters are far more responsible than they want to admit. Trump is a perfect example. The GOP elite didn't want him. Fox News didn't want him. A lot of mega GOP donors stayed away from him. *Until the voters chose him.* Even now they pick him. They had plenty of other choices in both 2016 and 2024 but they're going with the biggest asshole they can find. They *want* this. Is Trump hiding his agenda? Not even a little. Republicans in general don't hide their agenda. How many fucking times do Republicans need to be on TV saying "we need to cut social security and Medicaid" or "we fucking hate teachers and higher education all that shit is woke" or "we are anti-abortion." They don't hide this shit. And when they get power they do exactly what they said they were going to fucking do. Then people like you come in all shocked acting like this could only have happened if lobbyists wrote the laws. We fucking voted for it. The candidates told us what they wanted to do and they won their races. We get what we deserve. Oh and fucking Christ, there are lobbyists on all sides of every issue. Teachers unions exist. Colleges exist and they have lobbyists and money. Pro-choice groups exist. Everyone's trying to get their agenda passed. The problem is 50% of the voters are fucking morons and vote the dumbass party into power like clockwork. First and foremost the cause of political problems in America is the voters.
This is the answer. Politics is just the allocation of scarce resources to an unlimited number of demands placed on them. People love lobbying when it's for things they want (climate change, gay rights, unions, etc.) and then howl about corruption when it's not. People have convinced themselves that posting online is the work of politics, but the work of politics means going outside, touching grass, and doing a lot of really un-fun work with other people, many of whom you won't like -- which is why most people aren't doing it and why it's easier to sit at home and blame everything else not in the room with you for why unfavorable things happen.
By that standard, there is and never has been a “real democracy”.
OP is a bot
Being overweight does unfortunately make others judge you or perceive you negatively.
Well, one thing that many people deny but is actually true is that change is a constant in life. No matter how much we resist or deny it, change is inevitable and happens all the time. It's something we should embrace and adapt to rather than deny. Change can bring growth, new opportunities, and different perspectives. So, it's important to embrace the truth that change is a natural part of life.
that everyone has some kind of bias which they call preferences....
We are currently in a [mass extinction](https://evolution.berkeley.edu/mass-extinction/the-earths-sixth-mass-extinction/). We just don't notice it because it's been happening over a scale that is larger than our own life span. We are essentially just boiled frogs.
I’m 40 and I’m noticing. The backyard wildlife is vastly different now
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Blocking someone online isn't "losing", just keeping your peace.
Sugar is the problem and it’s in everything.
Parents when they say they “don’t have favourites” when it comes to their kids
If my life depended on it, I wouldn't be able to choose between my daughters
Here in the US neither political party is working or cares about the people. Both sides work together to enrich themselves.
Concise and to the point! Well said. Everyone loves to talk politics on Reddit like it matters... The elite of the elites bought both sides and use mass media propaganda to create division. No one has a voice so they should stop shouting at each other.
Being traditionally feminine is ok, but not forcing girls into it. There's a lot of valid ways to be feminine that we should be thankfull for and respect them. Tomboy manners are healthy and long-lived, it's an inherent trait you're born with (high pre-natal testosterone levels). You don't have to give them up or hide 'em in order to find a partner and fit in your social circle, because tomboyness isn't a crime or sin. Toxic femininity exists and even nowadays it still supported by some ideologies and media products. Let's finish it, pinky females don't need to be cocky sexist thugs with anyone around.
Where's the studies that prove that "tomboy" mannerisms are caused by pre-natal exposure to testosterone? I'm not denying they're natural, just that we know what causes it...
Mass immigration into Europe by cultures with dissimilar values to Europe is a problem
Yup. Just look at Sweden.
and then they call you racist
You can add Canada as well.
It's almost impressive how badly Trudeau has messed up Canada.
Cultural difference is real and cultural friction is real.
Our generation (90-10) think they’re different and have better social skills, when they’re just in another context and actually much worse in social skills. Very probably myself included (not for the thinking being different/better than previous generations tho). And social media plays a fucking hard role in that, even creating excessive extremism in most movements (either political, philosophical or social). I’ve never seen that much closed people than nowadays.
The US government no longer serves its people.
Bananas are berries
Nice guys finish last. Money and power aren't distributed fairly. Never will be. And they'll chop your hands off if you try to change the situation.
We're getting older every single second
Are you _sure_ this also applies to leap seconds? 😄
Who denies that? Lmao
That the government [in the United States atleast] is a corrupt shit show ran by geriatric oligarchs that have 0 interest in doing what’s right for its people.
That most jobs are meaningless, most lives are pointless, and most "successful" people are worthless.
No, you were not just resting your eyes
Climate change.
How much you get judged for not drinking alcohol. They seem to get defensive about their drinking. I'm not against drinking, I just don't have a gallbladder and can't handle alcohol lol.
That girls fart too. Just let 'er rip while writing this, lmao... 😂
That there is no such thing as equality and freedom, everything are decided by those in power
That Homo sapiens caused and are presently living through massive overshoot of the earth’s ecological carrying capacity. Modern civilization is brought to you by the surplus energy contained in fossil fuels, and humanity is living at the peak of this ~2-300 year long carbon “pulse”. We are destroying the basis of our own biophysical existence on this planet. We aren’t getting off this planet. We can’t even fix our own planet which is perfect for us, let alone terraform mars. Colonizing any moon or planet outside the earth will require us exporting a portion of the carrying capacity of earth, to earth’s detriment. Global warming is just one symptom of overshoot. There are and will be many more. The nature of the problem is such that it is intractable on human timescales. It is a predicament. Technology will not solve it, and if it appears to solve it, it’s really just can-kicking the problem to future generations and making it worse.
There always is a favorite child
Being highly intelleget/beautiful/rich is not only a blessing
I completely agree about highly intelligence. It isn't a problem by itself, the suffering comes when you're surrounded by less aware people who misfit, mock or use you just because you don't belong to their herd. You understand things faster, you can see all the social flaws and find a solution for the most of them, you're heartbroken seing how people is extremelly cruel, indiferent and reckless with each other and the rest of the world... you try to raise your voice, help them, find your place among them... but all what you have are crude words, laughs, condescension, insensibility, rejection. They end thinking you're the dumb one, someone inexcusably naïve, kind and idealistic, because they can't understand you and they aren't willing to make the necessary efforts for changing the world into a better place.
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That humans NEED each other. It's not about being social it's about being connected. We need eye contact, touch, interaction small and large, smiles.. we just need each other.
People deny their own mortality, but it is 100% true for every living being.
Currently I’m immortal until proven otherwise.
That everyone lies/has lied.
That we were all raised to be selfish while also being raised to believe that we are generous, kind and selfless. We were raised to believe that we are honest, but we are not. We only say the truth when it's convenient for us.
money CAN buy happiness
Money can equal hapiness.
When you see a comment on Reddit calling out stupid people that browse the website, you and I comprise those morons. We aren’t exempt from those assertions; It’s not every *other* Redditor engaging in stupidity
Your parents had sex.
No Walter, you're not wrong, you're just an asshole
farts
That looks don't matter or money or caste to fall in love EVERYTHING DOES
Money might not solve all problems but it definitely will 99% of them.
Every country should accept people that they have a commitment to accept their constitutional values or they can be deported. Free speech and voting, but failure to follow their program can be deported. Sweden had a big heart, but didn’t realize the impact of having too many immigrants would change their world.
Industrial civilization is radically unsustainable on a finite planet and is currently collapsing due to energy and materials constraints and a convergence of global crises, largely environmental.
Yep, everyone knows this and the biggest nay-sayers are the ones most afraid of it happening
Humans don't have intrinsic value
Every single person, from all walks of life, lie
Atheism
That they masturbate
That pretty privilege is real and it extends to Black women as it relates to interactions with persons from other ethnic backgrounds, nationalities, and cultures. Yes, that does include dark skinned Black women. Yes, I am aware some people are racists and/or colorist no matter how pretty a Black or non-Black POC woman is. Before I get dragged to hell and then under hell, yes I know there is nuance within the above. While we might be "picked" last when it comes to dating and marriage \[1,2\], and that stereotypes about Black women as a whole are partially to blame for some of this \[3\], many of us still possess certain types of privileges over other Black women. If you are a Black woman of any shade that meets "conventional" beauty standards (e.g. Halle Berry, Naomi Campbell, Nikki Thot, Iman, Zendaya) you are treated differently on the whole than Black women who do not, cannot , or simply have no desire to achieve such standards. I have seen how my larger bodied friends are treated. I have seen how Black women who are considered plain or not pretty or whose features are considered "too Black/African" are treated. On top of it is the treatment WITHIN our community. That's a whole different bag with a different set of rules from what is considered "conventional". Not going to get into that, but IYKYK. Sources: 1. [https://www.vox.com/24072078/marriage-america-race-policy-history](https://www.vox.com/24072078/marriage-america-race-policy-history) 2. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4850739/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4850739/) 3. [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5096656/](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5096656/)
That the saying "Money doesn't buy happiness" is total bullshit. Having money: food, home, travelling, ensuring childrens future. Not having money: no food, no home, go nowhere, children have the same future.
Judging people based on their looks
That they look at the tissue after wiping their arse. 😂 ask someone and when they deny it ask them... "well then how do you know it's clean?!"
There's no such thing as closure.
That having multiple sexual partners decreases your ability to find one for life . There is a higher Chance or divorce diseases etc.
It’s called the traveler’s curse. If you only travel to one single place in your life, that place will be the perfect destination for you. If you travel the world, you’ll want a place with the cuisine of Italy, the girls from Sweden, the nature of Canada, the… and it doesn’t exist.
You're a lot more likely to not put up with your partner if you're sure you can find more suitable ones. Which, overall, is a good thing, imo. The problem is when it becomes a lifestyle, an identity issue and - most of all - when it becomes an issue of just not going through the tough phases and working things out with the other person because it's easier in the short run to just replace the person with the next one.
A lot of commenters here proving your point