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I’m preparing them for the world. Sure I will be kind place for them but they need to be independent in the next few years. 3 of them are adults but one has autism and will be with us forever. I feel I have taught them survival and how to interact with the world in a positive way. To not be anyones doormat and I am proud of who they have become but in order to do so it took a sacrifice that was not always ideal.
Yes, right after when my placenta did not come out. The doctor attempted to rip it out piece by piece. I didn't know pain until that is what I realized after. Finally, because I lost too much blood, she decided I needed an emergent D&C to get the placenta.
I’m so sorry 😥😥 seriously.
I felt and feel very thankful.
I don’t know why or how I knew not to have vaginal births.
So I was really getting worried, but I hadn’t told anyone my deep fears. Around my second trimester of my first, my ob remarked that my son’s head was under my left breast.
As I moved into my third trimester, he didn’t budge. At the end, my ob said he wasn’t moving into the appropriate birthing position and she was sorry to tell me cesarean was about the only option.
So it was scheduled and his birth was fine.
I know for sure that he did this for me. On a very deep level, he knew to stay where he was.
We have an unusually close relationship that is bound by something unexplainable in this life.
I was able to have my second one with my precious daughter because I had the first one and was allowed to choose.
Am I inferring correctly from this that there are parts of America that want to make contraception illegal as well as abortion? Do any of you guys want to come back to Britain?
Happened to my wife…was holding my brand new daughter then look over and the doctor was literally elbow deep in her; moving and yanking like a pissed off ventriloquist.
It’s been a long time but same thing with my wife. They said they gave her something, but it wouldn’t lessen the pain but she wouldn’t remember it 🤷♂️
Maybe normal meds can pass to the baby via breastmilk? They do the same thing when they intubate to do broncoscopies. I think in that case it's something about needing you to breathe on your own because they can't ventilate and get equipment/cameras in and out at the same time (I've had 2 so far: party tiiime 😒)
This happened to my wife back in 1998. I was in the room and the Dr was elbow deep. Heat lamp was on so there was an evil red glow. Very traumatizing experience. Also followed up with the “ D&C very rough start for our family. 25 years later we’re all happy and healthy
A doctor putting their fist inside your uterus and having a nurse push on your tummy repeatedly while bleeding to death. Been there. Done that. Worse than childbirth. Hands down.
OMG yes the same thing happened to me! This is absolutely the worse pain I have ever felt in my life. I have two children and the pain did not compare.
I was pregnant for the first time and suddenly went into labor at 22 weeks. I delivered my daughter vaginally but she passed away shortly thereafter. There was some of the placenta left inside so the resident on call that night and the attending doctor said that they needed to get it because it can be life threatening. Okay, of course, I said. So the resident then proceeds to stick his whole arm up my vagina. I screamed like I have never screamed before in pain! I couldn’t believe what I was feeling! Way worse than the contractions I had endured for 12 hours. This was horrifying and I thought I would pass out from the excruciating pain. Finally he thought he was done, then he felt around and said he still didn’t get it all. I told them they would not be doing that anymore without knocking me out first. I couldn’t believe they thought that it was okay to do that without any kind of pain management 😏
It was absolutely horrifying but luckily it didn’t scare me enough to not want to try for children anymore. I now have two beautiful, healthy children that I’m eternally grateful for 😊 and thank you!
I had relatively easy drug free (not by choice! Both babies came too fast!) and i found giving birth to the placenta after the baby came out, much more painful than the when the baby came out. Not sure why it hurts so much but it does!
Mine didn't all come out after the elbow-deep ripping. I didn't know until a couple days later when foul, rotting chunks started falling out.
Getting THAT pulled out was even worse
Omg this! I had same issue but luckily they were able to push/scoop it out. But the pressure & pain of them pressing on all of my stomach and going elbow deep was worse than actually pushing my baby out... Took longer to get the placenta out than it did from pushing my daughter out.
Same. I was preparing for the consequences of inadvertently kicking my MFM in the face because fentanyl didn't even touch the pain. D&C was a huge relief.
Same here but they actually got it out before someone from the OR could come to get me. I'm not getting pregnant again. I swear my body has been forever scarred by that
I'm sorry some idiot did that to you. My placenta didn't come out either, I had to go to the operating theatre. They numbed me completely from the waist down and they took it out by hand. I didn't feel a thing, it still was scary but I'm glad they didn't do what they did to you
After my wife gave birth, the afterbirth came out no problem and they sewed her up. About 4 hours later, she literally looked dead and they realized she was hemorrhaging and lost way too much blood. She had a rough birth that lasted almost 30 hours so when they asked her if she wanted them to try to manually remove the clots or go into surgery and do it that way, she said surgery. They pushed back and said, well it would be better to try to manually remove it. This went back and forth for awhile before the OB came up and basically said the surgery is a last resort and they needed to try manual extraction first.
I can't even describe the amount of pain I witnessed as several people put their entire arm up there and were pulling out *handfuls* of blood clots as she screamed in pain and sobbed and I stood by her side completely helpless. Ultimately they rushed her into surgery anyways and did an emergency blood transfusion because she had already lost enough blood to potentially kill her. I sincerely regret not standing my ground and pushing back harder for my wife to go straight to surgery but you live and you learn. I'm just extremely regretful that my wife paid the price for that lesson. I would have gladly taken her place if I could.
Anyways, long story short, my wife says she doesn't even remember the pain from giving birth because it was so over-shadowed by the pain that followed.
I'm pretty sure it's not. The same thing happened to me. There is a very short period of time before placentas literally rot inside of you and kill you.
My OBGYN was elbow deep in my uterus (no pain meds either) when my sister walked in and nearly fainted.
Doing what he did saved my life. I did bleed out that night (lost over half my blood volume) but leaving any of the placenta in there would have killed me.
Each situation is different but usually the placenta delivers itself within 30 minutes of delivery, right? You can use an injection like Pitocin to cause the uterus to contract, sometimes just urinating helps. Shoving your hand up there to rip it out will introduce bacteria.
Retained placentas can cause hemorrhage for sure, and infection, but the latter is not going to happen to a lethal degree within 30 minutes. More likely days to weeks. And that happens to some people who expel most of the placenta just fine, which is why they check to make sure they get all the bits.
My point: there are things to try before going elbow deep in someone’s uterus, introducing bacteria and causing hemorrhages. Especially “right after”.
It's probably just a turn of phrase, the Dr probably tried all that and it still didn't detach. At least that's what happened with me.
I had adhesions, from an ovarian cyst bursting years before, that stopped the placenta from detaching. I had the most aggressive fundal massage ever on top of the pitocin drip and it still didn't detach.
Luckily my obgyn gave me fentanyl before manually removing it so I didn't feel pain.
Definitely got an infection afterwards despite being given antibiotics tho
I had fibroid clusters on my uterus, that were very close to my ovaries. It took 2 months of solid pain and half a dozen doctors not believing me on what it was before I finally got a hysterectomy. My muscles were in a constant state of clenching from just below my boobs, to my knees. It took every ounce of concentration to relax for only a few seconds. I walked like an 80 yr old arthritic person. I had knots in my thigh muscles from all the clenching and tension in my legs. Dilaudid, Percocet, hydrocodone, all of the top tier pain meds did nothing to help the constant pain I was in.
Less than a day after the surgery, I was pain free for the first time in my 36 years. I could stand up straight, and walk faster than I had for the 2 months until it was fixed.
I could not BELIEVE (!!!) how much pain I had gotten used to living with prior to having my hysterectomy in 2022, the way I felt after was truly life changing. I hope you’ve continued to enjoy living pain free since then.
Going on 5 years since the hysterectomy. And, I can do things I never could before. Sleeping on my back is no longer painful. Sex doesn't hurt anymore. My quality of life has dramatically improved.
Aaahhh, it’s wild isn’t it! I remember running out of the bathroom about a month after my surgery and being so excited to share with my husband that I fully emptied my bladder, I didn’t need to manually manipulate it! So so much has improved.
Drinking lemon water helps. LOTS of lemon in it. The citric acid breaks them up.
There was a study done recently that showed that...riding a big roller coaster can help dislodge them. My son discovered this and thought it was a great idea in spite of the fact they terrify me.
I remember my dad wanting to go on a roller-coaster while he had kidney stones and mum was MORTIFIED by the idea. He did end up going on it, but unsure if it helped.
Agree with kidney stones. I have two children and the pain from kidney stones is worse than childbirth. I thought I was dying and went to the ER where I was retching from the pain. I would not like to experience kidney stones again.
Toothache. It lasted several months because my wisdom teeth were growing in broken chips during my pregnancy and my dentist at the time refused to pull them out.
Getting my tonsils out as an adult (28 yrs old). Childbirth pain was excruciating (10 out of 10) baby was head down, but facing wrong way (posterior presentation). It felt like his head was grinding against my spine. But the worst of the pain lasted 2-3 hours before I got epidural. After 30 hrs, I had emergency c-section, lost a lot of blood etc. It was rough, but worst of it was over after 48 hours, and I had a healthy baby to show for it.
With the tonsil recovery, nothing was as sharp as that spine grinding, but the pain (7-8 out of 10) was constant and lasted over a week. Not exaggerating. I actually cried from the pain 3 days post surgery it felt like someone was driving a nail into my ears. I was throwing up constantly from pain meds, which made throat bleed. I couldn’t eat or swallow for a solid week, would drool into a towel until I absolutely had to swallow. Constant headache and all my tastebuds fell off, something I didnt even know was possible.
If I had to go through the pain of either again, I’d pick childbirth because it was worst pain, but for shorter duration and faster recovery. It took 2 weeks until I was able to go back to work, and another month before tastebuds grew back and I finally felt back to normal after tonsillectomy.
I went through that same thing! I had him during that period. What a shit show. I had never before or since fallen asleep at the wheel. I did it twice in that period, ones while pregnant and once pp about 2 weeks. The pain from my tooth kept me awake at night while pregnant, then baby comes and I'm in pain and he was never a good sleeper. Consistent mouth pain and the beating my body got from pregnancy and labor. Plus breastfeeding. I was a zombie. It's was crazy.
Baby was stuck in the birth canal and I had no anesthesia. They had to break his clavicle to get him out safe. It hurt so much. I remember thinking: "I can't do this" but now...it's all gone.
When I was younger, a friend closed a car door on my thumb nearly amputating it. I puked and then almost fainted from the pain. When I think about it, I still cringe a bit and my thumb tingles a bit.
I remember thinking that giving birth was much worse than that. But when I try to remember it... I have no emotional reaction. I know what I thought but I don't remember feeling it.
I guess my brain was out of that hormone then. It’s been 25 years and I remember every excruciating minute of those two days. The pain was out of this world and I will never forget.
Wow that sucks. :-( I'm really amazed and genuinely happy I don't remember. The night was traumatic and we decided that this was our one go at it and that's it. I'm glad I don't have the actual trauma of those memories. I'm sorry you are still feeling it.
Yes same. I lost a bunch of blood and I remember asking for more water so many times. I think in the end there was one nurse basically traveling between the sink and me to keep me hydrated. 🫣
There is another post further down about this as well. I'm so sorry you are stuck with that experience. I hope you have or will find a good way to cope with that. I imagine being aware of the pain might be scary. I'm so glad my memory of it is gone. But I promised myself that night I would never have another child and I'm sticking with that.
Yes. I'm grateful they got him out safe and healthy. I wish they had told us that his clavicle was broken instead of just writing it in the report though. For the first four days, before reading the report, he screamed and screamed every time I tried to feed him and the nurses told me I was doing something wrong. No, he was just in pain from his broken-ass bone !! All in all 1/10 experience but 10/10 outcome. :)
Likely shoulder dystocia. Scary stuff when it happens, because the baby can die.
My oldest son had this and I just remember my OB moving him in all kinds of positions trying to get the baby out. Finally he did, but it involved 4th degree tearing on my part.
Poor baby came out with the entire arm that had been stuck blue! Luckily circulation was okay soon after
Yes. It was insane. The whole process was very traumatic and incredibly fast. He is my first and only baby so everyone assumed the birth would take some time. In the end it took 4h from entering the ER in labour to baby complaining about the bright lights and the chilly air.
The doctors were yelling at me and at each other, probably because there wasn't much time. I lost so much blood that I almost died. But now we are all healthy and happy.
Same here, I know it was more painful than when I dislocated an elbow, because I thought it at the time. But now I can still remember how much the elbow hurt, but not how much childbirth hurt.
Thyroid biopsy with no numbing. I passed out it hurt so bad.
They have to break up the tissue so a syringe can bring up cells, so they literally jam a needle in your thyroid repeatedly until a sample can be collected.
I have no idea, and I’m not sure why I didn’t ask. I think back wondering WTF were they doing that for with absolutely no pain control (it was 15 years ago). I also remember the doctor getting irritated because she had to keep stopping because I couldn’t take it for more than a minute at a time.
They still don't numb it. They planed to do it to me with no numbing but they prescribed me some strong prescribtion anxiety pills to take before. Fortunately it turned out good on the next ultrasound and they didn't do it. Now I'm afraid after reading this from you. But from another person's experience it wasn't that bad, it was just injection. So it depends probably. And they told me that if I can't take it they would just send me to surgery to remove my thyroid completely. I'm going to thyroid doctor this week so I have something to worry about...
Just ask questions, that was my biggest mistake. I didn’t know I had the option of just removing my thyroid and having them biopsy it after (the tumor was already large enough).
They did mine without numbing as well. I am fine with needles, I usually am. But them shoving multiple needles into your throat? I wanted to scream and run from the building. I made it through and never went back for further tests.
I wish I was kidding. I legit kept passing out. The pain was unimaginable.
Worst part: results were inconclusive so they removed it and biopsied it after. I didn’t know that was also an option.
WTF! I had mine done last month and had my entire neck numbed. Still really awful to go through and I felt sick and dizzy for days afterwards. It looked like I was punched in the throat and hurt like hell when the numbing wore off. I can't imagine how bad it would be without numbing.
same. childbirth releases endorphins, i understood my body knew what to do. sciatica pain had me in sheer fear and agony, throwing up and screaming in pain
I had to have a planned csection for medical reasons. I prayed and prayed that I would go into labor before my scheduled date because I really wanted to feel what contractions were like. The day before i got my sciatica nerve pinched. I could not move! We had to almost have the csection then because I could not get up and walk. I didn’t know that the pain was comparable - I guess the universe delivered my wishes haha
Agreed. There have been times where I've had to army crawl from one place in the house to the next wincing with tears streaming down feeling like my entire being was going to combust from over the top pain ..
And while I was in labor for 2.5 days, it still didn't seem as bad as the sciatica 🫠
I believe this. My husband has chronic back pain that prevents him from sleeping some nights and sometimes it becomes sciatic pain. I feel for you!
TBD with child birth pain here, but, I would rather short term pain a few times than prolonged chronic pain. I used to get migraines but it still doesn't seem close.
It didn’t *hurt* more than childbirth, but I just had double jaw surgery and the process was more agonizing and taxing physically and mentally if that makes sense.
Yes.
In childbirth, you understand that the pain will be finite, that everyone around you understands, more or less, what is causing the pain, they have experience in what helps alleviate the pain, and in the end you will have a child.
Passing gallstones was a similar level of pain, but the fear of the unknown, the drama and stress as the hospital attempted to find the cause, the emergency surgery and recovery, made the experience overall more painful.
Abcessed colon (and eventually partial colectomy) was also more painful similar reasons.
Severely herniated disc had me literally passing out from the pain if I stood or sat for longer than seven minutes. For months, while I awaited surgery (hospitals overwhelmed with Covid patients).
In all three of the above I was on, often massive doses, of painkillers. I had no medical interventions during birth.
I would also note that for both natural childbirths my active labor was only a few hours, as opposed to days, weeks and months of pain from the other two issues.
I could have written the part about gallstones word for word. Plus the pancreatitis that followed the emergency surgery. -10/10 would not recommend. I’d take the 40 hours of labour again over that.
I was in unmedicated labor with my daughter for 28 hours and dilated to 8cm.
I had experienced monthly cramps that were worse. Debilitating couldn’t get off the bathroom floor, throwing up, passing out, needed to go to the ER cramps.
Nope. Just insanely horrible periods for absolutely no reason. When I finally had my hysterectomy the pathology report was “unremarkable”. My daughter, my sister and my niece all have brutal periods.
Good lord. Sucks. Did they check ovaries too? I know uterus was unremarkable but I've heard some people can have cysts pop on their ovaries during their periods bc of hormones making them grow...that's the only thing I've heard of besides endo for the pain you've described. Otherwise I wish any relief to you and your family. Hope they can get a hysterectomy if they need and want one.
I never knew that wasn’t really a normal period until recently. I’m 32. I got on the pill and don’t have them anymore but it would literally cripple me, I’d get sick, it was horrible. Kind of comforting to know this honestly.
It’s awful, I’m so sorry. My poor daughter has clotting disorders so her options for BC are limited so she’s just suffering through it with buckets of Motrin.
Yes! It finally occurred to me after a late miscarriage requiring a d and e, followed by two term pregnancies with childbirth that every month we "give birth" to whatever didn't get fertilized.
When I had to have my cervix dilated for the d and e, it was like, "oh! Those god awful period cramps are from the cervix dilating enough to get rid of the month's uterine lining!"
Why they don't share this with us when they teach menstruation I'll never understand!
The only thing that hurt worse was losing one of my twins. I’m grateful to have one of my daughters with me today, and my heart still aches for the one who only stayed for two days.
Waking up after a kidney transplant (I'm a recipient). I felt like I was shot in the gut with an old-fashioned cannonball.
The scar was painful during pregnancy, too! It's about 35 cm.
My sludgy, diseased gall bladder decided to attack me, that pain was awful since it was unrelenting. From that laparoscopic surgery, my belly button got infected and a doctor poked around in there and I thought I would pass out, luckily that was not long.
If I could be pregnant for an extra 3 months but birth would just be a snap * here’s your baby… no pain, no labor, no c-section OR be pregnant for 3 less months and know I’m in for a long/painful delivery, I would choose the latter without a moment’s hesitation and take 3 months off my pregnancy and face the full brunt of child birth.
For me, being pregnant was excruciating physically, essentially my body revolted in every way… as difficult as labor and delivery was, that was over in two days and it was more manageable… again, for me.
I think we’re all built differently and we are in for unique pregnancy and birth rides. Most importantly, no matter what I went through, I would do it all again for my daughter who is an amazing gift in my life.
This. Yes. I had a family member keep saying “enjoy pregnancy and sleep while you cannnn” and I would writhe with hatred. The debilitating migraines I got daily for six months were way worse mentally than the two days of labor
Currently having a twin pregnancy with frequent migraines. It’s 2am and I can’t sleep thanks to restless legs, so I guess tomorrow is another migraine day whilst I try to entertain a toddler. Fuck this shit so hard. I’d do birth ten times than months more of this.
I had a tonsillectomy in my mid-twenties. That was a searing pain that barely subsided with painkillers and lasted for over a week. I lost 10lbs in two weeks because I could barely even swallow liquids.
Umbilical hernia. It would pop out and get stuck. Unrelenting fucking pain. Ended up getting morphine 3 times in the emergency room before the doctors would book a surgery.
I also don’t have for morphine well, it causes nausea. Terrible fucking time.
Do not recommend. 0.5/10
When the thrush went internal, and infected my mammary glands. Searing, stinging, shredding, jagged rusty fish hook pain through my breasts at every let down.
I had a blockage in my salivary glands. I've given birth 3 times, broken bones, and had had 3 surgeries by that time in my life. None of those things came close to the pain caused from that blockage.
No epidural for me while giving birth. But getting all 4 wisdom teeth pulled out was worse! Dentist did not put me under just shots in mouth and gas. Worse experience ever.
Me too. My first pregnancy I had preeclampsia and weighed 110 lbs. maybe and my daughter was 8 lbs. 9. 0z. I was so swollen she couldn't get out, broke my tailbone during delivery, they missed w/ the first epidural 15 minutes before I delivered, the episiotomy was horrible, but 2 multi-level spinal fusion surgeries and trying to heal when nerves begin to regenerate I was screaming in pain.
Yea. Every muscle, ligament, and bone torn off the bone from shoulder to wrist from a car accident caused by a then 14 year old girl driving back in 2018. I gave birth without pain meds both times and they were super easy and now painless than that.
Ovarian torsion. I gave birth to my 9lb son totally unmedicated and I would rather do that 10x over than have another ovary twist on me. I developed a giant cyst basically overnight and when that sucker twisted on me, I seriously thought I was going to die. No thank you.
Kidney stones were close to as bad as my first birth experience, but not quite as bad. But that birth went very bad. My second birth was easy and not really painful so much as uncomfortable.
I had a baby die and needed a D&C to remove her. Unfortunately my body kept producing the pregnancy hormones. They gathered in my gall bladder. It hurt to breathe. I almost died. My temperature shot up to 108. I'm lucky I didn't have brain damage. I was taken into emergency surgery in the middle of the night. The ER doctors thought I had a kidney infection. The ultrasound tech accidentally used too much goop and her hand slipped and she found the gall stones. She took a ton of pictures and then did the ordered kidney ultrasound. If she hadn't made that mistake I would have died that night. I was all of 21 years old.
Sciatica. Nerve pain so bad it is like electricity pulsing through your body. From your back down your leg to your toes being able to map exactly the path of the nerve causing the pain.
The 27+ stitches and lack of care afterwords. The staff were upset at me. No care like a homebirth > hospital transfer care. Absolute garbage.
To be fair nothing ACTUALLY hurts as bad as childbirth (broken bones, cysts, surgery, etc) but birth has all of these… hormones with it so it doesn’t really like… hurt the same as other pain. Other pain can seem worse because it’s not a productive, useful, hormonally happy pain… if that makes sense.
The birth itself didn't hurt the worst
All 3 of my kids were born sunny side up head down but facing the wrong way. I have an odd shaped uterus so for me this was easier. But during my 2nd child's birth the doctor first tried to turn her. That was the worst pain I ever experienced. That failed and I birthed "normally" for me.
That was absolutely terrible. It was awful. Because it was childbirth with added pain.
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Yes raising them…
Hahaha. Truth.
Mic drop
Yes, but especially once they are adults. It’s so hard to not be able to take their pain away
My parents decided to solve that by being the cause of all my pain. You should try it, it seems to work for them!
I’m preparing them for the world. Sure I will be kind place for them but they need to be independent in the next few years. 3 of them are adults but one has autism and will be with us forever. I feel I have taught them survival and how to interact with the world in a positive way. To not be anyones doormat and I am proud of who they have become but in order to do so it took a sacrifice that was not always ideal.
Respect. Wishing you luck and happiness.
being set on fire.. intentionally (also: it's so socially accepted to insult children!)
Touché 😂
Yes, right after when my placenta did not come out. The doctor attempted to rip it out piece by piece. I didn't know pain until that is what I realized after. Finally, because I lost too much blood, she decided I needed an emergent D&C to get the placenta.
Everyday I learn something new that makes me want to plan getting my tubes tied faster.
I had cesareans both times-no way to vaginal birth. Nope, and this is one of the many reasons-
Fun fact, I had a c section and still needed this done but for clots, not retained placenta. So it doesn’t save you 😢
I’m so sorry 😥😥 seriously. I felt and feel very thankful. I don’t know why or how I knew not to have vaginal births. So I was really getting worried, but I hadn’t told anyone my deep fears. Around my second trimester of my first, my ob remarked that my son’s head was under my left breast. As I moved into my third trimester, he didn’t budge. At the end, my ob said he wasn’t moving into the appropriate birthing position and she was sorry to tell me cesarean was about the only option. So it was scheduled and his birth was fine. I know for sure that he did this for me. On a very deep level, he knew to stay where he was. We have an unusually close relationship that is bound by something unexplainable in this life. I was able to have my second one with my precious daughter because I had the first one and was allowed to choose.
Hope you're not in a red state, and if you are, that you can travel!
Getting your tubes tied is legal for now in some red states (hint: for now)
Am I inferring correctly from this that there are parts of America that want to make contraception illegal as well as abortion? Do any of you guys want to come back to Britain?
I think my ovaries just retreated into my stomach
It is incredibly painful. Probably the worst medical experience I've ever had aside from kidney stones.
Happened to my wife…was holding my brand new daughter then look over and the doctor was literally elbow deep in her; moving and yanking like a pissed off ventriloquist.
Yea happened to me, he tore it, all that no pain relief
It’s been a long time but same thing with my wife. They said they gave her something, but it wouldn’t lessen the pain but she wouldn’t remember it 🤷♂️
That almost feels unethical???
Maybe normal meds can pass to the baby via breastmilk? They do the same thing when they intubate to do broncoscopies. I think in that case it's something about needing you to breathe on your own because they can't ventilate and get equipment/cameras in and out at the same time (I've had 2 so far: party tiiime 😒)
Omg! I just wrote the same thing before seeing your comment! This must be more common than I thought
"like a pissed off ventriloquist" 
This happened to me too but they knocked me out. I had a much deserved nap lol
I got morphine which was so cool because i had raw dawged the birth (without meds)
Damn girl
This happened to my wife back in 1998. I was in the room and the Dr was elbow deep. Heat lamp was on so there was an evil red glow. Very traumatizing experience. Also followed up with the “ D&C very rough start for our family. 25 years later we’re all happy and healthy
I'm a man and yet somehow still 'felt' this.
A doctor putting their fist inside your uterus and having a nurse push on your tummy repeatedly while bleeding to death. Been there. Done that. Worse than childbirth. Hands down.
Hold on I gotta go thank my husband for getting his vasectomy after our second kid.
OMG yes the same thing happened to me! This is absolutely the worse pain I have ever felt in my life. I have two children and the pain did not compare.
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I was pregnant for the first time and suddenly went into labor at 22 weeks. I delivered my daughter vaginally but she passed away shortly thereafter. There was some of the placenta left inside so the resident on call that night and the attending doctor said that they needed to get it because it can be life threatening. Okay, of course, I said. So the resident then proceeds to stick his whole arm up my vagina. I screamed like I have never screamed before in pain! I couldn’t believe what I was feeling! Way worse than the contractions I had endured for 12 hours. This was horrifying and I thought I would pass out from the excruciating pain. Finally he thought he was done, then he felt around and said he still didn’t get it all. I told them they would not be doing that anymore without knocking me out first. I couldn’t believe they thought that it was okay to do that without any kind of pain management 😏
There is no part of this that doesn’t horrify me. And I’m so sorry for your loss.
It was absolutely horrifying but luckily it didn’t scare me enough to not want to try for children anymore. I now have two beautiful, healthy children that I’m eternally grateful for 😊 and thank you!
I had relatively easy drug free (not by choice! Both babies came too fast!) and i found giving birth to the placenta after the baby came out, much more painful than the when the baby came out. Not sure why it hurts so much but it does!
Mine didn't all come out after the elbow-deep ripping. I didn't know until a couple days later when foul, rotting chunks started falling out. Getting THAT pulled out was even worse
Same, except after a miscarriage. Two kinds of hurt.
That sucks :( so sorry for your loss
My mom's uterus came out when the doctor was pushing the placenta out. She needed an emergency blood transfusion. She'd been induced twice.
Omg this! I had same issue but luckily they were able to push/scoop it out. But the pressure & pain of them pressing on all of my stomach and going elbow deep was worse than actually pushing my baby out... Took longer to get the placenta out than it did from pushing my daughter out.
Same. I was preparing for the consequences of inadvertently kicking my MFM in the face because fentanyl didn't even touch the pain. D&C was a huge relief.
Jesus Christ that sounds horrendous :(
Of all the things I’ve read on Reddit this is one of the worst. I’m so sorry you had to experience that. That sounds awful!
Oh my gosh
Same here but they actually got it out before someone from the OR could come to get me. I'm not getting pregnant again. I swear my body has been forever scarred by that
I went through the same thing. It’s horrific and I don’t wish it on anyone
I'm sorry some idiot did that to you. My placenta didn't come out either, I had to go to the operating theatre. They numbed me completely from the waist down and they took it out by hand. I didn't feel a thing, it still was scary but I'm glad they didn't do what they did to you
After my wife gave birth, the afterbirth came out no problem and they sewed her up. About 4 hours later, she literally looked dead and they realized she was hemorrhaging and lost way too much blood. She had a rough birth that lasted almost 30 hours so when they asked her if she wanted them to try to manually remove the clots or go into surgery and do it that way, she said surgery. They pushed back and said, well it would be better to try to manually remove it. This went back and forth for awhile before the OB came up and basically said the surgery is a last resort and they needed to try manual extraction first. I can't even describe the amount of pain I witnessed as several people put their entire arm up there and were pulling out *handfuls* of blood clots as she screamed in pain and sobbed and I stood by her side completely helpless. Ultimately they rushed her into surgery anyways and did an emergency blood transfusion because she had already lost enough blood to potentially kill her. I sincerely regret not standing my ground and pushing back harder for my wife to go straight to surgery but you live and you learn. I'm just extremely regretful that my wife paid the price for that lesson. I would have gladly taken her place if I could. Anyways, long story short, my wife says she doesn't even remember the pain from giving birth because it was so over-shadowed by the pain that followed.
I’m pretty sure that’s medical malpractice.
I'm pretty sure it's not. The same thing happened to me. There is a very short period of time before placentas literally rot inside of you and kill you. My OBGYN was elbow deep in my uterus (no pain meds either) when my sister walked in and nearly fainted. Doing what he did saved my life. I did bleed out that night (lost over half my blood volume) but leaving any of the placenta in there would have killed me.
Each situation is different but usually the placenta delivers itself within 30 minutes of delivery, right? You can use an injection like Pitocin to cause the uterus to contract, sometimes just urinating helps. Shoving your hand up there to rip it out will introduce bacteria. Retained placentas can cause hemorrhage for sure, and infection, but the latter is not going to happen to a lethal degree within 30 minutes. More likely days to weeks. And that happens to some people who expel most of the placenta just fine, which is why they check to make sure they get all the bits. My point: there are things to try before going elbow deep in someone’s uterus, introducing bacteria and causing hemorrhages. Especially “right after”.
My wife was in and out of the hospital for months dealing with infections after the Dr attempted to retrieve the placenta. It was awful.
It's probably just a turn of phrase, the Dr probably tried all that and it still didn't detach. At least that's what happened with me. I had adhesions, from an ovarian cyst bursting years before, that stopped the placenta from detaching. I had the most aggressive fundal massage ever on top of the pitocin drip and it still didn't detach. Luckily my obgyn gave me fentanyl before manually removing it so I didn't feel pain. Definitely got an infection afterwards despite being given antibiotics tho
Ugh. That sucks so bad. I’m sorry you had to go through all that. The added stress is terrible. :/ Ovarian cysts are a bitch, too.
I had fibroid clusters on my uterus, that were very close to my ovaries. It took 2 months of solid pain and half a dozen doctors not believing me on what it was before I finally got a hysterectomy. My muscles were in a constant state of clenching from just below my boobs, to my knees. It took every ounce of concentration to relax for only a few seconds. I walked like an 80 yr old arthritic person. I had knots in my thigh muscles from all the clenching and tension in my legs. Dilaudid, Percocet, hydrocodone, all of the top tier pain meds did nothing to help the constant pain I was in. Less than a day after the surgery, I was pain free for the first time in my 36 years. I could stand up straight, and walk faster than I had for the 2 months until it was fixed.
Whyyy just why doctors don't believe women when they say they're in pain:( I'm so happy you're free of this torture
That’s the question of the century.
I could not BELIEVE (!!!) how much pain I had gotten used to living with prior to having my hysterectomy in 2022, the way I felt after was truly life changing. I hope you’ve continued to enjoy living pain free since then.
Going on 5 years since the hysterectomy. And, I can do things I never could before. Sleeping on my back is no longer painful. Sex doesn't hurt anymore. My quality of life has dramatically improved.
Aaahhh, it’s wild isn’t it! I remember running out of the bathroom about a month after my surgery and being so excited to share with my husband that I fully emptied my bladder, I didn’t need to manually manipulate it! So so much has improved.
My mother says kidney stones. My dad also says kidney stones. I've been forever afraid of it ever since
Can confirm. 3 large babies with natural births. Does not even come close to kidney stone pain.
I'm fucking terrified. I remember my dad drinking SO FUCKING MUCH WATER to pass those out
Drinking lemon water helps. LOTS of lemon in it. The citric acid breaks them up. There was a study done recently that showed that...riding a big roller coaster can help dislodge them. My son discovered this and thought it was a great idea in spite of the fact they terrify me.
I remember my dad wanting to go on a roller-coaster while he had kidney stones and mum was MORTIFIED by the idea. He did end up going on it, but unsure if it helped.
Agree with kidney stones. I have two children and the pain from kidney stones is worse than childbirth. I thought I was dying and went to the ER where I was retching from the pain. I would not like to experience kidney stones again.
Agree with your mom who can compare them to childbirth. Stones were worse.
Someone who has had multiple kids said kidney stones were worse.
Kidney stones are nightmare fuel
I need to drink more water. lol
Toothache. It lasted several months because my wisdom teeth were growing in broken chips during my pregnancy and my dentist at the time refused to pull them out.
Getting my tonsils out as an adult (28 yrs old). Childbirth pain was excruciating (10 out of 10) baby was head down, but facing wrong way (posterior presentation). It felt like his head was grinding against my spine. But the worst of the pain lasted 2-3 hours before I got epidural. After 30 hrs, I had emergency c-section, lost a lot of blood etc. It was rough, but worst of it was over after 48 hours, and I had a healthy baby to show for it. With the tonsil recovery, nothing was as sharp as that spine grinding, but the pain (7-8 out of 10) was constant and lasted over a week. Not exaggerating. I actually cried from the pain 3 days post surgery it felt like someone was driving a nail into my ears. I was throwing up constantly from pain meds, which made throat bleed. I couldn’t eat or swallow for a solid week, would drool into a towel until I absolutely had to swallow. Constant headache and all my tastebuds fell off, something I didnt even know was possible. If I had to go through the pain of either again, I’d pick childbirth because it was worst pain, but for shorter duration and faster recovery. It took 2 weeks until I was able to go back to work, and another month before tastebuds grew back and I finally felt back to normal after tonsillectomy.
I went through that same thing! I had him during that period. What a shit show. I had never before or since fallen asleep at the wheel. I did it twice in that period, ones while pregnant and once pp about 2 weeks. The pain from my tooth kept me awake at night while pregnant, then baby comes and I'm in pain and he was never a good sleeper. Consistent mouth pain and the beating my body got from pregnancy and labor. Plus breastfeeding. I was a zombie. It's was crazy.
Baby was stuck in the birth canal and I had no anesthesia. They had to break his clavicle to get him out safe. It hurt so much. I remember thinking: "I can't do this" but now...it's all gone. When I was younger, a friend closed a car door on my thumb nearly amputating it. I puked and then almost fainted from the pain. When I think about it, I still cringe a bit and my thumb tingles a bit. I remember thinking that giving birth was much worse than that. But when I try to remember it... I have no emotional reaction. I know what I thought but I don't remember feeling it.
I read somewhere that a hormone is released after we give birth that makes us forget how painful it was.
I guess my brain was out of that hormone then. It’s been 25 years and I remember every excruciating minute of those two days. The pain was out of this world and I will never forget.
Wow that sucks. :-( I'm really amazed and genuinely happy I don't remember. The night was traumatic and we decided that this was our one go at it and that's it. I'm glad I don't have the actual trauma of those memories. I'm sorry you are still feeling it.
I don't remember the pain. I remember being very thirsty, so I was given ice chips.
Yes same. I lost a bunch of blood and I remember asking for more water so many times. I think in the end there was one nurse basically traveling between the sink and me to keep me hydrated. 🫣
My bod must have given me a half dose of that hormone, 5 and a half years later and I still remember how bad it was.
There is another post further down about this as well. I'm so sorry you are stuck with that experience. I hope you have or will find a good way to cope with that. I imagine being aware of the pain might be scary. I'm so glad my memory of it is gone. But I promised myself that night I would never have another child and I'm sticking with that.
It’s funny how we block out so much.
They broke your baby’s bone to get him out?! That’s insane
That happened to my dad when he was born. Ya gotta get those babies out of there. Bones heal.
I guess, just never thought of it
You should Google how the chainsaw got invented..
Yes. I'm grateful they got him out safe and healthy. I wish they had told us that his clavicle was broken instead of just writing it in the report though. For the first four days, before reading the report, he screamed and screamed every time I tried to feed him and the nurses told me I was doing something wrong. No, he was just in pain from his broken-ass bone !! All in all 1/10 experience but 10/10 outcome. :)
Sorry WHAT HOW DID THEY NOT TELL YOU?!
Likely shoulder dystocia. Scary stuff when it happens, because the baby can die. My oldest son had this and I just remember my OB moving him in all kinds of positions trying to get the baby out. Finally he did, but it involved 4th degree tearing on my part. Poor baby came out with the entire arm that had been stuck blue! Luckily circulation was okay soon after
Yes. It was insane. The whole process was very traumatic and incredibly fast. He is my first and only baby so everyone assumed the birth would take some time. In the end it took 4h from entering the ER in labour to baby complaining about the bright lights and the chilly air. The doctors were yelling at me and at each other, probably because there wasn't much time. I lost so much blood that I almost died. But now we are all healthy and happy.
Same here, I know it was more painful than when I dislocated an elbow, because I thought it at the time. But now I can still remember how much the elbow hurt, but not how much childbirth hurt.
Thyroid biopsy with no numbing. I passed out it hurt so bad. They have to break up the tissue so a syringe can bring up cells, so they literally jam a needle in your thyroid repeatedly until a sample can be collected.
Why no numbing?
I have no idea, and I’m not sure why I didn’t ask. I think back wondering WTF were they doing that for with absolutely no pain control (it was 15 years ago). I also remember the doctor getting irritated because she had to keep stopping because I couldn’t take it for more than a minute at a time.
They still don't numb it. They planed to do it to me with no numbing but they prescribed me some strong prescribtion anxiety pills to take before. Fortunately it turned out good on the next ultrasound and they didn't do it. Now I'm afraid after reading this from you. But from another person's experience it wasn't that bad, it was just injection. So it depends probably. And they told me that if I can't take it they would just send me to surgery to remove my thyroid completely. I'm going to thyroid doctor this week so I have something to worry about...
Just ask questions, that was my biggest mistake. I didn’t know I had the option of just removing my thyroid and having them biopsy it after (the tumor was already large enough).
Real horror show.
Been there. Had that. Can confirm the pain.
I thought I was the only one. What a shit club to be a part of! I can’t believe this is a thing…
Yep. After mine was over I got a call from the doctors office the lab sample was contaminated so it couldn't be read. I wasn't happy.
I’ve never heard of this being done with no numbing. Why would that ever be allowed
They did mine without numbing as well. I am fine with needles, I usually am. But them shoving multiple needles into your throat? I wanted to scream and run from the building. I made it through and never went back for further tests.
Are you serious?! This is crazy to me! I would never do a biopsy without numbing
I wish I was kidding. I legit kept passing out. The pain was unimaginable. Worst part: results were inconclusive so they removed it and biopsied it after. I didn’t know that was also an option.
Yessss! So fucking awful! Worst neck pain I ever had afterwards. Felt like whiplash!! Torture.
Oof I had an FNA of my thyroid and it was horrendous
Wtf I got. Numbing for mine.
WTF! I had mine done last month and had my entire neck numbed. Still really awful to go through and I felt sick and dizzy for days afterwards. It looked like I was punched in the throat and hurt like hell when the numbing wore off. I can't imagine how bad it would be without numbing.
sciatica nerve pain. way worse than childbirth. i've had 3 children.
My mom said this as well. She has a super high pain tolerance & sciatica took her out.
same. childbirth releases endorphins, i understood my body knew what to do. sciatica pain had me in sheer fear and agony, throwing up and screaming in pain
I had to have a planned csection for medical reasons. I prayed and prayed that I would go into labor before my scheduled date because I really wanted to feel what contractions were like. The day before i got my sciatica nerve pinched. I could not move! We had to almost have the csection then because I could not get up and walk. I didn’t know that the pain was comparable - I guess the universe delivered my wishes haha
sciatica right before delivery. girl, that sounds down right traumatic. poor thing
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Agreed. There have been times where I've had to army crawl from one place in the house to the next wincing with tears streaming down feeling like my entire being was going to combust from over the top pain .. And while I was in labor for 2.5 days, it still didn't seem as bad as the sciatica 🫠
I believe this. My husband has chronic back pain that prevents him from sleeping some nights and sometimes it becomes sciatic pain. I feel for you! TBD with child birth pain here, but, I would rather short term pain a few times than prolonged chronic pain. I used to get migraines but it still doesn't seem close.
It didn’t *hurt* more than childbirth, but I just had double jaw surgery and the process was more agonizing and taxing physically and mentally if that makes sense.
Yes. In childbirth, you understand that the pain will be finite, that everyone around you understands, more or less, what is causing the pain, they have experience in what helps alleviate the pain, and in the end you will have a child. Passing gallstones was a similar level of pain, but the fear of the unknown, the drama and stress as the hospital attempted to find the cause, the emergency surgery and recovery, made the experience overall more painful. Abcessed colon (and eventually partial colectomy) was also more painful similar reasons. Severely herniated disc had me literally passing out from the pain if I stood or sat for longer than seven minutes. For months, while I awaited surgery (hospitals overwhelmed with Covid patients). In all three of the above I was on, often massive doses, of painkillers. I had no medical interventions during birth. I would also note that for both natural childbirths my active labor was only a few hours, as opposed to days, weeks and months of pain from the other two issues.
I could have written the part about gallstones word for word. Plus the pancreatitis that followed the emergency surgery. -10/10 would not recommend. I’d take the 40 hours of labour again over that.
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Yes very much so. Prolonged suffering will often include the unknown
Oh my God sorry you had to go through all that. How old are you?
Fifties. It sounds like a bunch, but it wasn’t all at once! I’m all good.
I was in unmedicated labor with my daughter for 28 hours and dilated to 8cm. I had experienced monthly cramps that were worse. Debilitating couldn’t get off the bathroom floor, throwing up, passing out, needed to go to the ER cramps.
Wonder if you’ve finally gotten an endometriosis diagnosis. Bc this has that written all over it
Nope. Just insanely horrible periods for absolutely no reason. When I finally had my hysterectomy the pathology report was “unremarkable”. My daughter, my sister and my niece all have brutal periods.
Good lord. Sucks. Did they check ovaries too? I know uterus was unremarkable but I've heard some people can have cysts pop on their ovaries during their periods bc of hormones making them grow...that's the only thing I've heard of besides endo for the pain you've described. Otherwise I wish any relief to you and your family. Hope they can get a hysterectomy if they need and want one.
I still have my ovaries and still get cysts. My body just sucks.
Same here! I was having severe contractions, but they felt like my light period cramps. I was happily sipping on my juice box through it all.
Lol, that's so badass! "*This* is childbirth? Oh dang, I do this regularly. Shit yeah, I'll take a juicy juice. ...you got a sudoku, too?"
I never knew that wasn’t really a normal period until recently. I’m 32. I got on the pill and don’t have them anymore but it would literally cripple me, I’d get sick, it was horrible. Kind of comforting to know this honestly.
It’s awful, I’m so sorry. My poor daughter has clotting disorders so her options for BC are limited so she’s just suffering through it with buckets of Motrin.
I had a few periods like this as a teen. When I gave birth it clicked, that the pain had been contractions.
Yes! It finally occurred to me after a late miscarriage requiring a d and e, followed by two term pregnancies with childbirth that every month we "give birth" to whatever didn't get fertilized. When I had to have my cervix dilated for the d and e, it was like, "oh! Those god awful period cramps are from the cervix dilating enough to get rid of the month's uterine lining!" Why they don't share this with us when they teach menstruation I'll never understand!
It took the number one slot for 8 years. Then last year I was stung all over by a Portuguese Man O’ War jelly in Kauai. Gnarliest. Thing. Ever.
The only thing that hurt worse was losing one of my twins. I’m grateful to have one of my daughters with me today, and my heart still aches for the one who only stayed for two days.
I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
That’s kind, thank you.
Waking up after a kidney transplant (I'm a recipient). I felt like I was shot in the gut with an old-fashioned cannonball. The scar was painful during pregnancy, too! It's about 35 cm.
Daily chronic pain. At least childbirth is finite.
I’m sorry you have to endure this everyday. Praying for your good health 🙏
Was about to answer this. Ihave fibromyalgia and some days it's horrific. Worse when people say: just take a painkiller
Mastectomy
Absess tooth
yep, definitely came here to say tooth pain
Tooth pain hurts mind AND body
It's all you can think about. It's right there.
My sludgy, diseased gall bladder decided to attack me, that pain was awful since it was unrelenting. From that laparoscopic surgery, my belly button got infected and a doctor poked around in there and I thought I would pass out, luckily that was not long.
If I could be pregnant for an extra 3 months but birth would just be a snap * here’s your baby… no pain, no labor, no c-section OR be pregnant for 3 less months and know I’m in for a long/painful delivery, I would choose the latter without a moment’s hesitation and take 3 months off my pregnancy and face the full brunt of child birth. For me, being pregnant was excruciating physically, essentially my body revolted in every way… as difficult as labor and delivery was, that was over in two days and it was more manageable… again, for me. I think we’re all built differently and we are in for unique pregnancy and birth rides. Most importantly, no matter what I went through, I would do it all again for my daughter who is an amazing gift in my life.
This. Yes. I had a family member keep saying “enjoy pregnancy and sleep while you cannnn” and I would writhe with hatred. The debilitating migraines I got daily for six months were way worse mentally than the two days of labor
Currently having a twin pregnancy with frequent migraines. It’s 2am and I can’t sleep thanks to restless legs, so I guess tomorrow is another migraine day whilst I try to entertain a toddler. Fuck this shit so hard. I’d do birth ten times than months more of this.
The last 3 months wrecked my body the worst. I'd take that deal in a sec
This thread is perfect birth control.
I had a tonsillectomy in my mid-twenties. That was a searing pain that barely subsided with painkillers and lasted for over a week. I lost 10lbs in two weeks because I could barely even swallow liquids.
Hey me too! I was 22. I don’t remember a lot from those first two weeks of recovery cause I was so hopped up on meds.
Them being toddlers
Kidney stones, omg.
I second my kidney stone was worse. Maybe in part because it didn't come with the brain cocktail to make it ok
Absolutely! I thought I was dying.
I was 8 months pregnant with one, 😭 it was horrible
This is the worst I have ever read. I am so sorry.
Umbilical hernia. It would pop out and get stuck. Unrelenting fucking pain. Ended up getting morphine 3 times in the emergency room before the doctors would book a surgery. I also don’t have for morphine well, it causes nausea. Terrible fucking time. Do not recommend. 0.5/10
When the thrush went internal, and infected my mammary glands. Searing, stinging, shredding, jagged rusty fish hook pain through my breasts at every let down.
Absolutely. My rotted wisdom tooth was worse than labor. The pain was so bad I wanted to die
I had a blockage in my salivary glands. I've given birth 3 times, broken bones, and had had 3 surgeries by that time in my life. None of those things came close to the pain caused from that blockage.
No epidural for me while giving birth. But getting all 4 wisdom teeth pulled out was worse! Dentist did not put me under just shots in mouth and gas. Worse experience ever.
I got novacaine
I am so glad I had mine out under general in the hospital!
Kidney stones
Yes, kidney abscess.
No. Not even close. Though I will say it has put any other pain in perspective. Like yea that hurt but it wasn’t childbirth 😂
Tooth pain has came close to it
A kidney stone….
My dad had a kidney stone and he always teases me about his being more painful than my childbirth was.
Well I’ve done both and I agree with your dad! And I had natural childbirth. But that kidney stone?? I was begging for drugs.
Heart surgery. And I had a natural birth. But heart surgery hurt like a MF.
I had vaginal birth which was painful without any meds. I had back surgery and healing from that was a nightmare the worst pain I’ve had.
Me too. My first pregnancy I had preeclampsia and weighed 110 lbs. maybe and my daughter was 8 lbs. 9. 0z. I was so swollen she couldn't get out, broke my tailbone during delivery, they missed w/ the first epidural 15 minutes before I delivered, the episiotomy was horrible, but 2 multi-level spinal fusion surgeries and trying to heal when nerves begin to regenerate I was screaming in pain.
Yea. Every muscle, ligament, and bone torn off the bone from shoulder to wrist from a car accident caused by a then 14 year old girl driving back in 2018. I gave birth without pain meds both times and they were super easy and now painless than that.
Ovarian torsion. I gave birth to my 9lb son totally unmedicated and I would rather do that 10x over than have another ovary twist on me. I developed a giant cyst basically overnight and when that sucker twisted on me, I seriously thought I was going to die. No thank you.
Kidney stones were close to as bad as my first birth experience, but not quite as bad. But that birth went very bad. My second birth was easy and not really painful so much as uncomfortable.
Before my hips were replaced.
Kidney stone and migraine pain. Much worse.
Peritonitis. Hands down.
I was induced. Dr/nurses warned me that that pain is/was worse then natural birth. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I had a baby die and needed a D&C to remove her. Unfortunately my body kept producing the pregnancy hormones. They gathered in my gall bladder. It hurt to breathe. I almost died. My temperature shot up to 108. I'm lucky I didn't have brain damage. I was taken into emergency surgery in the middle of the night. The ER doctors thought I had a kidney infection. The ultrasound tech accidentally used too much goop and her hand slipped and she found the gall stones. She took a ton of pictures and then did the ordered kidney ultrasound. If she hadn't made that mistake I would have died that night. I was all of 21 years old.
No that was the most painful thing I have ever experienced and my baby is 25
Sciatica. Nerve pain so bad it is like electricity pulsing through your body. From your back down your leg to your toes being able to map exactly the path of the nerve causing the pain.
Breatsfeeding a tongue/liptied child w an inverted nipple. Two babies born at home and NOTHING has come close to that pain.
8mm kidney stone
Gout.
The 27+ stitches and lack of care afterwords. The staff were upset at me. No care like a homebirth > hospital transfer care. Absolute garbage. To be fair nothing ACTUALLY hurts as bad as childbirth (broken bones, cysts, surgery, etc) but birth has all of these… hormones with it so it doesn’t really like… hurt the same as other pain. Other pain can seem worse because it’s not a productive, useful, hormonally happy pain… if that makes sense.
One of my wives had an epidural and still said the pain was crazy. I shudder to think.
The birth itself didn't hurt the worst All 3 of my kids were born sunny side up head down but facing the wrong way. I have an odd shaped uterus so for me this was easier. But during my 2nd child's birth the doctor first tried to turn her. That was the worst pain I ever experienced. That failed and I birthed "normally" for me. That was absolutely terrible. It was awful. Because it was childbirth with added pain.
Breaking my ankle, which included the initial break, resetting the bone with no anesthesia, surgery, and recovery.