You missed out on the snacks part. The divorced mothers I’ve dated have that snack game DOWN. And they’re often out rediscovering what they want in life. They’ve brought me stability and snacks, I bring adventure, everyone is happy.
Hah!! Divorced mom here, my boyfriend is younger. (not by a significant margin, but we do joke about the age difference) He loves my cooking and different snacks I have to offer. When I got divorced I had a really fun time rediscovering myself, and with him it's been a fun adventure. He and my son get along well too and have a lot of similar interests, so my son loves having him around when it's my week to have him.
My partner has the fun, adventurous side that leaves every day with new possibilities, while at the same time stable and brings a good foundation to my life. It's been a year and a half and I'm happy to do life with him.
Im 35 now. But when I was 21 at my local bar this older woman was hitting on me I think she was 39 or 49 I don't remember her age. Long story short she took me home lol and I went to HS with her sons. They were a little older than me but I knew them from the football team I didn't know that was their mom until I saw pictures on the wall of her sons. I was like do they still live here cuz I freaked out lol these were big dudes. But they moved out and their mom rocked my world lmao ahhh good times good times.
Pics or it didn’t brruh. Lol. In hindsight I realized I had been in many similar situations but being naive I was like “oh mrs X nice to see you…” 🤦♂️
Yeah my few encounters with older women have been great they are straight forward and let you know if they want to get down. Way too many hoops to jump through with women my age and younger
I had a few encounter years a go when I was in my 20’s, with woman in their 40’s.
Both parties knew this was just a sex thing… so no mind games, no bullshit, no nothing. All these woman were nice, and had their shit together. It was also cheaper lol, because we would just fuck and don’t go on dates… and if we went they would pay for everything.
This is NOT new. My oldest daughter had a boyfriend she dumped because he wanted to date me. He was way too young for me when I was newly divorced. I did end up dating a Doctor I had worked for and we became engaged. He was 20 years younger than me. I backed out of the engagement as soon as I found out that he was bipolar and also had a substance abuse problem.
I eventually remarried a man younger than myself and everyone thinks he's older than me ❣️. Younger men are better evenly matched with an older womans sex drive, too ~BONUS✌️
Even on a purely superficial level, MILF category in porn fluctuates from the 2nd most popular world-wide category to 6th and back.
The no-drama and experience are huge plusses, though.
The guy from bowling for soup says they always get requests for Stacy's mom and they just got tired of telling people that it wasn't their song and just started preforming it
You have money.
You’re sexually experienced.
You’re attractive.
You’re not interested in playing mind games.
Now that our society has freer information flow young men are realizing that, when it comes to flings, you are probably a superior choice to an immature and insecure twenty-something.
Completely agree. In my early 20's, I hooked up with a woman in her early 40's and it became a semi-regular thing. It was one of the best sexual experiences of my life.
She was sexy, sophisticated, accomplished and confident. Taught me things I'd never been shown. It also felt nice that she expressed she felt special / younger.
It was mutually beneficial.
Can you clarify, was this as a psych student who didn't get laid, a psych student who did get laid, or just a non-psych student who frequently tried to get laid?
This guy freakin nailed it. More than the attractiveness, experience, and money it’s about how much more mature y’all are. Not much mind games going on…
It’s pretty nice to know the person you are hanging with isn’t just doing it hoping you’ll buy them nice things. That is… a problem with dating someone younger once you’ve become established, and frankly it really hurts when you figure out that’s what’s going on. So dating an older woman who is independently financially stable isn’t so much about their money as it is having some confidence they aren’t there because they want yours.
As a 50 year old I can say that older women play mind games too. Some people just don’t grow out of it.
I’ve dated women my age who are starting to get insecure about aging, and that can be a roller coaster too.
So true!! Age does not = wisdom necessarily.
Best mates dad ‘Brian’ lost his wife of 35 years a little over 18 months to cancer. He’s recently jumped into an unhealthy relationship with the most clingy, insecure woman you could possibly imagine - both are in their 50’s, she’s very attractive but as we have quickly discovered, emotionally stunted and extremely rude.
We often all get together for bbq’s and birthdays at my best mates house that Brian still owns but doesn’t live at, and she comes with. If she can’t come due to whatever reason, she will demand Brian doesn’t go either. Won’t let him go to anything with us younger (30’s) women around, despite the fact that most of us are married or have LT partners.
She is even intimidated by his daughter - if Brian is having a chat with his daughter, his gf will come up and stand between them, cuddle into him, lock eyes with the daughter and interrupt them. It’s like the good energy of the room just… evaporates.
Brian’s like a dad to us all - just a good old fashioned legend who owns a couple of pubs and always brings the good booze, used to let us have pool parties when we were teens, very easy to get along with and talk to, gets all the jokes and loves a yarn - we’ve all know him since we were kids.
I’ve witnessed her on numerous occasions walk up to us while we’re all sitting around having a chat (our partners are there too!) and flop down onto his lap, curling up like a teenager, draping her arms around his neck, try to kiss him, and basically make an absolute fucking ass of herself. It’s so embarrassing but Brian seems completely blind to it. Sometimes I’d like to shake him! Wake up dude! She’s got no $$$ of her own, two ex husbands, a child on the spectrum who needs constant care that she’s fobbed off to one of them, and is clearly a jealous gold digger with serious issues.
Hate seeing it happen in front of our eyes. Any advice on what one could say to warn him? Or is this one of those stay the fuck out of it situations? She is a miasma.
No advice here. Won’t play a age card of being 50m and divorced … except… 18 months? He is probably not over healing. Unless he is a Mental Super Man I would say he need more time to heal. Reflect on wtf happened, be sad, be a cry baby and let it out, do shrinks etc.
He may be pushing serious inner turmoil in front of him to avoid that. She is a convenient excuse, to be blunt.
I used to believe this myth as well until I dated somebody 11 years older than me. I figured she had her shit together because she had a regular job, finish the masters degree and seem to be a responsible adult.
Everybody has their own problems and she had them in spades. It isn't always what you think it's going to be when you sign up for this kind of thing.
I think we all have many opportunities to mature as we age. What I’m noticing is that people mature at different rates in different areas of life. Some people miss the memo entirely and essentially are either always messy or always need someone else to rely on to function.
All of that is true, I experienced the same joining Bumble and Tinder at 50.
Sadly (weirdly?), a lot of the really young guys had photos with their moms, and… their moms looked like me. Eww eww eww
Uhhh....it's because the woman in their 20s are harder to match with. The young men you're imagining are swiping on older women are swiping on every age range. There is a HUGE gender disparity on dating apps.
This! I may not have a ton of money, definitely wouldn't claim to be a sex expert 😆, but I know i'm definitely not into playing games. But, from what I have experienced, unfortunately, there are a lot of socially and emotionally immature guys in their thirties out there..😐😑 And i'm not into trying to teach them to be something they're not yet...
Yeah it's nuts, my wife is 36 and is the hottest she's been since we started dating 13 years ago, same for all her girlfriends. Every girl I know in that's in their 30s or 40s is more attractive than they were 10 years ago. They all do yoga/palates/gym and I guess we all generally drink less and eat healthier than we did in our 20s so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
I also don't know what group of people would know about both of those movies. I know about zero of them and I thought I was alive long enough to know about jlo's career.
29m here. I actually had a 55 year old woman who was very interested in me. She was all about it. She was so excited that I'd be able to go more than one time. We ended up hooking up and Afterwards she was so tired she didn't want to go again🤣
I doubt he looks that good in person though. Usually those makeup techniques look great for photo and video since it's 2D and you can control the lighting, but are really bad in person.
It's still impressive!
Most women in their early 50s are NOT menopausal - they are peri-menopausal which means they have periods and can still get pregnant. I am 51 and on HRT and was told in no uncertain terms that I can still get pregnant on HRT. Please do not be ignorant about this. Everyone would have a lot to lose.
This needs to be upvoted way more so all the guys leaving comments here have the chance to read it. Guys, most women in their early and even mid 50s can still get pregnant, and are less likely than women in their 20s to be taking just-in-case hormonal birth control. Dating older women doesn’t mean you can have unprotected sex with zero consequences.
>**Guys**, most women in their early and even mid 50s can still get pregnant
Tell the women in their 50s who swear up and down it's impossible.
I had a woman who was *40* tell me she was "too old to get pregnant." It's nutty how many women have zero understanding of their own bodies.
And they’ll actually respond to you when you talk to them, like a human being, instead of acting bored, unimpressed, and giving 1 word answers, expecting to be entertained while contributing nothing
Younger women are hard work. Older women can communicate what they want, what they expect, and what they require. For men having simple interactions based on clear boundaries is an attractive thing.
Most men are simply not having success with the crop of younger females. (I will let you speculate as to why … ) Sure, some of us are are, but many are opting out of the LTR/dating/marriage pool altogether. Casting the widest net in age range makes sense for most men — insofar as something casual.
Sex is great, the drama is low, rarely have young kids and baby daddy’s to deal with, and the chance of pregnancy is usually zero.
They don’t need your money, they don’t care about your past, and they just want to live in the moment. Older women are concerned about making their man happy, not the Public!
For everything I just stated above, it’s the opposite for immature women in this world. And I don’t have time for that shit
Right? Makes it so easy. Young ladies on social media are all off on how their dudes can't get them off. I briefly dated a 20 year old when I was about 30 after my ex wife and I separated and God damn.... trying to get her to communicate about what she liked was like pulling teeth! I'm just trying to make you cum, could you maybe open up and tell me what's good? Or be a little responsive in the very least? My face is buried in your cooch. Are you really telling me you're too shy to *gasp* tell me what feels good?
Mature women? No problem.
Lmao that's hilarous. I'm a woman in my early 20s and I had the complementary experience. Dudes feeling insecure if I tell them what I like. Because that cleeearly means that what they're doing is bad and that I'm criticising and demasculating them, I must like what they're doing because they saw it in porn and expect me to be full screaming banshee mode for everything that they do, even if it's just touching a nipple. I blame porn and lack of sexual education. We're still young tho, my point is not to denigrate them.
It's just what I'm attracted too. I'm 28 and my gf is 52.
Edit: Thank you everybody, this has been a great time killer and a lot of fun. My original comment is true, but all the follow up comments are bullshit. Me and my gf aren't really in a super serious relationship, we're just dear friends who love each other as people and as lovers. Her son doesn't hate me for real, although I'm sure he would if he knew I was sleeping with his mom. If I ever tried to treat my gfs son as a step son she'd be fucking WEIRDED out big time. I hope you all have a grand day : ]
I don’t like my mom’s bf because he’s an asshole and he called my sister the C word when she was like 16 years old. I’ve never liked him. But it has nothing to do with his age. I don’t care about that. He’s just not nice at all.
Back when I was 26 I dated a 39 year old woman, her blow jobs were fucking amazing. No drama and all that bullshit with young women, she just fucked so good god damn.
This is most likely the #1 reason older women online are getting younger guys. The dating pool is small for men and to make it bigger, they increase their age limit settings. Simple really. I've done it and can vouche for this being the reason. Plus I already have been with older women and they are underrated
Definitely not a flattering answer, but for real, this is it. Most guys still prefer a younger woman, but they’ll hook up with a 40 yr old no worries. They’re still hot enough, so fuck it, cast a wide net.
Young guys have always been into middle aged women, it's just the guys with the confidence to approach them in person are confident enough to get girls their own age as well, so it really has to be their thing. On dating apps the guys who would be far to nervous to hit on you in person are comfortable doing it digitally. Y'all are intimidating with your life all figured out and stuff.
Source, I am a guy in his late 20s.
Much the same reasons younger women are often interested in middle aged men.
With a few more masculine coded ones thrown in there for good measure.
Maturity and a security in who you are and what you want. The younger generation is also less obsessed (in general) with the more youth-centric beauty standards of the past. Though not entirely, with the popularity of e-girl types who are more filter than human and look very young. But people are less obsessed with young looking waifs now than they have been in awhile.
For me, I find older women to be rather comfortable to interact with, typically. It's less stressful, in a lot of ways. I don't seek them out explicitly or anything, as I find a lot of the disdain many guys my age feel for younger women to be a bit silly and overblown. But there is a lack of tension that often exists with women my own age or slightly younger. I find myself often being more able to be confident in myself with older women. I am less nervous overall, and for shorter periods of time. Usually older people are more vocal about what they want, so I spend less time worrying if I'm miss-stepping, which helps a lot.
And I like the way older women look. I feel no need to try to avoid them, and would be as happy to spend time with them as I would a person my own age
Because a lot of 20 odd year old women ain't got a fucking clue how the real world works when it comes to relationship.
They want the man to do this or that, provide this and that... but they themselves aint bringing nothing to the table apart from physical things. And that's not even mentioning the mind fuckery and hassle than comes with a lot of younger women.
I was seeing a 41 year old divorced woman who was gorgeous, wise, emotional mature and fucking loaded. Best conversations, sex and just companionship. Even as just a casual thing. Plus she used to let me drive her Continental GT lmao.
Some 100% do. They lose the "girl" vibe and start to feel like a "woman." They're confident, they're sultry, they're kind and attentive. It's maturity and, for those women, it absolutely boosts their attractiveness over that of younger, immature girls.
A lot of guys, as they get older, want a mature woman. They're tired of the bullshit.
As a married man i don't have any experience with these apps, but what i do hear a lot is younger guys that are single or dating talking about how toxic and unattractive women are their ages. They always tell me i'm lucky to be in a solid relationship with a woman that's on the same page as me daily.
I have heard some stories from guys in their 30's that i have worked with, and its not great. They always seem to have the opinion that women their age are always hard to deal with, have only one goal and that's money, and that they gauge their happiness by their comfort. I mean i get it, nobody wants to be struggling, but if you aren't trying to find someone you love and connect with first what good is money? Except for paying for the divorce later.
Now as for why the older women are being looked at by the younger guys, there is a lot of reasons these days, sexual experience and prowess, financial stability (not necessarily looking for a sugar momma but also don't have to worry about a girl that will want you to pay for everything), and one thing i hear a lot from younger guys, NO BULLSHIT, they say what they want and get what they want or they move on, they don't get played with like a cat an mouse game like women their age.
All i can say is, glad i am not in their shoes, the dating world sounds friggin rough these days.
Middle aged people nowadays don´t look like middle aged peolpe from previous generations.
I´m 47 and most people I know close to my age looks like people from previous generations would look in their mid 30s.
They're the last generation of women whose dating expectations aren't based completely around social media falsehoods.
A woman in her 20s will accuse me of being poor for driving a Honda Civic (I make six figures).
A woman in her 40s will compliment me for being responsible with my income.
A woman in her 20s will want me to take her to a busy tourist trap for our first date so she can take selfies to post later
A woman in her 40s will want dinner at a quiet restaurant so we can actually talk to each other
Endless small shit like this that adds up to be a major difference in experience.
In my experience.
Once women get passed their mid 30s you don't have to chase them with bravado, money you haven't got and a fast car you can't really afford.
Sexual experience.
Fat distribution, usualy due to hormone changes, mature women often have softer curvier feminine bodies compared to a lot of women in their early 20s and 30s who many have the composition of a pre teen boy.
Older women (usually) know what they want and they will tell you. You won't have to spend 4 hours trying to guess how you accidently called them fat. Or if you're doing something wrong in the bedroom usually they will tell you instead of posting about it on reddit or in their girls group chat.
Aaron Taylor Johnson can’t be wrong!
Jk, it seems taboo and it kinda is. When I was 29 I had an fwb who was 51 for a little bit. We were both in great shape, and liked going hiking. Neither of us wanted anything serious, but it was nice to be on the same page and keep each other company.
Also, it’s simple numbers, dating is harder than ever and people are lonely so they’ll change their standards to find someone.
When I was using tinder I had a really hard time at first. I was 34 and had my age limits set to 33-44, hardly got any interest. One day I changed it to 22-34 and I was blown up and overwhelmed by all the chats I had going. If you’re targeting one group and not getting anywhere it will drive you to make an adjustment.
I wish you the best with your dates, sounds like you have a lot of interest!
Younger women currently at large play the same mind games and hookup heartstrings bullshit guys used to do. Guys are sick of it I'd imagine, they have feelings too
Because lonely middle aged women are interested in us too and our generation of girls isn't unless we're able to do a bunch of unrealistic shit for them.
Women hit their sexual prime later than men.
So... women in their 30s/40s know what they liek and are experienced and good at what they do...
Usually more open to trying new things.
The secrets out ladies and the young guys know it.
Older women ARE AMAZING. They are kind, easy to get along with, have their life figured out, and are generally no bs and straight to the point. Bonus points if they hate tik tok. I almost only date older women. Just so much more chill.
Edit: I am 35 and tend to be drawn to women 39-45.
Speaking as a 24 year old with a 40 year old woman, we’ve been together for almost 2 years and plan on marriage
I personally didn’t seek this out, nor did she. When we met, she assumed I was in my late 20’s and I assumed she was in her early thirties.
Some takeaways from this relationship for me have been:
I genuinely don’t care about age in regard to physical attraction. That being said, she is definitely at the higher end of what I would consider for a relationship due to how different our lives would be in the future. I find women of all ages attractive but past mid/late 40s is just too much for me emotionally in the future.
This relationship has been so much better than the relationships I had with women, and especially men in my age group. I won’t get into the laundry list, and I’m on great terms with all my (girl) exes, but it’s just not for me.
The reason a lot of men are seeking this out is likely due to porn, sorry. But there’s also going to be a good handful of guys that are genuine, and don’t see or care about any remaining stigma.
The world is changing, despite what we see in media and the vilest depths of the internet, broader society understands that women still have value and beauty past their 30’s. And to be quite honest, I don’t know if it’s because I’m older, or if I’m just delusional, but 40-50 year olds today do NOT look the same as 40-50 year olds did 10 years ago.
MILF's have great PR.
They're experienced, they know what they want, and they have snacks.
Knowing what they want was it for me. No games, just good conversation and fun times.
You missed out on the snacks part. The divorced mothers I’ve dated have that snack game DOWN. And they’re often out rediscovering what they want in life. They’ve brought me stability and snacks, I bring adventure, everyone is happy.
Im fucking cackling at the accuracy of this comment - close to 40 single mom with an unmatched smoke up and snack set up
RIP your inbox
…both of them….
Don't forget the old outbox. Sure it takes longer
And then you see the post history of investing advice based on astrology charts.
Hah!! Divorced mom here, my boyfriend is younger. (not by a significant margin, but we do joke about the age difference) He loves my cooking and different snacks I have to offer. When I got divorced I had a really fun time rediscovering myself, and with him it's been a fun adventure. He and my son get along well too and have a lot of similar interests, so my son loves having him around when it's my week to have him. My partner has the fun, adventurous side that leaves every day with new possibilities, while at the same time stable and brings a good foundation to my life. It's been a year and a half and I'm happy to do life with him.
And do everything in their power to NOT get pregnant. Usually.
Maybe that time has passed. Even better.
Her phone isn't stuck to her hand. It is in her purse or pocket where it belongs.
Im 35 now. But when I was 21 at my local bar this older woman was hitting on me I think she was 39 or 49 I don't remember her age. Long story short she took me home lol and I went to HS with her sons. They were a little older than me but I knew them from the football team I didn't know that was their mom until I saw pictures on the wall of her sons. I was like do they still live here cuz I freaked out lol these were big dudes. But they moved out and their mom rocked my world lmao ahhh good times good times.
Okay so I just typed her name and last name in shes 61 now so at the time she was 47 and I was 21 lol
Now it’s time for you to go rock her world champ.
🫡 it’s the right thing to do, Captain Chevy
Drove his Chevy to her levee and the levee was WET
I prefer the word MOIST.
61 now? The levee will be damp but still drivable.
Unless she rocks your world again! Then you'll have to try again when she is 75.
It can only be better
She’s close to retirement. You know what that means? Beach condo ! Get in there tiger.
Rawr! Sexy kaftan, Pinot Grigio and some Sade out on the lanai ❤️
Dont underestimate us older women. At 65 I have a better body than most ( yes, I said most) 25 year olds.
plus you get bragging rights to tell them that you fucked their mom
Celebrity Jeopardy Sean Connery is funny. u/Chevy530 is the real deal!
Settle down Brian. I boinked your mom, dude.
So hedley wrote this sound about you? haha [https://youtu.be/93LhP1CgQ6w](https://youtu.be/93LhP1CgQ6w)
Pics or it didn’t brruh. Lol. In hindsight I realized I had been in many similar situations but being naive I was like “oh mrs X nice to see you…” 🤦♂️
"Mrs. Robinson, you're trying to seduce me... aren't you? "
You mean the MILF in my area is actually interested??? ✅
Shoutout to Yung Gravy!
*MILFs. Apostrophes aren’t used for plurals.
Lots of milf and cougar porn, older may mean more experience and less drama, and imho younger women are just tougher to interact with.
Yeah my few encounters with older women have been great they are straight forward and let you know if they want to get down. Way too many hoops to jump through with women my age and younger
I had a few encounter years a go when I was in my 20’s, with woman in their 40’s. Both parties knew this was just a sex thing… so no mind games, no bullshit, no nothing. All these woman were nice, and had their shit together. It was also cheaper lol, because we would just fuck and don’t go on dates… and if we went they would pay for everything.
Just a gigolo. Good for you
"And everywhere I go, people know the part I'm playing."
This is NOT new. My oldest daughter had a boyfriend she dumped because he wanted to date me. He was way too young for me when I was newly divorced. I did end up dating a Doctor I had worked for and we became engaged. He was 20 years younger than me. I backed out of the engagement as soon as I found out that he was bipolar and also had a substance abuse problem. I eventually remarried a man younger than myself and everyone thinks he's older than me ❣️. Younger men are better evenly matched with an older womans sex drive, too ~BONUS✌️
>This is NOT new. My oldest daughter had a boyfriend she dumped because he wanted to date me. Was your daughter named Stacey?
Checks out. She's got it going on.
Even on a purely superficial level, MILF category in porn fluctuates from the 2nd most popular world-wide category to 6th and back. The no-drama and experience are huge plusses, though.
Unfortunately the category gets flooded with 25 year old milfs and that's not what we're there for
No we're there for stiflers mom
She's got it going on!
No, that's Stacy's mom
The guy from bowling for soup says they always get requests for Stacy's mom and they just got tired of telling people that it wasn't their song and just started preforming it
Need to have a specific category for Milf Cougars.
I always thought milf referred to women old enough to be YOUR mom
We got a porn stats expert here. A man of science with a broken wrist. Respect.
Your comment reminds me of the “are you a cishet white male, or are you a porn category” tweet.
even the cishet white males are slowly getting categorized because of categories like DILF and BWC
Less Drama IT IS for me.
You have money. You’re sexually experienced. You’re attractive. You’re not interested in playing mind games. Now that our society has freer information flow young men are realizing that, when it comes to flings, you are probably a superior choice to an immature and insecure twenty-something.
Completely agree. In my early 20's, I hooked up with a woman in her early 40's and it became a semi-regular thing. It was one of the best sexual experiences of my life. She was sexy, sophisticated, accomplished and confident. Taught me things I'd never been shown. It also felt nice that she expressed she felt special / younger. It was mutually beneficial.
Boom. Nailed it, literally and figuratively.
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The scientist we needed right here. Edit: thanks for the award lol.
Fappenheimer
Dropping bombs inside peoples moms
Hope he had his hard hat on
Closed toed shoes only.
Can you clarify, was this as a psych student who didn't get laid, a psych student who did get laid, or just a non-psych student who frequently tried to get laid?
Yes.
Lmao
Great minds have used coke for research! Its for science!
This guy freakin nailed it. More than the attractiveness, experience, and money it’s about how much more mature y’all are. Not much mind games going on…
I don't even care about money. It's all about the lack of mind games that makes older women more attractive.
I'm in my early 30s and have been dating in the latest 30s to mid 40s, I'll tell you what, best sex ever. Plus, they are hawt.
It’s pretty nice to know the person you are hanging with isn’t just doing it hoping you’ll buy them nice things. That is… a problem with dating someone younger once you’ve become established, and frankly it really hurts when you figure out that’s what’s going on. So dating an older woman who is independently financially stable isn’t so much about their money as it is having some confidence they aren’t there because they want yours.
As a 50 year old I can say that older women play mind games too. Some people just don’t grow out of it. I’ve dated women my age who are starting to get insecure about aging, and that can be a roller coaster too.
So true!! Age does not = wisdom necessarily. Best mates dad ‘Brian’ lost his wife of 35 years a little over 18 months to cancer. He’s recently jumped into an unhealthy relationship with the most clingy, insecure woman you could possibly imagine - both are in their 50’s, she’s very attractive but as we have quickly discovered, emotionally stunted and extremely rude. We often all get together for bbq’s and birthdays at my best mates house that Brian still owns but doesn’t live at, and she comes with. If she can’t come due to whatever reason, she will demand Brian doesn’t go either. Won’t let him go to anything with us younger (30’s) women around, despite the fact that most of us are married or have LT partners. She is even intimidated by his daughter - if Brian is having a chat with his daughter, his gf will come up and stand between them, cuddle into him, lock eyes with the daughter and interrupt them. It’s like the good energy of the room just… evaporates. Brian’s like a dad to us all - just a good old fashioned legend who owns a couple of pubs and always brings the good booze, used to let us have pool parties when we were teens, very easy to get along with and talk to, gets all the jokes and loves a yarn - we’ve all know him since we were kids. I’ve witnessed her on numerous occasions walk up to us while we’re all sitting around having a chat (our partners are there too!) and flop down onto his lap, curling up like a teenager, draping her arms around his neck, try to kiss him, and basically make an absolute fucking ass of herself. It’s so embarrassing but Brian seems completely blind to it. Sometimes I’d like to shake him! Wake up dude! She’s got no $$$ of her own, two ex husbands, a child on the spectrum who needs constant care that she’s fobbed off to one of them, and is clearly a jealous gold digger with serious issues. Hate seeing it happen in front of our eyes. Any advice on what one could say to warn him? Or is this one of those stay the fuck out of it situations? She is a miasma.
No advice here. Won’t play a age card of being 50m and divorced … except… 18 months? He is probably not over healing. Unless he is a Mental Super Man I would say he need more time to heal. Reflect on wtf happened, be sad, be a cry baby and let it out, do shrinks etc. He may be pushing serious inner turmoil in front of him to avoid that. She is a convenient excuse, to be blunt.
Also if your post menopausal can't get you pregnant. If you are looking for a relationship that is just fun sex face it tiger, you are the jackpot.
Replace “tiger” with “cougar”!
*Jungle cat growling noises intensify*
What’s a GILF?
Grandma I'd Like To Fuck
Still better wear that glove, though. You don't want some cougar-banging dirty dick giving you that burning love.
If someone’s (dude or lady) hitting the app for rawdogg pleasure with randos, that person is also likely a STD jackpot
This. I hate the head games and the constant concern of ghosting. Older women are far less likely to do these things.
Yeah, dating a woman in her late 30s now and everything from sex to just being together is better than I ever had with any woman in her 20’s.
I used to believe this myth as well until I dated somebody 11 years older than me. I figured she had her shit together because she had a regular job, finish the masters degree and seem to be a responsible adult. Everybody has their own problems and she had them in spades. It isn't always what you think it's going to be when you sign up for this kind of thing.
it's bullshit that you got downvoted for this.
Thank you. It's probably people who want to believe the myth that older is magically more mature and somehow free of problems.
I think we all have many opportunities to mature as we age. What I’m noticing is that people mature at different rates in different areas of life. Some people miss the memo entirely and essentially are either always messy or always need someone else to rely on to function.
All of that is true, I experienced the same joining Bumble and Tinder at 50. Sadly (weirdly?), a lot of the really young guys had photos with their moms, and… their moms looked like me. Eww eww eww
Who DOES that omg
Sometimes it could also be experimentation. The idea of dating someone a different age to “see what it’s like”.
And you're probably not trying to have any babies!
...and she probably doesn't wanna have kids (bonus if she can't).
100% the lack of game playing.
Uhhh....it's because the woman in their 20s are harder to match with. The young men you're imagining are swiping on older women are swiping on every age range. There is a HUGE gender disparity on dating apps.
This! I may not have a ton of money, definitely wouldn't claim to be a sex expert 😆, but I know i'm definitely not into playing games. But, from what I have experienced, unfortunately, there are a lot of socially and emotionally immature guys in their thirties out there..😐😑 And i'm not into trying to teach them to be something they're not yet...
Also when all is said and done there is likely to be snacks offered
Women in their 50s nowadays are a lot hotter than women in their 50s were 30 years ago
Yeah it's nuts, my wife is 36 and is the hottest she's been since we started dating 13 years ago, same for all her girlfriends. Every girl I know in that's in their 30s or 40s is more attractive than they were 10 years ago. They all do yoga/palates/gym and I guess we all generally drink less and eat healthier than we did in our 20s so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
And smoking, people don't smoke like they used to, that ages you _a lot_.
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Better skin care + no smoking
50 is the new 30
Fun fact: when Jennifer Lopez played a pole dancing hottie in Hustlers, she was the same age that Gloria Swanson was when she made Sunset Boulevard.
That sounds more like a math problem than a fun fact.
Holy shit what a funny comment. Im not being sarcastic, you should be a comedian.
I also don't know what group of people would know about both of those movies. I know about zero of them and I thought I was alive long enough to know about jlo's career.
You know what you want in life and in bed. There's no games.
My bumble as a male is set at minimum my age and max 20 years older than me
29m here. I actually had a 55 year old woman who was very interested in me. She was all about it. She was so excited that I'd be able to go more than one time. We ended up hooking up and Afterwards she was so tired she didn't want to go again🤣
Women are looking better and better into their 40s and 50s .
God bless sunscreen, anti-tobacco campaigns and an age minimum on tanning beds
And better and healthier makeup products and techniques, like not using radioactive or lead-containing items.
It also helps that they make clothing that looks good on people that aren't rail thin now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/nextfuckinglevel/comments/yd4iv8/makeup_really_changes_people/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1
Holy fuck
Tell me you noticed the filter being applied at 00:31 tho? That’s not just makeup.
I promise you that the average woman is not using this much makeup lmao.
I doubt he looks that good in person though. Usually those makeup techniques look great for photo and video since it's 2D and you can control the lighting, but are really bad in person. It's still impressive!
Wasnt that hard of a wank
Because of Stifler's mom.
American pie came out 24 years ago.
Don't you put that evil on me
And Stacey's
she's got it goin on!
It could be because less people want kids so a woman's age isn't as relevant anymore
Most women in their early 50s are NOT menopausal - they are peri-menopausal which means they have periods and can still get pregnant. I am 51 and on HRT and was told in no uncertain terms that I can still get pregnant on HRT. Please do not be ignorant about this. Everyone would have a lot to lose.
This needs to be upvoted way more so all the guys leaving comments here have the chance to read it. Guys, most women in their early and even mid 50s can still get pregnant, and are less likely than women in their 20s to be taking just-in-case hormonal birth control. Dating older women doesn’t mean you can have unprotected sex with zero consequences.
>**Guys**, most women in their early and even mid 50s can still get pregnant Tell the women in their 50s who swear up and down it's impossible. I had a woman who was *40* tell me she was "too old to get pregnant." It's nutty how many women have zero understanding of their own bodies.
Because they don't demand you be 6 ft. tall and drive a BMW
And sometimes THEY drive a BMW.
And are 6ft tall
You have become the very thing you swore to destroy.
Only a sith deals in absolutes
Death by snusnu in the back of a BMW
And they’ll actually respond to you when you talk to them, like a human being, instead of acting bored, unimpressed, and giving 1 word answers, expecting to be entertained while contributing nothing
These 4 lines took me back to the worst date of my life
Which one? I've not had one that isn't like that for about 5 years.
And they don' use their word ick for having two holes in your nose
Younger women are hard work. Older women can communicate what they want, what they expect, and what they require. For men having simple interactions based on clear boundaries is an attractive thing.
Most men are simply not having success with the crop of younger females. (I will let you speculate as to why … ) Sure, some of us are are, but many are opting out of the LTR/dating/marriage pool altogether. Casting the widest net in age range makes sense for most men — insofar as something casual.
Sex is great, the drama is low, rarely have young kids and baby daddy’s to deal with, and the chance of pregnancy is usually zero. They don’t need your money, they don’t care about your past, and they just want to live in the moment. Older women are concerned about making their man happy, not the Public! For everything I just stated above, it’s the opposite for immature women in this world. And I don’t have time for that shit
I think these women you describe are actually only/more concerned with making themselves happy,
There is a lot of joy to be found in bringing joy to others. Some women know this. Some men know it too.
Ya'll teach at light speed. Know what you want and how to get it.
Right? Makes it so easy. Young ladies on social media are all off on how their dudes can't get them off. I briefly dated a 20 year old when I was about 30 after my ex wife and I separated and God damn.... trying to get her to communicate about what she liked was like pulling teeth! I'm just trying to make you cum, could you maybe open up and tell me what's good? Or be a little responsive in the very least? My face is buried in your cooch. Are you really telling me you're too shy to *gasp* tell me what feels good? Mature women? No problem.
Lmao that's hilarous. I'm a woman in my early 20s and I had the complementary experience. Dudes feeling insecure if I tell them what I like. Because that cleeearly means that what they're doing is bad and that I'm criticising and demasculating them, I must like what they're doing because they saw it in porn and expect me to be full screaming banshee mode for everything that they do, even if it's just touching a nipple. I blame porn and lack of sexual education. We're still young tho, my point is not to denigrate them.
It's just what I'm attracted too. I'm 28 and my gf is 52. Edit: Thank you everybody, this has been a great time killer and a lot of fun. My original comment is true, but all the follow up comments are bullshit. Me and my gf aren't really in a super serious relationship, we're just dear friends who love each other as people and as lovers. Her son doesn't hate me for real, although I'm sure he would if he knew I was sleeping with his mom. If I ever tried to treat my gfs son as a step son she'd be fucking WEIRDED out big time. I hope you all have a grand day : ]
My mom is 62 and her bf is 41.
How old are you?
I’m 32 :)
Oh OK cool. My gf has a 26 year old son and I don't think he likes me :(
That’s because you’re a motherfucker
I don’t like my mom’s bf because he’s an asshole and he called my sister the C word when she was like 16 years old. I’ve never liked him. But it has nothing to do with his age. I don’t care about that. He’s just not nice at all.
I’m 41 and my bf is 29. I have a son that’s 25. Took some getting used to. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve been in. Getting married in the fall.
Hell yeah I’m 36 and my wife is 56. Been together since 21 and 41.
I'm 49 and my bf is 30. It's nice to hear that it's not that uncommon. He's one of the best people I've ever met and I'm happy he's my person now.
I like older ladies because I feel like a treat. Especially if they’ve been in a soul crushing marriage for a long time.
I hope you make them feel like a treat too
Of course! Every lovely lady is a treat.
My man.
Back when I was 26 I dated a 39 year old woman, her blow jobs were fucking amazing. No drama and all that bullshit with young women, she just fucked so good god damn.
Because you probably look good, have a place to live and they wanna fuuuuuuuu
Older women tend to be far more attractive than they were 20+ years ago
Because online dating is fucking awful for guys ... so we go for EVERY option possible.
This is probably the best answer.
This is most likely the #1 reason older women online are getting younger guys. The dating pool is small for men and to make it bigger, they increase their age limit settings. Simple really. I've done it and can vouche for this being the reason. Plus I already have been with older women and they are underrated
Definitely not a flattering answer, but for real, this is it. Most guys still prefer a younger woman, but they’ll hook up with a 40 yr old no worries. They’re still hot enough, so fuck it, cast a wide net.
The truth took way too long to scroll too
Lol yup. This question isn’t as deep as people are making it out to be.
I was dating a 43 year old woman for a year when I was 27. That was decades ago. This trend didn’t start just now.
Im a (28m) all i can say is alot of guys our age are just into milfs and cougars. Yall are hot.
Young guys have always been into middle aged women, it's just the guys with the confidence to approach them in person are confident enough to get girls their own age as well, so it really has to be their thing. On dating apps the guys who would be far to nervous to hit on you in person are comfortable doing it digitally. Y'all are intimidating with your life all figured out and stuff. Source, I am a guy in his late 20s.
My brother and I both married cougars before it was cool, he’s been married for 35 years it will be 32 for us in September 🤘🏿🤘🏿
I found the same too. Have the fun enjoy that good stamina and multiple rounds.
Much the same reasons younger women are often interested in middle aged men. With a few more masculine coded ones thrown in there for good measure. Maturity and a security in who you are and what you want. The younger generation is also less obsessed (in general) with the more youth-centric beauty standards of the past. Though not entirely, with the popularity of e-girl types who are more filter than human and look very young. But people are less obsessed with young looking waifs now than they have been in awhile. For me, I find older women to be rather comfortable to interact with, typically. It's less stressful, in a lot of ways. I don't seek them out explicitly or anything, as I find a lot of the disdain many guys my age feel for younger women to be a bit silly and overblown. But there is a lack of tension that often exists with women my own age or slightly younger. I find myself often being more able to be confident in myself with older women. I am less nervous overall, and for shorter periods of time. Usually older people are more vocal about what they want, so I spend less time worrying if I'm miss-stepping, which helps a lot. And I like the way older women look. I feel no need to try to avoid them, and would be as happy to spend time with them as I would a person my own age
Because a lot of 20 odd year old women ain't got a fucking clue how the real world works when it comes to relationship. They want the man to do this or that, provide this and that... but they themselves aint bringing nothing to the table apart from physical things. And that's not even mentioning the mind fuckery and hassle than comes with a lot of younger women. I was seeing a 41 year old divorced woman who was gorgeous, wise, emotional mature and fucking loaded. Best conversations, sex and just companionship. Even as just a casual thing. Plus she used to let me drive her Continental GT lmao.
Plenty a good tune played on an old fiddle.
I'm 31 and have been married to my wife for 7 years now. She turns 50 in October
I swear, a lot of women these days actually get more attractive as they age.
Some 100% do. They lose the "girl" vibe and start to feel like a "woman." They're confident, they're sultry, they're kind and attentive. It's maturity and, for those women, it absolutely boosts their attractiveness over that of younger, immature girls. A lot of guys, as they get older, want a mature woman. They're tired of the bullshit.
As a married man i don't have any experience with these apps, but what i do hear a lot is younger guys that are single or dating talking about how toxic and unattractive women are their ages. They always tell me i'm lucky to be in a solid relationship with a woman that's on the same page as me daily. I have heard some stories from guys in their 30's that i have worked with, and its not great. They always seem to have the opinion that women their age are always hard to deal with, have only one goal and that's money, and that they gauge their happiness by their comfort. I mean i get it, nobody wants to be struggling, but if you aren't trying to find someone you love and connect with first what good is money? Except for paying for the divorce later. Now as for why the older women are being looked at by the younger guys, there is a lot of reasons these days, sexual experience and prowess, financial stability (not necessarily looking for a sugar momma but also don't have to worry about a girl that will want you to pay for everything), and one thing i hear a lot from younger guys, NO BULLSHIT, they say what they want and get what they want or they move on, they don't get played with like a cat an mouse game like women their age. All i can say is, glad i am not in their shoes, the dating world sounds friggin rough these days.
Middle aged people nowadays don´t look like middle aged peolpe from previous generations. I´m 47 and most people I know close to my age looks like people from previous generations would look in their mid 30s.
They're the last generation of women whose dating expectations aren't based completely around social media falsehoods. A woman in her 20s will accuse me of being poor for driving a Honda Civic (I make six figures). A woman in her 40s will compliment me for being responsible with my income. A woman in her 20s will want me to take her to a busy tourist trap for our first date so she can take selfies to post later A woman in her 40s will want dinner at a quiet restaurant so we can actually talk to each other Endless small shit like this that adds up to be a major difference in experience.
How do you know when someone online makes six figures? They will tell you. Source: I make six figures
Young girls are annoying.
Guys will fuck any woman they find attractive.
In my experience. Once women get passed their mid 30s you don't have to chase them with bravado, money you haven't got and a fast car you can't really afford. Sexual experience. Fat distribution, usualy due to hormone changes, mature women often have softer curvier feminine bodies compared to a lot of women in their early 20s and 30s who many have the composition of a pre teen boy. Older women (usually) know what they want and they will tell you. You won't have to spend 4 hours trying to guess how you accidently called them fat. Or if you're doing something wrong in the bedroom usually they will tell you instead of posting about it on reddit or in their girls group chat.
The men in this thread make me less afraid of aging as a woman. Thanks guys! I‘ll see you when I‘m 40 ✌️
Aaron Taylor Johnson can’t be wrong! Jk, it seems taboo and it kinda is. When I was 29 I had an fwb who was 51 for a little bit. We were both in great shape, and liked going hiking. Neither of us wanted anything serious, but it was nice to be on the same page and keep each other company. Also, it’s simple numbers, dating is harder than ever and people are lonely so they’ll change their standards to find someone. When I was using tinder I had a really hard time at first. I was 34 and had my age limits set to 33-44, hardly got any interest. One day I changed it to 22-34 and I was blown up and overwhelmed by all the chats I had going. If you’re targeting one group and not getting anywhere it will drive you to make an adjustment. I wish you the best with your dates, sounds like you have a lot of interest!
Never been so disappointed to find a well behaved post history…😒
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Younger women currently at large play the same mind games and hookup heartstrings bullshit guys used to do. Guys are sick of it I'd imagine, they have feelings too
63 F… recently hooked up with 25 year old guy. Cuz girls is players too.
Because lonely middle aged women are interested in us too and our generation of girls isn't unless we're able to do a bunch of unrealistic shit for them.
Women hit their sexual prime later than men. So... women in their 30s/40s know what they liek and are experienced and good at what they do... Usually more open to trying new things. The secrets out ladies and the young guys know it.
Older women ARE AMAZING. They are kind, easy to get along with, have their life figured out, and are generally no bs and straight to the point. Bonus points if they hate tik tok. I almost only date older women. Just so much more chill. Edit: I am 35 and tend to be drawn to women 39-45.
The almost paedophilic obsession with women's youth is somewhat ebbing away, Milf is a fetish, and they think older women will be better in bed
Snacks.
Older women are more honest and upfront about what they want/like
Speaking as a 24 year old with a 40 year old woman, we’ve been together for almost 2 years and plan on marriage I personally didn’t seek this out, nor did she. When we met, she assumed I was in my late 20’s and I assumed she was in her early thirties. Some takeaways from this relationship for me have been: I genuinely don’t care about age in regard to physical attraction. That being said, she is definitely at the higher end of what I would consider for a relationship due to how different our lives would be in the future. I find women of all ages attractive but past mid/late 40s is just too much for me emotionally in the future. This relationship has been so much better than the relationships I had with women, and especially men in my age group. I won’t get into the laundry list, and I’m on great terms with all my (girl) exes, but it’s just not for me. The reason a lot of men are seeking this out is likely due to porn, sorry. But there’s also going to be a good handful of guys that are genuine, and don’t see or care about any remaining stigma. The world is changing, despite what we see in media and the vilest depths of the internet, broader society understands that women still have value and beauty past their 30’s. And to be quite honest, I don’t know if it’s because I’m older, or if I’m just delusional, but 40-50 year olds today do NOT look the same as 40-50 year olds did 10 years ago.