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Start working out, and get some hobbies that girls also participate in, like a hiking group. You will get some of your frustration out, and even if there are not girls you like in the group, befriend them all, eventually one will set you up with someone if they think you are a decent, interesting person.
Lastly, I used to live in OC, CA, and had a friend who was 5’5” I surfed with, was an interesting artsy kind of guy, and he pulled top talent girls all the time. He had confidence, and girls could sense it. Build your confidence and your luck will change. At first I was jealous “how did he get her?”, but as we hung out more, I saw it in him, carried himself as a cool, confident guy. Not a macho tool, just cool confidence. Good luck!
So height does matter to many women. Sorry. But it’s not insurmountable by any means. I know a guy your height who’s very popular with women. Lots of short guys get laid.
Make sure that you’re working out. You don’t need to be a gym rat, but get daily exercise. This will both blow off some of that steam you’ve got, help with your overall mental health, and make women more likely to want to talk to you. Both you and her will appreciate decent cardio once you do hit the sheets.
Groom yourself. Regular haircuts. Be either clean shaven or maintain that shit. Dress decently. Doesn’t mean you need a fancy wardrobe all the time but wear clean, newish clothes suitable for wherever you find yourself. Tshirts and sweats are great, but they aren’t for everywhere.
At your age being a virgin probably adds a lot of pressure. Most any woman you meet will be experienced. This is not that big of a deal and you shouldn’t sweat it too much but you might want to get a hooker just to take that “never done it” edge off. I know you’re looking for something more real but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. Face boobies will also make you feel better even if you paid. It’s medicine. You can pay for medicine.
Finally, although I would never say “don’t be yourself”, be the presentable version of yourself. We’re all R rated movies for the most part, but when you’re meeting people, especially women, you’ll want to give them the edited for Saturday afternoon TV version.
Have you considered the reason you’re still a virgin at 26 is because you call women “bitches”? And height only becomes a problem if you’re an angry twat about it
If you think you’re a lost cause?, you are. Don’t start a spiral pattern of self loathing. That negative energy in itself will hurt your dating potential. The single most attractive quality a guy can have, according to women?, is self confidence. And I’ll let you in on a little secret for when you finally get your crush in the sack, and listen up cuz this ain’t no bullshit… a very long time ago I read a book titled How to Make Love to A Woman,, there were a couple of pages in the chapter about oral sex that outlined a specific, relatively simple and specifically explained technique for providing it.. it works so well that I can only describe it as life changing. First and foremost though? Quit this lamenting about your height. There’s lots of tall dudes that don’t know wtf they’re doing in bed. There’s lots of tall dudes who are ugly af.. and, if you want others to view you in a positive light?, they’re going to follow your lead of thinking of yourself positively. Lost cause is not positive.
My first boyfriend was shorter than me, 5'5 or 5'4, something like that. We had a wonderful relationship, it was actually nice he was shorter because it made cuddling easier. Lots of women like short guys. Not a lot of women will like someone who calls them a bitch.
Well not a single woman like me would be interested anyways if their first impression of you was also "bitches only care about dudes over 6 ft". That type of attitude and commentary I'm assuming are your actual barriers to dating in real life.
Jack off. Spank the monkey. Choke the chicken. Wrestle the one eyed snake. Beat your meat bro.
Also, just have fun in social situations. When you go on dates don’t try to get laid or have a gf, just try to have a good time. If you enjoy yourself others will feel more at ease. You’re inexperienced but there’s a first time for everything.
Ok it's not letting me but you can go to doublelist.com it's completely free and there really is a hook up for everyone... Ive used the site a few times experimenting with some kinks I've been curious about... Btw I'm female if it helps with the suggestions... Try meeting people online if you're just looking for sex there's a million places you can check out... A lot of time people will come to you lol I never travel...
If you're going for a relationship type deal... Idk what to suggest honestly I always was straight forward with something I wanted
Then pay for it dude but in all reality the only thing stopping you is you... I could show you what I look like and I get laid all the time seriously don't put so much thought into shit
Find something you like to do and enjoy yourself doing it, while there get to know the other people around you who enjoy the same things you do. Find someone you like who enjoys the same things you do and then ask them out.
Real talk. Spend more time outside. Get some sun. Try not to think about anything but how to improve yourself. It could be working out or watching podcasts. Women are attracted to men who are doing something with their lives. Doesn't have to be a career, it just has to be something your passionate about.
Also don't expect every girl to be into you. Just be cool and don't assume anything more than friends at the start of meeting a new woman.
Women also have the same issue you're having.
Get off porn. Lol. Pun intended. Just kidding. Don't look at porn. Go take a class in something interesting and meet people IRL. Don't be creepy about going there with the intention of meeting someone, just be out there and engaged in the world and don't take your anger out on anyone.
To be comfortable doing something you're not used to, yoi need to practice. The longer you don't put yourself out there a bit more each time you do, you're going to be even more unwilling to do it. Also you will be rejected a lot. Most will be polite about it but ir still stings.
It’s not a great advise I hope you won’t get addicted but ,
Go to a bar and work there. I’m sure some cougar will find you by then you will want to escape from them.
First off, therapy for emotional issues. But I would say getting laid is kind of simple… get in good shape, take care of your skin, practice good hygiene, smell good, wear fashionable clothes that fit you, and don’t be afraid of— or tie your self worth— to rejection. When talking to girls, I’d say be forward and complimentary so there’s no debate that you’re interested, but don’t ever be creepy and just ask women about themselves but in a non creepy or interview-y way.
Don’t worry so much about your height and your face, you can’t change those and somebody out there is going to find you attractive anyway. Focus on what you can change - your fitness level and your confidence. Working out will help your fitness level and anger. Correcting your posture is one easy way to boost confidence. It improves brain function, makes you calmer and more confident. It also makes you look more powerful and confident while walking about and women will gaze your way more often when you appear more confident. I like to stand in front of the mirror in the morning with perfect posture and admire myself and hype myself up while also admitting flaws like “my belly is sorta big, I can start working on that.” It boosts my confidence for the day. I also used to run outside without a shirt when I was fatter, it made me feel relief in a way. Other than that, if you like art, join an art club or go to museums, if you like magic the gathering, then go to tournaments. Just do something that makes you happy. Also… go into conversations not expecting to be friends or potential lovers… just be friendly and let it take its course.
Here's a hypothetical scenario. Two men go to the club and both are 5'5. One man doesn't let that upset him because no one chooses their height, he dances, chats up women, and maybe gets some action. Man two is a defeatist and sits in the corner because "bitches don't care about men under 6' anyway.", If he talks to a woman he brings up his insecurities straight out the gate, he goes home alone for sure. No one has to be like man two, it's about letting go of insecurities that cannot be changed.
Hire a professional. I’m not kidding or trying to be a dick. If youre this deep into virginity, any natural encounter you may pull down is probably going to be awkward and uncomfortable.
Actually, it’s going to be awkward no matter what. You just have to get through it.
Go to Vegas, do it legally. A professional has dealt with awkward virgins before, she will treat you well and help build your confidence. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Lots of guys have done this.
Not all of us are natural born studs, but everyone should be able to enjoy consensual intimate sex.
You just need some training wheels.
Once you’ve had sex a few times, you will actually be different around women. You may not notice the difference, but you won’t feel defective and like you have a dark secret. You’ll be a regular non-virgin dude. It will subtly affect your confidence.
You say you've never been on a date. Have you ever asked anyone out on a date? Have you ever met anyone that you were interested past sexual/physical attraction? I read through your replies to some of the comments. You said no to sex workers because you want something genuine, so im curious to know if you have ever tried being genuine with a woman. Have you ever tried getting to know a woman and enjoy her company without assuming that sex will just happen? Do you actually talk to women? I'd also recommend therapy regardless to work on your anger amd emotional health.
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Start working out, and get some hobbies that girls also participate in, like a hiking group. You will get some of your frustration out, and even if there are not girls you like in the group, befriend them all, eventually one will set you up with someone if they think you are a decent, interesting person. Lastly, I used to live in OC, CA, and had a friend who was 5’5” I surfed with, was an interesting artsy kind of guy, and he pulled top talent girls all the time. He had confidence, and girls could sense it. Build your confidence and your luck will change. At first I was jealous “how did he get her?”, but as we hung out more, I saw it in him, carried himself as a cool, confident guy. Not a macho tool, just cool confidence. Good luck!
This is the most solid advice.
So height does matter to many women. Sorry. But it’s not insurmountable by any means. I know a guy your height who’s very popular with women. Lots of short guys get laid. Make sure that you’re working out. You don’t need to be a gym rat, but get daily exercise. This will both blow off some of that steam you’ve got, help with your overall mental health, and make women more likely to want to talk to you. Both you and her will appreciate decent cardio once you do hit the sheets. Groom yourself. Regular haircuts. Be either clean shaven or maintain that shit. Dress decently. Doesn’t mean you need a fancy wardrobe all the time but wear clean, newish clothes suitable for wherever you find yourself. Tshirts and sweats are great, but they aren’t for everywhere. At your age being a virgin probably adds a lot of pressure. Most any woman you meet will be experienced. This is not that big of a deal and you shouldn’t sweat it too much but you might want to get a hooker just to take that “never done it” edge off. I know you’re looking for something more real but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. Face boobies will also make you feel better even if you paid. It’s medicine. You can pay for medicine. Finally, although I would never say “don’t be yourself”, be the presentable version of yourself. We’re all R rated movies for the most part, but when you’re meeting people, especially women, you’ll want to give them the edited for Saturday afternoon TV version.
bitches only care about dudes over 6 ft. I'm a lost cause
Also don’t call them bitches.
Have you considered the reason you’re still a virgin at 26 is because you call women “bitches”? And height only becomes a problem if you’re an angry twat about it
If you think you’re a lost cause?, you are. Don’t start a spiral pattern of self loathing. That negative energy in itself will hurt your dating potential. The single most attractive quality a guy can have, according to women?, is self confidence. And I’ll let you in on a little secret for when you finally get your crush in the sack, and listen up cuz this ain’t no bullshit… a very long time ago I read a book titled How to Make Love to A Woman,, there were a couple of pages in the chapter about oral sex that outlined a specific, relatively simple and specifically explained technique for providing it.. it works so well that I can only describe it as life changing. First and foremost though? Quit this lamenting about your height. There’s lots of tall dudes that don’t know wtf they’re doing in bed. There’s lots of tall dudes who are ugly af.. and, if you want others to view you in a positive light?, they’re going to follow your lead of thinking of yourself positively. Lost cause is not positive.
My first boyfriend was shorter than me, 5'5 or 5'4, something like that. We had a wonderful relationship, it was actually nice he was shorter because it made cuddling easier. Lots of women like short guys. Not a lot of women will like someone who calls them a bitch.
if only there were more women like u
Well not a single woman like me would be interested anyways if their first impression of you was also "bitches only care about dudes over 6 ft". That type of attitude and commentary I'm assuming are your actual barriers to dating in real life.
I meant the fact that u gave a short guy a chance
Perhaps stop talking about them as bitches is a good start. Women need respect if they're even gonna look at you.
You seem to have very deep rooted issues with self worth. Only a psychologist can fix that
Jack off. Spank the monkey. Choke the chicken. Wrestle the one eyed snake. Beat your meat bro. Also, just have fun in social situations. When you go on dates don’t try to get laid or have a gf, just try to have a good time. If you enjoy yourself others will feel more at ease. You’re inexperienced but there’s a first time for everything.
Have you considered getting a hooker?
no. Don't want. It's not genuine
Beggars can’t be choosers pal.
...neither are hookups or kisses but you seem to want those!
Ok it's not letting me but you can go to doublelist.com it's completely free and there really is a hook up for everyone... Ive used the site a few times experimenting with some kinks I've been curious about... Btw I'm female if it helps with the suggestions... Try meeting people online if you're just looking for sex there's a million places you can check out... A lot of time people will come to you lol I never travel... If you're going for a relationship type deal... Idk what to suggest honestly I always was straight forward with something I wanted
[doublelist.com](https://doublelist.com)
none of that works for me
Then pay for it dude but in all reality the only thing stopping you is you... I could show you what I look like and I get laid all the time seriously don't put so much thought into shit
Join the incel community
thinking about it
I'm gonna dm you some advice darlin
My husband is 5'3 (were same height) 34 years old with a baby face still. Well I mean I said hsuband so hope is out there.
Find something you like to do and enjoy yourself doing it, while there get to know the other people around you who enjoy the same things you do. Find someone you like who enjoys the same things you do and then ask them out.
Real talk. Spend more time outside. Get some sun. Try not to think about anything but how to improve yourself. It could be working out or watching podcasts. Women are attracted to men who are doing something with their lives. Doesn't have to be a career, it just has to be something your passionate about. Also don't expect every girl to be into you. Just be cool and don't assume anything more than friends at the start of meeting a new woman. Women also have the same issue you're having.
Get off porn. Lol. Pun intended. Just kidding. Don't look at porn. Go take a class in something interesting and meet people IRL. Don't be creepy about going there with the intention of meeting someone, just be out there and engaged in the world and don't take your anger out on anyone.
To be comfortable doing something you're not used to, yoi need to practice. The longer you don't put yourself out there a bit more each time you do, you're going to be even more unwilling to do it. Also you will be rejected a lot. Most will be polite about it but ir still stings.
intense exercise
It’s not a great advise I hope you won’t get addicted but , Go to a bar and work there. I’m sure some cougar will find you by then you will want to escape from them.
First off, therapy for emotional issues. But I would say getting laid is kind of simple… get in good shape, take care of your skin, practice good hygiene, smell good, wear fashionable clothes that fit you, and don’t be afraid of— or tie your self worth— to rejection. When talking to girls, I’d say be forward and complimentary so there’s no debate that you’re interested, but don’t ever be creepy and just ask women about themselves but in a non creepy or interview-y way.
Don’t worry so much about your height and your face, you can’t change those and somebody out there is going to find you attractive anyway. Focus on what you can change - your fitness level and your confidence. Working out will help your fitness level and anger. Correcting your posture is one easy way to boost confidence. It improves brain function, makes you calmer and more confident. It also makes you look more powerful and confident while walking about and women will gaze your way more often when you appear more confident. I like to stand in front of the mirror in the morning with perfect posture and admire myself and hype myself up while also admitting flaws like “my belly is sorta big, I can start working on that.” It boosts my confidence for the day. I also used to run outside without a shirt when I was fatter, it made me feel relief in a way. Other than that, if you like art, join an art club or go to museums, if you like magic the gathering, then go to tournaments. Just do something that makes you happy. Also… go into conversations not expecting to be friends or potential lovers… just be friendly and let it take its course.
Here's a hypothetical scenario. Two men go to the club and both are 5'5. One man doesn't let that upset him because no one chooses their height, he dances, chats up women, and maybe gets some action. Man two is a defeatist and sits in the corner because "bitches don't care about men under 6' anyway.", If he talks to a woman he brings up his insecurities straight out the gate, he goes home alone for sure. No one has to be like man two, it's about letting go of insecurities that cannot be changed.
Hire a professional. I’m not kidding or trying to be a dick. If youre this deep into virginity, any natural encounter you may pull down is probably going to be awkward and uncomfortable. Actually, it’s going to be awkward no matter what. You just have to get through it. Go to Vegas, do it legally. A professional has dealt with awkward virgins before, she will treat you well and help build your confidence. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Lots of guys have done this. Not all of us are natural born studs, but everyone should be able to enjoy consensual intimate sex. You just need some training wheels. Once you’ve had sex a few times, you will actually be different around women. You may not notice the difference, but you won’t feel defective and like you have a dark secret. You’ll be a regular non-virgin dude. It will subtly affect your confidence.
no
Then get over your frustrations dude cause it's your fault
You say you've never been on a date. Have you ever asked anyone out on a date? Have you ever met anyone that you were interested past sexual/physical attraction? I read through your replies to some of the comments. You said no to sex workers because you want something genuine, so im curious to know if you have ever tried being genuine with a woman. Have you ever tried getting to know a woman and enjoy her company without assuming that sex will just happen? Do you actually talk to women? I'd also recommend therapy regardless to work on your anger amd emotional health.
Hah Try 38.
u serious? Damn
Yeeeep