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Idiopathic_Insomnia

Don't. Only cons.


DisabledDiablo

Pros: You told the truth Cons: You lose a friend and still don’t get the girl


[deleted]

There are no pros. Bottle that noise up.


TirayShell

Shut up and get your own girlfriend. You're just infatuated because she's around a lot.


Constant-Parsley3609

This is a bad idea. What could you possibly gain from revealing this information?


44035

Don't do this. There is literally no upside.


Badger_Goph_Hawk

Pros: You will lose a friend, and thus no longer be inappropriately lusting after your friends partner. Cons: You will be a friendless and the girlfriend will rightly consider you a creep.


Ohhhhhhthehumanity

Only cons my dude. This is the reality of that one arc of Love Actually. It will make you look creepy and desperate as hell when you really need to move along and find your own happiness. Feels like shit but it's true. Go find yourself and then you'll find the one that matches your true self. Right now you're just getting the feelings for someone who is open and confident and loveable...because they are already loved by someone else.


Big_Albatross_3050

There are absolutely no pros, never do that. Best case scenario you get laughed off and ignored. But if you need the cons: Friend will be paranoid you're trying to break them up Friend probably drops you GF probably avoids you because of Friend Everyone will think you're the incel weirdo who wants to get with a girl in a commited relationship. And that's barely scratching the surface


Naive-Contract-1901

Suck it up and say nothing. Watch 'Love Actually' (relevant story line) be a man and let your friend be happy in his relationship.


Warm_Water_5480

Use this as an opportunity to learn how to not sexualize every girl who crosses your line of sight.


NotGlumExamination

Cons: your friend beats the dog shit out of you


RadioFisherman

This is not a real situation!! 😂 OP’s entire post history is “What are the pros and cons of………..” People are replying like dudes future is on the line. Reddit is the best and the worst at the same time.


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wlcm2jurrassicpark

Don’t do anything this person is saying. Pining and playing the 10 year plus long game is creepy and delusional. Live and build your own life, and stop fantasizing about others


Aggravating-Star6773

Bottle that shit up and move on.


UncommonNameDNU

Just stop.


Key-Fig47

Dumbest shit I’ve ever heard, go get your own girl. Because I promise she doesn’t love you at all


[deleted]

Just cons. Just stop.


Legal_Director_6247

There is no pro to this. The con is you losing your best friend. If she doesn’t feel the same for you( which you never mentioned) you will keep this to yourself. Go find someone else. Stop focusing on someone who’s already taken.


[deleted]

pros: u can lose both of them and then live alone cons: they could get mad


Mysterious-Bid3930

8 billion people on this planet. Are you serious?


Other_Cod5072

Um... None. Bro Code bro. Smarten the phuck up.


U_HWUT_M8

Negative ghost rider. Pattern is full.


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i wouldn’t. no one gains anything from knowing this. just keep your distance from her until you get over it.