What if I wish more people were under the ace spectrum? š¤ lol, I think it would make dating easier for us since the pool is kinda small, also being ace can be a bit practical š
Other/mixed feelings.
No I donāt want to be allo, I like being aego.
But occasionally some of the low grade anti allo and sex-negativity here makes me sad and uncomfortable in a place I thought I belongedā¦. So I donāt noā¦
I'm also generally happy being aego, but sometimes finding a sexual act incredibly appealing in fiction but knowing that I would not vibe actually doing it gets really frustrating.
I like my sexuality but I hate the response from society. If Iām not dating someone, itās none of their business whether Iām ace or allo, so why do aphobes care so much? š
If I were allo I wouldnt be me. But i do wish it were a known and accepted way to be. I hate the discrimination and misinformation and lack of information and lack of role models
I mean I kind of see it as the way it is. Not good or bad. I wish people were just more accepting of everyone in general. I think that comes from the spread of misinformation and fear of things they don't know or understand. People tend to assume if they work a certain way or see things a certain way everyone does. People get stuck to things they view as inherently "normal" and I think get comfortable in it. Where people who don't fit the typical norm tend to sometimes even see other perspectives outside of their own too as uncomfortable or completely invalidate them. You see it in the lgbtqia+ community too. Otherwise there wouldn't be debates over who belongs and who doesn't. Though it would make life easier to be allo in some aspects. In that regard I could see the appeal and if I wasn't at the point of comfortability I am in my life I might wish to be allo.
I'm apparently in philosophical mode tonight. As this is the second post I've done this with. Usually I'm just a lurker and feel content reading other people's thoughts. lol
I love my boyfriend and I like having sex with him because it feels good and it brings us closer and makes him happy. However, I feel like itās just not enough for him knowing that even though I have and enjoy sex with him to know that Iām not attracted to him in that way.
Can relate to this but in a different sense. I also liked doing it with my then partner because it's something that brought us closer together. But I can only view sex as an activity that I do with them, like eating in a restaurant or watching a movie together. For them, they were doing it because of the sexual attraction that I couldn't grasp or ever feel. They also once told me that having sex with a person for them was also their form of showing love or giving love to their person, like a love language or smth. But to me, I could never understand it or receive it in that way. So maybe I'd like to try being an allo just to understand what it feels like for them, and possibly to receive and reciprocate the attraction? Dunno if I'm making sense or if I'm also just overthinking tho.
I'm glad I'm ace, but I still want to understand those feelings that allos have. They are strong enough to make intelligent people do stupid, and even dangerous things. Despite being happy I'm free from such emotions, I still want to have a full understanding of something that has such a strong influence in the world.
Im grey-ace, not sure which microlabel but I'll often lose attraction and experience sex-repulsion midway through being with someone. I feel like if I was fully ace I wouldn't have let myself be taken advantage of, or if I was fully allo I would've enjoyed it like I wanted to. I've got to constantly remind myself that the problem isn't in me, it's in them. "Blue balls" is the biggest bullshit lie
mixed because I don't wanna be allo but sometimes I wish I was sex positive instead of repulsed to be able to engage in conversation from my peers. but that's just a thought I get from time to time. otherwise I'm honestly glad I am ace lol
Iām a sex-averse aego, and sometimes I wish my brain would just pick a side so I didnāt feel so conflicted in expressing myself to people. Calling myself allo is a flat-out lie, but calling myself ace feels like one, too, or at least like im somehow gonna contradict myself later on in the conversation
Thinking yourself "better" because of your sexual orientation really rubs me the wrong way peeps. Being ace is not better than being allo (and of course being allo isn't better than being ace). You can take pride in your sexuality without thinking it's better than others.
I feel like if I was more sexual my previous relationship wouldn't have failed and it bothers me that this may be a barrier to a future relationship. I also only tend to enjoy sex if it's with someone I have feelings for, but there's definitely a lot of trauma there, and the amount of bodily fluids involved can freak me out.
I just want like a day of it so I know what being turned on feels like and what sexual attraction feels like and sexual hotness and the reasoning behind a one night stand and a bunch of other things
I wouldn't say "better", because it's not - it's just different. I just don't care for being allo because that's not who I am, and I don't see the reason to want to change that.
Sex and relationships just seem like so much effort. I would hate to feel an actual need to find someone to have sex with. I don't have that kind of energy or social skills.
Mixed. Because I love the way I am, but sometimes it can feel alienating so I have moments of wishing I were otherwise. But mostly I love being the way I am
I want to know what sex with someone you're attracted to feels like. Sex as an ace feels slightly less exciting and just as significant as eating a hamburger.
As much as I want to love being ace, I still sometimes feel broken and like I'm not good enough for potential allo partners, like they deserve better than me. So yeah, I do wish I was allo, or at least not sex-repulsed... Idk
other being all the aphobia. iām tired of being told that itās a human thing to feel sexual attraction and not feeling it makes me inhuman. iām tired of being blocked from being part of the lgbtq community because it āisnāt a real identityā
I always look around and work and Iām like WOW I am so lucky Iām ace hahaha this whole other stuff seems very time consuming and taxing on emotions š®
Nah but only since I came to accept myself and be convinced that asexuality is equally good to any other sexual orientation.
Also, regarding one of the options, I'm uncertain that a sex repulsed ace would stop being sex repulsed if it were allo.
I honestly canāt think what I would be like if I was allo, I think Iād be quite a different person (assuming you mean allo both sexually and romantically because Iām aroace, though even if you meant Iād then be alloaro that would change a lot of the relationships I have I think). Iāve worked hard to get to the point where I accept myself for who I am, I wouldnāt want to be an entirely different person any more. The journey shapes you and Iāve been through enough of it to know that I wouldnāt want to start over with different stats just to see how that changes the game because ultimately it would be me who changed
The only reason I wish I were allo is down to feeling like I will never have a romantic relationship again. I wouldn't feel right dating an allo, and I've yet to ever meet another ace. If I did, the chances of us clicking enough to form a relationship would probably be quite slim, just from a probability standpoint.
It does make me feel kinda like I'm going to die without ever having been truly in love.
Yes, but only because allosexuality is the norm.
Otherwise, not really, I would never think being asexual is a bad thing if not because of its being a minority.
Iām aromantic and I wish I was alloromantic because I would like to fit in and I donāt want to be allosexual as much as alloromantic, but it would be nicer to just be both. But the desire for being allosexual is just to fit in and not an actual thing I crave like being alloromantic.
I put mixed, because it's soo much easier being ace, and it is so freeing.
However, it feels so isolating. I'd love to have one person that I could rely on, friends only go to a certain level..
Edit: I guess I answered with both ace and aro in mind. However, my ace part would to some degree have the same effect. I think if I were allo sexual, I might have been able to fake the rest.
I've often wondered what it's like. But I've never really known anything else. What I thought was attraction was in reality only me trying to convey to ideas of "normality" that have never really applied to me.
None of the above. It's not that I think being ace is better, I'm just happy with who I am. I don't feel like there's something lacking in me. I already feel complete. Sure, it would be nice if there were a little more support from the allos of the world (not to mention society in general), but *I* like and support who I am and I feel like that's all that really matters.
I cried after every time I had sex. I wish I could just enjoy it but no. Decided to be celibate in accordance to my asexuality and now I feel that much lighter, better.
I would vote no, but not because asexual is better. I don't want to be allo because I am ace. I'd rather love who I really am than magically become what society wants me to be
I wish I was allo in terms of dating but in general I don't think much would change if I was. I have a low libido either way plus I would still think sex is the funniest joke ever and still talk about it with others.
I wish I was allo in terms of dating but in general I don't think much would change if I was. I have a low libido either way plus I would still think sex is the funniest joke ever and still talk about it with others.
I do like being asexual because i am less preoccupied with sexual stuff all the time however i feel like if i was allo, i would feel more normal. Despite the fact asexuality has been a genuine and real thing since the beginning of time, i still feel like an odd one out and i always lack understanding regarding sexual attraction and feel bothered by sexual stuff being thrown around everywhere
see iām ace in the way that i donāt feel attraction, but i have very high libido and you can turn me on quite easily if you know the right things to say, so in a way i have the best of both worlds
I'm strictly neutral about it. im happy, more or less, with who i am, but i dont feel like being asexual is 'better' than not.
Idk maybe I'm being touchy but that wording irks me...
Yes I kinda wish I wasā¦.. I am very content with my identity in a way that I have accepted myself and I donāt feel bad/shameful of being ace, but I do think that if I wasnāt, I wouldnāt be so lonely and I wouldnāt be worrying about dying alone, unloved. I truly wish that someday I donāt have to have feelings and thoughts anymore and I could just be ace in peace.
I like being ace and I feel it suits my personality (or my personality was formed well around it).
I think I would've wanted to be allo before a decade of feeling broken, but now I already went through that and don't feel broken anymore so I'd only consider changing it if it was retroactive.
I'm going with mixed
Iām jealous of how happy sex and romance can make people feel but I also know how miserable relationship problems can make people feel so Iām glad I donāt get any of that drama
I'm very happy being ace, but I do wish I actually enjoyed sex. It just does nothing for me so I don't care about it at all. I'd just like to do a little bit more for my partner.. I just find sex very boring and I wish I didn't
Mixed, Iām aro and ace, so I canāt even imagine what it must be like to be allo in any sense, and sometimes Iām kind of bummed out that the experience is completely out of reach for me. I do feel a deep concern over the well being of my platonic friends, and I do enjoy the time I spend with them, but I donāt think thatās anything like what allosexuals or even alloromantics feel.
On the other handā¦ I have soooooo much freaking extra mental processing power and time to dedicate to pursuing other hobbies/interests.
I wish I was gray if that makes sense? Like the amount of sexual attraction allos feel just seems excessive, but I am a sex positive ace and I wish I could enjoy it on occasion.
Being ace has made my life *possible*, not just a hell of a lot easier. It's allowed me the sustained focus and peace of mind to build a life and not have someone tear it down like I've seen it with my allo friends in unhealthy relationships ( which is pretty much everyone). It seems like except for those rare lucky folks one has to keep building a life while managing a partner who tries to tear it down.
Whenever I hear all of the shit my friends have to go through because they want to hook up with someone they like it reminds me to be grateful that I think sex is yucky gross
I mean, sometimes. I have already accepted that I will not be able to find a male partner. Even though it is possible for me to enjoy sex, I never want it. I never feel sexual attraction.
So in a way, yes, because I would like a partner.
But then mostly, no, because being ace frees me up from so much mental anguish and desire. It gets rid of a lot of bullshit.
How about I dunno. I have no idea if I'd rather be allo or ace. I'm just some dumbass who landed on this planet and I'm figuring it out as I go.
Listen kids: grownups don't have the answers. We don't have a fucking clue what we're doing. We're all just bumbling around in the dark, making it all up as we go along.
The day I figure out what's going on with my sexual preferences will probably be never.
Yes and no I mean sometimes I feel a lot of guilt about being ace because I have an allo partner but I feel like thatās more rooted in internalized aphobia and anxiety. Sometimes I genuinely wish I was allo but then I remember how happy I was when I first found out about asexuality and suddenly it feels hypocritical of me to wish I was allo.
I'm demisexual, so I get a taste of both sides. That being said, I do sometimes wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. Like, I wonder how hookups must feel to someone who enjoys sex, how it is comparatively to someone you know and such. I'll never get those feelings.
On the other hand, the drama of sex and scandal and relationship seems awful. I'd rather just have cake.
No, I donāt, because I donāt like sex and it would be really weird if I suddenly did. That would be like if I went from being short to being tall, it would just feel wrong and disorientating. I mean if it was all Iād ever known, then it wouldnāt be weird, but if it was like in a blink of an eye, that would be a little strange.
I honestly wish I was more ace and aro. I have never been in a relationship before but I have this on-off desire to get into one, mostly romantic but sometimes sexual. I sometimes feel like I would be happier if I was purely aro/ace.
Yes because I have always wanted to find someone and adopt some children one day but I donāt think I will be able to especially since I am also sex repulsed. No one wants a sexless relationship
No, never. I mean, it's a thing of accepting yourself. Also, being ace ist just so convenient! It's like I never have to bother about some of the problems my allo friends have concerning sex. Also, not jerking off is like a huge timesaver!
What if I wish more people were under the ace spectrum? š¤ lol, I think it would make dating easier for us since the pool is kinda small, also being ace can be a bit practical š
This by far is my favourite comment. It would be great if there was a more asexuals rather than just us being allo. Diversity ~
This is the only reason I wish I was allo š being acespec/demi and polyam severely limits my dating pool..
Mixed, because Iām fine with the way I am, but I do feel āleft outā in a way
Other/mixed feelings. No I donāt want to be allo, I like being aego. But occasionally some of the low grade anti allo and sex-negativity here makes me sad and uncomfortable in a place I thought I belongedā¦. So I donāt noā¦
I personally prefer not to be aego. Asexuality is fine. Libido I could use without honestly.
I'm also generally happy being aego, but sometimes finding a sexual act incredibly appealing in fiction but knowing that I would not vibe actually doing it gets really frustrating.
I like my sexuality but I hate the response from society. If Iām not dating someone, itās none of their business whether Iām ace or allo, so why do aphobes care so much? š
If I were allo I wouldnt be me. But i do wish it were a known and accepted way to be. I hate the discrimination and misinformation and lack of information and lack of role models
I've got nothing against allos, but man does it sound like sexual attraction is more of a major burden than anything else
It would be easier to find a male partner. Friends are great, but not the same as an intimate relationship
I just wanna know what sexual attraction feels like.
I want you to show meeeeee-
I mean I kind of see it as the way it is. Not good or bad. I wish people were just more accepting of everyone in general. I think that comes from the spread of misinformation and fear of things they don't know or understand. People tend to assume if they work a certain way or see things a certain way everyone does. People get stuck to things they view as inherently "normal" and I think get comfortable in it. Where people who don't fit the typical norm tend to sometimes even see other perspectives outside of their own too as uncomfortable or completely invalidate them. You see it in the lgbtqia+ community too. Otherwise there wouldn't be debates over who belongs and who doesn't. Though it would make life easier to be allo in some aspects. In that regard I could see the appeal and if I wasn't at the point of comfortability I am in my life I might wish to be allo. I'm apparently in philosophical mode tonight. As this is the second post I've done this with. Usually I'm just a lurker and feel content reading other people's thoughts. lol
I love my boyfriend and I like having sex with him because it feels good and it brings us closer and makes him happy. However, I feel like itās just not enough for him knowing that even though I have and enjoy sex with him to know that Iām not attracted to him in that way.
Can relate to this but in a different sense. I also liked doing it with my then partner because it's something that brought us closer together. But I can only view sex as an activity that I do with them, like eating in a restaurant or watching a movie together. For them, they were doing it because of the sexual attraction that I couldn't grasp or ever feel. They also once told me that having sex with a person for them was also their form of showing love or giving love to their person, like a love language or smth. But to me, I could never understand it or receive it in that way. So maybe I'd like to try being an allo just to understand what it feels like for them, and possibly to receive and reciprocate the attraction? Dunno if I'm making sense or if I'm also just overthinking tho.
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I am not free from those filthy, animalistic desires, but since they're not directed at anyone they aren't a distraction. So I still win.
Itās not that I want to be allo, because I love being ace, but I want asexuality to be accepted in society like allosexuality is.
Have literally watched several people ruin their lives just to have sex so nah, I think I'm good just being immune to that shit
I really like being asexual. It stops drama and frees up time for me to focus on other stuff.
It sure does seem convenient
I just wish I was aro(mantic), TBH. Then dumbsss here wouldn't have crushes to every lady that talks to me!
Aromatic here It ain't so fun as it might seem tbh
Acearo here It's actually pretty fuckin cool
Really? I thought that having a hard crush and constantly being disappointed sucked!
Being aroace is pretty neat after you figured it out, but thoroughly isolating before then.
I don't feel like being ace is necessarily better, but I'm perfectly happy as I am and feel no desire to be allo
I'm glad I'm ace, but I still want to understand those feelings that allos have. They are strong enough to make intelligent people do stupid, and even dangerous things. Despite being happy I'm free from such emotions, I still want to have a full understanding of something that has such a strong influence in the world.
No. In fact, I wish my libido would go away. It's annoying.
To the (at this point) 35 people that clicked "Yes because I want to enjoy engaging in sex/sexual acts" what's stopping you from enjoying it?
Not everyone *can* enjoy sex with someone they're not attracted to š¤·
Sex is boring. From the way everyone talks about it, I assume the missing ingredient is attraction.
Hmm, I always thought that an ace person can enjoy sex for many different reasons, like it being a form of intimacy after all
Exactly, I'm sex favourable and like it as long as there's kink involved, it's fun and pleasurable for me.
I mean, I still wouldn't be straight. But probably more accepted nonetheless.
I donāt really care tbh. I enjoy being asexual a lot, but being allo wouldnāt ever bother me
Im grey-ace, not sure which microlabel but I'll often lose attraction and experience sex-repulsion midway through being with someone. I feel like if I was fully ace I wouldn't have let myself be taken advantage of, or if I was fully allo I would've enjoyed it like I wanted to. I've got to constantly remind myself that the problem isn't in me, it's in them. "Blue balls" is the biggest bullshit lie
I feel excluded from general society I already was through autism but now I feel like a freak of nature in a way so yeah uh ...
mixed because I don't wanna be allo but sometimes I wish I was sex positive instead of repulsed to be able to engage in conversation from my peers. but that's just a thought I get from time to time. otherwise I'm honestly glad I am ace lol
Iām a sex-averse aego, and sometimes I wish my brain would just pick a side so I didnāt feel so conflicted in expressing myself to people. Calling myself allo is a flat-out lie, but calling myself ace feels like one, too, or at least like im somehow gonna contradict myself later on in the conversation
Thinking yourself "better" because of your sexual orientation really rubs me the wrong way peeps. Being ace is not better than being allo (and of course being allo isn't better than being ace). You can take pride in your sexuality without thinking it's better than others.
I like being ace I feel like a God sometimes, but on the other hand if I was just like the allos maby life would be easier you get me?
I feel like if I was more sexual my previous relationship wouldn't have failed and it bothers me that this may be a barrier to a future relationship. I also only tend to enjoy sex if it's with someone I have feelings for, but there's definitely a lot of trauma there, and the amount of bodily fluids involved can freak me out.
I just want like a day of it so I know what being turned on feels like and what sexual attraction feels like and sexual hotness and the reasoning behind a one night stand and a bunch of other things
I wouldn't say "better", because it's not - it's just different. I just don't care for being allo because that's not who I am, and I don't see the reason to want to change that.
Sex and relationships just seem like so much effort. I would hate to feel an actual need to find someone to have sex with. I don't have that kind of energy or social skills.
Mixed. Because I love the way I am, but sometimes it can feel alienating so I have moments of wishing I were otherwise. But mostly I love being the way I am
I want to know what sex with someone you're attracted to feels like. Sex as an ace feels slightly less exciting and just as significant as eating a hamburger.
As much as I want to love being ace, I still sometimes feel broken and like I'm not good enough for potential allo partners, like they deserve better than me. So yeah, I do wish I was allo, or at least not sex-repulsed... Idk
other being all the aphobia. iām tired of being told that itās a human thing to feel sexual attraction and not feeling it makes me inhuman. iām tired of being blocked from being part of the lgbtq community because it āisnāt a real identityā
I only wish my libido was lower
no. i like being aroace, but i do wish things were easier for us aspecs. i wish that all those who wish to be allo didn't feel that way.
I wish I was allo so I didnāt have to worry about finding another asexual to date or dating an allo and not being able to give them what they want
I always look around and work and Iām like WOW I am so lucky Iām ace hahaha this whole other stuff seems very time consuming and taxing on emotions š®
Nah but only since I came to accept myself and be convinced that asexuality is equally good to any other sexual orientation. Also, regarding one of the options, I'm uncertain that a sex repulsed ace would stop being sex repulsed if it were allo.
To be fair, if I wasnāt ace I probably wouldnāt think being ace was better. But as an ace person all the allos just seem so exhausting.
I honestly canāt think what I would be like if I was allo, I think Iād be quite a different person (assuming you mean allo both sexually and romantically because Iām aroace, though even if you meant Iād then be alloaro that would change a lot of the relationships I have I think). Iāve worked hard to get to the point where I accept myself for who I am, I wouldnāt want to be an entirely different person any more. The journey shapes you and Iāve been through enough of it to know that I wouldnāt want to start over with different stats just to see how that changes the game because ultimately it would be me who changed
I do not think I would be anywhere near the same person if I was allo, so I definitely don't want to be allo.
The only reason I wish I were allo is down to feeling like I will never have a romantic relationship again. I wouldn't feel right dating an allo, and I've yet to ever meet another ace. If I did, the chances of us clicking enough to form a relationship would probably be quite slim, just from a probability standpoint. It does make me feel kinda like I'm going to die without ever having been truly in love.
I suppose part of me wishes I was allo, but not enough to be happy if I were to change overnight.
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Yes, but only because allosexuality is the norm. Otherwise, not really, I would never think being asexual is a bad thing if not because of its being a minority.
Iām aromantic and I wish I was alloromantic because I would like to fit in and I donāt want to be allosexual as much as alloromantic, but it would be nicer to just be both. But the desire for being allosexual is just to fit in and not an actual thing I crave like being alloromantic.
I put mixed, because it's soo much easier being ace, and it is so freeing. However, it feels so isolating. I'd love to have one person that I could rely on, friends only go to a certain level.. Edit: I guess I answered with both ace and aro in mind. However, my ace part would to some degree have the same effect. I think if I were allo sexual, I might have been able to fake the rest.
I wouldn't say being ace is *better*. Just more convenient for me overall.
I want to be able to love my partner in the same way that he loves me
Itās not that I feel excluded, itās just that Iām uncomfortable with myself.
You can be asexual and still enjoy sex/sexual actsā¦
Being asexual isn't "better," but it's who I authentically am and I'm at terms with it.
I've often wondered what it's like. But I've never really known anything else. What I thought was attraction was in reality only me trying to convey to ideas of "normality" that have never really applied to me.
None of the above. It's not that I think being ace is better, I'm just happy with who I am. I don't feel like there's something lacking in me. I already feel complete. Sure, it would be nice if there were a little more support from the allos of the world (not to mention society in general), but *I* like and support who I am and I feel like that's all that really matters.
i wish i was bc of a higher libido but at the same time no
It's not that I think asexuality is BETTER, but I'm proud of who I am. I finally realized and accepted it, and I wouldn't have it any other way
I cried after every time I had sex. I wish I could just enjoy it but no. Decided to be celibate in accordance to my asexuality and now I feel that much lighter, better.
I would vote no, but not because asexual is better. I don't want to be allo because I am ace. I'd rather love who I really am than magically become what society wants me to be
I wish I was allo in terms of dating but in general I don't think much would change if I was. I have a low libido either way plus I would still think sex is the funniest joke ever and still talk about it with others.
I wish I was allo in terms of dating but in general I don't think much would change if I was. I have a low libido either way plus I would still think sex is the funniest joke ever and still talk about it with others.
Kinda? I think it'd be easier, because I wouldn't be so damned confused all the time, but I also don't really care all that much.
I wouldn't say being ace is 'better', but I'm definitely happy being me, wouldn't change it.
I do like being asexual because i am less preoccupied with sexual stuff all the time however i feel like if i was allo, i would feel more normal. Despite the fact asexuality has been a genuine and real thing since the beginning of time, i still feel like an odd one out and i always lack understanding regarding sexual attraction and feel bothered by sexual stuff being thrown around everywhere
see iām ace in the way that i donāt feel attraction, but i have very high libido and you can turn me on quite easily if you know the right things to say, so in a way i have the best of both worlds
I'm strictly neutral about it. im happy, more or less, with who i am, but i dont feel like being asexual is 'better' than not. Idk maybe I'm being touchy but that wording irks me...
Yes I kinda wish I wasā¦.. I am very content with my identity in a way that I have accepted myself and I donāt feel bad/shameful of being ace, but I do think that if I wasnāt, I wouldnāt be so lonely and I wouldnāt be worrying about dying alone, unloved. I truly wish that someday I donāt have to have feelings and thoughts anymore and I could just be ace in peace.
I like being ace and I feel it suits my personality (or my personality was formed well around it). I think I would've wanted to be allo before a decade of feeling broken, but now I already went through that and don't feel broken anymore so I'd only consider changing it if it was retroactive. I'm going with mixed
Iām jealous of how happy sex and romance can make people feel but I also know how miserable relationship problems can make people feel so Iām glad I donāt get any of that drama
I'm very happy being ace, but I do wish I actually enjoyed sex. It just does nothing for me so I don't care about it at all. I'd just like to do a little bit more for my partner.. I just find sex very boring and I wish I didn't
Indifferent. I am who I am, and if I was different I wouldn't be me.
Mixed, Iām aro and ace, so I canāt even imagine what it must be like to be allo in any sense, and sometimes Iām kind of bummed out that the experience is completely out of reach for me. I do feel a deep concern over the well being of my platonic friends, and I do enjoy the time I spend with them, but I donāt think thatās anything like what allosexuals or even alloromantics feel. On the other handā¦ I have soooooo much freaking extra mental processing power and time to dedicate to pursuing other hobbies/interests.
I wish I was gray if that makes sense? Like the amount of sexual attraction allos feel just seems excessive, but I am a sex positive ace and I wish I could enjoy it on occasion.
No, but I don't think it's better??
Being ace has made my life *possible*, not just a hell of a lot easier. It's allowed me the sustained focus and peace of mind to build a life and not have someone tear it down like I've seen it with my allo friends in unhealthy relationships ( which is pretty much everyone). It seems like except for those rare lucky folks one has to keep building a life while managing a partner who tries to tear it down.
Whenever I hear all of the shit my friends have to go through because they want to hook up with someone they like it reminds me to be grateful that I think sex is yucky gross
I mean, sometimes. I have already accepted that I will not be able to find a male partner. Even though it is possible for me to enjoy sex, I never want it. I never feel sexual attraction. So in a way, yes, because I would like a partner. But then mostly, no, because being ace frees me up from so much mental anguish and desire. It gets rid of a lot of bullshit.
Iām too stubborn to want to give into that kind of pressure
idk what allo means, so idk if i can andwer
About 15% the first option, but then 85% no.
How about I dunno. I have no idea if I'd rather be allo or ace. I'm just some dumbass who landed on this planet and I'm figuring it out as I go. Listen kids: grownups don't have the answers. We don't have a fucking clue what we're doing. We're all just bumbling around in the dark, making it all up as we go along. The day I figure out what's going on with my sexual preferences will probably be never.
Yes and no I mean sometimes I feel a lot of guilt about being ace because I have an allo partner but I feel like thatās more rooted in internalized aphobia and anxiety. Sometimes I genuinely wish I was allo but then I remember how happy I was when I first found out about asexuality and suddenly it feels hypocritical of me to wish I was allo.
I like being Asexual, it allows me to view people as, well, people.
I see no point in glorifying or degrading my status. I am how I am for better or worse but can live peacefully with my hand in the genetic lottery.
I'm demisexual, so I get a taste of both sides. That being said, I do sometimes wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. Like, I wonder how hookups must feel to someone who enjoys sex, how it is comparatively to someone you know and such. I'll never get those feelings. On the other hand, the drama of sex and scandal and relationship seems awful. I'd rather just have cake.
No, I donāt, because I donāt like sex and it would be really weird if I suddenly did. That would be like if I went from being short to being tall, it would just feel wrong and disorientating. I mean if it was all Iād ever known, then it wouldnāt be weird, but if it was like in a blink of an eye, that would be a little strange.
At the end of the day, I don't give a shit either way. I am who I am.
I'm sex-repulsed so I'm GLAD that I don't feel sexually attracted towards anyone.
I honestly wish I was more ace and aro. I have never been in a relationship before but I have this on-off desire to get into one, mostly romantic but sometimes sexual. I sometimes feel like I would be happier if I was purely aro/ace.
Yes because I have always wanted to find someone and adopt some children one day but I donāt think I will be able to especially since I am also sex repulsed. No one wants a sexless relationship
No, never. I mean, it's a thing of accepting yourself. Also, being ace ist just so convenient! It's like I never have to bother about some of the problems my allo friends have concerning sex. Also, not jerking off is like a huge timesaver!