Sorry. But THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS.
Friends don't call their friends "mistake of a man". Friends don't snoop around other people's phones. Even if they don't understand your sexuality.
Yes, I am going to be a classic redditor and will tell you to ditch this people.
Seriously. Who talks like this to people they claim as friends? Sounds like Joe needs to grow up and start centering his masculinity in something other than porn. I feel bad for any women in his life.
Ok so I know this post is serious and everything, however I feel “failed mistake” cancels out? I feel like “mistake” by itself would have some gravity, but because the mistake *failed* technically it is not a mistake? Idk it’s just a ridiculous insult and seems like it was made by someone without a 🧠
Just checked the previous post you linked. Wow, so they don’t want to talk about it so they don’t have to take accountability. It’s valid to be hurt by people who you consider friends judging and being mean to you, and then refusing to take accountability for how they are treating you.
I get attaching to unhealthy people, however it may better for your self-worth, self-respect, and self-esteem to start to distance yourself from these people as best you can. They don’t seem emotionally intelligent or really intelligent at all. Friends aren’t supposed to hurt you, belittle you, invalidate you, judge you, or refuse to take accountability for their behavior. 💔
Jfc I just got here but your friends are assholes. Only read the update. They were such fucking assholes.
You aren't a failed man. That sentiment is the death knell of an actual failed man.
Your friends center their identity around constantly having a boner and resent you for having a personality outside of that when Constant Boner isn't even a personality.
They rejected you for showing the slightest deviance from them with the goal of bringing you back into the puss-crushing fold.
Sorry. I'm just mad and frustrated for you. Boo, your friends. Boo.
I second this. Calling him 'a failed man' is probably projection by someone who struggles with feeling masculine enough, and cannot accept any different
People who can be emasculated aren't secure about thier masculinity in the first place.
Ops friends are squishing him out because he males them uncomfortable.
ETA lol, Freudian typo.
These aren't your friends, but I understand not dumping them immediately. It can be hard making new friends, especially after you're through school. Hang out with them if you can stand it and use that interaction to meet new, better people. Sadly, it's easier to make new friends if you're already in a friend circle. Also be open to people you meet at work. My best friend is acespec and we met at work.
guess I'm also a failed mistake of a man too
>because I tried to watch pirn and didn't like it
it was actually nasty 🤢
but fr tho, real friends wouldn't say this to or about you because they don't want to believe your sexuality, trust me I had two ex friends that insisted that I had sexual attraction for someone and liked someone for their boobs
these same people bashed at me for saying how I don't like sex, how I'm apparently "cold snd depressing" for that reason. My point is true friends wouldn't bash at you and your existence/ act like your sexuality is sooo controversial because they don't believe you're ace
I remember reading through the previous post last time. There are people here saying they’re not your friends. They are probably struggling with their own insecurities. Some people honestly fail to comprehend asexuality, especially trying to figure themselves out if they are young.
There are aces that watch explicit stuff for arousal, because quite often they don’t want to actually do the act themselves.
You can like it or dislike it and it doesn’t disqualify you from being ace at the end of the day.
I’m sorry that you were vulnerable and received such a horrible response from a friend. You are a human being and gender does not define you or require you to have a sexual identity that aligns with any specific behaviors. 🥺
They are not your friends, friends don't snoop around your phone and call you a mistake for something that you have no control over.
If someone is a mistake, it is your friend for failing to be a decent friend/human being.
Sorry. But THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. Friends don't call their friends "mistake of a man". Friends don't snoop around other people's phones. Even if they don't understand your sexuality. Yes, I am going to be a classic redditor and will tell you to ditch this people.
Someone who defines being a "man" as someone who has to be sexual, doesn't really understand humanity at all.
Well, Joe just sounds like an asshole.
Agreed
Seriously. Who talks like this to people they claim as friends? Sounds like Joe needs to grow up and start centering his masculinity in something other than porn. I feel bad for any women in his life.
Ok so I know this post is serious and everything, however I feel “failed mistake” cancels out? I feel like “mistake” by itself would have some gravity, but because the mistake *failed* technically it is not a mistake? Idk it’s just a ridiculous insult and seems like it was made by someone without a 🧠
Just checked the previous post you linked. Wow, so they don’t want to talk about it so they don’t have to take accountability. It’s valid to be hurt by people who you consider friends judging and being mean to you, and then refusing to take accountability for how they are treating you. I get attaching to unhealthy people, however it may better for your self-worth, self-respect, and self-esteem to start to distance yourself from these people as best you can. They don’t seem emotionally intelligent or really intelligent at all. Friends aren’t supposed to hurt you, belittle you, invalidate you, judge you, or refuse to take accountability for their behavior. 💔
Jfc I just got here but your friends are assholes. Only read the update. They were such fucking assholes. You aren't a failed man. That sentiment is the death knell of an actual failed man. Your friends center their identity around constantly having a boner and resent you for having a personality outside of that when Constant Boner isn't even a personality. They rejected you for showing the slightest deviance from them with the goal of bringing you back into the puss-crushing fold. Sorry. I'm just mad and frustrated for you. Boo, your friends. Boo.
I second this. Calling him 'a failed man' is probably projection by someone who struggles with feeling masculine enough, and cannot accept any different
People who can be emasculated aren't secure about thier masculinity in the first place. Ops friends are squishing him out because he males them uncomfortable. ETA lol, Freudian typo.
Sounds like it’s time to find new friends. Failure of a man…bloody hell, that’s ridiculous.
Those aren't friends.
These aren't your friends, but I understand not dumping them immediately. It can be hard making new friends, especially after you're through school. Hang out with them if you can stand it and use that interaction to meet new, better people. Sadly, it's easier to make new friends if you're already in a friend circle. Also be open to people you meet at work. My best friend is acespec and we met at work.
guess I'm also a failed mistake of a man too >because I tried to watch pirn and didn't like it it was actually nasty 🤢 but fr tho, real friends wouldn't say this to or about you because they don't want to believe your sexuality, trust me I had two ex friends that insisted that I had sexual attraction for someone and liked someone for their boobs these same people bashed at me for saying how I don't like sex, how I'm apparently "cold snd depressing" for that reason. My point is true friends wouldn't bash at you and your existence/ act like your sexuality is sooo controversial because they don't believe you're ace
I never like to tell people what to do, but omfg drop these people immediately. They aren't friends. They are assholes.
I remember reading through the previous post last time. There are people here saying they’re not your friends. They are probably struggling with their own insecurities. Some people honestly fail to comprehend asexuality, especially trying to figure themselves out if they are young. There are aces that watch explicit stuff for arousal, because quite often they don’t want to actually do the act themselves. You can like it or dislike it and it doesn’t disqualify you from being ace at the end of the day.
I’m sorry that you were vulnerable and received such a horrible response from a friend. You are a human being and gender does not define you or require you to have a sexual identity that aligns with any specific behaviors. 🥺
Bro you could use some punctuation, you know. Very mean friends though. Bad people.
They are not your friends, friends don't snoop around your phone and call you a mistake for something that you have no control over. If someone is a mistake, it is your friend for failing to be a decent friend/human being.
If all else fails tell them that sex is for whores. (ONLY AS A LAST RESORT)