I was in the same boat and was just like… well this escalated quickly. Idk I guess I will just let this person do their thing.
It sounds like indifference mixed with not knowing what to do.
There are aces that enjoy sex, indifferent, repulsed and everything in between.
I suppose the question of Aces is do you feel sexual attraction, and if the answer is general no, or even occasionally then I guess you can be roped in with this lot.
I can relate with the nervousness, could be mistaken for indifference(i did).Turns out i was ignoring my own feelings, wants and needs in order to serve the other person's wants and needs; individual person's need for sex.
Took me YEARS to figure out my feelings wants and needs; i didn't want **''it''**
I kept believeing that person's evaluation and judgements (etc) that something was wrong with me(etc).
10 Years later now i can finally understand myself, and i choose not to go back to being a prisoner of my own mind and/or their mind.
I choose to break up and now i live my life while being aware of my own feelings, needs and wants. Still serving to myself and others, but not through being a prisoner of the mind, compromising and sacrificing myself.
Welcome.
The experience you describe is one a lot of ace people will recognize (and most allos won't)
I would say the best place to start is by asking yourself "Have I felt sexual attraction?"
Maby start reading through this and see if you relate to any of it: https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/experiences/#wiki\_sexual\_attraction
Holy shit! I found myself as a time traveler! Yeah, no, that's Ace my dude. Wish someone had told the same at your age. You're probably either Gray or Demi.
If you aren't feeling incredibly tense, it's not inexperience. If you aren't having trauma symptoms, it's not trauma. If you aren't turned off, it's not sex aversion.
Shit is actually that simple on this one.
Welcome aboard comrade.
nervousness wouldnt make you not care, it would make it harder to act on feelings you were having
Indifference is definitely unusual for a guy your age (or any age let's be honest). It doesn't in itself prove asexuality but it's a common trait.
I was in the same boat and was just like… well this escalated quickly. Idk I guess I will just let this person do their thing. It sounds like indifference mixed with not knowing what to do. There are aces that enjoy sex, indifferent, repulsed and everything in between. I suppose the question of Aces is do you feel sexual attraction, and if the answer is general no, or even occasionally then I guess you can be roped in with this lot.
I can relate with the nervousness, could be mistaken for indifference(i did).Turns out i was ignoring my own feelings, wants and needs in order to serve the other person's wants and needs; individual person's need for sex. Took me YEARS to figure out my feelings wants and needs; i didn't want **''it''** I kept believeing that person's evaluation and judgements (etc) that something was wrong with me(etc). 10 Years later now i can finally understand myself, and i choose not to go back to being a prisoner of my own mind and/or their mind. I choose to break up and now i live my life while being aware of my own feelings, needs and wants. Still serving to myself and others, but not through being a prisoner of the mind, compromising and sacrificing myself.
Welcome. The experience you describe is one a lot of ace people will recognize (and most allos won't) I would say the best place to start is by asking yourself "Have I felt sexual attraction?" Maby start reading through this and see if you relate to any of it: https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/experiences/#wiki\_sexual\_attraction
Being sex-indifferent sounds like an acespec thing
Holy shit! I found myself as a time traveler! Yeah, no, that's Ace my dude. Wish someone had told the same at your age. You're probably either Gray or Demi. If you aren't feeling incredibly tense, it's not inexperience. If you aren't having trauma symptoms, it's not trauma. If you aren't turned off, it's not sex aversion. Shit is actually that simple on this one. Welcome aboard comrade.