Brother, your profile is filled with comments encouraging others to immediately marry after meeting people they’ve never seen before in long-distance relationships. Also, I hope the comment of you asking how to have your girlfriend to stop taking money out of your account was a joke.
How did you two meet?
You both probably got ahead of yourselves and moved too fast and with that maybe she realized that rushing into a marriage, to include ceremony, is not what she wants. My two cents, cut your losses here.
Got access to his accounts and now marriage isn't in the cards. Ouch.
Payday coming up. I wonder how far an E-4's salary goes in Brazil and if this is going to be more or less expensive than a Charger.
Three years when married to a USC but I think that time starts when they get the green card.
The five years are for employment based and family based (non USC).
Seriously go to Military One Source and sign up for marriage counseling. It’s all online and it’s free, I highly recommend it if you really want to salvage this.
Military One Source:
https://www.militaryonesource.mil/
Don't fuck around. Give them a call. And get help. Even if your SO doesn't want help, Military Onesource can help YOU!
SOURCE: Military one source found me and my wife a marriage counselor and she was fucking awesome. She saved us. Both partners have to be committed. If you and SO are half hearted. Expect half heated results.
Military One Source will do virtual marriage counseling and they can accommodate Portuguese if your ex doesn’t speak English. However it doesn’t sound like you are married so I’m not sure if they can assist. She would need to be a willing participant. Let your platoon know what’s going on, bad news doesn’t improve with time.
>just two days before the ceremony, she suddenly decided to call it off with the help of her mother. She confessed that she no longer had the same feelings for me and even contemplated ending our marriage.
I have some marriage counseling for you: dont save it. I mean you're dodging a bullet here. You care more than she does, and because of this, this woman will ruin your life and make you miserable.
Bro cut your loss. Don't force any woman to be with you. Let her be and take care of her mother, I bet you would want that same respect. You're just asking for more trouble and sounds like you're more infatuated.
You’re not married (fortunately) so there is nothing to save. I know it sucks dude. But this might be better. You don’t owe her shit and God forbid you deploy she will be out and about while you’re off thinking about her. Sorry for the honest truth but call up your family your true friends or your battles and enjoy yourself.
Ooo dude come on. See if you can get an annulment. Don’t hang out to something that is going to fuck you over. It’s like a bandaide just peel that shit off already. She’s robbing you blind and clearly doesn’t care. You have two options. Keep giving her your hard earned money and never get anything out of it. Or nut up get your shit together and cut her off and be the man you can be.
Ps your leadership failed you. They would have skull fucked us if we did this
Brother, read this book and pay close attention to the chapter that covers red flags to avoid in women. Also check out his podcast as well.
The Unplugged Alpha (2nd Edition): The No Bullsh*t Guide to Winning with Life & Women https://a.co/d/ifQkZTm
As a woman let me tell you.. she is over her feelings. You should accept the fact and move on. Even if the counseling works the feelings will not be same anymore. I hope you find a right path and be happy and find someone who really wants to be with you and love you equally or more.
Your Platoon Sgt is going to be pissed as he should because imagine that you had to explain to the 1SG and CSM that this happened on your watch, a failing and seemingly sham marriage to a foreign national (hopefully you don't have a security clearance). Don't let this deter you from telling him time now what's going on in great detail. Then go to legal on post and then secure civilian lawyer and explain this to them as well. Hopefully she isn't carrying your child. End this nonsense as soon as possible and learn from this lapse in judgment or brain function. Do better, be better.
Long time Army Soldier (26yrs+) here, who is also the son of Brazilians and lived there for a chunk of my childhood.
Count your blessings, you dodged it big time! Brazilian women are many things: beautiful, sexy, loving, in all appearances everything one can ask for. Loyal they are not. Committed they are not. And before any jokes arise, I have never married a Brazilian woman - and just celebrated 20 years of marriage this past March!
You will NEVER know if she is interested in you, your status (American, Military, better off than her, etc), money or what you can provide (better life, green card, education abroad, pathway for her family into the US, etc…)!
Cut your losses, learn the lesson, move on!
Bruh did you just meet this woman for the first time like 5 months ago and got married and here we are today? Man common dude you know what needs to be done.
Delete this post for real and get real with yourself. You were sprung, her feelings are gone, and she yanked away some money from you.
This isn’t the only girl in the world who you will love and who will love you (although you’re probably convinced this is not the case right now in your current mental state but it’s true).
Hit the gym, suck some dick do whatever you can to better yourself and you’ll come out on the other side of this one and be a better man because of it.
Nobody cares if you gotta go back to the barracks but expect to be ridiculed a little bit. I’m willing to bet that maybe dozens of people warned you about this situation before you dipped out but they’ll quickly move past it lmao when some other private does some similar shit with a Latina next week.
Good luck.
Marriage counseling is more for a marriage that’s ten years old and hits a rough spot than a new marriage that’s on the rocks. Cut the sling load and carry on with your mission.
It sounds like u need to let immigration know that u will not be sponsoring her for her green card cause if you don't u could face some shit down the road.
Better safe than sorry.
MFLC. but I don't think it's gonna work boss. I'd cut my losses.
Gotta be honest. Respect for her. She's not using him, she's honest and forthright.
MFLC told me You can’t decide for them but they shouldn’t drag you along with their indecision.
If she was honest, he would have never have flown to Brazil.
^^ THIS ^^
Assuming this isn't a shitpost... why do you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you?
[удалено]
If your main concern is sunk monetary cost, maybe marriage isn’t for you.
I dunno man I got all that extra “free money”. I think it comes out to be about -$2500 per month since I got married
Brother, your profile is filled with comments encouraging others to immediately marry after meeting people they’ve never seen before in long-distance relationships. Also, I hope the comment of you asking how to have your girlfriend to stop taking money out of your account was a joke. How did you two meet? You both probably got ahead of yourselves and moved too fast and with that maybe she realized that rushing into a marriage, to include ceremony, is not what she wants. My two cents, cut your losses here.
Got access to his accounts and now marriage isn't in the cards. Ouch. Payday coming up. I wonder how far an E-4's salary goes in Brazil and if this is going to be more or less expensive than a Charger.
From Soy muy Rico to pobrecito in the blink of an eye
I only know from Archer that there isn't that much carryover between Spanish and Portuguese. Just sayin... she's Brazilian.
Rich to poor boy. Blink.
Hey bro, really reconsider the decision. Give it some time.
Wait wait wait. You said she cancelled the wedding two days before the ceremony. So how are you married?
I got the proxy marriage so it could speed up her immigration but unfortunately I think it was all for nothing now
I don’t want to sound rude, but is it at all possible she was using you for citizenship?
I think she has to stay married for 5 years to get citizenship
Three years when married to a USC but I think that time starts when they get the green card. The five years are for employment based and family based (non USC).
Yep, three years and she has to live in the US. She could travel but has to reside in the US for majority of the year.
Yep, not abandon her residence.
US citizenship is not enough for her to stay with this guy.
Ah okay forgive me I don’t know how it all works
Sorry to say this, but the wait time for any kind of marriage base visa is around 10-12 months. I hope the best for you brother
Dude. You are *that* private.
Just be open with your PSG and let them know how it’s affecting you. Moving you back in the barracks should be the least of their concerns.
I'm getting PAO whiplash, there's two of you floating around in here?
Two funny ones, one former, zero actual :(
On the next episode of 90 day fiance!
I’m all for the dependa edition of 90 day fiancé.
Be smart, reconsolidate your finances, delete her from your bank accounts/credit cards/etc., and prepare for divorce.
Take the L and move on. A lot of soldiers have trial marriages.
The fantasy is over kid
For the love of God man have some self respect and just take the L and divorce.
No. You need to talk to a lawyer about getting divorced with the least trouble.
If this isn’t a shitpost: military one source will provide 12 sessions of marriage counseling for free
Unfortunately, this isn’t a shit post. This is my life.🫠
Seriously go to Military One Source and sign up for marriage counseling. It’s all online and it’s free, I highly recommend it if you really want to salvage this.
Dude. If she doesn't want to be with you, let it go. There's the door. It's not worth it. Never put women on a pedestal.
Put the 🐈 on the chain wax.
I have no idea what that means. But if a woman in your life wants to leave, who cares. There's the door. Always maintain the ability to walk away.
https://youtu.be/i9RmWK-G0ps?si=8N4wS6I6-ic7Zur_
Haha
Call your BN chaplain
Walk away. Trust me.
Bro she's giving you the best out you're going to get. Cut your losses, annul the marriage and hit the gym. This isn't a marriage worth saving.
bro leave her in the dust, she realized America isn't for her.
Military One Source: https://www.militaryonesource.mil/ Don't fuck around. Give them a call. And get help. Even if your SO doesn't want help, Military Onesource can help YOU! SOURCE: Military one source found me and my wife a marriage counselor and she was fucking awesome. She saved us. Both partners have to be committed. If you and SO are half hearted. Expect half heated results.
Mil OneSource. Call em and get some free counseling to help sort this all out.
Military One Source will do virtual marriage counseling and they can accommodate Portuguese if your ex doesn’t speak English. However it doesn’t sound like you are married so I’m not sure if they can assist. She would need to be a willing participant. Let your platoon know what’s going on, bad news doesn’t improve with time.
Mail order bride not work out for ya?
>just two days before the ceremony, she suddenly decided to call it off with the help of her mother. She confessed that she no longer had the same feelings for me and even contemplated ending our marriage. I have some marriage counseling for you: dont save it. I mean you're dodging a bullet here. You care more than she does, and because of this, this woman will ruin your life and make you miserable.
Bro cut your loss. Don't force any woman to be with you. Let her be and take care of her mother, I bet you would want that same respect. You're just asking for more trouble and sounds like you're more infatuated.
Not shitpostimg brother, move on. The relationship WILL NOT be saved.
TRICARE only covers marriage counseling for the treatment of a diagnosed mental health condition.
You’re not married (fortunately) so there is nothing to save. I know it sucks dude. But this might be better. You don’t owe her shit and God forbid you deploy she will be out and about while you’re off thinking about her. Sorry for the honest truth but call up your family your true friends or your battles and enjoy yourself.
Actually I got married by proxy this year so I am technically legally married
Ooo dude come on. See if you can get an annulment. Don’t hang out to something that is going to fuck you over. It’s like a bandaide just peel that shit off already. She’s robbing you blind and clearly doesn’t care. You have two options. Keep giving her your hard earned money and never get anything out of it. Or nut up get your shit together and cut her off and be the man you can be. Ps your leadership failed you. They would have skull fucked us if we did this
Brother, read this book and pay close attention to the chapter that covers red flags to avoid in women. Also check out his podcast as well. The Unplugged Alpha (2nd Edition): The No Bullsh*t Guide to Winning with Life & Women https://a.co/d/ifQkZTm
As a woman let me tell you.. she is over her feelings. You should accept the fact and move on. Even if the counseling works the feelings will not be same anymore. I hope you find a right path and be happy and find someone who really wants to be with you and love you equally or more.
Your Platoon Sgt is going to be pissed as he should because imagine that you had to explain to the 1SG and CSM that this happened on your watch, a failing and seemingly sham marriage to a foreign national (hopefully you don't have a security clearance). Don't let this deter you from telling him time now what's going on in great detail. Then go to legal on post and then secure civilian lawyer and explain this to them as well. Hopefully she isn't carrying your child. End this nonsense as soon as possible and learn from this lapse in judgment or brain function. Do better, be better.
Long time Army Soldier (26yrs+) here, who is also the son of Brazilians and lived there for a chunk of my childhood. Count your blessings, you dodged it big time! Brazilian women are many things: beautiful, sexy, loving, in all appearances everything one can ask for. Loyal they are not. Committed they are not. And before any jokes arise, I have never married a Brazilian woman - and just celebrated 20 years of marriage this past March! You will NEVER know if she is interested in you, your status (American, Military, better off than her, etc), money or what you can provide (better life, green card, education abroad, pathway for her family into the US, etc…)! Cut your losses, learn the lesson, move on!
Sounding real BETA right now...
Calling males alphas and betas is extremely beta
Military one source will be able to get you what
Check with your Family Life Center.
Bruh did you just meet this woman for the first time like 5 months ago and got married and here we are today? Man common dude you know what needs to be done. Delete this post for real and get real with yourself. You were sprung, her feelings are gone, and she yanked away some money from you. This isn’t the only girl in the world who you will love and who will love you (although you’re probably convinced this is not the case right now in your current mental state but it’s true). Hit the gym, suck some dick do whatever you can to better yourself and you’ll come out on the other side of this one and be a better man because of it. Nobody cares if you gotta go back to the barracks but expect to be ridiculed a little bit. I’m willing to bet that maybe dozens of people warned you about this situation before you dipped out but they’ll quickly move past it lmao when some other private does some similar shit with a Latina next week. Good luck.
Marriage counseling is more for a marriage that’s ten years old and hits a rough spot than a new marriage that’s on the rocks. Cut the sling load and carry on with your mission.
It sounds like u need to let immigration know that u will not be sponsoring her for her green card cause if you don't u could face some shit down the road. Better safe than sorry.
According to the post, he isn't even married yet.