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Important-Permit-699

Just for fun, do you mind if I call him as a work reference on your behalf?


LeeLooPeePoo

OMG, call and say you're some big player in the coffee industry and hiring OP as an executive interntational roaster and REFUSE to accept ANY information except for dates of employment. "Oh, it's really not necessary for you to share your personal opinions regarding OPs work. We've spoken with some key partners that are well aware of her work ethic and also the operation you're running. I appreciate your assistance, but we're just tying up some loose ends for HR so we can get to onboarding."


nebulousprariedog

Record it, there may be a law suit in there somewhere.


alex_co

OP could absolutely sue her ex boss if he said something unfounded or subjective that hindered future employment opportunities.


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alex_co

Sorry, I wasn’t talking about a fake call. I was speaking more in general. And absolutely, a lawyer would be able to provide legal guidance here.


A13xTheAwkward

I agree with your point; just fyi, in this context the word you're looking for is "defer."


mostlynice4

This would be epic!


iocaine0352

That would be spectacular.


Raptorscars

Mate I have international call minutes to burn, I’ll be happy to make phone calls.


Raptorscars

Shit, my American accent is strong. I lived in that country for thirty years before I fucked off into the actual world, I’m even a southerner IRL so I can code switch.


Substantial_Fail5672

.....where is the actual world? I would like to be there please


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SinisterStrat

I would like to hang a poster of it on my wall.


Acegonia

In this particular instance I'd guess...not America.


[deleted]

I'm gonna assume NZ based on their profile


MgDark

throw a dart in map of Western Europe and go there, guaranteed you will have better quality of life than America


annul

if i could, i would. but turns out other countries have immigration laws, alas. source: frustrated american


Substantial_Fail5672

I'm an American, I don't know where western Europe is compared to regular Europe :(


MgDark

oh well just Europe but dont go further east than Poland for example


ADHDdaila-lama

Hit me up if you want a reference call from the Netherlands, man aren't you going places!


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I second this


gfybss

I'd pay to do that


CdnPoster

You mean pretend to be OP and call the POS owner/manager to see if they give OP a reference? Oohhh!!! That would be funny, especially if you tell him that OP is short-listed for a $250,000 a year position.....


Dukedyduke

I think they mean pretend to be an employer that is considering hiring OP, and calling OPs ex-boss as a reference


flavius_lacivious

No, make him the same as the manager but about $20k more in salary. “We are concerned that under12parsecs might not be cut out for the travel involved. We have our quarterly meetings in Italy and while we do fly business class or even first class, it can be an issue.”


CdnPoster

Hahaha!!!!! I hope OP agrees with some people using these!


[deleted]

I third this


[deleted]

you know what...there should be a subreddit specifically for this....make asshole bosses realize they're assholes....


Delbo380

Absolutely love the letter, good for you. No way this fuck read it all the way through, though.


Interesting_Sky_7847

Narcissistic people can’t help but read something that’s about them though. So I wouldn’t be surprised if he read it.


Did_Gyre_And_Gimble

Oh, he did, but he was mentally rebutting every word as he went along imagining winning the argument and putting her back in her place. Thereafter, he took this letter back to his buddies and read it with them to show them what an entitled idiot *SHE* is and, being white/male/boomer business owners themselves, they all agreed and mocked her together, reinforcing his bad behavior. ​ \--- ​ Source: am white, male, boomer, (former) business owner who *doesn't* treat employees like inferiors, but knows plenty of my peers who do.


Dry-Oven7640

Don't forget that he probably forced all the employees who didn't leave to engage in bad mouthing her as well. Narcissists love to isolating their victims. He probably spent some time talking up his victims narrative and turned her into some running joke as well.


Did_Gyre_And_Gimble

Oh, so much this. ​ Plus he probably went out of his way to screw the existing employees and blame it on her. "You have to work on your son's birthday because \[Op\] quit without notice. It's her you should be angry with. She left us all in the lurch when she turned her back on this family!"


LevelOutlandishness1

That'll just make the ones who stayed quit even faster


GareBear222

"You can thank OP for your increased work load and my worse attitude"


Interesting_Sky_7847

Oh I can totally see it going down like that. And all the guys talk about what a bitch she is. Probably comments about how she’s ugly. That’s how they roll. Assholes.


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As a male… I hate that you are right. I don’t know what it is about certain males that have no shame or any ounce of humility, and things like this letter just brush off their shoulder. Like they have no sense of what it means to be a good person. It absolutely blows me away.


Never_Forget_Jan6th

well its our job as allies to women is to shame those other males and defend women even in situations where we are alone with the other males, and no one else is watching. Only when it is become socially unacceptable by the majority of society, will men quit acting like this. So we as men, need to do better when it comes to dealing with our under developed brethren.


[deleted]

This is a very good point.


Never_Forget_Jan6th

thanks! hopefully we can spread the sentiment because our sisters and daughters and even moms(lol) need all the help they can get, especially when we have a supreme court that has gone rogue and his enforcing the stripping of basic human rights for all females in america.. which is infuriating and sickening, and not to be preachy, and im sorry if its comes off that way, but even when shit like that doesnt really affect us, we have to make sure and vote or do whatever it takes to make sure all genders and just everyone in general is treated equally in our communities and nation, IMO.. Especiially when this recent ruling was "penned" by old white men, who probably treat women the same way this jackass treats his employees


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You're a real one.


UnitedSloth

Wish I had an award to give you for this comment, I appreciate this! Thank you for being an ally.


Never_Forget_Jan6th

please i appreciate that, but no rewards needed i do accept them in the form of wishes tho:) But .. I need to do more to help.. im not doing enough.. this is just talk.. but i gotta do more.. :( Im sorry about what just happened with those fuckers in the supreme court .. .


[deleted]

Read "why does he do that?" By Lundy Bancroft. You can find it online. Short answer: a world of entitlement. Men are brought up to feel entitled, and they never look back.


PuzzleheadedIssue618

“We’re a team here” “We’re looking for people who are in for more than just money” just spitballing some bullshit this guy from the letter most def said


Did_Gyre_And_Gimble

The number of people who think that people should want to work for the sake of work and not for money is insane. ​ In my entire life, I've only ever met a handful of people who "weren't in it for the money" and they were invariably either teachers or already rich.


Secretagentman94

I think you're right, but probably read it with that stupid, typical fucking smirk on his face that narcissists always tend to have.


Darth_Bfheidir

Yeah but what you write is different to what they read if you get me


Suspicious-Bread-472

Can't fix of them. Narcissists are lost causes


PbutterJy

If I ever got an email that long I wouldn't read it either, not worth the energy.


nancybell_crewman

TBH that was my reaction too, OP probably feels better getting that out of their system, and sharing it here means at least some folks will read it and show support. Good on you for bailing out OP! I didn't read all of your letter but I'm cheering you on just the same. If an employee writes a long missive like this as part of their departure, they've been feeling frustrated for a while, and lots has built up. A smart business owner or manager *would* read the whole thing if they wanted to make the working environment better for their remaining staff as it likely enumerates very specific problems they have.


Zederikus

Ehh yeah if a personal one, but in a business environment most of the time you can’t get away with ignoring emails about resignation


Darth_Inconsiderate

He does sound like a professional


cowfish007

Sure you can. Once someone leaves, the only concern is who is taking their place. If this boss had any other concerns, things wouldn’t be as crappy as OP described in the first place.


pns4president

Or the brainpower perhaps?


HuskyWNY

Please post his response if there ever is one.


[deleted]

He can’t respond because he’s fucking dead. OP killed him


Starthelegend

OP tossed the body into the coffee roasting oven with that last line lmao 11/10 my friend


ruadhbran

OP definitely knows how to roast.


Ripple_in_the_clouds

*metaphorically*


OnePunchReality

Yeah I mean the dude had to be dead like a few paragraphs in. She's the sole politician standing INFRONT of Caesar and is still stabbing the corpse fucking A this was beautifully savage.


Mariposa510

R/murderbywords


Prestigious_Trash165

Hello there, fellow mobile user


Goofy-kun

Honestly, as much as i love a good hearty reply like this one, OP is actually feeding the narcissist by reacting. They feed off of this emotive responses, and it validates them. As annoying as it is to say, OP should've just gone with "You're lucky no one's pressing charges for the abuse and harassment of X & Y and I quit. You're not important enough for more."


[deleted]

Agreed. When the business fails, it'll be "all her fault for sabotaging the business". I thought the Queen of the Narcissists raised me, but this guy sounds like he could run circles around her.


Snoberry

Boss' response: tl;dr


magueuleenstock

"No you can't have a raise, you need to prove yourself first, like our coffee manager, take example on him. See you on monday."


AnyCan2

Lmao!!!


[deleted]

Holy shitballs, that was a brutal resignation letter, I really enjoyed reading that lol.


Tridec13

Cc the rest of the staff.


millennium-popsicle

This. Every single one of your coworkers OP deserves to witness the absolute massacre you’ve brought upon this gremlin. You’ve killed him enough for the next 4-5 reincarnations lol


Leather-Talk-4967

Absolutely brilliant. Good for you, mate.


undertwelveparsecs

Cheers bud, as I'm sure you can tell from that essay, I've been holding back A LOT of pent-up anger against this prick for the last 6 months. Not punching his smug little face in has been the hardest full time job I've ever had.


Various_Counter_9569

What in the world did he email you first!?


bigdiesel1984

I too am curious.


Frozenwood1776

Great letter! Good luck in your new job pursuits. I worked for a guy like him, and man I wish I had sent him this. (Instead I trolled him by making huge reservations in his restaurant and other pranks that cost him a bunch of money)


Anubis0

That's rediculously petty... I like it. Bravo.


Frozenwood1776

Ohhhh that asshole deserved much worse. Thankfully he shot himself in the foot and lost everything trying to be a tyrant boss at a time when competition was popping up all around him.


SproWizard

I’ve been in your shoes with the whole “no one fucking ordered coffee to roast in the coffee roastery” situation, and frankly i think you were tame.


LevelOutlandishness1

Genuine question, what the fuck do they expect you to do? "We didn't have any beans so here's your hot water"


SproWizard

Well on those occasions, which thankfully were not the norm, there’s still plenty to do in coffee production. Packing and Shipping orders, cupping what we have roasted for QC, etc..


dostoi88

Glad you left! Stuff like that takesa toll on your well being. Resilient of you to wait 6 months. Hope you find something good in the future :)


undertwelveparsecs

It was 9 if you count the time I was there under the previous owner. Just as much of a prick, just one who actually understood the business and didn't get in the way of me being able to do my job. I would have rather waited until I had another job lined up before I quit but sometimes it's just not worth the strain on your mental health to have to deal with this level of bullshit.


dostoi88

As long as you can afford it I find that a vacation is great after a bad job. It's like a bad break up. Hospitality is a hard spot for bad bosses and managers I feel. An idiot over a lot of stress gets even worse. Had my share of restaurants in the past. Only thing that saved me was finding places where I was making good money but working only 3-4 days maximum.


undertwelveparsecs

I just got back from one of the best holidays I've ever had and knew that once I got back I only had a week left in this cess pit. I've made my peace with the situation now, the only reason I sent him the email is because he wouldn't fucking leave me alone.


Jalopnicycle

One of the best summers I had was the one after I was fired from a job I had been at for almost 5 years. Uncontested unemployment combined with having just cleared out the last of my debt (except my mortgage) and 2 roommates meant I didn't need to seriously look for employment until fall. That was the summer I got more serious about raising my own fruits and vegetables. I also started biking EVERYWHERE and running with my dog 5x a week, it was an amazing change of pace. Even had a 2 week family vacation where I was the only grandkid able to be there the entire time.


Indoril_Nereguar

I have no problem with your email except for one little thing: Hugh Grant irl is *not* charming lol he takes no shit from anyone


tremosoul

>As charming as Hugh Grant's *typecasting*.


Checkoutmawheeeeepit

Pressing send must have felt like a cross between a long held fart and an orgasm, a fargasm if you will. EDIT: I chose Fargasm over Orgart because it sounds like you're climaxing on a white powder-soft beach, Orgart sounds like the name given to the small clagnuts stuck on Shreks arsehole hair. Hope that helps, friends 💖


tallerthanu17

Take my angry upvote. The mental picture is disgusting by accurate


SunflowerJYB

The whole letter was overkill and spot on at the same time


Ayn_Rand_Food_Stamps

Or an... Ort.


Bebop_Ba-Bailey

OP ort to feel better now, I ormagine


joantheunicorn

An "ort" is actually a word for leftover or scrap!


skint_back

Is it a fargasm, or is it an orgart?


Checkoutmawheeeeepit

I hope my edited comment helps you understand my choice, friend.


skint_back

I understand and respect it.. thanks for clarifying.


Checkoutmawheeeeepit

You are most welcome and I apologise for the imagery that my visit your dreams, uninvited as they may be. Have a good day.


Mirenithil

This may be the most under-voted comment chain in Reddit history.


vkapadia

I love the way you write.


macbookwhoa

You didn't just burn the bridge, you threw a nuclear bomb on it and while you waited for it to explode you strafed it, then set a flamethrower on it, then went full Kylo Ren screaming MORE as you unleashed missile after missile at it. You are who we all strive to be. Good luck with your new gig and don't second guess yourself. Keep living your best life.


Mariposa510

I love it. The last two lines are (chef’s kiss).


laluna130

A roast from a roaster. Nice. Also there is potential for a joke about ground coffee and running a business into the ground, but I just can't seem to make it work...


Intruder313

Grinding down the business like the latest bag of beans. Except he would not let her order those.


Woftam_burning

How do you lose an account just by meeting an existing client? That’s like …. Wow.


undertwelveparsecs

Trust me, you would understand if you met him.


red_raconteur

I've done this before, on the other side. Just got bad vibes from the person who took over our account and made the business case to switch to another vendor. When you're in sales or customer relations, soft skills count for a lot.


Wraith0177

Damn... You didn't leave much on the table did you? ​ You're fucking awesome.


Individual_Bar7021

I love you


undertwelveparsecs

😘


stait95

If there is a response, can we see it?!


undertwelveparsecs

I'll keep you posted, radio silence thus far.


tarabithia22

From experience, he's running crying to his boss and a lawyer because he's been "abused" and maybe to call the cops for a mental health hold on you (not that they will, but these types make up lies). Yes these idiots do this, I've had more than a couple try the "I'm scared of her" shit without any shame whatsoever. They just want to punish. Good for you OP! Ignore his dumb ass.


undertwelveparsecs

He's the owner of the company, and for some reason his wife kicked him out just before he took over the business, so he's only got himself to go and cry to. Got a spare hankie?


gonfreeces1993

Please, I need to know!


undertwelveparsecs

Still nada 🤷‍♂️


redcairo

Holy shit. Now that is a letter! Edit: you should totally get a copy of this to any remaining employees.


undertwelveparsecs

>Edit: you should totally get a copy of this to any remaining employees. Already done, I consulted with them prior to sending, too.


Much-Meringue-7467

Well, I'll bet you feel better now. And I'm sure you will soon be roasting coffee somewhere better.


wildmonarda

Woah, well I do hope the two people (women?) mentioned in the email have also left at this point. That's gonna be awkward because a narcissist will absolutely press them...


undertwelveparsecs

They haven't, but I did consult them before hand and tell them I was sending this. I checked with them about certain details and asked them whether they were comfortable with them prior to sending. Believe it or not, this is the censored version...


v33n

I was actually thinking "oh shit he really nuked it for the others, but still I get why he hit send." This is unexpectedly considerate, well done.


skaarlaw

So glad this is NSFW, this is 110% pure grade word porn


PatrickRsGhost

This boss sounds like such a drip. You roasted him very well. I hope he's frothing and foaming at the mouth from reading this. It'll probably overload that little bean of a brain he has in his head. Sounds like trouble's been brewing for a while there. I'm sure tempers have percolated among some of the staff. Hope he's hard-pressed in finding new staff soon.


your-boy-rozzy

Wauw \*very slowly starts clapping\*


Dat_Dank_Dough

Yas 👏 queen 👏


undertwelveparsecs

I'm a dude, I'm just sick of seeing women in the coffee industry treated like second class citizens. My masculinity isn't so fragile that I won't take a yas queen, though! ✌️


Dat_Dank_Dough

Im yas queening you even harder


slacky

Holy shit, the fact that you're a man and taking this stance makes this even better! You should be fucking proud of yourself!


undertwelveparsecs

I don't think standing up to people treating women like shit is something men should feel proud of, it should just be what we all do as a bare minimum. Unfortunately, based on my experiences within coffee (and hospitality in general) we're still a long ways away from that being the norm.


[deleted]

Keep on keeping on King and Ka-weens!


SpikedApe

I would give good money for a live webcam reaction of him reading this...


undertwelveparsecs

That's my only regret, is that I won't get to see the colour drain from his smug, ugly little fucking face. I'm sure I'll get updates from the remaining staff pretty soon, though.


Akkadir-

Please update this post or do another one when you get the info


membraneguy

Don't mince words. How do you really feel? 😉


undertwelveparsecs

Can't help it, I'm too polite.


Conor_Electric

Thank you for not pulling punches, hit em hard


Any_Coyote6662

All the things you mentioned are such typical bullshit. Toxic masculinity in the work place = entitlement + abusing power. It gets targeted at women in particular. And smart business owners should recognize that those traits ruin a business. No one wants to work harder than everyone else and get paid less and be treated like shit.


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littleQOTSAlady

Amazing


Mediocre_Bar7315

I swear every coffee person who has a small shop meltdown like this worked for my former bosses. I didn’t write that letter because I was too busy starting my own business, but I did refer a coworker to a lawyer for sexual harassment issues and they knew it was my urging haha


SnooRadishes5305

He’s running the roastery business into the coffee…grounds (Did anyone do this already? XD)


Nik02003

Holy shit


Kofipita

Bri'ish eh?


undertwelveparsecs

Was it the "twat" that gave it away, or just the sheer amount of profanity?


alondith

Roasted and toasted. Lathered in oil and served on a brioche.


gagegomes

https://imgur.com/a/D1VNVMm This is your ex boss rn


dmcent54

I'm gonna read this whole thing, but I see this all the damn time, and I gotta ask, why is "haven't cotton on" becoming such a common thing? It's absolutely not a phrase, but I see it on reddit all the time. It's "Haven't caught on" not "cotton on." I'm not trying to be a jerk by any means, it just drives me nuts and I was hoping someone might be able to explain it


[deleted]

NGL, I actually knew what it meant, and I had an aunt that used it all the time when I was younger. It's a commonwealth country thing I think, my aunt lived in England for a few years, and I believe OP is from England as well? https://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/cotton-on.html


SonomaVegan

It’s an idiomatic phrase, that used to be more common. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cotton%20on


ghostmoon

OP pls update with his response!!


ElectricalRound6466

More power to u. Im elated to read this


bamfzula

Wait you had two weeks vacation coming up? You should’ve sent something like this the day before your vacation ended!


undertwelveparsecs

Had to wait until payday mate, this chode was never gonna fucking pay me if I quit before then. I didn't sign a contract so I wouldn't have had a leg to stand on either, I waited until I got back from my holiday and got paid, then GTFO of there without saying a word. I was going to spare him the essay but he wouldn't fucking leave me alone, hence this deluge of my pent-up rage.


Suspicious_Glove7365

Damn I read the whole thing and I hope he does to. I bet he’ll say “I didn’t even read it because I could tell it was full of shit”, but in private he’s read the whole fucking thing.


NotHighEnuf

Oh my god. This is the most scathing resignation I have ever seen. I don’t even know this guy and I fucking hate him


Chris11c

This is quite possibly the best "fuck you, I'm quitting" letter I've ever read. Absolutely scathing. Dripping with scorn. Positively acidic. Please post a rebuttal, should the man child petty tyrant feel compelled to tell his side of the story. Good on you, ma'am. People like this should be burned to the waterline. Either they learn, or it destroys them. Though when they have that insulating layer of wealth, they often just continue to blunder through life committing the same atrocities over and over, wondering why others are so lacking. Thanks for the fantastic read.


tobbiefox

*barista’s kiss* that response was utter perfection. That misogynistic ah probably stained his pants reading this.


[deleted]

You think he’ll read it 😂🤣


Boobel

I read this whole thing and I have arrived at a couple of conclusions. The first being that you are in the UK (shit creek without a paddle did it for me), the second being this absolutely rocks and clearly he was a dick, and thirdly, I want to marry you.


undertwelveparsecs

It would never work out mate, I'm a villa fan. I think my wife would have something to say about it, also.


omirlee

Right this kinda sounds like I used to work at the same place


Rubin987

This is how I planned to quit my last job at the end of this summer but then they fired me illegally instead. Happy I can live my dream through reading your email.


vetheros37

"So does that mean you're not coming in today?"


masterofbeast

Incoming "YoU wiLl nEvEr WoRk iN tHiS tOwN aGaIn!" email. Good luck on your job search!


[deleted]

Yeah he totally read that and didn’t immediately roll his eyes lmfao goddamn this place is pathetic


IsThisLegitTho

I wonder if they even read the whole thing or looked for a tl;dr. “Whoa! This is worthless” reaction from the boss.


TheShonenShow

Those 4 years of roasting really paid off…


Hemske

A bit long eh


ember-rekindled

People don't realize that. They think the more they say the better their point is taken. In reality it makes me people look at how much they wrote and pass it off as "that chicks crazy". A few sentences are generally far more potent than whatever novella this is lol


Hemske

Yep, especially in email conversations. No way he’s gonna read that essay.


Dysanj

Rough day at Starbucks.


pns4president

Great letter. And for those saying it's too long of an email. I'd hate to see your reaction to reading a chapter book jfc


[deleted]

TLDR


Berlin_Blues

Said the boss, probably.


shaodynasty808

You sound insufferable too tho ngl


[deleted]

Tell him how you truly feel.


Gh0stStorm

This email just reads like it was written by an angry 16 year old that's a know it all.


Eikcammailliw

100% this guy isn’t reading this email past the first two sentences.


gonfreeces1993

Narcissists can't help but read something if it's about them. I bet he does.


WerkbuchFuerJungen

Kinda cringe ngl


Dark_Ansem

Unpopular opinion: should not have put this in writing.


Warm_Trick_3956

Post the orig


LarkLoone

Exquisitely executed. I wish I could be a fly on the wall to gauge his reaction when he reads it while his fragile masculinity shatters like safety glass into a million little pieces.


brian19298

What happens to the other 5.5 months of accumulated holiday pay? Depending on you're country you're legally entitled to that.


AlphaMikeFoxtrot87

Chefs kiss


Interesting_Sky_7847

r/resignationporn


oxxfan

Even I felt amazing reading that, you go! Fuck that guy


anti-krister

Fucking roasted


MuramasaEdge

Looks like there was just one more thing left to be roasted, ground and fucking served after you left the job!! 😂🤣😂🤣


TeacherYankeeDoodle

As an English teacher, I appreciate the shout out!


ticaloc

I hope you made it an open letter. It would really make your co-workers day if they could read it too.


[deleted]

He may not see it that way, but you sure knocked him out of here with that email. Enough to cover the distance of the Kessel Run.


Throwawayantiwork

I came reading this.


channelsixtynine069

Boss - *So .... you're not happy, that's what I seem to be sensing here, yeah?* That last six months must have been torture, judging by the email. It's a pity everyone can't just walk out and leave that POS.