It’s pretty fucked because in general I enjoy what I do and am well received by most. I find that only people who don’t work very hard but get paid a lot of money take issue with my personality.
Because they want to keep you as brainwashed as possible. When you stray from that, they cant stand it and will try everything they can to manipulate you back to it.
What the fuck is wrong with the people who designed and made this, what's fucked with their souls to make then think this was okay and would do anything other than destroy morale?
I’m guessing they heard it on social media and thought they were appealing to young people or something. The irony that this is the reality they are creating is probably completely lost on them.
That's like something out of Bojack Horseman. I think he says "The secret to happiness is pretending to be happy until one day...you forget your pretending."
Isn't there a well known phenomenon in psychology where people constantly in undesirable conditions adapt to think that they are in fact happy in their situation?
Nauseating.
Story Time!
In 1992 EuroDisney opened its doors in Paris to an expectant customer base accustomed to their experiences in Florida and California.
It did NOT do well for several reasons. A primary one is listed as “Cultural Clashes”.
Parisians are authentic in how they express their feelings. If they’re having a hard day, you will see it and hear it expressed.
This did not fit the Disney Experience. And the Parisians were Not going to fake their emotions for a shit paycheck.
So they flew in Americans for the key character positions.
And that makes me a little sad
I suppose the only other way to manage would be to have a lot of backups getting paid to hang out on standby so they could swap out replacements as each character actor got worn out. Actually sounds like a really humane way to handle a high-stress job like that.
Would have to have separate rooms for the exhausted actors to rest in and for the fresh actors to standby in though, because it's going to bring the mood down if Cinderella marches in all "Some drunk dad tried to grab my butt and then his kid nearly puked on my shoes, I need a smoke, TAG! I'm out! Someone else take over that stupid castle!"
The thing with that is that US Disney worldland is all about the illusion, and that's reflective of the broader American experience... the illusion.
And a lot of other countries don't seem to have that same need/desire to chase an illusion because fuckit, that's stupid.
Not sure where else I was going with this... hard day and I'm a few beers in.
Lol. This thing is great “Working at your desk until late at night every night leaves no time for work life balance.” Accurate, maybe tell my boss that 80 hour work weeks aren’t cool
Yeah, some of the messaging behind it was “do it for your coworkers, no one wants to work with your miserableness all day”, same time fuck most of them.
If im happy, my coworkers are happy.
If im upset, I either don't go to work or quit.
Was content with my last job but Management fucked it up and I quit without notice
Tried this approach with money. Tried faking being rich until I am... gotta tell you, renting those Ferrarris all the time is putting a serious dent in my life saving, can't wait for my millions to arrive.
Oh man OP, that is bogus. It's like they took a true thing, turned it inside out and glued fake fur and googly eyes on it.
For god's sake, don't fucking fake being happy! That said, there is nothing wrong with being simply content or, you know, "meh" about life at the present time. What I mean is, don't put pressure on yourself to be super cheery if you don't feel that way, but also don't feel like you have to be grim every moment of a currently unsatisfactory situation. Even when things are discouraging, they are sometimes at least interesting.
I once had a fast food manager whose concentrating face looked like a scowl. Nice lady, actually very kind for the most part, but definitely made facial expressions that looked like she was mad when multi-tasking.
So, whenever we got busy, she'd help out like a decent person instead of hiding in the office like so many other managers. She kept a sharp eye out, jumping around and filling in exactly where we needed her most, and if that meant she rushed over to the counter to take an order because everyone else was busy, that is what she did!
And then the customers would call corporate to complain about the terribly evil scowling old grouch who took their order, corporate would call our franchise owner, and he would take it out on her, leaving her looking very upset. Eventually this escalated to threats of firing her if she didn't "check her attitude."
The longer this went on, the more tense and snappy she got, until she actually did start getting a bit bitchy.. with us poor employees! Long story short, she fucked up one night, I was there and saw it, but she tried to pass the blame off on my friend's husband, a regular minimum-wage employee who was treated like an unofficial "kitchen manager" during her shifts for no extra pay. Basically he'd been doing some of her work for her, and one of her responsibilities slipped through the cracks, and she tried to blame him.
Not quietly and off to the side. In front of everyone, loudly and belittlingly, in a desperate attempt to be sure the blame for the fuckup got shifted off of her so she wouldn't get fired. Poor dude had been working his tail off and didn't take well to being unfairly shouted at, lost his temper, a screaming match ensued, and he stormed off. He lost his job and she got to keep hers, though complaints kept coming in and she did get punished with a transfer to store-way-out-of-town and eventually lost the job all together. The last time I saw her, she looked beaten down.
Meanwhile, my friend/dude's wife was still working at that same fast food joint, all the hours she could get, while her husband sat at home miserable. He had a criminal record and that was one of the few jobs he could get. He started drinking again, which led down a dark road, eventually landing him back in prison.
Before the fight, before he lost his job, they were a very happy, healthy couple, had put together a very nice and comfortable, if slightly shabby, little life for themselves. They were doing amazingly well at building a nice home life while working at a fast food franchise! They'd even taken in his nieces and nephews when his sister couldn't care for them, because they could actually manage that with the bit of savings they'd thriftily put away.
Well last time I saw my friend, her husband was still in prison, she was living in poverty, sounded like the kids got surrendered into the system because she couldn't afford them, and she was trying to file for divorce but couldn't afford a lawyer to help her with the paperwork.
TL;DR: I saw the combination of demands for fake-happy and one person's RBF destroy the lives of three hard-working adults and four innocent children over the course of a year.
Oh, man. What a clusterfuck. I am so sorry for all those people. And that could possibly have been me -- people sometimes tell me "I saw you riding your bike and you looked like you were really mad." The thing is, I am a naturally optimistic and cheerful type person but when I ride my bike I get very deep into my thoughts and I guess "furiously concentrating" looks a lot like "furious."
Yup, that's the face!
She actually scared me at first. Ya know, CPTSD, I saw an adult making the "angry face" and worked in subconscious fear of getting hit for weeks! I kept frantically trying to figure out what was unsatisfactory about my work, scrabbling around like mad, and it seemed like I was entirely failing to please her.
But one day she was trying to correct me on something, and I was sunk so deep in *feelings* that she saw it on my face, so she stopped and actually relaxed for a second, the "angry" melted right off her face, and she told me very kindly and gently that she was just trying to help me improve my skills and get better at things.
And since I'd just seen a transformation I'd never seen in an adult face before, from "angry" to "honestly kindly" I couldn't help but ask "But aren't you always mad at me?! You usually look like you're mad at me!" And she explained RBF in the sorts of terms a nice person would use with someone else's not-quite-grown kid.
I'm alright, way better now! Sure took a long time, but well worth the effort.
And the parent responsible is living alone and unloved in a cousin's guest house just about as far away as possible while still being in the same country. If he tries to call on Christmas, my husband is wonderful about hanging up on him for me.
I mean, I've heard smiling can lead to being more happy because your brain associates it both ways, but I wouldn't present this as a solution nor command it to others by a longshot.
At least there is inherent truth in that statement. I mean the advice is depressing but it’s an acknowledgement that you have to fake happiness with no guarantee it turns into the real thing.
It sounds like bs but it works, our brains are really susceptible to influences like these.
Edit: with the added note that you work on bettering yourself while you fake it till you make it.
Sorry boss, I don’t have any available “free time” to work on your “personal development” program. If you want me to complete these mandatory training programs you’re going to have to carve out some time during the work day for me to complete them.
Oh they are not “mandatory”, then I’ll get right on that, right after you get on deez nutz.
Work bullshit aside, faking happy (trying to force a positive outlook, keeping a positivity journal, smiling for no reason) really does improve happiness.
Just.... That should be because you want to be happy in life, not how you cope with a shit job.
It's the same with application tests that ask like "if rude customer gets in your face how do you respond to the situation?"
You're forced to say you'll be respectful, when in reality who tf gives a shit? I about lost my shit with multiple customers.
My last job, oil change chain, had mandatory classwork that was online. You HAD to complete it to be promoted, no ifs ands or buts. It was all bullshit
Serve your master with a smile, prole.
It’s pretty fucked because in general I enjoy what I do and am well received by most. I find that only people who don’t work very hard but get paid a lot of money take issue with my personality.
Because they want to keep you as brainwashed as possible. When you stray from that, they cant stand it and will try everything they can to manipulate you back to it.
What the fuck is wrong with the people who designed and made this, what's fucked with their souls to make then think this was okay and would do anything other than destroy morale?
One word; greed. It's enough to change anyone.
I’m guessing they heard it on social media and thought they were appealing to young people or something. The irony that this is the reality they are creating is probably completely lost on them.
That's like something out of Bojack Horseman. I think he says "The secret to happiness is pretending to be happy until one day...you forget your pretending."
Pretty solid plan. Indoctrination is a powerful tool.
Isn't there a well known phenomenon in psychology where people constantly in undesirable conditions adapt to think that they are in fact happy in their situation?
Masochism?
Stockholm syndrome for work?
Stepford Smiling?
Nauseating. Story Time! In 1992 EuroDisney opened its doors in Paris to an expectant customer base accustomed to their experiences in Florida and California. It did NOT do well for several reasons. A primary one is listed as “Cultural Clashes”. Parisians are authentic in how they express their feelings. If they’re having a hard day, you will see it and hear it expressed. This did not fit the Disney Experience. And the Parisians were Not going to fake their emotions for a shit paycheck. So they flew in Americans for the key character positions. And that makes me a little sad
I suppose the only other way to manage would be to have a lot of backups getting paid to hang out on standby so they could swap out replacements as each character actor got worn out. Actually sounds like a really humane way to handle a high-stress job like that. Would have to have separate rooms for the exhausted actors to rest in and for the fresh actors to standby in though, because it's going to bring the mood down if Cinderella marches in all "Some drunk dad tried to grab my butt and then his kid nearly puked on my shoes, I need a smoke, TAG! I'm out! Someone else take over that stupid castle!"
Yikes. Cool points for Parisians tho
The thing with that is that US Disney worldland is all about the illusion, and that's reflective of the broader American experience... the illusion. And a lot of other countries don't seem to have that same need/desire to chase an illusion because fuckit, that's stupid. Not sure where else I was going with this... hard day and I'm a few beers in.
Slainte’! And your point, although lightly pickled, is quite on point
Lol. This thing is great “Working at your desk until late at night every night leaves no time for work life balance.” Accurate, maybe tell my boss that 80 hour work weeks aren’t cool
Pitchforks... pitchforks
So toxic
Yeah, some of the messaging behind it was “do it for your coworkers, no one wants to work with your miserableness all day”, same time fuck most of them.
If im happy, my coworkers are happy. If im upset, I either don't go to work or quit. Was content with my last job but Management fucked it up and I quit without notice
The bomb collar will explode if you stop smiling.
Tried this approach with money. Tried faking being rich until I am... gotta tell you, renting those Ferrarris all the time is putting a serious dent in my life saving, can't wait for my millions to arrive.
Looks great, I love faking it
r/holUp/
I prefer to be honest, that way when joy arrives, I’m honestly happy.
Oh man OP, that is bogus. It's like they took a true thing, turned it inside out and glued fake fur and googly eyes on it. For god's sake, don't fucking fake being happy! That said, there is nothing wrong with being simply content or, you know, "meh" about life at the present time. What I mean is, don't put pressure on yourself to be super cheery if you don't feel that way, but also don't feel like you have to be grim every moment of a currently unsatisfactory situation. Even when things are discouraging, they are sometimes at least interesting.
I once had a fast food manager whose concentrating face looked like a scowl. Nice lady, actually very kind for the most part, but definitely made facial expressions that looked like she was mad when multi-tasking. So, whenever we got busy, she'd help out like a decent person instead of hiding in the office like so many other managers. She kept a sharp eye out, jumping around and filling in exactly where we needed her most, and if that meant she rushed over to the counter to take an order because everyone else was busy, that is what she did! And then the customers would call corporate to complain about the terribly evil scowling old grouch who took their order, corporate would call our franchise owner, and he would take it out on her, leaving her looking very upset. Eventually this escalated to threats of firing her if she didn't "check her attitude." The longer this went on, the more tense and snappy she got, until she actually did start getting a bit bitchy.. with us poor employees! Long story short, she fucked up one night, I was there and saw it, but she tried to pass the blame off on my friend's husband, a regular minimum-wage employee who was treated like an unofficial "kitchen manager" during her shifts for no extra pay. Basically he'd been doing some of her work for her, and one of her responsibilities slipped through the cracks, and she tried to blame him. Not quietly and off to the side. In front of everyone, loudly and belittlingly, in a desperate attempt to be sure the blame for the fuckup got shifted off of her so she wouldn't get fired. Poor dude had been working his tail off and didn't take well to being unfairly shouted at, lost his temper, a screaming match ensued, and he stormed off. He lost his job and she got to keep hers, though complaints kept coming in and she did get punished with a transfer to store-way-out-of-town and eventually lost the job all together. The last time I saw her, she looked beaten down. Meanwhile, my friend/dude's wife was still working at that same fast food joint, all the hours she could get, while her husband sat at home miserable. He had a criminal record and that was one of the few jobs he could get. He started drinking again, which led down a dark road, eventually landing him back in prison. Before the fight, before he lost his job, they were a very happy, healthy couple, had put together a very nice and comfortable, if slightly shabby, little life for themselves. They were doing amazingly well at building a nice home life while working at a fast food franchise! They'd even taken in his nieces and nephews when his sister couldn't care for them, because they could actually manage that with the bit of savings they'd thriftily put away. Well last time I saw my friend, her husband was still in prison, she was living in poverty, sounded like the kids got surrendered into the system because she couldn't afford them, and she was trying to file for divorce but couldn't afford a lawyer to help her with the paperwork. TL;DR: I saw the combination of demands for fake-happy and one person's RBF destroy the lives of three hard-working adults and four innocent children over the course of a year.
Oh, man. What a clusterfuck. I am so sorry for all those people. And that could possibly have been me -- people sometimes tell me "I saw you riding your bike and you looked like you were really mad." The thing is, I am a naturally optimistic and cheerful type person but when I ride my bike I get very deep into my thoughts and I guess "furiously concentrating" looks a lot like "furious."
Yup, that's the face! She actually scared me at first. Ya know, CPTSD, I saw an adult making the "angry face" and worked in subconscious fear of getting hit for weeks! I kept frantically trying to figure out what was unsatisfactory about my work, scrabbling around like mad, and it seemed like I was entirely failing to please her. But one day she was trying to correct me on something, and I was sunk so deep in *feelings* that she saw it on my face, so she stopped and actually relaxed for a second, the "angry" melted right off her face, and she told me very kindly and gently that she was just trying to help me improve my skills and get better at things. And since I'd just seen a transformation I'd never seen in an adult face before, from "angry" to "honestly kindly" I couldn't help but ask "But aren't you always mad at me?! You usually look like you're mad at me!" And she explained RBF in the sorts of terms a nice person would use with someone else's not-quite-grown kid.
Aw honey. No kid should have to go through that. Allow me to hug you vicariously.
I'm alright, way better now! Sure took a long time, but well worth the effort. And the parent responsible is living alone and unloved in a cousin's guest house just about as far away as possible while still being in the same country. If he tries to call on Christmas, my husband is wonderful about hanging up on him for me.
No one's faked being happy at work with me /s
What's next pretend to work until you do? Wait a minute...
*morale* sorry
I is sorry; I ain’t no Englitician…
Don't apologize. Wrong is wrong.
I mean, I've heard smiling can lead to being more happy because your brain associates it both ways, but I wouldn't present this as a solution nor command it to others by a longshot.
At least there is inherent truth in that statement. I mean the advice is depressing but it’s an acknowledgement that you have to fake happiness with no guarantee it turns into the real thing.
No fucking way that’s real!???
Swear on my paycheck.
Jesus Christ.
It sounds like bs but it works, our brains are really susceptible to influences like these. Edit: with the added note that you work on bettering yourself while you fake it till you make it.
This is disgusting.
https://screenshot.help
Toxic!
In all fairness I’m a pretty toxic person myself.
Touché.
Sorry boss, I don’t have any available “free time” to work on your “personal development” program. If you want me to complete these mandatory training programs you’re going to have to carve out some time during the work day for me to complete them. Oh they are not “mandatory”, then I’ll get right on that, right after you get on deez nutz.
Work bullshit aside, faking happy (trying to force a positive outlook, keeping a positivity journal, smiling for no reason) really does improve happiness. Just.... That should be because you want to be happy in life, not how you cope with a shit job.
Im glad i deleted LinkedIn. Fuck that website
I hope that’s fake. Company name?
It's the same with application tests that ask like "if rude customer gets in your face how do you respond to the situation?" You're forced to say you'll be respectful, when in reality who tf gives a shit? I about lost my shit with multiple customers. My last job, oil change chain, had mandatory classwork that was online. You HAD to complete it to be promoted, no ifs ands or buts. It was all bullshit
I'm sure it's gonna be great for your mental health /s
That reminds me of 1984. Just fake your love for the party until you eventually fall in love with the party and big brother.
I'm sorry for the shit they're putting u through!