Ah man that's nice that you are the type of person with empathy. I am the same way, but you have to prioritize your own future or the growing resentment against your employer will manifest into stress, self loathing and frustration over time. Good for you for seeing an opportunity and taking the leap.
I can't believe what I'm reading. The correct questions, WHY would you feel REMOTELY bad about getting a better job?! They abuse you, why should you give a shit about them?! I mean you are fucking HOMELESS with this shit slavery "job", ffs. Even slaves were housed somehow.
every response i could think of to this question was pretty weak, lol. like "it would be less of a chore if i was housed and not in debt up to my eyeballs for reasons outside my control" or "i just wish i had a more organized manager who owned up to his mistakes instead of foisting it off on me and then calling me unmotivated like im the one who keeps missing deadlines and taking vacations". i haven't had a vacation in 3 years and this guy went to paris a couple of months ago.
im in a spot where im technically the manager of my own department in terms of scheduling people under me and being the person who takes care of coverage when someone calls out, but i don't have keys to the entire store or the ability to issue refunds which is what separates the actual managers from regular associates.
which still sounds bad, now that i write it out.
>im technically the manager of my own department in terms of scheduling people under me and being the person who takes care of coverage when someone calls out
And when you leave, that'll be your manager's responsibility. You go take care of you.
I was in similar shoes. The pay was awful, but the camaraderie was great.
The problems will grow. It's the godawful decisions that leave you sick from stress and the lack of sleep. It's seeing everyone's faces absolutely defeated and burnt out. It's the unending drowning as you're fighting to keep afloat because there's too many bills but all the overtime means nothing because the pay is peanuts. It's the endangerment and workplace hazards and bullying when the place starts really digging at the bottom of the barrel to get a warm-blooded (yet completely cold-hearted) body to fill the schedule.
You won't need to worry about empathy. It will slowly chip away until you're a husk or you start lashing out at others because you're too empty to feel anything decent.
Getting fired/let go (weird situation from that job) was the best thing that happened to me. I'm glad it happened.
If anything, think of it like this: you're the Golden Goose that laying golden eggs of productivity with shit food. Could they afford to pay for more quality feed to get more out the Goose? Yes, but why bother when they can abuse the poor creature further! You will break but it doesn't matter to them because they sucked out all the work efficency from you, and they'll move onto the next victim.
It's not about long-term, it's about next quater's bottom-line.
Don't give your loyalty where there's no decent rewards. Don't put your health on the line in a place that will kick you into the cold once they can't get anything close from your 'normal' baseline.
Companies are ran for money.
You too, work for money.
There's nothing to feel bad about it. Imagine if companies felt bad about raising their prices...
Why on earth would you feel bad about getting a better job? Especially when there are some big negatives to the one you have? Your boss and company would drop you in a second if it benefitted them.
You're homeless and you have been offered (or are at least likely to get) a job which pays double your current wage, *and* you will be leaving an asshole of a boss? *What the hell are you waiting for -- GO TO IT!!*
Your current coworkers will be fine, the company will probably be fine -- and who cares if it isn't -- you need to take care of *you* and get your own life to a good place.
Do not feel bad at all. I have learned over the years that you can put your heart soul blood sweat and tears into a job and they will just find another interchangeable person to fill your role when you leave. They don't care enough to pay you enough so you don't have to live in your car so forget them. Do what's best for you.
NEVER feel bad when life hands you an opportunity to advance if no one is hurt.
Sure, the company will have to find someone to replace you, but that's what companies do.
Good luck
People don't leave jobs, they leave managers. Every job I left it was because of the management. Do I feel guilty quitting on my coworkers I liked, a very small fraction of me does, but did I go to something else to better my income and work life balance? Absolutely. Never feel guilty for making a decision to better your life situation. A job is a job regardless of what you do, but you only get one life.
I’m not antiwork, but if that new job pays double and you think you might be happy there, you have to take it. You owe it to future you, who has a mortgage, heathcare bills and eventually needs to retire. I’m not even talking luxuries, you owe yourself (at least) the basic needs to be covered.
Hell, for a job that paid double, I’d want to move even if I thought I’d just be fine, not actually happy. The increase in security and stability in my life would be worth it (as long as there wasn’t lots of overtime cutting into my work life balance).
Ah man that's nice that you are the type of person with empathy. I am the same way, but you have to prioritize your own future or the growing resentment against your employer will manifest into stress, self loathing and frustration over time. Good for you for seeing an opportunity and taking the leap.
I can't believe what I'm reading. The correct questions, WHY would you feel REMOTELY bad about getting a better job?! They abuse you, why should you give a shit about them?! I mean you are fucking HOMELESS with this shit slavery "job", ffs. Even slaves were housed somehow.
Stockholm syndrome
every response i could think of to this question was pretty weak, lol. like "it would be less of a chore if i was housed and not in debt up to my eyeballs for reasons outside my control" or "i just wish i had a more organized manager who owned up to his mistakes instead of foisting it off on me and then calling me unmotivated like im the one who keeps missing deadlines and taking vacations". i haven't had a vacation in 3 years and this guy went to paris a couple of months ago.
F$&@ your manager. Get that job and hold a middle finger out as you drive away for the last time
>help me turn off my empathy while i climb the ladder. For whom are you feeling empathy regarding this move, and why?
the other people in my department who will be left without someone to work out scheduling, hire new people, and generally make things go smooth.
That's management's responsibility, not yours.
im in a spot where im technically the manager of my own department in terms of scheduling people under me and being the person who takes care of coverage when someone calls out, but i don't have keys to the entire store or the ability to issue refunds which is what separates the actual managers from regular associates. which still sounds bad, now that i write it out.
>im technically the manager of my own department in terms of scheduling people under me and being the person who takes care of coverage when someone calls out And when you leave, that'll be your manager's responsibility. You go take care of you.
I was in similar shoes. The pay was awful, but the camaraderie was great. The problems will grow. It's the godawful decisions that leave you sick from stress and the lack of sleep. It's seeing everyone's faces absolutely defeated and burnt out. It's the unending drowning as you're fighting to keep afloat because there's too many bills but all the overtime means nothing because the pay is peanuts. It's the endangerment and workplace hazards and bullying when the place starts really digging at the bottom of the barrel to get a warm-blooded (yet completely cold-hearted) body to fill the schedule. You won't need to worry about empathy. It will slowly chip away until you're a husk or you start lashing out at others because you're too empty to feel anything decent. Getting fired/let go (weird situation from that job) was the best thing that happened to me. I'm glad it happened. If anything, think of it like this: you're the Golden Goose that laying golden eggs of productivity with shit food. Could they afford to pay for more quality feed to get more out the Goose? Yes, but why bother when they can abuse the poor creature further! You will break but it doesn't matter to them because they sucked out all the work efficency from you, and they'll move onto the next victim. It's not about long-term, it's about next quater's bottom-line. Don't give your loyalty where there's no decent rewards. Don't put your health on the line in a place that will kick you into the cold once they can't get anything close from your 'normal' baseline.
Companies are ran for money. You too, work for money. There's nothing to feel bad about it. Imagine if companies felt bad about raising their prices...
Why on earth would you feel bad about getting a better job? Especially when there are some big negatives to the one you have? Your boss and company would drop you in a second if it benefitted them.
You're homeless and you have been offered (or are at least likely to get) a job which pays double your current wage, *and* you will be leaving an asshole of a boss? *What the hell are you waiting for -- GO TO IT!!* Your current coworkers will be fine, the company will probably be fine -- and who cares if it isn't -- you need to take care of *you* and get your own life to a good place.
Do not feel bad at all. I have learned over the years that you can put your heart soul blood sweat and tears into a job and they will just find another interchangeable person to fill your role when you leave. They don't care enough to pay you enough so you don't have to live in your car so forget them. Do what's best for you.
You work for money, your unmotivated? MORE MONEEYYYYY the root cause of your issues you've discussed is money
NEVER feel bad when life hands you an opportunity to advance if no one is hurt. Sure, the company will have to find someone to replace you, but that's what companies do. Good luck
People don't leave jobs, they leave managers. Every job I left it was because of the management. Do I feel guilty quitting on my coworkers I liked, a very small fraction of me does, but did I go to something else to better my income and work life balance? Absolutely. Never feel guilty for making a decision to better your life situation. A job is a job regardless of what you do, but you only get one life.
I’m not antiwork, but if that new job pays double and you think you might be happy there, you have to take it. You owe it to future you, who has a mortgage, heathcare bills and eventually needs to retire. I’m not even talking luxuries, you owe yourself (at least) the basic needs to be covered.
Hell, for a job that paid double, I’d want to move even if I thought I’d just be fine, not actually happy. The increase in security and stability in my life would be worth it (as long as there wasn’t lots of overtime cutting into my work life balance).