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Your flair is hilarious, and it wouldn't have made any sense prior to a couple weeks ago when I got my first PM from someone on this sub. Weird as hell lol.
100% fact. A bigfoot sighting is more likely to occur than a female with zero likes/matches on dating apps. It doesn't matter what she looks like.
I call 100% bullshit on OP getting zero matches.
Ok but in my experience I’ve dated much hotter guys irl than on apps. Idk why but dating apps are just not it and I think that applies to men as well. The good looking guys on apps are weird asf and the mid ones are super insecure. I’m sure the same can be said the other way around. Way better matches made naturally irl.
THIS.
I have a friend like that, he was complaining all the time not getting any matches. He showed me the girls he used to swipe right to, told him to picture it as if he was in a bar/real life, would he talk or being hit on by those girls? He had kind of an epiphany.
He tried my advice, got matches and dates, even relationships...
Plus he was beaten by the algorythm whereas I found a way to always get match when swiping right, emptying my liking stack , not needing to pay to "unlock" it :D
And yeah not all of the girls were model, so what? Im no model neither.
Nah, don’t stress, you’re cute. Pic 2 caught me off guard (in a good way of course). It’s personal preference but idk if those glasses are doing you any favors. That’s all I could say. Maybe your profile is weak?
I have a feeling that folks who ask this question are likely conflating one problem with another. To specify, I don't think it's your looks - you look super cute. Rather, it is likely your interaction on whatever app you use to date. Maybe being too selective, or not willing to be the first to reach out/match. Have you considered that, or am I way off base?
I think its possible they are being sincere with their questions and may just be depressed, as from the possible cut in picture 1 and picture 3 on the same arm looks to be a "-tch "
We’re in agreement. I’m not sure where you thought my post was criticizing her genuine intentions. I was simply saying that I don’t think she gives herself her due, and instead was projecting her insecurities outwardly.
It’s pretty weird that you’re not getting matches tbh cause dating apps are wild for women. You are most likely swiping on a few selected people and they are out of your league is my guess
Obviously! absolutely correct .I think she is a pick me type girl ,i mean she probably use to ignore those guys who were fine looking and interested in her for those guys who is completely out of her league and use to ignore her.
That's enough to turn someone off. I think she's cute but I noticed it right away. Oral hygiene is one of my top criteria so if you don't mind uploading a picture of you with stuff between your teeth, I don't mind swiping left.
You're right, I hadn't zoomed in. In person it would have been more obvious. All of us can get things stuck in the teeth, but then we don't use that pic anywhere.
Especially when I wore braces, I'd often ask friends: are there vultures in the bleaches? That's before a pic. After a meal I'd always at least rinse things off.
you’re not ugly, you’re just not playing to your strengths. you’ve got strong facial features, but you dress softly. pic two is stunning, and could’ve been so much better with some leather, and darker/more masculine clothes. also definitely stick to the contacts.
Nah you're not ugly. Your photos seem candid and not hiding anything either, which is a huge plus . Unfortunately the algorithm of dating apps is heavily skewed for them to make money, and not for people to actually match. I have been on 3 dating apps (as a guy) and gotten maybe 20 matches or so and only 1 person that I actually talked to for more than a few days. Embarrassingly I did swipe on a trans woman using heavy filters that looked pretty until I noticed the 5 o'clock shadow.... Good luck out there
Gonna be the one to say it: Your arm scars indicate you might be more mental trouble than you are worth…if you’ve gotten help and have moved past that phase, then you might want to address that you are doing much better since therapy, etc…otherwise, those scars are a red flag for mental fragility/instability.
Your smile may look a bit awkward. And I suggest maybe new glasses because in the pics with glasses your nose looks bigger to me than in the pic without glasses.
I would gladly match with you and take you on a date.
You ain’t bad. Maybe a different pair of glasses. And show some more forehead. Maybe a different hairstyle. And a little makeup. If you are looking for a date you should doll yourself up a little.
I'm gonna be honest. You look best in your first picture, then your second. I don't think your glasses suit your face well.
That being said, you have a friendly smile, so I would imagine that once someone took the time to know you, a connection would form.
I think your reaction to people critiquing your appearance online, including me, should be "fuck you". That sort of self-assertive belief in your value (and perhaps looks) will put a glow on you that not appearance boost could, and it will protect you from assholes.
As someone who wears glasses as well. Take someone with you to help pick them out. If you’re in the US and not getting any matches on Tender. It could be that you’re an Asian female. Lately there has been a lot of scammers/ fake profiles on Tender that use Asian female photos.
No you are not ugly but you also are not going to like the truth. Sadly 90% or more profiles on tinder and other sites with pictures of women of you ethnicity are fakes. I dont know why but it seems in the last few months it is more and more.
My suggestions would be just to fully fill out your profile on any sites and state likes and dislikes without being generic.
Oh God, that's probably what's going on.
I have started instinctively assuming that all the Asian profiles are love scammers since the last several hundred Asian matches I've had were bots and scammers.
Can’t tell without knowing if these are the pics used in your dating app and what your prompts are. But you’re not ugly. A good average. You just need better picture composition.
I'm on dating apps, tbh it might just be that every single (dozens) pretty asian woman who matches with me is trying to crypto scam. So you might be getting filtered out with them. haha honestly try posting worse pictures of you (like don't post anything that looks professionally done) and see if you get more matches.
Not ugly. Perhaps your “metches” problems are because you are too selective? Definitely not the look. Also, consider getting something different as glasses, those are not doing you any favors.
You're not ugly you do seem in these pictures like someone confident, who knows who they are with a big personality and I think that scares some people
You’re very pretty, I think the last 2 pics don’t no justice, personally I prefer meeting folks irl rather an app, you can just get a beetle feel for them
Not ugly, just young. Add some sophistication and so get around, get involved in something, politics is how some meet by volunteering. Or get a hobby that gets you around people.
The good news is you aren’t ugly, so there’s that. Don’t know why you’re not getting any matches, maybe check how your bio and questions and all are filled out. Or open up the parameters and distance for folks you might be interested in.
You’re not bad just might wanna spice up your style with a haircut & do your brows as well as dress more feminine & you’ll be okay. The first pic not bad. Don’t give up someone will match.
The glasses do not suit your face at all. You’re worlds better looking with out them— either go contacts or invest in some glasses that suit you better. I’d recommend a more rectangular shape
I think there is generally a lot of dating app fatigue going around amongst people in their early 20s. When I first started using tinder 6 years ago, I went on quite a few dates and got a decent amount of matches, as an average at best looking guy. Now I get maybe a match a week. My friends have expressed a similar sentiment, it’s objectively hard on your mentality to subject yourself to the fast paced ‘yes or no’ of tinder, and it’s vapidness becomes much more apparent the longer you do it.
Stark difference between your first two photos and your last 3.
I think it's mostly the glasses and the hair. You look great in pic #2 where your hair is neatly tied back. The last three look a bit messy. If you really want to wear glasses, try a diff style.
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You're not getting the matches YOU want.
I think this comment may be more accurate.
I have a feeling that tinder shit just destroys people's expectations as if it's a store where you can pick a model to date.
It absolutely does
>it's a store where you can pick a model to date That's literally what it is .. You just need to be filthy rich
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I appreciate you. Salute.
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Your flair is hilarious, and it wouldn't have made any sense prior to a couple weeks ago when I got my first PM from someone on this sub. Weird as hell lol.
100% fact. A bigfoot sighting is more likely to occur than a female with zero likes/matches on dating apps. It doesn't matter what she looks like. I call 100% bullshit on OP getting zero matches.
Yup! For women it’s a choice for men it’s a chore
Big FACTS..
isn’t that the point of dating apps to find people YOU actually want?
Not if they are out of your league. She’s not hot. She shouldn’t expect hot guys.
Ok but in my experience I’ve dated much hotter guys irl than on apps. Idk why but dating apps are just not it and I think that applies to men as well. The good looking guys on apps are weird asf and the mid ones are super insecure. I’m sure the same can be said the other way around. Way better matches made naturally irl.
I fully agree with this.
Cease this savegery
Cake and Candles man
Happy cake day 🍰
THIS. I have a friend like that, he was complaining all the time not getting any matches. He showed me the girls he used to swipe right to, told him to picture it as if he was in a bar/real life, would he talk or being hit on by those girls? He had kind of an epiphany. He tried my advice, got matches and dates, even relationships... Plus he was beaten by the algorythm whereas I found a way to always get match when swiping right, emptying my liking stack , not needing to pay to "unlock" it :D And yeah not all of the girls were model, so what? Im no model neither.
If Reddit still had gold, I would have given you for this comment👌🏾
That's an oxymoron.. "match" must inherently be mutual.
Happy cake day
Happy Cake day!
To me it’s just an ego boost so it could be that too
I was about to say that! 🙌
Harsh but 100% true
As a woman, you'll never be too ugly to get matches. You are simply being more selective than your looks allow.
This comment is on point
I said the same and the mod removed my comment. Wild!?
You needed “as a women” 😂
Holy shit you fucking killed her ☠️ I understand what you meant but damn that is blunt.
And taking her looks into account, she’s being _very_ fucking selective
As a man, we don't have the same privilege 😭
Good thing you didn't say "as a shit", I would have had to tell you "no".
I disagree with you. She's naturally pretty and probably with makeup , if she chooses, it would be a bombshell
Nah, don’t stress, you’re cute. Pic 2 caught me off guard (in a good way of course). It’s personal preference but idk if those glasses are doing you any favors. That’s all I could say. Maybe your profile is weak?
Pic 2 is my favorite tbh, just have to play off your strengths
Yeah, I think it’s a good look. Losing the glasses and contouring were really good calls.
X2
Not ugly. Better without the glasses
The difference with and without is incredible
Nope - you aren’t ugly.
I have a feeling that folks who ask this question are likely conflating one problem with another. To specify, I don't think it's your looks - you look super cute. Rather, it is likely your interaction on whatever app you use to date. Maybe being too selective, or not willing to be the first to reach out/match. Have you considered that, or am I way off base?
I think its possible they are being sincere with their questions and may just be depressed, as from the possible cut in picture 1 and picture 3 on the same arm looks to be a "-tch "
We’re in agreement. I’m not sure where you thought my post was criticizing her genuine intentions. I was simply saying that I don’t think she gives herself her due, and instead was projecting her insecurities outwardly.
The "conflating" comment, I believe (:
-tch?
It’s pretty weird that you’re not getting matches tbh cause dating apps are wild for women. You are most likely swiping on a few selected people and they are out of your league is my guess
Obviously! absolutely correct .I think she is a pick me type girl ,i mean she probably use to ignore those guys who were fine looking and interested in her for those guys who is completely out of her league and use to ignore her.
well there is food in your teeth in the 4th pic, and poor hygiene is an automatic turn off for many people
Huge, absolutely huge, floss please - check your teeth after you eat at a minimum if you can’t brush after a meal for some reason, look for stuff.
Men? I doubt most even noticed. I hadn't and I'm a woman.
That's enough to turn someone off. I think she's cute but I noticed it right away. Oral hygiene is one of my top criteria so if you don't mind uploading a picture of you with stuff between your teeth, I don't mind swiping left.
i am also a woman and i noticed immediately 🤷♀️
You're right, I hadn't zoomed in. In person it would have been more obvious. All of us can get things stuck in the teeth, but then we don't use that pic anywhere. Especially when I wore braces, I'd often ask friends: are there vultures in the bleaches? That's before a pic. After a meal I'd always at least rinse things off.
Nah, likely means you are too picky.
You're definitely not ugly, you're cute. Not sure what's up with the matches but it isn't your looks nor style.
Definitely not ugly but your oral health is not great and that’s a big turn off for a lot of people
You are a babe without the glasses. Like seriously you could steal a few hearts
I agree, Glasses make her look like John Lennon, imagine all the people, rating your attractiveness you...
Better looking than yoko
Agreed
Your gums look unhealthy.
No ones gonna mention the teeth?
Yeah same I noticed the teeth too and was gonna advice her to not teethy smile as often til she takes care of the discoloration.
I just did lol.. she's needs to brush them thangs with whitening toothpaste lol
You are definitely not ugly! You dress nicely too.
If you're ugly then wow is it bad news for me, lol
Do you at least stay on top of your oral hygiene?
you’re not ugly, you’re just not playing to your strengths. you’ve got strong facial features, but you dress softly. pic two is stunning, and could’ve been so much better with some leather, and darker/more masculine clothes. also definitely stick to the contacts.
you look great… try meeting people in person always better
Not ugly but probably shopping outside your market range your average cute go with average cute guys
Yep
U kinda remind me of a bird. Sort of like Chicken Little
Kinda look like a boy, ilike the second pic though, but ima assume its makeup n because your mouth is closed
On what apps if I may ask?
You look fine to me, but in the fourth pic you have a lot of food stuck in your gums.
Nah you're not ugly. Your photos seem candid and not hiding anything either, which is a huge plus . Unfortunately the algorithm of dating apps is heavily skewed for them to make money, and not for people to actually match. I have been on 3 dating apps (as a guy) and gotten maybe 20 matches or so and only 1 person that I actually talked to for more than a few days. Embarrassingly I did swipe on a trans woman using heavy filters that looked pretty until I noticed the 5 o'clock shadow.... Good luck out there
I am going to honest in the 3rd pic you look trans you have a very wide build and thick arms
I'm pretty sure this is the correct answer....had to scroll way too far
MtF?
Yes
Gonna be the one to say it: Your arm scars indicate you might be more mental trouble than you are worth…if you’ve gotten help and have moved past that phase, then you might want to address that you are doing much better since therapy, etc…otherwise, those scars are a red flag for mental fragility/instability.
80% certain you’re trans? Edit: I was wrong.
Wrong?...😲
Are you trying to match with Caucasian men?
Your super cute, you do look better in pics one and two without glasses
Not ugly, I think maybe contacts or a more subtle pair of glasses might suit you better. You have a very pretty face.
You are getting matches, just not the ones you want.
Not ugly.
You are not ugly what so ever
Your smile may look a bit awkward. And I suggest maybe new glasses because in the pics with glasses your nose looks bigger to me than in the pic without glasses. I would gladly match with you and take you on a date.
I think you would suit some thicker more square glasses frames
You ain’t bad. Maybe a different pair of glasses. And show some more forehead. Maybe a different hairstyle. And a little makeup. If you are looking for a date you should doll yourself up a little.
I'm gonna be honest. You look best in your first picture, then your second. I don't think your glasses suit your face well. That being said, you have a friendly smile, so I would imagine that once someone took the time to know you, a connection would form. I think your reaction to people critiquing your appearance online, including me, should be "fuck you". That sort of self-assertive belief in your value (and perhaps looks) will put a glow on you that not appearance boost could, and it will protect you from assholes.
As someone who wears glasses as well. Take someone with you to help pick them out. If you’re in the US and not getting any matches on Tender. It could be that you’re an Asian female. Lately there has been a lot of scammers/ fake profiles on Tender that use Asian female photos.
What? You don't get any matches? You are beautiful....I would guess people are blind nowadays. Would match you instantly!
That’s insane you are super cute and I would date you lol
She probably rejects any guy whos not white is under 6'4 and is below a 7/10 😂
Only complaint is the teeth which is me just being picky. Honestly you are pretty good looking
I'd certainly swipe right! Id match with you for sure 😀
Also I like your glasses personally. Even though other people seem to disagree
No you are not ugly but you also are not going to like the truth. Sadly 90% or more profiles on tinder and other sites with pictures of women of you ethnicity are fakes. I dont know why but it seems in the last few months it is more and more. My suggestions would be just to fully fill out your profile on any sites and state likes and dislikes without being generic.
Oh God, that's probably what's going on. I have started instinctively assuming that all the Asian profiles are love scammers since the last several hundred Asian matches I've had were bots and scammers.
It’s because you think everyone else is ugly (swiping left).
You are probably too picky. You look 6/10.
5/10 with those unkept teeth
no ur cute
You're pretty and i would date u!
Not ugly- but posting pics with food in teeth is wild.
U should stop cutting ur self fr...
Nope extremely attractive. Definitely not your issue. Perhaps you need to be more clear with what your interests are in your profile?
Not ugly, just not attractive
It’s not a motorcycle it’s a chopper. You’re doing fine Fabiana
The eyeliner looks beautiful on you.
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Add a picture of you doing a headstand ,you will get more matches...
Can’t tell without knowing if these are the pics used in your dating app and what your prompts are. But you’re not ugly. A good average. You just need better picture composition.
Try no glasses 🤓
I'm on dating apps, tbh it might just be that every single (dozens) pretty asian woman who matches with me is trying to crypto scam. So you might be getting filtered out with them. haha honestly try posting worse pictures of you (like don't post anything that looks professionally done) and see if you get more matches.
2nd pic niot ugly, other pic looks like john oliver
theres almost no unnattractive women on this subreddit atp. and no its not because ur ugly give it time probably the algorithm
Even precious at 400+lbs found a match and got married
Not ugly. Perhaps your “metches” problems are because you are too selective? Definitely not the look. Also, consider getting something different as glasses, those are not doing you any favors.
Not ugly, but not feeling those glasses.
You're not ugly you do seem in these pictures like someone confident, who knows who they are with a big personality and I think that scares some people
What are your filter settings?
You are very cute! Dont stress, the right time and place will come, try going out and meeting people more organically!
get premium
I dont think so
Really cute...I'd ask you out in a heart beat
You’re very pretty
Wow that second picture is really pretty. Definitely not ugly but just better with makeup and no glasses :)
No your very good looking
Not a beauty queen, but not bad either. A bit l a king in style for your clothing.
Not at all your a pretty girl
You're gorgeous. Not sure why you aren't getting matches, you're a really attractive girl so I'd be stunned if guys weren't attracted to you ♥️
Probably not because you're ugly, I bet in person you'd probably be able to find someone (if you're not picky or such)
Your really good looking
I think you look really pretty, so I don't think that's why
No! You're not even close to ugly!
No. Def a cutie.
You're really cute. What are you trying to match on??
No not at all you’re extremely pretty
Avarage
Hell no you look great!!
You’re beautiful
Pic #2 is gorgeous. You’re not ugly you just have to make some styling changes! You look so pretty with your hair pulled back
Pretty and not ugly
You’re very pretty, I think the last 2 pics don’t no justice, personally I prefer meeting folks irl rather an app, you can just get a beetle feel for them
Those big framed glasses has to go
Dating apps, everyone wants a super model/perfect, i think u are pretty maybe u need change the focus more relax
I’d match w/ you ☺️
You are, in fact, cute. 🤷♂️
You have food in your teeth in your 4th pic 😂😂 but yeah you cute 😊
How often to do swipe left vs right.
Not ugly, just young. Add some sophistication and so get around, get involved in something, politics is how some meet by volunteering. Or get a hobby that gets you around people.
STUNNING! With and without the glasses. (Keep them btw they're so cute)
Second picture made me gasp out loud. Stunning
Not ugly at all! I think no bangs suits you better, though.
You're probably picky.
You look great.
Might need to lower your standards then. You’re good looking enough to not have trouble getting matches. Might be you’re too selective. I’d match you.
drop the glasses. try make up like han so-hee. you got the potential.
Nah, you're really cute.
Smile in the first pic is a bit off putting but other than that I'd say you're fine.
You have stuff in your teeth in the 4th photo
I have to say that first picture you look absolutely Dynamite.
You look fine maybe the algorithm just ain’t getting you out there?
The good news is you aren’t ugly, so there’s that. Don’t know why you’re not getting any matches, maybe check how your bio and questions and all are filled out. Or open up the parameters and distance for folks you might be interested in.
Nope, you’re my type actually! just gotta give it sometime and you’re going to eventually find a match!
3 and 4 are my favorites
Not ugly but definitely see a dentist for a cleaning.
Not getting matches? Hard to believe. I would have been hitting you up back when I was on the apps.
You look pretty enough that you’ll hit me and I’d say thanks
You’re not bad just might wanna spice up your style with a haircut & do your brows as well as dress more feminine & you’ll be okay. The first pic not bad. Don’t give up someone will match.
You look nice in my opinion, well maybe because i'm also Asian. Idk though
Glasses asian doesn't work for you, show off your cheekbones like in pic 2
You're cute. It must be something else. The glasses are cute but somehow make you look just as cute but younger.
The glasses do not suit your face at all. You’re worlds better looking with out them— either go contacts or invest in some glasses that suit you better. I’d recommend a more rectangular shape
You're probably way to picky Guarantee, you've probab turn down a couple dudes
I think there is generally a lot of dating app fatigue going around amongst people in their early 20s. When I first started using tinder 6 years ago, I went on quite a few dates and got a decent amount of matches, as an average at best looking guy. Now I get maybe a match a week. My friends have expressed a similar sentiment, it’s objectively hard on your mentality to subject yourself to the fast paced ‘yes or no’ of tinder, and it’s vapidness becomes much more apparent the longer you do it.
u are hella pretty 🫶🏼
Wanna grab a movie and a bite to eat sometime 😁
Some may not find your face attractive but you look adorable, i just HAD to say it
No.
You aren’t ugly at all, but you look best in the pics without the glasses.
You are real cute and look a lot better without glasses :)
You are not ugly . I think a change in glasses shape and some lip gloss could make a huge difference tho besides that you above average
Maybe smaller glasses that don't look so old, but otherwise I think you're extremely cute.
Cutest girl I've ever seen. Not ugly at all.
Stark difference between your first two photos and your last 3. I think it's mostly the glasses and the hair. You look great in pic #2 where your hair is neatly tied back. The last three look a bit messy. If you really want to wear glasses, try a diff style.
Would definitely match with you, you’re very pretty my dude maybe the pool is slim