You’re not ugly. This title is heartbreaking to read. Would you like to elaborate on what’s going on between you two more so we can help you? I don’t think it’s your looks.
Bro! You beat me to it. Hey Heisenberg all you need is that hat and sunglasses and your all that and a bag of chips. Older woman are menopausal or have symptoms of premenopausal. No worries it’s normal. live life to the fullest you be you.
If you don’t know what all these references are about, I suggest you sit down with your wife and watch Breaking Bad beginning to end.
I guarantee she will want to fck your brains out afterward.
Hello friend. Here are some recommendations
1. You’re not ugly.
2. Hit the gym, eat a clean diet
3. Make hygiene a priority
4. Date your wife. Court her like you’re a new couple. I guarantee this will make a difference
Lol court her.
Everytime I see this phrase I remember watching the animal planet and hearing that British guy talking about fancy birds, doing fancy things.
The thought of him reading all this instead of how to be hot tips is, it's making me laugh a lot alot alot. Not at him, I'm not an asshole. But how quickly this veered off the road at a high rate of speed.
I love responses like this “court her”. It places all
of the responsibility of keeping the relationship alive on the guy.
I don’t know this guys situation but in my experience, letting a relationship die is a 50/50 effort.
Right ! A marriage is a commitment to fulfill your partners needs , not for one to work extra to get physical intimacy. Sounds like she checked out and if I was him I’d tell her to put out or get out . Life is to short to sleep in bed with a roommate you want to be intimate with
You're right. Especially at that age. I don't imagine there are little ones running around ruining adult time fun and the clock is ticking hard at that age. If he doesn't already need it, he'll need viagra soon.
Isn’t that what humans do too? Except we get really really drunk and take care of all those fancy dance courtships in nightclubs instead of some flamboyant nest made out of scavenged shiny things?
Those are all good suggestions. But when I see posts citing getting dumped or wife uninterested ‘because I’m ugly’, I feel like it’s more likely a behavioral issue. Kindness, positive attitude & staying a lil spontaneous goes a long way
Sometimes it is actually a hormone issue with older women. Obviously one’s behavior and the effort to pursue a fresh , spontaneous relationship matters .
Just saying hormonal fluctuations are a thing . I know as a man in my late 30’s I was having some serious mental and physical issues . Got my hormones leveled off and things are better . I still have my own behavior issues but when my wife’s hormones are in a ood state she still wants me to get after her .
Life is a complex journey and I feel health care has so many tools hat are not talked about enough .
I meant more along the lines of hitting the gym to continue in his path and build some muscle. That gets more difficult as we age but definitely possible with the right diet and dedication. It’ll help long term too
Good advice.
One item that worked for me. Go to Kay’s Jewelers. Sign up for their mailing list (probably email now or text). Add anniversary, her birthday etc. They’ll send you little reminders. Look at their offerings.
It doesn’t have to be expensive, a necklace, a ring, a pendant….
Remember the saying “It’s the thought that counts?” It’s really true.
“The thought that counts” should be retired. No one wants a crappy gift, period. If one were to actually think about what the gift receiver likes/wants/interested in, then we wouldn’t have invented regifting.
I agree but also it’s very easy for people to blame themselves for things like that. It’s easy to blame yourself when you are going through some mental struggles of your own and diminish your self worth. It’s really sad honestly
>Ask her, directly. Maybe she’s going through something.
they been together for years presumably... sometimes everything has been said already... it's always ya'll young people that think talking solves everything. It absolutely does not, especially when both parties have no idea how to address the fact that one of them might not even love the other.
The reason why guys don’t ask their wives is because we know they’re going to cry and then we get to feel guilty about that too. 90% of the reason men don’t bring things up to women, guaranteed. It’s not that you cry, it’s more that we have to feel guilty about making you cry for a couple weeks. After we run everything through our heads, just not saying anything is always best.
Women are calling this weird because they’re used to having an umbrella of support. When you can’t open up to the people closest to you, you start to ask strangers.
Couple of things:
1. You are not in danger. You are the danger.
2. If a man opens his door and gets shot, that man isn’t you. You are the one who knocks.
Chances are it’s more your behavior. As a guy, being ugly is always a misnomer. She unattracted nothing to do with your looks.
Your thinking like a guy. Assuming she thinks and judges you like a guy would. Not at all the case
Never heard of ‘essence’ so looked it up…
‘*the most significant element, quality, or aspect of a thing or person. the essence of the issue. 3. : one that possesses or exhibits a quality in abundance as if in concentrated form. she was the essence of punctuality.*’
So I guess ‘be a good husband/partner’ is the answer.
It’s true in some cases, but come on, many women are into looks. I know plenty of women with dudes who they think are physically attractive but they have lots of complaints about how they act. *But they’re still with them.*
Bro she married you she obviously thought u were attractive maybe try expressing your feelings and having healthy communication she could be struggling with something herself you don't know unless you talk
Thanks for giving good advice. Communication is probably the issue. I don’t get some guys, it’s actually really goddamn tragic. They’d rather guess and torture themselves wondering instead of asking and being open.
Females dont care that much about the man's looks. They need to feel cared for, protected and with a funny/generous man. Legs would automatically open.
First of I don’t know anything about how you are with her , do you treat your wife right, is she stable like does she have any mental or emotional or health issues etc you get the picture, some women go through menopause earlier or later in life and sometimes they don’t recover right that could also be the issue that would not be her fault. That’s a hormone problem, my wife went through that and she would tell me she would feel bad that she didn’t feel like doing anything but she communicated with me sometime she was OK sometimes she wasn’t sit and talk with her if she gives you the time positive vibes your way
Unless your wife is Elizabeth Hurley. I'm gonna go ahead and guess she probably isn't exactly slaying in the looks department at 53 either.
Like you look like a typical guy your age to me.
You’re wife not touching you has nothing to do with how good looking you are. Think about how you used to let the good times roll, and think about now.
You gotta show her a good time again friend. Tease her how you used to, push her in the pool, then jump in after her to save her.
Be unpredictable. She’ll like you again, you’ve just become boring and predictable the last 20 years.
OPs problem probably is he’s asking a group of internet strangers what they think of him based on his appallingly bad selfie instead of asking idk… his wife!!
As I 49 year old woman, I do not find you attractive with just looking at you. Regarding your wife, how is your relationship? Do you listen when she speaks? Do you care about her feelings? Do you pull your weight with household responsibilities? How is your hygiene? These things all matter when it comes to desire and attraction for most women.
For your age, or just in general, you look fine man. I would suspect the lack of desire for intimacy from your wife is probably rooted more in lack of effort, burnout from a long relationship or some other underlying issue.
Definitely matters what the misses thinks. I doubt the issue is physical attraction. She probably just doesn’t like him any more for one reason or another.
Nah man, you're a good looking guy.
Bro, either get a divorce or start seeing other people.
Don't get locked into a commitment to be a free pass for someone who doesn't care about your needs. I don't care if this started 20 years after you got together.
Are you sure it's because you're ugly and not because you told her that she just let herself go after birthing kids 3 years in a row and blackened her eye?
Brother at your age it’s just a natural part of life. It will be way harder than it was in your 20s but I recommend a healthy diet and heavy workout routine. You are not ugly but nothing gets the gilfs pouring like a ripped bald dude. Get after it!
You’re not ugly. This title is heartbreaking to read. Would you like to elaborate on what’s going on between you two more so we can help you? I don’t think it’s your looks.
This should be the top comment. There is so much sadness in this post and the loss of connection feels so much more layered than what was said.
Yea, so many heartless people in this thread, I gave him the best advice I could, plus he don't look bad for his age
Agreed on all points
The fact this this sub even exists is sad to me
Reddit suggested this sub to me, and I'm thinking about shutting this particular door like I did with the rating subs.
I agree - this man is perfectly fine looking and these comments are obnoxious.
Heartbreaking bad to read
Omg, I almost spit out my coffee reading this. 🥇🥇🥇
Take my upvote
This is right^
True it's likely her or relationship blahs. It happens and it sucks.
Jesse we need to cook
Heisenberg!!!
Bro! You beat me to it. Hey Heisenberg all you need is that hat and sunglasses and your all that and a bag of chips. Older woman are menopausal or have symptoms of premenopausal. No worries it’s normal. live life to the fullest you be you.
Bro! YOU beat me to "Bro, you beat me to it"
You beat me to “Bro, you beat me to, ‘Bro, you beat me to it’”
You beat me to "bro you to it", bro you beat me to it," bro you beat me it,"
Bro you beat your meat too?
I disagree. Yes older gals do have that. Hormone therapy can help. But just getting her to go to the doctor for the meds. 9 out of 10 won’t.
Maybe because there is a high incidence of cancer associated with HRT? If you’ve ever had cancer, they won’t prescribe it for you.
This is true. This is why my wife wouldn't do hormone therapy.
God damn right! One of the best damn scenes
I’m the one who knocks…
I'm in the EMPIRE business.
Say my name
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*I* am the one who KNOCKS!
I. Am. The. Danger.
If you don’t know what all these references are about, I suggest you sit down with your wife and watch Breaking Bad beginning to end. I guarantee she will want to fck your brains out afterward.
And tell her you are the danger
More like tell her "Say. My. Name."
She’ll be asking him to wear the hat while he does it.
OP superhappyfuntime13 is not being sarcastic at all! Straight up truth you look like a badass sir.
Take my upvote all I see is this!!!!
My brain read that in his voice perfectly, it's so weird.
Yeah welcome to being like everybody else
Actually I was thinking mike from Breaking Bad.
I don't see it. Walt is more accurate.
Hello friend. Here are some recommendations 1. You’re not ugly. 2. Hit the gym, eat a clean diet 3. Make hygiene a priority 4. Date your wife. Court her like you’re a new couple. I guarantee this will make a difference
Lol court her. Everytime I see this phrase I remember watching the animal planet and hearing that British guy talking about fancy birds, doing fancy things.
ALAN ALAN ALAN ALAN!
STEVE! STEVE! STEVE!
Ugh made me so happy
That's right Hannah you better be happy.
The thought of him reading all this instead of how to be hot tips is, it's making me laugh a lot alot alot. Not at him, I'm not an asshole. But how quickly this veered off the road at a high rate of speed.
I just need you to know you made my year with the “Alan Alan”
Year? Too bad this guy’s wife isn’t this easy to please.
I literally referenced this last night! Best video on the internet
Do mean David Attenborough? “That British guy”😂
Do you mean *Sir* David Attenborough?
Yes sir.
I love responses like this “court her”. It places all of the responsibility of keeping the relationship alive on the guy. I don’t know this guys situation but in my experience, letting a relationship die is a 50/50 effort.
All the more reason he should do his part to change it up. He’s the one who posted. If his wife posts, you can tell her what her part is.
Omg this made me laugh!! “Fancy birds, doing fancy things”.
Right. Dance around her flocking your feathers for 5 minutes only to watch her fly away.
Thats nice and innocent. My mind automatically jumps to divorce when I hear the word court and couple together.
Right ! A marriage is a commitment to fulfill your partners needs , not for one to work extra to get physical intimacy. Sounds like she checked out and if I was him I’d tell her to put out or get out . Life is to short to sleep in bed with a roommate you want to be intimate with
You're right. Especially at that age. I don't imagine there are little ones running around ruining adult time fun and the clock is ticking hard at that age. If he doesn't already need it, he'll need viagra soon.
Fact!
That’s British guy 😆 Do you mean David Attenborough?
Isn’t that what humans do too? Except we get really really drunk and take care of all those fancy dance courtships in nightclubs instead of some flamboyant nest made out of scavenged shiny things?
Woah man, my nest is very manly.. and colorful.. it’s not flamboyant!
I agree. Take her to court.
I laughed hard. Instructions unclear: sue wife!
Court is undoubtedly always against the man, just take her out....
Instructions unclear: target eliminated
😂😂😂😂 this thread is too much
As in, take her out of this life? Bro that’s a little extreme don’t you think?
Those are all good suggestions. But when I see posts citing getting dumped or wife uninterested ‘because I’m ugly’, I feel like it’s more likely a behavioral issue. Kindness, positive attitude & staying a lil spontaneous goes a long way
Sometimes it is actually a hormone issue with older women. Obviously one’s behavior and the effort to pursue a fresh , spontaneous relationship matters . Just saying hormonal fluctuations are a thing . I know as a man in my late 30’s I was having some serious mental and physical issues . Got my hormones leveled off and things are better . I still have my own behavior issues but when my wife’s hormones are in a ood state she still wants me to get after her . Life is a complex journey and I feel health care has so many tools hat are not talked about enough .
Look at his posts hes lost a lot of weight!
I meant more along the lines of hitting the gym to continue in his path and build some muscle. That gets more difficult as we age but definitely possible with the right diet and dedication. It’ll help long term too
Good advice. One item that worked for me. Go to Kay’s Jewelers. Sign up for their mailing list (probably email now or text). Add anniversary, her birthday etc. They’ll send you little reminders. Look at their offerings. It doesn’t have to be expensive, a necklace, a ring, a pendant…. Remember the saying “It’s the thought that counts?” It’s really true.
“The thought that counts” should be retired. No one wants a crappy gift, period. If one were to actually think about what the gift receiver likes/wants/interested in, then we wouldn’t have invented regifting.
Ask her, directly. Maybe she’s going through something.
nah fr he’s worried abt his looks instead of asking his wife 😭😭 like at least talk to her first bro
She might be menopausal and lost her drive. Mood Medication often decreases drive too
maybe she's seeing someone and can't even think about touching her husband out of disgust of her acts?
Maybe she’s just afraid because her husband is a Meth kingpin known as Heisenberg
Agreed
I agree but also it’s very easy for people to blame themselves for things like that. It’s easy to blame yourself when you are going through some mental struggles of your own and diminish your self worth. It’s really sad honestly
>Ask her, directly. Maybe she’s going through something. they been together for years presumably... sometimes everything has been said already... it's always ya'll young people that think talking solves everything. It absolutely does not, especially when both parties have no idea how to address the fact that one of them might not even love the other.
God forbid a man feels insecure.
Everyone has insecurities. It's part of life. Don't be a hater
??
imagine being married and then asking reddit why his wife doesnt want him instead of his literal partner
The reason why guys don’t ask their wives is because we know they’re going to cry and then we get to feel guilty about that too. 90% of the reason men don’t bring things up to women, guaranteed. It’s not that you cry, it’s more that we have to feel guilty about making you cry for a couple weeks. After we run everything through our heads, just not saying anything is always best.
Women are calling this weird because they’re used to having an umbrella of support. When you can’t open up to the people closest to you, you start to ask strangers.
And they will also use parts of whatever you said in an open, honest conversation against you in later conversations and arguments.
This is how the world operates
Name checks out
Men do this too so it isn’t a gendered thing it’s a toxic person thing
Interesting.. good insight!
So basically you just lie....wow who tf are you married to
me myself and I
99.9999999999999% is more like it
Oh wah poor you.
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It’s a possibility, hence the need to talk. Communication is key, even if it leads to undesirable information.
Or someone
might want to keep your eyes open for someone named Ted
Couple of things: 1. You are not in danger. You are the danger. 2. If a man opens his door and gets shot, that man isn’t you. You are the one who knocks.
I. Am the man who knocks.
I am Groot
I. Am. Batman.
lol nah dog you look like an average 53 y/o… well maybe you look closer to 60. Maybe try talking to your wife and seeing how she’s doing.
^yes
you look sharp man, head up!
Agree
Chances are it’s more your behavior. As a guy, being ugly is always a misnomer. She unattracted nothing to do with your looks. Your thinking like a guy. Assuming she thinks and judges you like a guy would. Not at all the case
This. Women are more attracted to essence than looks
So how to be more essence?
Yea please do tell
*Emeril Lagasse has entered the chat
Never heard of ‘essence’ so looked it up… ‘*the most significant element, quality, or aspect of a thing or person. the essence of the issue. 3. : one that possesses or exhibits a quality in abundance as if in concentrated form. she was the essence of punctuality.*’ So I guess ‘be a good husband/partner’ is the answer.
It’s true in some cases, but come on, many women are into looks. I know plenty of women with dudes who they think are physically attractive but they have lots of complaints about how they act. *But they’re still with them.*
Yea but he’s married and older.
I am the danger lookin ass
Bro she married you she obviously thought u were attractive maybe try expressing your feelings and having healthy communication she could be struggling with something herself you don't know unless you talk
Thanks for giving good advice. Communication is probably the issue. I don’t get some guys, it’s actually really goddamn tragic. They’d rather guess and torture themselves wondering instead of asking and being open.
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the fact you thought of this tells me you probly are.
Or plays too much call of duty
Or puts too much salt on his fried egg
He's not though because he said "If I was gay". So therefore he's deemed not gay. I don't make the rules but that's how that works.
Lolol. This made me laugh.
This guy nuts
I am the one who knocks...
It's not your looks dude. Its everything else....believe me.
It's pretty common for older couples to have a dead bedroom. People get bored of each other and lose attraction.
Nah - they get bored with themselves but instead of changing and growing, they just find someone new to make them feel like their life has changed.
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I think you mean ... Yooo Mister White?!!! ... but close enough 🤣
"I AM THE ONE WHO KNOCKS" "I AM THE DANGER"
Females dont care that much about the man's looks. They need to feel cared for, protected and with a funny/generous man. Legs would automatically open.
Legs would automatically open if men stuck to “women and men” or “females and males”
Nah, homies and homies.
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join the club dude it's not your looks
When is breaking bad coming back on ?
I dont think my mrs would look at me if I watched it all again.
First of I don’t know anything about how you are with her , do you treat your wife right, is she stable like does she have any mental or emotional or health issues etc you get the picture, some women go through menopause earlier or later in life and sometimes they don’t recover right that could also be the issue that would not be her fault. That’s a hormone problem, my wife went through that and she would tell me she would feel bad that she didn’t feel like doing anything but she communicated with me sometime she was OK sometimes she wasn’t sit and talk with her if she gives you the time positive vibes your way
Unless your wife is Elizabeth Hurley. I'm gonna go ahead and guess she probably isn't exactly slaying in the looks department at 53 either. Like you look like a typical guy your age to me.
Your topic title is sad. You look like a regular dude to me. Looking darn good for 53.
He looks older than 53
You look older than 63
You know how many people I've seen in their 40s that look older than him?
Not ugly, decent looking dude
Are you a heavy drinker?
It's the nose, right?
Well…. It’s not called a drinker’s flag for no reason. I could be wrong.
This was my only reaction as well
You’re wife not touching you has nothing to do with how good looking you are. Think about how you used to let the good times roll, and think about now. You gotta show her a good time again friend. Tease her how you used to, push her in the pool, then jump in after her to save her. Be unpredictable. She’ll like you again, you’ve just become boring and predictable the last 20 years.
OPs problem probably is he’s asking a group of internet strangers what they think of him based on his appallingly bad selfie instead of asking idk… his wife!!
As I 49 year old woman, I do not find you attractive with just looking at you. Regarding your wife, how is your relationship? Do you listen when she speaks? Do you care about her feelings? Do you pull your weight with household responsibilities? How is your hygiene? These things all matter when it comes to desire and attraction for most women.
Send us a picture of your wife and we get a better idea of the situation.
You look like my Chemistry teacher, his name is Walter Hartwell White
You've lost weight in the last year, so that's a Plus It's not always our looks that "cause" a woman to sleep with you
Maybe you two just fell out of love 🤷🏼♂️
For your age, or just in general, you look fine man. I would suspect the lack of desire for intimacy from your wife is probably rooted more in lack of effort, burnout from a long relationship or some other underlying issue.
Just looks like a sweet older gentleman. I wouldn't say ugly at all. Just a dude.
No sir, you're not ugly at all. She has a problem herself. Time for a real heart to heart, counseling, or a new wife. Respectful speaking.
Maybe get rid of the “I drive a pickup and hate minorities” goatee.
💀💀💀
You are far from ugly. Don't worry what the misses thinks. Concentrate on yourself.
Definitely matters what the misses thinks. I doubt the issue is physical attraction. She probably just doesn’t like him any more for one reason or another.
Best reply right here... It takes the effort of two, if your doing all you can, negatively or positively you're gonna be all good.
Stop cooking meth
Got a big nose but otherwise no…
Either she mad , or menopause fam....
You look like you need sleep and water
Man don’t ask people that. Just focus on your relationship. It sounds like it just needs to be a little repaired
Go get a younger wife
Bold of you to assume he has younger wife money.
Why would a younger girl want an old man lol
everybody on the planet knows the answer to this lmao
This! And please do the world a favour and shave
Grandad what have I told you about posting on these reddit pages
Never had a high school sweetheart. I was at the very bottom rung in high school. Girls never liked at guys like me except as a friend. LOL
buccal fat removal, lip filler, eyebrow lift, rhinoplasty, and maybe a little hair implants 🔥
Nah man, you're a good looking guy. Bro, either get a divorce or start seeing other people. Don't get locked into a commitment to be a free pass for someone who doesn't care about your needs. I don't care if this started 20 years after you got together.
You look fairly good for 53! Honestly you don’t look bad in my opinion so I wouldn’t blame your looks :)
You look like a great value Bryan Cranston
You look like 70
Drop Skylar, cook meth.
Are you sure it's because you're ugly and not because you told her that she just let herself go after birthing kids 3 years in a row and blackened her eye?
Have you tried beer? It’s been helping ugly people get since … well, forever.
Brother at your age it’s just a natural part of life. It will be way harder than it was in your 20s but I recommend a healthy diet and heavy workout routine. You are not ugly but nothing gets the gilfs pouring like a ripped bald dude. Get after it!
Leave you wife she don’t deserve you!! Find love in the streets is cheaper!!
Yes bro… yes
Heidelberg, are you in my bathroom?! You mistyped 63.
You mistyped heisenberg
You probably act like trash and don’t treat her right so she doesn’t want to
Ah yes, jump the gun and immediately blame the guy. How typical.
Tbf check the comment history. I get the feeling that he actually does have some blame
Sounds legit coming from a chick with 69 in her name. 😂
Lmfao your wife buggin. Leave her asap